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Monday, 3 July 2017

Stop shaming me and telling me not to talk about domestic violence on social media- Mercy Aigbe appeals to the public

While speaking at the #1in3Africa walk against domestic violence organized by wife of the Ooni of Ife, Olori Wuraola Ogunwusi last week, Mercy Aigbe appealed to the public to stop asking her not to talk about domestic violence on her social media.

Mercy and her estranged hubby, Lanre, have been engaged in a social media fight over claims that he battered her while they were still married. Speaking at the walk, Mercy said people should stop shaming women who are victims of domestic violence.


"Violence should not be an option irrespective of whatever the situation is. Nobody should resort to violence because at the end of it all, it doesn't solve anything. It actually makes things worse. So I am here to say no to domestic violence, no to assault, no to battery. Under any circumstance, a man should never hit his wife. Only weak men, only cowards hit their wives. To women who are going through such, I would say please come out, speak about it. Stop protecting that man. Stop shielding that man because any man that hits you, he doesn't love you. The minute the man raises up his hand to slap or hit or punch you, that means there is no more love in that relationship. There is no more love in that marriage. So stop shielding the man. Come out. Speak about it and if possible make sure you prosecute such a person and the person is brought to book. Violence is a no no. It should not be condoned. It should not be tolerated and also by making sure that whoever is found wanting is brought to book. Please people, Let us stop shaming the victims. There is no shame in our pain. I am a victim and I am proud to say that I am a victim. I am talking about it because I have chosen to talk about it. A lot of people say she is a celebrity. Yes I am a celeb according to you guys, but I am also a human being. I have blood flowing in my veins. I have feelings. If I choose to talk about it, leave me let me speak out it. Do not come shaming me and telling me how I should not come to social media to say what I want to say. I have the right and I am a human being. So let me talk about it because I feel my talking about it will actually give voice to the voiceless. My talking about it will encourage one woman out there who is going through such a thing and who cannot stand up to come out and be bold enough and be courageous about it and to stand up to that bully who she calls her husband" she said

38 comments:

Flash said...

the only people telling her not to talk about domestic violence are the ones that beat their wives at home. if you are a man that doesn't beat your wife, you would not

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care and if your wife is the type that likes nagging and insulting, the thing is just to send her packing or just divorce.

Vivian Reginalds said...

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Anonymous said...

She should shut the fuck up!

Manuel Kunmi said...

abeg free this woman jere

Halima Yahaya said...

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optimisticlady said...

I want to know how you got custody of your child...
Most women in you shoes do not get to ever see their children once they leave their marriages...
That's a big setback to this fight.. M
NGOs and the court don't help at all.
Once the abuser pays some bribe.... That's all...
The woman loses all. .
What's to be done?

Ebere Ogbonnaya said...

Fin hug I see you sis

molokwu fumunanya said...

All dese celebs coming out to seek pity n attention can u kindly keep ur gutter mouth shut...d worse part is u avnt told us wat is it u did dat resulted to him acting violently...if we investigate properly we would find out dat u had d first strike...awon radarada...go n have ur sit jare

Anonymous said...

bleached olosho forming victim.. Umu iberibe in ezeugo voice

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

We hear


... Merited happiness

Joyous babe,Linda Ikeji First Cousin said...

Issokey

oge said...

Abeg no vex!continue ur media rĂ nt

dee boi said...

My mum took all of us ooooo... dee

Gorgeous Eve said...

It's only fools and cowards that will tell you not to talk about it. It takes courage to speak up in times like this. I admire your courage sis.

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment...olosho, ashewo advising people. all u want is to be free so that u can do olosho job well,carry on ur market go soon finish. useless bleaching animal.

Anonymous said...

Mercy are you a saint in the marriage... You have your troubles too..just looking for public pity.

Anonymous said...

i dont understand what nigerian celebraties re talking about.. re they encouraging divorce in our socity.. plsss if their marraige fails they should allow innocent girls out there to enjoy theirs.. they re married n they keep men out there bcos of material things n when the hubby talks.. they tag it voilence mtcheeeew

Anonymous said...

Mercy are you a saint in the marriage... You have your troubles too..just looking for public pity.

Anonymous said...

Mercy are you a saint in the marriage... You have your troubles too..just looking for public pity.

Sam said...

No matter what the woman did, a man has no right to hit his wife. Even if the woman slept with your father and all your ancestors, you have no right to hit her. Simply tell her family to return the bride price. If she insults you, insult her back. Afterall, na mouth she take insult you. So you sef take mouth insult her back. Why cant you fight your fellow man? Na woman body una dey get power. Useless weakling of a man!

Sam said...

No matter what the woman did, a man has no right to hit his wife. Even if the woman slept with your father and all your ancestors, you have no right to hit her. Simply tell her family to return the bride price. If she insults you, insult her back. Afterall, na mouth she take insult you. So you sef take mouth insult her back. Why cant you fight your fellow man? Na woman body una dey get power. Useless weakling of a man!

Emeka said...

All you wife beaters, there is no justification for your action. Did her parents give her to you to marry or to kill? Why should you beat another man's child? Na person born her oh just like your mama suffer for 9 months born you too. So you have no right to hit her. Men control your temper or go for anger management. Seek counselling

Emeka said...

All you wife beaters, there is no justification for your action. Did her parents give her to you to marry or to kill? Why should you beat another man's child? Na person born her oh just like your mama suffer for 9 months born you too. So you have no right to hit her. Men control your temper or go for anger management. Seek counselling

Anonymous said...

They are all looking for public sympathy... If they tell you what they do at home to their husband you all will be shock...

Anonymous said...

They are all looking for public sympathy... If they tell you what they do at home to their husband you all will be shock...

Anonymous said...

They are all looking for public sympathy... If they tell you what they do at home to their husband you all will be shock...

Anonymous said...

Shut up your mouth please.
what of women who maltreatment and beat up their maids like criminal is that not abuse also.

Anonymous said...

Shut up your mouth please.
what of women who maltreatment and beat up their maids like criminal is that not abuse also.

Anonymous said...

Shut up your mouth please.
what of women who maltreatment and beat up their maids like criminal is that not abuse also.

Alhaji BigShow said...

Your common marriage you cannot make work, a wise woman buildeth her home and the foolish one destroyeth hers. Leave the walk to those who are worthy to carry the cross. When you want to be a boss over your husband, you are already asking for trouble. Go marry cripple.

Anonymous said...

That's what you get when you keep hanging your dirty linen in public by doing that you looking for peoples comments.... Many women also lie about being victims too....

Anonymous said...

What of women who beat their house maid like animal.. Is that not abuse too..

Anonymous said...

What of women who beat their house maid like animal.. Is that not abuse too..

chinelo okafor said...

Hoelosho. Shame...

Anonymous said...

What about women hitting their men first,you don't want to talk about that!

Anonymous said...

I'm sure they will not protest if the victims are pepper seller,meat seller.

Anonymous said...

True talk...

Anonymous said...

Sam. Its hard to figure out if you are a lesbian or bobrisky but either way, you are a pained individual. What has she learnt from this experience to talk to others, what was her part in it?, its easy to rant

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