Dear LIB readers: My ex left me to marry another woman because of how much I earn
From a female LIB reader
My ex-boyfriend and I had a conversation yesterday about the reason he dumped me four years ago to marry another girl he'd started dating about two years after we started dating. My ex and I started dating in 2008, but by early 2010 he met another woman who he married nine months later. He broke up with me just four months before the wedding. I was so hurt and devastated that for three years I would not give another man a chance. I didn't have closure because I was tormented by why he chose another woman over me. Eventually we had the conversation yesterday after we met at a mutual friend's wedding on Saturday. What he told me was shocking. He said he loved me more but decided to marry the other lady because she earned more than I did. I was earning N85k at the time while the lady was earning N250k. He figured an extra N165k was enough reason to marry her. How is this even a reason to marry? Are some men this small minded? Is this a genuine reason or he just said it to throw me off? I wanted closure but this has made me more confused.
Hmm, some broke ass lazy guys would choose a richer woman, but for me I think it's jst a reason, he probably was tired alrdy. So is he happy? Try n move on wit u life, this is 2014 gf.
The guy is an ASSHOLE! U just see it as an act of God. What if u two were already married before he decided to marry another lady? Thank God for ur life.
My dear don't be confused but be grateful to God that the marriage didn't happen cos that guy neva loved you from day 1, he's just a jerk ass opportunist.
Sorry lady. Don't be shocked. We humans marry for the weirdest of reasons. The issues starts when the reason we marry isn't solid and fails to make us happy anymore.
Sweetheart... closure is overrated. Some people stop living because they're too busy chasing closure.. Whatever reason someone has for cheating on and subsequently leaving you is a reflection of who they are not who you are. And for a reason as stupid as money?... you dodged a bullet, it's clear this one is a small minded liability!
I wonder what will happen to that marriage when his better earning wife isnt so rich anymore... See how pple just love to mess things up with their hands.
Sorry girl.He dosent deserve for so many reasons.First,he was cheating on you while you were dating him.Secondly,he is a gold-digger.And lastly,he left you because God has better plan for your life.So be strong.It is well
Don't let that confuse u honey, ppl marry for diffrent reasons, sum r so stupid u won't believe, my neighbour married his wife cus of her eyes, says he wnts his kids to hv such eyes, sadly for him they took his eyes.... So forget that ur Ex, he's Expired, dnt waste anymre time, thr r sensibl guys also.
Rubbish...how can a man live on a woman?what happens if the woman goes down to zero level or lost her job?will he run out of the marriage?he is just a shameless man and he even has the gut to tell you that was why he left you!olojukokoro oshi
He doesn't deserve you dear. Was surprised when I opened the blog and saw this post. I just had my launch at a restaurant with and a friend and we joked how I left a very good girl during my NYSC days coz she doesn't know what siesta is. And the man overheard our conversation and told me "if you eve meet any good girl that is as low as 30% tushed, don't let her go help her grow,good girls are very rare. And that made me regret my action years ago. Dear moveon you don't deserve a man like him,you deserve someone who loves you no matter how weighty the sentiment is.
Lol. The reason he gave you simply means he never loved you, so be happy he even left you, because a man that truly loves you will not tell you that, will not leave you because you are earning less than another woman, as if you will be the bread winner of the family
Sorry dear, seems u were dating a broke ass nigga den. How much was he even earning at dat time. Such a flimsy excuse to dump a gal. My dear move on with ur life already.
Aren't you better off without this kind of person? Move on already! Good riddance to bad rubbish. Wonder what the other lady will be going through in his hands.
Well, am sure he never loved you. Coz if he did, definitely he was going to stick with you. Money is not everything in a relationship. But then again it's also important. Move on plz
Why on earth wil tel ur boy frnd hw much u earn in a mnth.Is he ur husband? A man who truly luvs u wil nt mind hw much u take as a pay b4 hw mk up his mind 2 marry u
He lied to you that he love u. This guy never loved u. He didn't marry her coz she makes more money, he married coz he love her more than loves you. Why date a guy for more than a yr if he ain't ready to marry u. I am sure he married her coz she must be to no nonsense type that won't be there for him for more than a yr. he knows he culd keep u for 10 yrs and u won't ask questions or issue threats abt leaving the relationship, guys don't respect weak minded girls.
My dear, this has absolutely nothing to do with you. You were dating a bitch and an opportunist. Be glad you dodged the bullet because you would have been stuck with the low life. His wife is probably experiencing what you would have been going through. Thank God for rescuing you jare.
There are many great men out there. You dont have to understand his reasons for leaving the relationship in order to get the closure you need. Put God first & love yourself enough to move forward. Learn from this & dont block your blessings because of what that sick boy did to you. You have one life to live. Enjoy it to the fullest. All the best.
Am sure your boyfriend is a typical Yoruba man, statistically speaking they are the only ppl that marry a girl because of her pocket. Please move on an forget that douche.
You should sincerely go to your church on sunday and do a thanksgiving for Deliverance from this type of materialistic person. You are a woman of value and any man that is not okay with you, the exit door is opened.
That's no excuse! When next you see your 'small minded' ex in a party, don't look behind your shoulders and if he's ahead look straight at him and don't say hi tlk more of having conversations with him. My dear you have to let go of d betrayal you feel and forgive the fool without his consent. Until you do so, he's still stealing from you'.
My dear dnt be confused,guys r gettn wiser.ladies will say I cnt marry a guy witout 6 figures,n u tink d gud lord wont mk tyns turn around 2 bite y'all?sori dear he jus did d math n he figure he is beta off wit d oda lady.karma is such a bitchhhhhh
Don't blame 9ja guys with their actions wen its come to relationship. The country economy change their plan and goals. ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥
My dear...you should be happy that God cleared him out of the way for you. Can't you seeeeeee what I am seeeing?? He is a Pauper. He is a leech. He is here to suck on your income not love you. He is scared you earn little as he can't Carter for both of you. Move on. Well I understand your emotional issues...like...''about to wed and then this''...babe...fogerritt. He is in love with money not you. OkBye.
Men of nowadays are even the gold diggers. Its no longer a women thing. A man who marries for 'Blue passport' or 'Red passport'. There are so many of them out there. Always looking for the next best available girl. My dear, such men dont deserve forgiveness.
Awon GOLD diggers...............Then end up marrying women who will show them pepper
Guess he is a Broke Ass,Focusless Gold Digger or he is self employed and wants some security incase business doesn't do well... Either way,that isn't good enough,so Madam,now that u found closure,please move on and do good for ur self.
You should thank your God that he left you when he did and brace yourself up because he's not worth that stress you gave (or still giving) yourself. I can tell you that if that reason was truly why he left you, then he will still leave this new one he married when he finds another finer and richer babe with huger income. Be happy with yourself and your income, at least you are gainfully employed and receiving an amount which is better than stealing or some other source of income. Open up your mind for another better relationship with your head ( not your emotions)and divine direction.
My dear wah do u want us 2 do with ds ur story now. He has married her so stop being confused and move on cs all ds years dt has passed hasnt md u younger.
Its true o.i'v nd yes there are men still dat shallow minded.nd wat I keep askin is wat happens 2yrs down d lane nd she looses her 250k job nd by den I alredy move farther dan he can evn imagine....as much as I think a man shld marry a girl based on d fact dat shes skilled,schooled nd can contribute to d family in d future,it shouldnt be on''how much she earns''pls.cos she myt not hav dat job longer dan dey got married.dumb excuse if u ask me....
Don't be confused, darling. Most guys out there are just pricks. They are lazy but want respect. My friend's husband left cos according to him she is not as rich as he thought. Do you really want that prick as a husband? You obviously are desperate and desperate people make poor decisions. Relax. Good things happen when u least expect.
It's not really about the money. Presently, I have two women in my life, one I will call. The first has a good job, well paid and all, earns more than me at the time,( though she doesn't know my financial status has appreciated past hers, all because I don't flaunt it), the second doesn't even have a job as I write. They love me no doubt in their own ways but I have decided to go with the second. At some point I wanted to go with the 1st but I asked myself few questions, and I realized it's not about the money but marital happiness. I have decided to break up with the first and get married to the 2nd. If she asks me in the future my reason for walking away, I will simply tell her that she always wanted to control me as she did show it and even said it once " No man can tell me what to do with my money "
God delivered you. Thank God for his mercies. What happens if (God forbid) his current spouse loses her job? He'll leave her for someone with better earning power? U r not mmissing out on anything by not being with him o jare!! someone better will come along. Stop holding onto your past.
Wow. This is surprising to hear. The man is superficial and looks like he is depending on a woman to make him comfortable when it should be the other way around. It's a good thing you didn't marry him. Sometimes God allows things to happens for certain reasons. So that means that if your ex ever met another woman that made significantly more than his current wife he may cheat on her for the money. Or does is mean when his current wife has to stop working to raise their kids he may leave her if they have financial difficulty? Who knows? This is a blessing in disguise dear poster.
Wow. This is surprising to hear. The man is superficial and looks like he is depending on a woman to make him comfortable when it should be the other way around. It's a good thing you didn't marry him. Sometimes God allows things to happens for certain reasons. So that means that if your ex ever met another woman that made significantly more than his current wife he may cheat on her for the money. Or does is mean when his current wife has to stop working to raise their kids he may leave her if they have financial difficulty? Who knows? This is a blessing in disguise dear poster.
Wow. This is surprising to hear. The man is superficial and looks like he is depending on a woman to make him comfortable when it should be the other way around. It's a good thing you didn't marry him. Sometimes God allows things to happens for certain reasons. So that means that if your ex ever met another woman that made significantly more than his current wife he may cheat on her for the money. Or does is mean when his current wife has to stop working to raise their kids he may leave her if they have financial difficulty? Who knows? This is a blessing in disguise dear poster.
Linda, I don't know about Nigeria, but in the USA a woman as beautiful as you wouldn't have to worry about guys dumping you for other women because the other WOMAN makes more money. In the US, the guy doesn't live off of the woman. Just remember that.
sorry, some people are that shallow. i have been there where a guy left me without any reason. i called like a million time, asked question, i even thought there was something wrong with me, that i was not good enough, lost my self esteem but one day i looked at myself in the mirror, built up my self esteem, my confidence, realized it was his loss and my gain. and today I'm a happy girl cos I'm better. forget him and move on, keep developing yourself, u will be happy in the end. from a caring heart.
This same issue happened to my sister. while she was working in the bank as a graduate trainee she was earning 100k and her BF of 4 years, along the line met another lady who was working at shell. Hmmmmmn to cut the long story short, this guy dumped my sister after 4 years and went ahead to marry the Oil & Gas lady. My sister was so hurt and very heartbroken that she even placed a curse on the guy. after some years she met this guy again and they exchanged contact, then she asked him that why did he leave then and he said it was because he met his present wife who works in an oil company and earns so well so he had to SECURE his future with her CHAI!!!!!!..................
Just last month, this same guy that dumped my sister to secure his future with his oil and gas wife called my sister and was begging her to loan him 50k. My sister was shocked and was so surprised that he even had to gut to ask her for money. that is what we call KARMA.
The oil &Gas wife treats him like trash and he dosent even have a say in his own home. He's presently begging my sister for forgiveness....But that is old story now, My sister is married to an awesome guy who treats her like GOLD
All you guys who go around doing GOLD DIGGER and claiming you love the girl but deep inside your mind u know ure in the relationship becos of monetary gains or becos the girl has rich parents........hmmmmmmmmmn WE HAVE WHAT WE CALL KARMA...
You cant hurt an innocent girl, dump her after stringing her along for several years and you think God wont JUDGE your ASS.
LWKMD!!!!!!! My ex also left me to marry an Nigerian/American girl because of papers. Now, i heard the girl has thrown him out of the house. He went for his masters in the US and broke up with me after 6years. He got married to the girl just 9 months after meeting her.
I laughed so hard when i heard the girl has thrown him out and seized his passport.
This is the past so move on, what good shall it do you to keep pondering on this. And yes some men are still that shallow minded, some men have preference for women who are working and making their money in a big way
Talking of small mindedness, it is the fault of women. Nigeria women believe that a man must do all things for them even when they have the means to help themselves. The higher earner woman will definitely demand less from this guy man. Nigerian women need to change their marital orientation. A friend of mine before marrying made it clear to his wife that he must control all monies in the family. Infact he collects the wife,s salary and give her the one she needs for personal effects in the month. www.nigeriasnooker.com
Abeg forget about him and move on!he is a gigolo.just thank your starts that God delivered you from a stypid man.am sure if he meets anor lady earning more dan the present wife he wil definitely file for divorce.abeg move on jawe
Men ehnnnnnnnnnnnnn they are after money more than we women ooooooooo.
They dont mind dumping a good girl for a bad girl as long as she is loaded with money and she has a bright future But they always suffer for it eventually.
That is how one of my male friend dumped his 3yrs girlfriend after he met another babe who has rich parents. Naso dem dey do.
This is not a matter2discuss at all. Why are u brooding over sth dat has happened? U shd be looking at d way 4wd and not bore us wit dis kind of story. Can't u just see dat he got tired of u, he wasn't just into u anymore so he gave u such stupid excuse and u stupidly believed him. In d end u won't like d comments u'll get 2 read frm pple cos I for instance dnt see how ur story can improve my luv life. Linda must u post every rubbish about relationships. Pls post only stories dat pple can benefit from. Wats's d lesson 2 learn to learn frm dis kind of story Linda?
Stupid question! Your self esteem badt big time. Ol gel, keep closing doors to other men in your life bc of one stupid gigolo man and you will be single forever, you hear me so. Granted its nice to have closure, but not seeing other people bc you were hurt? You must be a teenager. In this Nigeria too? You sound like you have low self esteem, insecurity issue. Big one even. Ol gel, you should have found your self a hot, good looking, good money for pocket guy and parade le boo in front of your ex make him head scatter. Girl, you are a learner, better wise up, sharp sharp. If you dey block prospects because of something this childish, if he cheats on you, steal your money, reject your baby come marry your sister or best friend or your mama, wetin you go do? Become a nun? Lol...
My dear just move on, you are causing more problems for yourself by dwelling on this, the fact he could leave you for that reason means he was not good enough for you, trust God to bring someone much much better.
My dear all the so called old Bachelors in lagos and Benin city, are look for a lady who is working and earning big to marry. Ladies, if u r going into any relationship, look out for this signs. * He will ask what u do for a living the 1st day he met u. *He will ask for ur age on ur 1st date. *He wants to know ur salary. *if u tell him u are job hunting, his attitude will change. Most Guys needs to be feed with lies to see their through colour. Ladies, learn how to put men on test, during ur 1st one week of outing. Men lie just to get in between ur legs. Open ur eyes and start feeding some vampires with lies too.
There are sides to this: 1. He said it to throw you off. Meaning he is either ashamed or not bold enough to admit the truth. Not sure you want to be with that kind of person. Only good reason for this approach is where the true reason could really hurt you and he is trying to be considerate and protect your emotion. Yet, for me, this still isn't acceptable as its best to tell you so you can fix the issue with your next relationship.
2. He told you the truth. If he did tell you the truth then he is indeed shallow. If it was a woman that leaves a man for such a reason, we'd be quick to call her names. I wonder if his wife knows him as a shallow gold digger. Either way, time to move on. You sound d like a great chick. Please, give your heart another opportunity to love and a good man an opportunity to experience you.
Your ex must be Yoruba lol ( no offense intended). That’s how one idiot was about to hook my warri cousin because her father was loaded. We caught he red handed. A Yoruba man would always marry a Yoruba girl. If there marry outside, am sure that omo ibo has money or her father is loaded. (No offense intended just the truth)
This guy is not worth it in any way. Pls ask God to help u heal and move on with ur life. Leave ur heart open and give others a chance. U might neva know. Trust me, u will look back and say "thank God d fool didn't marry me".
He doesn't love both u, if he did love u, he never would have left u no matter what u earn. (Any single naija babe in the u.s here? My email krisoseki0024@gmail.com)
Had it been its the lady sincerely I wouldn't have blamed her but for a guy to leave a girl because she didn't earn much shows how shallow minded some guys can be. Not that you're not working but because other lady earn than you is very ridiculuous! Poverty of mind is really a bad thing.
LOOK FOR SHARED VALUES, DON'T GIVE UP. You've heard it from the horse's mouth, what are you still contemplating? Some marry for money, some marry for love, some marry for respect, some marry for kids, all of the above, some of the above . . . different strokes for different folks. What difference does it make whether men are shallow or not? Women have been marrying for money for centuries. People's needs are different. You both were not on the same page, and YOU got a lucky escape, try and use sound judgement next time and look out for someone who shares your own values, that all. -AE.
LOOK FOR SHARED VALUES, DON'T GIVE UP. You've heard it from the horse's mouth, what are you still contemplating? Some marry for money, some marry for love, some marry for respect, some marry for kids, all of the above, some of the above . . . different strokes for different folks. What difference does it make whether men are shallow or not? Women have been marrying for money for centuries. People's needs are different. You both were not on the same page, and YOU got a lucky escape, try and use sound judgement next time and look out for someone who shares your own values, that's all. -AE.
Sit down there dey look 4 genuine reason or whether he just said it to throwu off. Babe, u berra give urself d closure u need. Cos dat dude was afta ur cash even if u tink the reason no genuine rich. Move on, he is married abi u want make he come marry u ni?
Bona, na rocket you launch or na food you chop for lunch? We do things that are stupid when we r young and didn't know any better. But when you are older and you do stupid stuff, mmmmh, you are on your own on that one.
All of you fucking hypocrites should shut up your stinky mouths here. So what if he left her because of money, like you freaking gold digging whores don't dump guys cause of money all the time. Pls don't be stupid, he didn't see her financial status good enough for him so he bounced. Move on aunty, it happens all the time. Urrgghhh! fucking sexist world we live in...
I believe him. Most lazy men that ascribe to Independent women, would marry a womn with good salary to help out in the home. Not saying there is anything wrong in earning a good salary as a woman....but if a man wants to marry me cos of that, don't dream you'll be spending my money. You should be glad you are rid of the lazy oaf.
Gbam... bestestest answer so far. Nigerian women, dating people for 4 yrs, 7 yrs, ogini? Why? Na after 4 yrs, this one dumped you, gave you some shitty reason bc he's looking like, we r at a wedding and you came to corner me at a wedding to ask me something I don't even recall why I did. You got what you wanted to hear. I would have said bc you were stupid for holding on this long to something that happened a while ago, thats why I broke up with you. Silly post.
Some guys re actually dependent on ladies financial success... D guy is a p**** . Lady move on and count ursef lucky u didn't marry him, u wil find some1 better that loves evritin abt u.
I dated a guy like that. Always putting me down because I was still working on my MSc. He was always flaunting girls he had met at work earning good money. It didn't take me long to realise that even if I got a good job after sch that will not change his attitude towards me and money. I played his ass and dumped him.
Dear bonario dis is d best tin u hv said dis year “dont let her go help her grow" well said some guys are so shallow minded wen u are not d maker of her life
He didn't love you enough. That is a dumb excuse, the guy is an idiot. But come, you knew he was with another girl but still stayed with him??? What is wrong with Nigerian girls??!!
My dear its the same story as myself. One particular guy was looking to settle down and was pestering me that he wanted to marry me, bought me stuff and was really trying to reel me in. We lost touch and I eventually met up with him when he was already married. The guy told me that well at the time, he had two choices that I was tall and his on-off girlfriend was tall and he decided that if either of us declined his proposal he will just marry the other person. I met him about two years ago again and this time he had a string of girlfriends while married to his wife. When I spoke to him about cheating on his wife he told me that. Man must not leave by bread alone and his wife was far away from him at that time and he needed to keep body and soul together. Praise the Lord!!! I didn't marry dat Mofo!! so my dear count yourself blessed!!
Bonario. .. I'd have left you cos you're still saying siesta in the 21st century... morale of the story? Even your high horse is someone else's footstool...
Must there be a reason to dump someone? I don't want again no go suffice? What if the rich person is also a better fit? Or the girl with papers what he always wanted. No body ever told you all is fair in love and war?
For me o, if you rather be elsewhere, then get to stepping.
Hmmm.so much to learn here.I've been cheated,battered and wounded just like u before dear.but I encouraged myself and moved on with my life.serving God and doing my own thing.I prayed,fasted and was even thinking God might not like me enough anyway.but a day came and now,I'm married to the best and sweetest man.wait on God,serve him,build ur self esteem and be cool.When is or time,it wil be ur turn. Forget dat cheat.he'll need ur help soon.u're too beautiful to be trampled upon. U're the smile. Be happy OK??
We have dogs, opportunists, people with no sense of value, or warped sense of value in both sexes. Thank God that He removed this mad man from your life.
Many see marriage as an escape, somewhere to eat from. A few see it as a life time journey of two partners to work and create a family that God will be pleased with.
Thank God for your life, hope you have found that great person
Well nt surprised cos my ex who then was a Sunday sch leader left me for a lady whose father works in chevron bcos of money. Some guys are like dat they hav little or no faith in their destiny. Abeg rejoice cos God saved u from that hopeless. guy. #SI#
He is a woman rapper and materialistic. Thank GOD he left you because it is obvious that he is a lazy man that is relying on his wife income for sustenance.
my dear forget. d bastard and I agree he must b YORUBA was married to a leech d bloody gigolo almost killed me married his kind bcos of money she does lace twins. he has wants coming his way and I smile. Thank God for his way of escape for u
I really dnt understand what all u guys are going on about. If I understand the story well, the guy had a choice to make between two girls he was dating and decided to use various yardsticks to make his decision.
Imagine the tables were turned, and it was the girl trying to choose. Your guess is as good as mine. As much as trivial things lile standard of living, family affluence shldnt be a standard for love, you wld only be a fool if u dnt factor them all in, especially wgen torn between 2 ladies u equally love, or hopd on the same level.
The guy is correct guy. He had to trade up. Because it is a woman everyone is calling the guy a bad name. He is my hero. He saw a better option and moved on. Women do it all the time. Cry me a river! The guy is the ultimate dude. This news just made my day.
People marry (or un-marry) for different reasons; love usually being a distant consideration. The guy made a choice he felt best suited to his circumstances. It may work. It may not. Good luck to him. You should make a CHOICE to put the episode where it belongs: in the past, and live life. "All is fair in love and war".
I like the guy..Sorry to say. Thats how you women treat us guys. You go for highest bidder. Thats how it feels when you ladies sample guys based on materials. Guys should emulate this. If the whole world can adopt this standard, may be our ladies will sit up and choose based on their heart and not guys pockets
My sister, thank God for His mercy towards you and how he delivered you from this small man. From what you have said the woman he married may not be his last bus stop. If he finds another lady that ends higher, the guy go port o! My sister please move on and meet the true man that God has kept just for you. That small man was NOT your husband.
to the guys...do well to make your money . do not marry because of money that's not a reason enough. i can tell you that, the girl will only insult you if she finds out she earns or has money more than you do....it will only takes a God fearing girl to be submissive and respectful even when she has all.A friend of mine told me how he has been providing for his family all the years he was married to his wife until things went bad. The wife turned around to ask him what he did with his money? u can imagine. this was a dude that has been all and about taking care of everything and everybody.
I HAVE QUESTIONS BEFORE I DISH OUT MY SINCERE OPINION. HOW MUCH DOES THE GUY EARN?
I AM 100% SURE THAT MAY BE THE REASON FOR THE BREAK UP. I ONCE INTRODUCED A GUY TO MY FRIEND AND HE ASKED ME HOW MUCH SHE EARNS AND I WAS LIKE I DON'T KNOW. AND HE SAID HE CANT DATE A GIRL NOT EARNING OVER 200K NOT TO TALK OF MARRYING HER. SO MEN OF THESE DAYS CONSIDER ALL ANGLES BUT FORGET THE FACT THAT THE EARNER TODAY MAY BE THE LOSER OR TOMORROW AND VICE VERSA. LOVE THESE DAYS IS OUT OF THE WINDOW IS MORE OF CONVINCE SHA lOVE EXIST FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME WITHOUT SHALLOW MIND.....TO BE HONEST HOW MANY WOMEN TODAY WHO WOULD MARRY A GUY EARNING 85K IF THE TABLE WERE TURNED AROUND? ANOTHER FRIEND OF MINE IS SO PICKY OF MEN BECAUSE SHE WANTS A RICH MAN ,..... YOU THINK SAY RICH MAN GO WAN MARRY U WITH YA 85K? WE ALL NEED TO BE REALISTIC AND CALL A RAT A RAT AND NOT A BUUUSUUU. I AM A FEMINIST AND BELIEVE IN MAKING MY OWN MONEY. LIKE U EXPECT LINDA TO SETTLE FOR SOME 200K EARNER WHEN SHE IS ROLLING IN MILLIONS .... ABEGI BABE MOVE ON. MY EXPERIENCE LOOK FOR A HARD WORKER AND MARRY...U NEVER KNOW TOMORROW HE MAY BE ROLLING IN MILLIONS OF POUNDS LIKE MY BOOOOOO. FAITH IS THE KEY BABE. CATCH ME IF U CAN RUNNING AWAY.
LAZY MAN....THE GUY IS A GOLD DIGGER..GOD FORBID THE DAY DAT LADY LOSES HER JOB WILL BE THE END OF HAPPINESS IN DAT MARRIAGE...OLE OKURIN.. WETIN MAKE ME WEY MY WIFE DEY EARN 75 K AND I HAVE THE OPTION OF MARRYING SM1 THAT EARNS LIKE 300K A MONTH BACK DEN? BUT 1 NEEDS TO CONSIDER HAPPINESS AND COMPATIBILITY IN MARRIAGE OVER MONEY.AND AS GOD WILL HAVE IT I EARN 316K A MONTH NW I DONT EVEN LET HER SPEND HER OWN SALARY COS AM THE MAN HERE..LIKE MY PAPA SAYING THAT A MAN THAT TAKES CARE OF HIS WIFE MONEY WISE AND BED WISE NA HIM DEM DEY CALL HUSBAND..SMILES..
well i Had a bobo who wanted me to do the spending when he had no job...i was glad to assist him ...with some change on loan bases ooo... now he goes behind me n cheats and refused to pay me i grabbed his gold chain necklace worth 5 times what he owes me ... and i kicked him good bye i dont respect me who like to take advantage. u know what he married a babe who forced herself on him and she has ended up being the bread winner of the family. she pays the rent , feeds the child and fuels his ride... what a joker. All he uses his cash to do is form one kin nonsense big boy in Abuja and treats his wife like dirt. well she asked for it. am happily married to a man that cares not about my earnings but i insist on contributing as necessary. So you see life helps you off a ditch but most times we want to fall into it desperately. SO BABES DUST AND MOVE ON.
My dear sister thank God that you did not end up with such a poverty minded man, women always make mistakes when it comes to marriage, you never sit back and actually ask your self some hard questions why a man really wants to marry you. Let me describe that man you were dating, very lazy and covetous, he is the type of man that covets other people's success and comfort, he is a man that will shy away from hard work and above all he is the type that wants the good life, there is a word called hedonism,it means pleasurable life style, that man wants the big cars, big houses, holidays abroad but is not ready to work hard for it.The woman he married I bet you he does not love at all, he only see her as a ticket to the revelry and parties, not the better life, My cousin went through similar nonsense, in that she married a man that was yet to finalize his divorce from his first wife. The first wife he left after she lost her job, my cousin he blackmailed and abandoned when she refused to change the name on her car to his name,he woke her up on the wedding night and was asking her how much she had in her bank account and if she had lands and businesses, in short he was just after her money, my dear thank God you did not end up with such a man, you will be surprised that he will be stealing from his wife and threatening her if he does not have his way with her money.
The guy is a low life.
But you wasted 3 years of your life mourning over such a freeloader.
Please go and do a thanks giving in a church, God saved you but you did not know.
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I don't think it's genuine...don't mind d dude. Move on...we guys get bored easily...
odikwa egwu.....lazy man
Hmm, some broke ass lazy guys would choose a richer woman, but for me I think it's jst a reason, he probably was tired alrdy. So is he happy? Try n move on wit u life, this is 2014 gf.
The guy is an ASSHOLE! U just see it as an act of God. What if u two were already married before he decided to marry another lady? Thank God for ur life.
Hmmm
Isa
My dear don't be confused but be grateful to God that the marriage didn't happen cos that guy neva loved you from day 1, he's just a jerk ass opportunist.
Sorry lady.
Don't be shocked. We humans marry for the weirdest of reasons. The issues starts when the reason we marry isn't solid and fails to make us happy anymore.
Sweetheart... closure is overrated. Some people stop living because they're too busy chasing closure.. Whatever reason someone has for cheating on and subsequently leaving you is a reflection of who they are not who you are. And for a reason as stupid as money?... you dodged a bullet, it's clear this one is a small minded liability!
And the male chauvinists and poor retarded guys will say ladies are the only ones that marry for money..
Just imagine this!!!!
Stupid fellow
i have a friend that this same thing happened to.Guys like this are gold-diggers and an excuse for a man.
Nne dats dia behavior...brookass.com lookin for whom to feed on!!!
I wonder what will happen to that marriage when his better earning wife isnt so rich anymore... See how pple just love to mess things up with their hands.
Dont feel bad jare. Everything good will come.
My dear better go n get anoda bf ,so u can get married...n 4get dat stupid guy,cos he does'nt worth u @ all...
Your ex is YORUBA, abi? Enough said.
Yoruba people, don't eat me raw oh, ehen. Na my personal experience I de talk from...
move on my dear. He is such a low life. God will give you a man who will love you for who you are.
He is surely a FABB........ :)
The man is probably lazy, poor morally and insecure.. Thank your stars you aren't with someone like that...
Sorry girl.He dosent deserve for so many reasons.First,he was cheating on you while you were dating him.Secondly,he is a gold-digger.And lastly,he left you because God has better plan for your life.So be strong.It is well
WITH THIS REVELATION, U SHOULD COUNT YOURSELF LUCKY NOT TO HAVE MARRIED HIM.HE IS NOT A MAN PERIOD
Your ex he is jackass
Funny Story. Just let him go. Its so clear he isn't the right Man for You
He threw u off haha some men are so shallow minded, well sha the guy neva loved u, he is just after the lady's money wtf the guy na woman wrapper
Don't let that confuse u honey, ppl marry for diffrent reasons, sum r so stupid u won't believe, my neighbour married his wife cus of her eyes, says he wnts his kids to hv such eyes, sadly for him they took his eyes.... So forget that ur Ex, he's Expired, dnt waste anymre time, thr r sensibl guys also.
Rubbish...how can a man live on a woman?what happens if the woman goes down to zero level or lost her job?will he run out of the marriage?he is just a shameless man and he even has the gut to tell you that was why he left you!olojukokoro oshi
He doesn't deserve you dear.
Was surprised when I opened the blog and saw this post. I just had my launch at a restaurant with and a friend and we joked how I left a very good girl during my NYSC days coz she doesn't know what siesta is.
And the man overheard our conversation and told me "if you eve meet any good girl that is as low as 30% tushed, don't let her go help her grow,good girls are very rare.
And that made me regret my action years ago.
Dear moveon you don't deserve a man like him,you deserve someone who loves you no matter how weighty the sentiment is.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
sorry girl i think that's a choice not a reason
Lol. The reason he gave you simply means he never loved you, so be happy he even left you, because a man that truly loves you will not tell you that, will not leave you because you are earning less than another woman, as if you will be the bread winner of the family
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My darling< men can be that small minded I tell you!
My darling< men can be that small minded I tell you!
don't mind im, so if the money stop coming e will leave the girl bi,e is such a lazy idiot
My darling< men can be that small minded I tell you!
He's an idiot.. dats no reason!
Sorry dear, seems u were dating a broke ass nigga den. How much was he even earning at dat time. Such a flimsy excuse to dump a gal. My dear move on with ur life already.
I'm out. ***CATCH ME IF U CAN***
Aren't you better off without this kind of person? Move on already! Good riddance to bad rubbish. Wonder what the other lady will be going through in his hands.
Well, am sure he never loved you. Coz if he did, definitely he was going to stick with you. Money is not everything in a relationship. But then again it's also important. Move on plz
Why on earth wil tel ur boy frnd hw much u earn in a mnth.Is he ur husband? A man who truly luvs u wil nt mind hw much u take as a pay b4 hw mk up his mind 2 marry u
so what do you want us to do about it?
The Guy does not love you as claimed, he only want your money
Anonymous
nwanne biko wat is good 4 d geese is also good 4 d gander.
who nor like berra tin.
just move ahead...na so women dey do sef.
I'm not surprised! A lot of guys are as myopic as a lot of ladies. Take heart my dear!
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My dear your ex is a gigolo and a gold digger
Had similar case but i thank God for everything.
Ola
lmaoo..dat ur ex doesnt love u..its nt all abt moni..dat guy is desperate..m sure he is yoruba.............................#KingOfKings
life goes on with out him, he only love u cox of what u have dont for who u are. And always belive dat u bot are not made to be together.
He lied to you that he love u. This guy never loved u. He didn't marry her coz she makes more money, he married coz he love her more than loves you. Why date a guy for more than a yr if he ain't ready to marry u. I am sure he married her coz she must be to no nonsense type that won't be there for him for more than a yr. he knows he culd keep u for 10 yrs and u won't ask questions or issue threats abt leaving the relationship, guys don't respect weak minded girls.
and you didn't break a bottle over his head? that was so insensitive!
Well he figured that the chick will make his burden lighter, because she earns more.
My dear, this has absolutely nothing to do with you. You were dating a bitch and an opportunist. Be glad you dodged the bullet because you would have been stuck with the low life. His wife is probably experiencing what you would have been going through. Thank God for rescuing you jare.
There are many great men out there. You dont have to understand his reasons for leaving the relationship in order to get the closure you need. Put God first & love yourself enough to move forward. Learn from this & dont block your blessings because of what that sick boy did to you. You have one life to live. Enjoy it to the fullest. All the best.
Am sure your boyfriend is a typical Yoruba man, statistically speaking they are the only ppl that marry a girl because of her pocket. Please move on an forget that douche.
You should sincerely go to your church on sunday and do a thanksgiving for Deliverance from this type of materialistic person. You are a woman of value and any man that is not okay with you, the exit door is opened.
That's no excuse! When next you see your 'small minded' ex in a party, don't look behind your shoulders and if he's ahead look straight at him and don't say hi tlk more of having conversations with him. My dear you have to let go of d betrayal you feel and forgive the fool without his consent. Until you do so, he's still stealing from you'.
My dear dnt be confused,guys r gettn wiser.ladies will say I cnt marry a guy witout 6 figures,n u tink d gud lord wont mk tyns turn around 2 bite y'all?sori dear he jus did d math n he figure he is beta off wit d oda lady.karma is such a bitchhhhhh
He is tired of u
The Guy does not love you neither does he want you, rather prefer your money.
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Don't blame 9ja guys with their actions wen its come to relationship. The country economy change their plan and goals.
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My dear...you should be happy that God cleared him out of the way for you. Can't you seeeeeee what I am seeeing?? He is a Pauper. He is a leech. He is here to suck on your income not love you. He is scared you earn little as he can't Carter for both of you. Move on. Well I understand your emotional issues...like...''about to wed and then this''...babe...fogerritt. He is in love with money not you. OkBye.
Men of nowadays are even the gold diggers. Its no longer a women thing. A man who marries for 'Blue passport' or 'Red passport'. There are so many of them out there. Always looking for the next best available girl. My dear, such men dont deserve forgiveness.
Awon GOLD diggers...............Then end up marrying women who will show them pepper
The Guy does not love you neither does he want you, rather prefer your money.
Anonymous
Guess he is a Broke Ass,Focusless Gold Digger or he is self employed and wants some security incase business doesn't do well... Either way,that isn't good enough,so Madam,now that u found closure,please move on and do good for ur self.
His not ur husband forget him move on u just "dourge" bullet
Broke bitches fantasizing about Prince Charming.... F**K outta ere... Morale of the lesson... Work hard and earn more... Yoruba ladies and jealousy...
Doggy
You should thank your God that he left you when he did and brace yourself up because he's not worth that stress you gave (or still giving) yourself. I can tell you that if that reason was truly why he left you, then he will still leave this new one he married when he finds another finer and richer babe with huger income. Be happy with yourself and your income, at least you are gainfully employed and receiving an amount which is better than stealing or some other source of income. Open up your mind for another better relationship with your head ( not your emotions)and divine direction.
My dear wah do u want us 2 do with ds ur story now. He has married her so stop being confused and move on cs all ds years dt has passed hasnt md u younger.
He is not man enough
Its true o.i'v nd yes there are men still dat shallow minded.nd wat I keep askin is wat happens 2yrs down d lane nd she looses her 250k job nd by den I alredy move farther dan he can evn imagine....as much as I think a man shld marry a girl based on d fact dat shes skilled,schooled nd can contribute to d family in d future,it shouldnt be on''how much she earns''pls.cos she myt not hav dat job longer dan dey got married.dumb excuse if u ask me....
Liability, scares the shit out of them. Its a new trend.
Don't be confused, darling. Most guys out there are just pricks. They are lazy but want respect. My friend's husband left cos according to him she is not as rich as he thought. Do you really want that prick as a husband? You obviously are desperate and desperate people make poor decisions. Relax. Good things happen when u least expect.
He lied!
Some men are very shallow in their reasoning. I hope the lady doesn't lose her job one day.
He is not man enough.
D guy is a gold digger, forget him
This is obviously not a good reason for him to dump you, he is just a greedy person and he never loved..your true love will come.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Sorry gal ur man is on the way.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
He never loved you to start with,his a loser.forget it!
It's not really about the money.
Presently, I have two women in my life, one I will call. The first has a good job, well paid and all, earns more than me at the time,( though she doesn't know my financial status has appreciated past hers, all because I don't flaunt it), the second doesn't even have a job as I write. They love me no doubt in their own ways but I have decided to go with the second.
At some point I wanted to go with the 1st but I asked myself few questions, and I realized it's not about the money but marital happiness.
I have decided to break up with the first and get married to the 2nd.
If she asks me in the future my reason for walking away, I will simply tell her that she always wanted to control me as she did show it and even said it once " No man can tell me what to do with my money "
Beta tank God for savin u frm a Golddigger called a BF.everytin happens for a reason my dear.Ask God for closure
It could be the reason because ladies do the same. If women can marry for money why can't men
You've heard, move on girl.
If women can marry for money why can't men
God delivered you. Thank God for his mercies. What happens if (God forbid) his current spouse loses her job? He'll leave her for someone with better earning power? U r not mmissing out on anything by not being with him o jare!! someone better will come along. Stop holding onto your past.
STOP DWELLING ON A LOST CASE AND MOVE ON.MCHEW.
Lol. Okunrin, even if he was lying, there's nothing u can do it anymore. Just forget him. Y did u give him audience in d 1st place? Free him biko.
dats nt a good reason to dump u...
forget the GOLD DIGGER jare.
Concentrate on your work for now, God will surely design you with HUSBAND and not GOLD DIGGER
That's not the real reason ooo bcoz there is no guarantee the new lady was gonna give him any of that money
You have to give testimony to God for saving u from a lazy golddiging fool
Wow. This is surprising to hear. The man is superficial and looks like he is depending on a woman to make him comfortable when it should be the other way around. It's a good thing you didn't marry him. Sometimes God allows things to happens for certain reasons. So that means that if your ex ever met another woman that made significantly more than his current wife he may cheat on her for the money. Or does is mean when his current wife has to stop working to raise their kids he may leave her if they have financial difficulty? Who knows? This is a blessing in disguise dear poster.
Ehya...Bad market.
Wow. This is surprising to hear. The man is superficial and looks like he is depending on a woman to make him comfortable when it should be the other way around. It's a good thing you didn't marry him. Sometimes God allows things to happens for certain reasons. So that means that if your ex ever met another woman that made significantly more than his current wife he may cheat on her for the money. Or does is mean when his current wife has to stop working to raise their kids he may leave her if they have financial difficulty? Who knows? This is a blessing in disguise dear poster.
hmmmm...Wetin man no go hear#nawa o
Wow. This is surprising to hear. The man is superficial and looks like he is depending on a woman to make him comfortable when it should be the other way around. It's a good thing you didn't marry him. Sometimes God allows things to happens for certain reasons. So that means that if your ex ever met another woman that made significantly more than his current wife he may cheat on her for the money. Or does is mean when his current wife has to stop working to raise their kids he may leave her if they have financial difficulty? Who knows? This is a blessing in disguise dear poster.
Linda, I don't know about Nigeria, but in the USA a woman as beautiful as you wouldn't have to worry about guys dumping you for other women because the other WOMAN makes more money. In the US, the guy doesn't live off of the woman. Just remember that.
You should move on and commit everything to God.He does not love you.Do not give him further reason to gloat.Trust God he will give you yours.
sorry, some people are that shallow. i have been there where a guy left me without any reason. i called like a million time, asked question, i even thought there was something wrong with me, that i was not good enough, lost my self esteem but one day i looked at myself in the mirror, built up my self esteem, my confidence, realized it was his loss and my gain. and today I'm a happy girl cos I'm better. forget him and move on, keep developing yourself, u will be happy in the end. from a caring heart.
You should move on and commit everything to God.He does not love you.Do not give him further reason to gloat.Trust God he will give you yours.
This same issue happened to my sister. while she was working in the bank as a graduate trainee she was earning 100k and her BF of 4 years, along the line met another lady who was working at shell. Hmmmmmn to cut the long story short, this guy dumped my sister after 4 years and went ahead to marry the Oil & Gas lady. My sister was so hurt and very heartbroken that she even placed a curse on the guy. after some years she met this guy again and they exchanged contact, then she asked him that why did he leave then and he said it was because he met his present wife who works in an oil company and earns so well so he had to SECURE his future with her CHAI!!!!!!..................
Just last month, this same guy that dumped my sister to secure his future with his oil and gas wife called my sister and was begging her to loan him 50k. My sister was shocked and was so surprised that he even had to gut to ask her for money. that is what we call KARMA.
The oil &Gas wife treats him like trash and he dosent even have a say in his own home. He's presently begging my sister for forgiveness....But that is old story now, My sister is married to an awesome guy who treats her like GOLD
All you guys who go around doing GOLD DIGGER and claiming you love the girl but deep inside your mind u know ure in the relationship becos of monetary gains or becos the girl has rich parents........hmmmmmmmmmn WE HAVE WHAT WE CALL KARMA...
You cant hurt an innocent girl, dump her after stringing her along for several years and you think God wont JUDGE your ASS.
Gold Digger Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
D only closure u need is getting into AA serious relationship that will lead to d alter that's all.
Its just an excuse jor
LWKMD!!!!!!! My ex also left me to marry an Nigerian/American girl because of papers. Now, i heard the girl has thrown him out of the house. He went for his masters in the US and broke up with me after 6years. He got married to the girl just 9 months after meeting her.
I laughed so hard when i heard the girl has thrown him out and seized his passport.
Dont worry, God always judge cruel men like that.
Awon OLE
This is the past so move on, what good shall it do you to keep pondering on this. And yes some men are still that shallow minded, some men have preference for women who are working and making their money in a big way
why cry or worry over an obviously bad marriage/relationship God saved you from. fuck his reasons. move on or remain foolish
Talking of small mindedness, it is the fault of women. Nigeria women believe that a man must do all things for them even when they have the means to help themselves. The higher earner woman will definitely demand less from this guy man.
Nigerian women need to change their marital orientation.
A friend of mine before marrying made it clear to his wife that he must control all monies in the family. Infact he collects the wife,s salary and give her the one she needs for personal effects in the month.
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Hmmmm...my dear you better run for your life....you too much for this shit.
Hahaha sharp guy
Better move on and do something meaningful with your life.
Ridiculousness!
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Abeg forget about him and move on!he is a gigolo.just thank your starts that God delivered you from a stypid man.am sure if he meets anor lady earning more dan the present wife he wil definitely file for divorce.abeg move on jawe
Men ehnnnnnnnnnnnnn they are after money more than we women ooooooooo.
They dont mind dumping a good girl for a bad girl as long as she is loaded with money and she has a bright future But they always suffer for it eventually.
That is how one of my male friend dumped his 3yrs girlfriend after he met another babe who has rich parents. Naso dem dey do.
So what happens if his wife loses her job? My dear thank God cos it looks like you dodged a bullet.
Divorce drama everywhere because people marry for the wrong reasons. Smh.
Kimmy*****
Leave d broke muthafucket looking for a woman to feed his poor arse. That's y I like when d rich marry d rich.
This is not a matter2discuss at all. Why are u brooding over sth dat has happened? U shd be looking at d way 4wd and not bore us wit dis kind of story. Can't u just see dat he got tired of u, he wasn't just into u anymore so he gave u such stupid excuse and u stupidly believed him. In d end u won't like d comments u'll get 2 read frm pple cos I for instance dnt see how ur story can improve my luv life. Linda must u post every rubbish about relationships. Pls post only stories dat pple can benefit from. Wats's d lesson 2 learn to learn frm dis kind of story Linda?
Stupid question! Your self esteem badt big time. Ol gel, keep closing doors to other men in your life bc of one stupid gigolo man and you will be single forever, you hear me so. Granted its nice to have closure, but not seeing other people bc you were hurt? You must be a teenager. In this Nigeria too? You sound like you have low self esteem, insecurity issue. Big one even. Ol gel, you should have found your self a hot, good looking, good money for pocket guy and parade le boo in front of your ex make him head scatter. Girl, you are a learner, better wise up, sharp sharp. If you dey block prospects because of something this childish, if he cheats on you, steal your money, reject your baby come marry your sister or best friend or your mama, wetin you go do? Become a nun? Lol...
..."narrow minded people on narrow minded street"
Well he figured that the chick will make his burden lighter, because she earns more.
My dear just move on, you are causing more problems for yourself by dwelling on this, the fact he could leave you for that reason means he was not good enough for you, trust God to bring someone much much better.
My dear all the so called old Bachelors in lagos and Benin city, are look for a lady who is working and earning big to marry. Ladies, if u r going into any relationship, look out for this signs. * He will ask what u do for a living the 1st day he met u. *He will ask for ur age on ur 1st date. *He wants to know ur salary. *if u tell him u are job hunting, his attitude will change. Most Guys needs to be feed with lies to see their through colour. Ladies, learn how to put men on test, during ur 1st one week of outing. Men lie just to get in between ur legs. Open ur eyes and start feeding some vampires with lies too.
Mofo never loved u.......
He never loved u
You were dating an idiot. Its either hes a good pretender or youre an idiot too.
LMAO pls dear dont b sad....thank God for saving u from a lazy loser lyk dat oo.....
You be mugu. E wan fcuk better run from him besides most naija guys are gold diggers
There are sides to this:
1. He said it to throw you off. Meaning he is either ashamed or not bold enough to admit the truth. Not sure you want to be with that kind of person. Only good reason for this approach is where the true reason could really hurt you and he is trying to be considerate and protect your emotion. Yet, for me, this still isn't acceptable as its best to tell you so you can fix the issue with your next relationship.
2. He told you the truth. If he did tell you the truth then he is indeed shallow. If it was a woman that leaves a man for such a reason, we'd be quick to call her names.
I wonder if his wife knows him as a shallow gold digger. Either way, time to move on. You sound d like a great chick. Please, give your heart another opportunity to love and a good man an opportunity to experience you.
The man is a fool, count it as a blessing.
Lols beb 4get dat loser he is nt ur man ur man is on his way dis 1 is a burden he is no good 4get da lazy fool ~ice Princess~
Your ex must be Yoruba lol ( no offense intended). That’s how one idiot was about to hook my warri cousin because her father was loaded. We caught he red handed. A Yoruba man would always marry a Yoruba girl. If there marry outside, am sure that omo ibo has money or her father is loaded. (No offense intended just the truth)
The guy is simply stupid if 'that' is actually his reason.
Don't let him get into your head with his 'I love you more' because he does not actually know what that word is.
Your man will find you and you will bring him favor from God.
This guy is not worth it in any way. Pls ask God to help u heal and move on with ur life. Leave ur heart open and give others a chance. U might neva know. Trust me, u will look back and say "thank God d fool didn't marry me".
He doesn't love both u, if he did love u, he never would have left u no matter what u earn. (Any single naija babe in the u.s here? My email krisoseki0024@gmail.com)
Had it been its the lady sincerely I wouldn't have blamed her but for a guy to leave a girl because she didn't earn much shows how shallow minded some guys can be. Not that you're not working but because other lady earn than you is very ridiculuous! Poverty of mind is really a bad thing.
LOOK FOR SHARED VALUES, DON'T GIVE UP.
You've heard it from the horse's mouth, what are you still contemplating? Some marry for money, some marry for love, some marry for respect, some marry for kids, all of the above, some of the above . . . different strokes for different folks.
What difference does it make whether men are shallow or not? Women have been marrying for money for centuries. People's needs are different. You both were not on the same page, and YOU got a lucky escape, try and use sound judgement next time and look out for someone who shares your own values, that all.
-AE.
LOOK FOR SHARED VALUES, DON'T GIVE UP.
You've heard it from the horse's mouth, what are you still contemplating? Some marry for money, some marry for love, some marry for respect, some marry for kids, all of the above, some of the above . . . different strokes for different folks.
What difference does it make whether men are shallow or not? Women have been marrying for money for centuries. People's needs are different. You both were not on the same page, and YOU got a lucky escape, try and use sound judgement next time and look out for someone who shares your own values, that's all.
-AE.
Sit down there dey look 4 genuine reason or whether he just said it to throwu off. Babe, u berra give urself d closure u need. Cos dat dude was afta ur cash even if u tink the reason no genuine rich. Move on, he is married abi u want make he come marry u ni?
#G.Babe
Bona, na rocket you launch or na food you chop for lunch? We do things that are stupid when we r young and didn't know any better. But when you are older and you do stupid stuff, mmmmh, you are on your own on that one.
Insecurity go keel you one day.
I raise the bullshit flag on this comment, big time.
He doesn't love you well enough to marry u. Move on
He doesn't love you well enough to marry u. Move on
All of you fucking hypocrites should shut up your stinky mouths here. So what if he left her because of money, like you freaking gold digging whores don't dump guys cause of money all the time. Pls don't be stupid, he didn't see her financial status good enough for him so he bounced. Move on aunty, it happens all the time. Urrgghhh! fucking sexist world we live in...
You better move on with your life. You sound like you are still bitter... monitoring the guy up and down. All monitoring spirit, holy ghost....
Thank you o. Very stupid question.
Wow.love this comment
I believe him. Most lazy men that ascribe to Independent women, would marry a womn with good salary to help out in the home. Not saying there is anything wrong in earning a good salary as a woman....but if a man wants to marry me cos of that, don't dream you'll be spending my money. You should be glad you are rid of the lazy oaf.
Gbam... bestestest answer so far. Nigerian women, dating people for 4 yrs, 7 yrs, ogini? Why? Na after 4 yrs, this one dumped you, gave you some shitty reason bc he's looking like, we r at a wedding and you came to corner me at a wedding to ask me something I don't even recall why I did. You got what you wanted to hear. I would have said bc you were stupid for holding on this long to something that happened a while ago, thats why I broke up with you. Silly post.
My sis,thank God for your life,God delivered you from that lazy Man.
Some guys re actually dependent on ladies financial success... D guy is a p**** . Lady move on and count ursef lucky u didn't marry him, u wil find some1 better that loves evritin abt u.
It's everYwhere dear not just Yoruba, mine was from FUGAR (estakor central lga):and moved on with yOur life
You are a pathetic fool!
For every guy that does this, there are 100 women that do the same. Try finding a girl of your dream on $85k and see how far you get.
I wouldn't marry the poster either unless I make less. She would be nothing but a liability.
Linda u r trying to cover up fake news u fed us yesterday. Channel TV never said so
I dated a guy like that. Always putting me down because I was still working on my MSc. He was always flaunting girls he had met at work earning good money. It didn't take me long to realise that even if I got a good job after sch that will not change his attitude towards me and money. I played his ass and dumped him.
Dear bonario dis is d best tin u hv said dis year “dont let her go help her grow" well said some guys are so shallow minded wen u are not d maker of her life
He didn't love you enough. That is a dumb excuse, the guy is an idiot. But come, you knew he was with another girl but still stayed with him??? What is wrong with Nigerian girls??!!
Dat guy is a broke ass dude........... dats why he cud tink d way he did
My dear its the same story as myself. One particular guy was looking to settle down and was pestering me that he wanted to marry me, bought me stuff and was really trying to reel me in. We lost touch and I eventually met up with him when he was already married. The guy told me that well at the time, he had two choices that I was tall and his on-off girlfriend was tall and he decided that if either of us declined his proposal he will just marry the other person.
I met him about two years ago again and this time he had a string of girlfriends while married to his wife. When I spoke to him about cheating on his wife he told me that. Man must not leave by bread alone and his wife was far away from him at that time and he needed to keep body and soul together. Praise the Lord!!! I didn't marry dat Mofo!! so my dear count yourself blessed!!
MORE CONFUSED KE OR THANK GOD YOU DID'NT MARRY THAT SHIT. GOD TOOK EVIL AWAY FROM YOU; THANK GOD YOU ARE ALIVE TO TELL THIS STORY O.
D guy don hammer oh! Lucky guy, but take heart my sister n find someone that can accommodate u in all facets of ur life
What do you need closure for? Can you not just move on with your life? He's married and you're there claiming you need closure. Hisssssssssss
Aunty Linda no vex oh, I just want to ask, pls who are the winners of the giveaway for the month of August? Thanks
What do you need closure for? Can you not just move on with your life? He's married and you're there claiming you need closure. Hisssssssssss
Bonario. .. I'd have left you cos you're still saying siesta in the 21st century... morale of the story? Even your high horse is someone else's footstool...
I swr down. Beta bastard!
Must there be a reason to dump someone? I don't want again no go suffice? What if the rich person is also a better fit? Or the girl with papers what he always wanted. No body ever told you all is fair in love and war?
For me o, if you rather be elsewhere, then get to stepping.
Smart move!you sef try.double dating na una way
Hmmm.so much to learn here.I've been cheated,battered and wounded just like u before dear.but I encouraged myself and moved on with my life.serving God and doing my own thing.I prayed,fasted and was even thinking God might not like me enough anyway.but a day came and now,I'm married to the best and sweetest man.wait on God,serve him,build ur self esteem and be cool.When is or time,it wil be ur turn. Forget dat cheat.he'll need ur help soon.u're too beautiful to be trampled upon. U're the smile. Be happy OK??
We have dogs, opportunists, people with no sense of value, or warped sense of value in both sexes. Thank God that He removed this mad man from your life.
Many see marriage as an escape, somewhere to eat from. A few see it as a life time journey of two partners to work and create a family that God will be pleased with.
Thank God for your life, hope you have found that great person
Well nt surprised cos my ex who then was a Sunday sch leader left me for a lady whose father works in chevron bcos of money. Some guys are like dat they hav little or no faith in their destiny. Abeg rejoice cos God saved u from that hopeless. guy. #SI#
Hmmm bonario word
Forget that goat, u only get that from lagos men..first qtn they ask..“so where do u work?" my dear move on!
He is a woman rapper and materialistic. Thank GOD he left you because it is obvious that he is a lazy man that is relying on his wife income for sustenance.
@bonario I like ur word,am touched,same thing hapend to me,bt with ur word today I will surely move on,ds is d best thing av read frm ur coment.@amaka
don't mind the mother fucker he don't love u neither he love his present wife.
don't mind the motherfucker he don't love u neither he love his present wife.
my dear forget. d bastard and I agree he must b YORUBA was married to a leech d bloody gigolo almost killed me married his kind bcos of money she does lace twins. he has wants coming his way and I smile. Thank God for his way of escape for u
I really dnt understand what all u guys are going on about. If I understand the story well, the guy had a choice to make between two girls he was dating and decided to use various yardsticks to make his decision.
Imagine the tables were turned, and it was the girl trying to choose. Your guess is as good as mine. As much as trivial things lile standard of living, family affluence shldnt be a standard for love, you wld only be a fool if u dnt factor them all in, especially wgen torn between 2 ladies u equally love, or hopd on the same level.
Life goes on...
Love u anon 4.20pm
That is just rubbish! Modern day slavery.
#GBAM..anonymous 7.41
The guy is correct guy. He had to trade up. Because it is a woman everyone is calling the guy a bad name. He is my hero. He saw a better option and moved on. Women do it all the time. Cry me a river! The guy is the ultimate dude. This news just made my day.
U ar a great fool
People marry (or un-marry) for different reasons; love usually being a distant consideration. The guy made a choice he felt best suited to his circumstances. It may work. It may not. Good luck to him. You should make a CHOICE to put the episode where it belongs: in the past, and live life. "All is fair in love and war".
I like the guy..Sorry to say. Thats how you women treat us guys. You go for highest bidder. Thats how it feels when you ladies sample guys based on materials. Guys should emulate this. If the whole world can adopt this standard, may be our ladies will sit up and choose based on their heart and not guys pockets
A thousand likes.
You are an asshole and a lazy excuse for a man.
My sister, thank God for His mercy towards you and how he delivered you from this small man. From what you have said the woman he married may not be his last bus stop. If he finds another lady that ends higher, the guy go port o! My sister please move on and meet the true man that God has kept just for you. That small man was NOT your husband.
to the guys...do well to make your money . do not marry because of money that's not a reason enough. i can tell you that, the girl will only insult you if she finds out she earns or has money more than you do....it will only takes a God fearing girl to be submissive and respectful even when she has all.A friend of mine told me how he has been providing for his family all the years he was married to his wife until things went bad. The wife turned around to ask him what he did with his money? u can imagine. this was a dude that has been all and about taking care of everything and everybody.
I HAVE QUESTIONS BEFORE I DISH OUT MY SINCERE OPINION. HOW MUCH DOES THE GUY EARN?
I AM 100% SURE THAT MAY BE THE REASON FOR THE BREAK UP.
I ONCE INTRODUCED A GUY TO MY FRIEND AND HE ASKED ME HOW MUCH SHE EARNS AND I WAS LIKE I DON'T KNOW. AND HE SAID HE CANT DATE A GIRL NOT EARNING OVER 200K NOT TO TALK OF MARRYING HER. SO MEN OF THESE DAYS CONSIDER ALL ANGLES BUT FORGET THE FACT THAT THE EARNER TODAY MAY BE THE LOSER OR TOMORROW AND VICE VERSA. LOVE THESE DAYS IS OUT OF THE WINDOW IS MORE OF CONVINCE SHA lOVE EXIST FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME WITHOUT SHALLOW MIND.....TO BE HONEST HOW MANY WOMEN TODAY WHO WOULD MARRY A GUY EARNING 85K IF THE TABLE WERE TURNED AROUND? ANOTHER FRIEND OF MINE IS SO PICKY OF MEN BECAUSE SHE WANTS A RICH MAN ,..... YOU THINK SAY RICH MAN GO WAN MARRY U WITH YA 85K? WE ALL NEED TO BE REALISTIC AND CALL A RAT A RAT AND NOT A BUUUSUUU. I AM A FEMINIST AND BELIEVE IN MAKING MY OWN MONEY. LIKE U EXPECT LINDA TO SETTLE FOR SOME 200K EARNER WHEN SHE IS ROLLING IN MILLIONS .... ABEGI BABE MOVE ON. MY EXPERIENCE LOOK FOR A HARD WORKER AND MARRY...U NEVER KNOW TOMORROW HE MAY BE ROLLING IN MILLIONS OF POUNDS LIKE MY BOOOOOO. FAITH IS THE KEY BABE. CATCH ME IF U CAN RUNNING AWAY.
You dodged the bullet babe be grateful and move on...
Oloshi ni bobo y en sha men these days are so small minded, shallow minded and twisted
LAZY MAN....THE GUY IS A GOLD DIGGER..GOD FORBID THE DAY DAT LADY LOSES HER JOB WILL BE THE END OF HAPPINESS IN DAT MARRIAGE...OLE OKURIN.. WETIN MAKE ME WEY MY WIFE DEY EARN 75 K AND I HAVE THE OPTION OF MARRYING SM1 THAT EARNS LIKE 300K A MONTH BACK DEN? BUT 1 NEEDS TO CONSIDER HAPPINESS AND COMPATIBILITY IN MARRIAGE OVER MONEY.AND AS GOD WILL HAVE IT I EARN 316K A MONTH NW I DONT EVEN LET HER SPEND HER OWN SALARY COS AM THE MAN HERE..LIKE MY PAPA SAYING THAT A MAN THAT TAKES CARE OF HIS WIFE MONEY WISE AND BED WISE NA HIM DEM DEY CALL HUSBAND..SMILES..
Move on my dear. he's certainly not the only man in this world. count it all joy and every disappointment is a blessing. peace
Okwa baby oku na ko iva?
Babe, u just wait and see what will happen to that marriage at last. Gold Stiller not Gold-digger. Ole Olee. Some men can be funny shaa
Definitely,the guy nah gold digger,lazy guy mshwwww.
Definitely,the guy nah gold digger,lazy guy mshwwww.
well i Had a bobo who wanted me to do the spending when he had no job...i was glad to assist him ...with some change on loan bases ooo... now he goes behind me n cheats and refused to pay me i grabbed his gold chain necklace worth 5 times what he owes me ... and i kicked him good bye i dont respect me who like to take advantage. u know what he married a babe who forced herself on him and she has ended up being the bread winner of the family. she pays the rent , feeds the child and fuels his ride... what a joker. All he uses his cash to do is form one kin nonsense big boy in Abuja and treats his wife like dirt. well she asked for it. am happily married to a man that cares not about my earnings but i insist on contributing as necessary. So you see life helps you off a ditch but most times we want to fall into it desperately. SO BABES DUST AND MOVE ON.
Na wa ooooo,hope He never enter the place sha
My dear sister thank God that you did not end up with such a poverty minded man, women always make mistakes when it comes to marriage, you never sit back and actually ask your self some hard questions why a man really wants to marry you. Let me describe that man you were dating, very lazy and covetous, he is the type of man that covets other people's success and comfort, he is a man that will shy away from hard work and above all he is the type that wants the good life, there is a word called hedonism,it means pleasurable life style, that man wants the big cars, big houses, holidays abroad but is not ready to work hard for it.The woman he married I bet you he does not love at all, he only see her as a ticket to the revelry and parties, not the better life, My cousin went through similar nonsense, in that she married a man that was yet to finalize his divorce from his first wife. The first wife he left after she lost her job, my cousin he blackmailed and abandoned when she refused to change the name on her car to his name,he woke her up on the wedding night and was asking her how much she had in her bank account and if she had lands and businesses, in short he was just after her money, my dear thank God you did not end up with such a man, you will be surprised that he will be stealing from his wife and threatening her if he does not have his way with her money.
The guy is a low life.
But you wasted 3 years of your life mourning over such a freeloader.
Please go and do a thanks giving in a church, God saved you but you did not know.
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