Dear LIB readers: My man says he'll only marry me if I agree to stop wearing weaves
From a female LIB reader
After eleven months together, my boyfriend told me recently that the only reason he hasn't proposed to me is because of my weaves, that he couldn't spend the rest of his life with a woman who wears wigs and weaves. He says he wants his wife to only carry her natural hair and nothing else, so this is a deal breaker for us. He says once I make him that promise he will propose to me and I can start making wedding plans.
I'm worried for two reasons; I love my weaves and I don't know if I can exist without them and 2, a man who is adamant on having his way and doesn't want to listen to reason or even compromise may be a huge problem later in the marriage. But I love him and want to marry him, I just don't know what to do about his ultimatum. Please help!
This is just so silly. Were you on your natural hair the day he met you? If he doesn't like weaves, why did he have to wait for 11 months to tell you? Seems like a very flimsy excuse to stir up trouble on his part I think. He should understand that while some of us ladies have full and luscious natural hair, others aren't so lucky and can't flaunt their hair of it's short and scanty. Lol. Therefore, weaves help. Besides, styling and combing your natural EVERYDAY can lead to breakage. Make him understand na. Does he have sisters? Do they wear their natural hair 24/7? Na wa o. There is nothing we will not hear in this Nigeria sha.
C dis mumu y r u worried dnt u knw dat guyz of nowadays wnt dere gurl 2 b natural nt everytime weave-on nd wigs,try 2 b natural......qudratadenike@gmail.com
A man who wants to marry you, should love you for you and not try to change you darling, i think he is being sorta selfish by his decision, and trying to make you give up something you absolutely love just to please him, c'mon we are all africans and most of us dont have excellent and flawless hair so we use weaves and extensions to compensate, i think you should really think about this and try as much as possible to make him see reason cause if you give this up hed probably think youd give anything other thing up and might wanna become controlling. This is just a theory though not what might actually happen human beings are different, just try and make him see reason darling and see what happens . GOODLUCK :)
Madam u are seeing the signs now. Yiu better run. A man who gives u a condition before marrying u doesn't love u. He is trying to tell u that u are desperate. It is a different thing if he comes to you and tells you to stop wearing weaves cuz he doesn't like it than for him to make it a condition.
This is a wise man! I said so bcos he is trying to her know his choice b/4 getting married.If truly you love your man why won't you to be submisive to his advise.
sweetie, pls you need to let this man go. just leave him. if a man really loves you 1) he wont be adamant on having his way 2) he would learn to consider and value your opinions 3) he wont be bent on controlling you. if you stay with him, his domineering nature will exhibit itself in many other ways which are much worse. i doubt he could have any good reason for disliking your weaves. but just as you dont dictate to him what hairstyle he should keep, he shouldnt dictate to you what hairstyle you should keep. sweetie, if he marries you, is it beacuse of your hair or because of love? pls he sounds like a jerk.. just leave him.
1st comes the weaves, next is the makeup,your sense of style,your weight,then your extended family n parents. Tell yourself the truth. If someone loves you, it's all of you. Not what he wants to mold you into. Don't let someone change you to suit him, you are a better person, with or without him. It's not by force to propose
if u love him as u claim to be, then u guys should reason together. u might go further to ask him y he doesn't like it. u guys need to concur together.
Promise never to ask for money to buy the weave and he will rush to propose. That is if u re interested in marrying a stingy man, next he will tell you Iro and buba should be your everyday attire.
Marriage or weave. Ehhe choose weave now. And see where ur demonic weave n wigs wud lead u too. When God created you shebi He created u with weave or wigs. Answer now!
He met u with weaves on.for eleven mths u have bn a nigerian with 'foreign' hair.suddenly he says he can't marry a woman who fixes her hair.doesn't that mean he never planned on that kind of commitment with u these past 11mths u'v had weaves?the most telling I think is that he isn't even willing to compromise.hmm....a compromise means wigs.natural hair(whch he claims to love) bt under a wig when u r goin out.pleases him to some point,pleases u to some point.that's a huge part of marriage.a man who loves u wld look for a middle ground as opposed to completely losing u.aftr these mths together I trust he knws hw deeply and abidingly u love weaves(according to u,u dnt think u can exist without weaves)that's abit scary and u really shd address it bt I digress.anyway,he is using this 'love'(4 weaves) against u.here is my advice..accept u will never fix again and watch his reaction(I really dnt think u shd marry a man whose 'dealbreaker' is smthng this trivial)if u absolutely mst marry him,u can learn to embrace ur africanness and go natural(some of us are).afterall women have bn sacrificing and pretending contentment since 1601.....KARMAisabitch
Plz leave that idiot! He has enjoy you have his way into you he feel you don't taste good anymore.. I bet if you marry him he will tel you stop dressing the way you dress.
If he really loves u he'll not tell u dat. Secondly, marriage is a lifetime deal breaker wateva decision u take naw will hunt u for d rest of ur married life.
If you love your man and he loves you too with a caring heart,then make that sacrifice for him.as for the future,leave that to God.after all,there is no marriage with 100% smooth.do you still doubt me?then talk to some ladies who has no one to say real HELLO to them let alone proposing
No 1 no man should give u any ultimatum b4 he propose, b4 he started dating u he should hv known dat he doesnt like weaves nd move to d natural hair girl. 2. Maybe he wants a wife who isnt too hawt so he wont hv to worry abt guys liking u. It he loves u now and loved u since natural hair nor weaves shudnt determine if he wants to keep u forever or not. Move on
He met u wearing weaves n wigz n fell for u, soo y does he want to change u?...yea husbands r rare, buh dat boyfrnd of urz is a control freak, Marrry him ok, 2mr he'll say stop wearing trousers, d nxt day no makeup, d nxt day no cellphones n d list goes on n on, if he wantz u, He'll put a ring on dat, wig or no wig
What's with men these days? Wearing weaves is completely normal for a woman! Control freak alert! Run for your life but of course you wouldn't because you want to say goodbye to spinsterhood by fire by force so you will settle for rubbish and few years down the line, u will start to regret GG
If this story is true, my dear he met you wearing weaves right and it had to take him 11 months before he told you the type of wife he wants. Personally if you sacrifice ur weave now, what else will follow? he knows you want to marry him, which is why he is too busy stating conditions for you. If he was so crazy abt a woman without weave , why did he ask you out in d first place when there are so many other without weave? Please think carefully b4 you take a decision, its a life time investment. will you be Happy without weave and what ever requests that will follow?
Lmaoo. Didnt he date you while you had the weave on your head, If he was not attracted to it from the start, why did he date you. The guy is already making up excuses as far as I am concerned, tomorrow he will tell you he cheated on you because you use make up..
He should go to hell.....there are other men in this world.....when u marry him trust me more rules will follow.....u like weaves and it's not a sin that can take u to hell so y leave it? If u do u will start to resent him and problem go start...don't be desperate there r so many men who don't mind, just wait....
u have made up your mind..yet u are asking us for advise..what do u want us to do? let the man go he is an idiot...these are the men that marry u and later chase women with wigs and weaves...I think his excuse is very flimsy and silly so....
My dear that's a very silly If not stupid excuse. He dates you for eleven months with all your wigs and weave and had absolutely no problem with it while you two fucked buh now he fucking has a p with marrying you because of something he never complained about and you are stupid enough to believe he wants to marry you but for your weaves? Ode the guy just gave you an easy way out and my advice, please take it
PLEASE RUN O!!! HE IS ALREADY MAKING YOU KNOW THAT HE RUNS THE SHOW AND YOU SHOULD OBEY OR CONSEQUENCES WILL FOLLOW. IF HE TRUELY LOVES YOU, WIGS WILL NOT BE MUCH OF AN ISSUE AND HE WILL ASK YOU NICELY AND BE WILLING TO WORK IT OUT WITH YOU BUT HE IS TELLING YOU LET THE WIGS GO OR HE WILL NOT PROPOSE TO YOU. GIRL, HE SHOULD BE THE ONE HAPPY TO HAVE YOU AND NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. LOVE YOURSELF AND BE PROUD OF YOURSELF SO OTHERS CAN TREAT YOU SAME.
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I'll tell you just one thing. If he really cant reason with you on such an insignificant issue, and understand that ur weaves mean a lot to you, then it's a fuckin' sign. R U N!
miss,kneel down nd thank dat ur man....cuz he loves u nd dats why he wnt d best fr u......stop wearing weaves cuz u re more beautiful wit ur ordinary nd natural hair*ingrident don yarn*
Ok....first he can date a woman who wears 'em but cant marry....sick.my advice dont marry a man who will give you conditions before something is done. Else you will live your life regret packed #the english
U av alrdy answer d question ursef..hw is weavon stopping.d truth is he doesn't wnt to get married to u jst flamzing xcuse.ma dear jst 4get him n dnt waste ur tyme on him cos wen u nter dt marriage ur life will b miserable..shikena
Listen dearie,that dude is nt ready and serious,he saw dat weave b4 he came for u,so y will he tell u he doesn't wnt them anymore,his being selfish ok..nd dts nt cul for a lifetime partner..or may b he can't afford money for Malaysian weaves..smh.
This is serious! He met you with weaves, did he ever complain before it became a barrier to marriage? Anyway, think you can try talking to him again, tell him you would carry more natural hair styles. Maybe his issue is actually that your weaves are to elaborate
He should reach a compromise cos weave wearing is a culture that we were born into and grew up with, so he can't expect you to just drop it immediately. Its a gradual thing. Or at least let him let you use hair extensions for braids or something and fix weaves less freguently. If he won't then he is no good. I am sure he wouldn't like that ultimatum if he were the one in your shoes. Let him reach a compromise.
Same thing happened to kim Kardashian. Leave him, he is a controlling S.O.B. He met you with weave, he knew you liked weaves. If he wants someone with natural hair, he should date someone who carries only natural hair. Nonsense..
Pls my dear throw the weaves away. Am married to the most sweetest man on earth but he also doesn't like weaves or attachment either. We're happily married 2day and i've found cool ways to rock my natural hair.
If he truly loves u,he should understand ur love for weaves and still marry u, true love overlooks a lot,give in now and u'l be giving a lot up later on after the marriage
Lol any man who refuses to propose because of such an irrelevant thing as a 'weave' is just making up flimzy excuses girl..whats the guarantee that he wont tell you something else when you end up marrying..He should love you for who you are!
were u on ur natural hair when he met or asked u out. if yes, then u gotta be careful cos ders no assurance that he wont come up with so many other things after getting marred.
Dis gal Neva serious. Weave vs marriage an deal breaker for you. Ok. Free dat guy abeg and carry on with your assorted Brazilian and Peruvian. You will find a man who doesn't want you to grow and will accept you and all your fakeries.
The weave is obviously a problem for your guy. He wants a woman who is natural and comfortable as God made her. You want to go on being fake and pleasing the outside world. Decisions decisions....
If this guy loves you,,weave or no weave he will propose.you too tell him that if he does not like your weave another man will appreciate you with or without the weave.the next thing he will tell you is to stop wearing make-up.you will now be looking like an SU
The man demands will have other demands in the future. If he cannot accept you for who you are and the things you love, please look for another fish as them plenty for sea.
LIB readers I alwys wish 2ask u questions,mostly ladies, most tins u do,Y do u do dem?d fashion,trousers,wigs,nails etcmany of u dat commented dt she shld follow her mind n do watever she wishes mostly aftr marriage NEVER plan 2njoy marriage but 2endure it.it seems most of u aint learning frm oda's mistake.to d question askd,young lady ur fashion is timely n if u wanna b a model to ur kids n family don't do wat he hates or else u'l b as old as ever while younger ladies ar gettin married every saturday.if u opted 4sm1 who liks wigs,watch out wat follow ur life after.if he doesn't love u,he won't hav told u 2stop.God even dint approve of wigs,trousers,various paints,fixin nails etc.he's only tryin 2make u a perfct woman for himself as he'l b d perfct man for U.
Ive noticed that most black women abroad are going natural and i strongly approve of this. No more relaxers and weaves. I watched so many natural hair videos on youtube and also decided to take a plunge. Ecspecially after watching dt Chris Rock movie "good hair". Truly disgraceful. Straight weaves on black girls look irritating to me now. I dont think anyone should be forced though. Pple shld make dt decision themselves.
Bia, biko did bros miss road to deeper life or mfm, thats the daftest excuse i have ever heard when you stop the weave what other excuse would come up?
my dear, please think properly. if u compromise this, get ready to compromise more in order to save your marriage. a man will love u and marry u weave or no weave. His treatin u like his doing u a favor marrying u when you should be treated like a princess. Dont let the world pressure you into getting married to the wrong man. #God help you
Giving a girl an ultimatum 4 marriage is so wrong, goes a long way 2 show d kind of person he is. Nofin wrong in stating ur does & don'ts, but at least he shldn't be authoritative about it.
COMPROMISE IS D WORD...Discuss it instead of dishing out rules & regulations. IS SHE UR MAID?? I so hate it wen men act like Lords.
Each man & his own. Wen my boo even tells me d weave dat fits me better dan d other. D bottom line, approach 2 issues matter alot, dis is so minute but yet can BREAK A HOME.
My dear, cut the hair if that would make him happy! You can look good on nautral style and besides, there are many stylish natural hairstyles around that can fill your taste. Good men are scarce ooo; if you think he is GOOD!!! All the best!
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 330 of 330This is just so silly. Were you on your natural hair the day he met you? If he doesn't like weaves, why did he have to wait for 11 months to tell you? Seems like a very flimsy excuse to stir up trouble on his part I think. He should understand that while some of us ladies have full and luscious natural hair, others aren't so lucky and can't flaunt their hair of it's short and scanty. Lol. Therefore, weaves help. Besides, styling and combing your natural EVERYDAY can lead to breakage. Make him understand na. Does he have sisters? Do they wear their natural hair 24/7? Na wa o. There is nothing we will not hear in this Nigeria sha.
Don't marry him !
...you have just answered your own question or better still given yourself the advice you need by your 2nd reason....
Watch out ! While you are married , he would still go after little girls who carry weaves
C dis mumu y r u worried dnt u knw dat guyz of nowadays wnt dere gurl 2 b natural nt everytime weave-on nd wigs,try 2 b natural......qudratadenike@gmail.com
Baby e be like say u no wan marry abi.. stay there. U already have a boo and u r here doin yanga.. nuradeeeen@gmail.com
A man who wants to marry you, should love you for you and not try to change you darling, i think he is being sorta selfish by his decision, and trying to make you give up something you absolutely love just to please him, c'mon we are all africans and most of us dont have excellent and flawless hair so we use weaves and extensions to compensate, i think you should really think about this and try as much as possible to make him see reason cause if you give this up hed probably think youd give anything other thing up and might wanna become controlling. This is just a theory though not what might actually happen human beings are different, just try and make him see reason darling and see what happens . GOODLUCK :)
If that's what he want then u have to obey him, remember he sees u beautiful without it than wearing it. Olasamop@yahoo.com
Madam u are seeing the signs now. Yiu better run. A man who gives u a condition before marrying u doesn't love u. He is trying to tell u that u are desperate. It is a different thing if he comes to you and tells you to stop wearing weaves cuz he doesn't like it than for him to make it a condition.
This is a wise man! I said so bcos he is trying to her know his choice b/4 getting married.If truly you love your man why won't you to be submisive to his advise.
sweetie, pls you need to let this man go. just leave him. if a man really loves you
1) he wont be adamant on having his way
2) he would learn to consider and value your opinions
3) he wont be bent on controlling you.
if you stay with him, his domineering nature will exhibit itself in many other ways which are much worse. i doubt he could have any good reason for disliking your weaves. but just as you dont dictate to him what hairstyle he should keep, he shouldnt dictate to you what hairstyle you should keep.
sweetie, if he marries you, is it beacuse of your hair or because of love?
pls he sounds like a jerk.. just leave him.
Cheap Blackmail. Be smart and condition Him too. Shebi u no carry weaves when he meet you ni???
Warning signs!
Shut up and do the one thing he asked of u.... If u are to chose between ur damn weave and him, wot wil it be?
The word sacrifice doesn't exist in ur dictionary eh?
1st comes the weaves, next is the makeup,your sense of style,your weight,then your extended family n parents.
Tell yourself the truth.
If someone loves you, it's all of you.
Not what he wants to mold you into.
Don't let someone change you to suit him, you are a better person, with or without him.
It's not by force to propose
Continue wearing your weaves..and better marry your weaves too
Continue wearing your weaves..and better marry your weaves too
if u love him as u claim to be, then u guys should reason together. u might go further to ask him y he doesn't like it. u guys need to concur together.
since u luv him u must keep to his rules . By the way wat is weavon
Promise never to ask for money to buy the weave and he will rush to propose. That is if u re interested in marrying a stingy man, next he will tell you Iro and buba should be your everyday attire.
Fine! U better do what he says so far he doesn't like them then what's stopping you from wearing them.
if u luv him then obey him bt if u cnt stay witout ur wig then leave him 4 gud cos anoda man food na anoda man poison
Marriage or weave. Ehhe choose weave now. And see where ur demonic weave n wigs wud lead u too. When God created you shebi He created u with weave or wigs. Answer now!
He met u with weaves on.for eleven mths u have bn a nigerian with 'foreign' hair.suddenly he says he can't marry a woman who fixes her hair.doesn't that mean he never planned on that kind of commitment with u these past 11mths u'v had weaves?the most telling I think is that he isn't even willing to compromise.hmm....a compromise means wigs.natural hair(whch he claims to love) bt under a wig when u r goin out.pleases him to some point,pleases u to some point.that's a huge part of marriage.a man who loves u wld look for a middle ground as opposed to completely losing u.aftr these mths together I trust he knws hw deeply and abidingly u love weaves(according to u,u dnt think u can exist without weaves)that's abit scary and u really shd address it bt I digress.anyway,he is using this 'love'(4 weaves) against u.here is my advice..accept u will never fix again and watch his reaction(I really dnt think u shd marry a man whose 'dealbreaker' is smthng this trivial)if u absolutely mst marry him,u can learn to embrace ur africanness and go natural(some of us are).afterall women have bn sacrificing and pretending contentment since 1601.....KARMAisabitch
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Plz leave that idiot! He has enjoy you have his way into you he feel you don't taste good anymore.. I bet if you marry him he will tel you stop dressing the way you dress.
Babe sacrifice now since u love then give him your own condition along the line after marriage.
A doze of his med...*winks
When he started dating you didn't he see d weaves?
If he really loves u he'll not tell u dat. Secondly, marriage is a lifetime deal breaker wateva decision u take naw will hunt u for d rest of ur married life.
If you love your man and he loves you too with a caring heart,then make that sacrifice for him.as for the future,leave that to God.after all,there is no marriage with 100% smooth.do you still doubt me?then talk to some ladies who has no one to say real HELLO to them let alone proposing
You know exactly what to do. You just said you love him n want to marry him.why seek peoples opinion in the first place.
No 1 no man should give u any ultimatum b4 he propose, b4 he started dating u he should hv known dat he doesnt like weaves nd move to d natural hair girl.
2. Maybe he wants a wife who isnt too hawt so he wont hv to worry abt guys liking u.
It he loves u now and loved u since natural hair nor weaves shudnt determine if he wants to keep u forever or not. Move on
Soo....?
Like seriously,maybe he has his reasons,abeg linda no chop mai comment
Be who u are, and do marry sum1 bcos out of self wish but out of inner wish.
who do you love most, the wigs/weave or the man? the choice is yours.
He met u wearing weaves n wigz n fell for u, soo y does he want to change u?...yea husbands r rare, buh dat boyfrnd of urz is a control freak, Marrry him ok, 2mr he'll say stop wearing trousers, d nxt day no makeup, d nxt day no cellphones n d list goes on n on, if he wantz u, He'll put a ring on dat, wig or no wig
So he doesn't love u enough! Girl get to stepping...platinum_godfather@yahoo.com
IF NOT WEARING WEAVES WILL MAKE U A WIFE Y NT DO AS HE SAY AS LONG AS U ARE HAPPY WITH HIM
He doesn't want to get married yet! That's no excuse, when he first met you, were u not wearing a weave? Nonsense!
What's with men these days? Wearing weaves is completely normal for a woman! Control freak alert! Run for your life but of course you wouldn't because you want to say goodbye to spinsterhood by fire by force so you will settle for rubbish and few years down the line, u will start to regret
GG
D guy is a fool. Leave him!
What is wrong with your natural hair.... Whether he is trying to tell you something.....
If this story is true, my dear he met you wearing weaves right and it had to take him 11 months before he told you the type of wife he wants. Personally if you sacrifice ur weave now, what else will follow? he knows you want to marry him, which is why he is too busy stating conditions for you. If he was so crazy abt a woman without weave , why did he ask you out in d first place when there are so many other without weave? Please think carefully b4 you take a decision, its a life time investment. will you be Happy without weave and what ever requests that will follow?
U still dey west time? Oya straight to d barba go & hve a skin cut B/4 he change his mind, dat is wat he want(Africa Qween)...(Rocha We Know 2015)
Funny husband
Promise him u will be carrying natural hair more often.
Lmaoo. Didnt he date you while you had the weave on your head, If he was not attracted to it from the start, why did he date you. The guy is already making up excuses as far as I am concerned, tomorrow he will tell you he cheated on you because you use make up..
He should go to hell.....there are other men in this world.....when u marry him trust me more rules will follow.....u like weaves and it's not a sin that can take u to hell so y leave it? If u do u will start to resent him and problem go start...don't be desperate there r so many men who don't mind, just wait....
Shey he didn't see you with the weave when toasting you?For the 11mths you've been together didn't you wear weaves?
was he blind when he was dating you
I can totally relate to this, my fiancé also wants me to ditch weaves, because of this I've been on my natural hair for a few months now. I've been seriously considering cause 1 or 2 months aint the same as a life time o
Was it not the same weave that attracted him? If doesn't like a woman with weaves then why did he start dating you in the first place? I find it a very flimsy reason. Most of these men will tell their wives to carry their natural hair and still go out and be chasing Caro with 30" Brazilian hair. If he loves u he will look past ur weaves and marry u... It's a stupid excuse. He needs to grow up ... And trust me after marriage it won't just be ur weaves, he will virtually control everything abt u and threaten u with divorce when U don't comply. U better be wise in ur choice! For me it's a red flag... My fiancé tells me I look better without makeup on but not for once has he told me to stop wearing makeup... He knws I'm a woman and these things are essential sometimes. A man who loves u will understand.
u have made up your mind..yet u are asking us for advise..what do u want us to do? let the man go he is an idiot...these are the men that marry u and later chase women with wigs and weaves...I think his excuse is very flimsy and silly so....
Hahahahahahahaaaa..... story story, pick one jor, ur fake hair or ur man
Girl you may love him but he sure doesn't love you! That is if weaves and wigs are the true problem. Nonsense.
My dear that's a very silly If not stupid excuse. He dates you for eleven months with all your wigs and weave and had absolutely no problem with it while you two fucked buh now he fucking has a p with marrying you because of something he never complained about and you are stupid enough to believe he wants to marry you but for your weaves? Ode the guy just gave you an easy way out and my advice, please take it
PLEASE RUN O!!! HE IS ALREADY MAKING YOU KNOW THAT HE RUNS THE SHOW AND YOU SHOULD OBEY OR CONSEQUENCES WILL FOLLOW. IF HE TRUELY LOVES YOU, WIGS WILL NOT BE MUCH OF AN ISSUE AND HE WILL ASK YOU NICELY AND BE WILLING TO WORK IT OUT WITH YOU BUT HE IS TELLING YOU LET THE WIGS GO OR HE WILL NOT PROPOSE TO YOU. GIRL, HE SHOULD BE THE ONE HAPPY TO HAVE YOU AND NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. LOVE YOURSELF AND BE PROUD OF YOURSELF SO OTHERS CAN TREAT YOU SAME.
BB
Itz not right, marriage wt conditions. He wud bring more flimzy excuses wt time
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then stop wearing wig *simple
Find one of his flaws or favourite that you cannot tolerate;give him ultimatum then let's see how it goes from there.
I'll tell you just one thing. If he really cant reason with you on such an insignificant issue, and understand that ur weaves mean a lot to you, then it's a fuckin' sign. R U N!
lol.my own fiance says i should shave my own hair.lol.
obey him if u really love him
Thats no prb. Me i dont Wear weaves. Go natural like me we Rock. And your husband to be will love you u more.#teamAfro. We rock.
My dear no man s worth dat sacrifice! He should love u d way u r
miss,kneel down nd thank dat ur man....cuz he loves u nd dats why he wnt d best fr u......stop wearing weaves cuz u re more beautiful wit ur ordinary nd natural hair*ingrident don yarn*
You know the answer,you just need d nudge to go thru with d decision.
you've answered yourself already...once there's a 'but'...please don't go in!!!
Oro pesije....lol.,now ur bf is jealous of wig...but he asked you out with ur wig on nau
you've answered yourself already...once there's a 'but'...please don't go in!!!
you've answered yourself....once there's a 'but' in the story..please don't go into it!!.
you've answered yourself....once there's a 'but' in the story..please don't go into it!!.
Hell nooo
Ok....first he can date a woman who wears 'em but cant marry....sick.my advice dont marry a man who will give you conditions before something is done. Else you will live your life regret packed #the english
Follow ur mind my dear @ mercy
I support your man. I hate weaves.
first to comment....kudos to ur love
U av alrdy answer d question ursef..hw is weavon stopping.d truth is he doesn't wnt to get married to u jst flamzing xcuse.ma dear jst 4get him n dnt waste ur tyme on him cos wen u nter dt marriage ur life will b miserable..shikena
Listen dearie,that dude is nt ready and serious,he saw dat weave b4 he came for u,so y will he tell u he doesn't wnt them anymore,his being selfish ok..nd dts nt cul for a lifetime partner..or may b he can't afford money for Malaysian weaves..smh.
Hmmm natural things like being naked, me like, u know we were born without clothes. Mumu
This is serious! He met you with weaves, did he ever complain before it became a barrier to marriage?
Anyway, think you can try talking to him again, tell him you would carry more natural hair styles. Maybe his issue is actually that your weaves are to elaborate
no marriage should come with condition, true love endures all.
No marriage should come with condition,after all, trur loveendures all.
Haaaa, dis is crious ooo. Mayb u shld tell him dat. U will reduce d wigs & weaves. Abi ba wo
Hold on! Were you baring your natural hair when he met and toasted you? #storyforthegods
Ma dear keep d wig n loose d man or loose d wig n keep d man d choice is urss
Modupe
He should reach a compromise cos weave wearing is a culture that we were born into and grew up with, so he can't expect you to just drop it immediately. Its a gradual thing. Or at least let him let you use hair extensions for braids or something and fix weaves less freguently. If he won't then he is no good. I am sure he wouldn't like that ultimatum if he were the one in your shoes. Let him reach a compromise.
Same thing happened to kim Kardashian. Leave him, he is a controlling S.O.B. He met you with weave, he knew you liked weaves. If he wants someone with natural hair, he should date someone who carries only natural hair. Nonsense..
Pls my dear throw the weaves away. Am married to the most sweetest man on earth but he also doesn't like weaves or attachment either. We're happily married 2day and i've found cool ways to rock my natural hair.
Baba gal, runnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!
He is very stingy. Doesn't want to spend money on hair. Rubbish!
If he truly loves u,he should understand ur love for weaves and still marry u, true love overlooks a lot,give in now and u'l be giving a lot up later on after the marriage
Congratulations! So, what's the issue?
Why don't you compromise? Maybe he wants to be seeing his two flats on groundrrather than on your head.
Lol any man who refuses to propose because of such an irrelevant thing as a 'weave' is just making up flimzy excuses girl..whats the guarantee that he wont tell you something else when you end up marrying..He should love you for who you are!
who r u doing the hair for if not him,if u truly love him it shldnt b a big deal.is cool to b natural
You surely know what to do about it. I know you do. gistannie@yahoo.com.
Pls leave him. Tomo he will say u must tie only wrapper. This is a sign of insecurity and control.
u have to choose one,if u kn dat u still love him and u cnt let him go then u hav to do what he want.
were u on ur natural hair when he met or asked u out. if yes, then u gotta be careful cos ders no assurance that he wont come up with so many other things after getting marred.
Dis gal Neva serious. Weave vs marriage an deal breaker for you. Ok. Free dat guy abeg and carry on with your assorted Brazilian and Peruvian. You will find a man who doesn't want you to grow and will accept you and all your fakeries.
The weave is obviously a problem for your guy. He wants a woman who is natural and comfortable as God made her. You want to go on being fake and pleasing the outside world. Decisions decisions....
Women and vanity sha.
You can exist without them my dear. If your man loves you and thinks you are more beautiful like that, what more is there?
Check the one you love most and go for that. If you prefer the wig marry the wig, we are in a free world.
Is not a most that u most fix weavon u can go on low cut. what will u now say about men who don't want their wifes to put on make up
If this guy loves you,,weave or no weave he will propose.you too tell him that if he does not like your weave another man will appreciate you with or without the weave.the next thing he will tell you is to stop wearing make-up.you will now be looking like an SU
The man demands will have other demands in the future. If he cannot accept you for who you are and the things you love, please look for another fish as them plenty for sea.
LIB readers I alwys wish 2ask u questions,mostly ladies, most tins u do,Y do u do dem?d fashion,trousers,wigs,nails etcmany of u dat commented dt she shld follow her mind n do watever she wishes mostly aftr marriage NEVER plan 2njoy marriage but 2endure it.it seems most of u aint learning frm oda's mistake.to d question askd,young lady ur fashion is timely n if u wanna b a model to ur kids n family don't do wat he hates or else u'l b as old as ever while younger ladies ar gettin married every saturday.if u opted 4sm1 who liks wigs,watch out wat follow ur life after.if he doesn't love u,he won't hav told u 2stop.God even dint approve of wigs,trousers,various paints,fixin nails etc.he's only tryin 2make u a perfct woman for himself as he'l b d perfct man for U.
So why did you carry your hand to type. You for read and waka pass. Mschew. ......
Zip ur hole!!!
My thoughts exactly, let him enter any deeper life church pick wife marry nah, mtchww.
Hahahaha I wan laff die
He has said it all. RUN!! 2day is weaves, tomorrow it'll be trouser then who knows what next
Ive noticed that most black women abroad are going natural and i strongly approve of this. No more relaxers and weaves. I watched so many natural hair videos on youtube and also decided to take a plunge. Ecspecially after watching dt Chris Rock movie "good hair". Truly disgraceful. Straight weaves on black girls look irritating to me now. I dont think anyone should be forced though. Pple shld make dt decision themselves.
Bia, biko did bros miss road to deeper life or mfm, thats the daftest excuse i have ever heard when you stop the weave what other excuse would come up?
I agree... RUN
Gbam! Better comment.....Linda u refused to post my comment on this issue. Ngwa post this one
He is stingy all doesn't want to be spending money on weaves. Beware... tomorrow it may be ur clothes.
this should not be up 4 debate....HISSESSSSS
Lolzzzz....
eh hen.........But he saw u with it before he asked u out na......men sef
if u luv him accept his wsh cos oko won lode
my dear, please think properly. if u compromise this, get ready to compromise more in order to save your marriage. a man will love u and marry u weave or no weave. His treatin u like his doing u a favor marrying u when you should be treated like a princess. Dont let the world pressure you into getting married to the wrong man. #God help you
Giving a girl an ultimatum 4 marriage is so wrong, goes a long way 2 show d kind of person he is. Nofin wrong in stating ur does & don'ts, but at least he shldn't be authoritative about it.
COMPROMISE IS D WORD...Discuss it instead of dishing out rules & regulations. IS SHE UR MAID?? I so hate it wen men act like Lords.
Each man & his own. Wen my boo even tells me d weave dat fits me better dan d other. D bottom line, approach 2 issues matter alot, dis is so minute but yet can BREAK A HOME.
My dear, cut the hair if that would make him happy! You can look good on nautral style and besides, there are many stylish natural hairstyles around that can fill your taste. Good men are scarce ooo; if you think he is GOOD!!! All the best!
Leave the man o jaare,just a flimsy excuse not to marry you.Using your weakness against u isn't love.
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