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Saturday, 2 May 2015

Gossiping is good for you

When you think about a secret, you use up motivational resources which can drain your energy and make simple tasks appear difficult. Telling a secret to someone you trust can help restore motivation.
Researchers say a secret can preoccupy your mind and the more you think about it, the more you use personal, intellectual and motivational resources.
'Being preoccupied by a secret at work can be demotivating,' said Michael Slepian, an adjunct assistant professor of negotiations at Columbia Business School and co-author of the study. 'The burden of secrecy can make things around you appear more challenging and if you're less motivated to tackle these challenges, your performance can suffer.'

As part of the study, scientists performed a series of experiments to assess the effect secrets had on a subject's ability to judge the steepness of a hill.

Those that dubbed their secrets as preoccupying judged the hill to be steeper than it actually was.
'This is the same kind of outcome we see when people are carrying physical burdens, seeing the world as more challenging, forbidding and extreme,' added Slepian.

The defined a preoccupying secret as one that causes daily concern and may be related to more serious life-altering issues like money, sexual orientation or a health concern, the researchers said.
According to the study, one of the best ways to gain back your productivity is to simply get the burden off of your chest.

But, Slepian said, that doesn't mean you should star immediately airing your dirty laundry.
He said it's important to remember that revealing the secret to the wrong person could do more harm than good.
For those without a confidant, anonymous hotlines provide a way to reveal the secret, while keeping your identity a secret.
Another option if you cannot state the secret out loud is to simply write it down.
For example, posting the secret on an online message board or a website that shares submissions confidentially, or hand writing the secret in a personal journal can help, the researchers added.
Either way, Slepian argues there may be both physical and psychological benefits to getting a secret off your chest.

MEN ARE THE BIGGEST GOSSIPS 
Modern men cannot keep a secret - and are now worse gossips than women, according to a study last year.
Researchers found that, contrary to the assumption that women can't wait to spill the beans, it is men who are first to pass on confidential information.
Thanks to social media, men no longer wait to see their mates in the pub and typically share a secret within three hours, the study found.
And almost half of men admit to blabbing about a secret within minutes of first being told about it.
In comparison, women will keep it to themselves for at least three and a half hours before passing it on.
The study by The Fifth Estate found that the average man will keep a secret to themselves for around two hours and 47 minutes - almost 40 minutes less than women.
More than one in ten guys even admitted to blabbing someone's private secret within 10 minutes or less of first finding out about it.
Despite this, 92 per cent of men consider themselves to be good at keeping secrets

Culled from UK Daily Mail.

38 comments:

Unknown said...

Too long to read

Unknown said...

I beg to differ... Women r more gossips than men

Unknown said...

Somehow true


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Unknown said...

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NaijaDeltaBabe said...

* yawns *

Abeni said...

So true so false

julz said...

My boyfriend can gossip for the globe I always slap him everytime, I agree with this survey , tell my boyfriend secret now the whole world would hear it in less than 1 minute

Unknown said...

Gossiping is very good in some aspect and bad at same time but the ability of keeping it ur gossip secret is what matters

Unknown said...

Ok

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Davido's driver said...

It makes friendship interesting. Lindaobserve

Unknown said...

Correct o men gossip more than women this days

BONARIO NNAGS said...

"Men are the biggest gossips" Adonbilivit.
We only discuss about our ex and next.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Celine Oma said...

Lool! Anty Linda will be feeling justified now. hehe

Unknown said...

Can't read this biko. Am done with my exams.

Ella said...

It's very important to know who you tell your secrets to.

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Unknown said...

Men are the biggest gossips
I concur with that but gossip
doesn't help anybody in anyway.

Anonymous said...

Jeezz! So now men are worse gossips than women? Nbst oo..Hihihi!

Unknown said...

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Unknown said...

EDDY WIZ 19 March 2015 at 02:24
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Unknown said...

EDDY WIZ 19 March 2015 at 02:24
MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o
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OLOWOLAGBA said...

Yes, Gossiping is good for us all.
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Signed,
DeoGratias

OLOWOLAGBA said...

Yes, Gossiping is good for us all.
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Signed,
DeoGratias

Unknown said...

Lol, men are the biggest gossip.

Unknown said...

Lol, men are the biggest gossip.

Unknown said...

Ok have heard

Unknown said...

Are dey for real??? Umunwoke make una take am easy o! Linda take note!

Anonymous said...

Ugwanu madam, don't u mean gossip? There's nothing like gossiping biko, change asap

ary said...

Na lie!

Unknown said...

Damn dis was just too long got fed up

Anonymous said...

Yes women talk more but men gossip more

dudette said...

See licence for correct aproko.....

Unknown said...

Lolz, babe u r funny o @julz

ceecee said...

Yeah I agree men r d basket mouth wt big holes... and gossiping is fun

Unknown said...

Men gossip more than women, is just that men own is not as obvious as women

Subomi said...

Don't agree

Anonymous said...

stupiders. why are they using black girls as cover picture for this write up? why not whites?

Unknown said...

Lol so we should become amebo like you abi Linda? #sighs

TAMARA SPLASH said...

Wow. I have a secret a frnd told me, I need to bomb it out to accomodate other once b4 my memory go full.lol

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