Dear LIB readers: Is it wise to invest in my boyfriend's business?
From a female LIB reader
My boyfriend of three years is at the moment unemployed but he has shown
his desire to do something just to keep himself going. I am at the
moment thinking of investing my leave allowance (I work in a bank) into
his proposed business but I am skeptical on doing so as he hasn't popped
the question yet but we have talked about getting married. Would it be a
wise decision to invest in his business since we are just lovers or I
should wait until we get married?
Odeeeee Dnt invest o hian!! Some women sha, someone that aint even married to you, be wise U can lend him a little off that leave allowance to show ur support,
Don't even try it.Don't start what you can't finish.Allow him to hustle like his mates do,afterall his ego didn't even allow him to ask for help from you.I like his kinda person,don't spoil him!
Well,,, I think it is wise! You're dating him because you trust him, right? There's nothing wrong in that... Can't you invest in a friend's business that is not ur boyfriend??? Go on and invest... And if he has sense, he'll marry you but he can't propose marriage now when he's broke so assist him and chill.
Hi. Would you do this for a friend? If the answer is yes then I think you should go ahead. It's not all about 'what if he leaves?' Something we are in people's life for a reason. My take
It won't be wise to invest all you have into it. But my dear you can invest something to help him, even if he doesn't appreciate it tomorrow you leave him to God. Nevertheless, do it with a clean heart after all some married me even leave their wives in marriage so what are we talking about?
My Dear, wait until u guys are married. At least after the court wedding which can be any time before all the other weddings. Invest in a husband not a boyfriend.
Its a very dicey one dear, his reason of not proposing all these years might be because of his financial status. The only safer way to go about it,it to see it that you're investing in a friend. Don't expect too much. So you won't be disappointed.
Please don't try it, am talking Frm experience...invested more than 2.7million in my boyfrnd(now husband) he doesn't appreciate at all I cater for all my needs as I talk to u n he doesn't really care...we daated for 8 good years..pls don't am telling you...am nt talking to him now sef cos he has bin making me think and regret doing wat I did as I don't av a job and don't have money to travel n get goods like I used to cos I invested in him. Men are wicked o...soon he'll tell u it's for d benefit of u both n u shudnt be bothering him asking for ur money back...
Hehehehe!!! Pekele Pekele..Arugbo je gbese...ta ni o san!!! Babes! I'm not 'saying' u shldnt invest in ur bf's buisness! Buh hw abt if after all ur 'investments' ur whole thing wid him goes down the drain??! Would u nt refer back to the investment u made??! My Opinion: I feel you shld jus sit and relax, let him source for funds by himself and begin the buisness. And if he has begun already, show him all of the support u can. Just dnt put all ur cash into it yet.
It can be seen in two ways... First I'd say 'he'll no'. We know how boys can be... after suffering wit them, they'd just abandon u n get a new girl to enjoy with. Secondly, I'd say, just help him for the sake of love cos u don't know where he'd be tomorrow
The men and foolish women will ask you to support him. Make I tell you truth,separate your money from your relationship.na make he go hustle.he will dump you last last.and e go,pain you more because you invested.
I would suggest you help as because you love him not because you want him to marry you that way if anything happens you won't be disappointed. Better still u can enter a paper agreement with him that he is going to pay you back it doesn't matter if you guys are dating.
NO! 3 years no proposal? I don't think he is serious about you-don't let him use you. He might marry you if you invest but it will be because of the money.
Pls wait until u get married 2 him since u dnt wish 2 giv freely w/out attaching marriage in mind,anything can happen along d line n u ll be more heartbroken cos of d moni u gave out.
Ezeukwu, see me wey dey find investor since. If you want to, do it but register the biz in both but names, do two to sign, approve inventory and check sales. Also keep the original copies of the registration so if he needs to open another bank account you would know. This is coming from a man by the Way.
pls dnt dare.im in d same situation right nw.having being heartbroken before i borrowed my self double brain.i repeat DONT DARE!I wrk in one og the telecoms coy.my bf on saturday held a private discussion with me .he told me to invest in his business.i asked him as what please?we are not yet married so dont go there.my dear sister i wish i could see u face to face.tell him in your own words that you cant.dnt allow emotions blind u.Date with caution nd make sure u dnt loose him in d process.thank you.
I disagree totally.... He myt be an opportunist or you can agree if u guys meet a lawyer n sign some agreements.. Else, if dere's no legal backn ma dear, DNT
All i read was the title, don't know the story, don't care. What i do know? mixing business with anything doesn't ever work. Literally one in a billion. Business is business, money is money, mixing it with love and family or whatever hardly turns productive. My advice? its a BAD IDEA.
if u r going to invest in ur bfs business, u should get proper legally enforceable documentation done naming u as a shareholder or something, so ur money no go enter voicemail.. forget love... when he makes it, there's a probability that yu'l be thrown to d curb, and ur 'investment' will become 'dash'...unless of course ur ready to dash him d money... even with a husband sef... these days, u can never tell.. better safe than sorry...
SCAM! That's what broke asses are doing now, they prey on female bankers for their money and leave when they dry 'em up! Don't fall for that my BF crap!
First and foremost there is nothing wrong in doing that, buh the thing is that you need to be sure that this guy is ready to spend the rest of his life with you, because I know you wouldn't want to help this guy go reach and then later he'll dump you for another girl
Be Warned Babe na serious lie lie scam! I've heard soo many stories of female bankers falling for this, he shld aask his relatives or church and leave you! Be warned it's a lie!!!
my dear, which kind boyfriend? Thank God u said he has nt proposed, dont even think of doing dat at all. Men can be fools wen all is well with him he will dumb u and marry anoder.
Wow!! Nice 1,we'll 2 me is eida u help em as a nice person u are,or u get d dude sign a document,geting a refund or a percentage n d so call biz..am a dude but trust no 1babes cus I dnt tink u wana loose all round just saying@dino
why dont u make him pop the question by cajoling him into getting married to you, and his incentive i would say, would be that money you want to invest in him and afterwards when he bends to your will you go ahead and draw up your prenuptial agreement which should at least favor you slightly better than him in case of what we all know happens to females who have the cash in unions like this.that way you know he is bound legally by law to actually thread carefully. be sure to sign the agreement 30 days before the wedding n might i add that a legal representative should be present to witness it. #okimdone.... back to snooping
If you really do love him and you are 100% sure you can always provide food on the table without stress for your family, even when he may end up a total liability to you,....then wait for some time after you guys are married b4 investing....invest a percentage first to test his hustle and agility to be sure he is not lazy...lets say like 30% first.....b4 i 4get.....the reason why i said you should wait for some time after your marriage is to see if he will do something to provide without you coming into the picture. ....watch his actions cos frm there you will know weather you will be the bread winner for the rest of your life or for some time b4 he takes over or it will be a collaborate thing.
My dear, it's obvious ur giving him because of marriage so on dat ground I advise u shouldn't give him yet to avoid getting disappointed bt if u were giving jst because u love him n would love to see him prosper whether he eventually marries u or not den go ahead
My dear if u want to do so, do it without expecting anything in return. Tell urself am just doing this to help the poor and needy...outside that, pls keep ur money.
Hello Lady. This is a nice question as well as a nice gesture but I'm afraid it's not a good idea because he is a friend, not a business partner and not a husband. There's no legal bond and your relationship is not recognized. If he reneges on his part to acknowledge your contribution and -God forbid- the relationship fails before your marriage then all is lost. Invest that allowance in a business that is your own and when you marry while it is still alive you can bequeat it to him. Then you both are one flesh. Goodluck luck. My answer is 'NO'.
Hmmm, it's right if you want to, but hope you won't regret it, if eventually u guys don't end up husband and wife. So if u sincerely want to help out, do it for the sake of God and not coz u'll want something in return.
Love is blind but I dey see am for your eyes. Let him work and you should invest your money somewhere. Don't mix business with relationship. Wait till you are married.
U don't need to ask, bcos I knw he has giving u money ones or twice.did he seekany advice frm anybody b4 he did it? Give him money to start up something jare
My advice is u should follow your heart and give him d money. And don't make fuss about it like bringing a lawyer or relation in the deal. Just give d money to him lovingly but through a bank transfer. That way u have some evidence in case things turn sour. invest and hope for d best
If you truly want to help him, i'll suggest u do it for the sake of God and not coz u'll want something in return. Believing the fact dat, God forbid,if today u don't end up husband and wife, u won't regret the help you rendered.
wait till you get married else you will regret it like me.please trust me do not invest your money in his business because you will be greatly affect if you don't end up together.
Isn't life all about risk-taking? You could decide to NOT invest in him and he somehow gets someone else to do so and in his resentment gives you the boot. You could also decide to invest in him and after he makes it tomorrow he still gives you the boot. Now, this. You can decide to invest in him regardless of his having not yet popped the question and just because of that simple act of perceived trust and loyalty alone, he is forced to not only ask you to marry him but actually goes ahead to walk you down the aisle. Thereafter, with your combined team of hubby and wife, his business becomes so successful that you both live happily ever after with him granting interviews to Forbes and LIB that it was his wife's initial seed money that was the acorn that has turned into an oak. Think about it and thank me later.
common for the love of God, must u be married to him before u help him?? Are u happy seeing him unemployed? then again if the tables were turned, do u think he'll not help u just cos u guys aren't married yet? my dear, u've been dating someone for 3 years i think that's enough yardstick to invest in him, with or without marriage.
If he is your husband it is a different thing. If u think u have a future with him why not. If u are a true friend u will help not minding where the relationship leads.
Invitation to trouble because you will condition his mind to marry you and if he doesn't then you end up in bitterness of heart and he if he decides to marry you know for sure that you MUST always come to his aids because your action towards his financial wellbeing before marriage must always continue in marriage hence you breed trouble. Whatever you cannot continue in marriage dont start it in courtship. I am married hence speaking from experience. If you want to help him pls do but i bet you it is a greek gift for now.
No madam its nt a good idea use ur head biko,u cn help in oda ways bt nt by investing large sum of mony,cn u here ursef 3yrs and he asnt popped d que evn tho he ad a job,na ur mata sha,jst b wise
What money would he use to marry you? Since he is unemployed n penniless. Give him the money if it wouldn't dig a hole in your pocket or set u back from a goal. Just look at it from d angle that u r giving it to a dear friend or a charity give away.
What is your leave allowie compared to what you have invested already? 3 years and no talk of marriage? And you are thinking of leave allowie? Babe, you have got bigger issues than your leave allowance. Abeg let him put a RING on that finger!
Investor! Ordinary boyfriend that can vanish at any time na him you wan waste your sweat for? Instead of me to give boyfriend money I would gladly take the cash to a charity organization cos I know say a God go bless me rather than dash one undesirable ele mention call boyfriend,if he like make we don dey date since independence that doesn't equal marriage.Shikena.
Investor! Ordinary boyfriend that can vanish at any time na him you wan waste your sweat for? Instead of me to give boyfriend money I would gladly take the cash to a charity organization cos I know say a God go bless me rather than dash one undesirable ele mention call boyfriend,if he like make we don dey date since independence that doesn't equal marriage.Shikena.
R u doin it cos u want him 2 b beta or r u doin it cos u guys r datin? If he's ur frnd u shud help him out, weda u break up. Or not u'll Knw u helped som1 u once cared abt...Kay..!
You just have to decide if u can actually forgo d leave allowance. So think of it as a gift, that way if u guys do break up you wont feel too bad.
If u r waiting for marriage, what makes u think he wont ask for a divorce later. God forbid though.
My point is, if you love him and believe in him. Then do yours for God. A seed sown will definitely give fruits. Maybe not today and maybe not even from him but it will bear fruits one day.
Until we get married,his not even talking abt marriage,we re just lovers. My dear u better remove d marriage tingy 4rm ur head, If u want 2 help do it with a clear mind cuz men can't be trusted. Just do it 4 d lovers sake. If u don't av d guts 2 den don't. Allow him hustle by himself
Let's reverse d question. What if ur boyfriend ws working in a bank and u were jobless and need 2 start a business, would u want him 2 support you financially? Ur answer 2 dis question is d answer u seek 4 ur question.
It depends on the way u feel about him as a friend. dont invest cos hes ur bf or cos of marriage.
indeed only invest wat u can forfeit just incase the relationship goes sour. Also if investing, make sure u ar made a partner/stakeholder so you have a major say in what is done with your money depending on the percentage of your investment.
my dear, no be just leave allowance? I thought u wanted to say your life savings. Abeg, leave allowance na pocket change, esp where I work. Give the boy the cash. e no mean he will marry you o! But u cld just help a brother out. Unless u know say the guy na devil. And u are just deceiving yourself that he will do business with the money.
When you give to someone you shouldn't expect sth in return, that's selfless giving. Do not use money as a collateral for a marriage ticket. If you want to give because you see him as an act of kindness go ahead but if you're doind it because of marriage don't bother because you might end up getting dissappointed.
If you believe in it, help him, but make sure he signs a contract that he will pay your money back if the business venture succeeds or fail, and that you will own a certain percentage. I dont believe in lending anything without contract, words of the mouth change when it comes to money so i believe everything should be legally drawn out, especially when yall are not married. people are shady, especially a guy with aspirations.
No! Not wise at all. Fine, I don't know his character and his worth, but it's wise to hold on and invest in your husband, who has proposed and married you. Than invest in a man who can leave you without any obligations. Some men are not trusthworthy.
Whether now or when u get married. Get a lawyer. Draw up terms n conditions. If u r to b a part owner of d company/business or just an investor. No go dey do love oh n he will jonse u
I personally will not do dat again cause men can be funny my boyfriend whom I invested in has turned his back on me. I sensed some shady behaviour I acted broke cleared my account he knows now he claims busy can't come to see me anymore no more dates, or call. I went to his place d weekend he is with another woman. D good news is I didn't go all out spending all my money on him. My advice be wise wen u want to invest in a man wen he is not ur husband sm men re not worth d stress.
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Invest that money in yourself , improve and better your life with it, Boy friend isn't a guarantee that he won't dump you after he has made it, be smart be Wise
He doesn't have to pop the question for you to assist him. And if you eventually do assist him, then do it expecting nothing in return, not even marriage. But if you think marriage is a condition, then don't. I don't believe in helping people to get something in return. You never know if your own husband is somewhere in need too. Do it for God if you must and leave it! Expect nothing. If it comes, fine. If not your husband will still come, but you would have saved a soul.
Dont bankroll everything. Think of it as helping out a friend with the possibility of not being paid back. That should guide u on the amount to invest.
Babes, act courteously oo,husband dey leave wife not to talk of boyfrnd, u can give wat u know u wont regret at d end of d day,instead of giving all wit expactations at d back of ur mind. Be wise gal,
He shud pop d question first! N or beta wait til ya married! Men are evil, afta u help dem deyl look for betta pussy and squandaer ur hard earned money! Stingy fools.
lady go and die instead of this useless investment. HOW MUCH IS UR LEAVE ALLOWANCE that ur are boasting of. i pity the poor boy, he need to dump u immediately without wasting his time and energy. your too selfish for one to married. ur thinking of investing a peanut for the guy u call ur future husband. devil punish you.
Whether he marries u or not there's nothing wrong in helping a friend. Pls don't get it wrong you'r only assisting someone and not buying a husband. Ur leave allowance can't buy ur love dearie.
MY DEAR THIS IS BOY FRIEND MATTER NOT MARRIAGE I ADVICE U DONT SO THAT U WE NOT REGRET AM BECAUSE I HAVE SEE A VICTIM OF THIS BEFORE U INVEST WHEN U ARE SURE THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS STRAIGHT STRONG AN SINCERE AN WE LEAD TO MARRIAGE SIMPLE
MY DEAR THIS IS BOY FRIEND MATTER NOT MARRIAGE I ADVICE U DONT SO THAT U WE NOT REGRET AM BECAUSE I HAVE SEE A VICTIM OF THIS BEFORE U INVEST WHEN U ARE SURE THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS STRAIGHT STRONG AN SINCERE AN WE LEAD TO MARRIAGE SIMPLE
my dear, use ur tongue to count ur teeth... these dudes ain't loyal oo.. reassurance of marriage does not guarantee u a permanent place with him.. You should know exactly why u'r helping him.. if u can't remove marriage from the options then no need.. be wise..
Whether he marries u or not there's nothing wrong in helping a friend. Pls don't get it wrong you'r only assisting someone and not buying a husband. Ur leave allowance can't buy ur love dearie.
Be careful..Don't do what u will regret cos pple are bad..I once invited a gal..paid for her flight, according to her she had a bad phone..bought a phone for her as a surprise..But once she got alert she ran..Had to give my kid sis the phone..People are stupid...................................#KingOfKings
if u get married or not either way the business could be a flop and the funds will still be lost, all am trying to say is that you dont use your relationship as a yard stick, business is about making money, look into his ideas, if they sound viable to you, get a lawyer to draw up a legal document stating the amount of shares you will have in the company so incase he makes it big and he doesnt marry you, you'll still have controlling shares over the company so it will be a win win situation all d way p.s: incase he doesnt marry and the business is a hit, i will advise you allow him continue making money for him and dont let ur emotions lead you to sending him away from d company. business is business. cheers. BM
My dear,he's your boyfriend not husband.don't try that,you can be supportive with encouraging words,prayers and all.but keep your money out of it.boyfriends can be funny.
Invest in his business if you want to help him. It is dangerous to base your assistance on marriage. It will definitely lead to problems. If you want to assist and the proposal is good let him sign an agreement that he has collected money from you and that he will give you interest on money loaned.
You would be a monkey and a donkey to do that cos he would dump you for a smaller chick when he is done milking you dry. Tell him to bring 5 ppl from his family and 5 from your family to pay bride price first. If you commit to this you would keep giving him your salary cos no biz would fetch you an instant profit. You are on your own if you try it...... Women really have fish brains abeg. *Rolling my eyes and strolls away with a long dry hissssssss*
Lol boyfriend. That one no be husband! Keep your money till you both sign dotted line. If you do strong head and invest, make sure your name is on ALL legal docs with his. Make sure you have your own percentage so if things don't work out, it can be split. Even then, too much wahala so don't!
Nne pls wait don't invest yet, some of them are not trust worthy, you said you work in a bank, put the money in a fixed deposit account , when he Marry''s you, then invest. But if you invest now, I bet you, he will grow and use the money to chase another woman, be wise and use your brain.
My dear, if you love him enough... then invest and help him! we must not marry everyone we help and we must not help people because we hope to get something back! Just help him like a friend if you are led to!
Follow ur instinct....if u can afford to bear the loss or gain. Ure just like an entrepreneur in this situation and risk taking is the major factor of an entrepreneur...As for me, I cannot do it Cos once beaten fifty times shy...
I dont think there is anything bad in helping him if you sincerely love the guy. The mere fact that he is unemployed, and thereby could not even takes care of you as a girl friend is not something to be boast of. If at the end of the day it leads to marriage, fine.
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Dnt invest o hian!!
Some women sha, someone that aint even married to you, be wise
U can lend him a little off that leave allowance to show ur support,
Please kindly keep your money to your self...pray for his business doh.
Girl trust me you don't wanna do that. You can help him out with money to start but consider that as an act of love n nothing else
Since u r determined to marry him, it is not a bad idea if u invest in him..u r making d right decision. Hmconcept2000@gmail.com
Since u r determined to marry him, it is not a bad idea if u invest in him..u r making d right decision. Hmconcept2000@gmail.com
don't b too fast dearie...else u would be hrt broken if things dnt wrk out finally...veno.brightheart@ymail.com
Your Choice, for me it a NO
U can invest in his business professionally ...But dont invest in it as a love issue.......
Profession not Lovers.....
Please don't!!!
Don't even try it.Don't start what you can't finish.Allow him to hustle like his mates do,afterall his ego didn't even allow him to ask for help from you.I like his kinda person,don't spoil him!
Please don't!!!
*drags ear* Dnt bring out anything! Don't u have siblings to set up? Afi boyfriend. Lol na today? You will soooo regret
No Way!
Well,,, I think it is wise! You're dating him because you trust him, right? There's nothing wrong in that... Can't you invest in a friend's business that is not ur boyfriend??? Go on and invest... And if he has sense, he'll marry you but he can't propose marriage now when he's broke so assist him and chill.
@BOBO_EDO
Hi. Would you do this for a friend? If the answer is yes then I think you should go ahead. It's not all about 'what if he leaves?' Something we are in people's life for a reason. My take
It is ur moni,you cn help him...dnt regret it if he ends up wit another lady @Joyce
Go back 2 slip dear
Its nt wise. Talkin frm experience. Wld advice u gv him a token t add t whatever he has. Dat way,he wldnt b indepted t u n u to him. My advice.
It won't be wise to invest all you have into it. But my dear you can invest something to help him, even if he doesn't appreciate it tomorrow you leave him to God. Nevertheless, do it with a clean heart after all some married me even leave their wives in marriage so what are we talking about?
My Dear, wait until u guys are married. At least after the court wedding which can be any time before all the other weddings. Invest in a husband not a boyfriend.
Its a very dicey one dear, his reason of not proposing all these years might be because of his financial status.
The only safer way to go about it,it to see it that you're investing in a friend. Don't expect too much. So you won't be disappointed.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
The fact that u asked means you shouldn't.
My dear, pls wait till ur married, @least u knw ur his wife, Girlfriend no get insurance ooooooooooo.
Please don't try it, am talking Frm experience...invested more than 2.7million in my boyfrnd(now husband) he doesn't appreciate at all I cater for all my needs as I talk to u n he doesn't really care...we daated for 8 good years..pls don't am telling you...am nt talking to him now sef cos he has bin making me think and regret doing wat I did as I don't av a job and don't have money to travel n get goods like I used to cos I invested in him. Men are wicked o...soon he'll tell u it's for d benefit of u both n u shudnt be bothering him asking for ur money back...
From Tejumoluwa!
Hehehehe!!! Pekele Pekele..Arugbo je gbese...ta ni o san!!! Babes! I'm not 'saying' u shldnt invest in ur bf's buisness! Buh hw abt if after all ur 'investments' ur whole thing wid him goes down the drain??! Would u nt refer back to the investment u made??! My Opinion: I feel you shld jus sit and relax, let him source for funds by himself and begin the buisness. And if he has begun already, show him all of the support u can. Just dnt put all ur cash into it yet.
It can be seen in two ways...
First I'd say 'he'll no'. We know how boys can be... after suffering wit them, they'd just abandon u n get a new girl to enjoy with.
Secondly, I'd say, just help him for the sake of love cos u don't know where he'd be tomorrow
Just follow your heart!!
if you love him and trust him, theres nothing in it. but u have to know all there is to know about him.
Don't try it,just give him as a gift. Don't give it bcos u want him to marry u biko.
You berra dnt try it! Whatever happened to investing in ur own bizness? Ppl change at anytime ooo so take heed of these words!!
The men and foolish women will ask you to support him.
Make I tell you truth,separate your money from your relationship.na make he go hustle.he will dump you last last.and e go,pain you more because you invested.
That's how men are.hian!!!!
Its 50/50 chance,I will advise you to invest half of the amount u have in mind....incase tins change.....
I won't advise you to.....if you two are married,it would still be advisable for u too.Think wise
I would suggest you help as because you love him not because you want him to marry you that way if anything happens you won't be disappointed. Better still u can enter a paper agreement with him that he is going to pay you back it doesn't matter if you guys are dating.
NO! 3 years no proposal? I don't think he is serious about you-don't let him use you. He might marry you if you invest but it will be because of the money.
I wouldn't advice you to risk it. Please wait until you guys get married.
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Don't even dare think about that.
Pls wait until u get married 2 him since u dnt wish 2 giv freely w/out attaching marriage in mind,anything can happen along d line n u ll be more heartbroken cos of d moni u gave out.
Boyfriend hmmmmmmm I don't think is OK oo he should sort for fund from his relative that way u get any thing to lose if does not marry u.
you can....
Ezeukwu, see me wey dey find investor since. If you want to, do it but register the biz in both but names, do two to sign, approve inventory and check sales. Also keep the original copies of the registration so if he needs to open another bank account you would know. This is coming from a man by the Way.
pls dnt dare.im in d same situation right nw.having being heartbroken before i borrowed my self double brain.i repeat DONT DARE!I wrk in one og the telecoms coy.my bf on saturday held a private discussion with me .he told me to invest in his business.i asked him as what please?we are not yet married so dont go there.my dear sister i wish i could see u face to face.tell him in your own words that you cant.dnt allow emotions blind u.Date with caution nd make sure u dnt loose him in d process.thank you.
Nooooooooooooooooooooo.
My dear,dont even try it,give woteva u can part with,dont even borrow him
Just help him wit d little u can bt try 2 av ur own personal savings as well becos of unforseen circumstances dear.
Don't evn try it. Are u a learner??? He shld luk for where to borrow n start up his biz if he's serious.
I disagree totally.... He myt be an opportunist or you can agree if u guys meet a lawyer n sign some agreements.. Else, if dere's no legal backn ma dear, DNT
Don't act like a fool,wait till he marries you and be sur the kind of business he wants to venture in.
Faceoflib
Nothing wrong in helping a lover!
All i read was the title, don't know the story, don't care. What i do know? mixing business with anything doesn't ever work. Literally one in a billion. Business is business, money is money, mixing it with love and family or whatever hardly turns productive. My advice? its a BAD IDEA.
What if he doesn't get a job till you guys get married? It's a 50-50 risk. Analyse the situation and make an informed decision. Best of luck!
Wait until you get married to him
if u r going to invest in ur bfs business, u should get proper legally enforceable documentation done naming u as a shareholder or something, so ur money no go enter voicemail.. forget love... when he makes it, there's a probability that yu'l be thrown to d curb, and ur 'investment' will become 'dash'...unless of course ur ready to dash him d money... even with a husband sef... these days, u can never tell.. better safe than sorry...
Sure, but go to a lawyer to draw you a partnership agreement, that protects u even if u guys break up.
It's not wise. Use your head madam. Get him to marry you first...idiot!
It's a fucking scam, DONT DO IT!
If u really love him do so nah (eleyele1@yhoo.com)
Wait until he get married to u
SCAM! That's what broke asses are doing now, they prey on female bankers for their money and leave when they dry 'em up! Don't fall for that my BF crap!
First and foremost there is nothing wrong in doing that, buh the thing is that you need to be sure that this guy is ready to spend the rest of his life with you, because I know you wouldn't want to help this guy go reach and then later he'll dump you for another girl
Be Warned Babe na serious lie lie scam! I've heard soo many stories of female bankers falling for this, he shld aask his relatives or church and leave you! Be warned it's a lie!!!
Dearest LIB visitor, in my own opinion, its a capital NO.
I am talking from experience
I would say you make it a loan.
Scam! That's the new yahoo yahoo o! No gree part with ya money, which mumu BF? HIAN!
my dear, which kind boyfriend? Thank God u said he has nt proposed, dont even think of doing dat at all. Men can be fools wen all is well with him he will dumb u and marry anoder.
Wow!! Nice 1,we'll 2 me is eida u help em as a nice person u are,or u get d dude sign a document,geting a refund or a percentage n d so call biz..am a dude but trust no 1babes cus I dnt tink u wana loose all round just saying@dino
wait ooooooooo untill u call wife sis
why dont u make him pop the question by cajoling him into getting married to you, and his incentive i would say, would be that money you want to invest in him and afterwards when he bends to your will you go ahead and draw up your prenuptial agreement which should at least favor you slightly better than him in case of what we all know happens to females who have the cash in unions like this.that way you know he is bound legally by law to actually thread carefully. be sure to sign the agreement 30 days before the wedding n might i add that a legal representative should be present to witness it. #okimdone.... back to snooping
If you really do love him and you are 100% sure you can always provide food on the table without stress for your family, even when he may end up a total liability to you,....then wait for some time after you guys are married b4 investing....invest a percentage first to test his hustle and agility to be sure he is not lazy...lets say like 30% first.....b4 i 4get.....the reason why i said you should wait for some time after your marriage is to see if he will do something to provide without you coming into the picture. ....watch his actions cos frm there you will know weather you will be the bread winner for the rest of your life or for some time b4 he takes over or it will be a collaborate thing.
My dear, it's obvious ur giving him because of marriage so on dat ground I advise u shouldn't give him yet to avoid getting disappointed bt if u were giving jst because u love him n would love to see him prosper whether he eventually marries u or not den go ahead
Better wait till you are married! This is coming from a guy. However, if hes proven his loyalty to you over the years then i would say ....why not?
My dear if u want to do so, do it without expecting anything in return. Tell urself am just doing this to help the poor and needy...outside that, pls keep ur money.
Hello Lady. This is a nice question as well as a nice gesture but I'm afraid it's not a good idea because he is a friend, not a business partner and not a husband. There's no legal bond and your relationship is not recognized. If he reneges on his part to acknowledge your contribution and -God forbid- the relationship fails before your marriage then all is lost. Invest that allowance in a business that is your own and when you marry while it is still alive you can bequeat it to him. Then you both are one flesh. Goodluck luck. My answer is 'NO'.
Pls wait till u get married before doing that men can be so ............
Hmmm, it's right if you want to, but hope you won't regret it, if eventually u guys don't end up husband and wife. So if u sincerely want to help out, do it for the sake of God and not coz u'll want something in return.
pray for the best and expect the worse...
Hian! Queshun! Oya make unu ansa!
Love is blind but I dey see am for your eyes. Let him work and you should invest your money somewhere. Don't mix business with relationship. Wait till you are married.
if u want to help him do that.. not cos u expect something in return. thats love.
mili
U don't need to ask, bcos I knw he has giving u money ones or twice.did he seekany advice frm anybody b4 he did it? Give him money to start up something jare
Isn't a big deal to invest in your man business so far both off you are agree to marry
Let him get committed 1st before committing urslf. Men are wicked
Invest in husband's business nt ur boyfriend…#iwotago
My advice is u should follow your heart and give him d money. And don't make fuss about it like bringing a lawyer or relation in the deal. Just give d money to him lovingly but through a bank transfer. That way u have some evidence in case things turn sour. invest and hope for d best
Its aint right baby..he isn't ur hubby now..be wise
Its nt wise to invest in ur boyfrnd's business.....
No no no no no no it is not wise it is never wise no no nd no again
Don't invest on him loan him and ensure the loan has legal backing..
If you truly want to help him, i'll suggest u do it for the sake of God and not coz u'll want something in return. Believing the fact dat, God forbid,if today u don't end up husband and wife, u won't regret the help you rendered.
If you trust im. ......nd u love each other. .....
then you can go ahead
My dear,you should not have double minds/skeptical when it comes to helpin' out someone you truely love
dats a very silly questn!!!! y shd u invest in ur BF business wen he is not ur hubby??? ooh pls shine ur eye well!!!!!
wait till you get married else you will regret it like me.please trust me do not invest your money in his business because you will be greatly affect if you don't end up together.
Isn't life all about risk-taking? You could decide to NOT invest in him and he somehow gets someone else to do so and in his resentment gives you the boot. You could also decide to invest in him and after he makes it tomorrow he still gives you the boot. Now, this. You can decide to invest in him regardless of his having not yet popped the question and just because of that simple act of perceived trust and loyalty alone, he is forced to not only ask you to marry him but actually goes ahead to walk you down the aisle. Thereafter, with your combined team of hubby and wife, his business becomes so successful that you both live happily ever after with him granting interviews to Forbes and LIB that it was his wife's initial seed money that was the acorn that has turned into an oak. Think about it and thank me later.
Don't you DARE it.you will regret it if you do.
Nothing bad in it,remember givers never lack
common for the love of God, must u be married to him before u help him?? Are u happy seeing him unemployed? then again if the tables were turned, do u think he'll not help u just cos u guys aren't married yet? my dear, u've been dating someone for 3 years i think that's enough yardstick to invest in him, with or without marriage.
Wait till I get married! Not even engagement. Married!. Let him keep hussling till den.
Wait o, he could be dating u just because u are employed unless u just want to do it as charity with no strings attached. Men are wicked o
If he is your husband it is a different thing. If u think u have a future with him why not. If u are a true friend u will help not minding where the relationship leads.
Invitation to trouble because you will condition his mind to marry you and if he doesn't then you end up in bitterness of heart and he if he decides to marry you know for sure that you MUST always come to his aids because your action towards his financial wellbeing before marriage must always continue in marriage hence you breed trouble. Whatever you cannot continue in marriage dont start it in courtship. I am married hence speaking from experience. If you want to help him pls do but i bet you it is a greek gift for now.
Follow ur mind and expect nothing from no one. If u want to help him do it for God's sake and expect ur reward from God.
If you love him without any ill feeling or paranoia...go ahead.
Fortunedexcel______________
Not just that you are not married,he hasn't formally proposed to you so you are just a girlfriend. My dear its a big NO from me.
pls. pay it into my account I will surely marry u cos Jonathan don take hunger injure people for Nija
Well!!! I would advice you keep ur money and support him as ur boyfriend. ... u never know what might happen tomorrow
Pls wait till u're married to him
Pls wait until you are married
Please invest. Don't relent
My advice for dear is wait until both of u are finally married cos men are unpredictable.May God lead u.
You could invest,but not as a girlfriend but as an investor who would want to make profit. There should be signed documents and all.. My opinion.
If he is a gud person help him without minding whether he is going to marry u or not
No madam its nt a good idea use ur head biko,u cn help in oda ways bt nt by investing large sum of mony,cn u here ursef 3yrs and he asnt popped d que evn tho he ad a job,na ur mata sha,jst b wise
My dear is beta u wait ooo! Even if u get married gan i'll only advice U 2 do it 4 d'sake of ya children
Pls wait till you re married.
NEVER TRY THAT
NEVER TRY THAT
boyfriend u say,nt husband ,think wise
yes dear u can,not all guys av bad minds just give him a try
As a bofriend, its a NO NO. Bt if he were ur husband, maybe a yes
What money would he use to marry you? Since he is unemployed n penniless. Give him the money if it wouldn't dig a hole in your pocket or set u back from a goal. Just look at it from d angle that u r giving it to a dear friend or a charity give away.
What is your leave allowie compared to what you have invested already? 3 years and no talk of marriage? And you are thinking of leave allowie? Babe, you have got bigger issues than your leave allowance. Abeg let him put a RING on that finger!
Strictly on your own
if you think the relationship is long term, feel free! if not, keep your damn money!
wait until you guys get married. kos now u kant say u really knws him too well.
Investor! Ordinary boyfriend that can vanish at any time na him you wan waste your sweat for? Instead of me to give boyfriend money I would gladly take the cash to a charity organization cos I know say a God go bless me rather than dash one undesirable ele mention call boyfriend,if he like make we don dey date since independence that doesn't equal marriage.Shikena.
Investor! Ordinary boyfriend that can vanish at any time na him you wan waste your sweat for? Instead of me to give boyfriend money I would gladly take the cash to a charity organization cos I know say a God go bless me rather than dash one undesirable ele mention call boyfriend,if he like make we don dey date since independence that doesn't equal marriage.Shikena.
Yep sure if you knw the bizz is going to boom buh just sayin though...olubukola daniels aka blackmamba...
Haa! Won fe gba e nii oo. Wait till u Married oo
R u doin it cos u want him 2 b beta or r u doin it cos u guys r datin? If he's ur frnd u shud help him out, weda u break up. Or not u'll Knw u helped som1 u once cared abt...Kay..!
Wait oo my sister except you r ready to do charity.
I advice u pray over it dear,he might turn out 2 b Mr. wrong!
Biko wait oh
Don't do it o..... Anytin can happen at any tym.
Hmm, tough one.
You just have to decide if u can actually forgo d leave allowance. So think of it as a gift, that way if u guys do break up you wont feel too bad.
If u r waiting for marriage, what makes u think he wont ask for a divorce later. God forbid though.
My point is, if you love him and believe in him. Then do yours for God. A seed sown will definitely give fruits. Maybe not today and maybe not even from him but it will bear fruits one day.
Cheers
Until we get married,his not even talking abt marriage,we re just lovers.
My dear u better remove d marriage tingy 4rm ur head, If u want 2 help do it with a clear mind cuz men can't be trusted. Just do it 4 d lovers sake. If u don't av d guts 2 den don't. Allow him hustle by himself
Linda tell her the answer is capital NOOOOO. she should not try what she cannot finish woooh! say wetin happen na?
Women will never learn smh, U had better not o.
Wait oo my sister except if you are ready to do charity. But u knw him better n u did sound confident of ur relationship
Let's reverse d question. What if ur boyfriend ws working in a bank and u were jobless and need 2 start a business, would u want him 2 support you financially? Ur answer 2 dis question is d answer u seek 4 ur question.
You will be a big fool if you do that now. Wait till after marriage
It depends on the way u feel about him as a friend. dont invest cos hes ur bf or cos of marriage.
indeed only invest wat u can forfeit just incase the relationship goes sour. Also if investing, make sure u ar made a partner/stakeholder so you have a major say in what is done with your money depending on the percentage of your investment.
my dear, no be just leave allowance? I thought u wanted to say your life savings. Abeg, leave allowance na pocket change, esp where I work. Give the boy the cash. e no mean he will marry you o! But u cld just help a brother out. Unless u know say the guy na devil. And u are just deceiving yourself that he will do business with the money.
When you give to someone you shouldn't expect sth in return, that's selfless giving. Do not use money as a collateral for a marriage ticket. If you want to give because you see him as an act of kindness go ahead but if you're doind it because of marriage don't bother because you might end up getting dissappointed.
If you believe in it, help him, but make sure he signs a contract that he will pay your money back if the business venture succeeds or fail, and that you will own a certain percentage. I dont believe in lending anything without contract, words of the mouth change when it comes to money so i believe everything should be legally drawn out, especially when yall are not married. people are shady, especially a guy with aspirations.
Abeg
Invest in it but if u guys relationship don't workout in the other way, pls don't inform me Maga!
BORN TO SHINE!!!
No! Not wise at all. Fine, I don't know his character and his worth, but it's wise to hold on and invest in your husband, who has proposed and married you. Than invest in a man who can leave you without any obligations. Some men are not trusthworthy.
Whether now or when u get married. Get a lawyer. Draw up terms n conditions. If u r to b a part owner of d company/business or just an investor. No go dey do love oh n he will jonse u
I personally will not do dat again cause men can be funny my boyfriend whom I invested in has turned his back on me. I sensed some shady behaviour I acted broke cleared my account he knows now he claims busy can't come to see me anymore no more dates, or call. I went to his place d weekend he is with another woman. D good news is I didn't go all out spending all my money on him. My advice be wise wen u want to invest in a man wen he is not ur husband sm men re not worth d stress.
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Pls who knows how I can get a nanny here in Lagos
Can someone help me with an agent number that can help me organise one
Or any person interested to work.
Preferably someone that stays around the island
Thanks
Its as simple as ABC. WAIT ! WAIT!! WAIT !!!. A patient dog eats the fatest bone.
Yes wait.
Invest that money in yourself , improve and better your life with it, Boy friend isn't a guarantee that he won't dump you after he has made it, be smart be Wise
He doesn't have to pop the question for you to assist him. And if you eventually do assist him, then do it expecting nothing in return, not even marriage. But if you think marriage is a condition, then don't. I don't believe in helping people to get something in return. You never know if your own husband is somewhere in need too. Do it for God if you must and leave it! Expect nothing. If it comes, fine. If not your husband will still come, but you would have saved a soul.
Dont bankroll everything. Think of it as helping out a friend with the possibility of not being paid back. That should guide u on the amount to invest.
Good Or bad
Boyfriend??? Its foolish.
Babes, act courteously oo,husband dey leave wife not to talk of boyfrnd, u can give wat u know u wont regret at d end of d day,instead of giving all wit expactations at d back of ur mind. Be wise gal,
He shud pop d question first!
N or beta wait til ya married!
Men are evil, afta u help dem deyl look for betta pussy and squandaer ur hard earned money!
Stingy fools.
To be on the safe side,lend him the money.Whether both of u get married or not,u would still get your money back.
whatever he's going to do with u for now. your effort and contribution matters allot .just give him a trial and believe in him and GOD mostly.
lady go and die instead of this useless investment. HOW MUCH IS UR LEAVE ALLOWANCE that ur are boasting of. i pity the poor boy, he need to dump u immediately without wasting his time and energy. your too selfish for one to married. ur thinking of investing a peanut for the guy u call ur future husband. devil punish you.
whatever he's going to do with u for now. your effort and contribution matters allot .just give him a trial and believe in him and GOD mostly.
You know him best. So you should make that decision on your own. You should invest if you fully trust him and not invest if you're having doubts.
You know the answer to your question already y seek for advice
Do not, unless it's an amount you can let go off. Just in case it doesn't go as planned. God Bless.
Hawwy
Whether he marries u or not there's nothing wrong in helping a friend. Pls don't get it wrong you'r only assisting someone and not buying a husband. Ur leave allowance can't buy ur love dearie.
MY DEAR THIS IS BOY FRIEND MATTER NOT MARRIAGE I ADVICE U DONT SO THAT U WE NOT REGRET AM BECAUSE I HAVE SEE A VICTIM OF THIS BEFORE U INVEST WHEN U ARE SURE THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS STRAIGHT STRONG AN SINCERE AN WE LEAD TO MARRIAGE SIMPLE
MY DEAR THIS IS BOY FRIEND MATTER NOT MARRIAGE I ADVICE U DONT SO THAT U WE NOT REGRET AM BECAUSE I HAVE SEE A VICTIM OF THIS BEFORE U INVEST WHEN U ARE SURE THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS STRAIGHT STRONG AN SINCERE AN WE LEAD TO MARRIAGE SIMPLE
my dear, use ur tongue to count ur teeth... these dudes ain't loyal oo.. reassurance of marriage does not guarantee u a permanent place with him.. You should know exactly why u'r helping him.. if u can't remove marriage from the options then no need.. be wise..
U can but jst see it as charity, dnt expect too mch so if it doesnt go well,fine nd if it does,better......
Whether he marries u or not there's nothing wrong in helping a friend. Pls don't get it wrong you'r only assisting someone and not buying a husband. Ur leave allowance can't buy ur love dearie.
Do not invest in him since he is not your husband yet. Men are callous and he may throw you over if something better comes along.
Make ur choice if u trust him....
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y not u can help him even if he does not marry u nobody knows tomoro he might be in a better position to help u in future!
if you want to help,then go ahead and stop calculating rubbish.if he doesn't marry you,God would compensate you.
Be careful..Don't do what u will regret cos pple are bad..I once invited a gal..paid for her flight, according to her she had a bad phone..bought a phone for her as a surprise..But once she got alert she ran..Had to give my kid sis the phone..People are stupid...................................#KingOfKings
if u get married or not either way the business could be a flop and the funds will still be lost, all am trying to say is that you dont use your relationship as a yard stick, business is about making money, look into his ideas, if they sound viable to you, get a lawyer to draw up a legal document stating the amount of shares you will have in the company so incase he makes it big and he doesnt marry you, you'll still have controlling shares over the company so it will be a win win situation all d way
p.s: incase he doesnt marry and the business is a hit, i will advise you allow him continue making money for him and dont let ur emotions lead you to sending him away from d company. business is business. cheers. BM
My dear,he's your boyfriend not husband.don't try that,you can be supportive with encouraging words,prayers and all.but keep your money out of it.boyfriends can be funny.
you musnt wait for him to pop d questn bfr u hlp him....if u love n wnt to mk him api n u av d means to...do it
nooooooooooo try am ooooooh bad idea, friendship nd moni dont mix
Invest in his business if you want to help him. It is dangerous to base your assistance on marriage. It will definitely lead to problems. If you want to assist and the proposal is good let him sign an agreement that he has collected money from you and that he will give you interest on money loaned.
men r bastards including my father,so nope don't invest cos u will regret it
Savannah
U better wait o or e go over u
Invest some where else, be wise my dear. Rozay talking
wait till u get married o or at least till he proposes..dont be a Jasco!!!
You would be a monkey and a donkey to do that cos he would dump you for a smaller chick when he is done milking you dry. Tell him to bring 5 ppl from his family and 5 from your family to pay bride price first. If you commit to this you would keep giving him your salary cos no biz would fetch you an instant profit. You are on your own if you try it...... Women really have fish brains abeg. *Rolling my eyes and strolls away with a long dry hissssssss*
Lol boyfriend.
That one no be husband!
Keep your money till you both sign dotted line.
If you do strong head and invest, make sure your name is on ALL legal docs with his. Make sure you have your own percentage so if things don't work out, it can be split. Even then, too much wahala so don't!
Nne pls wait don't invest yet, some of them are not trust worthy, you said you work in a bank, put the money in a fixed deposit account , when he Marry''s you, then invest. But if you invest now, I bet you, he will grow and use the money to chase another woman, be wise and use your brain.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Only God fit advise yu nw shah.....
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My dear, if you love him enough... then invest and help him! we must not marry everyone we help and we must not help people because we hope to get something back! Just help him like a friend if you are led to!
u r in a long thingsss dear(meemee).
Follow ur instinct....if u can afford to bear the loss or gain. Ure just like an entrepreneur in this situation and risk taking is the major factor of an entrepreneur...As for me, I cannot do it Cos once beaten fifty times shy...
waiting till you guys get married is kinda wrong, you said he is unemployed right? so how would he generate funds for marriage?
Hold your money dear until marriage.
Wait oo. Men are not to be trusted, period. Linda ngwa swallow this my comment as usual
I dont think there is anything bad in helping him if you sincerely love the guy. The mere fact that he is unemployed, and thereby could not even takes care of you as a girl friend is not something to be boast of. If at the end of the day it leads to marriage, fine.
dont even try it, cos his pple will call u a runs gal n he will go n marry a starter gal when he wnt to marry(meemee).
waiting till gou guys get married is not so good an idea. you said he is unemployed right? how do you expect him to generate funds for marriage ?
Just help him, don't expect him to marry you but if he want marriage Better
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