I have seen and read about a lot of cheating husbands on your blog, a friend of mine even told me that she caught her husband cheating,confronted him and he beat her up. I am a woman and I feel very sorry for all those women who have been cheated and worse still, beaten by their cheating husbands. Initially, I said to myself that I won't get married becos most marriages (especially Nigerian/African marriages) are fulfilment of societal expectations of families and friends. The nigerian society expects every woman to be in a man's house, whether or not she finds happiness and peace in marriage is not their business. However ,I have decided that if I must marry and be happy in marriage, both husband and wife must have equal opportunities in d marriage. I have therefore found the solution to men's infidelity in marriage.The solution is OPEN MARRIAGES. Women should be allowed to cheat as well as men. Am not encouraging infidelity,I'm just saying since women have been given equal opportunities in areas of politics,business,education etc they should be given an equal playing field in marriage as well.
It is a fact that men's sexual urges are insatiable and they blame their cheating on their wives,however, women with high libido whose husbands don't satisfy should also be free to have sex with other men. Afterall the saying goes "what's good for d goose is also good for the gander" therefore,if its okay for men to cheat on their wives and still beat them,it won't be so bad if women do the same. In fact, the world would be a better place and married people would be a lot happier.
Why do men tell their wives they won't cheat at the beginning then few years after marriage,they eventually cheat ???? Well,Open marriage is not a license to cheat,it is only a caveat/warning to your spouse that "I may cheat and if I do cheat,don't be angry and feel free to cheat too" becos if u look at the issue critically, everyone is cheating with someone expressly or impliedly. Married men who do erotic texting (sexting)and chatting wit other people and exchange pictures, as well as those who sleep around are all cheaters.
And to those women who console themselves saying "all men cheat" thereby confining and subjecting themselves to a lifetime of avoidable marital slavery, FYI,marriage is a contract btw 2 people and if you're entering into the 'marriage contract' with the thought that d other party(men) would breach the terms and conditions of d marriage, then you should give the men as your own term of the marriage that if its okay for him to be with other women,then the wife can be with other men. Its like a lecturer giving his students an "open book exam" to prevent exam malpractice.
To put an end to the emotional drain,psychological torture and heartbreak drama most women are going thru, I say OPEN MARRIAGE is the solution. Infact, Nigerian law makers should pass a law on open marriages.
Yours Faithfully,
Signed
I AM THE VOICE OF ALL CHEATED WOMEN.
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«Oldest ‹Older 401 – 482 of 482It's evil demonic and bad to support and to even be a part of anything that has to do with cheat in marriage both heaven and earth knows its evil, bad and demonic so why broadcast it call evil, EVIL.... like the sayings that says Call a spared a spared not a garden implement. It simple and easy preach the good news which is the world of God and nail anyone married person that indulges in such an dirty stincking act. I rest my case here blc i am a very busy person. Then if you like such act then live it it's your life dear but know one thing heaven at last.... where will your soul be?
It's evil demonic and bad to support and to even be a part of anything that has to do with cheat in marriage both heaven and earth knows its evil, bad and demonic so why broadcast it call evil, EVIL.... like the sayings that says Call a spared a spared not a garden implement. It simple and easy preach the good news which is the world of God and nail anyone married person that indulges in such an dirty stinking act. I rest my case here blc i am a very busy person. Then if you like such act then live it it's your life dear but know one thing heaven at last.... where will your soul be?
Well said. I so agree with you.
I understand her point of view, but two wrongs don't make a right. Therefore if your husband is cheating on you, don't decide to cheat on him to get even. Keep to your marital vows, and your conscience will be clear before God. If your husband decides to cheat on you, just bear it in mind that God will judge him. A cheat will always find a reason to cheat, even if his wife gives him sex everyday of the week.
Wives shouldn't cheat to get back on their husbands.
Ok. We have hear. If you really mean this, y hide ur ID?
I'm in love with whoever wrote this...
Lol something is doing her. Cheat na then we will know who paid the bride price #louiscarter
I wish her luck. That is no longer a marriage they might as well stay as baby mother and baby father if that is the kind of Life they want to live. The solution lies with both men and women stay faithful period. If we the practice of old cheating will reduce to many factors in today's society leads to cheat until some of these issues get addressed then we are simply chasing shadows. For some people it is a spiritual problem; for others it is a social problem; and so it is just a case of greed. May God helps us all. For those of us who still manage to stay faithful to our wives and husbands may God continue to strengthen us to not give in to temptation.
Hmmmm,cool,
Me I know that most married women are cheating codedly,they just nid a license to do it at will openly anywhere.
Rubbish
I'm sorry the writer or the person whose thought is represented here doesn't know anything about marriage, sanctity of a woman's body or morality, if she did, she would have kept this thought to herself. Let her get married and begin to open her legs to every man because her husband is cheating on her, then she would know the reality of life in marriage.
Rubbish. Instead of having an open marraige so u could mess around, y not remain single or be a single mother n sleep with every dick n harry cos u av got the highest libido in the world. Like the saying "Two wrongs will never make a right"
Madam u need to get a job and stop spoiling the minds of our ladies. Open marriages cant even work in Nigeria, we for sure have standards and values. JUNK WRITE UP JUNK!!! JUNK!!! JUNK!!! JUNK!!! JUNK!!! JUNK!!! JUNK!!! JUNK!!!
so I have decided not to cheat on my wife, instead I want to marry a second wife since my tradition allows for me to do such. and for the writer of this stupid article, I wanna see you marry 2 husband and bare children by them, cloth them and nurture them since we live in an equal world.
Olosho please speak for yourself only biko
U really have time to blab all this nonsense
I TOTALLY SUPPORT!!! MARRIAGES WOULD WORK BETTER AND WOULD BE TOTALLY WORTH IT
Gbam..i concore
Stay unmarried if you can't take shit...this is applicable to both men n women.
And you miss voice..
Pls stay single and tell us the result when you are. 80 yes old with no companion...set of unrealistic women these days is alarming. Men and women are equal only on paper and society not in marriage....gbabe
I agree
the dumbest article i've ever read on this blog. Sadly, most women would agree..
Madam u don craze finish! Hehehehehehe....
Why are my comments posted?
Nay. Women are n won't be allowed to cheat. Even if ur husband is lyk mine who lasts for 5 min
Madam ur logic is flawed nobody ever stopped women from cheatin nd nobody gave men permission to cheat. If u are in an open marriage den it cannot be reffered to as cheatin bcos permission has bin given by both parties to pursue relationships outsyd d marriage. Everybody is free to cheat .....what u b advocatin for is equal consequences for a cheating spouses either male or female just as a woman hu cheats is ridiculed by society if d same standards apply 2 men den der mite b a level playin ground........dnt mind d typos
Yeye voice. Why get married if you are not ready to commit to one person? Pls take several seats. Advisers of doom.
Open marriage? To start with, it's not Godly. Then Why marry if you'll end up sleeping with other people? My dear, stay single and bang whoever you want. Don't bother to have kids because you're obviously incapable of good morals let alone impact it to another human.
Thank you! I agree with her 100% Gone are the days I would stay up waiting for hubby to come home before i sleep,in fact he's the one who calls me now asking where are you? i'm like oh really? lol! The first 2 years I almost killed myself,now? I'm happy,if you want come home if you want don't come home either way i'm going to enjoy my life,i'm not even moved anymore I make sure his dinner & table is set & either go to bed when i'm tired or go out with my friends, if I cant get the attention & love from him I will get it elsewhere,i look good,work out so what else does he want? I begi! marriage is not a do or die affair. When you're out with your boys don't think i'm not (singing) haha...mo le wa ku bcos of one oloriburuku
The goody tw shoes will come out & start judging now,na you sabi,ladies make your own money & make yourself happy,look good,take care of your body & your mind ,i'm out xoxo
See this dumbass.
I pray your husband beats you well well.
Ode.
Two wrongs has never made a right
gbam
Hmmmmm...... a feminist approach to it. I do not agree but kinda love it sha
i absolutely agree with her
Meanwhile many married women cheat they are just better at hiding it
have been saying something like this and people shut me up, but to me it's the right thing, if a man feels it's ok to cheat then let them put themselves in women shoes also. at times i sit down and picture what women that have cheating husband go through it's make me go mad on my own.
Lol gbam!!! I concur
Hmmm i kinda feel you ma'am but the Bible says otherwise and i gotta stick with the laws of the book.
I set out d terms of my contract, if u no like am DON'T SIGN!
SHIKENA!!!
contractors plenti for market.
But why get married???
Lol...the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. Wisdom is profitable to direct. For the women she has advised,the ball is in your court. Go ahead n lead yourself to hell. My dear adviser, pls help me give your life to Christ. The kingdom of God is near. Allow the almighty who instituted marriage to direct you on how to go about resolving issues with unfaithful husbands. God is good.
Dnt understnd!
Thank you very much my dear. You have said it all. I have been married for four years now to a cheating husband. Sometimes I count his hidden condoms and realize they vanish one by one. So why not cheat too cos that the only way I will be able to live with him under same roof without having hatred toward him. This idiot cheats and when you confront him, he turns the table around. If your husband is a cheat, you have an equal right to cheap. Enough is enough. I know he comes to this blog on daily basis, so I hope he sees this response.
Sad bitch!!!!
i no blame you,too many weed...igbo at work!!!
Hawni that solution of yours is the wackiest iv ever read.
Not open marriage, contract term maybe. 6months or so, renewable if both parties concur. It's about time. Thanks for this grand thought and consideration. Enough with the stifling
Absolutely,very,extremely,beautifully,9cely well said, I sooooooooooooo concur!
Loll.. This is too funny! As tempting as ur solution is.. We still have to fear God u see.. Judgement, karma, sexually transmitted diseases, prick wey no go stand again is waiting 4 all cheating men somewhere!
Im a married woman and I totally concur!
Why wont you concur with your fallen breasts.any man that sleeps with a married woman doesnt have class, breasts she fed her kids with , you suck.shame
Honestly I support dis. Am married to one to n still never admits he does. And am not allowed or can't even think of cheating despite d fact dat he doesn't last more Dan 5 min in bed. Women who cheat ate either stigmatised or most often thrown out of d house. But Men are given a pat on d back for d number of sluts he has slept wit!
Never bn in ds cheating situation and i pray i won't. So i don't know. But what i know is 2wrongs can't make a right. There r still faithful couples out there.
Why won't you concur with your fallen breasts
Any man that sleeps with a married woman is cursed , he will go down someday, she fed her kids with same breasts and giving to u
I have a different opinion. I think the solution is to make him THINK you're cheating. it will drive him crazy and perhaps work for a while or if you're fortunate, make him camend his ways. I don't think open marriage based on "pay you back" mentality is healthy. and for other commentators, a lot of open marriages exist in Nigeria just that couples pretend a lot.
Right on Point
Linda when will you enable the "like" option on this blog
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With your fallen boobs and smelly wife pussy, the dude shagging you is trying when hot young babes are everywhere
Good one
Right
Ur own boobs go still fall one day...helloooooo! Theirs was once firm!
Go and sit down obere Nwa! Guess u are not married. Haven't you seen husbands of beauty queens cheat?
Nah... I don't believe that's a solution
that is why shes not married...this is not a solution..repent and be born again
May God Punish U, Ode Oshi,idiot U call Urself a man
I'm extremely disappointed & embarrassed at your grammar. *smh*
"For all of us to be enlighten"? Did this one even finish primary school? Please re-visit your comment and correct your grammar. Don't worry, thank me later.
I should try it den.. And I bet you gonna regret it .. js
But will smith and his wife have it and their still together
You are very right!
Word!
Ashawo.... Give your life to Christ.
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*amigo de don.*
Lol @ Open marriage is d solution to cheating! In dat case lets just have a baby 2geda and 4get abt tying the knots den cos its just pointless!! look u just hv to go into marriage expecting the best but keeping in mind that nobody is perfect especially u!! While playing the role of a devoted wife u just hv to remember going on ur knees and talking to your 1st husband (Jesus) everyday!! If u were not serious abt God as a single lady, getting married u hv no choice, u just need him. That way u knw God is in control of ur family and no matter wat ur husband does, he will never bring disgrace to u n ur kids, afterall wat u dnt knw wont kill u rite? Marriage is a loooong journey u know, it can never b perfect, it can never be all roses, peaches & cream, mistakes will be made, some will b made by u. U just hv to find a man who expects to give his best to d marriage. Please love & most importantly RESPECT ur husband, give him freedom, don't go snooping around his phone, don't try to train him, he's not ur son!! Do dis and he will forever remain devoted to u n d kids.
God bless u
My thought exactly!!i totally agree
I support open marriage
Buahahahaha! Dey there! Man above woman my ass!
"Cheating I believe is not in the nature of men". Really????!!
Please remember STDs or worse.....AIDS
Please remember STDs or worse.....AIDS
My dear I support ur idea joo! U have tried. I like the write up and any other person is free to bring up solution too.
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