From a female LIB reader
I'm a 27
year old girl. I live in Nigeria now however, I grew up in England. I got married two years ago and gave birth just four months ago. The problem now is that my husband has asked me whether my
daughter and I are ready for our baby's circumcision. He has threatened
to take her from me one day and go and circumcise her at his
grandmother's place. He has also threatened to divorce me if I don't
circumcise our daughter soon.
I'm absolutely tired of this. I don't know if I should just take my
daughter and run away. I really don't want my daughter to go through
such pain and agony in life. How can you want to circumcise a female
child in 2014 ? I really don't understand. Please advice me.
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Ƌ̲̣̣̣̥a̶̲̥̅̊τ̲̣̣̥ man must be an occultic person
Over to the mother's in the house
Your husband is still living in the stone age.I suggest you let his family in on it,if he's still adamant invite women rights societies to talk to him.I don't think female circumcision is healthy for your girl
I dnt think this story is real, it sounds fake.
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well, to save your home ... consent to it.
Pls divorce that monster.. Do u know the physical and emotional effect?? Its not worth that marriage.. Pls divorce him first.
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Pls don't allow that,if it means running away pls do,cos Ur daughter will 4eva b proud of U as Her mother. PROTECT THE GIRL CHILD.
My dear, I am happily married and I dont advocate divorce, but this is one day I will scream RRRRRUUUUUUUNNNNN!!!! Take that baby and get the hell out of that house. Female circumcision is barbaric and it is child abuse, plain and simple!!! It is like allowing your husband to rape your child, she will never forgive you. You can not talk things over with him or change his mind and please do not listen to these people on LIB that will say pray. Pray once you have left the house, but leave the house with that girl first!!!
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Why is he bent on you circumcizing your daughter?
Of what gain would that be to him.
My dear you av every reason to be worried and not only for your daughter's safety and yours too.
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simple straight advice that you already indirectly self answered, divorce him, get a court order restraining him from getting any where close to your baby girl till she is 20 years of age(if you still willing to stay in Nigeria). Another good option which can be well justified since he his a monster (he and his so called family i mean); RUN AWAY pack a few things of your and that of ur kid run back to uk and never look back!!
pls divorce him o
simple, the lady should choose between ur daughter's future misery (which will ignite a feud b/w her n her daughter) n her marriage that lacks understanding. she'll certainly know what to do
serious issue. discuss with him. let him know d adverse effect of female circumcision.
Take your child and run! It's a barbaric thing, which will cause your child nothing but pain both now and in the future!
Sit him down n talk some senses into by explaining to him d after effect of female circumcision bt if he insist den do it meanwhile d child is his
Please, I beg you, do not do it. Do not torture your child! I'm sorry, you might love your husband but he is a MONSTER! He's a huge monster! He's unenlightened! Living in the dark! It's 2014 for christ's sake! If I were you I would take her and run! Who knows the sort of initiation they will try and do on your child at his grandma's place? Just pray! God's grace my sister
Stupid woman
U cal ursef girl,dnt circumcise ha u wl c ha clitoris pulling on the ground in the future
Stupid woman
Oooh yeah...do U need ask??? hes asking U to do something so unethical, to deny the girl child of her emotional rights for the rest of her life, who does that anyway??? He could go on with the divorce, everyone must not stay married!
Run away
You better protect your child.
I am surprised you are still considering it.... If he wont see reason pretend you are fine with it and take your daughter out of there asap
please run as fast as you can from the illiterate !!!! Why would he want your mutilate your daughter, that's pure evil!!
My dear get people to talk to him,in 2014,its not to be heard.let people he respect talk n educate him.
You have to report to his family and yours.
are you circumcised? you better not ruin that Child before she gets a chance to ruin herself..lol
Una no discuss the matter before una marry...hiss in 2014!
Pray my dear.. but dnt circumcise ur daughter.. ask God to change his heart.. u can also call ur pastor to help talk to him.. whatever is hot, must get cold one day.. just dnt ruin ur daughters life bcos of wht ur husband says.. she will blame you tmw for not standing up for her...
God forbids. My dear please take your daughter and run as fast as you can. The man is just crazy and may ask you to do another hideous act if you ever concede to this. Think of the pain this innocent child would have to pass through!!!
From woman to woman. You need to leave that man, and leave as fast as you can. Circumcision for a female is NOT GOOD AT ALL. Don't put your child through such horror and pain. Circumcision for your daughter means that she'll not be able to have children, and her sex life would be very painful. DO NOT put your daughter through that I beg you!
i take it you're british , that gives your daughter some protection get the embassy involved
This is serious . . .
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what a wicked husband
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It's not right to circumcise a female child in this day and age. It has health implications in the future. Talk to your parents and older ones you look up to to help you mediate on the matter.
Deeply sorry for what you are going through
My dear don't keep mute.Scream it out until it gets to the ears of the Govt.FGM(Female Genital Mutilation) is a barbaric act which belongs to d dark ages.It comes wt a penalty of imprisonment.if he won't listen to you,report him to d child care unit.
Take your child and leave because he's threatening to perform the procedure when he's alone with her. Flee to England where the laws against the practice are enforced.
Nooo !!!let him divorce uu !say no to circumsision !!!do u knw d emotional trauma dat gal wil go thru wen she gets older ??d pain of nt enjoying wats meant to b enjoyed??? ur daughters happiness 1st...
Seek d help of a lawyer or any member of his family. It is old fashionto circumcise a female child
Every child that is born undergo's circumcision few weeks of childbirth.For male penis,the foreskin is removed so that it will not look sharp at the head.While for female,the vagina hood is cut out.Wehn the hood is sag it is an eyesore.Except genital mutilation that is unaccepted.
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Oh No please don't let him do that to that poor child,I mean who does that?!this aint the 60's or so!whatever happened to using a hot water and towel every morning to make it go down!come on!you aint touching my daughter!mshewwwwwwwwwwwww
Oh dear, after ol ur educated upbringin, U̶̲̥̅̊ fell into ths ur " illiterate" hubbys arms in e name of love. Plz I'll advice tht U̶̲̥̅̊ protect child by doin wtevr is necesary to stop hm frm caryin out hz obsolete demand.
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Oh dear, after ol ur educated upbringin, U̶̲̥̅̊ fell into ths ur " illiterate" hubbys arms in e name of love. Plz I'll advice tht U̶̲̥̅̊ protect child by doin wtevr is necesary to stop hm frm caryin out hz obsolete demand.
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Do you want advice on how to tell him ''No'', on how to save your marriage or on how to run away? Because you already seem to have made up your mind on the circumcising matter.
Your husband is a retard!pls divorce his sorry smelly ass fast..........oshisko.com!!
Do you want advice on how to tell him ''No'', on how to save your marriage or on how to run away? Because you already seem to have made up your mind on the circumcising matter.
You don't have a real marriage, you are just deceiving yourself. If your values differ so much on something as basic as your child's circumcision in 2014 then you are setting yourself up for destruction by staying with this archaic man. Female circumcision is female genital mutilation AKA child abuse. The sooner you cut your loses and run with your baby the better. If you like stay, soon, you will be dealing with polygamy, in law drama etc. If you stay all in the name of male dominated/patriarchal Nigerian marriage you will lose yourself and sanity in a matter or time. It's your choice...
Flee with your baby! Disappear! She will someday thank you. You don't want your kid growing up not knowing the pleasure of sex or satisfaction! Abeg oh! Run!!!
I'm sure your mother in law is the force behind this circumcision story. Just don't let that baby go thru unnecessary pain please. If you have to keep off please do. I wasn't and non of my girls are circumcised. Besides what's the use of circumcision anyway? Na wa oooo. SMH, Hopeless archaic people
Run!!!!Run!!!!please fight for your daughter, you are the only voice she has. If he touches your daughter, make sure he's locked up for life. Thank God you're in the UK so justice will be served. Oloriburuku okunrin
Leave him. He's a selfish bastard. I wouldn't even be able to look at him after that.
Geez weez! Why evils? This is why it's good to ask a lot of questions before you get married. Too late for that now. Obviously, it's a tradition for his family since it's his grandmother that will do it. So reporting his family is not the answer. Move to your parents house for a bit and report him to a friend that he admires and respects, to talk to him. I hope that helps.
Dis Ȋ̝̊̅§ totally unacceptable ....babymama pls atleast try to get pe to talk to him specially those u know he holds in high esteem if afterwards he remains adamant...*run wit ur baby 4ur lifes* PERIOD
My dear runing away will not solve ur problem rather it will course more harm to ur daughter just try and make him understand and do a research and give him an instant on how is been don and it harm the baby,na him piken so he will understand with u and put it in God's hands...this is madness sha...for this 21th century!!!
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You must be crazy, save ur home at the expense of her daughter's well being??? Please my dear, run!!!!
Divorce him first,what kinda thing is that?
Get out of that house. Please contact www.projectalertnig.org. They will give you shelter if no one else will. DO NOT CIRCUMSIZE your beautiful daughter.
Dats vry wrong in dis age dear. I think you should go to the authorities
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Get out of that house. Please contact www.projectalertnig.org. They will give you shelter if no one else will. DO NOT CIRCUMSIZE your beautiful daughter.
Are you circumcised? No. But he married you. Why didn't he look for a circumsised woman to marry? What a Fool?
Please we need his name. His face should be put in headlines as a MONSTER
Simple my dear......
In this 21st century? Kai... Some ppl will never embrace civilization.
Runnnnn as fast as ur legs can carry u
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Dear Poster, I thought you said you had run away to England (on Emeh's blog) and thanked us?? abi you returned again to Nigeria and he started chasing you around again, abi Linda posted this late?
@ njideka Nkem, I wonder what she has done to warrant those name callings. Y can't we just comment or pass if we don't have anything to contribute.
@annon 3:55 u er very stupid
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What?! If am in your shoes, I will divorce his stinking wicked ass before he can say jack. Over my dead body will I do such to my baby or any baby for that matter...in this 2014? primitive man! he should come let me circumcise him naa & while we are on the subject, kindly report him to the authorities please.
Pls my dear I beg you, I don't support divorce bt u av to leave dat marriage he has started with circumcision very soon he would try to control u and at d end of the day u will leave d marriage after all the sacrifices u av made, and u should also think abt the future of ur daughter she will hate u especially when it comes to the time that she has friends who will find out and laugh @ her. So pls dear leave and take ur daughter far away I even suggest u do it now. A man who has been threatning u will surely take ur daughter from u without u knowing so pls go back to the UK.
Shut up pls. Illiterate
You are mad! Damn it. What is so special about marriage when a child's future is involved.
Babaric goat @how to get pregnant! Mama baby u better run! Let him go and circumcise his mother. Hiss what sort of inhumanity is that?
@ Ugo. Are you ok? "Seen next"? Ignorant ass. You don't have to leave å comment if you don't have an actual opinion.
His grandma's place get NAFDAC number?
Exactly, find your way to Walter carrington. Bullshit!
I don't believe in divorce but if he will not still see reason then to hell with him. This isn't the middle ages
Pls d follow up of dis post is in MPN. Linda u really slacked on dis 1. If u like use my comment n make bitter leaf soap *tongue out*
What is wrong with him, that is just wrong, simple.
My dear I faced this problem also, actually i left my husband for over some other issue but the decision to circumcise my daughters also made me leave. Its inhuman, barbaric and unchristian. Do not let him do it. Try and stall the plan to do it until when the child is too old for them to do it. Otherwise leave to have peace of mind because people with this tradition believe so much in it and they hardly change. Jmama
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IT is your responsibility and duty above everything else to protect your daughter and that includes harm from the idiotic father you decided to procreate with.
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I was circumcised
where in the world is he from?circumcise a new born baby in this day and age?KMT stand your ground if he likes, he should divorce!!this is what they do.go and use a child for rituals in the name of circumcision
Never agree to that! Look for one person that he (your husband) respect a lot, explain the issues to that person (am sure at this AGE no two men will agree to that) I mean...what kind of man will do that?! That's evil. Have this person talk to your husband,and Trust me! He won't divorce you! If he insist contact a marriage chancellor, or listen to one on Wazobia fm 95.1 lagos on sunday 6.00pm if you stay in lagos
Plead wit him 4 the last tym but If he still insist let him go ahead. Just try and save ur marraige and th innocent girls future.
Ur husband must be a BASTARD for thinking FGM(female genital mutilation)...pls leave dat BEAST u call ur husband,he deserves to be in d wilderness.oloshi okunrin.he should be arrested with his evil grandmother n locked up for a long time
Pls madam do d right tin. Leave dat marriage runnnnnnnn bcos if u succumb ur daughter will hate u 4ever 4 not protecting her while u could. Do d rite tin. Dis so called marriage u wanna protect d man might divorce u later in d future afta u hav even circumsied d poor baby gal.
Rosie Said......Female circumcision is called "Female Genital Mutilation" and its against the law in most countries including Nigeria through WHO findings.So the law is on your side,so use it.
Nonso you have spoken well, spot on
I thought she went on stellas blog n even updated that she has eloped with baby to the uk. Why come over to lindas blog abi is she looking for pity or what? Some pipo sef...
Is nt good @ all 4 a female child 2 go true such life pains....
Female Circumcision otherwise called female genital mutilation is a crime under the d Nigeria law cos it amounts to torture,inhuman and degrading treatment against a woman.some states have actually banned d practise. Make ur husband see reasons why he can't and should put that practice out of his mind.wat if the girl gets infected or has uncontrolled bleeding from d barbaric act and ends up dying which is a common complication of d whole procedure. Involve ur family in it if need be but won't advice u to leave ur home.threaten him about involving a lawyer maybe dat will make him calm down. There re some NGO's fighting for women rights,get dem involved in the struggle if need be so they can talk sense into him but pls don't allow him circumcise her.
This thing cam be for juju purposes ! Nothing is beyond the people of this backward and evil land! Leave these evil practices behind!
Female Circumcision otherwise called female genital mutilation is a crime under the d Nigeria law cos it amounts to torture,inhuman and degrading treatment against a woman.some states have actually banned d practise. Make ur husband see reasons why he can't and should put that practice out of his mind.wat if the girl gets infected or has uncontrolled bleeding from d barbaric act and ends up dying which is a common complication of d whole procedure. Involve ur family in it if need be but won't advice u to leave ur home.threaten him about involving a lawyer maybe dat will make him calm down. There re some NGO's fighting for women rights,get dem involved in the struggle if need be so they can talk sense into him but pls don't allow him circumcise her.
most of you commenting here, are you not circumcised? una dey here dey yarn dust!
My dear what are you waiting for? Take this matter to human right as fast and as soon as possible. That husband of yours must have something spiritual attached to it. Save yourself and your baby.
Linda please u need to do a talk on FGM. I'm so ashamed at what I am reading here. Someone even suggested hot water n towel for bawo?God help us n here we r using internet n thinkin stone age. God help us
My dear involve ur family members in d issue! It shldnt be abt hm alone! D baby is 4 both of u! Hes got a very primitive mindset! Evil man.
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My dear sit him down and talk to him if he still insists take ur child and leave it's implications are quite outrageous firstly it's inhuman it's barbaric d infections can make ur girl child barren and she won't enjoy making love or wud ever hv an organsm not to talk of d physical nd emotional trauma she wud feel later on in life d list goes on and on pls do d right thing nd save ur child d trauma thts if u love her.
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do what ur husband ask u to do.
ask linda ikeji..she will tell you her experience...GOD FORBID!..that man is an evil animal, and selfish..you daughter WILL never marry and she will never enjoy sex..
As a woman, you should learn to stand your ground for what you believe is right no matter any hell raised. If your husband loves you, he will not even think of threatening you. I do not believe in female circumcision. If you look at it from all angles it is wrong and to think of the emotional effect on the child when she is grown-up can be terrible. Stand your grounds in a very respectful way, that you will not do it. Circumcision of a girl will not stop her from being promiscuous if that is his fear. It is the fear of God and the values impacted on the child right from day one that help the child with self-control and restraints from what is perceived to be wrong. Madam, were you circumcised? If your answer is no, why then did he marry you? I just hope your husband is not one of those who used lots of females sexually, willingly or unwillingly and is now scared for his own daughter. My dear, do not succumb to his EMPTY threats because if you do, (LOL) then expect more of such threats and even blackmails to come from him because unfortunately some men are like that. Maybe he is even threatening you because you kind of make him feel that your life and marriage depends entirely on him. Stick to what is right always and let him know your stand and he will not even think of attempting to threaten you. I think he is just trying to capitalise on your weak point but do not let him. I am just incensed with that his EMPTY threat of divorce. Weak man.
Take you child and run!!!!
Pls don't do it to that baby pls. And I think is an offence now, am not sure. But I hv cone across a campaign against and is illegal for now
Pls you have to be very careful this is 21st century not the in the 80s don't do it if possible report him to the appropriate authorities if he threatens to divorce you let him go ahead and never circumsize your daughter for any thing
Xtremely stupid
tell him to go circumcise his mother then you can circumcise him wit your teeth...BASTARD!
me i LOVE a woman with BIG clit..why do such a deadly thing to your child...the UN should arrest the man.
I know you people will insult me but d fact is that no big deal in circumcision, I did it for all my female children and no harm done to them, some are married and having children and doing fine. Pls save ur marriage. Nothing will happen to ur child.
Linda is circumcised...me cant sleep with circumcised women..they dont feel nothing..its like dead wood..or taking out someones tongue..no feeling
Your husband is an IDIOT! Tell him to go ahead. This is why i always say women should own their own money, if you are financially tough he won't dare! Mtcheeew.
Shut your fucking mouth stupid she's just a baby nobody has the right even her father to take such decision,I guess you saw your mother clitoris fall on the ground
Never agree to that! Look for one person that he (your husband) respect a lot, explain the issues to that person (am sure at this AGE no two men will agree to that) I mean...what kind of man will do that?! That's evil. Have this person talk to your husband,and Trust me! He won't divorce you! If he insist contact a marriage chancellor,
Its so real. My neighbour did it to their dota, she is 3yrs now.
Maybe u should actually castrate ur husband.. it would really help... if u can't do that.... the runnnnnnnnnn.... if possible to the moon......
If u can Castrate him... dat would be a very nice option, but if u can't u better runnnnnnn if possible to the moon.....
Out of all the advice given here,I hope you read this post. one thing that was not mentioned, but could be a leading force of the reason your husband wants to circumcise your daughter is that his grandmother wants it for something spiritual, other than health reasons, unethical reasons, it's evil and is a way of inviting unwanted demonic spirit into your child's life. I can say from experience what my mom is suffered because she was circumcised, and had to go through all kinds of deliverance later in life because of it. I doubt your husband is real christian, otherwise he wouldn't be considering it. show him the bible, and let him read the part of male circumcision only, no where in the bible does it talk about circumcising females. If it's not in the bible and cannot be legally done in the hospital, my dear it SHOULD NOT BE DONE. Do what you have to do, and fight for your baby girl, otherwise you may both regret it later down the road.
Your husband is still very backward, Goodness! Is he learned at all? Because i can' t imagine a literate who wants his female child Circumcised by all means in this age and time, Who does that? Child right orgs, women right orgs, your church, family. ..you need to report him Asap to any of these set of people that you think he might listen to. And please keep your daughter far away from him until this issue is settled. Meanwhile if he is still adamant after your efforts to put things right and insists on circumcising the baby or he wants a divorce, then divorce his crazy Lame backward Ass and make sure you go to court to win custody of your daughter#All the best
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female circumcision is the reason so many women complain of not enjoying sex and not being able to climax.
leave her with her clit abeg, it will hopefully help her in the future.
Linda this picture... it brings tears to my eyes. Is there no other? Please change it.
Sweetie u are only 27, the world is your oyster. You can start all over again . Am sure your daughter would fully understand and deeply appreciate your running as fast as your dear legs can take u
Very stupid. Is the child not hers as well? People just come here and say rubbish. Abeg park well!
Eh!!! Please get a good lawyer and divorce his ass. Report the case to child services, society for family health, ministry of women affairs... Etc. Get a court to serve his with a restraining order!!! Girl child circumcision (female genital mutilation) is the most barbaric thing ever. Please run away from that man o! He is the devils incarnate! Your baby can get all sorts of infections HIV inclusive plus that is the end of her life(sexually) cos she would never be fully satisfied sexually when she comes of age which could lead to promiscuity! I can go on and on and on but please my dear DO NOT LET THAT MAN CIRCUMCISE YOUR DAUGHTER jo nitori olorun dakun! Maje ko koba e ati omo e. God would help you and give you wisdom to overcome this one. Amen
vagina mutilation, pls run dear
He is a very big fool...
What is he circumcising in a girl???
Sorry for you, you married an imbecile!!!!!
As a Nigerian born and raised in England, I understand your worry. We are not exposed to suchh tragedies over here. What I will say to you is this, do whatever you feel is right in your heart to protect your daughter. God placed you as her guardian angel on earth and so you need to protect her and do what is right by her. Pray extremely hard and follow your heart. I won't say leave the man or give you marriage advice because I don't feel it is my place to do that, but please protect your baby. Circumstition in women has devastating effects, physically but more importantly emotionally. I have a very close family member who experienced female Circumstition and it changed her life (in a bad way). Please protect your baby
Ha!! Maybe u should move outta the country (maybe to UK) for sometime and be praying fire and brime stone on his head until he changes his mind...God will answer you....ika ni yen o......circumcision for a girl? Never even heard of it...oh my days!!
Linda copied dis post 4rm miss petite's blog....nawa oo
Run&hide somewhere then Ɣ☺u can pray abt it! If he is ok&he is behaving normal Ɣ☺u can come back om!
Harnikky.
Please and please don't even think about it . If he insists I think u should leave with your child.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN!!!!?????
nkem the bush monkey!
Brutality 2 womanhood..don't allow such..if he wants 2 divorce u,let him,,if I were u,I ll take 2 ma heels cus u can't trust wat he ll do next...
Everyone is entitled they comment,@Poster I think u shld listen 2 ur hubby.
I am sure that u are a herbalist and not a medical practitioner. and, if u are, u probably had someone write ur exams for u. bush pig!
I agree with Edo boi. Castrate him!
LIBers I'm so happppy this evening. I just clicked on NSG blog and she's blogging again. That her blog is just tooo funny
Linda was circumcised, she'll be the best person to tell that woman to run with her baby.
He said he's taking the baby to the grandmother and you're saying she should let the family in?
Truth about the matter is this issue probably came up before you got married to him. That is, if you cared to know the rites and traditions of his people. But i am sure you brushed it off as something not so serious. You are to blame partly for this. With that being said female circumcision is inhumane and should never be condoned.
All Igbo girls are circumcised! All. Yes all. Ask ur mothers if u doubt me. But dis days it's not done surgically. I've witnessed several Omugwo's, they use Robb/ som oda funny creams to deaden d clitoris. Co's if left it hangs loose and even u panties rubbing against it can get u horny instanta. It is still practised 'codedly' in Igbo land. I didn't realise I was circumcised till my boyfriend who is a doctor told me I was 2years ago. Confronted my mum and she said yes
I dunno what to say but if u wana run then run honestly I dunno somewhat on dis circumsizing thing
I'm married, and I don't support divorce. I am trying to imagine if you were my mother, and I am where I am now. I'd be so bitter and angry that I wasn't protected as a child.
Please, don't put your daughter through it. It's one of the highest form of abuse, and once done can never be taken back.
I wonder why your husband would be insisting on it if he truly loves you and his daughter. I believe he's been wrongly advised by someone who's advise he holds dear.
I can tell that you feel that reasoning with him won't work.
I know this sounds cliche, but it really does work. First pray about it, and ask God to take control. Then praise him for being a good and understanding father and husband, and for being a good provider. Commend him on how well he looks after his family. Then find out why he thinks circumcision is the best thing for your daughter in this day and age.
Have your research to hand on the dangers of female circumcision both physically and emotionally, and gently stress that research has proven that it does nothing more than to permanently traumatise the child and you know he loves her more than to make her grow up dysfunctional. Let him know that you always respect his decision, and he always has the final say on everything, and you will go with whatever he says, but it would greatly sadden you and make you feel like a bad mother if he goes down that route.
You may also try getting a female he respects to talk to him on the matter.
If all these fail, please protect your child and carry her as far way from the people that are trying to scar her for life. She'd remain forever indebted to you.
Maybe he'd eventually come to his senses after spending time apart.
But like one poster rightly said, if you greatly differ on basic issues such as this, then you might seriously want to reconsider your decision to be married to him.
Just don't write him off as a monster yet, and try gentle persuasion first. Men are such weird creatures, he may be insistent only because he doesn't want to feel that you're challenging his authority.
I'm married, and I don't support divorce. I am trying to imagine if you were my mother, and I am where I am now. I'd be so bitter and angry that I wasn't protected as a child.
Please, don't put your daughter through it. It's one of the highest form of abuse, and once done can never be taken back.
I wonder why your husband would be insisting on it if he truly loves you and his daughter. I believe he's been wrongly advised by someone who's advise he holds dear.
I can tell that you feel that reasoning with him won't work.
I know this sounds cliche, but it really does work. First pray about it, and ask God to take control. Then praise him for being a good and understanding father and husband, and for being a good provider. Commend him on how well he looks after his family. Then find out why he thinks circumcision is the best thing for your daughter in this day and age.
Have your research to hand on the dangers of female circumcision both physically and emotionally, and gently stress that research has proven that it does nothing more than to permanently traumatise the child and you know he loves her more than to make her grow up dysfunctional. Let him know that you always respect his decision, and he always has the final say on everything, and you will go with whatever he says, but it would greatly sadden you and make you feel like a bad mother if he goes down that route.
You may also try getting a female he respects to talk to him on the matter.
If all these fail, please protect your child and carry her as far way from the people that are trying to scar her for life. She'd remain forever indebted to you.
Maybe he'd eventually come to his senses after spending time apart.
But like one poster rightly said, if you greatly differ on basic issues such as this, then you might seriously want to reconsider your decision to be married to him.
Just don't write him off as a monster yet, and try gentle persuasion first. Men are such weird creatures, he may be insistent only because he doesn't want to feel that you're challenging his authority.
Don't mind him. Sure he believes in female genital mutilation.
NO! What real reason is there to circumcise your daughter? Furthermore, why is it so significant to him that your daughter be circumcised? Sorry, but that is some nonsense and there is no reason to harm your baby girl over a dated tradition.
Then let the divorce be he is very stupid
Sunday otuns you are a goat. Infact bunsuru is what you are. Nkita, ewu
Sunday otuns you are a goat. Infact bunsuru is what you are. Nkita, ewu
Take your daughter and ruuuuuunnnnnnn away!
What kind of Nonsenses is this!
Are you asking us for real or Are you joking?!!
My dear,i don't see why u shuldn't run wit ur child if u av d means 2.In dis present age,d man must be a super wizard 2 even tink abt it at all.
my husband threatened to divorce me if i did not stop breastfeeding my baby at 11 months....not a big deal like circumcision (female), but at the end of the day you have to do wats best for your child....you are your child's advocate and her mother....as much as your marriage comes first, sometimes u have to say no and stand your ground....do u go to a church, try to get a session with the pastor or if his parents are not supportive involve them, also involve your parents, or even a marriage councellor or rights advocate...maybe he needs some education
If u were not circumcised, then don't let ur daughter go tru such pain pls cos d pain will go on 4ever. Take ur daughter n move away from him.u ought to v known him better b4 marrying him. All u children r always in a hurry to get married n d next day u start lamenting.
your husband definitely lives under a rock!...isn't that supposed to be a crime?...whatever, you do, do not consent to it..period!
Woman, better carry your daughter and run.
Firstly, why in the grandmothers place, secondly its a sin.. there's no instruction of females being circumcised in the bible. only Men. female circumcision is mainly for male pleasure. Go on Google images I'm sure the images will give u a final decision. Do not let him and don't leave her with him either. Good luck
stolen post Linda, onye oshi go n look for ur own post.
I don't want to sound like I know too much or like I'm totally sure,but this story doesn't seem real to me.
However,if it's a true story,my advise would be that you threaten your husband with a legal divorce if he keeps insisting. If he keeps insisting & you can go through with it,you can however just take your baby & be living separately for the meantime or you take the case up to court for a divorce. You owe that baby girl absolute protection.
Babe! U married a baby mama! He needs counselling. Please protect ur angel and dnt let them take her happiness away.
Pls I beg you in Gods name take your daughter and RUN!!!!! But try and get reasonable and God fearing elders to speak with him..... If he still stands his ground pls scoobiedoooooooo.......
Circumcising your daughter is not a bad idea provided is done by a professional with a new sharp object. Pls do not quit your marriage for that. Stay married and get to understand yourselves better. Also, pray for God's intervention. He is not a beast nor a cultist. Be wise and do not run away frm your God given husband. So many singles are out there searching for mr right. May God see you through.
You are happily married right! Yet u want her to quit her marriage? The years you have been married has it been roses all the time? The answer to that is obviously NO! So why did you stay back to make your marriage work and here you are advising another to runnnnnnn for her life. Where you not circumcised ? Dear , is very unfair to advise a lady to divorce her hubby for a little misunderstanding that can be resolved. This life is a turn table pls think before you advise.
Circumcising your daughter is not a bad idea provided is done by a professional with a new sharp object. Pls do not quit your marriage for that. Stay married and get to understand yourselves better. Also, pray for God's intervention. He is not a beast nor a cultist. Be wise and do not run away frm your God given husband. So many singles are out there searching for mr right. May God see you through.
Well spoken
Plsssss,sme1 shud enlighten me. Wat does circumcision entail? Wats d diff btw a lady who's circumcised&one who's nt. I dnt even noe if am circumcised. Pls tel me
I was circumcised @ age 11 cos my parents ddnt do it 4 me early enuf,But Dre hznt bn any physical and emotional imbalance cos of d circumcision,it ddnt av a negative effect on me
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PLEASE DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SAVE YOUR DAUGHTER! PLEASE!!
please tell your husband bye bye bye!!!!...... circumcision is totally barbaric......and your daughter will end up hating you when she gets older...just leave woman leave!!
Let him divorce you now...ori e daru
I won't tell u 2 leave ur home but I kw that ur daughter will be 4 ever grateful 2 u if she finds out that u refused 2 circumcise her.
I live in Benin and circumcision is so normal here, infact, my mates feel sorry 4 me that I'm not circumcised. I don't think there is any state in Nigeria that practices FGM as Edo state and our girls r d worst when it comes 2 promiscuity.
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in dis modern world, ha dat man na old fashion
Your husband needs to have his brain reformatted. Can you slap him or do you need help? Let me know please, will do it for free.
Put ur foot down and say no. Female Gental Mutilation is Soooooooo wrong. If he insists on it, get the help of human rights activists. This has got to stop.
I think you should find time and search online for videos of the FGM and show your husband (try youtube). Make him see the agony the child will go through for the rest of her life.......its horrible!
TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER AND RUN, SHE WILL THANK YOU LATER FOR IT!!! RUN GIRL RUN. DO NOT DO IT TO HER. YOU WILL REGRET IT. THERE ARE DANGERS IN CIRCUMCISING A BABY GIRL. DON'T RISK HER LIFE
Ok! These British are not circumcised; no wonder there is a high rate of promiscuity and immorality among them. Please, circumcise that little tot and save her the problem of promiscuity in the future. Or else, do not come here in the next few years lamenting over how promiscuous and loose your daughter has become. For those advocating divorce, may God forgive you all.
Are most of you over here for real? Advocating divorce over this non-issue? Gracious God!
Circumcision helps a lady achieve self-control. if you do not want your daughters to sleep around, please, circumcise them. That may not stop them from sleeping around, but, it will help them from doing so.
dont just run, report him to the authorities!
Dos wey dem no circumcise,no b dos gurls calld Nympho ? U want ur dota 2 b a Nympho? All u gurls advisin her to run were all circumcised..mak a. Cal 2 ur moma n ask. Unless u wan ur dota 2 bcom Keziah
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Anon 8:46 PM please just shush. What do you mean by ALL Igbo girls are circumcised? If your folks did to you kindly know that ALL igbo girls are NOT circumcised. No be only rub na aboniki msheww.
PS my clitoris is not dead (as you put it)
your husband is obviously ignorant
read this http://www.forwarduk.org.uk/key-issues/fgm
You must think circumcision is normal. No, it is not and its a barbaric act so asking if another person is circumcised means your whole family was...I pity you. Mu advise is for her to involve human rights groups. God will see you through.
Mr prayer, in d Bible was any female circumcised? Marriage is no do or die affair and d damages dat child will suffer has nothing to do new or sharp blade or professionalism in mutilation. Her sex life will be ruined and child birth would be harder and for what if I may ask? Pls take ur child far away coz she may never forgive u if and when she grows knowing u put her through such simply becoz sum ancient man is refusing to be wise.
Since u are gud at getting pregnant it seems throwing a child's life away is also sumthing u are gud at. Afterall u know how to get pregnant for more. Ode!
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Linda I think you should do another personal writeup addressing female circumcision.
The responses advocating it from men and women is frightening!
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U are d dumbest LIB folk eva! She worked her marriage out coz her husband didnt ask her to circumcise her daughter. And if she was circumcised dat shud be d more reason y she should ask dat lady to run coz u don't know what she may have been or be going through. Get small sense abeg!
Sum men(dos ones dat re sick upstairs) re lyk dat bcos of exposure effects on sum girls.it insecurity dey worry ur man.u sud b worried.tell ur mother too now
Linda please is there no other picture you can use? this picture is making me cry..... please change it na please i'm begging you.... plus madam RUN O with speed make sure your daughter is safe first before you consider all the other advices you're being given, bcos he can kidnap that child and take her for the circumcision himself without your knowledge... who knows he's probably bewitched sef... *just saying* (too much nigerian film i know, but run)
Pls ps and pls,this is female genital mutilation,I'm watching it on CNN now,pls its unfortunate ur husband isn't knowledgable and is just downrite ignorant,tdy is. UN national day against femaile genital mutilation,pls google these and let your husband be informed,let him understand what it does to a girl child,leaving him should be a last resort,but it should be an option.linda pls post this
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