Every year, thousands of girls compete in various beauty pageants across Nigeria. While the organisers may believe that they are helping our girls to feel “beautiful,” they are also in many other ways causing significant damage to the self-esteem and body perception of other girls. The girl who won may feel as beautiful as the prettiest woman ever created, but what about the girls who didn’t win? How do they feel? I spoke with some past contestants of one of the pageants (the girls that didn’t win) and asked them why they think they didn’t win, and this is what some of them said, “Because I wasn’t pretty enough,” “Because the organisers didn’t like me,” “Because it is a racket and who knows what she has offered,” etc. Things like this inspire jealousy, low self-esteem, and other self destructive behaviours such as self isolation, social anxiety, eating disorder, drug abuse, personality disorder, bitterness and social phobia among our girls. Continue...
Beauty pageants in Nigeria should be
sanctioned. Where do we draw the line between “beauty pageant” and
“prostitution?” These pageant organisers and agencies are doing nothing
but exploiting our girls in order to make money. The society is becoming
so twisted and our sense of right and wrong is becoming so skewed. You
gather politicians and paedophiles to watch girls in G-strings and
bikinis wriggling their waists all in the name of making a show for TV.
Are the contestants always meant to lie about their beliefs and
relationship status in order to get a good score? Have we totally lost
sight of what is morally right and wrong?
Beauty contests seem pointless to me. To
tell a woman to submit to someone else’s definition of beauty is crazy.
So when the contest is over and someone wins, does that immediately make
them more beautiful than the rest? Are they more beautiful according to
a panel of judges? I think it is a sick idea and the money spent
organising these beauty contests can be more useful for other causes.
Beauty pageant has been nothing but
degrading and harmful to our women and children. It turns our women into
objects to be used and played with. It makes the women that don’t make
it through feel bad about their looks and even those that do get through
feel like they still have to do something more to look prettier. These
beauty pageants also set false standards about how beautiful women are
supposed to look. So, just because a woman is thin with certain looks,
it makes them more beautiful? And women that are thick or big can’t be
pretty or beautiful? All they have succeeded in saying is that beauty is
only skin deep. Well my friend, it isn’t.
Isn’t it bad enough seeing young Nigerian
girls forcing eating disorders on themselves just to be perceived as
prettier? ‘I am so fat and it is just not healthy’ has become the chorus
of every girl on the street. Parents have become very competitive
trying to make their daughters more beautiful than their neighbours’ by
forcing their children to make unnecessary adjustments to their bodies
to look better than their peers. Now we see six-year-olds having hair
extensions, permanent mascara and waxed eyebrows. Do these children
really need to be exposed to such things to know that they are
beautiful? Do we need our children to think that their looks are judged
and if they don’t stand out among their peers, they are not beautiful?
Can a woman ever have a sincere
appreciation of her body when the only time she is ever praised for her
looks is after hours of preparation with dozens of beauty products?
Beauty pageants can only judge what we can see at first glance, and
women are so much more than that. The society needs to protect the
children from the sick idea of assembling girls in camps and tasking
them with over-sexualised dance routines. These beauty pageants can only
ingrain into our women that in order to be beautiful, they need to be
skinny, which for some body types is incredibly unhealthy. Sincerely,
what is the moral behind these beauty pageant shows? How have they
helped the society in general? With sports, we can talk about mental
discipline, fitness and advance body control. For all the money that
beauty pageants cost to organise, is it really worth it? Of all the
things you could expose our girls to, are pageants really the best thing
out there?
When you teach people that beauty is only
on the outside, it can cause major problems, not only health problems
but social, physical and mental problems also. If a beautiful girl
enters a pageant and doesn’t win, she may begin to consider herself ugly
or fat or too skinny. Beauty pageants create a lot of problems that can
affect not only the girl but the people she surrounds herself with.
Women have always demanded respect from
men. Not only should they demand it, I think they deserve it. But why
make them scamper around in G-strings and bikinis showing off their
bodies, knowing that men are going to go “gaga” and lick their lips. I
don’t want to sound disrespectful, but can you blame the men? Men will
always be men. We can’t change our nature, but you know what we can
change. We can change the fact that our women are naked and competing to
be “the most beautiful in the world.” We shouldn’t endorse beauty
contest because it brings money to some people. I believe that there are
still a handful of women out there that share the sentiment that beauty
contests are wrong and give men the wrong idea of what a “true wife”
looks like.
245 comments:
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Linda, you and Etcetera get pact for you to publicize im stuff? E nor know wetin dem dey call (healthy)competition? If you nor carry first for your class go kill yourself na. U nor reach. So many things for life just be like dat.
maybe u should go and be special adviser to our presido on boko haram matters. You know, you can talk o
AHHH BOOOO! ABEG ABEG NEXTT ISSUE PLEASE!!
It's called having an Opinion, you low IQ idiots.
What has your failure of a father ever done? Tell me boy!!!
He has the write to express his opinion. Dumb bitch.
Nancy, leave Onyx alone!!!
You obviously want to suck his penis. If you like him, go about it the right way. Idiot !
You're a bigger sicko.
Idiot.
Who is he hurting?
Did you even read the post, you whale?
It's called constructive criticism. Block head!
I didn't even attempt to read that shit you posted.
Lol!
Idiot!
You first.
You better ask you father why he decided to breed .
Animal 9:58.
Shut your mouth. Idiot!
Go and tell that to your father, first.
Shut up idiotic girl.
You're ugly though. See her face like orangutan.
@ anon 4:23 dat is harsh!!!!
Even beyonce agrees with him... Have you seen "pretty hurts"?
Who told you Adaeze is from a wealthy background? #saywhatyouknow
If you didn't comment u won't have seek for my attention....must you comment? Shina go and sleep
Am beginning to love this guy. If u failed as a muscian, u can't fail as a critics. Biko expose them all. Am right behind u. True talk. Keep it up
You do know , they dont have to sleep or do anything . There lots of competitions on this world , singing for instance and the losers always complain or bad mouth the winnner. And for the love of God its done all over the world both men and females have peaget
They should be banned
Etcetera? For how long would this your write up last? Well, wash it! No too long it will be over. My advice is this. Don't focused on criticism alone, but Praise and honours to whom that is due to because not all professions and ideas are bad. Life must always go on my brother, in that some people lose and some gain. That's life for you.
They should also ban ballon d or award cos if you are nominated and u dnt win it it will seem u dnt play well hahah idiot
Well said
n anonymous, tot u 2 shld recognize itz Mxg'S point of view 2 n grab several seats 4urslf in a stadium..
we really dnt have to insult anyone to prove a point. calln hm an idiot hasnt chngd notn..
so bcos de existed long b4 he was born makes it right yh? so we shld go bak 2killing of twins.. dat existed b4 u were born 2
cos u wantu look at ass n boobz orji.. same tn ds guy spoke bout
n u re respondin, so u re also pointn out hz relevance..
I absolutely agree with the guy. Beauty contests are rubbish and its psychological impact on "non-beautiful" girls cannot be overemphasized.
It's surprising that most women here don't see the sense in his argument. You want men and the society to respect you, but you glorify society's objectification of yourselves.
Like his music career bah
He made sense all d way, his points are valid buh peepz won't subscribe coz mayb dey hv a thng or 2 agnst ETC...
well there two sides to every story and both could be right
well there two sides to every story and both could be right
Yup onyx is. Obviously gay as hell. He even uploads men's naked pics in admiration
He made its points known which are good ones but it not enough to ban it. I see it as more of entertainment in its own way. Keeping some ppl busy...
Linda pls can i av Etcetera's email id or a way i can contact him. I really love all his write up. Most pple don't want to get the message all the look as is the person. Pls send any means i can use to contact him. Thanks
Etcetera is just a daft wasted fool
Etcetera Is a big fool. Does he even get paid for all the shit he writes?And Linda you havnt told us how much he is paying you to advertise his crap. Abu are you sleeping with him?
truely he should open his own blog n post all his view so dat pple who wants to read somthing frm him cud go dere n view
I totally agree with you. You are 100 percent right
Linda is the only reason why people remember the name etcetera.
Mr etcetera, go to church and pray against this strong spirit of poverty thats manifesting itself in your life by making you so desperately thirsty for attention that you're willing to say all sort of nonsense just to get a little attention.
i suggest MFM- i'm not sure about the practices of the cele church, but that is an option as well. its so sad- i'm terribly ashamed of you.
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