Dear women, please listen to Ali Baba. A man who hits you doesn't deserve to be in your life! I'm talking to you! Yes, you! He hit you on Friday night and you still followed him home. You think you can't do better? Or you don't deserve better? Why any woman stays with an abusive man is beyond me. Run, darling, run for your life!
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True talk Baba...is only a coward that hits a woman.
I couldn't agree less, say no to domestic violence, run for your life
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On point!!!!!
Correct!!
Hope he dsnt do d same
#Pesty
SOUNDS LIKE YOUR TALKING TO ME......THATS WHAT IM GOING THROW RIGHT NOW. MY HUBBY BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF ME. THANK GOD IM STILL ALIVE. I HAVE DECIDED TO LEAVE HIM FINALLY.
Yea DOMESTIC VIOLENCE must stop........ come to think of it I wrote same thing on my facebook wall @ Madu Tipsy Ugoo but Linda never published mine....
Yea DOMESTIC VIOLENCE must stop........ come to think of it I wrote same thing on my facebook wall @ Madu Tipsy Ugoo but Linda never published mine....
well said Ali baba, bt some ladies wunt listen coz dey r so crazy inlove.
jazdazzle
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We've heard this a million times.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
I swear down.....any man that can raise his hands on a woman can equally kill. Anger is anoda another type of madness! Run helter skelter woman!
Some ladies....Will they ever listen? One gurl once told me not to have mercy on her whenever she wrongs me,dat she like hard men. Just IMAGINE! Some, even wen he hits dem, they'll still be loving up like idiots. Wen good guy are everywhere... I forgot,dey see da good men as weak! Smh
Well said...some go say dey won die dere...
#epiphany#
Run for it,cos its not funny @all. 2face u ve said it all,I tuale!!
Such men are called beast...and u knw what beast are not meant to live with.
She really made a point.. plss run oo.. I av a fwend dat d guy beats her weneva he finds out she cheated on her nd wil buy her expensive tins to win her back, finally he wuld say its jealousy nd dat he cnt control himself cod hes soo much in love wiv her.. im soo tired of talkin to her.. seriously im really against beatin a lady
And what do I do if my wife batters me? We often hear of violence against women while violence against men is relegated to the background. I once had a girl friend that hit me with broom,stool,umbrella ,bricks, etc and still went ahead telling peope that I was the one hitting her.
steve
Nice message from Boss himself.. women need to be careful for the way men disrespect them.
I agree with him intoto.Unfortunately some ladies out of blind luv would rather date an onion than a human being
If he hits you once, he will hit you again! Women need to understand that no man defines you and you don't need to remain in a violent relationship because of what society might think or what you'd lose. Do not listen to parents and men of God who advice you to stick to a violent relationship because they believe your husband or partner will change, because they wouldn't be the ones needing multiple stitches or going to an early grave! Flee my people!!! Flee from violent hands!!!! A man's hand are meant to guide, caress and protect anything else, flee!!!
Gosh, m shaking..is this 4 real?? Any man that does dis to a lady deserves 2 be lockd up with d lion @ Ibadan zoo.....
Na so ebioooo my friends.
Am not in support of beating your wife but some woman need that to correct the animalistic behavior in them..@blssful_jay
Gbam
Linda after we get married, if I hit you and you run, I go follow you..Linda you are my crush( my sugar mama..lol)..@blissful_jay
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Yes!any man who hits you doesn't deserve to be in your life!but how many of this women in this situation really sees it that way?most will tell you is act of correction when a woman does wrong!have you ever wondered y most women don't report rape?many feels is an african thing n is pointless reporting it.any man who hits a woman isn't matured to be in a relationship cos if you love her you won't hurt her.
Full story tell us okk
A strong man is that man that can put his physical strength under. The question I want to ask our men is that if their fellow man annoys them, will they easily raise their hands against him? Lai lai! They will think twice!
Its only a weak man that will beat a woman because he has more physical strength to conquer her fragile body.
Women, hear and runnnnnn for your life. Marriage is not a death sentence and was not designed by God for his daughters to be beaten and killed!!!!!!!!!
Hmmmmm Them go hear? Some women are just too adicted to the making up moments and you hear them make excuses like, he said he is sorry.... he gote a gold wristwatch and apologises..... he cried after hitting me, meaning he regrets it.......story story. Run like mad b4 you run mad. Thank you ali baba.Kokomma
What happen means what tell us full details
Yea baba is right
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My dad hit my mom..
The fish brained women readers of wives connection who advise women to stay with beating husbands need to hear this.
Yea u r right no 1 comedian a responsible man don't hit.
If it exceeds spanking my ass or pushing me against the wall in that sexy way. :) #strictly hubby business o# 4get it I'm gone! No Alibaba needed 2 remind me. ----C21
But do ya'll know SOME women actually lowkey love getting beat up?? age from 18-35 or so! Crazy abi?
how do one do that cos is as if alibaba is talking to me.....how do i leave without bn noticed...cos in my case am still in love but is killing me.
Ladies if ur man punch one eye,then don't hesitate to set d other one 4 him...who knows,he might be using u 4 boxing practice and when he becomes a world champ,no be una 2 go enjoy am?....
Kpakam! Best advice ever.
Fact
True Talk #columbiana#
Any man that raises his hands on a woman is a weakling. Rather treat her with your character and she will read the handwriting on the wall and adjust...
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Anyman that hit his woman is nothing but the devil himself.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
U(Linda) and Ali Baba r right IMO oh
But some ladies actually encourages their guys to hit them,so even go as far as saying that's part of Y they love him
Spiritman Speaks
*ROTFL* Dominic,abeg stop wasting ur talent here,go join dem Bovi
In d 1st place Why ll a man hit a woman??have always said it d day he tries it I ll stab his neck"nonSense"
me as a person i dont like any man that beat,s a woman no matter wh that person s or wot he does
See were @ dominic.....dts hw ur father became d champ nd afforded ur school fees ryt?.......eleriibu sombory
Are u a psycho or u are just plain stupid? Do u v any woman in your pathetic life?
Linda its beyond me too how a woman will wnt to stay in an abussive relationship....women deserve beta! Ali baba God bless u!
@UA
You no get sense,men like u can never get a wife,no be caurse
Physical assult on a woman by a man is sign of WEAKNESS. Hey guys! No matta the provocation plz take a walk and calm yourself down.
run as fast as u can......
@ dominic u are high!
I believe this ur statement is a joke
The problem is not from the man but the woman...women should learn to look for someone who can tolerate her attitude. Compatibility matters a lot in relationship and don't be carried away with money, physical appearance etc but look at his character if he's the type that can tolerate ur weakness or arrogance. Stop blaming other ppl for ur mistakes. And generalizing ur personal and unique situation by inferences based on ur experience is very bad and misleading bcus it can easily be misconstrued by the ppl.
U must be crazy for wot u just siad now... I pray it appens to ur sister too.. U dis ewu gambiA oshi
@dominic u are an idiot I guess u are finding it funny or the fact that you are an idiot is confusing
The problem is not from the man but the woman...women should learn to look for someone who can tolerate her attitude. Compatibility matters a lot in relationship and don't be carried away with money, physical appearance etc but look at his character if he's the type that can tolerate ur weakness or arrogance. Stop blaming other ppl for ur mistakes. And generalizing ur personal and unique situation by inferences based on ur experience is very bad and misleading bcus it can easily be misconstrued by the ppl.
U're such an insensitive tramp!
Ladies pls be wise, a word is enough for the wise.
I pity the woman u'll eventually marry! Y would u make such a comment even as a joke? U think domestic violence is sometin to joke about? Ur level of foolishness astounds me. I'm so sure u abuse ur girlfriend either physically or psychologically.....
Hahahaha..dominic..no b lie oh
Pls advice me my guy punch me once in fact,he beats hell out of me dt day cos I cald one of hs frnd a 'ONIRANU' a flirt and he apologise dts like 3yrs ago,and eva since den he as nt lay hs hand on me again....bt d memory still lies in me and am nt d type dt double date......shd I still continue wv hm,or shd drop hm &move on wt life.
Linda, don't wonder why women stay when people like you are the number one reason. They are scared of gossips. You gossip and gloat over failed celebrity marriages on your blog but gossips like you are in every office and Church doing the same thing on a small scale. They are scared to run because people will mock them. @Dominic maybe thats how your father punched your mother's eyes.
Its is very juvenile&immature for a man to beat his wife.
########################GOD bless##############################Naija
Linda, easy for you to run your mouth in your fancy little cloths and your fancy little car and your fancy little house. Most women have NOTHING. He hits you on friday night and she should take a alk on Saturday to where? To stay with who? To feed on what? Air? This is Nigeria. I believe once a man hits you, start plotting you excape route. Start laying down finances..start looking for jobs lowkey. Not enough for a woman with kids to just leave a violent house over night and go scrapping for food crumbs.
Good men don't hit. Real men don't hit. Why hit her when there are better ways to get back at her in a way you wouldn't have to expend a single energy. Better walk than war....but ladies sha, give your men all the respect he deserves and trust me not only will he not hit you but will be ready to defend you against any harm.
Na true o
If they really know how to box, why don't they enter boxing match and win trophies, stupid numb skulls. Girlfriend, abeg apply gear 4
I still don't understand how or why women stay with men who beat them
Well if he beats u its 4 a reason cus if u kept ur mouth wea is suppose to b u won't b beaTen lol
Where's the talent? Dry joke
When a man hit a woman, it simple mean, he doesn't love her. Love doesn't hot neither hit, love is a pure thing n when u found it, it keeps u safe not 2 hit u. A man dat hit a woman has no fear of God in him.
u are right my dear Ali baba,i will run as fast as i can.
That's too bad, any man that hits his wife does not love her.
Were is the talent pls he is just been stupid.
Yes o! Please take next jet plane out of that relationship.
Shut ur hole! Woman beater
Na Alibaba before o
I totally agree o! once it starts with a slap, am out; but some ladies will still be head-bent on staying. if that woman had run for her dear life, Arowolo(the guy sentesnced to death for killing his wife, earlier this yr) wouldn't have killed her, probably she'ld still be alive today taking care of her daughter.#sayNOtodomesticviolence.
A word is enough for the wise. If your boyfriend, husband or who so ever beats you or raised his hand on you and you are still with him saying is love hmmm u need deliverance seriously,am talking on experience. Is always from slap to pouch from pouch to stabbing and you know what that means.There is a script on a movie of this nature i will be walking on soon by God grace cos it happen to my niece.
Of cus, he cant be more right on dis topic
i totally agree wit dis. But its so annoying wen d gal still sticks wit d guy. My nebor hits his gf, nd d stupid gal is still sticking to him lyk glue bcos of love or money or wateva. Av seen 2 couples dis yr dat opend my eyes, told d gals 2 liv but dey did nt so i quietly mind my business afta all no b me dey chop d beating
Don't be a fool, well is good u know is killing u, bcuz u will soon b dead already
I'll leave u as fast as the speed of light....but only after I hit u back....my ex was like dat...he used to be good and then he changed....I gave him time to see if he'd change bk to his old self buh he didn't..so I padlocked my treasure,,sorry to say cos he was actin like someone else...and no no no...someone else wasn't goin there........I went to see him one day. Guess he was so sexually frustrated that he jumped me...I tried to make him stop....cld u believe d jerk told me it was within his rights...well I snapped.....I shoved and hit him.....and he pulled a belt....ON ME...for my Own thing....well, am kinda quiet nd cool until am angry.....he hit me wit d belt and I pulled another one from his stuff and in less than two seconds, I hit him back......oh,, and I made sure I used d head....u shld hv seen the look on his face.....he didn't think I cld do it.....and I told him, anythin u do, expect me to do twice as much.......I left his house and I never looked back.....even when he kept calling for months....and even came to my house.....I left him standin outside and locked to door..........some of u might think dat was childish or too harsh....but I draw d line when a guy hits me or cheats on me.....cos I know I won't hurt u like .
na 2ru yan my broda.men who beat shd stop it henceforth.it's nt a gud tin @ all.
u oyin.u said ur dad hit ur mum,av u made him realise dt it's bad tin? if he persists, pls report him straight 2 awon olopa or Director of public defenda @ Alausa.
lame excuses to put up wit violence. What happend 2 ur parents especially 4 d unmarried chicks dat av violent boyfrnds??? Or re dey handicap?? Make use of ur hands nd stop being a burden to a man. Money wont hlp u feel beta, u beta run.
He who beats nd she who is beaten, who is d animal?
"The problem is not from the man but the woman...women should learn to look for someone who can tolerate her attitude." ? Are u kidding me? U're sick ! U're definitely a beater ! or a woman with self esteem Even if I decide 2 correct the rubbish notion u have you won't still get it...smh. The only persn with a misconstrued, twisted mindset here is Y0U ----C21
Lolz Dominic u got me laughing,but trust dis isn't funny God punish any man dat tries such on me I will finish his PENIS
Dear ladies, any time your man beat's you, leave him first then arrange like 6 heavy guys to beat him up.
Dino Melaye, Alibaba is talking about you. Go and show him you are a warrior! Heehhehehhe
Lolest@domnic. He actually meant the opposite. The thing is our system is not set to help women that are abused. U ll just see very few ngos trying their best to help. Domestic violence is a definite no no, but honestly speaking, where will a mother of 5 go to?with her kids? Or will she leave them with the abusive man? These are questions our society need to set in motion to answer and give solutions to. So that these women will actually have a way out. Cos I know some parents that won't accept their daughter when she runs back and will set up meetings to beg the man to take her back. Smh. Terrible!
So cos u've heard it a million times its become an irrelevant issue? Do u know how many women suffer in abusive relationships and how many emotionally scared kids are a result of domestic violence? I think the undue pressure u put on urself to ensure that u comment on every post has dulled ur wit. Mr Bona, give urself a holiday. Let's call it ' I shall not post on LIB day' and let's see if dat will improve ur commets.
Best decision dear anon 9:48 !
Dear I was once in your shoe,I know how bad it feels,the fear of unkown,the suspends,the degrading,name calling,even when cooking you still afraid if the taste will earn you a trip to the hospital.Whatsurprises me the most is his after crying and begging as if i'm the one that beat him,the i will never do it again,the omg what I do,the kissing of the painful injuries,the calling off work to nurse back to heath and start from where he stopped ,woe betide me if dad is the one that provoked him at work,& I stood by his side like a lost puppy telling myself it was his way of showing love or stress from work since he was never like that when we were dating.I have to call his office during closing hours to know if anybody provokes him and prepare myself for that,even taking pain killer tablets in advance.2 near death miscarriage,all bcos I was ashamed of what people will say if I leave and this animal took that and misused it.And to think my dad paid his school fees alone,on his own and cloths this useless orphan and gave him job in his company,even gave us our own building as wedding gift and the very first car this dreamer drove in life,where will I even start ??
Today,i'm married to my best friend,lover and soul mate,my missing rib,I love you so much my double hero !
As for the panel beater,hmm,my people this igbo local goat in suit and tie keep cutting himself and ending in hospital to get my attention.what a shame on my part for mingling with a semi mad frustrated loser !
The last time I heard about him,he tried his usual John Cena royal rumble championship on a Obiagu,Amahausa,Eungu state brought up and got reshaped from her brothers both home and abroad.in fact they rearranged his face that he had to call my dad and beg for money for surgery.What a world.so if you are in such relationship,hmm,I SAY MAKE YOU PICK RACE RUN PASS YOUR PAPA HOUSE FOR TOWN AND VILLAGE OR DIE AND SEE HIM MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND BEFORE GIVING THE DEAD WIFE A PROPER BURIAL.IF YOU STILL IN THAT WORLD,PLEASE LEAVE RIGHT NOW WHEN YOUR LIFE AND BODY ARE STILL IN ONE PIECE .HE IS NOT THE END OF YOUR LIFE BECAUSE SOMEONE OUT THERE IS DYING TO HAVE AND RESPECT YOU AS HIS,EVEN IF YOU ARE A MAN AND YOUR WOMAN BEATS YOU UP ,PLS LEAVE,YOU ARE NOT MEANT TO BE !.
Animalistic behavior and beating her is the humanistic thing to do right? Are you her father, if she's getting on your nerves that much, why not leave her? What lesson are you teaching your offspring then and Pls who gets to kick your ass for your beastly behavior to correct? Idiot this is the same barbaric mentally that is destroying homes. Your wife, woman, girlfriend is suppose to be your partner not your punching bag. A lot of people talk about better half without understanding the meaning of that Alec explanatory term. No one is perfect, you are the head of the shop as a man but a pilot cannot be successful without a copilot. You need to look into the mirror and pay you never meet a woman/man that will give your dumb ass a taste of your own medicine. Rubbish!
Now I see why you are Gay.!!
No Wonder.. SMH..
I think you need to understand your self worth. .. Then you'll realize that no one who loves you will hurt you intentionally. My dear go to your girlfriends, sisters, & mother, talk to someone that will encourage you but dear leave, even if it means moving to a new state. You have to be alife to love. When he kills you he will find someone else to love even before your mothers tears dry up.
Please, Please and Please, I have a friend who is going through this right now. People always say leave and that's the right thing to do, but I didn't see even one comment on an organization or NGO that helps such women leave and start their lives over. PLEASE LINDA AND ALL LIB READERS AND COMMENTERS, if you know any organizations to help these women, please put it up. Saying it is bad doesn't help these women. Please post organizations that can help. LINDA, please post some organizations that can be of assistance to these women. THANKS, Linda please I am waiting on a response from you, first time I am ever asking, please don't let me down.
My dear, we ar both experiening d same tin but leaving is not easy, I have two boys, I can't leave dem and if I try to carry along wit me, how will I feed them, I don't have job yet, I just got my call-up number. +2348088544588
Many women enjoy little beating and reconfiguration slap from time to time to put them in th right thinking pattern the husband or boyfriend wants her to take. If u can take it, leave for another woman will come and fill the space. No man of woman is bad but it depends on who's looking @ them and how he or she is brought up.
women stay most times in such relation bcus they don't have elsewhere to go. Just like my friend whose girlfriend beat him up all the time. He's still there with her bcus she still pay his school fees and feed him most times but am sure wen he get what he wants that would be the end of the relationship...that's if he survives the beating.
I knw of a woman dat battar her husband what should he do?
You mean you couldn't agree "more".
Run my guy! Plenty other women are waiting to love good guys
ow do u leave?. Your 1st step of leaving is to work on yourself.
Step 1: every morning, stand infront of a full length mirror and take a look at your self and say : I am beautiful, I am smart and I am intelligent...do this every morning for 2 weeks...after d 14 days, increase your confession to : I am beautiful, I am smart, I am intelligent, I am a blessing to all, I am a warehouse of blessings, blessed are my friends and family because they have me....I will also suggest you record this confession on your phone and listen to it all day...instead of garbage songs. Let this confession sink into your spirit being and you will begin to see yourself as a blessing, as someone of value, as a masterpiece of God, created according to the architecture plan of a palace. This whole process is to boost your self esteem....can you see yourself differently now...your friends are beginning to see a different you....dont stop, keep doing it...You have to do this because until you have been able to convince yourself that you deserve better and you truly desire a better life and relationship, no amount of talking will ever take you away from him. ..you need to know that you know that someone better than this deserves your treasures.
Step 2: Tell someone about this abuse. An older SMARTER person, someone you look up to....not necessarily your family member, maybe a senior colleague, an older friend...someone y
ou know has her head screwed correctly.
Step 3: Plan your exit. Note if you dont carefully plan your exit, you will come running back to your abuser.
A. Financially secure yourself- get some money from your savings, if you dont have savings, start saving rigorously now, enough of aso-ebi buying, dis is your life and probably that of your kids. If you have jewelry, go and sell them to get some money, dont worry, your kids will grow up so fast and dey will adorn you with diamonds #askmymom. Whichever way, get some money...sell, beg, borrow...dont steal though.
Step 4: look for a family friend you can stay with for a few days...to just settle yourself while you are looking for
an affordable accommodation.
Did I say the very first thing to do is keep a diary of his abuse. pls keep a diary both hardcopy n softcopy...keep it with this trusted friend..update all abuse episodes: date, reasons, what he did, take pictures if possible and save...a picture speaks a thousand word. You will need this especially if children are involved.
Step4: take a restraining order against him, showing the police your diary...call a general family from both sides, presenting your diary and pictures and telling them you are done.
Step 5: if you can afford therapy, there are psychologists in Nigeria...one very good one I know is Ms Jinadu at Yaba psychiatric hospital. ..she used to have her private practise opposite Opral Benson beauty school off Montogemery road sabo yaba. You have been battered, you need an evaluation and some therapy sessions. If you cant afford that, your pastor /his wife should be able to counsel you and help rebuild you.
Surround yourself with pple that make you happy and appreciate you as a friend and sister...
Be happy because true deserving love shall find you again...
NB: excuse my typos...cant read over, running late for a meeting.
It is well
Any man dt beat his wife is an man#fact anty Linda post my comment o
@Anon 3:27 God bless you mighty for this episode u just shared... my fiance hits me but not all the time, and I've told him the next time he does will be the last time cos I'll leave him. I've made up my mind already....i really don't care how long we've come.
The problem is not from the man but the woman...women should learn to look for someone who can tolerate her attitude." what a foolish thing to say. So a man has the right to beat a woman because she should have looked for a more compatible man. You are either a woman beater or a woman low On confidence. What a sick excuse.
The thing is some will listen some will nt and d more we talk about it the better.
Don't worry u dey ur blog de rabble...get married first...then u will see d diff btwn prose n poetry.
God bless you for this wise comment anon.
People are quick to talk without considering the Financial strength or lack thereof of the victims.
Must you always depend on your man?
No wonder! That's why y'all come up in here insulting people becus ur husband beats u! Wounded fools!!!!!!! Fruatrated bitches!!! And u cum to LIB to take it out on people! Happy to hear ur sad stories! Dis is just d genesis. Useless women! Get a life and stop taking ur miserable lives out on innocent libers!
Most women can be annoying, still no right for you to batter her. guys it an opportunity to hang out late all in the name of im pissid up. Hahahahaha
Pls u guys! Easy on him biko biko......onyx needs care n love. And onyx why wud u write such tin here? Help ur self for once! Or do u like bin bullied?
Lol! Locked to the door u said????? So u no get get? Smh! Face me I face u! No. Wonder! Anonytramp!
Pls u guys! Easy on him biko biko......onyx needs care n love. And onyx why wud u write such tin here? Help ur self for once! Or do u like bin bullied?
Linda itz very tru itz noh ryt 2beat up ur woman! Bur I hav dis question dah has bin botherin me 4a while now, u can ask libians if u care. Watz d best way 2punish ur woman if she commits an unforgehable crime/tin 2u as ha hubby or bwoifrnd?#jhoey#
Bless you a million times for this comment. May your generation prosper!!
Every adult is free 2 think the way they want. It is people like you God will punish Reconfiguration ko reconfiguration ni
You're so insensitive and mean.
Hmm, am crying bitterly as am reading dis.my husband beat me almost everyday. Even if I caught him cheating he will still beat me.he beat like an animal.i dnt knw wat to do.
Wachol or wacol. Am sure it should be online. Or u can google "help for domestic violence in nigeria" am sure something will come up. Cheers and best of luck to ur friend.
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