I and my husband have been married for just a year and we have a seven months old daughter. She sleeps on the same bed with us because she is restless and cries a lot when she's put in her cot. The thing is, each time we want to make love, she wakes up and watches keenly. I feel very uncomfortable about it but my husband doesn't seem to mind. Please is this OK??
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 315 of 315No! No! No! Stop it, the image of Ʊ and ur hubby making out will stick to her brain, bad things sticks quick nd Ʊ remember very well than good and educative things... Abeg, stop it..
It is absolutely wrong to have sex before a child. One, she respects you both and believes that you are doing the right thing. Two, she is learning too early and too fast. Definitely, she would want to do like mummy and daddy with anyone as soon as she sees the chance. Three, she can be sexually 'abused' but will not see it as abuse, after all, daddy does it with mummy. Please stop now in God's name. It is wrong parenting.
7 months? What could the baby's brain be registering at such an age? Well, what do I know. But hope they don't intend to continue doing it in front of the baby as he/she advances in age.
Lolz ...d gal knos d tym wen d deed is abt to take place....Lil
Personally 7months is big enof!
I dnt tink is right! If she was abit younger , it would av been beta....say like 1-4mnts
It is very unsafe to lie in same bed with toddler, either of you can over-sleep after a long day and roll-on the baby till he/she suffocates at night....Not even about the sex.
Is not ok at all Abi they think sey d pikin no get eyes? Lol
Not okay. Kids learn faster by what they see adults do. Why not get her a seperate room and make a little bed for her. Get a baby monitor (or whatever its called) to alert u whenever she's awake and needs attention.
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It is NOT ok. Kids av photographic memory, whether or not dey knw wat de're seeing it stays in dir mind. B4 u knw it she wil be 1 yr and u'll stil feel she's a child. I guess she sleeps earlier dan u guys so do ur biz early, better still, do it som oda time
Rubbish
Well,its not Ok! Plz let her learn how to sleep in a cot, cos as she's watching u guys,d vision of wat she's seeing will be in a head!
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What a dumb question.
I personally don't know wat to say as I hv a year old and hv always made love wiv him sleepin by my side..weneva he wakes,we stop and postpone.
Not a good idea
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Their sex life is the last thing on that child's mind. She's still trying to figure out how to sit without falling down. She is 7 months old, her brain is not fully developed to comprehend sex. For all she knows they could be playing hide and seek.
Absolutely wrong to make love in front of a kid no matter how young!
It is definitely wrong. Especially since you said she watches while you do it.
It is not Ok o..
It all depends, if you are living in a flat you might relocate to another room briefly when you want to have sex, or go to the Bathroom. Study her well, for now she doesn't understand but as she grows up you need to change tactics or else GOBE....
It is not ok, please put her back to her cot and make her stay there. Infants learn very fast and you will be surprise that she will be displaying what her parent do.
For now (7mnths),she doesn't knw a thing...but once she's of age 1 and above,being careful shld be d right thing to do
it's not right at all, a seven month old is already learning by observation. this is exposing this baby just too early.
He he, put her in d cot!!!
ARE YOU ASKING THAT QUESTION REALLY? PLS STOP BEFORE YOUR DAUGHTER STARTS DEVELOPING.................... PLS JUST STOP IT.
Lol u ve to make her sleep den carry her to her cot
No u have to stop it
4 now is ok but once she get to 1yr old u guys shuldnt try it
I also need answer to that question,i think am d only one dis happens too.
No. Not okay abeg. When she's watching? No abeg. But that baby sef!
hmmm I cnt really say cos am ving same issues. let me read awon comment to mk sense .
Oh nooo! Hell Nooooooo oooo!
Its not ok please
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No
No it is ok.7 months old baby can identify somethings when sees. If a father is shouting to his wife in front of the baby the baby starts crying because she understands tht there is no Luv btw d couple. May God Help Us
U R GIVEN DAT CHILD A MEMORY SHE WILL NEVA FORGET!IT IS TOTALLY WRONG TO DO SUCH A THING IN THE PRESENCE OF A CHILD.PLS NOTE
You reduce your volume during love making.Hahahaha
Capital NO...stop it,dont do dat in front of ur kid frm 4/5 months,they are already very observant and grasp everything happening around them.u don't wanna be d first bad influence on ur own kid!
Good one. I don't think its right and I have no reason.
No it not good.....the baby brain capture and record everything. You guys should wait till the baby is far asleep. I have a 12month old baby my husband and I only Av it when she is deep in sleep we sometimes go to another room.#gift#
Hell No! Not with this generation kids their brain works faster than computers. I have a 4montha old baby and have sex with Boo while shes awake in the room cot or no cot! joyobidike.blogspot.com
I av a 5months old son and I won't do that in front of him, sleeping or not. Put ur baby in her crib even if she cries, she ll end up sleeping. Create a sleep routine for ur baby and make sure to follow same routine everyday and in no time ur baby will be sleeping alone in her crib. There is no excuse sayin bcos ur baby cries that's y u let her sleep in-between u and ur hubby and allow him watch u two get down. It's really not good
not bad
Not acceptable abeg!pls hide. Somewhere if u have to
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It is wrong and should be stopped. Especially not when then child watches on with kin interest.
Please stop that immediately. Please. Immediately.
While the baby is sleeping not when she's wide awake! Come one people
It's wrong my dear, you both can find some place else, I have a 3months old son & we can NEVER do such infront of him, babies are humans too.
its ok until the child is One Year.
I see nothing wrong biko. Besides you can go under the duvet and get naughty if you feel uncomfortable. My son is 2 and we use duvet and still chat with him or distract him with an Ipad in same room.
You and your husband should continue being St##id!! Don't expose that child to unnecessary adult film before she can crawl. Fine she doesn't understand what's going on but what if you take it for granted and keep doing it in front of her when she's 2-3 and she can remember what goes down. Now you have a pervert on your hands who will go to school and introduce other people's children to daddy and mommy activities at age 5 or even 6. My friend, will you allow that baby be an innocent baby if she's watching you guys that's blue film. Put her in another room, or simply go for it when she's asleep and won't wake up. That's why marriage is hard you have to protect your baby from yourself sometimes. PS this one that you say your husband doesn't mind Hmmm me that's a red light oh! God forbid I hope he doesn't try any incestuous behaviour with your child...Mschewww one room living type of people. After all you asked on LIB so I don't bloody care how I've made you feel. Nonsense grow up and be a mother joh...
This is so so Wrong! First it's an abuse, cos she is been exposed to sexual behaviours that her mind can't fully comprehend for her age and gradually she is learning by observations and gradually would start imitating all she has observed. When children are reported to express certain unusual sexual behaviours for their ages, it's usually because over a period of time they have been exposed to such behaviours very early in life. Learning occurs very early in humans and in addition,as psychologist, we know that naturally baby girls are attracted to their fathers and compete with their mothers for attention at very early years without been aware of this. This couple in question should as much as possible stop exposing this little child to this and device other timing and settings to make out.
Totally Wrong my lady
No, it ain't ok, when your child is sexually abused, she may not say, cos she see you do it, and may think it's ok for her to have it. Madam, protect your child. Don't say ur husband don't seem to mind oooo.
My dear...this is so wrong..if she was asleep I will say nothing is wrong. but she watching keenly??? I am sure you dont want ur daughter turning into a dog cos of what she is already exposed to at a young age. Please put a stop to it FAST!
Absolutely not
You need to satisfy your husband and yourself. Your marriage is still very young. I suggest you get someone to take care of her at night just in case you need to get down with your husband. I had the same issue but my mum was there to help.
Plz u guys should stop o, it's very wrong. You might think that the child doesn't know what's going on but somehow it's going to affect that child...u and ur husband should just change ur sex schedule...
No it's not okay. They need to put in more effort in training the baby to sleep on her own.........Well, that's just my opinion
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Hehehehehe bad pikin... D Baby is still sucking... Train yourselves on how 2 stop making noise wen having Sex, u re d one waking d Baby up
It's so not right.children learn faster these days.put a stop to it as fast as you guys can
Come on now, how many of you can recollect memories from when you were 7montga old. The problem is you guys letting her get away with not sleeping in her cot. Babies would try you, SO how long SI you intend on letting her sleep with you. She would soon get to the age where she remembers stuff so train her to sleep by herself then talk can do your thing
It's wrong
Leave them alone
Serub kwa? Biko Nne, it's 'syrup'.
Thank me later!!!
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are so daft wht kind of stupid question is this
Do whatever you feel is right a lot of crazy ppl on here with crazy comments who throw unnecessary insults at people they don't even know! At 7months your child is totally unaware of what is going on around her when she's asleep even adults don't know! But I implore you to try and train her to sleep in her own space as soon as possible otherwise this will continue and before you know it there will be 5 of you in the bed and then goodbye to sexytime with the hubby then he will start to cheat then ul be asking us Lib readers a different question lol a stitch in time saves 9
My dear it's not an insane story....its real and my husband and I make love with my daughter on the bed but the difference is that my baby is always asleep and we stop as soon as she wakes up.
It is not ok o....
The child must be a witch to always wake up when you guys are enjoying yourselves. But at that infantile age he/she will not remember anything, though you guys should be careful.
U are just an ignorant mumu.
If she's awake and watching you, dear is very wrong . I SAID VERY VERY WRONG .
I know sex is the foundation and completion of every marriage but please adjust your timetable .
If she can tell who mommy is then she'll remember those days . I still remember the day a 8 mouths old baby said I LOVE YOU MOMMY to the mom, I nearly dropped the medication I was about giving her .
Guess what ? She did what her family does, said feel .
I'm a nurse, kids are very unpredictable , not talking is different from don't understand .
I write from experience , when I give kids medications they don't like, they become highly uncomfortable when i'm in same space with them because they see me as a wicked step-mom ,and it's registered in their brain,even when we meet at the mall, outside the hospital and without my scrub !
Please make it stop , you're hurting that child.
If she wakes EACH TIME YOUR HUBBY COMES FOR YOU, THEN SOMETHING IS WRONG !
Is like a magnet or a click that wakes her to watch .
You didn't give her reaction or behaviour during and after watching you .To tell you the truth, I'm very down and sad right now for reading this .
Please make it stop dear .
Goodluck .
Ahahahahahahah
Exactly. . The husband must be a paedophile
Stupid comment...if u knw u av nothing reasonable to say,why dont u just STF
STF up fool
Princess it's not good to give medication for d wrong reason.. Plz apply your 3 checks systems and 7 rights when administering medications.. Thank u
I concur
What do you mean by must they make love? So because she has a baby she should neglect her hubby?Please say something else.
Lol
Lol
she cries cos she thinks mummy and daddy are fighting.
I read as many of the comments as I could. Most commenters are grossly ignorant. At 7months..a baby barely even knows the parents literally. The attachment to the mum is cos of breastfeeding mostly. At that age a baby has the cognitive capacity of a goldfish. Scientifically there is no way a baby of that age can neither make any sense of nor possibly remember such in latr life. You people fellow Nigerians should read more
I read as many of the comments as I could. Most commenters are grossly ignorant. At 7months..a baby barely even knows the parents literally. The attachment to the mum is cos of breastfeeding mostly. At that age a baby has the cognitive capacity of a goldfish. Scientifically there is no way a baby of that age can neither make any sense of nor possibly remember such in latr life. You people fellow Nigerians should read more
I read as many of the comments as I could. Most commenters are grossly ignorant. At 7months..a baby barely even knows the parents literally. The attachment to the mum is cos of breastfeeding mostly. At that age a baby has the cognitive capacity of a goldfish. Scientifically there is no way a baby of that age can neither make any sense of nor possibly remember such in latr life. You people fellow Nigerians should read more
I read as many of the comments as I could. Most commenters are grossly ignorant. At 7months..a baby barely even knows the parents literally. The attachment to the mum is cos of breastfeeding mostly. At that age a baby has the cognitive capacity of a goldfish. Scientifically there is no way a baby of that age can neither make any sense of nor possibly remember such in latr life. You people fellow Nigerians should read more
Nothing is wrong with that. Scientists can prove further that he senses are not developed yet. They are simply modified.
What kind of stupid talk is that?
Is unfair...
Must u make love! She said.
The both of you should quietly move and go somewhere else. Make sure you don't wake the baby up. She is still a baby but if you both keep doing that consistently, it might affect the baby negatively.
Fuck fuck couple
You just made no point. How can u say, must they make love? Dnt think u re okay. So because they've got a 7months old daughter they shouldn't make love. The only think I expected of u to say it dat it's wrong making love in her presence because children learns very fast nd it's nt advisable
You and your husband 've no shame.
I support Ur point.
So u rather starve ur husband I guess?
No they shouldn't, hypocrite.
God bless you...
Anyway, i do not think its that bad, for in as much as shes just 7 months old, the couple should always ensure the light is off anytime they wants to have sex
No, it is not OK.
""each time we want to make love, she wakes up and watches keenly"".
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.....
that's not a baby, u got an old woman watching you.
i do it also but i dont kwn if its wrong o bcos e dey sweet us die.
If they must make love while the baby is on the bed, they could put off the light, because kids of these days are so curious, sharp and intelligent regardless of their age.
It is very wrong, u can never imagine what the heart of a child comprehends, only that they don't talk. Remember, Kids learn easily and they tend to practice every little thing they see you do.Parents be careful, what you do in front of your kids, they may practice it wrongly.
Continue until u shoot d baby dead wit ur kakaaaki...
I would say, If u have another option of where to keep the baby while making love, pls do, even if its in her cot but if ders no option, then go on but not for long please. It has to stop before she even gets to one year cos from one, its obvious they understand certain things that cant be wiped off their memory. Again u musnt make love on that bed where she/he is sleeping knowing it would defo wake the baby. U can always look for another location. Wisdom and caution is what u need!
Its very wrong
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She's just a baby. She knows nothing. Maybe your sexual noise use to wake her up and she will be looking at her mum in a playing mood expecting you to carry her and play with her, that's all. She knows nothing at all. Don't spoil your mind with such thought, most babies like sleeping with their parents. Is not a big deal.
THE POINT IS CHILDREN LEARN BY COPING, SO DON'T BE SURPRISED IF STARTS DOING THOSE THINGS SHE HAS SEEN YOU GUYS DO.
IS BETTER YOU DO NO SUCH THINGS IN HER PRESENCE
She's just a baby. She knows nothing. Maybe your sexual noise use to wake her up and she will be looking at her mum in a playing mood expecting you to carry her and play with her, that's all. She knows nothing at all. Don't spoil your mind with such thought, most babies like sleeping with their parents. Is not a big deal.
She's just a baby. She knows nothing. Maybe your sexual noise use to wake her up and she will be looking at her mum in a playing mood expecting you to carry her and play with her, that's all. She knows nothing at all. Don't spoil your mind with such thought, most babies like sleeping with their parents. Is not a big deal.
you just teaching her to be a porn start when she sees that u enjoy it so much she would 2 enjoy it when she is of age kindly stop it
Common people at 7. Month Wat does she know? Wat can she remember, she is 7 month and not 7 yrs.
How can she be scared for life, If she's not going to remember. Scientifically, it is impossible for her to remember. So it is not going to "scar" her.
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