From a male LIB reader. I laughed!
I am an avid reader of your blog and I need advice from LIB house on this issue. I work with a prestigious bank and am OK. I have
been dating a girl since January and we are really serious. I have
introduced her to my parents and I know hers too, most especially her mom ad
sister. Last weekend she took me to her brother's house for
introduction, when leaving, her brother gave me transport fare in an
envelope which I politely rejected (don't know how much was in the envelop sha).
The brother took no harm with the expression on his face. For 3 days
after the visit my babe condemned me for not collecting the cash from
her brother though it's been settled. But next weekend we are visiting
another brother's house, if I am given transport fare again, should I
collect?
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Break up wit her. Na bad wife she be. Bad ideas. Bad home.
I don't think there is anything wrong in collecting the money, but it should not become a pattern, like a regular thing
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LMFAO.....Una no go kill person 1 day 4 dis blog.....biko if u don't need d money, collect it and buy recharge card n distribute it here 4 us....LOOL
My Guy Swallow ur Pride/Ego and collect the IGHO sharp sharp.
If I were in ur shoes, I'll respectfully decline
Bro, if you don't feel comfortable collecting transport money offered to you by your in-laws, don't collect it!
If your girl wants it, she can quickly collect it whenever it's offered to you. Afterall, it's her family.
Next tym collect it.. dey knw u don't need it. It's just a kind gesture welcoming u to d family.she knws ha family n iif she says collect pls doo so dey don't feel insulted
Ladies can collect money (gifts) from their in laws,not a guy,please hold on to ur pride,even tho u lover her and u may not want to hurt her,collecting money may put u in a bad place,even if na GIFT!
Smh.
Hahahahahaha i swear u are a foooooool 4 dis question!! Haba...sum people sha...lmfao
So why ask? If u feel its not right don't collect. If u feel its normal and u are broke at that moment please feel free to collect and move on. Cheers. ENGR E
No collect Abeg make see finish no enter. They will use it against u in d future.
U be big boy nah, so no lele. But if nah some odar naija guy... Trust me!
Bros collect the money! You didn't ask for it,if it was a test ,accept to fail it willingly.Drop your ego
Linda dear! You are taking too long to release comments, and its kinda making it boring, the comments and replies makes this blog fun, with all sincerity please, release comment on time, hope say u no vex for my statement, just saying how I feel
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Hehehe abeg say no again my brother. Tomorrow now dem go use am yab u
Loooooooooool....kia linda some of this post can be funny sha. They are looking down on you or what pls. I laughed too.
Don't collect biko,warn your girlfriend too.be a man joor. A real man cannot even ask this kian question self
U mst bee a big MUMU for even coming here to seek for advice on such useless issue
no harm in that.
How is how you too can always make that legal extra pay for yourself
Lol,Linda I laff too O! Maybe d girl should just colt it on his behalf so dey won't hv issues wit dat agn! Women n Money,odiegwu O
Don't collect biko....that was very manly of you..abi them think say you dey hungry ni....??
Hahahahaha... ppl & their wahala... dis is so funny.
Guy, You don't have a car? And you msay you are ok? They will keep offering you transport fare until you are OK azzin very OK .
Linda o, U will not kill me o, where do U get all this stories from. Guy I would advice you to dress and act the way you want to be treated. You probably are not presenting yourself as a confident person. Even if you don't have a car, just try to act more confident
You got this from stellas old posts. If you like don't post my comment. Biased Linda
No
Mumu lele yi o. How u go collect transport fare from ur inlaw. U wan sell ur respect? Y is he even giving it a tot. Ode osi. U shld hav a stand on issues lik dis. Abeg u dey waste my time.
Dr s
What makes u think d next brother will give u Tfare? Lol, unless ur hoping he dose.
If u really don't want it, collect and give it back to d girl when you ppl leave d house.
Just pray it doesn't happen, but take it no harm done. Maybe when you're leaving, give a couple of bucks to their kid if they have any, so y'all are even. Don't forget to bring a gift too. Nothing too fancy.
DON'T DO IT O. THEY WILL USE IT TO SING FOR YOU IN FUTURE.
No it was a trap. You did right. Your girl is a fool! If you collect transport fare from them it clearly shows that you will not be able to take care of the girl without her family. DO NOT take any thing from them. Politely decline each time.
Which kind Mumu question u dey ask.....Abeg carry ur medicine drink ...Linda pls stop posting crazy post
Why should they give you transport fare? It doesn't make sense ...so politely decline it. They shd give their sister, not you.
How many times will you post this Linda?
If u r not comfortable with it, politely decline!
U are funny
UNLESS U WANNA HAVE ANOTHER ISSUE WITH UR BABE AGAIN THEN DON'T COLLECT.
Its commendable that u have self pride...but these i presume are older siblings..who see u guys as a young couple just starting out...so go ahead and collect it..its kind of part of our culture to give money to visitors...and family members
When I went with my fiance to my uncle's house,my uncle gave me the t-fare,but my bobo thanked him...but in this case,u shld av collected it sha,that doesn't mean ure begging or wretched..you wld av collected it for good relationship sake make dem no think say u get pride.I think uve got pride though..small one.
Nope no collect...na set up lol..ask ur babe why she wanted u to collect sha abi she wants u to look like u can't provide for urself in front of her fam ni?
HUMMMMM..BROTHER HE WON'T EVEN GIVE YOU AGAIN...BUT IF HE THOSE COLLECT IT TO AVOID ISH WITH YOUR GF..
It depends on which family you are looking at. Collecting it might be good with some families and collecting it might mean something else with another family. Try and talk to your fiancee to know how her family thinks...but on a safer side it's better politely refused. If the person offering you the TP is much more older, there should be no harm.
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What you need to do is find out if its their culture just so you are sure it wont be an insult to their cultural practice. But in my own opinion, still refuse it as politely as possible. You are a man now not a boy. You get? Goodluck though and congrats.
January and we are really serious. I have introduced her to my parents and I know hers too, most especially her mom ad sister.??
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Hahahahahahahahaha! this is hilarious..Was d broda angry or just Ur chick? pls collect o.and say a big Thank you Sir.
pls wen next you are going call me let me go with you i think i need the far. loool
Bros if u dnt want to accept it or avoid similiar occurences, discuss with ur babe why u are against it and she can help you out when it occurs again. The first was a surprise the next one be prepared.....on a lighter note, bros for all u wil collect and dos u av rejected, u wil pay back in 100folds when paying Her Brideprice. #shinesteeth Shoutout to Ojiego Adaku...my kopiko
Pls dnt try it ooo!u don't know wat he or she is upto.Disgrace and embarrassement might be the next thing.or even a trap.
as far as they are older than you and your wife to be collect!
No! Don't take. U r suppose to be the giving them and not collecting from them. After all u said u r ok. Pls for intergrity sake, don't collect. Habba! Ur babe shld knw its wrong nau, what picture of u is she trying to paint b4 her brother? Don't collect and talk sense into the girls head.
LooL If He is an IBO boy I am sure he will not bring to linda ikeja he go don collect am tete #Mankind
Reject it. But if they insist, u can collect.
CoolDiva speaks!
Hell no, don't collect. it might be with good intentions, but please, don't collect it. just do your business there and leave with your dignity and self esteem.
NO!!!be a man my brother,you are a man and to maintain ur self esteem pls dnt take money from ur inlaws pls
Linda i wil advice u to adopt 2 cute baby girls that wil look after u in old age. Marriage na gambling ths days o o. Besides, i dnt want any gold digger to come break ur fragile heart for us... Hmmm! When wil u even have time to post comments again? U go dey 2 busy with marraige things na.
This a very childish question..
They can see you don't have a car, but why should they give you transport fare?, that's an insult/ a test!
Keep rejecting it politely.
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Lmao. Sorry for that. Too funny
you sef go buy car na... you sef try oo... na bus you dey fly go all the uncles houses???
you sef go buy car na... you sef try oo... na bus you dey fly go all the uncles houses???
you sef go buy car na... you sef try oo... na bus you dey fly go all the uncles houses???
Hahahahaha lmao...o boy plsss don't collect it ooo...dats the bigest insult ever..anyways try and get a car so they won't be giving u tp back home...can't just laffing looool but seriously I thing there nothing wrong sha if they mean no arm in doing that maybe they are just being generous by giving u money...but if anything they should give it to their own sister And not you...#dont even think of collecting it ooo lol
My dear, might be a test, might also be an innocent gesture. ur a man, if u don't need It.....don't take it n stand ur ground with her dat its not pride, but u want to prove to her brothers, that you can take care of her. After marriage, if you need it, they wld give gladly witout you askin. Now is d time to make an impression, be wise.
Do NOT collect!!!
Ooh! And this is a question meant for Libers.
Collect and give it to Afro Candy
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Lol.. Collect it brother.. loyalty is the number one rule. No matter how much
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Lwkmd, very funny question.
My candid advise is do not collect, they maybe testing you. If they have transport fare or whatever to give, they should give it to their sister. You are not in laws yet you know?
Seriously, i laugh when i read this post... Well, yu rejecting the money is an indication that yu are trying to save ur pride which ladies will never understand and if this brother of hers want to offer yu money again kindly reject again, if ur fiance frowned at ur action, let her knw yu simply dont like the idea and be serious about it but if yu really want the asistance, then accept the money....
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Shah, nobody fit try this nonsense with me...
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Hell No!!!
No
You are a capital MUMU, why did you reject an envelop that you don't know what's is inside, u want to proove to your to be inlaws that you have money abi? Oya get ready for the dance
yea you can collect the money,it does not make you less of a man...just that you have to be careful so they don't get to take advantage of you....#PEACE
I wll advice not to cos they might be test u
What u did waz matured.even in ur next 10 visit to the family plzz dnt collect a kobo from any of them and make sure u don't sleep over in their house too,it gives u a lot of respect..tlking frm experience
Man is not bd collecting TP fair from them, they are just trying to be nice to you,accept there kind gesture.
guy collect and notify me wen u do, cos i we be sendin u my account
Dis is funny... U did well by rjecting it nd make sure u rject it again u are a man. Lin post my comment o I don tire 4 u
Mayb cos u r a guy...IMO, I think there's nothing wrong in it. Its a sign of appreciation, dat u r accepted. My MIL to be gives me too...even though my fiance takes me dere in his car. No harm....
Idiot......d monie was meant 4 their sista but was given 2 u cos u r d man.....abeg collect d sh*t n stop askin question dat will make me punch u out.......ekpa(fool)
Don't collect it n don't act offended, just bros thank. You so much u r took kind. If you collect it the will not. Respect u, trust me. U will always be a boy boy in that family if u. Collect it. U only collect when u r in great need of the money
Oga why are you dulling. Men and ego sha. collect the money jare
No don't!!!! Respect yourself o.
Abeg don't collect ooo.ur girl is being sentimental over the issue but you proved to them that u r a man n can take care of yourself n ur girl.and to note,a guy offering u money n u reject it shows that u r man enough.so as long as it is nt her mom(as a female who might get sentimental over it),dnt collect abeg..
This is very funny!are u that broke?una treck go there?gudluck sha
Hell NO
Really what is LIBer business with this?
Nah see finish oh if you collect...still say no
U r a learner
Are u really doing well?
You don find dowry money be that. Make u dey collect am nisho. Na every weekend we go dey go her brother house. Na so my palm go spread, make them put the envelope inside am. Before you know it, wedding money don reach, dowry don reach.
Hahahahahahahahahhaha.
pls don't collect. maintain your dignity and respect.
you are quite a shape guy, and I like the that, Lol
Pls, do not only collect T-fare money, also collect food money
that would not be bad as your babe likes that
oh, am i forgetting something?
PLS, also collect money for her hair as she would be needing it.
boy oh boy, your question shows how matured that you are.
Dnt cllct
Chai,nothing person no go see for here, when food hungry you come ask libers weda make you chop or not.
Most times u are addressed the way you are dressed,did you take your car to the in-law's place?what kind of a car?where ur clothes starched and ironed?LOOK,its another ball game if u go and tell ur inlaw ur marriage plan and he gives u money,.....but this DON'T accept it.becos,he ll take u for a kid.
Which kain stupid talk be this one? This one na gist? Bia Linda, kpa cha kwa anya gi o!
My brother, according to my own culture, its not right but some people do it. I wont do it and its not pride, its just the things that come with it. So be yourself and follow your heart. Buy something when you are going and give the inlaw.
Guy, I thought you sent this mail to another blogger. Abi the answers you got there no do you? Pple be seeking for attention.
Don't collect it bro! Don't do it. Maintain your self worth and dignity.
I thought u said you're ok,so why contemplating taking transport fare from others?
*vanchuks*
Don't!!! U r comfy wit wat u earn so y collect stipends? Berra 2 disappoint her dan ur in-laws. U may discuss it wit her b4 going sha. Hope u wont come back here 4 solutions wen u r married to her, cos by den she'll....... (LD)
Don't!
I strongly believe you should start giving urself the much anticipated respect before ur inlaws on time. If they want to help u let them help their sister since u two are going to be one soon.
You be hungry man? Na wa o. Don't collect it if you are serious about the girl. Its not just right.
Common gera out, linda pls stop asking us nonsenses. R u not a man, wetin dey no go us person here
hmmm brov its twisted I think turning down the offer politely is NOT a bad one however you need to factor in the gap between you and the said brov inlaw (age, social wealth and material wealth)be fair to your self if it was Dangote who offered you an envelope will you reject it.... smile. on the other hand ask you babe to accept the envelope each time the offer comes and don't drag it with her when you leave there wink
Yes o...collect. Don't slack! Collect the money along with all the insults you will receive later in life. Just make sure you don't come back here to seek more advice. Is that a question? No be only collect! Men these days, smh!!!
i'm sure he wouldnt..but if he offers u, reject it, bro.
u r a man..not a girl
no grudges nor offence.
reject politely and try explain to ur girl why it has to be like that
#shikena
hmmm brov its twisted I think turning down the offer politely is NOT a bad one however you need to factor in the gap between you and the said brov inlaw (age, social wealth and material wealth)be fair to your self if it was Dangote who offered you an envelope will you reject it.... smile. on the other hand ask you babe to accept the envelope each time the offer comes and don't drag it with her when you leave there wink
Hope tomorrow you won't go back to your vomit!b4 that I hope you WOULD NOT BE EXPECTING any contribution towards the wedding!
Hope tomorrow you won't go back to your vomit!b4 that I hope you WOULD NOT BE EXPECTING any contribution towards the wedding!
Lol...so did I Linda. stupid question, dis is just a case of boredom
Lol...so did I Linda. stupid question, dis is just a case of boredom
You no get car?
Why you ride Okada go your in-law?
You for borrow pose nau.
Lol
Dumb Question!
D broda shud hav given her sista d moni not yu
na tfare be ur wahala??
Jx passing...
Don't collect
Don't even think of it
hmmmmmmm,b4! pls do.Since they know u didn't beg and ure working.Pls LINDA upload my comment plz
hhahhahaahaahahaahahaaaahhhahha nna size the money and collect something joor...wot are inlaws...but God go punish devil if say na 20 naira notes make the envelope big sha...i fear envelope tinz sha!
D answer is NO,u r a man and u nid 2 ve ur self esteem and pride within u.nd rmba 2 always go wit a drink n nt jst empty handed n pls don't look cheap 2 dem takin d money seem like u cnt tk care of their sister so b careful wen dealing wit in-Laws
Please do NOT collect it.You will need the self respect in future.
Don't collect
LMAO chimo.....nothing I no go hear for LIB
Wat sort of arrogant famliy z dat don't take any tf from anybody did u write to dem trash if it cums as a weeding gift beta buh tf doorrrr me as a woman won't even take
Mary says so
Please don't collect it from them so that you can keep your pride and also to show that you can take care of their daughter and sister.
No! Throw way am. Linda stop forging stories abeg or rather stop posting senseless stories
$$k@y$$
Hmmmm. My dear, deres ntn wrong in rejectin d transport fare. I tink it shws hw responsible n well behaved u'r. Ur babe shld undastand dt ur a man wit principles. Howeva, rejectin deir gifts myt b misundastood as being rude, condescendin, proud etc. So I'd advice u to politely say no at first,den after much persuation,collect d money!
Please don't collect it from them so that you can keep your pride and also to show that you can take care of their daughter and sister.
I laughed so hard at dis post.Anyway since u ve started rejecting TRansport fare,I suggest u continue sha.No harm in dat.
Drive a nice car and look porshe! It will save u the insults...thank me later
Nope!
Maybe ur girlfriend family is very rich, my dear collect d money coz u didn't ask for it.
Collect it now. International mumu
Dear, collect it. Its nothing Bt jst a free gift. U dint ask 4it.
If he is older and richer than you.... why not?... my thought tho
If possible, don't collect pin( even BB pin) frm them
Lmao! Church agbasala!Nothing we no go hear for LIB.Ok nw. Am gonna wait for d comments to roll in.
Y are they giving u T fare?pls don't collect.
What u did was right by not collecting the transport fare. Plz keep rejecting it. It shows ur a man
The last time I checked, 75% of bankers re broke ass! Ur news has gone round the family already! Its hi time u drop ur pride and accept help!
Stupid question fa! Suit urself abeg... Dat ur babe sef na by force to collect money ni. Maybe she xpcted u to collect the money and give her so wen such repeat Iiitself nxt wk biko collect the money and give her!
Are u an errand boy? Don't collect any dim from your in-laws, even now that u are not married to him.
Don't collect infact you should give them something for their hospitality lol
If they have kids around them, u can collect the money and give it bk to their children in form of gift. Dats if they have. Don't make the mistake of collecting anything frm them if they don't have kids yet
NO, dont collect. Just reject politely. Befor the gist will be u beg dem cash.
Its gud u dint collect d 1st tym so therefore don't collect dis tym cuz it ll mak u luk lik u r gettin 2 her ppl cuz u dnt ve d money
Dats a BIG no no,rather tell ur gf to collect it nxt time
this question is funny to me sha....man ego...if u think you need the money why not go ahead please
I dnt see any harm in collecting d tfare but why would your woman's people offer to give you tfare, mayb you should up your appearance (fashion wise) weneva you are going there. That's if you feel insulted by them giving you tfare. Another thing is that dey may indirectly be telling you to tighten your belt if you must marry their daughter as she is frm a well-to-do-family.
Hahahahahahahahahahhaaa
CAPITAL NO. Respect urself Man.
CAPITAL NO. Respect urself Man.
you dont have problem in your life.
SO LINDA THIS IS NEWS ? I JUST HOPE THIS WONT REPEAT IT SELF AGAIN OOOO...
Lmaooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Is this a joke?
No don't, u are a man....
No please, I dnt think it tells good of you. Hold your own, dnt let anyone fool you to thinking it doesn't count bcos it does. I think your gf's broda is testing your possibility of been a liability.
guy you should collect cos you did not ask him for it and am sure he knows you have it.
U did the right thing man.Stand ur ground no collect money from ur in-law at all except u really dey tight corner. Na small small clap dey enter dance. Before u know person go begin misyan give u.
SO YOU WANT ADVICE TO KNOW IF YOU WILL COLLECT TRANSPORT MONEY OFFERED TO YOU BY UR FUTURE INLAWS, AND YOU ARE A BANKER
LMAOOOOOOOOOOO!!! I have no words. I just can't!!
NO
NO
My dear dont worry trust me dis one wnt offer u another one.....jst take it frm me...hahahaha ..between u and i.....u wish abi
My dear dont worry trust me dis one wnt offer u another one.....jst take it frm me...hahahaha ..between u and i.....u wish abi
Hummm...its somehow arkward anyways...but seriously,tradition or no tradition,i think issues like this has to do with personality,look at how everything goes,and if it goes well and the 'brother' is far away older than you guys (couples)...then you can collect it.....its nothing...
MISS BIKINI says...
THIS ONE THEY ARE OFFERING YOU TRANSPORT MONEY INSIDE ENVELOP, NA FLIGTH YOU DEY USE GO VISIT THEM ...
lmfao
Linda seriously u no get stories give us? How is this a question ? Sure this guy is about 18 years old.why should u collect ?
Transport fare?? I dont understand, Why should they give you transport fare when you are not a student? May be it should be called another name. I don't understand.
Hell no, do not collect any envelope. Stick to ur standards.
Lol. No
You have to let the lady know what your dos and don't s are before you go far, this is part of courtship.
NO!
This is serious o. My advise: don't collect.
It is good you refused the money. But na wah you who suppose carry yam,palmoil,rice beans and ugba go your in law house how come his bro is now offering you money? Did you really appeared ok on that visit? Any way you have shown that you don't need transsport. Abeg u no go there with car or some form of transport. Pls don't accept tranport money from you inlaws. Don't disrespect yourself. But why will that bro offer u TP no matter how wealthy he is. Some inlaws ehh
Did U trek to ur inlaw to be house? Use ur brain jor. Stop waiting for libers to give U advice.
its not a bad thing
In somr cultures its considered an insult to reject gifts from your inlaws. Even if you dont need the money, collect it then spend it on their sister.
Did U trek there??? Plx use ur brain. Ur gf has no respect for U, if she does she won't quarel wit U for rejecting the first one. Use ur brain nd leave libers alone for advice
Oh boi if na me I go collect am sharp sharp
SIMPLE ANSWER: NO. WHY? You are a man preparing to marry. One of the requirements/pre-requisites is that you should be financially capable of providing the basic needs for your family to be. Transport fare to and fro wherever you need to go inclusive. As for your girl, reorient her mind before marriage o, or this seemingly innocuous scenario will metamorphose into something else later.
Na true, the guy want money.
they are simply reminding you to get a car cause they dont want their sister jumping marwa wt you when carrying ur pregnancy
if u have a car they wld have asked u to fuel ur car wt d money
they are passing a message grab it
HYBunny
Best comment here so far.
See ego ta mo bus dey talk. If any future in law make the mistake of offering you 1 naira, na quick you go accept am. See him come here dey form big boi ontop your teacher salary. Abeg go siddon somewhere jare make I see road. Olodo.
Ur inlaws are indirectly tryna tell you that u should grow up...they undstnd ur condition(predicament) buh for d sake of future insults alwys decline their respective offers!
FIRST INTRODUCE US THE ORIGIN OF YOUR GURL,SO WE MAY KNOW IF ITS A TRADITION/CULTURE IN THEIR TRIBE/STATE/COUNTRY.THIS WLL EDUCATE US TO KNOW WHAT BEST IDEA TO GIVE.AGAIN,DOES SHE HAVE A SURNAME IF SHE'S A NIGERIAN.I KNW YU KNW WHAT I MEAN?.IF THEIR SURNAME IS OF THOSE THAT LARGER THAN LIFE...WHO ARE YU?
collect it ,
If it is not a cultural thing, is it a spiritual thing? I can't understand why you will give a grown man "transport money"
Good point
Consider it payment for showing interest in their sister/daughter. don't expect more after marriage o! Just joking. I think if you feel awkward about it then don't collect it. Let you lady collect it if she feels the need to.
Collect oh if dats what will make ur r/ship stay strong pls bro try n overcome them it doesn't mean u cannot afford a T-fair atleast u dey work
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