From a female LIB reader
I did everything i was suppose to including communicating i did so much of that i started to sound like a nag so i stayed off and tried my best to push back my hurt and move on each time i saw him flirting on BBM.I have been married to my husband for 6 years now and we have kids. I wouldn't say all is completely bad after all we have good times and he's a good father to my children but the problem is my husband cannot remain faithful to me. It all started for me a year after we got married, I noticed he was always BBMing single girls and completely into these girls whenever I found out, I warned him to stop that it does not help our relationship but to no avail. It had gotten to an extent that he was entertaining about 6 girls at a go, sending them money and ignoring my hurt feelings and neglecting me.
It
was last year i knew the extent of his cheating, he was so into
whatever he was doing with these girls he forgot i existed, i have never
held back sex from him instead it was him that never seemed interested
in having sex with me. i confronted him after seeing so many
affectionate text to these girls i was so heart broken i literally felt
it break and he promised me that this time he would change.
But
only recently after coming back from a trip , i saw he was now trying
to get hookup girls, ie university girls that sell their bodies to
married men, he was in contact with a pimp that makes it possible. i
think by now i don't expect anything better from my husband i wasn't as
hurt as i would think, i am ready to move on from this man but i have kids. i have done what most women would say
"look the other way and look after yourself" but for how long do i
carry this on, don't i deserve to be happy, i deserve better. all i see
now when i look at him is a man that i can never trust and who
constantly betrays me.
I really can't leave him now because of my kids, what do i do?
178 comments:
Pray!!
No remedy, just keep bin a good wife. Lindaobserve
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Person don show yu his true colour frm day one and yu choose to stay with him... Na yu do urself.....
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Woh! I'm getting tired of all these stories o. Wetin sef? U can't leave him bcos of ur kids.. so he didn't think of the kids b4 cheating ehn? My sister, carry ur cross and concentrate on ur children. He'll soon get old and find somewhere to sit down.
Oh cmon. Is it till he infects you wt an std or you die thinking abt him? Please if possible separate from him fora while. You deserve to be happy. Go along wt ur kids and don't die over a man's issue.
My dear is he worth all these stress?
From your story, he never showed remorse for what he does, it hurts you so bad and its killing you inside.
For how long do you think you can keep up with a cheating husband?
Get someone he respects to talk to him, while you pray about it.
If he continues, you better quit if you can't endure or match his actions too.
Before you will commit murder oneday, then no one would believe your story about him.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
Haha, na wa for all dis cheating husband o.
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PUSH....PRAY UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENED
#Spice Up Your Sex Life and #Pray for him!....#ItIsWell!
Leave him and you will find a better man that will appreciate u. Well what's my own
Cut off his divk...that's d only solution...nothing u will do will make him stop, so just focus on ur kids and urself happiness. He's not worth d headache, and make sure u use protection wen he wanna get down with u,diseases are everywia
Keep your faith in God, don't know wat our Nigeria married men are turning into. All u married women have to do for the single ladies out there is keep praying seriously for them/us to get our own life partners
I feel so sorry for u dear.... Buh honestly, its best to look the other way,take care of urself and ur kids and Pray..... If u can't take it anymore,u'll have to walkaway eventually...
Mam go down on ur knees nd pray dat is jst d solution u need. Let nothing confuse u or disturb ur mind. Let God take control nd focus more on ur marriage working. He will change nd u will give God the glory for dis.
It is harmful for kids to grow up in such a household both emotionally and mentally. They will grow up thinking that is the norm and will have relationship issues as well. You deserve to be happy, your kids deserve to be happy. He acts the way he does because he thinks you cannot leave him. Sister pack your things and go. With the way he is sleeping around, what if you catch AIDS from him or some other STD? Pls ignore what society will say and do the best for you and your kids.
It is harmful for kids to grow up in such a household both emotionally and mentally. They will grow up thinking that is the norm and will have relationship issues as well. You deserve to be happy, your kids deserve to be happy. He acts the way he does because he thinks you cannot leave him. Sister pack your things and go. With the way he is sleeping around, what if you catch AIDS from him or some other STD? Pls ignore what society will say and do the best for you and your kids.
All this story sef, am tired of hearing about them, if all women bring their stories of how their husbands cheat on them here we won't see space for news o, I don't even think lib here will help you at all. Just continue praying to your God, there is nothing he cannot do.
Don't get things twisted..The reason you should leave him should be because of the kids and not the other way round. Just imagine he contracts HIV & infects you, fine it is not a death penalty but i believe you will be more devastated which will spill over to the children. I don't tolerate indiscipline in relationship.
My opinion though.
Just go on your knees and pray to God about it, i don't just understand now a-days married men, they have refused to be faithful
Pray woman,pray.
Occupy ur self concentrate and love your kids,pray and as a lawyer I would say worst comes even if u don't leave threaten u would.....
Stay with him, pray for him and continue to love him. with time, it will all end in praise.
Tk d advice of d lady dt wrote on cheat wat women shld do call ur hussy tel him u want an open marriage were by he is free to do anytn dt pleases him nd u also ll do d same ur free 2 hv oda affairs dt way he ll sit up.
Nice LIB super story tales...
Simple fact remain, dis is who he was b4 u married him. Talk to God in prayers to change him inside out, and expect d total turn around in his life.
Dz ladies keep asking dsame ques evryday.....asif dem dey dnt cheats...hv neva seen 'cheating wife here b4'
As in...Dnt stop praying n believing
Yes, you are staying because of the kids but keep praying for him. Most of us make mistakes but not to go around rubbing it on our spouses faces and since he is doing so, it is quite disrespectful. I trust God to be your guard and guide
Castrate the fool already..
Don't let the fool share the disease his carrying to you.
Confront and let him know you are aware,don't be all lovey dovey about it.
Btw hope you not a housewife? Fine! Ask him for money also,don't ever stop,then start saving up sweety...Leave the house for a while to get your sanity back.and keep praying,never relent.
God will definitely see you through...
Same old story. Abeg pray to God. Linda take note!
You sure say u no follow person husband wen u never marrry? Nna search yaself ooo na nemesis
Best advice my sister
My dear simple solution...SLEEP WITH HIS BEST FRIEND ......or his brother chikena in eye go clear....be ready for war sha oooo
Pray 4 him, take care of ur kids nd ignore him totally, so he won't hurt u.. Nd pls 4 now don't sleep wit him...HIV is real..
Its so so painful but my dear, all you need do is pray! Fast and pray, God hears i bet you...
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Jst acting as if u re also cheating on him nd show no concern on wat he is doing nd dat may bring him bk don't go nd cheat o. So dat u won't b thrown out of d house jst pretend as if u re cheating on him
Fake royal priesthood. Pls don't try to be bishop Dammy
I hate when women complain about being cheated on by their husbands and the first advice people give is "PRAY"!!! Pray about what I ask?!!! I am not against prayer, but prayer without action is BALDDERDASH!!!! Nigeria has the highest amount of churches the world over, yet we lag behind in virtually everything!!! We are the most spiritual people in the world, often replying questions like "How are you?" with "We thank God." Yet Nigeria is one of the most morally depraved countries in the world. So I ask again, why ask her to pray and not give her a number to an excellent lawyer, a good account manager, an amazing therapist?!
And why in God's name would a woman who knows her true worth turn a blind eye to a man who has pledged his future to her?! You are a queen and deserve to be treated so and not a maid in a mansion who goes to bed dreaming she was the mistress!
After the first few times early in your relationship when you noticed his cheating tendency, you should have waited before taking in, instead of tying yourself down to a cheating bastard and coming to LIB to seek advise from a blog patronized by a largely single group?!
My advice, find a way to get to his money, get enough, pick a state or country, take your kids and flee, AIDS is real and so are the prowling demons who walk the streets in suits and skirts.
Sorry if I sound harsh but I have sisters and can't bare to imagine them in a situations such as this.
My dis true talk but at dsame time una go become by force friend wen him no c where go n romantic period go don Waka. It is well
I am in d same situation right now.expect that he is expecting a baby from his mistress.I have decided to stay with him, continue to be a good wife and praying to God to keep my home.cos its only God that can do it.and most importantly forgive him so that u can move forward.
pray hard nd have it @ d bck of ur heart that God will see u tru
Very true my dear. She should look the other way n face her kids. I know of cheating husbands that have given their poor wives HIV. Na dia problem go dey. Since he will not listen to you and leave those ladies then you should insist on condom whenever he asks for sex. Cos once he gets any STDs, na you go carry am. I just feel so sorry for you dear.
keeping praying and you'll see correct disgrace come to him..He'll be the one to advice himself and run to God for forgiveness..
Men cheat, he will come around when he gets tired..
Just keep praying
Nigerians and prayer sha....madam please leave him if you cant cope. Haba! From what you wrote, you cant endure what he is dishing out so for how long will you pray and be hurting??
are you financially secure or do you depend on him. if you have your own finances, find you a boyfriend and be happily 'married' to the fool.
if not, swallow your pill and bury your head in the sand.
Are u meant to comment under this post? It's not for underage
Haba Bonario, are you encouraging adultery?
Same old shit
did u ever slept with other people husbands during ur single days.... if ur hand is clean on this aspect take it confidently to GOD and ask for great confusion between ur husband and the runz girls... but if u are guilt about sleeping with other people husbands... just ask the almighty for serious forgiveness... and he will heal ur home
DTS D THNG MEN DO...PRY AND MOVE ON BT PRY HE DOESNT BRNG BCK SEXUAL DISEASE TO U OR DOSE GRLS AFTA WASTIN DEMSLVES TURN BCK TO ACCUSE U OF ONE THNG OR D OTHER AND U R THROWN OUT WIT NOTHNG, SO DT THEY CN TEK UR HME AND FRUSTRATE UR KIDS....TOMJERRYSWIT
Pray, look good, love him more, compliment him,take good care of ur kids,keep a smiling face always, ignore. GOD wil take control Vry soon
If you can't leave him, stay no complain!
Please dear, Pray for him, only God can change him, You can't do it on your own, leaving him is not the solution, your children deserve a home, face them, take care of your self, get busy, use protection if you have to have set with him. God will come through for you. Trust Me!
Why are you killing yourself? Must you check his BBM conversation? Is it possible to have sex with someone on BBM? You calimed to have spoken to him about it and yet he didn't change. Be yourself, make yourself happy, you too can make friends on BBM(female good fiends) Do your own chatting whenever he does his own, react as if you are reacting to a boyfriend on your phone. Don't hide your reaction as he never hid his own. I am so sure he would be more jealous than you think and with time he would be sober. Those girls will soon leave him or teach him a bitter lesson. Don't stop praying for him and keep serving God. God will see you through in Jesus' name
Im facing almost d same thing. Its so terrible to d extent he doesn't even notice I exist. He doesn't even have sex with me anymore. Thank God dis lady specified she's been married for 6 years cos I know my hubby will thinking I wrote lindaikeji.
You can only seek God's help! He seems out of his own control
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Leave! And this is coming from a man. At the end of the day the decision is yours. But wouldn't u rather be happy alone with your kids as to hurting for the rest of your life. He probably knows u won't leave that's y he does not care. Defy the odds and see how your life changes.
Be a good wife ,pray and avoid bad advice from friends.. be diligent madam. Prov 31:1-10
Are you God-fearing? What was your criteria for selecting a husband when you were single? Did you sleep with him before marriage? If yes, then I'm sorry madam. There's not much you can do. The ONLY thing that can keep a man from cheating is the fear of God. So give your life entirely to Christ while you pray for him. Dont nag and don't be harsh on him. Your gentle, calm disposition can change him when he sees the new radiant spirit in you. Why do women worry so much about men sef? Mtcheew
My sister dere is nothing u can do remember d oat for better for worst u say yes i do so fast and pray God in his infinit mercy will deliver him. Dat's d only solution
Madam pray, there's nothing God cannot do???
Worth all 'this' stress not 'these' stress. Thank me later. Lol!
I sympathize with you but truth u don't expect to marry an unbeliever and expect him to treat u right...he doesn't even hav d Holy spirit to correct him or a spiritual father ( pastor) dat u can talk to... ladies marriage is beyond wealth and fame...u can't marry out of God's will and expect to run to him when ur in trouble...... u see christian ladies compromising and marrying unbelieving men, u should be ready to bear the burden of been with a godless man....Truth must be told......no need beating about d bush...I pray dat God gives u peace in ur marriage...what u need is God's intervention...
all des same story lines of stories dat touch...men wont stop cheating.beta focus ur energy on something else.let him find u always laffing away on ur fone.
My sister he's ur husband remember dat oat for better for worst u say i do so dere is nothing u can do than to fast n pray for God to deliver him frm d demonic spirit.Sorry may God have mercy n deliver him.
Prayer is d key.
Ok I av two options,now first, if ur hands are clean den goo down in d middle of the night and pray to God,God said wat he has joined together let no man put assunder,the two lovers will never go unpunished,cry to God,he hearsooo,and he is a cunsuming fireo. Dats my advise, den no 2 option, if u can cheat back,but God hand and mine no dey thereooo,survival of d fittest shaooo. Choose option one,If am to advise u
Linda i hope you will publish this letter.. Well, i will advise you to commit your husband to God in prayers for only God can change him. As for the people saying you should leave your marriage, please do not listen to them for i believe all of them are all singles and do not know what it means to be married. Marriage is not a relationship that you can jump in and out anytime you desire.
Most guys here will advise you to leave him whereas 85% are guilty of same crime likewise the ladies. Your priority was marriage and nothing else, he didn't just started just that you now care. To stop most guys from cheating just make them poor, (me too) so can you?
Sometimes it can be very difficult to make certain decisions because we think of what others will say. But I will advise you to separate and not divorce while seeking the face of God for divine intervention or else this man might give you sexually transmitted disease.
If that's your picture up there.... Get yourself a boy friend. 7 billion people and you feel this lonely already? Naaaaa.... You too get busy !
Its funny people keep writing pray, pray pray. Pray for what exactly? there is no excuse for cheating but when its a lifestyle, I advise to walk away when you still can. No man is worth it
If only egg plants were dtacheable or had a remote control...
I AM SICK AND TIRED OF HEARING WOMEN SAYING THEY DONT WANNA LEAVE BECAUSE OF THE KIDS YET THEY ARE COMPLAINING THAT THE HUSBAND WONT STOP CHEATING.......AS IF THERE IS A REMEDY THAT WILL AUTOMATICALLY STOP HIM CHEATING ON YOU BY STAYING........YOU WAIT TILL YOU CATCH SOME BAD ASS STD FROM HIM LIKE HIV........YOU ARE STILL SPREADING YOUR LEGS FOR HIM......EVEN THE BIBLE ALLOWS FOR DIVORCE BASED ON INFIDELITY.........SO DONT SAY THAT YOU ARE STAYING BECAUSE OF GOD, EVEN GOD ALLOWS FOR DIVORCE IN SUCH A CIRCUMSTANCE.
I PRAY YOU DONT REGRET SPREADING YOUR LEGS FOR HIM KNOWING THAT HE IS FUCKING LIKE A HUNGRY/ GREEDY GORILLA THAT IS OBVIOUSLY IS.
MEANWHILE, I HOPE YOU ALSO REALISE THAT YOUR CHILDREN CAN SEE YOUR UNHAPPINESS, SOMETIMES, PARENTS FEEL AS IF KIDS DO NOT KNOW/SENSE THESE THINGS.........YOUR LIFESTYLE IS A LIVING EXAMPLE FOR YOUR CHILDREN. BY STAYING IN AN UNHEALTHY MARRIAGE, IT WILL AFFECT YOUR KIDS ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.
YOU CAN PRAY AND REPORT HIM TO YOU PASTOR SO THAT THEY CAN DEAL WITH HIM.
DONT BE A BIG FOOL BY STAYING AND NOT TAKING ANY ACTIONS. BETTER STOP SPREADING YOUR LEGS FOR HIM UNTIL ALL THIS MESS IS 100% RESOLVED.
I share your pain becos my husband is lke that or worst unfaithful a sex mania despite all he still want to have sex with me telling me i can't resist my body.i make him kbow all his ecaped all the time i tormet me with it i treathen him a lot but i don't intend to catch him in the act becos anytime i think of his unfaithful having sex with other woman i feel horny but i can never cheat on him though i treathen him that i will revenge by sleeping with a dirty mechanic or bricklayer just to payback
I will advice you to pray for him, nothing is above the power of God
My dearrrrr it's every where oooo....all married men're cheat so pray nd erase it from ur mind,look good for ur self .dnt compromise ur happiness nd u will see him coming back to u........if men know dat there wife no dat dey re cheating dey will say wat will she do...but if u pretend as if u don't no anythinghe will respect u
Did you try changing him before marriage or because you have acquired him you now deem it fit to change him. It doesn't work that way sis.
Many ladies will advise you to Leave but check their status almost all are singles even at 40, so leave and watch them occupy willingly, therefore to change him, just wake him up early to read Bible, discuss it and pray together according to Bible standard. Nothing changes a Man like praying with his supposed victims.
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I think you should ask this question sincerely: 1. Was he like this when you got married? 2. How fair and good is your sex life with him? 3. What types of friends does he keep?
Since he doesn't beat you nor ask you to leave (yet), I'd advise you work tirelessly on finding out why he suddenly changed while you fervently pray for his deliverance. I just pity the kids, cos in matters like this, they're the worst hit.
Be patient. However, if the situation persists and becomes tatally unbearable, devorce appears the best option -- though I would rather you didn't take that route, for the future of your kids.
Wishing you patience and persevearance.
-Comsoy
The things some men do ehn...m very sorry ur going thru this..u av tried and if u decide 2 call it quits I'll understand and m sure God will forgive u self..but in d mean time just concentrate on being a good mother to ur kids..
I think you should ask this question sincerely: 1. Was he like this when you got married? 2. How fair and good is your sex life with him? 3. What types of friends does he keep?
Since he doesn't beat you nor ask you to leave (yet), I'd advise you work tirelessly on finding out why he suddenly changed while you fervently pray for his deliverance. I just pity the kids, cos in matters like this, they're the worst hit.
Be patient. However, if the situation persists and becomes tatally unbearable, devorce appears the best option -- though I would rather you didn't take that route, for the future of your kids.
Wishing you patience and persevearance.
-Comsoy
Linda PLS stop posting these sob stories. We are over it. What do you mean you can't leave him because of your kids? I hate when women use that silly excuse. Will you be the first to do it? Divorce him, Apply/file for joint custody if you want and child support. And keep it moving. Urgh! It's you that's enjoying the pain stay there. As if there's a remedy we can give you. I don't know why you women keep living for the men. Someone will be treating you like shit and you will remain there as if you don't have your life to live and happiness to receive. When you realise you deserve your happiness you will stand up and leave. Till then consult your nearest babalawo
Please shut up if you don't have a good advice
As in God bless you. Women be acting like they are the only ones who produced the children. This man has shit on you and your kids and he doesn't give a f***. Stay there you hear
Stop giving bad advice. The bible itself speaks against infidelity. All this pray and get someone to talk to him. 5yrs later and they are still 'talking' Hissss.
Leave the marriage please, life is too short for you be in a marriage with someone that treats you like trash #Jules
It has nothing to do with Nigerian man and everything to do with Nigerian women. We are the cause of our own misery. We literally bend over backwards till we break our backs for these men. They cheat abuse and even kill some. Yet most will stay Jst for the 'married status'. I also blame the parents and society that make marriage look like its a do or die affair. The minute women stop tolerating shit, are comfortable being single and when they realise a man is only an add-on and not your existence, I promise you these men will sit up. Half of them behave the way they behave now because they know their wives are not going anywhere. These women need the men more than the men need them. I swear it's not rocket science.
You become Bornagain and get Him to be,no ordinary man can help not cheating,some are only moderate,but like your husband he's a severe case,no amount of time u complain to family or friends would change him either He would only develope new methods,maybe this time consider not being a whore to your very face...he's a child inside,a very big baby you married I pity his life(cheating on ur wife just to prove to her you got IT) foolishness....Madam I don't mean to be all churchy but only the spirit of God help men not cheat.You don't sound born again,Do so and lead him to Christ then your lives would be filled of laughter again Amen.God help you
Imagine. Look the other way?
Nawaaaaaaaa
Everytime! Pray pray pray! Nigerians always av this "wait for God attitude" that's why our country is so backwards.. my sister "act and pray". Seperate from him for a while and if he shows no remorse.. leave him! Yes! U can end a marriage on the grounds of adultery but allow him train his kids. Take care of them.. build a career! Empower yourself to be a better woman so he will wish he never mistreated you! Don't just end ur life in misery! And don't just sit down waiting for miracles! Yes he can give HIV or worse! Get tested too.. do what is best for u make, make yourself happy! This is the best advice u can get!
HE WILLL NOT CHANGE. NIGERIANS need to stop this misleading shit. This is why we have Sooo many bitter angry women walking up and down!
God bless this person. Simple
Stay off his phone and be blind to see. What you should do is focus on your kids and dont stop praying for him. God no de sleep
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
You can't leave him because of Your kids? Why? Why can't you leave him because of Your kids? Because you don't want Your kids to grow up in a broken home or with a single parent? Ask yourself this question, "if that man dies, so Your kids will stop existing abi? Wouldn't Your kids grow up? in as much as kids need to grow with the love of both parent, they can always do well with a single parent, there a lots of example out there.
And I don't like this same reason all women give about them not wanting to leave a marriage That's not working due to a cheating partner because of kids, it keep giving men confidence to cheat, with the believe that when a woman has Kids, she become handicapped to leave. And will keep encouraging them to cheat. Why didn't the Bible consider kids first before saying a person can end a marriage on the ground of unfaithfulness? Think about that.
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You are a very stupid idiot. Wait your turn is just around the corner.
Angela you really took the words off my mouth..ull really see changes when he realises you are no longer ready to be his slave at home and that men still find you attractive. Pray and be practical also. Look for a close frnd to act as ur boyfriend to bring the jealousy out,let ur kids have a nice time with the new guy n give their dad the jist.i bet u he ll begin to retrace his steps back home. As long as there's a competition his head will definitely reboot. Goodluck
keep praying ok? the Lord will see you tru it
Nothing bad there,your not suppoz 2 tink about it,since he makes u number 1,afterall Annie idibia no say 2face na bad guy,she still stick with am,so sis don't tink about that,just knw ur numba 1 position is safe,and u already got the keys 2 d castle
Some men can be disgusting
Prayer is d key mydear.
My dear find look the other way oo for your childrens sake..by that I meaN find yourself one sweet bobo to play with and make your heart sing yori yori. No one deserves missery because of another. Do yourself this favour and you will thank me later, forget all these holier than though pretenders were they full for this Naija.
Madam don't be stupid!leave his sorry ass if it hurts u,go away rebrand itself,if its Gods will,u will come back together,keep praying for him,during that process flirt!n if u choose don't cheat,just get a dildo!simple!I have been celibate for months now,I use my 8 inch dildo a bf not me,having d time of my life ...my 2 kobo.
You know what to do to get back your sanity Madame, ask your self first , what are u existing for? To make yourself happy or to sacrifice your happiness for another? Do you know about self love? Have you practised self love? When you research about it then you will know what to . God bless, meanwhile pls can someone send lindaikeji's email address to me ? I want to send something about my school I need it . thank you
Woman know dey cheat for marriage,everything na man,sis carry your cross,contact your pastor for advise
Hmmmmmmm
To stay sane and happy, learn to go to ur happy bubble... each time you see the text messages, just remember the day you got married to him and how happy you were that day... you will feel better instantly :) pele
Start using condoms with him,get a man friend who makes u happy and ignore him.use dildo tto satisfy ur sexual desires.
Yes oo I agree wit u jare..continue ur prayers God 'll answer ur prayer one day ijn Amen!
Sorry of my life.Yours is even better.I wish I can just pay mine in his coin.
U didn't state if u working oR something,my advise,get busy with ur self & praY_Luke 1:37 with God all things are possible,meaning wt God he ll stay fAithful 2 u..stay strong
Hmmmmmmm
Please sister leave him. Please if you are not happy in it leave. There are so many other women who will be happy to marry your man so long as he is taking care of the home and taking care of the kids. Are you living in the streets? Is he taking care of your kids? Did you grand father have one or more wives? Are you a white woman? Do you want to be single and traveling around the world lonely like Linda Ikeji? If the answer is yes, then leave him so another good woman can enter and be happy.
My dear sister, it is quite painful yet your situation can change if you take it to God in prayers. You are to pray for your marriage/family and not for your husband 'for now' so that God can have mercy on you and the kids by turning his heart to do the right thing.
So you argue and let your children see that happen all the time,I pity you.Look if you are single and hasn't lost anyone before or spiritual,you have no right to comment here..leave him leave him,you think that's how easy it is,u think heartbreak is an illusion...you think there's anything honorable about looking for another man when you have kids and loving husband(a cheat anyways) The Man Needs help.Run to God and see your solutions,make your selves born again(unless the Lord builds a house you labour in vain he that builds it) take this very seriously,I used to be angry about people thinking everything is church church also.but now I know it is,Sis get born again and watch things turn around,if it doesn't sue me.100% sure of this...that leave that man to doom He needs your help.consider not all advice from these silly children please
Madam, u have to learn to stay clear your husband's phone. If u don't keep monitoring and suspecting, you won't have to find out all these nasty things he is doing.
What goes around, comes around. Am not saying you did it when you were single(if u did, ur paying for it). But to the single days out there, I pray you get married and come to LIB to complain of your cheating husbands. That's just the way it is.
My sister dia is remedy bcos with God all thins ar posible just kip on prayin, God says d heart of evry man is in his hand which he can turn d way it pleases him so don't fight, quarrel or think of divorcing him bcos dia is child in bitwin havin children of different fada is not ur portion, 90% of men all over d world 2day does d same but d only thin dat is constant in life is change wit some belivers and faithful wife's prayers some men has changed from dia cheating professions,God bless U.
Madam cheat ur own n move on..all dese stupid men ain't worth it
He has been that way from day way one but you didn't notice. You do not expect him to change overnight so just pray for him and take care of yourself
Get hooked up with some other guy.Many husbands dont give thier wives good time but will rather reseve it for their so called lovers.Why not do the same and make urself happy.Check this out, how many men can & will give their wives the head? very few but almost all of them wants a blow job. What ur husband has taken 4 granted, many are pleading and begging u to give them outside, Try it and see if he will not sit up.Oloshi Mumu husband.
hmmmm..for all the people that keeps emphasizing on prayers, ya'all should cut that out already. babe, pack up your things already including your kids and walk. if he doesn't come around, then you move on because you have got just one life.
Dear sister, I believe God Almighty is the only answer to this issue. Don't pack to any where it will not solve the issue but God. Pray and believe ,God will change him for better.
dont have unprotected sex with him...DONT TRY IT. and also make sure you show your kids as much love as you can without spoiling them....AND FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS, look for LOVE outside, start your own little romance with som1 nice, and as soon as he sees that you dont care and you take care of your self better because of your new found love he will begin to come around, bcos he will notice you don't care anymore. GOODLUCK!
Dear stop crying, complainning and shouting. this is the time you will prove your faith. go to God in prayer. do not post this matter again for discousion less people will give you bad advice. a woman told u that nothing will change ur husband. that is one of the example of bad idea. WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. NOT SOME THINGS BUT ALL THINGS. tell the Lord to remember you for good especially if you are sure that you have never do this kind of thing when u are single. bring your husband before the LORD and tell the Lord the reasons while He will intervain in the matter. is there anything too hard for the Lord to do? my sister i promised you that God will surely restore your marriage in JESUS NAME.
Dear, Make him think you are doing the same....and act it very well. If it does'nt bother him...find something that makes you happy and live each day as it comes...its for better or worse remember???
Pray that God will change him
Just pray.
Adult don't change,just pray for God to touch his soul
Adult don't change,just pray for God to touch his soul
U shld be strong for ur children and leave him becos if u die of all these diseases going around from sex who will take care of ur kids. Leave him and move on but enforce it on him to take care of his children. Also men when they hear u are living them for good they can reform cuz ryt now he thinks u cannot leave without him and so he thinks u can tolerate any shits.
Trust me, no amount of talking can change men like that, no matter who talks to him. Adultery is an evil spirit that only God and deliver ur husband from. My mum faced same issue with my dad since we were little until we grew up to know what our father was doing to her, and because am d only girl, she told me all her problems. But with prayer and fasting, he got delivered and even apologised to us. Pray to God about it, he will see u through. Don't make going through his phone a habit, u will only hurt urself some more. Just take it to God in prayer and fasting
Pray n ask God 4 grace to look d other way bcs e no easy my sis.
See a cheating husband isn't sitting up anywhr. Instead d marriage would end. U want freedom. Do whatever.. Get a house. Get ur men. Cheat with dem. Not in my house. Case closed. Am fine
Lolz, this prayer should be followed up with actions. Meaning married women should take the girls in as second, third or fourth wives. Igbadun for men
It hurts really bad to know he started cheating right from the first year after your marriage, obviously he got u into his house basically to shut the mouths of those who could pester him to get married. Here you have seen the real side of him and i'm as sure as heaven you have been praying and fasting.....i would not say you should stop, buh my bitter advice is this - your happiness should be strawed from another source, your children, their future and ur success, you have to practically and emotionally forget about him, take care of your kids, God help you....there are alot of single mothers out there, focus your attention on making it without him. if he loves you, he'll come for you, of which it's quite apparent he does not, so just move on dear, u can, Your happiness is one thing you should do anything to retain***don't kill, steal or lie sha #winks*** Goodluck
Dats d bitter truth, is everywhere now, der is noting u can do, just keep bin a goood wife ad pray 4 him
fuck that "be a good wife and pray for him" shit. dey there u hear! till he comes and dashes u HIV. omo, if u leave him life goes on. with or without another man. better you live long to see your grandchildren and be happy than to die suddenly bcos of a bagger that doesnt respect you. #Nuff said.
Leave his ass, what rubbish! He wants you to be faithful and he is there fooling around is really unfair.
Just keep praying 4 him he will charge don't leave ur husband 4 another woman,dey will be glade 2 snach him 4rm u.
Na dat kind STD go tire you pass. E nor go tell you say e don get HIV, e go dey hide take medicine, you go dey die go.
Lol be a good wife and accept the STDS he brings home
The guy is not interested in sleeping with her
Look the other way and collect HIV. Cos hum go dey skin those girls
The only solution Nigerians have to any problem. Go and pray
Nice one Eva
When unbelievers talk because they want to talk.Gals lyk u end up with dogs as Husbands n still remain der. Only God knows how many men u ve slept with all in the name of cheating.
Linda, Enough of all these cheating story abeg. In Ibo land, marriage is like a wrapped gift, whatever you find inside you take it!
Spice up what a cheating husband is never satisfied . He prefers what is outside . Only prayer can work
Pack ur things,alongside ur kids and leave him ASAP
This is a one sided story. Most men do not speak out or tell others what they pass through in their marriage, but if they do, or if one should hear from this same man on this same issue, you may be forced to change your comment above. No sane man will want to cheat with the wife's knowledge if if the wife is loyal to the marriage.
What do you mean by you can't leave him now because of the kids. All you'll breed is hate and contempt cos I can't imaging all being well in your house and your children will grow up in a broken home even if you aren't physically separated. I'd advise to get out and live a good life. Life is too short to regret your decisions cos I bet you, you WILL regret stating while he flaunts his indiscretions in front of you without actually caring for you. Please be wise. You don't have to stay with him to be the best mum you can be to your children.
leave the cheating bastard,it obviously follows in his blood,if u keep telling yourself to endure it because of your kids,,you will end up getting infected with an STD from him soon.get a lawyer,have custody of your kids,make sure your lawyer gets him to sign an agreement on the upkeep of the kids and move on with your life. don't limit yourself and your potentials because of a man,,,men are not worth it..
leave the cheating bastard,it obviously follows in his blood,if u keep telling yourself to endure it because of your kids,,you will end up getting infected with an STD from him soon.get a lawyer,have custody of your kids,make sure your lawyer gets him to sign an agreement on the upkeep of the kids and move on with your life. don't limit yourself and your potentials because of a man,,,men are not worth it..
Save money. Make him use condoms. Then separate FOR the children. A cheating man is gone a lot and an unhappy mother does not make a happy healthy environment. I was a child in such a marriage and I wish they had separated and my mother had been happy and focused on raising us. Instead she grew angrier and more bitter as the years went by and he did it more in the open. It's a terrible childhood to grow up in. He would have probably been a happier father as well.
Stupid reasoning. So men are dogs with no self control or sense.. in an attempt to excuse their rubbish behaviour we yarn dust.
Mr.Ajuzie.....see as open relationship dey pain u hahahahhahahahahahahah
Keep which home....holding on to a mirage....abeg cool down madam home...na only u get am? Why will u so desperately want to keep it more than the head n king of the home??? Hiv loading
Anon 4.28 the believer getout osiso....u must be stupid, where is it written that a woman should be dis miserable in marriage
Sweetie have an affair. You will feel better!
Ask yourself this,
Are you faithful? IF yes, stay that way n ignore him. If no, hot your head on a mirror, stop cheating and repeat the loop!
Just cheat back already! No time to waste abeg.one of two things will happen: he will either snap out of it or he will ask you to leave the house...but then, being in the house with him makes you very unhappy already so no loss there...just plan urself well so you won't be stranded...
God help us! My husband is doing similar thing to me, hers is a bit OK. Mine moved out of d house a year n three months ago, I hv pleaded with him severally, even his parent too hv pleaded with him to come but refused. I beg him to forgive me if I wrong him but says I have not wrong him. Tho he sends feeding money. All i pray for evry day is more of God's grace n wisdom
Perfect advise .
Lmaooooooo! Foolish woman. Die there you hear?
Don't u have finance? Why are u stuck there? If I were u and I could afford to be on my own, I would leave sharply! Gone are the days when marriage was a do or die. Gradually put ur things together and vamoose with your kids one day. Let him look for u and come begging and if he doesn't, better for you. No woman needs all this bullshit.
Anon 12:34 you're a big fool, idiot, born by mistake, born throway
Fuck you and your whole family, including your prostitute mother.
Animal
Ode too much for this blog I swear down...nice one bona
There's nothing God can't do.....keep praying
Move on! I dnt knw y women should b d one taking d shit. Am married nd my hubby too no carry last BT he won't dare chat in our hme or one nonsense msg or call. BT den me am over him small time nw na to waka. All dt talk abut praying na story. I rather pray to get rich. I can't cum nd die guess some of us r nt lucky wit d men. Marriage is nt by force
Yawns........ Na today if u like Siddon dere, if u like comot dere we no dey wen una marry una sef na
Since u cannot leave him cos of your children, u ve to keep praying for him.
Linda if you like post this or discard it as usual. This your shakara done dey too much ooo!!!!
ehee my dear, some say pray!! oya prayer warrior. some say leave him, please leave him and go to where? Can you afford staying alone, raising the kids alone? I don't mean the financial part, I mean raising them without a father figure? Some will say you are not the first to raise kids alone, is that what you really want? How sure are you that where ever you leave him and go to will ever be better?That's fine either ways.If it had been physical abuse, I will be of the opinion that you run for your dear life.Be very honest you have done everything to make him stop and he continues(every dog has a master).Marriage is very complex. Trial times in marriage starts at 4,5 to 6 years into marriage. Did you guys receive marriage courses before your wedding? Did you guys get mentorship on your bachelor's eve night? The flame of love you both shared is obviously dying and you need to rekindle it.
kill him
Don't leave ur husband, in ur own words "his a good father", trust me I know from experience wat divorce does 2 children. For d sake of ur kids stay.ur husband is misbehaving bcos he thinks his d center of ur world, so my dear now u will change d music, start making him jealous but don't make it obvious Dat u ar doing dat...Always slip condoms in his suitcase let him know Dat u know he is likely 2 be tempted so he should be safe,wen he starts BBMing his gfs u too start ur own BBMING nd be laffyn out loud, dont nag anymore, Wen his around wear a happy face, even if u ar unhappy, take extra time 2 look good...make friends nd go out on girls outing wit anonymous friends, if his home by 7 pm come home by 8 nd apologise, give a meaningless excuse but don't stay too late u ar a married woman...let him see dat u ar happy without him. Be content wit ur life, count ur blessings, stop nagging d man,Wen he does sometyn good like paying d children's skool fees,praise him,let him know u proud of him...it's easier 2 get through some1 wen u acknowledge dier strent. D man is bored, u ave become too predictable, its not good enough reason 2 cheat but it's s fact of life. Step up on ur game deary....choose 2 be happy,play d game make him suspect Dat anoda man is making u happy but don't give evidence, dont ever let him catch u,pls don't cheat. If he loves u he will come around...he myt not stop cheating immediately but he will give u more attention nd respect u as his equal...men like 2 chase
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