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Saturday, 5 July 2014

MBGN and other beauty pageants should be banned- Etcetera writes

Etcetera now shares his opinion about pageants in Nigeria. He thinks it should be banned...lol. That won't happen. Pageants have been around for decades and will be around for many years to come. I absolutely do not agree with anything he wrote here but read for yourselves and share your thoughts.
Every year, thousands of girls compete in various beauty pageants across Nigeria. While the organisers may believe that they are helping our girls to feel “beautiful,” they are also in many other ways causing significant damage to the self-esteem and body perception of other girls. The girl who won may feel as beautiful as the prettiest woman ever created, but what about the girls who didn’t win? How do they feel? I spoke with some past contestants of one of the pageants (the girls that didn’t win) and asked them why they think they didn’t win, and this is what some of them said, “Because I wasn’t pretty enough,” “Because the organisers didn’t like me,” “Because it is a racket and who knows what she has offered,” etc. Things like this inspire jealousy, low self-esteem, and other self destructive behaviours such as self isolation, social anxiety, eating disorder, drug abuse, personality disorder, bitterness and social phobia among our girls. Continue...
Beauty pageants in Nigeria should be sanctioned. Where do we draw the line between “beauty pageant” and “prostitution?” These pageant organisers and agencies are doing nothing but exploiting our girls in order to make money. The society is becoming so twisted and our sense of right and wrong is becoming so skewed. You gather politicians and paedophiles to watch girls in G-strings and bikinis wriggling their waists all in the name of making a show for TV. Are the contestants always meant to lie about their beliefs and relationship status in order to get a good score? Have we totally lost sight of what is morally right and wrong?

Beauty contests seem pointless to me. To tell a woman to submit to someone else’s definition of beauty is crazy. So when the contest is over and someone wins, does that immediately make them more beautiful than the rest? Are they more beautiful according to a panel of judges? I think it is a sick idea and the money spent organising these beauty contests can be more useful for other causes.
Beauty pageant has been nothing but degrading and harmful to our women and children. It turns our women into objects to be used and played with. It makes the women that don’t make it through feel bad about their looks and even those that do get through feel like they still have to do something more to look prettier. These beauty pageants also set false standards about how beautiful women are supposed to look. So, just because a woman is thin with certain looks, it makes them more beautiful? And women that are thick or big can’t be pretty or beautiful? All they have succeeded in saying is that beauty is only skin deep. Well my friend, it isn’t.

Isn’t it bad enough seeing young Nigerian girls forcing eating disorders on themselves just to be perceived as prettier? ‘I am so fat and it is just not healthy’ has become the chorus of every girl on the street. Parents have become very competitive trying to make their daughters more beautiful than their neighbours’ by forcing their children to make unnecessary adjustments to their bodies to look better than their peers. Now we see six-year-olds having hair extensions, permanent mascara and waxed eyebrows. Do these children really need to be exposed to such things to know that they are beautiful? Do we need our children to think that their looks are judged and if they don’t stand out among their peers, they are not beautiful?

Can a woman ever have a sincere appreciation of her body when the only time she is ever praised for her looks is after hours of preparation with dozens of beauty products? Beauty pageants can only judge what we can see at first glance, and women are so much more than that. The society needs to protect the children from the sick idea of assembling girls in camps and tasking them with over-sexualised dance routines. These beauty pageants can only ingrain into our women that in order to be beautiful, they need to be skinny, which for some body types is incredibly unhealthy. Sincerely, what is the moral behind these beauty pageant shows? How have they helped the society in general? With sports, we can talk about mental discipline, fitness and advance body control. For all the money that beauty pageants cost to organise, is it really worth it? Of all the things you could expose our girls to, are pageants really the best thing out there?

When you teach people that beauty is only on the outside, it can cause major problems, not only health problems but social, physical and mental problems also. If a beautiful girl enters a pageant and doesn’t win, she may begin to consider herself ugly or fat or too skinny. Beauty pageants create a lot of problems that can affect not only the girl but the people she surrounds herself with.

Women have always demanded respect from men. Not only should they demand it, I think they deserve it. But why make them scamper around in G-strings and bikinis showing off their bodies, knowing that men are going to go “gaga” and lick their lips. I don’t want to sound disrespectful, but can you blame the men? Men will always be men. We can’t change our nature, but you know what we can change. We can change the fact that our women are naked and competing to be “the most beautiful in the world.” We shouldn’t endorse beauty contest because it brings money to some people. I believe that there are still a handful of women out there that share the sentiment that beauty contests are wrong and give men the wrong idea of what a “true wife” looks like.

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Alloy Chikezie said...

Mbanu! I don't agree with you on this one sir


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Unknown said...

Oga go look for one plce sit don put joor..

C.E.O

Anonymous said...

Why are you posting this guys stuff
I know you would get more views based on people opening the page to say how they don't wanna hear his views...
but really, you shouldn't post anything this guy writes..
instead when next he sends you one of his stuff, advice him to open a blog
cos it may seem you share his views, and i know you obviously don't

Anonymous said...

Fact!!!!

Unknown said...

E don dey becom too much for dis Etcetera guy oh.. Make him dey mind him business na.

Anonymous said...

I admire the fact that this man isn't bothered by criticisms and insults.

Keep speaking TRUTH brother.

Opelicious Morgann said...

Tra la la la....

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#King said...

Mr example or wateva u are called..u are a fvcking retard..one day u'll also write dat naija doesn't need a president..get a life miserable nitwit..ur views shld b in ur fvcking diary..m tired of dis failed musician........................................#KingOfKings

Metro Times said...

I endorse this point of view hook, line and sinker

my goodness said...

This is a waste of time. Linda, next pls

Anonymous said...

Dis guy is beginning to get on my nerves wit all dis useless rants of his! He shud shut up.attention seeker!!! Who r u to bring up d idea of banning paegents,it has been in existence b4 u were even born ode!! Rant about our failing leaders nd Lv d growing entertainment industry Whr u failed alone!!! Shikena!

Anonymous said...

you are correct my broda.... true tok... wat is d mumulic benefit of it sef???

Anonymous said...

Well MR.etcetera, there is always 2 sides to a coin...
@teemunza

CHERRY said...

Hmmm I agree with u Linda.

Unknown said...

i tink ecetera is gona b nigeria's perez hilton!! lol! es jst looking for pples trouble,and drawing attention to himself,

yes said...

I agree with him.

sharon said...

I totally agree with him.competition should be for productive things. Award for best charity organization. Is even more pitiful when these girls after winning, they believe they are serving Nigeria by parading about town that they are doing charity work. Rubbish.

Anonymous said...

I wish I can talk to this dude in person. He is one deluded sicko.. Being fit and healthy is the new sexy.. pageants set trends and it all leads to a better world ans healthier people

Anonymous said...

this boy is greatly endowed, u r right but who will listen to u? I pray to have this writing skill in Jesus name Amen.

Anonymous said...

Whtever. Evry woman is beautiful. Pretex4luv@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Etcetera, I really do not understand why you've chosen this cheap medium to gain attention.. You big pass this thing na..

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Unknown said...

dear LIB,u might not see where he's coming from but I think I agree with him cos there's a sense in every non sense.

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Loolz Et cetera, although the beauty pageantry in Nigeria has been lacking in content, I won't subscribe to its scrapping.
To me I see them now as a means of alleviating poverty. Coz I don't see the need for something like Miss tourism, Miss Green,Miss big, miss bold.
I suggest the strict regulation if their activities,so as to end the exploitation.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Unknown said...

I don't even know how to react to this. ETC one thing u should know is, everything in life has a negative and a positive effect. U should have let this one fly.

Unknown said...

Ok etcetera,u 've had a whole time of splendor criticizing virtually every sector bt for dz beauty pageant stuff ur idea z so wrong,if it was in d days of Queen Esther in d Bible it will still be.Sha it's hz opinion it's d easiest thing to afford_ ogunaomi@gmail.com

Unknown said...

I used to really like this guy...but some of his comments lately(though some may seem rational) are just way are out of line. I honestly think he's tired of life. Complaints and slander never solved anything. Mr Etc I think you would do better to creatively address what you hate about life.
Write a song and call Clarence to shoot a nice video about what makes you hate the World so much.
We live in an imperfect world but change can never come by 'cheap shots' at everything you dislike. I beg to differ that this is your natural proclivity. Whoever put you up to this should be flogged.
Please go and write a good song that'll make people feel better about themselves.

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Rosemary A. Chidi said...

Lol...#speechless# I'll just sit bk n watch as comments roll in

Unknown said...

You know your opinion doesn't and wouldn't count, yet you still de disturb yourself... You Get Time..

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Justin said...

And he is back with his foolish talk. he should ask himself if beauty pageants are determinants of girls beauty. Any girl who looks down on herself cos she wasn't chosen clearly have issues. So Mr. Oga, instead of spending ur time writing nonsense online, why not spend time to writing songs that will make hits.

Vee said...

Linda, it's ppl like you who make idiots like this relevant. Mtchew

bamoisha said...

he spoke some truths though.....beauty is far more than d physical appearance

Unknown said...

I agree with him,all these beauty contest is becoming annoying and what benefit do these girls get cus my bible doesn't tell to expose my body before I can be regarded as a pretty lady,our body is the temple of God so y not keep it holy,these pageant are as useless as anytin.

Unknown said...

ok Linda you really promoting this guy. The truth is everyone`s got freedom of speech, he can spit the mumbo jumbo he has in the open space he calls a mouth but for you to always bring this as 'news' doesn't make sense. Hurting people and saying a whole lot of crap to get fame trust me wont last. Etc should get a life, this is so annoying

ary said...

Too long to read this gibberish, especially when you are repeating yourself and your article is aimless! Now we know why he couldn't make it in the music industry because he couldn't compete so he ran away and became a bitter critic! When he says losing affects those who did not win, I am forced to think this guy is nuts, when the said girls went into the competition; key 'competition', she knew it was 50-50, either she won or she lost. So if she allows it affect her psyche, she only has herself to blame! The current most beautiful face has being trying for years to win a pageant, if she had given up after her first 2 competition, would she be face of Anambra today? Yes there are a lot of under handed activities going on at these pageants, but it is something not peculiar to Nigeria. Yes I am against objectifing of women, but beauty pageants have existed and will exist for a long time, but sanity is gradually creeping into the industry, like they now have pageants for plus sizes and model don't have to be rail thin anymore! As far back as the time of Cinderella, there have being beauty pageants, so if we banned everything that offended us or was not done properly, I assure you Nigeria would be in the stone ages. So my brother, pick up your pen and write something meaning like your failed music career and why you haven't tried again.

Anonymous said...

Get a life dude!

Anonymous said...

u make sense bruh

Anonymous said...

Mr. I must be relevant, abeg go sleep

Unknown said...

This guy is just a bitter attention seeking man with no real social goal in mind than to gain popularity. linda, stop posting his rubbish. Real activists are not pessimists or bitter, unlike this guy.

Anonymous said...

Does anyone agree with me that etcetera is only trolling?

Lydia said...

Linda dis guy said d obvious truth weda u agree or not..I can rememba a beauty pageant dat was held at federal palace hotel..I almost cry 4our country kos of wat d organizers did 2dose gals sexually..Truth b tod d pageant is causin more harm dan gud

Anonymous said...

WORD. How do i respect a woman,who has shown the world all that i'm meant to see in private.

Anonymous said...

i think he's a troll

Anonymous said...

Etcetera is becoming too talkative these days,but I think on this particular issue,He said so many things right.Am a lady and I share his views on this.true talk*GBam!

Unknown said...

He has a point but wasn't strong enough to stop beauty p. In Nigeria..
He is just using this avenue to promote himself

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Unknown said...

Hmmm interesting! All he said is true but I dnt tink dat can stop anyways I support Him

Anonymous said...

Much as am not really a fan of this guy, from a moral perspective he is making sense......

obietrezy said...

please tell that ass wipe with a brain tumor do something meaningful with himself.... if he needs help, then he should come out and ask for it rather than condemning things that existed before he was born..... Ass wipe

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with him.

Unknown said...

This guy isn't tired.....

Unknown said...

I agree with him to some extent.

Anonymous said...

Well I for one I'm a feminist and I see where he is coming from... We keep screaming for gender equality when we keep putting ourselves down there... Making ourselves objects instead of being women of substance...don't get me wrong I am talking about pageants and not modeling.. Modeling in general shows a woman is beautiful anyway. Skinny, plus sized, fully covered, exposed, we have models with everyone's kind of body type and choice of clothes,but pageants ...i mean have you seen Toddlers and Tiaras... Sad sad show. If I take chimamanda and an ex MBGN to a company, that ex MBGN would become a marketer and chimamanda would be a manager. It's all about how u make men see u. Are u an object of sexual pleasure or are u a woman of substance. Linda don't be bias cos u were a model. That man has some points. I'm not saying it should be stopped. Afterall abortion is legal in some places, doesn't still make me think it's right!

Anonymous said...

@ etcetera do u really think about the things you say? They should ban beauty contest?? Instead of u to advice the insecure girls you chatting shit. Do u think people would feel less bad about themselves if u ban stuffs like that? What about the tall girls who that's when they feel at home cos they ve been bullied about their height all their lives? After all they ve pageants for big and beautiful too... my friend am sure a lot of un famous better writers would be sad knowing ur getting famous from writing a bunch of crap.

Anonymous said...

I'm a woman and for the first time in his life,he is right.

retro-bae said...

This write up is dumb,baseless and non-covincing.As I read through, the only thing on my mind is "no,no and no"to all the points he has supposedly mentioned.This dude just wants to be tagged "mr controversial" and hes definitely one hell of an attention seeker.As far as writing is concerned,this guy is a mediocre.He should quit already.

Unknown said...

Linda, I think it's time you stop giving this guy publicity... Haba!
Why is his writeups always about same category of people?

* My R1.50c comment *

adeyemi said...

dis guy should just stop talking.......its better not to talk dan say rubbish

Anonymous said...

Just like a lot of women think your choice of hair style is highly irresponsible and a wrong husband material look.

HOT-STEPER said...

I share ur view Bro. It has no moral significance which is d most important virtue dt ought to be imbibed in our young girls & children who are d future. Bcos train a girl & u've trained a Nation

Debbie Chelsea said...

Looool....Etcetera d writter

Unknown said...

He has some valid points tho!

Anonymous said...

Am in total support of his views. Frm d onset, I've had dis negative view abt beauty pageants. Its all gud ooo. 2 me every woman is beautiful. Linda abeg publish my comment.

Anonymous said...

Whether or not we like it, this man makes a lot of sense. Beauty pageants is not our culture especially the ones which exposes our pride and prestige. It should be banned completely cos it encourages prostitution and greed amongst our women.

Unknown said...

Lol! Okwa nu ara na ayi onye a..... Okopu go na chain. Say wat?????

Anonymous said...

Well said. He is made a lot of sense.

Tunji said...

Honestly though if you were to go for job seeking in the corporate world with your MBGN title... You won't be taken seriously.. They would probably make you a ''marketer"... D dude has a point! But I go dey still dey watch am sha

Unknown said...

Funny enough I see 75% sense in what he said BUT hey NOPE , pageant can't be sanction or cancel afterall no be your money dem take organise am.

Unknown said...

Linda post my comment nahh!

Anonymous said...

Your point of arguement is sensible but sorry Mr Ecetera pageants have come to stay.

Anonymous said...

Do I think they should be banned?
No, but one can't deny that Etcetera has a point

Mystique said...

I agree with him..

Unknown said...

I am a lady and I very much agree with Etcetera on this piece 110%.

It appears that men are beginning to see some ladies as objects rather than humans and this is because those ladies let them. Otherwise why would they parade themselves half-naked to be admired and judged? I just don't get it!!!.

Ladies, you need to love and appreciate yourself first. Almighty God made you in His image and called you "Beautiful". Since God already says so, that settles it!! You don't need to parade yourself before any man to prove your beauty or appreciate you. You are beautiful just the way you are.

Ladies, also establish a career path for yourselves...Beauty Pageant is not long term.

Anonymous said...

I don't think etcetera is far from the truth. However, it is an established global industry and so it'd have been wiser for him to have proffered ways we can manage the industry here bcos the industry isn't going anyway as linda rightfully said.

Unknown said...

Makes sense, but people have to survive.

Anonymous said...

Seriously,I agree with u,most people know is wrong too,but because of what they are gaining from it,they will go against what u av said,God help us.

Anonymous said...

i always tell myself i'd never read this guy's write-ups but i end up reading them and getting annoyed and swear i'd never read another one and then i read it and get annoyed again!! How long am i going to continue this cycle. He is such an irritating prick. Someone so determined to be popular that he knows that it is only in a country like Nigeria where u write crap, a blog like Linda Ikeji carries it, several other blogs repeat it, he'd achieve some form of popularity. Its so sad. If it was a country so enlightened that readers check critics review first thereby knowing what is crap or not before deciding to engage their minds, we"d have less of people like this etc.

beeteewhy said...

I totally disagree..come up with something better next time. *what is going on?*

Anonymous said...

So many beauty pageants in Nigeria, it's quite becoming nauseating. These so called beauty pageants are nothing but advanced prostitution.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Etcetera, indeed beauty is not just about the "looks" but the "attitude" and i believe that a true african beauty would not expose her body to thousands of men on Tv. then for the girls who think they were not chosen because they are not beautiful enough need to work on their thinking, you are what you think, if you see yourselve as beautiful people will do the same. you are what you think.

Anonymous said...

This guy is a failure he should go and hug transformers

Oyindamola said...

who is this guy again?
FYI,every beauty pageant is a competition and any girl that agreed to do it, is fully aware of what she signed up for. Thats why it starts at a certain age. Please take several seats

beauty said...

Ok naah.....dis guy again?

Unknown said...

who is this guy again?
FYI,every beauty pageant is a competition and any girl that agreed to do it, is fully aware of what she signed up for. Thats why it starts at a certain age. Please take several seats

Anonymous said...

This guy etcetera needs attention with all these hilarious discussions of his lately...we've known you to be a musician, sing and get attention instead of being a critic....be a MAN!

Unknown said...

take several seats please

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Orji said...

Na was o. If he's not happy with the pageants, no one forces him to watch. but as for me........***enters Google to check for upcoming pageants***

Orji said...

Na was o. If he's not happy with the pageants, no one forces him to watch. but as for me........***enters Google to check for upcoming pageants***

Unknown said...

Ds guys sense is twisted n his mind skewed. I won'ty much. Cos am nt seeing him face 2 face.I guess he's jst tryin 2 b relevant by being controversial.wher his music has failed,controversy pay. Rubbish!!!!

Unknown said...

WELL SPOKEN...........BUT.............. DATS JUST IT

Anonymous said...

partially agree, sponsors of beauty competitions should also have other programs like school quiz competion and reward winners with as much benefits that the beauty pagents are getting

Murphy Elgiano said...

Well, i fink yu r tryin 2 get noticed or attention. Wah eva dey do dia is dia damn biz nt yurs. Try n use dis tym yu r wastin 2 sumfin beta.

kennie said...

This guy is just one angry dude who wasted his music talent,he needs a psychiatrist asap

Anonymous said...

Well he made small sense.. bt what abt those girls who are naturally thin and are now under constant pressure to be curvy? Its not always about the fat girls... Moral lesson= We are all beautiful in our own way!~Chy♡

David (dave_gino) said...

This man done craze. When will he learn to write inspirational... This is why he gets blast all times. I'm on the Nay end of this treatise

Unknown said...

Exactly my thoughts.......but beauty pageant can never be banned. it is impossible. Every day I see one or two position girls are contesting for . is insane.

Anonymous said...

Linda! Y r u making this boy feel relevant? I call him a boy cos he behaves like one. Is it frustration dat is making him write?

Eugenia Ekeji said...

This guy should go to Sambisa forest and remain there till d return of our missing Girls. As far as I'm concerned, he's making a fool of his already failed ambition of becoming a writer after not succeeding at the other end.

Anonymous said...

I support him... I hv tried contesting buh one of d judges told me dat if I dnt sleep wit him I won't win and I decided 2 step down. even Anna banner Slpt wit countless of dem, even collette nwaadike miss tourism Slpt wit many, Mehn! Is so bad, d way dey re doing it. It shud be bannd 4 reaaaal

Vector said...

True talk...i tink he's right

Sister April said...

The funny thing about this controversial guy is that he is saying the truth, if we put sentiments aside, u all know he's right, anyway, linda keep lying to yourself, bitter pills are really hard to swallow.....so say I!!!

Anonymous said...

I agree with you on banning this stupid, unnecessary, unfounded pageants. Its merely a means of prostitution and a way to demean women by watching them parade in next to nothing. Its almost like a show for men to pick their choice.
This is the only country that has over 1000 pageants that range from MBGN, to MISS Face, Miss leg, Miss peace, ms etc....nonsense
These pageants are baseless, dont reflect any form on intelligence or self worth.
I actually blame the parents for letting their children become spectacles of sex and degradation!






Anonymous said...

this sounds true

Anonymous said...

There's a sexist streak emerging in his writing. He's always questioning women's choices and in this essay the path they take to fame and fortune. But when men ogle women, do things that that make them uncomfortable, they are being men. They can't change.

Anonymous said...

If that s case they should also bound football,cos the loser would feel like they were not good enough....csetere,kor wetin u call urself u better calm,....UGLY BOY is BACK!!! Notin consine me.

Anonymous said...

This dude is a retarding retard

Mischievous said...

'Beauty contests seem pointless...'. I agree. Totally pointless!

Nora Spiff. said...

'True'... Etcetra may be perceived "somewhat" in his write ups but it takes a mentally stable person to stand out from the crowd. Too many folks join the 'band wagon' and we need people who inspire fresh air. Eg. A lot of junk Artists and wanna be folks go around making devilish signs to feel funky, when devil knack dem from one corner* 'Dia is God' will be their tears... I concur that stress should be put on different aspects of intelligence and not what others perceive as right. Even Countries we imitate has series of areas that meet other needs... How about promoting the Opera and different genres of Literature and Science? Or do I have to recall that band wagon 'these-days' churches are worse in hypnosis and psychological twisting of folks, so much to say n' weep for- but suffice to say for recall: "There is INDEED God!

Nora Spiff. said...

'True'... Etcetra may be perceived "somewhat" in his write ups but it takes a mentally stable person to stand out from the crowd. Too many folks join the 'band wagon' and we need people who inspire fresh air. Eg. A lot of junk Artists and wanna be folks go around making devilish signs to feel funky, when devil knack dem from one corner* 'Dia is God' will be their tears... I concur that stress should be put on different aspects of intelligence and not what others perceive as right. Even Countries we imitate has series of areas that meet other needs... How about promoting the Opera and different genres of Literature and Science? Or do I have to recall that band wagon 'these-days' churches are worse in hypnosis and psychological twisting of folks, so much to say n' weep for- but suffice to say for recall: "There is INDEED God!

LEEZ said...

Hmmm plenty gist! Well seriously they are too many! Before u know it, they will organise "Miss Hot legs and what have you... well I agree with him jare! he spoke very well!! But Miss Nigeria shld still be, since it's most recognised But every others scrapped! #my opinion#

Unknown said...

Wowwwww well said

realthelma said...

I agree with a lot of point he is making here. but I do believe that while a lot of this pageant are exploitive, some really focus on the overall personality of a woman. they make sure that beauty is much more than skin deep in their pageant. stricter rules are needed to ensure that beauty doesn't equate to prostitution and exploitation.

joy Egbunu said...

Oh pulzzzz jst shataaaap already!!!!!

Anonymous said...

This ETC guy is higg on Alabukun....Pls go find better work & start by learning how to pick beans.Mtcheww

Unknown said...

well said

Amarachukwu. said...

This is mad,he shld keep his thoughts to himself biko.

Anonymous said...

Etc is soo right. 90% of libers will never read this but wl open there wild mouth to cuss etcetra.

yungbaron 1 said...

walahi Bobo ye ti mad....by d way Linda stop post shit from someone who cal himself etc

Unknown said...

His opinion I guess bt 2 an extent I fink he's right

Anonymous said...

I do agree with him to a large extent. I mean, what is the point of beauty pageants?
I think its pretentious and degrading and the only contribution it makes to the society is to instill insecurity in girls
I'm sure they were started as fun projects, but those days are lng gone.

TeeDayo said...

Etcetera.tho I enjoy d beauty pageants 4d fun of it,I agree with him on this one to an extent.Even mst times,light skinned girls are picked ova dark girls making lot of dem bleach to death.4real,wateva they are judged on doesn't make dem more beautiful and I dnt see any contribution dis has in d society.d part were he says parents are forcing deir kids to look beautiful is very true.Even pageants 4kids are evrywere.wat is d idea?my kid is more beautiful dan urs.d truth is d society is morally degrading.I knw d pageants are here to stay,but wat rilly is d whole idea?

Anonymous said...

This guy should goan take several seats in d stadium.his busy body is annoying...... By @successralu

CHINELO said...

My dear Etcetera u are very talented, vast and intelligent. Talking about a total halting of beauty pageants isn't the best, fine most thing u said here are right but most of what u stated here is based on individualism and some are domestic problems to be handled domestically.pageants are beautiful and encouraging events so i don't totally agree with you.

Unknown said...

attention seeker...
must u talk?



BORN TO SHINE!!!!

IG - @Hairbyniyot_ (08135891923) said...

He's right tho..there is sense in what he said

Anonymous said...

Well there is sense in what he wrote. Assembling them in bikinis is what i dont agree with. In as much as we try to emulate the whites, we can never share same culture with them. We are africans.

But ETC, If you think girl who dont win a beauty contest are effected psychologically, what about kids who fail in their studies? what do you think will happen to them? What about Nigerian eagles who were kicked out last week? what will they suffer?

Anyway, you are entitled to your opinion. I dont agree with you totally.

#SomSom

Anonymous said...

Well there is sense in what he wrote. Assembling them in bikinis is what i dont agree with. In as much as we try to emulate the whites, we can never share same culture with them. We are africans.

But ETC, If you think girl who dont win a beauty contest are effected psychologically, what about kids who fail in their studies? what do you think will happen to them? What about Nigerian eagles who were kicked out last week? what will they suffer?

Anyway, you are entitled to your opinion. I dont agree with you totally.

#SomSom

pumkin said...

He has some valid points though

Unknown said...

Hey Linda. Trust me its been long I see a brother drop such bomb. How true. If I rule the world I will close down the fashion industries. They sucks dear.

Unknown said...

God bless you ETCETERA.keep telling them the truth its bitter in their ears but nothing but truth .Linda i just listen to his song Ring the Alarm.this guy is too good in both music and writing ...Carry on bro

Anonymous said...

Some body should pls tell that guy to look 4 were to sit joor

Anonymous said...

I did not read dis article bt I know he made a lot of sense

Bonita Bislam said...

I see it from this point; If you have a whitlow infection on your finger,do you chop the finger off or you treat it? Baning pageants isn't the solution to all the ills he pointedd out.

IVORY CHI said...

LINDA: first of all your comment section takes too long to load please sort it out


ETC: THIS IS FOR YOU , I KNOW YOU WILL READ THE COMMENTS SECTION SO PLEASE READ VERY WELL

YOU ARE AN IDIOT FOR ALL YOU HAVE WRITTEN

A CLASSIC EXAMPLE OF A FOOL OF A MAN WHO THINKS THAT BECAUSE HE HAS MADE SMALL CHANGE HE CAN CONTROL ALL THE WOMEN AROUND HIM

I LAUGH. PLEASE SEEK TO EXERT SUCH CONTROL ON YOUR DAUGHTER , WIFE AND NUMEROUS GIRLFRIENDS . THANK YOU


IN THIS WORLD, WE ARE ALL ENTITLED TO FREEDOM. FREEDOM OF CHOICE, FREEDOM OF EXPRESSOON AND FREE DOM TO PARTICIPATE IN ANY PROGRAME OF ANYONE'S CHOICE. HENCE IF A GROWN WOMAN CHOOSES TO PARADE HER GOODIES IN THE NAME OF ESTABLISHING THAT SHE IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THAT IS HER OWN BUSINESS

LIKEWISE IF ONE CHOOSES TO ATTEND SUCH A SHOW AND WATCH OR TURN THE TV ON TO A PARTICULAR CHANNEL TO WATCH THAT IS HER OR HIS OWN BUSINESS ASWELL.

FOR YOU TO SAY IT SHOULD BE CANCELLED BASED ON THE STUPID POINTS MENTIONED ABOVD MEANS U HAVE FORGOTTEN THE AGE WE LIVE IN, WHERE EVEN IF CANCELLED IN NIGERIA WE CAN EASLIY ACCESS SUCH FROM OTHER COUNTRIES

FOR YOU TO BLAME MORAL DECADENCE AND INSECURITY OR EVEN Promisciouty ON BEAUTY PAGENTS IS NOT ONLY A NULL AND VOID CLAIM, BUT ALSO SHOWS YOUR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE OF CERTAIN FUNDAMENTAL TRUTHS.

TRAIN A CHILD UP IN THE WAY OF THE LORD SO ON WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT!!IF SUCH VALUES ARE INSTILLED INTO A CHILD FROM A YOUNG AGE HE OR SHE WILL BE ABLE TO NAVIGATE THIS CORRUPT WORKD WITH CONFIDENCE AND EASE.

PEOPLE THAT WANT TO BE PROMISCIOUS WILL BE, PEOPLE THAT WANNA GAG ARE GONNA GAG. ONCE AGAIN IT. HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEAUTY PAGENTS

HOW MANY OF US WATCH THESE THINGS ANYWAY

IF YOU HAVE A PERSONAL DILEMA I SUGGEST YOU SEEK COUNSELLING

OTHERWISE ALL YOU HAVE SAID IS RUBBISH

Soul said...

Biko, what's the sense and rationale behind the overhyped musings of a sad and depressed man? Human beings, not just women, feel inferior or suffer from low self esteem every other day not just from physical attributes and preferences. In fact, I'll prefer that one suffers from the aforementioned from physical beauty than intellectual or talent. While in school, right from play group right through university, parents, fellow students and even parents have come down on kids who are not 'taking first' in class'. At least, physically, you can take care or do something about your deficiencies but we all know that humans have different intellectual dispositions. You can't be as smart as the next person but you can be as good looking. Hdjdidhdjjdi needs to understand that. About being naked and whatnot, girls run around the streets naked everyday so why not do that and get paid while at it? Really. And suddenly, he's had an epiphany that beauty pageants should be banned in Nigeria okwia? Some years ago, in Abuja, those "senseless organizers who waste money organizing pageants" paid this boffun to perform and he sis. I guess their money in his account wasn't immoral huh?! And why is it I. Nigeria he wants pageants stopped? Make we no copy oyibo people again ne? Is that what he wants? And he's frying his hair like them. Why does t he go Djimon on his head?! Ewu Afghanistan. In fact Linda, I will email you a vn venting my displeasure with this man's spews before my hand suffers from carpal tunnel syndrome. Lol

Diamond said...

I'm sorry but I totally agree with him, we have to agree that beauty goes beyond blonde and make-up, to be beautiful is something deep far beyond artificial materials used to make one beautiful ( as the idea), we should see beauty as very significant, soulful n spiritual and that way it reflects with outward appearance and so if you're that, it is acknowledged by all known to them. We need a society where African beauty is characterized as pure, not women covering their God-given natural hair with extension they claim are more beautiful than theirs, we need to be liberated fro the shackles of colonial mentality and free ourselves, I may not agree with some of the writer: Chimamanda Adichie's beliefs but I like the fact that she is natural, wears her natural hair and she is a proud, strong African woman, also that she speaks without faking her accent this is something we can all benefit from and not be left out by feeling down because of the fake ones out there, we need to embrace ourselves and let others embrace us as we are, only then can our lives truly have a great meaning and the blessings it entails be fully given. Bless..

Babd said...

In other news,oau ols resume and aunty linda change dis packaging,ur blog is confusing me

Babd said...

He is a columnist and he is doing his job,hw is he seeking attention

Anonymous said...

To me some of what he said is true but the rest is just a biased personal rant. BTW Linda, its kind of hard getting to comment on ur blog,a turn off for a first-timer. adeolaoshinaike@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

He s totally right altho i dnt support d ban buh he made lots of sense....

Anonymous said...

I agree with him though to some extent bt it can't be stopped.also agree with@TeeDayo....He said it all 👍

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Unknown said...

Dude concentrate on gettin ur ground in d music scene nd stop seeking attention here..fingers re nt equal som re made to be better than odas man dt life for u...

Anonymous said...

I don't care much for this etcetera guy.. Bt on this issue... He makes some sense... Pageants were made to show Tht beautiful ppl cn b a lot more than a trophy wife. That u cn use ur beauty to reach out nd improve the lives of others..Bt nowadays... Pageant contestants are all aspiring models...nd I am nt saying this outta spite.. Because I know some of these pageant winners.. Nd trust me.. It is not about doin good.. It's bout being in music videos... Some of these music video vixens.. I recognize them from pageants .... These girls r just after fame. The girl Tht went and had Paul okoyes child.. Wasn't she a pageant contestant.... Wt was she doing at such a young age in bed with an older guy?Does somebody lyk Tht seem lyk. Genuine person to u? Pageants r just an opportunity to make other girls feel bad Tht they will never be as skinny as another... Pageants hv auditions.. Nd if u don't make the cut.... Tht is basically them telling u Tht u rnt pretty enuff... how dare they suggest to sm1 Tht their child is not pretty enuff to compete....

Unknown said...

Did u say too long to read this gibberish? Yet wrote ur own long note. Lmao! Hilary diaris God oh.

NaNcY DreW said...

4 u onyx 2 knw perez hilton hmmm dude u re so gay dat mins u follow him ewwwww Bk 2 d mata I totally agree wit him d sad part is in recents tyms is only light skin ladies dat dey pick as winners so every dark skin lady wants 2 bleach deir skin

Olubukola Ozone said...

He is so right abt his points. But yet, it cant be stopd becus of dat. So get used to it Mr etc

amy said...

Etcetera d psychologist. Wen dd u become one? Biko go back to ur lipton tea songs and stop making half-assed assumptions nd conclusions

amy said...

Etcetera d psychologist. Wen dd u become one? Biko go back to ur lipton tea songs and stop making half-assed assumptions nd conclusions

Unknown said...

Smiles! Dis guy is so funny sha!
Mamafunkky@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

OMG I agree with him! I remember when you posted something about a pageant a while back and I remember posting in the comments that pageantry actually fulfills nothing.

He is actually right. It is just that how he went about it may not have appealed to people. If they had made the pageantry that any woman can go if she has fulfilled so and so qualifications(not related to the physical), then beaut pageants will have some merit. What I don't get is the need for the people to wear bikinis(half naked), dance in skimpy clothes..The question we should be asking ourselves is this: who started this practice, and what do you think were their TRUE intentions before it was being copied by others all over.

You guys just refuse to think. And it' really sad, because it's obvious

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Anonymous said...

My friend must u comment in Ibo? Ode

Ofure said...

Dis guy feels too opinionated, dats d problem I have wit him....any full grown adult dat needs a pageant to feel butiful or ugly,shld be taken to sambisa forest nd used as dia dry cleaner....i'm sure nobody will tell u to feel good about urself after u wash an aboki's cloth! dis his write up lacks sense!...totally nd completely

Anonymous said...

Awesome! Some may disagree but facts are scarce... The beauty in every woman goes beyond cosmetic and makeup but real beauty lies within self discipline and control, women should be celebrated not to be demoralised, giving education not permutations!

Ofure said...

I beg to differ (nicely).....ive seen situations where very butiful gals r screened out of beauty contests....they have somany criteria dey look out for....d issue of fame on d oda hand has notin 2do wit d body organising d contest....its just like saying d essence of bcoming a president it to cater 4d citizens,but since pple dat contest don't fulfil dia promises den elections shls be banned!....its d individual dat our anger shld be vented on,not d body...

Unknown said...

I also think so too, its becoming highly proliferated, miss dat, miss dis....

Anonymous said...

What nonsense! Did women ask u 4 this!? Any girl who thinks like that, it's her own opinion and any man who judges by what a girl who won a paegent looks like then it's his own stupid opinion. Real men dnt judge like that. You wanna fight 4 women? First as an individual, respect them. Fight so they can get legal rights in court to get their kids in the case of divorce, fight against molestation, rape n other vile nonsense, fight so that women can smeday be governors in Nigeria. Ur own is 2 talk rubbish. I have a host of friends who have cntested 4 stuff n none of them cmplained winner or nt, they we're just happy. There is a little jealousy in every game. We can just ban football n any cmpetitive stuff as well. Bunkum!!! ----C21

MXG said...

#king, you are rude. If you cannot disagree eloquently, please read the post, shake your head and move on. Comparing a nation's leadership to a skin contest really highlights what the writer is speaking against. You even deign to call yourself the king of kings. What a tragedy. A harbinger of the lost future of Nigeria.

AnnoyingMoss said...

According to AnnoyingMoss Standard Dictionary- Etcetera (etc.) is just a punctuation mark. It is used by people who have nothing to say anymore but want to give the impression that they still have a lot to say.

AnnoyingMoss

Anonymous said...

My dear u know nothing about these contests. They r really disgusting. Even girls who enter just to compete find themselves sleeping with dirty old men just to stand a chance. Its just about the money to the point that even if u dont win u can make more money than the winner nd trust me a lot of them know this. Its only those from wealthy families eg Adaeze Yobo that can enter nd win based on who know who. The rest use sex. Ask Munachi Abi.

Anonymous said...

Lmao, r u frikkin' kidding me? Old men like u wank 2 little girls in bikins, u r the sicko.

Sabrina said...

Dear linda..haven't been on your blog for a while..missed it though..now to this live cannon waiting to explode..mr etcetera...I don't appreciate your point of view...to some extent you made sense but you lost perspective along the line...where you got the idea that the girl who wins is the prettiest girl is wrong,secondly the wearing of G-strings is untrue..if you watch pageants like you claim you do...in Nigeria...girls in pageants don't wear G-strings...please pay close attention when watching..thirdly,in very game there is a winner...everyone can't win a game..hence the term "competition" now if you do not win in a pageant and you think its because you are not pretty enough then you should never have climbed on stage...because you lack self-esteem...that has nothing to do with you not winning or the pageant as a whole..that's something you work on as a lady..and no one is asking anyone to submit to their idea of beauty...take a look at agbani ...she won not only because she was beautiful...but she was intelligent and smart and portrayed her country's culture...now that's what pageants are all about..the inner and outer beauty of a lady..next time you pick up your pen to write do proper research.

HOT S*X TIPS said...

Banned? lol

DOBY DOBY said...

I understand his point. . Al dis beauty pageant ar jus ways to exploit money frm ladies. . Dey wil sell deir form 5k nd u myt nt evn pass d audition.. evn if u pass, u must sleep with an official to b amng d winners tho nt al pageant shaa

Unknown said...

Honestly, this guy is a good writer and I see facts/points in this..... All this pegeantry is too much. Some do so many unspeakble things to become beauty queens. I like e.t.c though. Keep writing for them tto hear I know people hate him but I can see that Linda is a big fan....lol.

Anonymous said...

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abass said...

Haha haha lol

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with him though

Unknown said...

This guy is making sense the truth is always bitter this is the problem we the youth have in this country shaying away from the truth people will always shay away from the truth always learning from the westhern world abandoning our own culture

abass said...

Yeah I support you

abass said...

I am in support of your ideas etc.
Why are they choosing only light complexion lady as winner?
Do they mean dark complexion ladies are ugly?
You know in Nigeria things get done upside down
Does that mean all thick ladies are ugly?
Though medically it is not advisable to be gaining weight

Anonymous said...

The guy don Change profession, i think this one is getting more attention, my brother you don discover your true talent,Linda can't ignore you because you dey carry traffic. Linda pls pay this guy oh. Ochuko.

Anonymous said...

Lmao,Lwkmd,chai, Daris god oooo

May said...

If to say I bever maRry I for go pay this guy bride price. The man get sense.

mary said...

hmmmm, somehow i agree and somehow i don't agree. the part that the other girls who did not win feel bad, yea its very normal to feel bad if you don't win in a competition, but they should also realize that in a competion its only one person that takes the crown, it doesn't matter how beautiful others are. just like in a football competition, only one team wins, no matter how strong others are. also its not only their physical beauty, they have to answer some questions to test their intelligence, their poise, confidence all go into consideration and then the votes from the audience too are combined. i disagree with the person who said something about the judges choosing only the fair girls, that's a lie, Sylvia nduka was MBGN 2011, she is dark, isabella Ayuk, 2012 is also dark. i don't know what else to agree or not agree with Ectera, but i think some of the botbellied organisers take advantage of these girls who are below 20yrs, promising them fame, good life etc. ok bye

Blessed One said...

Ma'am u re the only one who has made the most sensible comment, i totally agree with you....Pls what's your name?

Anonymous said...

Tho naija will nt ban it cos of wat our leaders stand to benefit,but I agree with ETC. U nid to see the way our politicians run after those naked girls! Av seen a our 'men' jubilating over green bottles while narrating hw they've had sex with those girls. I felt do bad hearing such from our big men! Just that some of u guys av not known d pressure some of these girls undergo,then u wd see reasons in wat d guy said. Trust our moneybags with sex...they r no1 nd cn go xtra mile to satisfy the urge. Doubt me? Come to bayelsa. Y r they jostling for d event to be held there? Mak I coment my reserve...there is AIDS o!

Anonymous said...

I agree with him 90 percent on this one. however, to ban the contest is not the best because lots of girls are also happy to partake and we have some girls that take modeling as their profession, which mean such contests is an inspiration for them. The process should be put into screening and well monitored to avoid room for exploitation, sexual harassment and lots more.

Anonymous said...

Nancy drool abi na wetin! You are a bastard for saying that! Did u make him gay? People betallking. Nonsense just to be noticed. Slut!

Anonymous said...

You got d wrong message mr/ms.. He didn't say it's wrong to be fit and healthy he said it's wrong for people to conclude that being skinny defines beauty.

Anonymous said...

It's funny how most of you condemn the message, because you don't like d messenger. The truth is he is right and women in d 21st century need his message but because he isn't chimamanda adichie none of you would agree.

Anonymous said...

Mr I must comment, did you read d article at all? I sure you have gotten a thing or two if you had.
P.s if he is irrelevant as you claim you wouldn't have commented.

Flo said...

BS..

Anonymous said...

Even a blind man know's Onyxx is gay...all his follows and following on twitter and instagram will give you an insight to his sexuality. he's not just gay, he's gay "bottom"! Strictly a receiver. I know him so shut up

thiwa sho said...

Dis guy z nt even makin sense anymore sha..did we send d gals 2 diet ni?or 2 starve demseves?z deir choice so let dem do woteva dey want n choose 2 do abi ows it affectin him?as 4 d gals dt tink dey r nt as beautiful den dey shud find a way 2 build up deir self esteem...dey shud no by nw dt z nt all bout beauty,intelligence counts 2,so dey shud also strive to be intelligent...i expect any reasonable gal of ages(18yrs n above) 2 know dt even if dey dnt win,dt dsnt make dem less beautiful or z he tryna say d wina z d most beautiful gal in d world? He shud bera sharap n go 2 slip..or find sth beta 2 do wit his lyf since he dsnt av any tin meaningful 2 offer.

Anonymous said...

Lool... You have failed on this one! *Flora*

APPLE said...

WRONG!!!!!

MXG said...

The point he's making is that pageants promote the objectification of women. Tall, fat, short, thin, dark, fair; women should not be judged by their looks and in such an underdeveloped country like ours it is detrimental to our progress.

Anonymous said...

You are the only one with brain madam.. Thanks and I totally agree with you..

Anonymous said...

D truth wil always prevail...kip saying it weda dey hear or not.

Anonymous said...

U r absolutely right, if it was chimamanda adichie everyone wuld listen and support

Anonymous said...

8 paragraphs of arrant trash, Mtchewww.....
Etc or wateva u call yur stupid self get a life cuz being a writer aint it 4 u.

Anonymous said...

Linda next time pls keep ur opinion to yourself as this would have influence on some peeps comments.The guy actually made Lotta sense if not all about 90%..Your(Linda)opinion being an ex model would def b different...thanks 4 posting my comment.

Anonymous said...

Honestly exactly my thoughts too. Must he talk about everything? Mr "I too know" true I like him,but if he continues with these controversial write ups,i bet he will soon fade away with the wind............pretty T

Anonymous said...

MXG OPQ or woteva u call urself it is king's opinion & he is entitled 2 it..so buzz off!!!

Anonymous said...

ok at this point I think ect should let it rest...go write a book we will gladly buy..**cuteoyi says

Anonymous said...

U r d slut for insulting anoda... Fool

Anonymous said...

Hilary n u get time write this long epistle, u sef try

Anonymous said...

So on point

Anonymous said...

No its not dumb, i think u are

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