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Wednesday, 10 December 2014

Toni Payne gets emotional on instagram, says she loved the wrong person

9ice's ex-wife and mother of his first child, TV host and lifestyle writer Toni Payne took to her instagram page this morning to pen down a touching statement to her fans, a few days after she reacted angrily to fans who accused her of cheating on her ex-husband. Toni says she feels bad that she's being accused of something she never did. What she wrote below...
The other day I lost my cool when I shud av ignored cos I let people who do not matter get to me. It got me trending in a way I did not like and that for me I can't ignore. Till today, I get an unreasonable amount of hate for something I did not do. I ignore most times but this time I reacted. I've been thru a lot so sometimes I find them hard to ignore, maybe because Iv addressed it to the point that it feels like it will never go away. Iv been called every name in the book, bitch, attn seeker, etc simply because I loved the wrong person but still I held my head high choosing to carry on. 
I do my best to stay true to who I am and be a good person. Tho sum may deem it weakness, I'm a free spirit and av no problem baring my soul so yes I'll admit, even though I'm strong, it sometimes gets to me. Not because their opinions matter but because I even have to deal with it in the first place and most of the time it feels surreal. I understand that not everyone will like me, so they will use anything they can against me. I probably wouldn't care if it was something I actually did. 

Then I'll accept that It is what it is. I wish I could explain the feeling of being wrongly accused in that magnitude. It's like a million welts digging deep at your soul, and no one seems to understand you. To some it's funny, to some it's a headline, to me, it's reassurance I have to give my son that a nasty rumor was badly mismanaged. It's the explaining I will be doing in the years to come. 

It's irritating when it keeps popping up and I have to turn the other cheek but I'm learning each day to always keep my cool. I'm happy and content but also human. Excuse me if I react sometimes to stupidity thrown in my direction.. God gave me a fresh start and for that I should be grateful.. Apologies if I disappointed anyone by clapping back.....I promise next time to try harder to ignore and hopefully this will be the last of it... Xoxo #Osha

507 comments:

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Miss Hugonna said...

turning deaf ears 2 pple's critics is actually d way forward. I can relate wif ur pain.#deaf

Anonymous said...

This girl pls can go stop this lamentation and go get a life. Enough of this your epistle of how much you loved the wronged person. Does it mean you cannot get yourself another man or something. Abeg stop disgracing women in trying to make men believe that when a woman is dumped she can never do without the man. Am so ashamed of you whenver I read all this your articles of nonsense love. Be independent joor and get busy. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and expect that the best is yet to come. That's my candid advise.

Unknown said...

my dear jst b urself n dont let d bad ovatake d gud

Unknown said...

u even tried. nothing do u joor babe. That Nyc is just an immature fellow. Singing about things when u know it will have a direct impact on your family and loved ones. Bone the toad and move on ojare. We live and learn.

Anonymous said...

It is well. ogwefaith@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

OK na...we don hear...

mz posh said...

Don't let low life pple comment get to pls

Anonymous said...

Stop being pathetic. Enough of you taking about 9ice and move on with your life. Even if you cheat nko? what's the big deal about it. Please stop making yourself look cheap as if your whole life depend on him. I will advise you to stop talking and thinking about what has already past. Expect that the best is yet to come.

blaq said...

Marriage Mata ehnnn ..e tire me oh

Unknown said...

My dear, I feel your pain. U owe no one an explanation biko its your life..

Richard said...

U sef be human being ooo. Don't mind them, more blessing.

Bokunor said...

Some men are heartless, I can feel ua pain

Anonymous said...

how many of these commentators haven't been through the same thing or even worse? this is one of those times we all wish people will just mind their biz...for real. your life is your own and no one's got d right to play judge and jury

Bokunor said...

Anyibokunor@gmail.com. Toni u tried 4 voicing out, it's bin quite long, 5yrs no be beans

Bokunor said...

Anyibokunor@gmail.com. Toni u tried 4 voicing out, it's bin quite long, 5yrs no be beans

Unknown said...

9iceyy

Baby P said...

Good woman.

Anonymous said...

Idiot!!! Olodo of the highest order...can't you read where she wrote people accused her again verbally.. fool!!

Anonymous said...

It's well.lauretb@yahoo.com

Awulonu Solomon said...

Sorry dear.

Anonymous said...

Idiot! You obviously can't read.

Amaka.u.l said...

I feel ur pain.such z life!

Anonymous said...

Haters shld let her be to enable her choose a normal life. Owolabikikelomo@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Datz life 4 u, not everybody wil like u

Unknown said...

She would feel a lift now. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

vickyfabulous said...

I av been commenting on all these posts since 12 am.. And I can't even find one.. kilode!!!

Unknown said...

Yh u shdnt v reacted on social media..cuz datz wat we call maturity iyanuoluwa05@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Hmmm amyreal12@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

my own na this giveaway money nothing else..amyreal12@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

What a bloody moron. Your mom shouldve just let you go as her monthly period

Anonymous said...

my own na this giveaway money nothing else..amyreal12@yahoo.com

DadMatilda said...

God is your strength Toni, I don't know if it is true you are arrogant as your hubby has claimed oooo. All I can say is focus on Zion, he is your husband and can never desert you. That has always been my grandma's advice to female kin.
ayoemmy842002@gmail. com

Unknown said...

Toni, keep ignoring them and live your life. even if u did wat was sed, wud u be d first to do so? it happens in this crazy world however not good.

Anonymous said...

Bonario just shut d f up! I hate it when people say things they dont really know abt! How does she move on from it when the tag the stupid useless man put on her as a "cheater" is still following her everywhere she goes while he's busy having a life n even having the guts to go into politics?!

Unknown said...

Hmmm. Just move on. You find true love soon and be close to God

C. A. Omerenna said...

aww so sad dear

Karlsson said...

The Internet is messed up big time. Even failures ll come on the net to tarnish other people's like. Frustrated n bitter generation. I don't understand Y people ll derive joy by making others feel bad. Karma ll catch up with U all that don't see anything good in other people. Ubanagum

Unknown said...

Ebezina. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

stelron said...

story for the gods ooo

nkiru said...

honestly i feel her pain. njkalu@yahoo.com

DadMatilda said...

God is your strength Toni, I don't know if it is true you are arrogant as your hubby has claimed oooo. All I can say is focus on Zion, he is your husband and can never desert you. That has always been my grandma's advice to female kin.
ayoemmy842002@gmail. com

Unknown said...

Heya....sorry dear...dats life
But that's doesn't make u to stop loving again...
U wil still me d right person cos dudes full everywhere

Unknown said...

dis babe still like nice sha ... it z well . but the best u can do is to give ur child the very best of thing needed in life ... all the best dear

Ngozi Okolie said...

Am so sorry dear. I can imagine ur emotional pain. It is well. ngozi_okolie@yahoo.com

JOYCHY said...

Peope are just commenting blindly. How can she forget about it, do u think datz possoble? When u guys keep insulting her 4rm time2time & keep reminding her of something she never did.

You ain't in her shoes. u don't know hw it feels. Leave dis lady alone. U guys shld really allow her move on besides its none of ur business. She's human, she has 2 snap at people sometimes. Some Nigerians are so annoying!!

JOYCHY said...

Peope are just commenting blindly. How can she forget about it, do u think datz possoble? When u guys keep insulting her 4rm time2time & keep reminding her of something she never did.

You ain't in her shoes. u don't know hw it feels. Leave dis lady alone. U guys shld really allow her move on besides its none of ur business. She's human, she has 2 snap at people sometimes. Some Nigerians are so annoying!!

JOYCHY said...

Peope are just commenting blindly. How can she forget about it, do u think datz possoble? When u guys keep insulting her 4rm time2time & keep reminding her of something she never did.

You ain't in her shoes. u don't know hw it feels. Leave dis lady alone. U guys shld really allow her move on besides its none of ur business. She's human, she has 2 snap at people sometimes. Some Nigerians are so annoying!!

Anonymous said...

Such is life!


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Unknown said...

Eyah Amypearlokeke@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Eyah Amypearlokeke@gmail.com

Flo Braveman said...

Give it time Tony... It heals everything

Unknown said...

U try to be 9,ice they make uvfeel Tonis pain

Unknown said...

All men re snakes

Onye877@hotmail.com

Unknown said...

This is so sad!

Unknown said...

so touching

Anonymous said...

U want to b in d lime light? You ve to be strong. But u are only human, take heart.

Anonymous said...

D dude lost in d primaries so he won't even send u one bit
Never let a man see u this, that means he won
onuoharuth86@gmail.com

Unknown said...

COLLAPSE

AQO said...

Hmmm.

Kayode Awofeso said...

sorry dear move on

Anonymous said...

Same old story! Why not get off social media and just live ur life, like 9nice is doing? It's d price u pay for imposing urself on a man dat cares less. Food for tot, all ye desperados

Unknown said...

Awww! I feel her pain

Unknown said...

God is the only witnes

dodo said...

Ehya. So sorry dear

Schola's Oasis said...

Aww.... so sad...

Unknown said...

All them shit happens. Girl always remember what wont kill you only makes you stronger. So be strong and don't let emotions rule your mind.

Unknown said...

Eeyah

Anonymous said...

Shut the fuck up! Shey o di mu ni? Brainlesss people like u need rehab! SHE DID NOT CHEAT on dat man-whore sperm donor charity! Jeez! Y'all shld move on already....

Unknown said...

so sad toni, but yoy jst have to move on please......

Unknown said...

Next! mumunnah@gmail..om

Unknown said...

medicine after death sorry madam payne # General hendrix

Anonymous said...

How is she still refuting cheating rumors when her husband started a relationship during their marriage that produced twins with another woman? She has already been vindicated when her ex had to hang his head in shame and admit to fathering those kids while married to her. The nigerian public didn't trust him to elect him to higher office. He's becoming a serial baby daddy. What more does she want to happen to show she was a decent woman that got caught up with a jerk?

Unknown said...

Dats life,too bad

Anonymous said...

Sorry o

Akingbade Olanipekun Olusanya said...

All This Stuff she's saying is an hugwash, trash & a blatant lie. i knew the whole story from the beginning to the end. it all started when rugged started hmmmmm. mail me if you want the full story. akingbadeolusanya01@gmail.com

Unknown said...

@ anon 9:25 u r so dumb must it always b abt moni can't sum1 truly luv another person even if he is rich na wa o

Unknown said...

Hmmmmm! I like this lady.

Unknown said...

Hmmmmm! I like this lady.

Lewis said...

It's well dear

Unknown said...

sorry my sister, if you listen to what people are saying, you will break someones head. be strong and take care of your son. its a cruel society we live in.

X'tine Neni said...

Even a prostitute deserves a second chance..We all make mistakes,but our ability to rise up and make amends makes us worthy.. Not saying you did the accused,but so what if you did???...wipe your tears girl and go meet your knight in shining armour.Bless you.x

Unknown said...

Wen u listen to wat pple say,,it wil weigh u down,try as much as u can to ignore them,

Unknown said...

confession time abi. Nice go soon write book.

@y said...

i feel for her that she need to give account to her child.even if she still deny it to the boi, he may investigate it himself and that will be another heartbreak. However, if you holistically read thru the message, she was only repeating words. no iteration of what she had said. it might be that they where about doing it and they were caught but,rumor can never be totally wrong...think about it pple. she marry the wrong person who happen to be right man for anoda lady under the same factor and LCM...called marriage how?

check out the those that pulled out from their first marriage due to irreconcilable difference, never graduated from that school..heheh. just a thot though.
ayorinde.mavis@yahoo.com

pam eve said...

Nice one nigga

Unknown said...

5 yrs already? Babe pls move on, haba.. am a guy n if u r my sis, either u r guilty or not, it doesn't matter any more,5 yrs ! no need trying to prove ur innocence. Move on pls.. You only av one life to live..

Anonymous said...

This is the sad reality of us women. The said wrong man has since moved on, had not one but two baby mamas and 3 other kids, had a failed attempt at politics and generally living his life but yet this woman is still being berated for something she may or may not have done. At the end of the day, it's his word against hers but the society we live in is not kind on women and marriages at all. Keep your head up and ignore. God bless you and your kid.

MUVA said...

Its well

Unknown said...

Sorry my dear.romamb@yahoo.com

sparkyimma said...

Am loving this woman even without seeing her Sometimes people just because they are lucky refuses to see or acknowledge that others maybe suffering and they try to use your misfortune for their gain or upliftment. Don't give up on yourself,get back up nd shake it off you ve a bright future with your son and who knows God pushed him aside to bring forth a better person. Just try not to clap back again nd you will see how peaceful your life will be.shalom

Unknown said...

She was with him wen he had nothing @ann9:25. I feel sorry for her. Keep ur head straight dear. The Lord is ur strength.

Anonymous said...

Too many olodos on this blog. Must u comment?

Unknown said...

Miss Payne is pained.. What I hate about Nigerians is that they believe in hear says more than the truth.. Pray to God to give u strength

Kingsley Lotanna Ezeonyido said...

That's really emotional, don't know who to side anymore. I'd rather remain neutral like I've always been.
Good luck with your life.

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Honeybim said...

Toni, you are a true lady. You have responded in a very matured manner. God will sort you out and take good care of your son.

Unknown said...

9ice just kept quiet, God will judge him

Unknown said...

Heeya! This one really pained Toni Payne! Sure I do understand the feeling one gets when accused wrongly! I pray it dies down someday soon! I do hope this wld really be ur last time of clapping back

Unknown said...

You don't have feelings @allll

Anonymous said...

sorry darlin,shit happens,pick urself up and move on.#pele
olabowale2k2@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Hummmmm its well my dear sister try and move on n please ignore every side talks so it doesn't become a baggage along the way.

Unknown said...

Hummmmm really anyway its well my dear sister please try and ignore everything you hear so it doesn't belong a baggage along d way. Stay blessed

Anonymous said...

see this liar

Anonymous said...

life continues joor. u think say all don finish, look for a right person.

mjabdulk@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Better go and find husband Caris.

Anonymous said...

If she is mad then what's wrong with ur mother?

Anonymous said...

God has better plans 4u. If only u can reach out to him with ur whole heart

Unknown said...

Av dis tot....Dr are still gonna av more kids for each other....jst tk or leave it......waleabimbola29@gmail.com

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