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Monday, August 12, 2013

Is 'once a cheat, always a cheat' really true for all men?

Below is an article I found on Traceycox.com. I want you guys to read her opinion on forgiving infidelity and tell us what you think...
Is the ‘once a cheat, always a cheat’ belief true? If your partner’s cheated once, are you wrong to trust them again? The answer isn’t as clear cut as it first appears because people cheat for different reasons.
If you’re trying to decide whether your partner deserves another chance, a more helpful question to ask is why did they cheat in the first place.
Some people cheat to get their partner’s attention. If their partner’s a workaholic or unavailable to them, being caught with someone else is a way of saying ‘Hey, if you love me, pay attention to me!'.
‘Payback cheating’ is also common. If you’ve cheated in the past or done something else to hurt your partner, they might retaliate to get even.

Has it happened before? A true serial cheater will often see nothing wrong with being unfaithful
If your partner's been desperately trying to tell you they're unhappy but not feeling heard, cheating might well be a cry for help (albeit not an advisable way to flag up relationship problems).

Even if you don’t decide to forgive, cheating for these reasons is entirely different than ‘opportunistic’ cheating: not turning down a low-risk opportunity simply because monogamy doesn’t supply the erotic charge that new flesh delivers.

Trying to predict whether your partner will cheat again?

Ask yourself these questions: What’s their cheating history? If they’ve cheated on every person they’ve ever been out with and been forgiven for doing so, why should they stop?
It might cause you problems, but it’s working for them. A true serial cheater will often see nothing wrong with being unfaithful. 

When caught, they’ll either get angry and tell you it’s none of your business - making it easier to leave - or turn on the tears and blame their past, making (false) promises they’ll reform. They won’t.
If your partner has a history of being unfaithful and forgiven or they’ve done it to you repeatedly, they will almost certainly continue to cheat.

What was the state of the relationship? If your relationship’s in tatters - you’re not communicating well and arguing bitterly - it’s easier to understand and forgive than if someone cheats when you’ve just come back from a blissfully, loved-up holiday in the Caribbean.

What sort of person is your partner? Is this out of character for them? Are they otherwise kind and loving?

Do you have children together? If you do, there’s clearly more incentive to try to work it out.

Is your relationship worth fighting for? Have you been limping along for a while now, with no real joy left? Or is this a horrible but genuine mistake in an otherwise solid relationship?

If your partner's been desperately trying to tell you they're unhappy but not feeling heard, cheating might well be a cry for help, argues Tracey
How sorry are they for betraying you? Do they accept how much they’ve hurt you and genuinely want to make it up to you?

If you decide your partner is worth taking the risk on again, take a long, hard look at that last sentence and make sure the answer is yes.

The problem with giving second chances is this: once you forgive bad behaviour, you effectively condone it.

It needs to be absolutely clear that if you find out they’ve cheated again, you’ll walk with no questions asked.

If you’ve already done this and it’s a repeat offence, walk now.

119 comments:

Anonymous said...

First to comment,oya clap for me

Anonymous said...

Second to comment. Hail me na

Emmie Jay said...

Can't be bothered reading the long article,but sure once a cheat always a cheat, I'm a living example.

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

Cheating doesn't happen fortuitously, so to some degree a cheat is likely to repeat it, but only if the conditions which made him cheat still remain evident, factors like not loving your lady truly, trust, weak spirit to resist the temptation or the worst which is someone who is naturally inclined to infidelity.

Mich said...

Inasmuch as I think the "the once a cheat,always a cheat" belief is false,I however would not entirely rule out the fact that cheating once simply places the individual on some sort of negative platform to want to do it again(consciously or otherwise).
a person whose mind is made up on never cheating again would always find a way to surmount any temptation.
On a second thought,can the leopard change its spots?your guess is as good as mine.
Cheat on your partner once and you become the proverbial Leopard.

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Abegii ladies should let it rest already.
like the men cheat on their lovers with fellow men.
Tired of this men this men that. women should help their fellow women by avoiding Taken men.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Abegii ladies should let it rest already.
like the men cheat on their lovers with fellow men.
Tired of this men this, men that. women should help their fellow women by avoiding Taken men.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

esan abiodun said...

It'd take someone really special to stop a man frm being a cheat...but once a cheat's not always a cheat

Anonymous said...

NO!! ITS NOT TRUE. HE CAN CHANGE!

Miss Roze said...

If my partner cheats on me and I find out, I try to find out y. If I discover that it's my fault he cheat on me, I 4give him and take him back. If his excuse is a flimsy one, I'll bounce him. My soon-to-be ex cheat on me and his excuse was that he thot he was losing me. This is someone I see almost on a daily basis cos we enjoy each other's company. When I found out and confronted him @ first, he denied it and was even making a joke out of it. When he saw that I was gon leave him, he turned on d tears and said I shud forgive him, that he was gon break up with d other girl. I was willing to forgive and get on with my life, but I knew deep down that d feelings would never be d same again! This happened in 2011, october ending. I went for service in nov, and for the whole of 2012, d relationship was almost non existent. At d end of my service year, I went to see him to tell him that I wanted out, but he wouldn't let me go. I'm waiting to give him d shock of his life IF he proposes to me. I no longer trust him. B.T.W, he's a serial liar!!

Anonymous said...

A cheat is always a cheat jare

Anonymous said...

Why will u cheat at all,if u don't get attention from ur partern u don't need to cheat to find a way to get his attention cheating on ur partern for attention or to get back at him/her is madness as for me to cheat I leave or make it work with my man

Anonymous said...

LINDA;ONCE A CHEAT IS A CHEAT;I AM TAKING A WALK NOW;INFACT I JUST MADE THAT DECISION SOME HOURS AGO;IT WASN'T EASY FOR ME;I CRIED FOR DAYS;INFACT YOU EVEN CARRIED HIS NEWS SOME DAYS AGO;I AM SO HAPPY THAT I HAVE MOVED ON

Yemmie Oscar said...

HELL NO!

e bonto said...

No comment,once a cheat,may not necessarily b a cheat.

anitachi said...

Love surpases all tins my dear frnds. Cheatin is never a way of revenging or gettin @ anyone its a sign of u4givin spirit nd bitterness....d word 4give nd 4get is nt jst a mere world but wat we all should put in our day to day activities...

Jannie goodlooking said...

Yes its true, if they cheated once, they'll cheat again. Dont make the mistake of thinking that someone who hurt you once, won't hurt you again.

Anonymous said...

Going through d same cheating shit right now but hey!!I no catch him on top her oOo

Anonymous said...

YES ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT THEY WILL DO IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN I THINK SOME OF THEM NEED SEVEN DAYS DRY FASTING FROM THE SPIRIT OF WOMANIZING.

Cute G said...

A cheat might not always be a cheat.I believe some cheat for some reasons nd ultimately,people change for the best.#SEALED#

Anonymous said...





The once a cheat, always a cheat is just part of the biological drive that men have.The number one reason men don't cheat is because they can't cheat. And what I mean by this is, the more men have the opportunity to cheat, the more they will. The better looking they are, the more they will. The same applies to women, and while people may cheat less often as they grow older, the drive toward infidelity remains.
We might grow out of the frequency of cheating but when one has the opportunity, its often taken. Once a cheat always a cheat usually comes from a person who has been betrayed and this may be the case in regard to a current partner. However when considering a previous relationship, this is way too simple and it really fails to take into account the multitude of variables and complexity of why that person cheated. We shouldn’t judge people in our present due to prejudged past situations. Perhaps other behaviors should be observed and analysed such as does he communicate well? Is he transparent or secretive?
Is there a belief among women that they’ll be the one to change him? YES.
There is an expression that goes, 'women get into a relationship hoping to change him where as men get into a relationship hoping she never changes!’ Trying to control and change a man often is what creates fractures in the relationship. Women have an ideal set of expectations that they hope the man eventually transforms into. This fantasy is only likely to lead to frustration and disappointment.Is it possible for a leopard to change its spots, so to speak?
If you want the leopard to change his spots, would he still be a leopard? Why not choose a zebra, if that’s what you wanted, to begin with? Rather than trying to change the man, women should analyse the motivating factors behind why they initially chose this person and furthermore, think about how realistic their expectations have been. Of course everyone is capable of growth and learning from past mistakes.

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Anonymous said...

Not true. I have been there and can say that coz you once cheated doesn't mean you'd do it again. Basically, it's an individual thing. I don't even have the urge to step out again coz there's nothing really out there that is much better or even different.

55 'CENT said...

Cheating is cheating

Me said...

Am sure u meant Chima. Lol!!! Ok oo. Move my darlin. The guy is a male version of a Whore!!!!!

alluring belle said...

Once a cheat can repent

Anonymous said...

If a person cheats because of unavailablity of his/her partner,emotional neglect,financial needs,job security and the rest,then you can@least understand that they cheated for a reason,even though it'd still hurt their just as much but @least it'd be easier to forgive them..But when a person constantly cheats for no reason's',then that person will always be a cheat..either you accept them that way knowing they'll never change,or you walk away knowing you deserve better..But our dear Nigerian men mostly cheat for no reason@all,they do it just for the fun of it(even the married ones),now that's bad

PRETTY GIRL

Anonymous said...

Oti ton

@timotiks said...

speakin fr all guys :: i totally disagree wit this shakespear logic:: there's always room for a change..Men too can be better humans

Anonymous said...

Will follow you for this brilliant piece.

Anonymous said...

man, this linda is such a fuckin sexist.. what d hell do u mean by "Is 'once a cheat, always a cheat' really true for all MEN?" so only men cheat?? GTFOH! women are more cheats n liars. n did u notice how they didn't mention a gender in particular in d article u copied? that's professionalism n maturity. now go take two seats. n if u like no post this comment, zero fucks shall be given still.

Anonymous said...

Cheating is wrong but i believe that any man that cheats once can be given a second chance.
I am married to a man that has always cheated on me,he's supposed to be a born-again christian but he's always cheating.I have found peace by ignoring this aspect of his life,apart from this cross of his,he's a caring father n husband.we ve been married for several years now,we hardly quarell.I don't check his phones or pick his calls cos I don't wanna read a msg that'll break my heart.I m not interested in walking away cos I believe most men cheat.My case is not that of giving him a second or third chance,its just a case of not interested in getting into another relationship that may be similar to my present situation...The devil u know...

Falaiye Bolaji said...

Mscheew...u dis guy,write wat an average persn can read and understand and stop forming mr brilliant ere...

Anonymous said...

someone just said this regarding this article and i agree......i cheated on my partner with someone i had real feelings for. as a result i started to withdraw emotions from my partner and even got to being cold towards him, all because my attention and emotions were somewhere else.......he ended up cheating on me during this period and blamed it on being miserable and my actions towards him......i forgave him because i had done worse and even ended up falling for the person i cheated with and almost had a full blown rship, while his was just a one time thing with a random chick.....so i dont believe in once a cheat always a cheat as i know i will never do it again......also...being emotionally connected or having a relationship with who u r messing with is far worse than sexual acts of cheating

Tbaby said...

Once a cheat, always a cheat. That is a true statement. I caught my husband then my Fiance red handed during our courtship sleeping with another lady, I broke up with him but He came after me crying and begging that it will never happen again. I accepted him back and shortly got married. It's been 5 years and can't count how many girls He has slept with. He kept giving different justification for his act. I've made up my mind to ignore him and focus on bringing up my two boys in godly way though not easy but can't stand been labelled a divorcee.

Anonymous said...

True pple do change,it depends on individual anyways

Ekinola said...

once a cheat is alwayz a cheat!!!

that girl said...

Men cheat to get attention??? Nigga plz.... Most men cheat cos they can't see girls and close their eyes... Once a cheat, in most cases.....always a cheat.

Anonymous said...

I'll say once a cheat is nt always a cheat.From my own xperience,i cheated once,dou i ws nt caught,ws jst for revenge,bt i later found out i ws nt dat kind of person,n i backed out.Till this minute,i still regret reducing myself to dat level.

Mama Ijebu said...

What about those men that are taken and pretend to be single?

Anonymous said...

For a men,"there's alys d other woman"I found out @ a time dat my BF was cheating,I cheated too...my friend goes"two wrongs don't make a right"YES!neither does 1!cheating back didn't solve the problem,he was still cheating after then,had to bounce him.And no,once a cheat aint alys a cheat...my frnd was cheating on her bf,he caught her,she apologised and here they are,about to get married!and she no longer cheat. LatinoPINKY

Sunday Otuns said...

Both genders cheats.or can any lady here or man swear that he has never cheated on his/her partner?be sincere.

Anonymous said...

Walk away, who says d next one won't cheat and d next one after dat, more dan 70% of d guys I have around me (married or single) cheat once or often so if we ladies are to use d 'once a cheat always a cheat' yardstick......I guess we sud all be getting ready for d seminary den, each person to his or her own.....only u can decide if he or she is worth d heartache... My own one penny worth.....Swt B

Anonymous said...

Hmm...i dnt fink xo...tinx change

first to comment said...

Follow u go where?ao we take know say u sabi where u dey go?wat if u lead us inside gutter nko?

Anonymous said...

Haha abi o Naijas and their English

Anonymous said...

What are u still doing with him..life is too short

Anonymous said...

Wish people could learn from your write up.

Anonymous said...

That's a terrible position to be in. Do u know if he uses contraceptive with the other women?? What of stds, hiv, don't u think of your kids.. My dear ignorance is not always bliss. Good luck x

Anonymous said...

Obahiagbon wannabe! U can never get there. Return to the gutter language you were born into, jare!!
TJ

Anonymous said...

Is it only men that cheat? Pls give me a break and moreover if u want to stop it u can and let's stop the preaching.

Anonymous said...

The main thing is really the reason behind it.
If the reason can be fixed, then yes, forgive and continue. If its a flimsy reason, then there are higher chances of it happening again and I'll say just move on.

The article talked about kids. But really, why would you want to put your kids in a loveless marriage? (If the person cheating is a serial cheater)
-babe

Anonymous said...

Kinda agree with you...most Nigerian guys wanna have new gfs when they are in a new location. Had this problem with my man, who was transferred to another state for work but he came back with a fling and now it's hard for him to forget her. I've learn my lesson that once they are away, forget the trust and just rest on God. His flimsy excuse was that I was far away even when we see on most weekends.

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

@Falaiye; I don't have to censor myself to appeal to your ignorance do I?

Anonymous said...

Work hard so ur kids don't go 2 grammer school like u did. Falaiye bolaji sounds so like ijebu ode grammer school

Chicadimples said...

2cor 5:17

Anonymous said...

Its a sad one, i am a living example and i always said if you cheat on me the relationship is over. i learnt at a critical stage in my relationship that this dude who i had held in such high esteem had been sleeping around each time we had issues, quarrel or were going through a very tough time to the point we the relationship was near dead. We always made up and somehow kept on because what we had was sooooooooooo special.
my brothers and sisters i wont lie, the day i heard all this things, my heart was beyond broken and till now i dont know the meaning of pure trust unless one is trusting God alone. This dude killed every innocent lovey dovey feeling that i was born with. I decided the whole thing was over but heaven and earth begged on his behalf. I did love him and he was a good good man so i decided to give it another go. Now where does that live me today, we are still together but everything i do, I WATCH MY BACK. it has changed sooooooooooooo much for us and he knew it but begged for me to take him like that and he will accept it. it has influenced the decision i make in the relationship, there are still certain things i wont let him on. i have forgiven him but i cant ever forget. i dont know if he cheats or what he does but i dont care. i dont want to know but i told him, DONT LET ME CATCH YOU. DONT GIVE ME AN INFECTION. in the main time, this man is just like every other man on the street to me. They are all weak people like you and i surviving by God's grace. No one is infallible, EVEN THE BEST MAN YOU WORSHIP WILL FAIL. NEVER FORGET THAT
SORRY FOR THIS LONG EPISTLE.

ugo said...

Abeg help tell am oo

Anonymous said...

Your not alone!

Anonymous said...

All this cheating things sef, I dun tire!!! I just hope my husband doesn't cheat on me cos hmmmmnnn... God! I don't evn knw how to start forgiving that. God please help me. Please! Please! Please!!!

Anonymous said...

Once a cheat, its not always a cheat!!! People change!!! Yes, they do! Moreover, don't just say men... Women do worst things dese days

Anonymous said...

I tire o,do we look lyk english professors 2 u,jst dis small question,u dey blow grammar lyk say 2mr nor dey,obahiagbonistic fellow

Jenny Ekwe said...

#painment

Hurting&angry said...

My husband has cheated on me right from when we dated in the University but somehow i believed the best of him until i stumbled on emails. By then it was too late as we were married. Coupled with that he would abuse me emotionally as well as physically...gradually i got talking to a guy he knows and things almost happened but thank God we didn't get to that stage. Almost 6 years of marriage but the trend has not stopped, perhaps the only thing that has stopped is the last beating i got in March after i accused him of running things with his dry cleaner!
As if that isnt enough he got on a casual sex site that really hurt me but with the help of family we forgave our pasts and decided to forge ahead but guess what? This last weekend he is back on another dating site chatting up about 19 girls and asking for sex. Hes hooked up with some because i called 2 of them, one said she just wanted his money. I read all the messages with weak knees and a new found irritation for him. He says its his weakness and i "have" to help him through it but i know i have surely had enough and only waiting for the right time.
what beats me is the fact that he still professes love for me! i mean how can he possibly love me and I continue to possibly love such a wicked man who is set in his ways and will continue to bring hurt to me? I am too young and have a lot ahead of me than to sit with a man who will blame his irresponsibility on "weakness" and would always go back to his vomit.
I wish i had cheated back at him when i had opportunity, perhaps that way we will be even but for now all i feel is so much disgust for want of using a lighter term.

Jenny Ekwe said...

Free my prince Charmin abeg.

Jenny Ekwe said...

DTS my bonario!! #Gbam

Hurting&angry said...

My husband has cheated on me right from when we dated in the University but somehow i believed the best of him until i stumbled on emails. By then it was too late as we were married. Coupled with that he would abuse me emotionally as well as physically...gradually i got talking to people who cared 2x and things almost happened but somehow we didn't get to the stage of paying him back. But those times i was happy as my emotional needs were met by people who seemed to care. Almost 6 years of marriage but the trend has not stopped, perhaps the only thing that has stopped is the last beating i got in March after i accused him of running things with his dry cleaner!
As if that isnt enough he got on a casual sex site that really hurt me but with the help of family we forgave our pasts and decided to forge ahead but guess what? This last weekend he is back on another dating site chatting up about 19 girls and asking for sex. Hes hooked up with some because i called 2 of them, one said she just wanted his money. I read all the messages with weak knees and a new found irritation for him. He says its his weakness and i "have" to help him through it but i know i have surely had enough and only waiting for the right time.
what beats me is the fact that he still professes love for me! i mean how can he possibly love me and I continue to possibly love such a wicked man who is set in his ways and will continue to bring hurt to me? I am too young and have a lot ahead of me than to sit with a man who will blame his irresponsibility on "weakness" and would always go back to his vomit.
I wish i had cheated back at him when i had opportunity, perhaps that way we will be even but for now all i feel is so much disgust for want of using a lighter term.

Anonymous said...

Abegee,once a cheat is always a cheat jare,especially all dis guys,I understand men are bound 2 cheat,my own is If u wanna do dat, do it 2 my face,I don't wanna even knw!play ur card well,bcos na dere yawa go 4 gas.and treat me right lyk am ur only woman.

Anonymous said...

Please shut up!
That article is damn right!
Once a cheat, always a fuckn cheat!
Men no dey fear God!
Deyl fuck u, fuck ur friend!
Fuck ur sista seff join!
And cme back and beg!
And tel u its normal!
Ahhh!
God save us all, amen.
What I sha know is that, men cheat!
And no matter how fine u are, derz always sm1 hoter, sexier dan u, wiv beta puna, so if dey wanna fflw dat yansh dey will, it takes sm1 who has discernment to stay wiv ur own puna or chase around nd cme back to u!

Me and my bf were @ barcelos, havin dinner,
I jst took his fone to check pics, I dunno what dragged me to look @ bbm message, I jst opened chat,
What did I see?
My bf tellin sm girl that he loves ha die, beggin dis girl, that he can't wait to be with her.
Me jst composed as if I ddnt c anything, d folowin week, I broke up wiv d bastard!
Men!!!
Men!!!
Na only God go judge unna,
God knows I canneva relax knowin my boo is cheatin on me,
Are u a bastard?
Nevaaa!
Go to hell!
I wil pray and wait on d lord to gimme sm1 who wee nack me and respect me till death do us part! :)
Amen.
Xoxo
JK.

Anonymous said...

I tire o,do we look lyk english professors 2 u,jst dis small question,u dey blow grammar lyk say 2mr nor dey,obahiagbonistic fellow

Jenny Ekwe said...

Lmao!! @ME. Chima ke?

Apple said...

Once a cheat always a cheat.

Atobatele said...

I do not believe there is a cheater gene. I believe that people learn their behavior. And behavior is always a choice. I also believe that people can learn from their mistakes and reform. However, I don‘t think that it actually happens that way very often. Most people won‘t change, becaue they won‘t take the time, the effort, the self reflection or any of the work that change requires. And the person who is a cheater, is one who tends not to do any of those things, or else why would they have cheated in the first place? It takes character to change.

I would forgive a cheater eventually. But would only do so because i need to move on with my life and let go of the pain, hate, hurt and other emotions. I would not continue the relationship because I would never trust the cheater again. And trust is essential in a relationship. No trust, no relationship as far as I‘m concerned.

Anonymous said...

People cheat for different reason but for whatever reason, cheating is cheating. And the partner that leaves his/her spouse under the same roof to cheat can never change except with God's intervention.

Anonymous said...

You are a living example of ur kind only. I like d article cos it touched several root causes, so it can't be said that cheating will continue for all cases.find out d reason for the cheating at d first place, that's when u can determine if it d act can be completely wiped out or not.

NB: u see what I just did? Wrote in plain English cos I'm trying to communicate a point. This goes to 2shotz kinds that pack jargons together in d name of grammar.


--Teeteelahyo--

Anonymous said...

PC u aren't that brilliant ont worry

Anonymous said...

it takes a cheat 2 identify a cheat.period.

Anonymous said...

Cheating is n a man's DNA. Dey do it 4 a living.

Anonymous said...

And what have u said as ur comment.I wonder why pple don't take things seriously. That's how they fail in life.change for better u aint no kid.well, Linda two wrongs don't make a right. If u can't condone it and work towards making it better simply take a walk.

Anonymous said...

I disagree! Once A cheat, not always a cheat. Not justifying cheating issue in any way, but people cheat for differnt reasons and could turn a new leaf. Am a living witness to that. Men cheat mostly when when a woman makes them unwanted

Anonymous said...

This is one true serial cheater's comment... neva being in any rlshp nd nt cheat wnt mk an excuse or blame it on anytin but I tell u 4 me it's nt fun it's Jst d heart nt neva let's any1 in cos I believe which Eva way dey leave I wish 2 b diff I wish 2 fix..

James Bond said...

Eh yah, this confirms you are so dull like PHCN voltage, you even put ya papa name on display. Hiss

Anonymous said...

Oh really Nnaggs? Don't be unnecessarily sentimental abt this.can't u be disciplined enough to resist such if u truly love ur woman.

James Bond said...

Eh yah, see grammar o, olodo. Soontobeex indeed. And the cheat dey colabo you when una dey inside house bah.

Hemjay said...

Hmmm victims everywhere! Even those who claim "he would cheat again" stil find themselves victims! The truth is we love too hard dat we tend to forgive like weaklings!! Even when we know we deserve better, we stil want to stay with dat man who smhow in his infidelity stil makes us happy..."We all cannot practice what we preach"

Lady Of Rage said...

Don't mind the fuck face bitch trying to impress his shadow. I'm sure he's desperately hoping he'll get an award someday. Brilliant my arse, if he was any brighter he wouldn't be here massaging his ego 24/7. Princess Charming my cunt.

Anonymous said...

Evry1 deserves a second chance
~D great anonymous!

Anonymous said...

@Anon 4.12pm how can you make this brilliant contribution under anonymous identity? I think women and sometimes men too are the reason why their partners cheat. Think about this yourself, have you ever put up a false identity to make your partner marry you? That's an eternal betrayal and can attract unapologetic cheating until God intervenes. If you made your mind to marry your partner, pls be frank with him to avoid the bigger issues in future.

Anonymous said...

I can't even take you seriously,I mean ur profile pics tells a lot about u,smh

oak said...

What don't you understand there now. Stop embarrassing yourself.I'm sure you are educated. Na your type dey go embarrass person.

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Iyke Obianeli said...

Hehe Hee.....wats this noise about Men and cheating....believe me or u leave it......the ratio of men that cheat is equal to the no of women that cheat too! Ask men who they do it with? Is it not women? If 30Men cheat....they all cheat with 30 women!......so enof of all dis Men Men Men cheat!!!!!.....once a cheat always a cheat is not true from me. Cheating as a habit can be change as any other habit! God can change any circumstance. Also where their is a will...their is a way!!

curvy ZO said...

If he cheats on me, I will simply cheat back and with som1 bigger n betta dan him....and he will neva find out coz I will even be more nicer wen he cheats...even if I catch him, I will jus form crocodile tears for him n confront him in a nice way...hahahahaa...men with their watery brain think dey r smart? No!!

Anonymous said...

It all depends on the basis of the cheating.

Anonymous said...

What's there that u can't understand....#hiss#....dull fool....go back to primary 3....

mzsandie said...

What is dis one writing? Linda said "comment" not "preach" biko go and rest somewhere.

Anonymous said...

My husband cheats on me as if its normal all he does is beg and move on as if aLl is okay,am really unhappy but when I look at my kidz I just keep holding on

Anonymous said...

Which words here would you need help with???

Anonymous said...

I'm too sure it's Chima... Lol, e be like say na only u no sabi say d Bobo don leave market. #runsaway

Anonymous said...

Sorry honey but are you insane??? Is it when you contract HIV that you will know you need to walk away? Get some self esteem my dear and don't infect your kids with this warped thinking. You are aware if his infidelity, if the worst happens to you you can only blame yourself. Pls be wise.

El-vincie said...

Listen, once a cheat always a cheat, there is no other way you can try to frame it.el-vincie

Anonymous said...

Bonario u said it all. I'm a woman nd honestly speakin if women re principle enuf to reject taken men, den d men wil hav evry rson to stick dia pios in dia shokotos

jewel said...

Abeg no D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥Y̶̲̥̅̊ scatter yarn...what's dat*angry with steam* a guy will almost always lie dat his not taken jst to get laid. So pls spare me. P.S dats y it's called "CHEATING"m

jewel said...

@prince charming... Well said. Sumtyms we ladies are responsible for a man cheating( to those ladies who nag a lot) give ur man some space,don't always second guess his evry word or actions(he might be tellin the truth) don't push him out.

Oh and @bolaji...go get educated or beta still "LEARNED"

Anonymous said...

One can change with God's help and self determination but what I don't get is cheating on d person u say u love cos I hav a friend who claims he loves his wife but still cheats on her at every opportunity he gets. If it's not in u,u will be consumed by guilt therefore u will try to stop

Anonymous said...

A cheat wl forever remain one.I don't waste my time nursing the pain.A good pay back makes my day.

Anonymous said...

Ladies ar d worst cheat,a cheat man definately did wit a lady cheatn on someone.lets stop dis unilateral fuss .

Kay said...

I met a man recently who vowed with his mother's grave that he was single and searching. Told me he was in love with me and couldn't wait to marry me for us to spend the rest of our lives together. Would call me at odd hours even. Had no reason to suspect otherwise. All of a sudden he falls ill and got admitted in a hospital, asked me not to call as he wouldn't be able to answer calls but he would try to call me regularly *confused face*. Well I called and guess who picked his call, his wife "Lorita". And I wondered how a "single" man could have a wife *more confused face". So @Bonario what do u have to say to that?!

Anonymous said...

I love u pc* muah*

Anonymous said...

@JK,anonymous 7:14pm. U see how shallow u are?Mich made a very brilliant point but u quickly asked him to shut up only to start telling a story that makes u look like a whore. U kept emphasizing on "fuck and puna" which just shows the kinda idiot u are.

SANDRA EDEH said...

If you have got a girl who loves you the way you are, who doesn’t quit you when you are broke, who is proud of you, who comforts you when you are sick or troubled and who encourages you when you’re about to give up… just stick by her side, love her genuinely, be faithful to her and never think of cheating on her because such girls are rare to find these days. I know some of you guys are gonna say that such girls no longer exist but trust me they do exist, it's just that you haven't found one of that kind. But they are many out there.

Falaiye Bolaji said...

Lady of rage and erm Anon 9.16 PM,more like it...and for the foolish ones who chose to write before thinking...go back and read ma comment before opening your mouths...thats if you even have to talk...Prince Charming Obahiagbon...you've not said anything to me as far as am concerned.When you have the right words to say to me,you can put up a comment and I'll tel you what you deserve to hear.

Anonymous said...

What about HIV/AIDS and STDs? They're a risk for anyone forgiving one time and serial cheaters. Put your life first if "love" is why you stay.

Anonymous said...

Love sucks
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tiobanke said...

love can be difficult I. understanding as you become selfless to the other person but it should never be difficult to deal with. any form of so claimed love that makes u worse off emotionally or otherwise is minus one(-1)
and should be net off of your problems.is just not worth havin a headache over.

Anonymous said...

It all have to do with one's personality and principles of life.Once a cheat may not always be a cheat,but on the contrary a chronic cheat is likely to remain a cheat.It takes a decisive situation or event for a chronic cheat not to be so anymore or GOD'S GRACE for a chronic cheat to make a permanent change.Whoever is not happy with his/her current relationship should first address the issue and if you're convinced you've given your best to salvage the situation but,it doesn't seems to get back to normal,the best option will be to let go.But on a religious basis as christians the bible doesn't endorse divorce for married couples.Men keep blaming women for being cheats and vice-versa,the question we should ask ourselves individually is: What's your position on the generalization of all members of your gender as cheats?.Amidst the increase in the rate of infidelity in relationships of nowadays,I strongly believe that Sincere Men and Women still exist,though few and hard to find.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm,once a cheat is always a cheat,both ways men n women cuz u don't cheat wf animals,it's a pity today d world has thrown caution to d wind,der conscience ar dead cuz dey don't v d fear of God:d 7th commandment,no integrity -men n women dis days ar destroying der own God given destinies to d lust of d flesh,pride of lyf n lust of d eyes,at d expense of der body ch is d temple of God'to dis funny fellows who ar disobeying God'bringing curses upon demselves,sleepin wt different spirits n contaminatin der lyfs wt al sort,u shd knw u ar deceiving urselves tk it or leave! D Good book says" God wil Judge'Good n evil,tins done in open n fins done in secret,those who v ears let dem hear.one luv to u all.

Anonymous said...

the society permits men to cheat however, cheating is a sin. if any man dies while being a cheat, na hell he go enter straight. God will not welcome a sinner to his kingdom. some people fornicate and commit adultery so much that it is now a way of life. beware because your cup will full at an hour you do not expect

hammond Benson said...

Once a cheat always one forget him move on he's a sex addict

hammond Benson said...

Once a cheat always one forget him move on he's a sex addict