Dear LIB readers: Is it wise to invest in my boyfriend's business?
From a female LIB reader
My boyfriend of three years is at the moment unemployed but he has shown
his desire to do something just to keep himself going. I am at the
moment thinking of investing my leave allowance (I work in a bank) into
his proposed business but I am skeptical on doing so as he hasn't popped
the question yet but we have talked about getting married. Would it be a
wise decision to invest in his business since we are just lovers or I
should wait until we get married?
Well your leave allowance should be 2/3 of your basic salary besides other allowances...it can never be more than 50000-100000k since you work in a bank unless you are an SBO upward. u can take the risk if you love and believe in him....who knows,it might make him appreciate you more.*money tripples love....in Rick Ross voice,huh!
My dear for the fact that you are asking, shows that you should wait. don't give your money to a man who have not married you. You will be glad you didn't give him the money.
You can give paltry sum as a girlfriend. It's sensible to wait till u are married before u start INVESTING ur hard earned cash in a MAN. Even if he pops d question and gives ring dont let it pass little amount
Its Ur choice lady, U can invest in Him if U know He loves U truly...fall in love, buh take Ur brain along...Pple can fake love & to get wat they want, & He might truly love U......Ur in d best position to know if He truly does.....LOVE WIT UR BRAIN WOMAN + WE MEN CAN ACT UP
DONT INVEST! DONT MAKE THAT MISTAKE! You can only try that with your husband. Not until he decides to tak u to the alter even if u re d one payin 4 d expenses dont try investin in his business. Am speakin from experience.
my advise don't invest your funds be sure of his plans for u before u do that he is just your bf and not your husband yet we have seen situations like this where things later got messy so my dear be sure of what u are doing before u start investing in any man.
Men can be funny,if for 3yrs now you guys are still on boyfriend,girlfriend thing?then it worth thinking about. I will suggest if you have to help him,(u should knw him better)do half of the leave allowance,and put it to him that you helped him to borrow it. Then sit back,pray and watch. Good luck
My Dear if you don't have a stake in his life you wont a say. I suggest you invest in him now so he can be strong enough (financially) to pop the question. And try not to do it with a biased mind, not all men are bad. Some of us still do have a heart and are willing to love our women. My Wife would do same if in the same shoes and she will do it without thinking twice and i assure you she will never regret it whether it goes bad or not.
u know him better, if u sure he would use d money wisely and not squander it, why not? but please don't tell him u investing it, tell him u borrowing it and make a realistic plan how he pay back. borrowed my .fiance 500k to start a business, and he paid me back 100k monthly, he has finished paying d debt, the business doing fine that am on monthly allowance self and i feel good when he gisting with people and he tells them if not for me, he would not have started d business.but my dear never say it or rub it in his face oh,let him be d one doing the praising.
Tufiakwa! Don't u dare try it! If u wnt to help him, forget the fact that he is ur boyfriend nd help him, and by so doing even if he quits u tomorrow, he will see ur good heart and pay u back.
The question is how well do yhu think you know him, I mean, how serious is he abt the marriage talk. Truth is Men change jst like cameleon and u wudnt wanna do smthing dat wud lev u regreting @ d long run. I'd advice u wait till after marriage!
If you are skeptical about the longevity of the relationship or his commitment to you, then sign an agreement which will make it a loan, you can even include interest as a payback term.
Done be stupid oooo I pity you, even you r engaged the man might still do worse things tacklers of when he hasn't popped the question.. Save your money for yourself and your future family.... BE WISE
Lol... if you feel you can do it without any regret whether you guys marry or not, then you can. But if you wanna do it to capture his heart to marry you afterwards then you are sitting on a long thing #onelovefromSnow#
My dear be wise, don't even try it. Let him hustle for his money and when the biz has kicked off with a sure view of success u can invest some amount. Also make the kind of amount u re investing is the one you can easily for go cos my dear men are funny. May we not labour and someone else eat the fruit.
Nope not wise at all. Infact it's a very silly idea. You can support him physically and mentally but not necessarily financially except of course u have a lot to dispose off. He's ur bf not husband. Boyfriends come and go. Men are extremely unreliable and insensitive. U cud invest and he won't end up marrying u. On the other hand u can invest as a business partner and involve a lawyer and do the apopraite business plan so you have ur documents to prove ur shares.
As a man,i will advise u,if you want to help him using your church mind,thats just free-will,you can go ahead,but if its based on marriage proposal or to your own advantage in future,my dear sister,dont do it..Men re unpredictable.He might change tommorow and say he is no longer interested,what will you do by then?So use your brain.
Don't try it. If you want to dash him money fine. But if you invest, expecting something in return you'll sleep on Nepa pole. A friend of mine took loan from the bank she works for her douche bag bf. Dude started biz and went back to his ex.
I invested in my boyfriend's business many years ago and now we are married with kids. But I understood where the relationship was headed at the time so it wasn't a difficult decision to make, though he had not proposed then either. So just pray, be ready to face the consequences whatever it may be and follow your heart.
Hmm! I'll advice you wait ooo. He can leave you once he gets established.. Second advice, you can also help him out. If you see that he needs help and you have more than enough to invest, then do it....Third advice, you can lend him the money and tell him to pay back once he is financially bouyant again; if you cnt tell him d money you are lending to him is yours, then tell him you borrowed so he ll pay back.
...A coin is always two sided! Well, I find this difficult to answer but I feel if you wish to invest in his business, see it as a gift i.e. something out of your freewill and you not expecting anything in return tomorrow, so when it doesn't turn out as you expect, you won't hang yourself. Be wise when giving too. Or if your mind no gree you, Biko! fa ra ba le ooo! no be Must.
Assumin he has a Job and doin wel, wil he stil b by ur side? D humility of a poor man can't b trusted my dear. I hav loan my guy money b4 cos I knw he has d capability of payin me bck, and he did after 3months wit 15% interest. So babe wise up
Allow him struggle and make it 1st before you agree to marry him...never marry a jobless man.. life has changed,people hardly rmbr the good dt was done to them..you know the true character of a made when he has money... so my advice is that you hold your money to yourself jeh jeh.. men are not it anymore!
Even if he has popped d question, its still not a good idea. Playing games with ur heart is bad enough. Pls do not add ur money, so that if eventually he breaks ur heart u will not loose both ways. U ONLY KNOW IF HE REALLY LOVES U WHEN HE IS BETTER OFF NOT NOW...
You should support him if you love him....It shouldn't be about wether he pops the question unless you have reasons to doubt him? It could also be a business arrangement or investment for you, that way it's easier to give freely knowing fully well there is a risk of not getting the money back or getting even more....
My dear don't try it ooo. If u want to help him just for the sake of God then go ahead but if u want to give him the money because u think he will marry u then pls dont. No man is to be trusted. If u start giving him to keep him, then u will continue to give him to sustain him in your life. Be wise
Hypocrite ! Look at your boyfriend as a human being . If he's worthy of help , do it out of good will . If not, stfu and live your life . Are u asking us weather u should bribe him to marry you?
Hmmmmmmm,if u really love him,u shouldn't think twice about investing,even if u are not sure of him staying with u tomorrow,...but if u feel his not d type dat manages an income,please keep ur money,console and cry with him in his pain.
Wait oh men this days after investing and they become something they leave u for a younger and fresher babe so kip your money wen u get married u can invest...
You can invest but do it professionally, with drafted agreements, exit clauses, and decide weather you are investing as debt or equity. If and when you get married, you could change the terms. Since you co-own then
baby girl dont try it......this story can not be over emphasized...we all know what happens after...he gonna leave yo ass and you gonna be sorry n full of regret....
Hmmmm!!!!Odikwa ferry ferry RISKY.don't try it gurl,wait till he pops and after popping sef,please be wise oooooooo,don't invest all,just half will do Thank me later
Relationship is all about trust and believe if u trust him and u knw at the end of the day u can leave without asking back the money if he did nt marry u.u can take the risk cos love is a risk.
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If I were you, I will not. I suggest you support him in a little way that you will not regret if marriage didn't work out between two of you. If he is serious with you,start talking about marriage and be ready to support the financial aspect.It is when you are married to him that you can invest in his business. If not, even if you invest N10 Billion, he might leave you tomorrow and use your money to marry someone else and will never pay you back. I was a victim of this type of situation, though it was not investment in business, it was a support to him during his difficult times. Yeah, I vowed never to do such a thing again even if I have money flowing like a river,unless I'm already married to the person. Please Ladies, be wise!!!
At the end of the day,you'll be helping someone out,boyfriend or not,lover or not. It's important to help out whenever it is in your power to do so and without motives is even better. Go ahead and invest and don't expect anything in return,God himself will replenish you.
In cases like this you should think hard and answer that question for yourself. What would Lib readers tell you? You are in the boat and you alone know how it rocks. Would he do the same for you? How supportive has he been over the last three years? How much cost is involved? Besides, you want him to pop the question when he's financially unstable, how? Whatever decision you take you'll still bear the consequences alone be it good or bad. So why you asking Lib readers? A lot are retarded anyway... T!007
I am a man telling you from a guys perspective. dont try that nonsense. whatever you intend to invest just take it as a gift to him with no string attached.
Its risky to invest in your husband business not to talk of boyfriend. it takes less than a secs or a guy to change his mind and 90% of men out there dont remember any good deed done for them once they arrive
nope. dont ever try it. if not u will regret it. unless you guys are married.
u can as well sign an agreement with him that he will pay u back, if u really wanna help. and make sure u involve a lawyer. men are wicked tomorrow when he makes money he might leave u for a fresh girl. be wise girl.
While every thing we partake in in this world carry some form of risks, if you wait until you invest in someone you claim to be your lover just because he is yet to pop the question, don't you think you are holding him back to an extent financially. Invest in this guy's growth wholeheartedly because even in marriage negative stuff that were unplanned by either party can still occur. As of this moment he sounds like your only prospect so invest in him.
PLEASE DONT DO IT!! I HAVE BEEN DOWN THAT ROAD AS A BANKER.EVENTUALLY THERE WERE NO CONSIDERATIONS FOR ALL INVESTMENTS I PUMPED IN AT THE END O THE RELATIONSHIP....WHICH INCLUDED BUYING ALL THE BLOCKS(ABOUT HALF A MILLION) FOR BUILDING HIS HOUSE... 1) PLEASE DO NOT REVEAL HOW MUCH YOU EARN (FOUND OUT HE WAS BEING fUNNY WITH HIS REAL BANK BALANCE WHICH WAS MORE THAN MINE) 2)YOU CAN INVEST A LITTLE AMOUNT IN HIM-ONE THAT WHEN THINGS GO WRONG YOU WONT FEEL SO BAD CHEERS
my dear give him a little amount of money to start up a Business. and watch his action and attitude if he changed when he start making little money then u will know he is not for you. a wise man will make use of a little amount and even propose to you. for now he don't have money he might think there is no need to propose when he has no money.
I tink u should help him out of luv 4 a gud frnd ie if u are sure u hav enof 2 give out & dnt do dat wit al expectation dat he must put d ring on ur finger cos u might b disappointed 2mrw. Again dnt invest al ur moni on him so dat u dnt live 2 regret it should incase it turns out to b bad btw d two of u. Jst b wise
I tink u should help him out of luv 4 a gud frnd ie if u are sure u hav enof 2 give out & dnt do dat wit al expectation dat he must put d ring on ur finger cos u might b disappointed 2mrw. Again dnt invest al ur moni on him so dat u dnt live 2 regret it should incase it turns out to b bad btw d two of u. Jst b wise
Better no try yoursef for there young woman, am sure ur brother, sister, cousin or parents need dt moni n u r talkin of boyfriend, u no de hear stories goin around of ppl marriages nd relationships? Dnt let foolish love blind u, gv ur sef brain
Foolish answer, he could somehow get someone else? Then leave her? Then you're an opportunist like him. Is it her fault he doesn't Hv a job? Pls my dear go and help your family members with that money.
Have an agreement drawn up. You are an investor in the business...not a girlfriend regarding this investment. If all goes well and u get married...cool. You can destroy it if u want. If it goes bad however, you will have a written agreement. And if he vexes that u are even bringing up an agreement at all in the first place, then run fast! Means he intends to "gba" you o!
Hmmmm, dere's nothing wrong in helping him out especially now dat he's damm broke but dnt expect anytin jst give it 2 him as a token...MY OPINION _ _ _ ANNABEL_ _ _
Many women have been victims of this same issue. You are not even married to him yet and you want to invest so much... Wat happens if he ends up not marrying you again? Then ur money is history? My cousin was a victim of this same issue... She not only gave the man over N6m , the man also earned his American citizenship through her. Now where is the marriage and love after all was said and done? Their marriage of barely 5 years is over. The man never took responsibility of my cousin and constantly abused her physically and emotionally. Now I'm not saying this would be ur case but my point here is that you should be careful ... It's a big risk.
You can only invest if you are ready to sign documents...secure your money by getting a lawyer involved and you both can sign an agreement. this is wat wise people do.
My dear if you cannot spare your "leave allowance" to support someone you claim to love to start up something that will benefit his life whether he ends up marrying u or not, consider yourself a very wicked person and not worthy of the young man's love. We are talking leave allowance here not your life savings.If the tables where turned how would u feel about it?
Do not try it. If you must help him , give him something you can forfeit, if it comes to that with marring your future. Even put adequate monitoring measures in place to ensure the fund is not diverted.
I invested as a girlfriend and now he has made me his wife and the head of his company which is worth a lot, I think it really depends on the kind of guy he is, a lot of humans always forget there very beginnings dear, just pray to God for direction or invest in him without expecting anything bk from him.....good luck and God bless ur heart
From 90% of these comment here, i ve got 2understand that '''' its not a bad/wrong for a guy 2invest of provide for a lady but its a taboo vise-visa. hummmmm. Naija/afican ladies, welldone oohhhhhhhhhh..... No wonder the guys re skeptical these days to relationship.
Does your boyfriend ask Linda Ikeji if he should give you money or buy gift for you? Do you ask Linda ikeji if you should open you legs for him to have sex? Do you tell Linda ikeji how many times you have mistakenly taken in and done abortion if any? Did you tell Linda ikeji how to met your boyfriend in a well to do state and now broke under your care? Did you tell Linda ikeji how happy your boyfriend has made you be since you met him? If not, then do what is right and dont use that as a right on either he should marry you or not. Thank you. I rest my case.
Please realize that there is always a risk. You may invest and he looses the money in the business or doesn't marry you.
However, if you don't invest and he knows you could have supported him, he may consider you not to be a viable helpmate.
My advice, support his business - not invest as investment implies you will expect returns of some form. So, limit your expectation. Do it bearing in mind that you are contributing to the business of someone you love, irrespective of what the future is - in order words, do it because you want to not because you want him to do you something in return, if you can't do this, don't or just put in as little as you are comfortable with.
Its your choice if you want to spend the whole or part of your leave allowance since you know how much he needs and how much you have.
What you should not do - do not try to hold him to ransom with the money or try to make him feel you are spending on him so he will marry you. It just might back fire!
Pele. U r suffering because u didn't invest. U gave him a gift. Next time when u want to invest make it legal. That way u would b getting ur own share now, Una no go school
Hell"no" my dearie!Majority of men are scammers hiding under the 'roof' of RELATIONSHIP! If you must invest, make sure the business name is registered and your name is on the list of of one of the Directors indicating your stake in the business and the profit/Revenue sharing formular!I had fallen victim of the "scam", so I not not high on any drugs sharing this idea with you. #shineyoureyeswellwell#
R there no true Christians in this house again. U should favour people in other to b favoured. Marriage or no marriage, if u can help him help him. If he leaves u tomorrow, u know in ur heart that u did it for God. That u were able to change someone's life. Givers never lack. And pls stop pre marital sex. If u had not slept with him ur judgment would not b so clouded now and u would see things clearly.
Nawa for people sha. It's not OK for you to give money that u can get back But it's OK to give ur virtue as a woman and child of God! Uwa mmebi! Give ur Life to Christ and stop furnication
noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!! Men are not like women. They do not attach sentimental value to anything! Please ask Tori Hart. Kevin Hart's ex wife.
Girl see it as a business deal get a lawyer involved get as much stake in the biz as u invest so when you break up u two know you're business partners shikena . No go dash anyone ur hard earned money make sure u read his feasibility study
Don't even try it, men don't truly love women who use their money on them, am serious oh. The ego of a man is heightened when he is the one in charge, they love 'damsels in distress'. sometimes it's even better you tell him you do not have money. Don't try it, dat will be the start of the end or your relationship
hehehe.....gurl,pls dt be deceived,hmmm are u a leaner? if u want to render such help i will advice u to assist him alone but dont give him all that u have but when he finally n fully married u ehhee u can now invest in him cos both of u are one but for now hehehe shine ur eyes well well o! besides u guys hv bn in a rship for 3yrs n d dude neva proposed. just be careful n be wise dats my advice to u hooha!
hehehe.....gurl,pls dt be deceived,hmmm are u a leaner? if u want to render such help i will advice u to assist him alone but dont give him all that u have but when he finally n fully married u ehhee u can now invest in him cos both of u are one but for now hehehe shine ur eyes well well o! besides u guys hv bn in a rship for 3yrs n d dude neva proposed. just be careful n be wise dats my advice to u hooha!
Women are d most selfish creatures ever created by God. Even wen they are married 2 u they still feel insecure wen it comes 2 assisting dia husbands. But if it is d man he spends millions of Naira 2 set dem up without having any negative thoughts. Only God will save d male folks from d hand of dis life companion called Woman. My sister pls go ahead nd assist him since u claim u love him nd leave d rest 2 God..
Do unto others what you want them to do unto you. But only give what u can let go. (instead of giving him N200K, give him N100K and watch him for some time.if he misbehaves and not appreciative in the longrun. Tuleee! (run)!
From my experience, I'll say no honey nooooooooooo!!!! That 'ish will cause problems and you will start to resent him. If you still want to go ahead, give him something you know won't pain you or you don't get it back! #nuffsaid!
like seriously are you a learner, you might think you are in love, pls keep your money and pray for him, you are still his girlfriend and not his wife, girl, wait till he walks you down the aisle and you become a Mrs, then you can invest in your husbands business.
Babe won give he guy leave allowance bread, she come public to ask for permission/opinion and advice.
Wen Guy man dey give his Babe, he no dey tink twice b4 he do am (give wetin e no even get join). Yet at the end of the day the Babe still dey tulee (run) leave am (dey dont get married). If the guy dey give u, den u do same in return and stop falling ur hand.
Stop making us (guys) stamp the fact that una (babes) are tu stingy!
please don't invest on this boys cos they aint loyal @ all. my friend saw her boyfriend through school he realized she was a prostitute once he got his first job.
DON'T DO IT! Take this from someone who has had an experience in this. In the course of showing support, you may end up regretting it! Wait till you say I do. In fact pray or him to get his business rolling before you say I do. No go enter once chance because of love or man.
Let's make it simple. Ask yourself wat you would do if marriage was not in the equation. It balances things for you. Then if that comes as well, then u are in heaven.
Only the men here would advise u to invest in ur bf business, the women here are speaking from experience, u better don't. If u break up and he marries another girl then keeps promising to pay ur money back but doesn't, what would you do? NOTHING
first of all get a lawyer, then get a written agreement and all. it should be a business investment both of you then share the profit dependinging on the percentage
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 380 of 380my dear plz wait till u guys r marride o bcos u dnt kw wt tomoro holds fr u
Guys are full of disappointment, just help him if you want, if he talk About Marriage then go for better but don't put your mind there
its not a wise decision biko..guys can be funny ooo..except you are doing it for charity..
Well your leave allowance should be 2/3 of your basic salary besides other allowances...it can never be more than 50000-100000k since you work in a bank unless you are an SBO upward.
u can take the risk if you love and believe in him....who knows,it might make him appreciate you more.*money tripples love....in Rick Ross voice,huh!
My dear for the fact that you are asking, shows that you should wait. don't give your money to a man who have not married you. You will be glad you didn't give him the money.
In between dont let all this Feminist on Lib deceive you ooo.life is all about risk my dear,,if your mind says dont give,then burst it.
You can give paltry sum as a girlfriend. It's sensible to wait till u are married before u start INVESTING ur hard earned cash in a MAN. Even if he pops d question and gives ring dont let it pass little amount
Yeah..but if he disappoints, swear for him naked...lols
Its Ur choice lady, U can invest in Him if U know He loves U truly...fall in love, buh take Ur brain along...Pple can fake love & to get wat they want, & He might truly love U......Ur in d best position to know if He truly does.....LOVE WIT UR BRAIN WOMAN + WE MEN CAN ACT UP
Sign an undertaken prior to investment, in case he changes his mind in the future, about your love affair.
DONT INVEST! DONT MAKE THAT MISTAKE! You can only try that with your husband. Not until he decides to tak u to the alter even if u re d one payin 4 d expenses dont try investin in his business. Am speakin from experience.
Sign an undertaken, in case he has a change of heart about your love affair.
my advise don't invest your funds be sure of his plans for u before u do that he is just your bf and not your husband yet we have seen situations like this where things later got messy so my dear be sure of what u are doing before u start investing in any man.
Sign an undertaken prior to investment, in case he changes his mind in the future, about your love affair.
Ur a fool! A big one,he still won't marry u. Are u his mother? Investment banker
In every business u should expect a return...since its an investment and not a gesture please carry on whether its ur bf or not
you can if you see he is responsible just reduce the amount in case of a shock.
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Men can be funny,if for 3yrs now you guys are still on boyfriend,girlfriend thing?then it worth thinking about. I will suggest if you have to help him,(u should knw him better)do half of the leave allowance,and put it to him that you helped him to borrow it. Then sit back,pray and watch. Good luck
My Dear if you don't have a stake in his life you wont a say. I suggest you invest in him now so he can be strong enough (financially) to pop the question. And try not to do it with a biased mind, not all men are bad. Some of us still do have a heart and are willing to love our women. My Wife would do same if in the same shoes and she will do it without thinking twice and i assure you she will never regret it whether it goes bad or not.
U can invest,but pls b very sure of him 1st n be sure he will finally end up with u...cos some guys are so wicked......
invest after marriage
NO ! NO !! NO!!! husband is different from boyfriend. It can end any day.
NO ! NO !! NO!!! husband is different from boyfriend. It can end any day.
u know him better, if u sure he would use d money wisely and not squander it, why not? but please don't tell him u investing it, tell him u borrowing it and make a realistic plan how he pay back. borrowed my .fiance 500k to start a business, and he paid me back 100k monthly, he has finished paying d debt, the business doing fine that am on monthly allowance self and i feel good when he gisting with people and he tells them if not for me, he would not have started d business.but my dear never say it or rub it in his face oh,let him be d one doing the praising.
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Madam banker,men are ungrateful ldiots keep your money or give it to an orphanage since you don't know what to do with it.
Well that's a gamble. If want to help do so but I will advice you let go of an amount that if you do not get it back, you don't feel bad. God bless.
Hell no babe!!!!! U don't do business will someone u claim u love(u called him boyfriend not husband).... Use your brain
Tufiakwa! Don't u dare try it! If u wnt to help him, forget the fact that he is ur boyfriend nd help him, and by so doing even if he quits u tomorrow, he will see ur good heart and pay u back.
The question is how well do yhu think you know him, I mean, how serious is he abt the marriage talk. Truth is Men change jst like cameleon and u wudnt wanna do smthing dat wud lev u regreting @ d long run. I'd advice u wait till after marriage!
Dnt invest wen ur nt sure of d future of d relatnshp.....is nt worth it.
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If you are skeptical about the longevity of the relationship or his commitment to you, then sign an agreement which will make it a loan, you can even include interest as a payback term.
U re asking?try it, nd ur first nd second name will be SÖRRY.
Wait until he marry u cos u are just on ur own like a grass waiting to die in the desert
am sorry for you .people like you will only end up married to their money like ................... and so and so
Invest wetin, well you can include a lawyer so he wont dupe you.
Do it legally, sign a contract as partners or something. That way you Will not loose money whether you marry eachother or not.
Do it legally, sign a contract as partners or something. That way you Will not loose money whether you marry eachother or not.
MUMU!try it In u will cry for d rest of ur life.lf u get married to him beta.
NO!
Are u a learner?
Ha,please dont oh.they are not worth it my dear.
Done be stupid oooo I pity you, even you r engaged the man might still do worse things tacklers of when he hasn't popped the question.. Save your money for yourself and your future family.... BE WISE
Nne ara agbakwala gi oo! U dey craze? Think well joor, before u end up telling linda how he dumped u after ur investment! Be wise.
Lol... if you feel you can do it without any regret whether you guys marry or not, then you can. But if you wanna do it to capture his heart to marry you afterwards then you are sitting on a long thing #onelovefromSnow#
My dear be wise, don't even try it. Let him hustle for his money and when the biz has kicked off with a sure view of success u can invest some amount. Also make the kind of amount u re investing is the one you can easily for go cos my dear men are funny. May we not labour and someone else eat the fruit.
Nope not wise at all. Infact it's a very silly idea. You can support him physically and mentally but not necessarily financially except of course u have a lot to dispose off. He's ur bf not husband. Boyfriends come and go. Men are extremely unreliable and insensitive. U cud invest and he won't end up marrying u. On the other hand u can invest as a business partner and involve a lawyer and do the apopraite business plan so you have ur documents to prove ur shares.
As a man,i will advise u,if you want to help him using your church mind,thats just free-will,you can go ahead,but if its based on marriage proposal or to your own advantage in future,my dear sister,dont do it..Men re unpredictable.He might change tommorow and say he is no longer interested,what will you do by then?So use your brain.
MUMU! Overdesperate money miss road!
Don't try it. If you want to dash him money fine. But if you invest, expecting something in return you'll sleep on Nepa pole. A friend of mine took loan from the bank she works for her douche bag bf. Dude started biz and went back to his ex.
I invested in my boyfriend's business many years ago and now we are married with kids. But I understood where the relationship was headed at the time so it wasn't a difficult decision to make, though he had not proposed then either. So just pray, be ready to face the consequences whatever it may be and follow your heart.
Hey miss! Don't do it, it is not right I'm also a man but I won't advise a lady to do that for me. We never can tell what might happen tomorrow
#The Theist
my dear, the moni is urs to give away. But pls be warned sha. Men are very ungrateful beings.
please get married first . trust nobody
Mr Flash say so
Hmm! I'll advice you wait ooo. He can leave you once he gets established.. Second advice, you can also help him out. If you see that he needs help and you have more than enough to invest, then do it....Third advice, you can lend him the money and tell him to pay back once he is financially bouyant again; if you cnt tell him d money you are lending to him is yours, then tell him you borrowed so he ll pay back.
Girl!! Dats d dumbest Į̸̸̨t to do.. Don't even tink abt it... D best u shud offer are ur ideas. Bt pumping ur money into it ȋ̊§ a NO NO
...A coin is always two sided! Well, I find this difficult to answer but I feel if you wish to invest in his business, see it as a gift i.e. something out of your freewill and you not expecting anything in return tomorrow, so when it doesn't turn out as you expect, you won't hang yourself.
Be wise when giving too.
Or if your mind no gree you, Biko! fa ra ba le ooo! no be Must.
-Bliss.
You can invest but let business be business. Let it be done the proper way. on paper.
Don't invest men r not Wat it, unless you know him to well not to disappoint u
Assumin he has a Job and doin wel, wil he stil b by ur side? D humility of a poor man can't b trusted my dear. I hav loan my guy money b4 cos I knw he has d capability of payin me bck, and he did after 3months wit 15% interest. So babe wise up
Allow him struggle and make it 1st before you agree to marry him...never marry a jobless man.. life has changed,people hardly rmbr the good dt was done to them..you know the true character of a made when he has money... so my advice is that you hold your money to yourself jeh jeh.. men are not it anymore!
Bad idea. money and relationships dont mix. Keep your own money let him handle his business himself
Stupid question of the day.. sell ur father's house and give him that too...
Even if he has popped d question, its still not a good idea. Playing games with ur heart is bad enough. Pls do not add ur money, so that if eventually he breaks ur heart u will not loose both ways. U ONLY KNOW IF HE REALLY LOVES U WHEN HE IS BETTER OFF NOT NOW...
My dear if you try it, your money go into flames! He hasn't popped d question and u wnt to sponsor. Go and hlp ur family members, they'll pray for u.
If u wnt 2 assist him, go ahead without expecting anything in return
You should support him if you love him....It shouldn't be about wether he pops the question unless you have reasons to doubt him? It could also be a business arrangement or investment for you, that way it's easier to give freely knowing fully well there is a risk of not getting the money back or getting even more....
Pls u beta wait. Becos men dis days re nt trust worthy.
wait till get marryed.
My dear don't try it ooo. If u want to help him just for the sake of God then go ahead but if u want to give him the money because u think he will marry u then pls dont. No man is to be trusted. If u start giving him to keep him, then u will continue to give him to sustain him in your life. Be wise
wait until u get marryed.
Take the risk my dear, leave allowance won't hurt you if he decides otherwise...
plssssssss, don't!!!!!! am personally beging u oo
Business is business. You guys should separate biz from love. Let there be an undertaken signed by both side before investing ur allowance on him
how much is ur leave allowance. If it is up to 5m, just come and give me and i will marry u straight away
Please wait until u guys get married
mumu...better wait till he's married to you...if he say's u're being self centred tell him u're trying to play safe. Nor be today yansh dey bac
Hypocrite ! Look at your boyfriend as a human being . If he's worthy of help , do it out of good will . If not, stfu and live your life . Are u asking us weather u should bribe him to marry you?
I think you should hold on till you guys are married, not engagement o!
U r on a long tin my sister....azin real long tin
betsytohbadt
Hmmmmmmm,if u really love him,u shouldn't think twice about investing,even if u are not sure of him staying with u tomorrow,...but if u feel his not d type dat manages an income,please keep ur money,console and cry with him in his pain.
Wait oh men this days after investing and they become something they leave u for a younger and fresher babe so kip your money wen u get married u can invest...
You can invest but do it professionally, with drafted agreements, exit clauses, and decide weather you are investing as debt or equity. If and when you get married, you could change the terms. Since you co-own then
baby girl dont try it......this story can not be over emphasized...we all know what happens after...he gonna leave yo ass and you gonna be sorry n full of regret....
Ma dear †o be on d safe side hen wait until ur his wife abeg U̶̲̥̅̊ can't trust men dis dayz be wise
Modupe
Pls do what u can to help him since the relationship has been on for a while. We all need a helper.... :)
@lwkmd_naija
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Do not try it ooo. I dey beg you. You won't see that cash again. leave him if he's not capable.
No, wait till u get married
Hmmmm!!!!Odikwa ferry ferry RISKY.don't try it gurl,wait till he pops and after popping sef,please be wise oooooooo,don't invest all,just half will do
Thank me later
Bympe
Ewu. If u ask me na who I go ask. Ewu! Ewu!Ewu!
Relationship is all about trust and believe if u trust him and u knw at the end of the day u can leave without asking back the money if he did nt marry u.u can take the risk cos love is a risk.
There's no big deal helping him establish himself, I assisted my husband when he had nothing now I'm d one enjoying his wealth.
i know the girl who owns the picture you used for this post. shes a youtube star and i don't think its wise you not having credited her or sought her permission for usage in light of recent events concerning your blog linda
He probably haven't popped the question because he's not financially stable! HELP HIM but don't expect too much...He fit dull u :)
If I were you, I will not. I suggest you support him in a little way that you will not regret if marriage didn't work out between two of you. If he is serious with you,start talking about marriage and be ready to support the financial aspect.It is when you are married to him that you can invest in his business. If not, even if you invest N10 Billion, he might leave you tomorrow and use your money to marry someone else and will never pay you back.
I was a victim of this type of situation, though it was not investment in business, it was a support to him during his difficult times. Yeah, I vowed never to do such a thing again even if I have money flowing like a river,unless I'm already married to the person.
Please Ladies, be wise!!!
Nope.re u a learner? Girls don't just learn. *sigh! You don't mix business with pleasure..it never works! #BeGuided
u can help if u want to,he must not ask u to marry him first for d fact u are datin is a enough reason for u to help..
u can help if u want to,he must not ask u to marry him first for d fact u are datin is a enough reason for u to help..
At the end of the day,you'll be helping someone out,boyfriend or not,lover or not. It's important to help out whenever it is in your power to do so and without motives is even better. Go ahead and invest and don't expect anything in return,God himself will replenish you.
In cases like this you should think hard and answer that question for yourself. What would Lib readers tell you? You are in the boat and you alone know how it rocks. Would he do the same for you? How supportive has he been over the last three years? How much cost is involved? Besides, you want him to pop the question when he's financially unstable, how? Whatever decision you take you'll still bear the consequences alone be it good or bad. So why you asking Lib readers? A lot are retarded anyway...
T!007
Don't even try it. Even though u do, own the biggest share so that if he trys nonsense, withdraw immediately
I am a man telling you from a guys perspective. dont try that nonsense. whatever you intend to invest just take it as a gift to him with no string attached.
Its risky to invest in your husband business not to talk of boyfriend. it takes less than a secs or a guy to change his mind and 90% of men out there dont remember any good deed done for them once they arrive
nope. dont ever try it. if not u will regret it. unless you guys are married.
u can as well sign an agreement with him that he will pay u back, if u really wanna help. and make sure u involve a lawyer. men are wicked tomorrow when he makes money he might leave u for a fresh girl. be wise girl.
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Get to the court and make an agreement either u r lovers or married, don't mix business or money with love, they are two different things
While every thing we partake in in this world carry some form of risks, if you wait until you invest in someone you claim to be your lover just because he is yet to pop the question, don't you think you are holding him back to an extent financially. Invest in this guy's growth wholeheartedly because even in marriage negative stuff that were unplanned by either party can still occur. As of this moment he sounds like your only prospect so invest in him.
Wait until u get married 2 him my dear,i made d same mistake wen d relationship didn't work out n i asked for my mny d guy asked me 2 go 2 hell #4real
dnt pls
INVESTING IN YOUR BOYFRIEND'S BIZ IS LIKE USING BASKET TO FETCH WATER. ****QUEENMAYA****
Are you mad?
INVESTING IN YOUR BOYFRIEND'S BIZ IS LIKE USING BASKET TO FETCH WATER. ****QUEENMAYA****
OYO lowa
Babe u can assist him but don't invest all ur money on him
follow your heart , it won't fell you.
dont try it ooooooooo, so dat u will not regret it in future
Never! Hell to the Biggest No!
PLEASE DONT DO IT!!
I HAVE BEEN DOWN THAT ROAD AS A BANKER.EVENTUALLY THERE WERE NO CONSIDERATIONS FOR ALL INVESTMENTS I PUMPED IN AT THE END O THE RELATIONSHIP....WHICH INCLUDED BUYING ALL THE BLOCKS(ABOUT HALF A MILLION) FOR BUILDING HIS HOUSE...
1) PLEASE DO NOT REVEAL HOW MUCH YOU EARN (FOUND OUT HE WAS BEING fUNNY WITH HIS REAL BANK BALANCE WHICH WAS MORE THAN MINE)
2)YOU CAN INVEST A LITTLE AMOUNT IN HIM-ONE THAT WHEN THINGS GO WRONG YOU WONT FEEL SO BAD
CHEERS
You can invest if u want but don't expect him to marry you cos of the investment or wait until he pays your bride price.
For what naaaa? Nor try am
my dear give him a little amount of money to start up a Business. and watch his action and attitude if he changed when he start making little money then u will know he is not for you. a wise man will make use of a little amount and even propose to you. for now he don't have money he might think there is no need to propose when he has no money.
Please I will advise you NOT to invest in his business, don't u hear stories. That will be a great mistake.Wait till u are married.
follow your heart dear.
I tink u should help him out of luv 4 a gud frnd ie if u are sure u hav enof 2 give out & dnt do dat wit al expectation dat he must put d ring on ur finger cos u might b disappointed 2mrw. Again dnt invest al ur moni on him so dat u dnt live 2 regret it should incase it turns out to b bad btw d two of u. Jst b wise
I tink u should help him out of luv 4 a gud frnd ie if u are sure u hav enof 2 give out & dnt do dat wit al expectation dat he must put d ring on ur finger cos u might b disappointed 2mrw. Again dnt invest al ur moni on him so dat u dnt live 2 regret it should incase it turns out to b bad btw d two of u. Jst b wise
Tufiakwa you are going to be a looser big time when he marries another lady with your capital
Better no try yoursef for there young woman, am sure ur brother, sister, cousin or parents need dt moni n u r talkin of boyfriend, u no de hear stories goin around of ppl marriages nd relationships? Dnt let foolish love blind u, gv ur sef brain
No please!!! Bad move
True talk sis
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Don't do it please
Foolish answer, he could somehow get someone else? Then leave her? Then you're an opportunist like him. Is it her fault he doesn't Hv a job? Pls my dear go and help your family members with that money.
sign a contract with him wit a lawyer involved........... in case he changes his mind
Babe I ld advice you to do it legally....involve ur lawyer nd make papers on profit making.....buh I wnt tell u nt to help ur bf
Have an agreement drawn up. You are an investor in the business...not a girlfriend regarding this investment. If all goes well and u get married...cool. You can destroy it if u want. If it goes bad however, you will have a written agreement. And if he vexes that u are even bringing up an agreement at all in the first place, then run fast! Means he intends to "gba" you o!
Hmmmm, dere's nothing wrong in helping him out especially now dat he's damm broke but dnt expect anytin jst give it 2 him as a token...MY OPINION _ _ _ ANNABEL_ _ _
Many women have been victims of this same issue. You are not even married to him yet and you want to invest so much... Wat happens if he ends up not marrying you again? Then ur money is history? My cousin was a victim of this same issue... She not only gave the man over N6m , the man also earned his American citizenship through her. Now where is the marriage and love after all was said and done? Their marriage of barely 5 years is over. The man never took responsibility of my cousin and constantly abused her physically and emotionally. Now I'm not saying this would be ur case but my point here is that you should be careful ... It's a big risk.
Pray for directions... Leave all this emotional advise from 2/3 of this readers. And follow yur heart.
You can only invest if you are ready to sign documents...secure your money by getting a lawyer involved and you both can sign an agreement. this is wat wise people do.
Linda!!! post my comment.
My dear if you cannot spare your "leave allowance" to support someone you claim to love to start up something that will benefit his life whether he ends up marrying u or not, consider yourself a very wicked person and not worthy of the young man's love. We are talking leave allowance here not your life savings.If the tables where turned how would u feel about it?
Do not try it. If you must help him , give him something you can forfeit, if it comes to that with marring your future. Even put adequate monitoring measures in place to ensure the fund is not diverted.
I invested as a girlfriend and now he has made me his wife and the head of his company which is worth a lot, I think it really depends on the kind of guy he is, a lot of humans always forget there very beginnings dear, just pray to God for direction or invest in him without expecting anything bk from him.....good luck and God bless ur heart
DONT DO IT O!!!!!
This girl, which planet are u from? even if u marry him u are not sure of his loyalty, talk more of some1 wey u nvr marry. DON'T TRY IT
From 90% of these comment here, i ve got 2understand that '''' its not a bad/wrong for a guy 2invest of provide for a lady but its a taboo vise-visa. hummmmm. Naija/afican ladies, welldone oohhhhhhhhhh..... No wonder the guys re skeptical these days to relationship.
Let it be done legally sha... Just incase the unknown happens...
@BOBO_EDO
Does your boyfriend ask Linda Ikeji if he should give you money or buy gift for you? Do you ask Linda ikeji if you should open you legs for him to have sex? Do you tell Linda ikeji how many times you have mistakenly taken in and done abortion if any? Did you tell Linda ikeji how to met your boyfriend in a well to do state and now broke under your care? Did you tell Linda ikeji how happy your boyfriend has made you be since you met him? If not, then do what is right and dont use that as a right on either he should marry you or not. Thank you. I rest my case.
For the record I am a guy.
Please realize that there is always a risk. You may invest and he looses the money in the business or doesn't marry you.
However, if you don't invest and he knows you could have supported him, he may consider you not to be a viable helpmate.
My advice, support his business - not invest as investment implies you will expect returns of some form. So, limit your expectation. Do it bearing in mind that you are contributing to the business of someone you love, irrespective of what the future is - in order words, do it because you want to not because you want him to do you something in return, if you can't do this, don't or just put in as little as you are comfortable with.
Its your choice if you want to spend the whole or part of your leave allowance since you know how much he needs and how much you have.
What you should not do - do not try to hold him to ransom with the money or try to make him feel you are spending on him so he will marry you. It just might back fire!
Pele. U r suffering because u didn't invest. U gave him a gift. Next time when u want to invest make it legal. That way u would b getting ur own share now, Una no go school
Hell"no" my dearie!Majority of men are scammers hiding under the 'roof' of RELATIONSHIP! If you must invest, make sure the business name is registered and your name is on the list of of one of the Directors indicating your stake in the business and the profit/Revenue sharing formular!I had fallen victim of the "scam", so I not not high on any drugs sharing this idea with you. #shineyoureyeswellwell#
R there no true Christians in this house again. U should favour people in other to b favoured. Marriage or no marriage, if u can help him help him. If he leaves u tomorrow, u know in ur heart that u did it for God. That u were able to change someone's life. Givers never lack. And pls stop pre marital sex. If u had not slept with him ur judgment would not b so clouded now and u would see things clearly.
Nawa for people sha. It's not OK for you to give money that u can get back But it's OK to give ur virtue as a woman and child of God! Uwa mmebi! Give ur Life to Christ and stop furnication
Don't, you are his girlfriend not his bank
Pls don't. Has hedun biz b4? Be sure ur cash is not going down d drain. But dont
Woman be wise! Get a lawyer! Simple n short. No dey join business with sentiments.
help him. just see it as seed-sowing, don't attach any string.
#Saint IJ said so#
For you to even be thinking of it... says a lot about your relationship
noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!
Men are not like women. They do not attach sentimental value to anything!
Please ask Tori Hart. Kevin Hart's ex wife.
Lol. Help someone because you want to see them succeed, not in hopes of them marrying you.
i no c my own conment here o y i no say i qulified sha or maybe u d luk face .tnx
My dear, u won't want to do it o, sincerely doze guys we v out dere r not worth it....he never put ring for ur finger...no let stupid love catch u
Girl see it as a business deal get a lawyer involved get as much stake in the biz as u invest so when you break up u two know you're business partners shikena . No go dash anyone ur hard earned money make sure u read his feasibility study
I bet this is your boyfriend
Don't even try it, men don't truly love women who use their money on them, am serious oh.
The ego of a man is heightened when he is the one in charge, they love 'damsels in distress'. sometimes it's even better you tell him you do not have money. Don't try it, dat will be the start of the end or your relationship
hehehe.....gurl,pls dt be deceived,hmmm are u a leaner? if u want to render such help i will advice u to assist him alone but dont give him all that u have but when he finally n fully married u ehhee u can now invest in him cos both of u are one but for now hehehe shine ur eyes well well o! besides u guys hv bn in a rship for 3yrs n d dude neva proposed. just be careful n be wise dats my advice to u hooha!
Diva-chilee
hehehe.....gurl,pls dt be deceived,hmmm are u a leaner? if u want to render such help i will advice u to assist him alone but dont give him all that u have but when he finally n fully married u ehhee u can now invest in him cos both of u are one but for now hehehe shine ur eyes well well o! besides u guys hv bn in a rship for 3yrs n d dude neva proposed. just be careful n be wise dats my advice to u hooha!
Diva-chilee
Women are d most selfish creatures ever created by God. Even wen they are married 2 u they still feel insecure wen it comes 2 assisting dia husbands. But if it is d man he spends millions of Naira 2 set dem up without having any negative thoughts. Only God will save d male folks from d hand of dis life companion called Woman. My sister pls go ahead nd assist him since u claim u love him nd leave d rest 2 God..
If you try it, at the end of the day you will cry but wont see somebody to console you.
I say nooooooooooooooooooooooooo. I wont work. let him struggle if not he will not no the pains.
Please don't.
Do unto others what you want them to do unto you. But only give what u can let go. (instead of giving him N200K, give him N100K and watch him for some time.if he misbehaves and not appreciative in the longrun. Tuleee! (run)!
From my experience, I'll say no honey nooooooooooo!!!! That 'ish will cause problems and you will start to resent him. If you still want to go ahead, give him something you know won't pain you or you don't get it back! #nuffsaid!
like seriously are you a learner, you might think you are in love, pls keep your money and pray for him, you are still his girlfriend and not his wife, girl, wait till he walks you down the aisle and you become a Mrs, then you can invest in your husbands business.
Babe won give he guy leave allowance bread, she come public to ask for permission/opinion and advice.
Wen Guy man dey give his Babe, he no dey tink twice b4 he do am (give wetin e no even get join). Yet at the end of the day the Babe still dey tulee (run) leave am (dey dont get married). If the guy dey give u, den u do same in return and stop falling ur hand.
Stop making us (guys) stamp the fact that una (babes) are tu stingy!
Please prove ur love.
Abeg do that very fast do no wait, the guy will be very happy to feed your money to better and smarter girls...
Why are u sounding so pained? Abi are you d jobless bf? Is she not free to spend her money anyhow she wants? Abegi!
please don't invest on this boys cos they aint loyal @ all. my friend saw her boyfriend through school he realized she was a prostitute once he got his first job.
DON'T DO IT!
Take this from someone who has had an experience in this. In the course of showing support, you may end up regretting it! Wait till you say I do. In fact pray or him to get his business rolling before you say I do. No go enter once chance because of love or man.
Guys you see what the women are writing. Tomorrow you will bring out money say u wan spend on any woman. After all its all about equality now.
Let's make it simple. Ask yourself wat you would do if marriage was not in the equation. It balances things for you. Then if that comes as well, then u are in heaven.
Only the men here would advise u to invest in ur bf business, the women here are speaking from experience, u better don't. If u break up and he marries another girl then keeps promising to pay ur money back but doesn't, what would you do? NOTHING
u should support ur family n urself. cus he'll definitely spend ur money on other ladies,n i wont mind been one of them. dumb ass.
first of all get a lawyer, then get a written agreement and all. it should be a business investment both of you then share the profit dependinging on the percentage
Aboki better pass you.
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