Dear LIB readers: My pastor told me my fiance is not my husband, and my friends already bought aso-ebi
From a female LIB reader
My wedding is scheduled for September 5th only for my pastor to tell me during a deliverance service this past Sunday that the man I'm engaged to is not my husband. He said if I marry him, not only will the marriage not last, but that evil will befall me. He said the man was not destined for me and if I go ahead I would wish I had not. My parents are scared and are taking the revelation seriously. They are advising me not to marry him but some of my friends have already bought my aso-ebi. It's not like I can't leave the guy but how do I explain it to people and especially my friends? What would you do if you were in my shoes?
If i may ask, what is the essence of deliverance? For the fact that is was revealed means the solution is certain. For every negetive revelation there a counter(positive) revelation.................. like one of the comments read, go on your knees sis and the good Lord shall hear your cries and made a positive testimonies at the end for you................... Remember sey oko won lode oooooo(husband scares for outside oooooo).
Without apologies I'm most of the time amazed at how ppl reason. Since when did pastors become direct heirs of God n d followers hs grandchildren? Are u meaning to tell me dt u cnt personally seek d face of God n knw what He has to say concerning ur partner? listen dear most pastors hv actually become stone deaf to d voice of God n hv stopd hearing frm Him since 1823. Jesus wnts us to jst ask Him n we hv d answers we seek. PASTOR KO, ALAGBA NI.
Asoebi shld b d least of ur problems now, I'll advice u pray n fast urself, ask God to let his purpose for u concerning d marriage known to u, dat if he is not d one den let something happen to make u two go separate ways otherwise let notin happen, if possible seek another man of God, mayb another strong pastor of ur church but in a different branch dat doesn't know ur history. If it's all against d marriage den just meet wit ur fiance n break it off in d best way u can, n den to odas u can send a bulk sms of d breakup, but if it favors d marriage den my dear, marry ur fiance n never attend d church dat pastor officiates in, Goodluck n Godbless.
U gon get paused by Menopause if U lose dis guy cuz Ur pastor huz jst a canal man lookin 4 moni like ova 90% of them r doin. 1st, do U even Love dis man to b dis stupid in thinkin of Aso-ebi nd how to tel Ur frnds nd wots not?
U gon get paused by Menopause if U lose dis guy cuz Ur pastor huz jst a canal man lookin 4 moni like ova 90% of them r doin. 1st, do U even Love dis man to b dis stupid in thinkin of Aso-ebi nd how to tel Ur frnds nd wots not?
MY DEAR NO MAN AND WOMAN IN THIS LIFE IS PERFECT, YO CAN'T FIND YOUR 100% IDEAL MAN OR WOMAN ANY WHERE IN THIS WORLD, BUT I BELIEVE YOU CAN BUILD THAT MAN OR WOMAN WITH TIME AND ABOVE ALL WITH LOVE, SO I'LL ADVICE YOU GO ON WITH YOUR MARRIAGE IF YOU BOTH ARE TRULY IN LOVE, TAKE THE MARRIAGE TO YOU BF'S CHURCH FOR THE MARITAL BLESSING
You are a Christian and a child of God. Hear God for your self and dont be too lazy to fast and pray or dry fast so God can answer you on time and He will. You should not take the Pastor's words with laxity, either way if you go ahead with the marriage or not without hearing from God yourself, you will constantly live in regrets of the unknown, not knowing what may have happened. But if you sincerely pray and ask God for directions, He will answer you. I advise you to hold your wedding ceremony till you have heard from God. the least of your concerns should be the asoebi your friends bought. Thats quite vain. All the best
DO NOT LISTEN TO THAT EVIL MAN!!!! I am almost 40 and stil single because I wasted my life on the wrong man that Pastors and Prophets said was my husband. They ate my money and deceived me till the man showed me pepper. They are mere men and will deceive you to hell! Ask God to forgive you and go ahead with your wedding plans.
Pastors have challenges in their own marriages, no perfect marriage out there.And no pastor will tell u who to settle down with, i have seen people pastor said this person is ur wife or ur hubby all ended up in divorce.No man is God there are things God hides from we as human being. Just take it to God in prayers thats my advice.He will direct ur part and guide u. There are a lot of good pastors but in terms of union they have nothing to do for u. The decision is for u to make and pray about.Try and take fear away from your heart. it is well with u. by dobis112@gmail.com
Like I always say some pastors will lead so many souls 2 hell through prophecy.....every prophecy has a solution ad if Dr is non dn run 4 ur life..6days fruit fasting will do justice 2 what ur pastor say...no hussy 4 out side except u are ready 2 stay 4 like 5to 6years courting
Go ahead and marry him, when you are confronted with the result of not listening to God's words, then you will see what your friends will do or tell you. Nonsense!!!
God has the final say and is only your faith that will work for you.Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and will obtain favors from God,if you feel you will obtain evil as he said or vice-versa...So my dear God knows about you too and won't let evil befall you ok.Believe you're getting married to the right person and be fervent in prayers.I REST MY CASE
na wa to you o....so the only thing bothering u if u have to leave your fiance is d asoebi u sold....thats a clear sign u dont really care about d dude...please let him go and find smeone better. as for your pastor...kindly beg him to use the same vision to show u ur destined husband den...u dont even know wat you want sef.
My dear,go on your knees and pray to God yoursel,God speaks to every human being and not pastors alone.if he's not your husband,you will knw..you don't need any pastor to tell you otherwise
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
MOST OF US ARE ALWAYS TOO FAST TO ATTACK REVELATIONS... THE WORD HAS BEEN GIVEN, EVEN IF ITS TRUE OR FALSE...YOU HAVE A WORK TO DO. ...PRAY SERIOUSLY BEFORE TAKING THE NEXT STEP. FORGET ABOUT WHAT YOUR FRIENDS WILL SAY... IF YOU FAIL TO MARRY THE MAN THEY WILL TALK AND IF YOU ALSO FAIL TO HAVE A HAPPY HOME, THEY WILL STILL TALK. SEEK THE PRESENCE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT WHICH IS THE COMFORTER AND CONFIDE IN HIM. WHY DAVID SUCCEEDED WAS BECAUSE HE ALWAYS ENquire FROM GOD. I SAY SO... treasurebis@gmail.com
Don't mind dem, it once happen 2 me nd d lady am suppose 2 get married 2,dis stupid lady listen d her pastor dat am not d rite guy 4 her nd we've been datin since 5 years ago.she suddendly change towards me 4 no reasons,i even proposed 2 her at kfc wit 15 of her friends nd mine,she said YES nd was so hapi.6 months after she found som1 else,i asked her wut d problem was says no problem dat she tinks I should move on wit my life.i really love her.i just left cos she stopped pickin my calls nor comin 2 my house,i rented a 3 bedroom apartment cos of her well furnished.she was now beggin me 2 com back md its already 2 late cos av gotten som1 else.
Are u kidding, did I hear u say u're more concerned about your friends. This speaks volume of the level of love between u two. I believe u know God is not an author of confusion. If truly u love him and u are convinced he loves u too, Please go ahead with the wedding and hand over every other thing to God in prayers.
EVIL WILL BEFALL YOU!!! my GOD doesn't talk that way about His children(if u are,or the fiance) .My dear sis,but if truly you are bornagain you will know what to do.WHAT DO YOU THINK? It's your confession to yourself that's the Ultimate.so the ball is actually in your court.Remember #.Everything worketh for our good# even the evils of the world.God be with you!
your pastor or any other person has no right to tell you who your partner is. even in the garden of eden, God didn't choose a wife for adam, adam chose and i can prove it. the bible says that, God brought different animals to adam to see what he would name or call them and he did name them but it was when he caused adam to sleep and took a rib from him and created eve and when adam saw eve, he said this is the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman cos she was taken out of man, so you see...... none CAN AND SHOULD CHOOSE A SPOUSE FOR YOU, YOU CAN ONLY ASK THE HOLYSPIRIT FOR GUIDANCE AND HE WILL HELP YOU. SEARCH DEEP IN YOUR HEART. DO YOU FEEL PEACE DEEP PEACE WHEN YOU THINK OF SPENDING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HIM??? I HOPE THIS WILL HELP YOU.
Free born or what do you call yourself, pls while on the advise , try making educating urself properly as the manner in which you drop bombshells is very alarming. Abi you no study English Lang for school? Hiaaan!!
Lol.i like this one,man of faith.this would definitely work too.WE HAVE THE POWER TO COURSE A CHANGE anytime and in all situations.you see my dear sis when u realize who you are even your pastor knows he can't give you any negative prophesy.We are never careful for anything.look if you both are bornagain and your pastor says he sees a mountain,tell that stupid mountain to move away and believe it have,thank the lord and get married dammn It...change church too,don't be a babe that gets delivered every weekend Nooo.thats not God's wish for us.He said by his stripes we were healed .Christ embassy recommended for you.
4 u to go dis far in sharing asbi dat means u love him! don't allow all dis fake pastor to miss lead u!4 God has bless u with a husband don't let fake pastor decide ur destiny if not u will remain in ur father's house till..................................okorokoo
I hate all this My Pastor said this and that. If you so much belief in your faith which I think is Christianity, why can't you ask God yourself. Your Pastor and My pastor are human like you and me, you too can hear from God. What is God telling you?
Mtschew! Fake pastors of Nawadays have ruin many homes and send a lot of pple to early grave. When our mothers got married, there waz nothing like pastors predicting who is someone's husband or not and yet till today, they are still in their husbands house. So where do we learn dis habit of asking pastors to predict who is right and wrong for marriage? Pastor waz on his own and u carry ur 2 left legs to go and ask. So why seeking our opinion now? Wait until angels will come down from heaven and ask for ur hand in marriage. Richyflora what is even ur bizness inside.
Is not that u can't leave the guy???? U r rather afriad of what people would say? My dear u dnt love him enough to marry him.....U shld rather b scared of loosing d love of ur life
You better ask the guy to give you tym to think. Then use that opportunity to seek the face of God. God must surely speak to you and give you signs. My Friend am married now. In fact happily married for that matter. I'm a queen in my home. I had this guy I wanted to marry before I met this my hubby. My cousin who is a Rev. in Anglican Church came to my house to with his colleague to pray for my family. Once they finished, his colleague called me and advised me to seek the face of God before marrying. I should ask God to show me signs. I decided to seek God's face again. I told God to scatter the relationship if is not the real one. My sister, to my greatest surprise the relationship scattered just like that and immediately I met my hubby. Our marriage is still a surprise to us. Because is a beautiful thing. Marriage is sweet when you marry your friend. Don't bother what your friends will say it happens. You won't be the last person this thing will happen too. Please let no one tell you who God has approved or disapproved for you. Go to your God. Seek him, cry to him, let his will be done, let him show you sign, and be patient to hear his voice. If you haven't heard from him or seen any signs pls don't proceed.
Linda you and your pastor confused friend had better pay me for my advise.
All the best. NB:( Remember to be PATIENT TO HEAR FROM GOD) because women want it fast and hot.
We Christian should learn to be prayerful. Stop going here and there looking for who will pray for you. No one can pray for you like yourself. Seek God's face and ask Him what He is saying. He alone has the final say. Our God is not a wicked God; if you are truly His child, he will not give u stone to eat instead of giving u bread. He speaks to His children, but we r too busy sometimes to hear that still small voice especially as it relates to marriage which happens to be the 1st institution he created, He does not joke with that. If you are diligent in keeping His commandments and walking in His ways; He will surely guide you and show you the danger ahead if at all there is. FEAR NOT my dear. Read Psalm 121 and Hebrews 12:2. He will surely guide your path. If really He is not meant for you; my dear, the good news is that, you are not yet married ''A BROKEN COURTSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE'' please walk away; but if after seeking God's face and He gives you peace to go ahead'' PLEASE AND PLEASE DO NOT HESITATE TO GO AHEAD. But for no reason should you keep saying ''what will people say because the only time people gather is to merry with you during the wedding ceremony; after that; you will be left alone to face the reality in marriage. MARRIAGE IS NOT A PART TIME INSTITUTION. Be wise and do the needful my dear
my dear, Take time pray and seek God face. Marriage is an institution where you will not graduate after receiving your marriage certificate. the journey is till eternity but if you know the level of your pastor very well. please kindly adhere to his word God can speak at any time cos he owns the time. its a warning from God ahead of your marriage it might not happen in the next five to eight years but unfortunately so many indication might have been showing up but due to the love in the air you were not sensitive enough. As per the aso-ebi stop it for now and return d ones who have bought your aso-ebi,take a break and seek the face of GOD He will surely provide you a substitute. please try and pray and fast. your God will show you the path.
Ur pastor is not the second-in-command to God coz he is a human being like us. As I am i don't really believe well in prophesies bcos life is very complex bt the only advice i can give u as my sister is to pray fervently by yourself before ur wedding and ask God dt if it is the right man dt God should help u and if he is not, he should lead and direct u.
OH SISTER OBEDIENT!!! I sorry for u, leave him u hear? RUBBISH! dis is wat has misled so many young ladies, waiting for there heaven ordained, connected husband. Abeg how old are u? by d time u reach 40, na u go go propose to any man urself. y dont u pray and fast, tell ur fiancee abt it and keep praying even afta d wedding. wen u old finish, u go pack ur tins go marry d "PASTOR himself... na so my frnd leave 2 correct bobo say becos her pastors say her husband is still on the way
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
You are making sense with these things you have pointed out... she doesn't sound like she has a problem with leaving d guy... d aso-ebi is her main concern.
I am married to a pastor and Ive always begged him not to get involved with foretelling if future partners are right. He listened to me. A young girl who wanted to marry a man came to introduce her bf to my husband and asked for prayer. He felt funny about the guy and saw something like violence around him but since he had promised me not to get involved, he said nothing. The guy turned out to be a wife beater. Luckily, their wedding was just a few weeks away when he showed his true colors and beat the girl black and blue in full public glare of people outside an eatery!!. She didn't need a soothsayer to tell her to call of the wedding! By herself! God takes care of His own children in His own way. I don't believe a Pastor should try and play the role of God in any mans life.
Well said Jay, but I sense she doesn't really love d guy... she ddnt say anything about loving him she only said " it's not like I can't leave this guy".... I think there's more to this story than we know....
God has the final say and is only your faith that will work for you.Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and will obtain favors from God,if you feel you will obtain evil as he said or vice-versa...So my dear God knows about you too and won't let evil befall you ok.Believe you're getting married to the right person and be fervent in prayers.I REST MY CASE
My dear, the bottom line is that you don't love the guy. So I suggest you call it off. If you did, your question would not be about the aso ebi. You would be asking if it is OK to disobey a man of God. But let me assume you do but you are not thinking right. The truth is, when you meet your man, you will know. U will be convinced. But if you have doubts and unspoken fears and you feel uneasy, please let him go. Marriage should not be done out of desperation, fear of the unknown or pity. But if you are convinced he is the one for you, pray about it and go ahead. Your Pastor will not marry you. He didn't show you who your 'real husband' is, so his prophecy in my opinion is incomplete. However, it is better to disappoint your friends than to be disappointed in yourself. All the best
MY dear even the bible said whatsoever is bound in heaven is also bound on earth so my dear i will advice you to declare with your mouth what you want for yourself except you are not sure of the God you serve.
Anonymous said... I quote you.."its not like I cant leave the guy"...I can see you dont love the guy and maybe your relationship didn't undergo any proper courtship. You are not even concerned about the guy or his feeling or anything. U r concerned about money spent on aso-ebi and ur friends! You are wicked so I have no advice for you. July 2, 2015 at 10:47 AM
i read this comment and didn't bother to read any more comments. Very true she is concerned about Aso Ebi not another human beings feelings. If she really loves him , she won't even come here to ask for advice. Selfish Heifer.
My sister, it is a pity, it's obvious in your tone that you don't love this guy in question. From the second to the last statement of you extract it is clear you are nt sure of what you want. My submission: How sure are u about the authenticity of your pastor? I mean to what extent can you defend that God is really using this pastor? You have to think deeply and pray on your own for God to give you total conviction that the said man is/is not your husband before you make your choice. BRAVO
I can tell you first hand that he is not your husband cos God cannot gives him a wife that doesn't love him. So NNE pls take a walk n let the poor guy find his destined wife.
Be very careful oh. Ur pastor may have put jazz in mouth to pronounce those words and by then placing a curse on you. That's why I don't believe in any pastor or go to them . U will need a higher power to avert those curses.
Is your pastor God? How many marriages and marriages to be have many pastors ruined? U want to be the next victim right? If I were u I will go ahead and marry him and keep praying against this so called evil. There is nothing God cannot change. You would only be fast to ruin ur self and change ur mind if you have no faith in God
Depends. If the pastor is known to state prophecies that come true then I would take his word seriously, but if he is just uttering shyt because he can then move ahead with your wedding.
You are so right. Forget the pastor now just take a look at the part where she wrote, "it's not like I can't leave the guy". That to me says it all. You don't love the dude in question sef.
This is on point. I was quite surprised she said she had no problem leaving him. She gave absolutely no thought to his feelings and his own reputation. The Pastor saw well, the marriage would not work. There is no love.
Obedient is better than sacrifice - remember a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Afraid of what to tell your friends is not an excuse to disobey instruction, and Aso Ebi is a use and dump property, are your friend going to partake in whatever disaster that come into your life after the wedding? To crown the whole thing fast and pray very well, let God speak to you, let your parents too join you in the fasting and prayer, even your friends can join you in the prayer. I wish you best of luck.
if actually you love the guy you wouldn't say "its not as if you cant leave the guy", and if you truly love him you don't need anyone to tell you not to marry him because this thing called love is blind, so my dear don't think of what people will say how the will feel if you call of your wedding.so just follow your heart and pray immensely for Gods guidance. with your comment I feel you don't even have bond with him and can also do without him. #useyourhead lady
Your Pastor is not God as such he does not have the exclusive right to force you to desecrate the guy few weeks to the wedding. If you are a borne again, you have direct access to God, you do not need any body as an intermediary. What was your own personal revelation about this from God, Lady, you got to pray hard dont toil with ya destiny. This should serve as a lesson for others too, prayer should come first.
Oh well, I know how confused you may be. Seeking advice from a social blog is not the way to go, cos you would only be more confused by the time you're done reading the posts. Is the pastor in question your pastor? What are his reasons? Did you guys have a courtship, i mean proper courtship with counselling and prayers? Is the guy in question a born-again christian. I was once in your shoes, when I wanted to settle down with my boo (my best friend/boyfriend/sexpartner/lover for 5 years), my parents said he wasnt the right one for me, some pastors said so too, and we were defiant cos there just couldnt be anyone else made for me/him. Infact, we were so close that when any of his family members called him and they couldnt get him, they called me. But to cut the long story short, he just passed away recently. If i had listened to my parents and well-wishers, I wouldnt have gone through the heart break and trauma I passed through. So you have two options: 1) Pray about it, seek an independent pastor that doesnt know you nor the other pastor and open up to him, ask for God's direction, then make a decision. or 2) You discuss with your guy, hear his opinion and if he's up to it, you both commit your marriage into God's hands and prophesy his promises into your lives, then turn deaf ears to what anyone else has to say; and brave yourself for whatever the future holds.
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So so hilarious....
Without apologies I'm most of the time amazed at how ppl reason. Since when did pastors become direct heirs of God n d followers hs grandchildren? Are u meaning to tell me dt u cnt personally seek d face of God n knw what He has to say concerning ur partner? listen dear most pastors hv actually become stone deaf to d voice of God n hv stopd hearing frm Him since 1823. Jesus wnts us to jst ask Him n we hv d answers we seek. PASTOR KO, ALAGBA NI.
Prayer is the key
The voice of God supercedes any speech from what people.
Asoebi shld b d least of ur problems now, I'll advice u pray n fast urself, ask God to let his purpose for u concerning d marriage known to u, dat if he is not d one den let something happen to make u two go separate ways otherwise let notin happen, if possible seek another man of God, mayb another strong pastor of ur church but in a different branch dat doesn't know ur history. If it's all against d marriage den just meet wit ur fiance n break it off in d best way u can, n den to odas u can send a bulk sms of d breakup, but if it favors d marriage den my dear, marry ur fiance n never attend d church dat pastor officiates in, Goodluck n Godbless.
babe u just cnt rely on what ur pastor says, it might be true tho......buh just fast en pray on ur own...u wld definitely get a response from God
MISSVEE
U gon get paused by Menopause if U lose dis guy cuz Ur pastor huz jst a canal man lookin 4 moni like ova 90% of them r doin. 1st, do U even Love dis man to b dis stupid in thinkin of Aso-ebi nd how to tel Ur frnds nd wots not?
Swthrt u did d first thing last and the last thing first. Tel ur friends the truth.
This is very simple sister, take the matter to Almighty God, it's only key to successful marriage ,
Anita Gold...thank you very much. You have spoken my mind.
U gon get paused by Menopause if U lose dis guy cuz Ur pastor huz jst a canal man lookin 4 moni like ova 90% of them r doin. 1st, do U even Love dis man to b dis stupid in thinkin of Aso-ebi nd how to tel Ur frnds nd wots not?
MY DEAR NO MAN AND WOMAN IN THIS LIFE IS PERFECT, YO CAN'T FIND YOUR 100% IDEAL MAN OR WOMAN ANY WHERE IN THIS WORLD, BUT I BELIEVE YOU CAN BUILD THAT MAN OR WOMAN WITH TIME AND ABOVE ALL WITH LOVE, SO I'LL ADVICE YOU GO ON WITH YOUR MARRIAGE IF YOU BOTH ARE TRULY IN LOVE, TAKE THE MARRIAGE TO YOU BF'S CHURCH FOR THE MARITAL BLESSING
You are a Christian and a child of God. Hear God for your self and dont be too lazy to fast and pray or dry fast so God can answer you on time and He will. You should not take the Pastor's words with laxity, either way if you go ahead with the marriage or not without hearing from God yourself, you will constantly live in regrets of the unknown, not knowing what may have happened. But if you sincerely pray and ask God for directions, He will answer you. I advise you to hold your wedding ceremony till you have heard from God. the least of your concerns should be the asoebi your friends bought. Thats quite vain.
All the best
DO NOT LISTEN TO THAT EVIL MAN!!!!
I am almost 40 and stil single because I wasted my life on the wrong man that Pastors and Prophets said was my husband.
They ate my money and deceived me till the man showed me pepper.
They are mere men and will deceive you to hell! Ask God to forgive you and go ahead with your wedding plans.
Pastors have challenges in their own marriages, no perfect marriage out there.And no pastor will tell u who to settle down with, i have seen people pastor said this person is ur wife or ur hubby all ended up in divorce.No man is God there are things God hides from we as human being. Just take it to God in prayers thats my advice.He will direct ur part and guide u. There are a lot of good pastors but in terms of union they have nothing to do for u. The decision is for u to make and pray about.Try and take fear away from your heart. it is well with u. by dobis112@gmail.com
Like I always say some pastors will lead so many souls 2 hell through prophecy.....every prophecy has a solution ad if Dr is non dn run 4 ur life..6days fruit fasting will do justice 2 what ur pastor say...no hussy 4 out side except u are ready 2 stay 4 like 5to 6years courting
Go ahead and marry him, when you are confronted with the result of not listening to God's words, then you will see what your friends will do or tell you. Nonsense!!!
God has the final say and is only your faith that will work for you.Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and will obtain favors from God,if you feel you will obtain evil as he said or vice-versa...So my dear God knows about you too and won't let evil befall you ok.Believe you're getting married to the right person and be fervent in prayers.I REST MY CASE
Haven't you introduced him to your Pastor before now? If yes what was his (your Pastor) view? If no, then you carry your cross because it's your falt.
na wa to you o....so the only thing bothering u if u have to leave your fiance is d asoebi u sold....thats a clear sign u dont really care about d dude...please let him go and find smeone better. as for your pastor...kindly beg him to use the same vision to show u ur destined husband den...u dont even know wat you want sef.
My dear,go on your knees and pray to God yoursel,God speaks to every human being and not pastors alone.if he's not your husband,you will knw..you don't need any pastor to tell you otherwise
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
MOST OF US ARE ALWAYS TOO FAST TO ATTACK REVELATIONS... THE WORD HAS BEEN GIVEN, EVEN IF ITS TRUE OR FALSE...YOU HAVE A WORK TO DO. ...PRAY SERIOUSLY BEFORE TAKING THE NEXT STEP. FORGET ABOUT WHAT YOUR FRIENDS WILL SAY... IF YOU FAIL TO MARRY THE MAN THEY WILL TALK AND IF YOU ALSO FAIL TO HAVE A HAPPY HOME, THEY WILL STILL TALK. SEEK THE PRESENCE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT WHICH IS THE COMFORTER AND CONFIDE IN HIM. WHY DAVID SUCCEEDED WAS BECAUSE HE ALWAYS ENquire FROM GOD. I SAY SO... treasurebis@gmail.com
Don't mind dem, it once happen 2 me nd d lady am suppose 2 get married 2,dis stupid lady listen d her pastor dat am not d rite guy 4 her nd we've been datin since 5 years ago.she suddendly change towards me 4 no reasons,i even proposed 2 her at kfc wit 15 of her friends nd mine,she said YES nd was so hapi.6 months after she found som1 else,i asked her wut d problem was says no problem dat she tinks I should move on wit my life.i really love her.i just left cos she stopped pickin my calls nor comin 2 my house,i rented a 3 bedroom apartment cos of her well furnished.she was now beggin me 2 com back md its already 2 late cos av gotten som1 else.
Are u kidding, did I hear u say u're more concerned about your friends. This speaks volume of the level of love between u two. I believe u know God is not an author of confusion. If truly u love him and u are convinced he loves u too, Please go ahead with the wedding and hand over every other thing to God in prayers.
EVIL WILL BEFALL YOU!!! my GOD doesn't talk that way about His children(if u are,or the fiance)
.My dear sis,but
if truly you are bornagain you will know what to do.WHAT DO YOU THINK? It's your confession to yourself that's the Ultimate.so the ball is actually in your court.Remember #.Everything worketh for our good# even the evils
of the world.God be with you!
u are not yet ready for marriage and am sure u don't even love d guy...becos ur concern is on aso ebi not ur feelings
your pastor or any other person has no right to tell you who your partner is. even in the garden of eden, God didn't choose a wife for adam, adam chose and i can prove it. the bible says that, God brought different animals to adam to see what he would name or call them and he did name them but it was when he caused adam to sleep and took a rib from him and created eve and when adam saw eve, he said this is the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman cos she was taken out of man, so you see...... none CAN AND SHOULD CHOOSE A SPOUSE FOR YOU, YOU CAN ONLY ASK THE HOLYSPIRIT FOR GUIDANCE AND HE WILL HELP YOU. SEARCH DEEP IN YOUR HEART. DO YOU FEEL PEACE DEEP PEACE WHEN YOU THINK OF SPENDING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HIM??? I HOPE THIS WILL HELP YOU.
What if the pastor is seeing that their genotypes are compatible? Should they still go ahead and get married?
Free born or what do you call yourself, pls while on the advise , try making educating urself properly as the manner in which you drop bombshells is very alarming. Abi you no study English Lang for school? Hiaaan!!
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Lol.i like this one,man of faith.this would definitely work too.WE HAVE THE POWER TO COURSE A CHANGE anytime and in all situations.you see my dear sis when u realize who you are even your pastor knows he can't give you any negative prophesy.We are never careful for anything.look if you both are bornagain and your pastor says he sees a mountain,tell that stupid mountain to move away and believe it have,thank the lord and get married dammn It...change church too,don't be a babe that gets delivered every weekend Nooo.thats not God's wish for us.He said by his stripes we were healed .Christ embassy recommended for you.
Dnt follow wat pple will say!cos if @ d end wen d whole tin scatter,will u still be hiding Frm pple
PROPHESY the bible says is for Edification, exhortation and comfort. God does not give you prophesy that brings fear and turmoil into your life.
Go ahead with your marriage
Forget those fake pastors.
4 u to go dis far in sharing asbi dat means u love him! don't allow all dis fake pastor to miss lead u!4 God has bless u with a husband don't let fake pastor decide ur destiny if not u will remain in ur father's house till..................................okorokoo
I hate all this My Pastor said this and that. If you so much belief in your faith which I think is Christianity, why can't you ask God yourself. Your Pastor and My pastor are human like you and me, you too can hear from God. What is God telling you?
Mtschew! Fake pastors of Nawadays have ruin many homes and send a lot of pple to early grave. When our mothers got married, there waz nothing like pastors predicting who is someone's husband or not and yet till today, they are still in their husbands house. So where do we learn dis habit of asking pastors to predict who is right and wrong for marriage? Pastor waz on his own and u carry ur 2 left legs to go and ask. So why seeking our opinion now? Wait until angels will come down from heaven and ask for ur hand in marriage. Richyflora what is even ur bizness inside.
Is not that u can't leave the guy???? U r rather afriad of what people would say? My dear u dnt love him enough to marry him.....U shld rather b scared of loosing d love of ur life
Bullshit
I Need to slap you. You are very stupid!!
You better ask the guy to give you tym to think. Then use that opportunity to seek the face of God. God must surely speak to you and give you signs. My Friend am married now. In fact happily married for that matter. I'm a queen in my home. I had this guy I wanted to marry before I met this my hubby. My cousin who is a Rev. in Anglican Church came to my house to with his colleague to pray for my family. Once they finished, his colleague called me and advised me to seek the face of God before marrying. I should ask God to show me signs. I decided to seek God's face again. I told God to scatter the relationship if is not the real one. My sister, to my greatest surprise the relationship scattered just like that and immediately I met my hubby. Our marriage is still a surprise to us. Because is a beautiful thing. Marriage is sweet when you marry your friend. Don't bother what your friends will say it happens. You won't be the last person this thing will happen too. Please let no one tell you who God has approved or disapproved for you. Go to your God. Seek him, cry to him, let his will be done, let him show you sign, and be patient to hear his voice. If you haven't heard from him or seen any signs pls don't proceed.
Linda you and your pastor confused friend had better pay me for my advise.
All the best. NB:( Remember to be PATIENT TO HEAR FROM GOD) because women want it fast and hot.
God isn't an author of confusion, so go visit another man of God for proper clarification and God help you.
We Christian should learn to be prayerful. Stop going here and there looking for who will pray for you. No one can pray for you like yourself. Seek God's face and ask Him what He is saying. He alone has the final say. Our God is not a wicked God; if you are truly His child, he will not give u stone to eat instead of giving u bread. He speaks to His children, but we r too busy sometimes to hear that still small voice especially as it relates to marriage which happens to be the 1st institution he created, He does not joke with that. If you are diligent in keeping His commandments and walking in His ways; He will surely guide you and show you the danger ahead if at all there is. FEAR NOT my dear. Read Psalm 121 and Hebrews 12:2. He will surely guide your path. If really He is not meant for you; my dear, the good news is that, you are not yet married ''A BROKEN COURTSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE'' please walk away; but if after seeking God's face and He gives you peace to go ahead'' PLEASE AND PLEASE DO NOT HESITATE TO GO AHEAD. But for no reason should you keep saying ''what will people say because the only time people gather is to merry with you during the wedding ceremony; after that; you will be left alone to face the reality in marriage. MARRIAGE IS NOT A PART TIME INSTITUTION. Be wise and do the needful my dear
my dear, Take time pray and seek God face. Marriage is an institution where you will not graduate after receiving your marriage certificate. the journey is till eternity but if you know the level of your pastor very well.
please kindly adhere to his word God can speak at any time cos he owns the time. its a warning from God ahead of your marriage it might not happen in the next five to eight years but unfortunately so many indication might have been showing up but due to the love in the air you were not sensitive enough.
As per the aso-ebi stop it for now and return d ones who have bought your aso-ebi,take a break and seek the face of GOD He will surely provide you a substitute. please try and pray and fast. your God will show you the path.
Ur pastor is not the second-in-command to God coz he is a human being like us. As I am i don't really believe well in prophesies bcos life is very complex bt the only advice i can give u as my sister is to pray fervently by yourself before ur wedding and ask God dt if it is the right man dt God should help u and if he is not, he should lead and direct u.
Fucking pastor; let him tell you who will be your husband since he knows best who will be suitable for you.. He might be interested in you,, LOL
My advice for u is to consult another men of God to verify. But if it's same is better to call off d wedding
Thank you. You hit the nail on the head.
Well said!
OH SISTER OBEDIENT!!! I sorry for u, leave him u hear? RUBBISH! dis is wat has misled so many young ladies, waiting for there heaven ordained, connected husband. Abeg how old are u? by d time u reach 40, na u go go propose to any man urself. y dont u pray and fast, tell ur fiancee abt it and keep praying even afta d wedding. wen u old finish, u go pack ur tins go marry d "PASTOR himself... na so my frnd leave 2 correct bobo say becos her pastors say her husband is still on the way
The most reasonable comment so far....the right answer
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
I understood your predicament I was also there, the truth is that the bible did not asked you to consult your pastor before you choose your husband, God said he who find a wife find a good thing and obtained favour from the Lord not the other way round. Think girl, the devil can use anybody even the pastor.
Better marry your man. Pray for God to bless your marriage period
U hv said it all, I love you jay
You are making sense with these things you have pointed out... she doesn't sound like she has a problem with leaving d guy... d aso-ebi is her main concern.
I am married to a pastor and Ive always begged him not to get involved with foretelling if future partners are right. He listened to me. A young girl who wanted to marry a man came to introduce her bf to my husband and asked for prayer. He felt funny about the guy and saw something like violence around him but since he had promised me not to get involved, he said nothing. The guy turned out to be a wife beater. Luckily, their wedding was just a few weeks away when he showed his true colors and beat the girl black and blue in full public glare of people outside an eatery!!. She didn't need a soothsayer to tell her to call of the wedding! By herself!
God takes care of His own children in His own way. I don't believe a Pastor should try and play the role of God in any mans life.
Well said Jay, but I sense she doesn't really love d guy... she ddnt say anything about loving him she only said " it's not like I can't leave this guy".... I think there's more to this story than we know....
Change your church
God has the final say and is only your faith that will work for you.Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and will obtain favors from God,if you feel you will obtain evil as he said or vice-versa...So my dear God knows about you too and won't let evil befall you ok.Believe you're getting married to the right person and be fervent in prayers.I REST MY CASE
My dear, the bottom line is that you don't love the guy. So I suggest you call it off. If you did, your question would not be about the aso ebi. You would be asking if it is OK to disobey a man of God.
But let me assume you do but you are not thinking right. The truth is, when you meet your man, you will know. U will be convinced. But if you have doubts and unspoken fears and you feel uneasy, please let him go. Marriage should not be done out of desperation, fear of the unknown or pity. But if you are convinced he is the one for you, pray about it and go ahead.
Your Pastor will not marry you. He didn't show you who your 'real husband' is, so his prophecy in my opinion is incomplete.
However, it is better to disappoint your friends than to be disappointed in yourself.
All the best
Best best comment i have ever read. You are one smart chap wow
MY dear even the bible said whatsoever is bound in heaven is also bound on earth so my dear i will advice you to declare with your mouth what you want for yourself except
you are not sure of the God you serve.
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I quote you.."its not like I cant leave the guy"...I can see you dont love the guy and maybe your relationship didn't undergo any proper courtship. You are not even concerned about the guy or his feeling or anything. U r concerned about money spent on aso-ebi and ur friends! You are wicked so I have no advice for you.
July 2, 2015 at 10:47 AM
i read this comment and didn't bother to read any more comments. Very true she is concerned about Aso Ebi not another human beings feelings. If she really loves him , she won't even come here to ask for advice. Selfish Heifer.
my dear, seek from two more prophets or prophetess and speak to God also...regret is a bad thing ooo
My sister, it is a pity, it's obvious in your tone that you don't love this guy in question. From the second to the last statement of you extract it is clear you are nt sure of what you want.
My submission: How sure are u about the authenticity of your pastor? I mean to what extent can you defend that God is really using this pastor?
You have to think deeply and pray on your own for God to give you total conviction that the said man is/is not your husband before you make your choice. BRAVO
Ask your pastor where him keep your husband. lmao
I can tell you first hand that he is not your husband cos God cannot gives him a wife that doesn't love him.
So NNE pls take a walk n let the poor guy find his destined wife.
Perfect answer my dear
Be very careful oh. Ur pastor may have put jazz in mouth to pronounce those words and by then placing a curse on you. That's why I don't believe in any pastor or go to them . U will need a higher power to avert those curses.
Is your pastor God? How many marriages and marriages to be have many pastors ruined? U want to be the next victim right? If I were u I will go ahead and marry him and keep praying against this so called evil. There is nothing God cannot change. You would only be fast to ruin ur self and change ur mind if you have no faith in God
Depends. If the pastor is known to state prophecies that come true then I would take his word seriously, but if he is just uttering shyt because he can then move ahead with your wedding.
Ask God for yourself. The Bible says "work out YOUR OWN salvation with fear and trembling". Phil. 2:12
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You are so right. Forget the pastor now just take a look at the part where she wrote, "it's not like I can't leave the guy". That to me says it all. You don't love the dude in question sef.
I love ur comment. Pastor gave no reasons n she saw no ill behaviour. Some people have no brains
This is on point. I was quite surprised she said she had no problem leaving him. She gave absolutely no thought to his feelings and his own reputation. The Pastor saw well, the marriage would not work. There is no love.
Seriously......pray to God, he will definitely tell u d right thing.
Fake prophets...... In fact all of em are fake
Obedient is better than sacrifice - remember a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Afraid of what to tell your friends is not an excuse to disobey instruction, and Aso Ebi is a use and dump property, are your friend going to partake in whatever disaster that come into your life after the wedding? To crown the whole thing fast and pray very well, let God speak to you, let your parents too join you in the fasting and prayer, even your friends can join you in the prayer. I wish you best of luck.
if actually you love the guy you wouldn't say "its not as if you cant leave the guy", and if you truly love him you don't need anyone to tell you not to marry him because this thing called love is blind, so my dear don't think of what people will say how the will feel if you call of your wedding.so just follow your heart and pray immensely for Gods guidance. with your comment I feel you don't even have bond with him and can also do without him. #useyourhead lady
Your Pastor is not God as such he does not have the exclusive right to force you to desecrate the guy few weeks to the wedding. If you are a borne again, you have direct access to God, you do not need any body as an intermediary. What was your own personal revelation about this from God, Lady, you got to pray hard dont toil with ya destiny.
This should serve as a lesson for others too, prayer should come first.
IF YOU CAN LEAVE HIM AND ITS ASOEBI THAT WANTS TO MAKE YOU STAY THEN THE PASTOR IS RIGHT AND YOU ARE A BIG FOOL
Oh well, I know how confused you may be. Seeking advice from a social blog is not the way to go, cos you would only be more confused by the time you're done reading the posts. Is the pastor in question your pastor? What are his reasons? Did you guys have a courtship, i mean proper courtship with counselling and prayers? Is the guy in question a born-again christian. I was once in your shoes, when I wanted to settle down with my boo (my best friend/boyfriend/sexpartner/lover for 5 years), my parents said he wasnt the right one for me, some pastors said so too, and we were defiant cos there just couldnt be anyone else made for me/him. Infact, we were so close that when any of his family members called him and they couldnt get him, they called me. But to cut the long story short, he just passed away recently. If i had listened to my parents and well-wishers, I wouldnt have gone through the heart break and trauma I passed through. So you have two options: 1) Pray about it, seek an independent pastor that doesnt know you nor the other pastor and open up to him, ask for God's direction, then make a decision. or 2) You discuss with your guy, hear his opinion and if he's up to it, you both commit your marriage into God's hands and prophesy his promises into your lives, then turn deaf ears to what anyone else has to say; and brave yourself for whatever the future holds.
You are inconsiderate to think only about your aseobi and friend without considering the man's feelings, money spent, the shame he would face etc...o girl u had better seek a second or even a third opinion from true men of God and if possible , go with your fiancé .
Pray & fast about it so that God will reveal the secret things to you.
look for a priest to pray n cancelled dat professy n evil dat will before ur marriage
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