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Friday, August 9, 2013

"I am a victim of domestic violence" - Actress Chika Ike opens up

Actress Chike Ike pens an open letter to her fans, opening up about the physical abuse she suffered in the hands of the man she called her husband for five years. Find her story below...
The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I've been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I've tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve   that there's really no right time because every second of the day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence.  I was a victiim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn't understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions,after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won't happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him.  Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it.  I started loosing my self pride,self esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost  a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don't know my story,I guess that's why they are ignorant.  I was 20yrs old and  very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy,who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe..  So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that's how much I wanted to be married forever.  For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass  jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.

Am not saying  this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.

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Anonymous said...

Awwwwww

ade baptista said...

Hmmmm....tins dey hapn o

Anonymous said...

Ok.

Jbankz said...

U see wat I tell pple,wen celebrat seperate frm her husband dont b qiuck 2 judge her coz u cn nva tel d size of a rat in anoda man'z huse.sowi ma luv

Anonymous said...

Linda..go to bed,u no dey tire?

Queen Bee said...

Wow!
Tank God for beverly's long-talking mouth pple are coming out to talk against domestic violence.
For all ye wife and girlfriend beaters:fuck all ya'*in tupac's voice*
God be with u Chika and give u another good man.Amen

Anonymous said...

Thank God for u, in Lagos now any man that does this will arrested.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmmm so sad, I say no to domestic volence. Thank God for her life.

Anonymous said...

My husband is also a wife beating bastard. Finally moved out last week. God is great!

Romance Meets Life said...

Bless her for speaking out!

Christine said...

Hello Miss Chika we have forgotten about this already so stop reminding Us.

Anonymous said...

My ex too beats me den he wld forcefully slp with me, chai I suffered

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm.all d stars coming out wt one tin or d oda talk,abt dis and dat una plan am.abeg park well

Anonymous said...

I hv heard enuf 4m dis lady,wat is it sef...u sai tyns so d@ pple wil pity u al wat re u sayn?u were married nd yet u kipt slpn wth ma uncle,u left ur kids nd husband 4 almst hw mny month 2 com stay wth ma uncle(senator Ned)in delta state nd u re dere runin ur useless mouth..he gave u d SUV his wife brought nd u were stupidly hpy nd nw u com up 2 socail media's 2 tlk alots of BS,if I were u I wuld realy shit d F up cos sum pple cn neva b fool no mater re hard u try(SLOT)

Make-Up by Teju Tobun said...

Hhmn, she's a survivor.

Anonymous said...

So now tell us the truth . no smoke without fire . Is it through you committed adultery . As u said, he is a cooperate guy . that is why he is quiet about ur case . stop making noise , u are lying.

TO UR EX
I congratulate you , this one does not deserve to have husband.
So tell me , which man or woman do not experience verbal , sexual abuse or ur so called violence in Nigeria?
Go ask ur mama, she go tell you wetin she go through from your papa
bastard , liar, harlot
WHITE MAN FOR SALE IN LONDON- come marry that one . idiot . those one are silent killer if u dont know.

Sir Sokari Dappa Andrew-Jaja said...

There is a law against assault and husbands or wives are not exempted. Read section 351 of the Nigerian Criminal Code.

jessica morphy said...

Hmmmm tanx 2 God almighty u came out alive and clean.

Anonymous said...

Common 4 christ sakes enuf wth dis nonsense plsssss.....u had 2 kids 4 him nd b4 den he wz'nt heating u,nd if he eva did u made him wen u startd sleepn around so madam short up plssss

Anonymous said...

My mum saw this but she never left her marriage, seeing reading all this I look back and wonder why she didn't leave simple answer lover for her kids. A lot of African women still suffer from this same fate because of love for children and that if they leave another woman will replace them their kids will suffer. reason I applaud Fashola for the new law in Lagos. Educate the women... The market women host meetings and educate a lot of them are seeing worst.

Anonymous said...

Chika I feel your pain,u made d right decision,move on girl u will soon find love again

Anonymous said...

To d men, ur spouses need protection from u, don't b ironical to dere xpectation

Anonymous said...

Not supporting domestic violence but wat did she do b4 she was beaten? No man will just look at u and start beating u... Maybe she was caught cheating or sleeping around. Husbands dread that.

ugo said...

Awwwww! God will give you a better man!

3faya said...

Awwww......thank you for sharing ur story Dearie *hugs* and thank God u left the Bastard *arrrrgh

Cute G said...

I'm happy she got out of it.Thanks to Beverly!Everyone is opening up.

Anonymous said...

pple shld nt be 2 quick 2 judge she a very gud reason 4 a divorce abi who no lyk im life.i'll do d same if i find myself in d same position

Anonymous said...

My dear, nothing do you! You did exactly what you should have done, LEAVE THE MARRIAGE!! Anuofia!! Weak men beating helpless women

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmmm..... Na wah o

Barry onyeka Ossai said...

Sorri oooooooooooooh!

Anonymous said...

Naaawaaaoo women re goin tru a lot oo onli God can save us...

Barry onyeka Ossai said...

Sorri oooooooooooooh!

Anonymous said...

Who cares??? Fuck you and your ex husband...prince charming are you there? I trust you! Always commenting..Jobless modafoka....linda if u like no post dz1 at least I kw u read it *tongue out*...I luv u sha*winks*

Anonymous said...

Na wah ooo thank God say u carry ur 2 left leg commot for the d thing before u go 6ft below...

Anonymous said...

Meehhhnnn, I don't believe dis, her eye dey outside, if na so mk she join d campaign 4 child not bride, she is a victim#stories dat touches heart# mtsheeewww

Anonymous said...

Crazy! Thank gudness

MelB said...

The typos and gbagauns in dis "open letter"...datz all I cld see.

But besides that, if it is true, u made d right choice leaving him.

jamo Oyin said...

Wow...before now I had negative taught about dis Chika Ike marriage saga but with this her public statement. Chika Ike U made the right decision. Woo unto any man that lay his hand on his wife.

Anonymous said...

I have also been a victim of Domestic Violence myself in a previous relationship to a popular celebrity in Nigeria.
When it first happened I was only 19 or 20yrs old, I thought it was the definition of Love, he cried and begged on his knees every time. I put up with it for a few years and realised it would never change. Who ever says it will get better? My dear it never gets better instead it gets worse and extends to life threats.
I was scared for my life and walked out of the relationship and I thank God for today because that is the best decision I ever made in my life. I never looked back since!!

TobiNigeria said...

Thank you ,Chika, for having the courage to stand up and defend that little girl within. No body needs to endure that. Trust me, I have seen domestic violence and what it has done to mothers! I wonder what sort of man would hit his own wife? his on wife! May we not choose the wrong persons to take to the alter.

Anonymous said...

As bad as it sounds, as terrible as it is for a man to beat his wife, I still have my stand on your divorce Chika. Don't bother giving details of what led to the beatings, no excuse for beating but he's a weak man to have stayed with you that long. U are a loose woman. Nnanna E(trip to China) was one of the many men that led to the beating...u forgot to mention. Happy spinsterhood. Try marriage again when u grow to close ur legs and open your brain! Goodluck

Dil

bliss gurl said...

Hmmmm sorry my darling chika,u actually tried 4 tolerating him 4 a long time.Cnt take dat even 4 one minute

Anonymous said...

Tell that to birds... celebrities marriages like yours don't last. fuck offf!!

Anonymous said...

Its a crazy world

Anonymous said...

Indeed ur not a girl any man should lay hands on! Don't wori very soon u will be my 6ter in-law dat a secret till it happens u will know me

Donphiloman said...

We are too fast to judge this man,his own pain might be more heavier than what Chika is telling us,i have never been in support of raising fingers on any being but beware of all this carrier women.

Anonymous said...

If this story is true I think u made tge right call **wink**

Anonymous said...

we are entitled to our own 'beliefs' and not 'believes'.. Chika Ike, u're one of those ppl that make me continue to have to the notion that NOLLYWOOD aint progressed past it's present level cos of stars and moons like u who speak and type bad grammar, especially in movies..! What d fuck! Anyway sha, who forced u to marry? Why are u telling us? I would prefer to hear from both parties before i even start lambasting u.. Sneezes.. Nonsense!

Ezinne daisy said...

Thank God for ur life

Anonymous said...

Sorry about that dear.

Ezinne daisy said...

Na wah ooo,thank God for ur Life sha

Anonymous said...

I can relate, thanks for sharing your story. You are indeed a brave woman coz walking away is the hardest part and you did it. I got the motivation to walk away when Linda posted that story about that couple where the husband killed his banker wife. So if you are in this situation today just know that you don't deserve it, nobody deserves it. Save yourself! The violence won't stop.

Anonymous said...

So touching.....

Anonymous said...

I knw about it, sweety, don't worry, anoda man will come by

Anonymous said...

Eheee, I don't believe a shit of what she's saying. Chika Ike that once slapped his husband in a club along Opebi road, Ikeja. I witnessed this live wih my boyfriend. From the look of things that day, I wld even say the husband was the victim of domestic violence...she shld just shush already, with her pity me message.

Anonymous said...

I truly admire her courage for sharing her story with the world despite the shaming and even blame African communities place on the victims of domestic violence. I am happy that more women are speaking out against this prevalent evil that sadly has been normalized, excused, even encouraged for decades! No woman deserves to be brutally violated by their spouse, sibling, boyfriend, uncle, etc & it is my hope that legislators throughout the continent work on mandating laws that protect those who have suffered abuse, have adequate rehabilitation programs available, and also put laws in place to punish perpetrators effectively. In the U.S. alone, about 1,500 women are killed each year by their boyfriend or spouse, the most dangerous crime threatening the advancement and basic livelihood of women is violence from the men they choose to love. Let that sink in.

Anonymous said...

Wish u d best Chika...domestic violence is now d order of d day...Bev Osu more greeze to ur running mouth!@least it aiding some women to speak out!

Anonymous said...

d hard way d only way* gbagaunnnn!

BossLady said...

Men!
Men!
Men!
How many times did I call u?
Una be coward oh! Na for woman body una dey always get power, make una go Fight una mate. when una dey vex. Don't always pour ur agression of work on women. Try walking outside to the gate man's house when angry and fight with him let's see how strong u are!!! Cowards!

Anonymous said...

leave eba for mortar like my people always say.stop claiming what never happen and say the truth about driving a man physically n emotionally to the edge. Chika stop lying to gain sort of pity for ur falling career.we are not interested in your movies nor ur personality......just find JESUS

Faster Fosto said...

Touching.crazy world we live in

Anonymous said...

Oh my dear thank God for ur life. Ur happiness is paramount. Wife beaters, haters, emotional abusers, God seeing u guys in 4D camera.

Anonymous said...

Chika wow u dont look it its God's grace in ur life. Thank God you didnt get killed, i pray God teach men who abuse their wives temperance and to be slow to anger

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm,ok we have heard u,ope ur husband wuldnt say he's own story lik funke oooo bcus d guys hav der own part 2 tell 2,toh

PRINCESS JOBLESS said...

i know chika from egbe..liasu road... she is telling the truth.. we are childhood friends and her husband is violent.. though he seem to be nice to pipo but he is very violent...

ifeoma lilian said...

Such inhumanity in dis 21th century.

frankinsence said...

LEAVE an abusive relationship/marriage. And u don't need to explain to anyone. Not neccesary. Thumbs up chika for speaking up! This would encourage some women to brace up and pack up! Here's wishing u well!

snowflix said...

It is well with you Chika pretty.... Bt nawa ooo Linda na u do her all dis interview abi wetin #jstasking#

Anonymous said...

Y does d story sound lyk a nigerian movie?? I bet she's added salt and pepper.......

Anonymous said...

Am also a victim of Domestic voilence..everything was ok between my guy n I,he was not married to me..they call it love,after my introduction,one of ma visits to his house we had an argument he brought out his belt to wipe me..b4 den he has already slapped me..i begged afta dat he begged n got me gifts..i forgave him but was still pondering AbT it..he also told me dat it's a normal tin for a man to hit a woman..dat was actually d reason why I ran 4 my dear life in as much as we have fixed date for the marriage I told my mum,everytin had to run 4 my life

Anuli said...

My mum was a victim too. I don't ever wish to be myself. D psychological effect on us kids cannot be over-emphasized. Sorry abt dat Chika.

Anonymous said...

Awwwww,d story is really painfu.

Anonymous said...

I share & feel ur Pains. Pls remember Us in U Paradise. Bc a lot of us can't do nothing about it. We bear bc of our kids. Thank God for Ur Life.

snowflix said...

But its not nice to judge from your own story alone i need to hear your husband's side of the story before I can compare and contrast *winks* Nevertheless take heart pretty queen you deserve better ok

snowflix said...

It is well with you Chika pretty.... Bt nawa ooo Linda na u do her all dis interview abi wetin #jstasking#

snowflix said...

It is well with you Chika pretty.... Bt nawa ooo Linda na u do her all dis interview abi wetin #jstasking#

happy said...

Abeg, we need to hear from d husband's side. You have said urs, fine but let d man come and defend himself. We women, our mouth sometimes put us in this condition.

Anonymous said...

sory gal, fashola police shd arrest the man

@Valdonclint said...

This is highly inhuman. How can a reasonable man lay his hands on a woman. My dear take heart. God is with u

Anonymous said...

So sowie chika!d lord's wif U

morientes bassey said...

Hmmm, ur former husband does he take kaikai or ogogoro? Is a stupid man 4 laying his hand on a woman

Anonymous said...

Wow! Dats so pathetic.well dearie ur storm is over. Live ur life to d fullest cos u deserve d best.

2ROOTS ENT said...

NA WA OO SO EVERY NAIJA FEMALE CELEBRITY IS A VICTIM NOW..I BEG MAKE WE HEAR WORD JARE....SO IF U ARE A VICTIM..ME I BE SUSPECT NA

Anonymous said...

Ds is d worst thing a woman cud xperience in her hubby's house,I don't subscribe 2 divorce on other ground xcept wen d hubby is a wife beater ,I will neva advice any woman 2 manage dat kind of a relationship,cos she might lose her life b4 d man realises. so,chika,thumb's up 4 runnin 4 ur dear life
.................Lydiaabby

Anonymous said...

Chika Pele. To all women: nne biko, if he beats you once or attempts to, pack your load and leave him! Domestic violence should NEVER be tolerated. i believe a word is enough for the wise.

Anonymous said...

Aayaaa!!!

Ez Az said...

Domestic violence is horrible and can be life threatening. Thank God Chika survived those 5years. However,there's need for peeps to learn how to communicate their thoughts in such a way that it evokes the right response(Linda has mastered this. See her last letter to her fan).There's need 4 coherence. I expected a letter to fans to be better constructed. Reading this,I got the feeling that Chika just wants us to know why she left her marriage. I expected more! I was expecting a fierce campaign aganist domestic violence! No woman or man should condole it...whether it be emotional or physical abuse! It makes you unsure of yourself and your worth when u do. I rest my case

Anonymous said...

some men are very useless like 2shot the wife beater..lolz..GOD will give u better man,the truth is that some women cant even say what they are facing in their homes..god help us all

Mama Ifu said...

Very brave....it's not easy to talk about, I know firsthand. Go Chika, I support your decision 1000%!!!!

Anonymous said...

Hey dear chika so sowi u went true all dis .d lord is ur strength.I still stand with dis early marriage isn't d best @ all.

Anonymous said...

Perhaps he beat u so much cos u couldn't keep ur pants on. Fact.

Anonymous said...

Its a pity. So Chika U̶̲̥̅̊ r 25yrs? Wow. Linda, I tk God beg yu, post my comment 4 once

Anonymous said...

ITS NOT EASY DEAR BUT THANK GOD FOR HIS GRACE. IT IS WELL EVEN IN THE WELL!

Anonymous said...

oh my dear chika....such beauty bn assaulted by a wot??????husbanD or BeAsT

Anonymous said...

which yamayama approval z dat one???Plz post my comment......thank u,dnt mention!

Rough Diamond said...

Awwwww! Chika I feel u die! I have been a victim too! I was madly in love with dis guy, we were engaged to be married, d first time it happened I tot I was dreaming but den it happened again n again. Every body around me never liked d guy even my parents but I still went ahead to be with him cos I loved him so much! But when I have to choose btwn my happiness, life n beating, I choosed my life n happiness. I jst have to let go! Ever since I left d relationship, I wish him nothing but death (God forgive me) cos I don't think he will ever change. Tank God for d nu law enacted by d Lagos state government .

Anonymous said...

I am worried o how many women are opening up to physical abuse, when i'm getting married I need to shine my eyes

Anonymous said...

I predict some poor excuse for a woman will shout. "Go back 2 ur husband Chika. I no believe in divorce. No wetin be divorcee. D Bible say til death do us part. Nuttin make me leave my husby. Mscheew. Next!"

sexy bitch said...

Na wa ooo___he must be hiding in shame now--------ur secrets r out____and dis same man will be somewhr giving irrelevant reasons 4d divorce,am crying right now please...most men beat dere wives..God please bleSs me with a husband who lives in america or europe wherre domestic violence is no nonsence topic-kpa kpa kpa I just call police 4 u and throw u out and still deal with u by demanding for huge benefits for my self and the kids..the man will just be working for us to enjoy,Divorcr is such places sweet sha....Chika its well,dis time pls be very careful..

Anonymous said...

And what if she's not telling the truth "Saint" Prince Charming? How is it your business? Like seriously? If you don't have anything tangible to say,then don't say anything....

Adekunle Kazeem said...

Wow, this so shocking. Domestic violence; hope all the men learning to ward it off and women to always to watch out for such men. Any little signal like yelling at you, could be a great sign. It touches me as well.

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Monique said...

sorry o

Anonymous said...

Nne thank God u left d dog b4 he tears your fine and sweet body! Never u beat a woman no matter what she does,der are thousand ways 2 punish her.

Anonymous said...

Beverly was rite afterall. God I can't standing beating oooh. Babes if ur man hits u, pls dnt wait for any confirmation for it is certainly nt related to love, just copy Chika n run fast n far. Well done Chika. @ all yea women beaters God is watching u on 10D screen n will surely reward u. Fooooools

Anonymous said...

Thanks be to God u are alive and able to tell your story. So many women have been murdered by their husbands or boy friends because they just could not leave the abusive relationship they found themselves in. It is a very serious matter because when it gets to that level where a woman losses her self worth a lot of things begin to go through her mind like what will society think or say about me etc,but at the end of the day is your life not more valuable than what society would say? I left my abusive husband some ten years back and I got the worst criticism from family members but I did not care because I was the one being battered...I thank God that I left and God has been good to me. Like I always tell anyone who asks me now why I left...I tell them I left to stay alive!

Anonymous said...

Leave d marriage. My mum was in a similar situation but she didn't hv a miscarage ur life is worth it no man should turn a woman into a punching bag its not rite @ll I hope u find Mr Right

EDDIE~SYFAR said...

God help U̶̲̥̅̊ find another M̲̣̣̣̥α̍̍̊и̣̣̣̥

Anonymous said...

Can't belief there are still sane man that beats a lady...any one that try dat is a complete f**l

Anonymous said...

rubbish

Anonymous said...

where my comment???!!!

Anonymous said...

I was a victim as well, so I knw how it feel 2 beaten by somone u really love and can die 4, I was given 2 option leave or u die, I don't ve choice den 2 live with my beautiful duaghter, men can be very funny.

Anonymous said...

I feel u girl, hope 9ja babes dat suffer from domestic abuse can start to speak up and dont continue to live in pain and shame beco of a loser that abuses them all in d name of marriage. Please keep these kinds of conversations coming and in d spotlight. Marriage is a beautiful thing and no place in the bible states that a man should beat his wife. Lets all stand up for violence against women.

Anonymous said...

Its a good thing, you stepped out when you still could. All the best!!!

asachi said...

hmmmn bad tins still happen in dis world

asachi said...

hmmmn bad tins still happen in dis world

QUEENTY said...

Haaa nkan nbe #in kolawole olawuyi's voice#

Anonymous said...

My dear its better u left n continue ur life U hv a whole lot in front of U dnt be reduced to nothing all in d name of marriage.

Anonymous said...

If this is true,i really feel for you.You can still find love and remarry since you had no issue.If even you had,a man that truly loves you will still agree to have you as his wife.Every woman deserves the best in terms of life partner.

Anonymous said...

All d best chika.n God's grace

Anonymous said...

Thank God u left when u did. Now can we pop d champagne on ur divorce? Useless douche bag of a man. He should take his sorry arse else where. But Chika, am proud of you for taking this giant leap and I admire your maturity as well. God be with you. Am sure he would wipe ur tears soon. No woman deserves to be treated like an emotional dustbin/punch bag. Good luck Chika.
Lizzy

Anonymous said...

well dere are so many tins dat prayers can avert, young wives of these days forget d place of prayers wen a man starts misbehavin. God hates divorce, so he'd definately make haste to hear d prayers of a woman in pains. Nevertheless women are not objects to be battered, dey deserve d best treatment, as humans we err against God and he still shows us his love.

Gechybabe said...

Your reason for divorce is a good one then. It's better to be unmarried/divorced than to die in marriage. No man/woman is worth dieing for. May God give you a man who will love, respect and appreciate you for who you are.

Anonymous said...

Chika should shut up her stupid mouth,she has forgotten dat der are people out der dat knw her very well,even to her parents house. I will simply say dat she is lying and a disgrace to womanhood.she should better stop lying on her husband for noting cus very soon her cup of shame will soon run over.

Gechybabe said...

Thank God you left the marriage Ooº°˚ . It is better to remain unmarried/divorced than to die in marriage. No woman deserves to be battered. If he can't respect you, then he doesn't deserve to have you. May God give you a responsible man who would love, cherish, respect and appreciate you for who you really are.

Alicia says... said...

AMEN FOR YOU CHIKA! I AM PROUD OF YOU! Those talking crap about you, i pity them. Some haters will never find good in anything. When I hear of actors and actresses divorcing, I never jump to conclusions because you'd never know.
THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR STORY DEAR

Marypeace Williams said...

Ur shoe hurts gud u already pulled it off marriage s Not meant 4 Every woman

Anonymous said...

@chika,then you went into a government armys?sorry,
nd cleam,hm ur self or face good.
how should a real woman who has made a mistakes in marriage still falling in the hands of men for money?how much are you getting from acting?etc,,linda post it fast,nd allowed some good woman to learn good nd not by a liars,i will be telling my sodiers de rightful way to fight a war ahead,not to deceived,so chika why now?just after an insuited?well good for ur freedoms,just finished watching ur star secret,from swiss,

Marypeace Williams said...

Ur shoe hurts gud u already pulled it off marriage s Not meant 4 Every woman

Marypeace Williams said...

Marriage s nt meant 4 Every woman

Anonymous said...

Women bad mouth sometimes dey warrant beating,my wife once insulted my manliness and hit me wit a pestle,i retaliated by giving her a WWE treatment-;i gave her a tripple h pedigree,a stone cold stunner and an RKO,a shawn michael's super kick(sweet chin music) before i finally nailed her wit an undertaker chokeslam/tombstone pile driver, since dat day she neva tried such wit me.

Anonymous said...

For me na from my inner village I will go marry,lagos girls bye bye,,
even my girl friend gave me a very big hot slaps last night and pick up her phone nd shouting,come nd heat me back nd see If I will not call police for you,becos I refused to gave her 14thousand naira she demanded?waahh

Anonymous said...

Woww this is so wrong. I just left my 3yrs old marriage because of this same domestic violence . I was also very young and was married to this footballer who doesn't understand what marriage it and couldn't draw the thin line btn girlfriends / wife and family. It was hell for me. Our union produced a child, even when I was pregnant he never stopped beating me. Initially it wasn't easy when j made that decision to quit my marriage bcoz of our child but God has been my strength and my very supportive family. Now am very happy that I made that decision and I don't regret it. When I look back, I'll be like 'how on earth was I able to even hide this from friends and family for 3yrs'. I am so happy now no more days of suffering and smiling

Anonymous said...

Woman no be jerky,how man will beat his wife or his girl friend,is unfair nw,he will see some akpu obi 4 mile 2 or upper iweka he pass dem ,even if dey beat him he will tell them sorry upon dat dash dem some money,then come back home beat his wife. But lili let me ask what of woman wey dey beat man nko. eye rolling

Anonymous said...

Awwwww poooor her.men can be disgustin

Anonymous said...

He's an animal...a barbarian. I thank God 4 my hubby always cos d way @ which I misjive atimes ehn? Regardless of how we provoke u guys, c'mon, violence is just a no-no. Dhoine

Anonymous said...

Exactly, there normal people with every day challenges. It's not easy.

Anonymous said...

Tank God u escaped before he kills u and tells d whole world it was d devil dat pushed 2 do it

Anonymous said...

Please, this law should be brought actively to port harcourt.

Anonymous said...

If u ask me na who I go ask#singing# this is chika's version the guy could have a diff story

Anonymous said...

Tank God 4 u dear,d ryt man 4 u will soon in jesus name "AMEN"

Anonymous said...

Tank God u escaped before he killed u and tells d whole world it was d devil dat pushed him 2 do it.

teebaks007 said...

Hmmmm...pls ladies, if a guy raises his voice at u or threathens to hit u somday, den e will.
some men can disgrace other men sha.9ice one chika.but divorce aint d only option.prayer works...

Anonymous said...

I agree wit u

Anonymous said...

Well ....celeb pls cld we hear more from u?I think there still more things To hear ............

Anonymous said...

SHE IS LYING,IT WAS BECAUSE OF THE ACCUSATIONS SHE GOT WHEN SHE CELEBRATED HER DIVORCE,THAT IS WHY SHE RELEASING THIS STATEMENT,ALL I SEE ABOUT YOU,IS THAT U MADE A MISTAKE TO MARRY EARLY AND U OPTED OUT TO EXPLORE THE WORLD,NO PROBLEM,MAKE D MONEY AND D FAME,TIME SHALL TELL.

Anonymous said...

AWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!

Anonymous said...

God deliver all women from abusive devilish men in Jesus name, whatever Sins i have committed God forgive and deliver us women. My husband was very verbally abusive and still can be bcos he came from a dysfunctional family with a mother that has a cruel tongue. My hope and prayer is that God protects me and d kids from him and his evil tongue and changes him to a better man IJN. amen

Anonymous said...

My BOYFRIEND has hit me several times, iv tried to defend myself a few times..bt iv come to realize that no REAL MAN EVER puts his hands on a woman, None!

kate Isangha said...

Ehya..... Sowie o

Anonymous said...

GOD WILL DEAL WITH EVERY MAN THAT HAS RAISED HIS HANDS ON AN INNOCENT WOMAN FOR ANY STUPID REASON AT ALL. SAY NO TO VIOLENCE!! this is sad.

Anonymous said...

How can a mqn beat this beautiful damsel, on what basis? The man must be an animal in human skin.

Anonymous said...

He shud be Arrested!

Anonymous said...

Al these beast ( men) dat beat thier wife u r nt worthy of marriage u ll go 2 hell

staff said...

Nigerian men and their insecurities. Why are you guys so insecure that you have to control women?

kween said...

I know Chika Α̲̅Ω̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ her cousin is my frnd τ̲̅ȍo,he always said chika never loved her ex,she's 4rm Ekwulobia in Anambra state n her community doesn't take it kindly wit men dat beat their daughters,d ex swore,cried n begged dat he never laid a hand on her,bt she was adamant n went to court Α̲̅Ω̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ won,she has remarried Α̲̅Ω̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ if truly her 1st husband ever laid his hands on her,den he deserves every pain he went through Α̲̅Ω̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ every tears he shed cos women battering Α̲̅Ω̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ domestics violence is ƒό̲̣̣̣̥r̶̲̥̅̊ lesser men,men with low self estEem,ƒό̲̣̣̣̥r̶̲̥̅̊ low lifes n not real men.
Real men don't beat women,they love dem!

Ifiokobong Ibanga said...

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Nekky said...

Thank God for your life. Domesstic violence has got to stop!!

Anonymous said...

Every1 don bcm victim now. Tnk God u woke frm d stupidity of an abusive marriage Chika!
~D great anonymous!

Anonymous said...

Some men are devil reincarnate

Baba'Doje said...

Many of you tell domestic violence stories without mentioning what prompted it. Am sure most of you got beaten due to your wayward, cruel, lazy, rude and dirty ways. Pls stop telling half stories.

Anonymous said...

Y are u lying chika.i know all the story please.your husband caught u with a senator man friend and ever since den he decide to treat u like a bist.

Lady Stelusy said...

Such a beautiful lady with a bitter experience. Domestic violence seems to be rampant dis days,pls o ladies beware & take caution. God help us all.

Anonymous said...

Why am I struggling to believe her.
I beg go and enjoy your artists in peace and leave us in peace.

Anonymous said...

I meant aristos

DucciGreen said...

This is really sad. Her ex husband chased my cousin. Quoting my cousin,"He claimed Chika refused to hav children due to fear of loosing her good physique". I found that hard to bliv though.

Anonymous said...

I'm glad a very pretty thing like u got out of that shitty
Alliance u vowed urself into called marriage.
If I can summarize it 2 u why such beauty like was abused by that fcker u called ur husband:

He was very insecure of himself just like every other man day abuses their woman. I know he must have been jealous of loosing u or felt deep inside him secretly felt that he doesn't deserve u, so has 2 beat n abuse U enough 2 get u low enough 2 his level by killing ur self esteem with his abuses, n as u've testified here, u thought it was love just like every other abused woman thinks. Luckily u're one of d few women that woke up to this menace n foresaw what would have been of u if u had continued to be in dat marriage. U knew that probably he would have maimed u by splashing ur pretty face with acid or even killed u, but thank God 4 ur bravery 4 taking a great stand against his abuses by saying thru ur divorce, "I'm better than this n deserve better from any many man." Honey, u really deserve better treatment from any man that calls himself a real man rather than that insecure ass that u called ur husband.

Wish u d best n hope that u can find u a real man who can treat u like a queen that u really are...wink! wink!

njima queen said...

we would ve sure a gud actress bck den

Anonymous said...

Sad tale! I'm happy she is out of that marriage. However, how come even our stars can't write correct grammar. This is full of very bad grammar! We are really in trouble in this country.

Anonymous said...

Pscheeeeeeew ashewo! My foolish wife too dey abuse me, how many times has that idiot slapped me?

Cynthia Uzodimma said...

Tnk God Fø̲̣̣я̅ U̶̲̥̅̊, ท ϑ man has †ђc̷ right †̥☺ lay his finger on a woman ท ϑ matter ã†‎, U̶̲̥̅̊ did †ђc̷ rite tin ท God will see U̶̲̥̅̊ through!

Anonymous said...

Men dat batter woman shld never go scot free cos its babaric! Sori dear pple did misjudge u but u hv cleared d air,,,its all gud

Yinx said...

Hmm, wonder why some callous men beat up their wife even if she has offends them. Guess itz a sign of insecurity and inferiority Complex, no woman deserves to be treated like dog even a dog like been pet or cuddled. So U̶̲̥̅̊ celebrity woman beaters out there such as Frank Edoho, Alariwo e.t.c & there unknown folk... I hand U̶̲̥̅̊ over to day of judgement by the Almighty (Allah). Chika my heart cries for you. Wish U̶̲̥̅̊ all d best

Anonymous said...

I guess all dis jist now its all about Beverly's loud mouth,Bev u r in for it wen u come out some pple will chew u raw.

Anonymous said...

Men dat batter woman shld never go scot free cos its babaric! Sori dear pple did misjudge u but u hv cleared d air,,,its all gud

Anonymous said...

U are really strong.thumbs up

Anonymous said...

Domestic violence is totally wrong ,but we have only heard one side of the story, so don't be quick to reach a conclusion.

Anonymous said...

Its a pity......buh d truth is a whole lot of women r victims of domestic violence but dey come out of their houses each day smiling like their marriages/relationships r perfect.....women shuld try 2 knw their worth and come out of any relationship where they are abused...shame on all men dat hit their women.....*yimu*

Juby said...

My dear,thank God u left him oo,i won,t survive it my self.dnt worry God wil send u anoda dat will treat u well

Maslow said...

Chika lady, you are still looking fresh and pretty but do not forget that you need someone to bring out the specialty in your as a woman.

Anonymous said...

Never ever raised my hands to beat a woman! I never will.... No matter how much a woman pushes me to my limits! Any man who has ever beaten a woman....and for that matter. A wife and mother is a man with the lowest grade of self esteem and libido! #notodomesticviolence

Dele Muyiwa said...

Oh sorry my girl, how wil a man not appreciate & treat a cool, calm, loving & caring damsel like u with altmost respect? He must be a dullard, pele dear

Anonymous said...

Go and sleep abeg

Anonymous said...

Even God said in his word'thou shall nt judge.dis is 2 all those who are quick 2 judge celebs

Ezekiel Akinbo said...

Men who beat women are retarded fellows. Can't even imagine lifting a finger on a woman!

Anonymous said...

I love u chika u have done a gud thing by coming out nd saying all u have keep inside u for so long i think now y mind will be free dont be surprise very soon u meet y own man nd a real one because any body dat beat up a lady is not a real man

Anonymous said...

Chika i rilly lik u a lot,its well.God b wv u

oh baby said...

It well wiv ur soul

Anonymous said...

Awwwwwww! Chika hun,am so happy you left that monster you called a husband..he didn't deserve you, you're beautiful and should have a man who adores you and not one who lays his filthy fingers on you whenever he's upset,You don't deserve that or any woman for that matter. In truth,if you don't know a person's story,don't ever judge their decisions.

PRETTY GIRL

Anonymous said...

That is her own version. Who knows what the ex husband has suffered in her hands that triggered all these she mentioned. Its totally wrong for a man to beat a woman no matter what but she might have a bad character and attitude as well

Anonymous said...

Thank God for her bravery to walk away. I have firsthand experience of domestic violence. My dad almost sent my mom to an early grave. But she ran away for her life with her kids. That was 20 yrs ago, bt till date some peeps still ask her to go back. I know it's d -Till "ur" death do u part- syndrome of this society. Chika is an actress, crazy pple will think it's cos her fame rules her attitude, but no. These abusers don't need a reason, they just start and beat until they r sated. She's strong, my mother is strong and every woman out there who has -in this marriage till death society- walked away from domestic violence, is strong.

Anonymous said...

This sick being called Prince Charming. Kindly change that display pic of yours, kids and teenagers do visit dis blog.Regardless, that's inappropriate. Honestly,What are u trying to project with that? ..Linda, I don't expect u to post his comments with such a pic.

Anonymous said...

Am sorry my dear.But d defination 4 marriage is silience.NO body has it all gud.U work it out n if a marriage will b sweet or bitter it lies in d womans hands.

Anonymous said...

How sad...only one judge and that's God..may He give you strenght...life is once...make it count.

Anonymous said...

Men are just jealous of woman bcos they can nt partake in the mystery of life.dats why they beat woman.God bless womann nd there wonderfuly made.linda post my comment i beg

Anonymous said...

Tnk God U left the marriage alive. Bt wait oh, waht happened to '4 berra 4 worse'?

Anonymous said...

My sister better single,happy and alive than married, miserable and maybe dead.

Anonymous said...

Pele Ehn! Don't support domestic violence in any way cos I didn't witness any, while growing up. But a quick note to women... Pls and Pls watch ur mouth and attitude!

Anonymous said...

Choi....sme men shaa
Am glad u ran away darl
God will suprise u soon

Anonymous said...

Thank God you are alive today to share ur experience. No woman deserves to be beaten by anyman watsoever. God will bless u with a man that will love you for who you are.

Anonymous said...

These are all lies, I guess she is just looking for an excuse to justify why she left her husband house. Mumu for ur age as at den two bedroom no reach u?

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