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Friday 27 July 2012

Dear LIB readers: Is this normal?

From a LIB reader:
Dear Linda, please I have a question for other married women on your blog. My husband goes to night clubs every Friday and I want to find out from other married women if this is normal. There's never a Friday night that he doesn't go to one night club or the other to return on Saturday morning. I've only been married for eight months and he has never missed a Friday night with the boys. Should I take this as normal?

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MY TURN said...

SHUT UP JARE ODE.....8months in marriage you don dey complain you no sabi say na club ho you marry before you say I DO?Abeg you better increase your dstv bouquet to 10k and enjoy all the late night series on Friday night or drag yourself off with him when he goes. No come back tomorrow disturb us again with another daft story i can imagine the headline: Dear Linda my CLUB HO husband impregnated 5 different women in 5 different clubs in Lagos. What do i do?

Anonymous said...

Linda! Still no comments! Who is this man that is involving you like this, dat you don't have time to get the job done anymore? You need it sha. You have been acting very horny lately.

Anonymous said...

No, I don't think this is normal. The fact that you're 8 months into your marriage and your husband chooses a night club over you on a Friday night is disconcerting. Talk to him. NOW!

Anonymous said...

No way,dis so wrong..ur man is allowed 2 go out wth his friends but nt EVERY FRIDAY...creat a time out dis friday wth ur husb nd pls have FUN..

Anonymous said...

That's probably a life he has been used to ever before he got married to you and you ought to have known that during the period of your courtship if you had one. As much as its not normal for me ooo, you could prepare and follow him one of the Fridays to actually see what he goes there to do, if he agrees to you following him. He is your husband, you can do anything with him, its acceptable, so this evening prepare yourself and wear a very hot bomb shot and a skimpy top, sexy heavy FM (Federico Mahora) make-up and perfume yourself very well, then you tell him, HONEY, LETS GO DIG IT OUT IN THAT CLUB and watch out what he will say or do. Be very courteous and loving about it. God will help you in your marriage. Wisdom its what we use to follow our husbands. They are not all written in the bible cos God has given us good heads to use wisdom as the situation demands. Good luck. Linda, publish this comment oooooooo!

Anonymous said...

linda post my comments na,hian!

adukeologe(clickme) said...

sounds like he's still stuck in his single life. put sleeping pill in his drink one friday night. hehehe

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Vking said...

Am not a lady,but i find it very vvery necessary to comment on this.Madam the situation is what responsible family/people call abnormal.Stop your husband from doing such or else he will stop you by being unfaithful to you.Mind you that there is nothing married people should get from so called night clubs than being involved in unfaithfulness to their partner.God in general '7|;R4 7u? a act.Act now towards your husband before it is too late for you.May God give you wisdom and knowledge to handle the situation in Jesus name Amen.

Anonymous said...

I'm a married wife too. Get with the programme sista and hit the clubs too. Why are you dulling?

Kanyinulia said...

Hi Mrs, Obviously u weren't complaining when you were dating him, so he thinks ur comfortable with it. Its normal just that you need to have a heart to heart with him. Discuss ur fears and hear what he has to say.

GaMuGaZa said...

Haa it is abnormal ..

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Anonymous said...

Well.......when he get tired he wld start staying @ hme,so let him be,cos he wld eventually get tired,so u just look fine,and be a gOod wife,not a nagging wife oh.......

Anonymous said...

This is not normal, he must not go every week end.U should be encoraged to go at times too. Discuss it and look for d way forward.

Anonymous said...

he's trying to get away from u... Cos thats what my brother does and even if he's on leave he sends hos wife abroad

Nollywood Forever said...

Every Friday night seems a bit much to me but if that's what he likes there is nothing wrong with it unless he is picking up other women.

Anonymous said...

Its very normal for guys to go clubbing with their friends but when it becomes a routine,then there is a major problem

Anonymous said...

That not cool cos all the days of the week hes at work and the time he's suppose to spend with family he's with some friends.... He's. Avioding ur presence..

Deyon said...

Trust me,its not normal especially if he is not taking you along.You should never have allowed him start such a dangerous feat(for ur marriage)in the first instance.Now it might be too late to stop him.But you have to muster the courage to stop him if you want to enjoy your marriage or you insist he takes you along if he must go.

willow said...

It's not normal biko! He still thinks he's single.You need to have a heart to heart chat with him about his friday clubbing which I find excessive if its every Friday.Try and let him know once a month is okay till hopefully, he will outgrow clubbing.It might be his way of relieving stress, so on your part make your home welcoming,like a haven where he can unwind without anyone adding to his stress.Goodluck!

Anonymous said...

Hmmm..it is normal wen he goes Ï„̲̅☺ a bar αϞ∂ comes back that day bt it is not normal wen he goes Ï„̲̅☺ a club αϞ∂ comes back †Ñ’ξ nxt day..infact a married man going Ï„̲̅☺ a club is not normal..bt i'm sure my guys on Τ̣̣Ñ’È‹̝̊̅§ blog wud say sebi they are man na..we men can do anytin we wants..bt it shouldn't βε̲̣̣̣̥.. αϞ∂ there is no ow ur husby wouldn't βε̲̣̣̣̥ dating those club girls or prostitute..well am not trying Ï„̲̅☺ give U̶̲̥̅̊ a bad mind..bt it is not normal for a married man Ï„̲̅☺ go Ï„̲̅☺ club...#simple#

Unknown said...

Well lots of crazy stuff happen @ da club, and for a newly married couple i don't think that dude is clean leaving his wife @home 2 go clubbing. why not do it together?
Well except the dude is into entertainment, man it's no point at all. clubbing every friday to return saturday...He must be lucky there aint badt guyz in his neighbourhood (if yuno wat i mean).

Unknown said...

it sounds sick. how can i leave my wife of 8 months every friday nite to go clubbing and return the next day, every wk. nah, dat dude must be kidding me.
i think it's cuz there are no badt guyz in his area (if yuno wat i mean).
why not take her along with him?
again, except the dude is into entertainment, he has no biznez in the club every fridaay. damn.

Eze said...

Well somethings should reduce when you tie the knot, but on a regular is irresponsible.

Anonymous said...

not so bad thing to do, why have you not accompanied him even ones up till now? If you have, i bet we would not be discussing this. Try it sis cos its not so bad; abi u are on 9 months cos?

cici said...

Ma'am, if ur husband luvz clubbin so much, wot stops u̶̲̥̅̊ frm goin wit him???

Anonymous said...

I'm sure this going out every friday did not just start eight months ago.If really it is a problem to you, you will have resolved it then before marrying him and not now.It is not normal.

guzy said...

U̶̲̥̅̊ can't tell me U̶̲̥̅̊ didn't knw abt it before U̶̲̥̅̊ guys got married, if U̶̲̥̅̊ can take it wen courting him den U̶̲̥̅̊ can take it in marriage, all U̶̲̥̅̊ can do now È‹̊§ pray for God to change him til den liv wit it my dear.we girls 'Я̅ε̲̣̣̣̥ so funny cus we want to settle down we try to ignore tins we knw we can't liv wit den after we hav gotten wat we want(marriage) we now want magic to happen

Anonymous said...

a man needs to be married but still have a level of freedom. let me enjoy himself at least he comes home. eventually he will get tired. enjoy ur time alone cos one day u will crave for it, trust me.

Anonymous said...

Na so!....women,una always want a magic wand to appear in marriage and wipe away the things una no like.Be honest,when u met him,was he not a night-clubber?were u not also maybe goin to the night clubs with him?or maybe na there self una for meet?so why do u think cos he is now married to u,'Madam Mother Theresa',that he will stop it altogether?a man does not learn how to eat with his left hand at adult age ,so na so e be...only option out,do fasting n prayer,mybe dt shld help u Madam.

Anonymous said...

No boo. That ain't normal. Once in a while is ok. And spending the night out? Come on, you cant be that naive. He is doing this after only 8 months? What should we expect in 8 years?

Anonymous said...

Not normal at all!! pls u hv to move closer to GOD and put on the armour of prayers. You married a very spoilt and silly man. Also go and start mastering d art of seduction. U have to do wat u gatta do to make ur man homely. Am sure you know wat comes with going out all night every friday till d next day.....DANGER!! he needs to stop d rubbish asap

Anonymous said...

I hardly ever leave a comment!!! but when I read ur story I couldn't help but smile, cos its all so familiar. My marriage is 7 months old & yes my husby still loves to hangout with the boys though not regularly but at least twice a month. I use to av issues with it at first but av since come to realise dat, Men stil want to live their life even after marriage. But I try to discourage him frm going out too often by making d home front as pleasurable as possible & i avoid un- neccessary quarelling & nagging, above all I take my prayers veryyyyy seriously. When he's out with his friends I try not to imagine what he's upto. So my dear u are not alone! Cheer up

Anonymous said...

i dont think its normal. wat is he lookn for out there? he can go once in a while not every friday, haba. there are some men wont cnt sit their ass down, u just have to make him understand that u aint comfortable with his every friday nite outs, also pray very hard ohh.

Anonymous said...

take it as normal ma.

Fast Writer said...

Its not normal o. Are you people born again at all???

Anonymous said...

it's normal ma

Anonymous said...

Joy says............
Clearly, your husband is still a boy. He should put childish things away. Yes, incessant partying and clubbing is childish.
The answer to your question is its not normal. But am sure he did the same thing when you were dating. You open your eyes and married himl. If you coped with it then, I think he expects you to cope with it now.

Proudly Igbo said...

Lagos boy normality! RME.

Anonymous said...

Ur husband is having fun....u can as well join him.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm. Can't wait 4 pple's comments on dis. Cuz I'm also curious

shuga said...

Noooo,do ur best to help him stop it. He is a man now,not a boy. No1 is cutting off his fun, but he shud understand he now has a family. U also need to club,don't u? So he should be fair. Goodluck.

Anonymous said...

My dear, it is surely not normal. Remember that this does not make him a bad person. I am sure it was your routine b4 marriage and truly he wont stop now, especially if you have not told him.

Kindly note that you have to be cautious of the way you relate the message to him. I recommend you start joining him in the outing, if he says its a guy thing, then you had beta start calling up ur single female friends. You sure can hang our preg or not.

If he does not like your new behaviour, then its time to report him to his parents.

Tunde said...

Of course it is not right! What could he honestly be doing out on a Friday night, every Friday night, which honours your marriage. I would suggest sitting him down and speaking to him about your concerns. Moreover, did you not know of this behaviour before you entered into marriage with him. It is not that secret, destructive, type, behaviour that one could hide. He would have had to have shown these tendencies before you two became one. The old adage nearly always rings true that a leopard seldom changes its spots. Maybe prayer is in need. Nevertheless, even if you are the type who takes to prayer, I advise you plan to sit him down and lay some ground rules, now, only after these brief eight months, because, if you continue to put up with this behaviour, now, then be prepared to put up with it for a long time, in future, possibly even for the rest of the life of the marriage, even if that is til death you part.

Anonymous said...

D marriage is 2 young 4 such rubbish,he shld take u along or better stl don't make it a habbit of every friday.But as it is now sit him down n talk 2 him abt it.....not fight o or quarell wit am.Be diplomatic abt it.Pele.

Anonymous said...

My sis, its not normal. It shouldn't be every weekend. Talk to him now while you still can and you can also opt to follow him once in a while, you know. Thirdly, pray ceaselessly that he changes and does not fall into the wrong hands.

Anonymous said...

Darling, I must say that the habit is not at all normal. Make sure you find out very well, there should be something going wrong and bad somewhere. Do not take it again for your own safety and his.

Anonymous said...

The man dey go board meetings with the strumpet.U beta slug it out with the man or else......

Anonymous said...

Does it matter now if its normal or not? Did he just start this? Definately NO! But bcos u wanted to marry you and you intend to change him right? Sorry its late........just leave with it cos thats who he is!

Anonymous said...

when he is ready to club next friday, you also get ready to go to your own club, of cos you are going no where. Just let him no how lonely you feel without him every Friday night.

Anonymous said...

clubbing every Friday, whattt??? is he an undergraduate??? at this point you should pray him to stop.

Anonymous said...

o boy today is friday o...oya arrange one hot outfit and get ready to boogie with ur man tonight...or he might prolly go clubbing from d office...now that's painful..just find a way to hook him up

Anonymous said...

don't let it happen tonight.

Asabe said...

It's not normal please does he take her every friday since you married him?

BLOGLORD said...

INFACT, my dear, u know wat u'll do? today na friday. just ask him a rhetoric question. "baby, u going clubbing tonite?" he says yea. u reply ok darl, i am coming with u. if e say no. ehen!!!!!
leave am make e de go, u know d place sha?? arrange urself inside one badd ass outfit. i hope u de pepe die in ur looks? if yes, make u wear one sexy badoski dress, go meet am for the club, n mingle with him ther..ur excuse "baby d house was too quiet n dry thot id catch a lil fun with u here
oya....

Anonymous said...

I am loving u so much. You are so intelligent

Amarachi said...

I am single but wants to say something about this.It is not normal because he is not a bachelor again n if he must go,u have to go with him because i don't see reason a married man should be going to club every Friday and now it has become a habit.Sit hm down n tell him that u are not comfortable with him going for clubbing every Friday simple U marriage is too young for this this.Good luck

Yvonee NR said...

If it was normal, will you be asking this question. Wouldnt you just carry on with your life?

Anyway to answer the question, it is not normal. At least not every friday night and if he is not going with you. You hear?

If you like, ask if my answer is normal.

Anonymous said...

You are so funny..@ is he the dejee. Oh how i love this blog.

Nonye said...

Was he doing this before you got married? if yes, then its normal cos then he's only being himself,he wont change overnight. Surely my dear you saw some signs before you got married to this guy...
Have you tried hanging with him? Cos that's what I do with mine, on some nights I let him and the boys, other nights they take us wifys along

Anony Noni said...

This ur name sef na comment on hin own!

Anonymous said...

No! it's not normal. I suggest u try going out with him today. If he refuse, then pick a day,preferably sundays when he'll be home, to "hang out with the ladies". Yes! why not? by the time you do it 3 times consecutively, he will have a rethink. I did same, though mine was done in the day and it worked for me. This is happening too early dear, mine started 10 yrs into the institution. Stop it now (tactfuly) before u get frustrated.

Anonymous said...

Nothing wrong? How will she know if he is picking up other women? The thought of a man alone for ????hours, up to no good, no matter the yarn he is spining. Go with him and see if he spends more than 2 or 3 hrs whatever the fun he is catching!!!

Anonymous said...

D man wants the benefits of a relationship and freedom of a single person, it doesn't work that way. However, if at this early stage of your marriage when he is still suppose to want you all to himself and be all over you he is staying out a whole nite, if you don't take a stance NOW, ten years down the road he might be visiting you from outside..meaning more time outside than in your home. Be smart girl.

Anonymous said...

We be clubbing like there aint nothing wrong, yay yay"

Okay, I had to chip that in. Your husband is a juvenile at heart. But you knew this before you married him because it is unlikely he started going to the club after marriage. this behavior was there before and you probably enjoyed it because you were not saddled with babies. that is just who he is and he is living his juvy life. Clubbing may mean he just likes to dance, hang out away from reality (escapism), etc. I escape at the movie theatres every Saturday and it costs me an arm and a leg. It could (and typically does) mean that he is a prowler. So honey, zip up your pu$#y to avoid Herpes, HIV, Hep B and C, incurable chlamydia, etc until you figure out what the F^@k he is doing at a club every damn Friday. Peace out, babe.

Anonymous said...

IfeD says;
Babes, today's friday - dress up looking hot and ask him where to meet him o. Trust me u need to be there, i go clubbing sometimes with hubby and im a mom so dnt let any kid stop u babes. My folks still do friday night hangins after 32yrs of marriage. Its in 9ja it seems odd for a couple to go out clubbing. Invite other married friends, make it a nice outing. With time he'll reduce his outings without u......if he doesnt, i bet he had these traits be4 marriage sha....

Anonymous said...

It isn't normal dear, U need to pray and also calmly talk to him about this issue. let him see reasons why he has to put the habit away.Make his nights more exciting with u, whatever he's getting outside, u can give double and he doesn't have to pay...U re both gonna have kids soon and he won't want to pass bad messages across to them. whether u club 2geda or not while dating all is in d past. Remember, prayerfully talk this over with him. No strange woman will find her way into ur home by God's grace.

Anonymous said...

WHY DO I HAVE A FEELING I KNOW THESE COUPLE? AND SHE'S A FRIEND. HMMMMM!!! WELL IF ITS U,BABE U KNOW THIS IS HIS LIFESTYLE BEFORE U GOT MARRIED TO HIM,IT DIDNT START WITH YOU AND NEITHER WILL IT END WITH YOU.MY ADVISE IS JOIN HIM TO THE CLUB LIKE U WERE DOING BEFORE U PPL GOT MARRIED.XOXO....

Anonymous said...

Not normal, if he wont stop, u shd also have aGIRLS nyt out too. lets see how he likes that.

diva said...

its not normal and its a reason to be worried. Infact i'm sure there is more to that friday evening clubbing than you knw. He's exposing himself to an environment full of temptations and its really too early to be facing such in ur marriage, before you know it, he'll be having affairs with various women, that is if he hasn't even started. talk to him, voice out ur worries, let him know that you are uncomfortable with this habit. btw ur husband shud learn to put away this habit, i believe that people outgrow certain stages in life. the way u lived when you were 26 and single shudnt be the way one shud be living at age 35, especially now that he has a family and a lot of responsibility + people looking up to him. My fiance is not even married to me yet but he has given up that life style just to make me happy and be the best man that he can be for me. I thank God for a God fearing and responsible man. such is rare.

brown sugar said...

hmmm, well if he enjoys clubbing soo much he should go with you his wife na, haba who is he planning on dancing with, or do u ppl party mon-thurs, dat he wants to use friday for himself.. go out with him, or make him do other things with you, late movies, drinks, etc etc.. his not single anymore.. his a man he shud stop acting like a single boy!

AfroPolitaine said...

the next time he is getting ready to go out, since you know the timing by now, turn on some hyping up music and be getting yourself ready! When is getting ready to leave let him know that you are going together! Based on his response and the sshock/anger or maybe even surprising excitement you'll know whether to be worried about him going to the club or not. If he refuses for you to go with him, just say OK you're going out with your girls you'll be back in the morning too. Full stop!

Ladies you need to learn not to turn your fly selves into an old hag. He didn't meet you as such so why do you think he'll like it now?!

He will definitely be worried at the prospect of you being out in the same scenes, even if not the same place, at night since he knows damn well what happens out there.

Anonymous said...

my dear pls don't complain too much, you must have been clubing with him before you two got married what you didn't realise is that when you get married it was not gonna just change over night.I'm talking from experience.Don't nag him too much just pray about it.

Anonymous said...

True talk

Anonymous said...

Many lousy comments...Listen for good ..If that is the only thing that makes him happy then try and understand...If your hubby is African maybe it is not normal but if he's American that's another thing...Follow your mind

attitude said...

Hehehe. Seriously, u jus reminded me of smth. My friend used to drug her dad's dinner on friday evenings just so she could go to club and it worked for a while till it started affecting his health and she had to stop. That's some serious ish

Anonymous said...

Must u write in CAPITAL letters? Abegi mscheew.

attitude said...

Hehehe. Seriously, u jus reminded me of smth. My friend used to drug her dad's dinner on friday evenings just so she could go to club and it worked for a while till it started affecting his health and she had to stop. That's some serious ish

Anonymous said...

My dear, same thing happened with me and my bf. When we started dating a while ago, he'll leave me at home and go partying with his friends. One night, I dressed up and told him I was going partying. He was forming illness, headache etc but I didn't even send him, I left him at home. When I came back the next day, he told me he understood how I usually felt and apologized for leaving me alone all the while. Since then we go to parties together, except I'm not in the mood.
Sisi, dress up on Saturday night and tell him you are going out with the ladies, let's see his reaction
lmao @ "is he the deejay?"

Anonymous said...

@Iheji Ifeanyi,lol at "some come home with handbags"anyway dear lib reader,there's nothing The Lord cannot do,I don't agree with those advising you to go with him.If you go with him wat example are you setting?See, to win any battle in marriage you must go on your knees!You can never be with him 24/7,so wat happens wen your are not there?who will watch him for you?pour your tears at the foot of The Lord Jesus,You will see ur husband turn into a changed man!Linda pls post.

Anonymous said...

If your husband cannot take u to the club, something is definately wrong with you both

Unknown said...

Nt normal luv....sorry ur man is gone....start fasting and praying.

Anonymous said...

when i got married to my ex,he clubs from thursday to saturday,i never complained because i trusted him,2yrs into our marriage he impregnated one of his club girls...at the end of the day ,i had to leave the marriage.

yarinya said...

Take It like that ke? They said a stitch in time saves 9. Whenever there is a problem, its best to address it ASAP. Why wait till things get worse? #Mytwocents

Anonymous said...

Hmmm different situations for different people o. I totally understand where she's coming from. For those of you asking if she didn't know before they got married, it's not always so clear cut. I have been married for almost two years. While my hubby and I were dating, he was a weekly clubber! When I complain, it is either "we are not yet married and you are complaining like this" or " baby don't worry, after marriage I will cool down and drop some things and this will be one of them, just for you". Well, did he cool down after marriage? NO!!! Was I a fool to believe him? Well for the better part of the first year, he would go out every friday night and return on Saturday morning, while I stayed home crying and begging God to just bring him back safely. It's been almost 2years as I said and he still goes out, not as much as before though maybe because I stopped fretting and developed a defense mechanism. When he's going, I say a prayer, tell him to be safe and I go and sleep. No more tears from me o. One thing though, the day I hear any cheating story or hear of any disease, there will be fire and brimstone. But as for now, I can't kill myself. By the way, I have never been the clubbing type and he's known it from day one. I can go once in a while, but I can't keep up with his regular club hopping!

Anonymous said...

Hmmm different situations for different people o. I totally understand where she's coming from. For those of you asking if she didn't know before they got married, it's not always so clear cut. I have been married for almost two years. While my hubby and I were dating, he was a weekly clubber! When I complain, it is either "we are not yet married and you are complaining like this" or " baby don't worry, after marriage I will cool down and drop some things and this will be one of them, just for you". Well, did he cool down after marriage? NO!!! Was I a fool to believe him? Well for the better part of the first year, he would go out every friday night and return on Saturday morning, while I stayed home crying and begging God to just bring him back safely. It's been almost 2years as I said and he still goes out, not as much as before though maybe because I stopped fretting and developed a defense mechanism. When he's going, I say a prayer, tell him to be safe and I go and sleep. No more tears from me o. One thing though, the day I hear any cheating story or hear of any disease, there will be fire and brimstone. But as for now, I can't kill myself. By the way, I have never been the clubbing type and he's known it from day one. I can go once in a while, but I can't keep up with his regular club hopping!

Anonymous said...

For her to stop him is only by prayer and patience.For him to do that weekly he must have been that way before marriage and she probably thought he will change afterwards. For single ladies out there pls look before you leap.

Anonymous said...

Ol'Gal it is almost normal for Lagos BOYS....and the word boy is not a respecter of age...hmmmn, You'd be surprised there's a lot of people with the same situation, what will our eyes not see in that Lagos.
My sister (3month marriage) also has the same issue but she dare not complain cos that was his lifestyle before they got married. I dislike the guy's guts with a passion(He even does Late night bar hopping on weekdays if there's chance,lols)....going out every friday night without your wife just oozes irresponsibility and Childishness.
mssschew #NaByForceToMarry??? I wish I didn't have to bother.....

Anonymous said...

WOW SEE MOMMENTS..I NOTICED THAT ANY NEWS ABOUT HUBBY AND WIFE OR GF AND BF NA SO OUR NIJA GIRLS DE PANIC AND COMMENT BUT IF SAY NA GOOD NEWS ..UH NA ONLY TEN COMMENTS U GO SEE.

Omo Gbelepawo said...

Nope! unacceptable, unless you are going with him. either way, every friday night and returning in the morning is a bit much. But wait oh, I'm sure you knew this about him before you married him, funny how you marry someone and you expect them to change. Marry someone only if you can live with all their shortcomings, don't expect them to change.

LyricalMessiah said...

You are a correct woman. Love your comment!!!

Anonymous said...

@ Anonymous July 27, 2012 3:35 AM. Yimu jor. are you sure he is your married uncle or your married boyfriend???lol

Anyway, i know for sure ur hubby is having fun outside. i used to date a guy who went out that much on fridays and on saturdays, im not proud to say he was and still is married. We used to have hot steamy sex for hours, omg it was crazy.

Mydear, it does not mean he does not love you, cos that guy loves his wife and family, but he was always with me most weekends, and i know for sure he still goes out on weekends till date, but he always always went back home no matter how late, maybe 3am or before. he only stayed out, when we travel, or he makes a short trip, comes back early, but does not go home.

so, its a thing peculiar to some guys,however sad that is but NOT all husbands do that. just pray he does not come home with a disease... It is well.

kemisola Ann said...

As a woman, you have to find a way to distract him from always going to the club. try come up with something or else soon you will lose him to some hot skirt chick..No talk say i no tell ya!

Galore said...

It is Normal to him.....Aunty sorry oo,,Na u put my mouth for Matter....*Wispering,,Ur husband is gay*..........Ok,Bye

Crush said...

women will always be clueless when it comes to men,i will write a book about men just to enlighten women about men and i hope even those women who live in denial will benefit from it too,the title will be "ALL MEN WILL ALWAYS BE MEN"

Anonymous said...

Linda u no dey post my comment!why na?na wa for u o.

Princess of Zion said...

I'm very sorry to say this but while a lot of men do this, it is really a bad practise! Every friday? That is just too rampant! He needs to slow down and spend more time at home. Even single men don't go clubbing that often. You need to arrest this habit.

There are several questions that spring to mind but they may make you regret your choice and I don't want you to do that. Talk to him about it and pray seriously. Also, you are married, why not make alternative to boys night for him at home. You are his wife no? Make Friday nights more inviting for him? Whip out the sexy lingerie, body chocolate, romantic music, get your hair done, get your body right and entice him, seduce him, sweetie, give him lovely all night passion. Give him more fun than he could ever have outside. Pleasure him! What happened to the passion? Give it to him in abundance, especially on Friday nights? Why not install a pole in your room and honour him with your moves? He will soon hate boys night out and love couples night in. AMEN

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Anonymous said...

I just saw a nigerian movie with men who hang out with their friends every friday night and sleep with different woman. My best advice for you since its only been eight months since you have been married to him, its still very fresh. get an investigator and follow his every moves and snap pictures for evidence, so when you decide you are walking away from the marriage, it wouldn't be of false accusation, you'll have real evidence to show. but if you're are not well off financially, babe sit your ass down there sorry. but if you're well off. please you can find better. toto the pass toto. i wish you well.

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