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Sunday 26 January 2014

Dear LIB readers: He wants me to buy the engagement ring

From a female LIB reader
My boyfriend told me he would have proposed to me but he doesn't have enough money to buy the kind of engagement he wants his woman to wear. He says if it is so important to me I could buy it and then he would pay me back later. Should I or shouldn't I?

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Anonymous said...

What's the meaning of that? Well... it depends on the type of relationship you guys have and your understanding
Cos next thing he might tell you to pay for your wedding gown. So if he is a truthful person and truly things aren't going well for him, you can buy or better still tell him you don't mind any one he can afford

Anonymous said...

the guy is a joker! it's as simple as that!
he's not ready to be committed and responsible!
my advice: RUN!

Amarachukwu said...

Pls for the love of God don't try that.

Unknown said...

There is nothing wrong there if u buy it. Since is With the mind of paying u back. ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

Anonymous said...

OYO. - On Your Own. Sweetie, you'll be engaging yourself and trust me, you're not that desperate. Let him buy you the one he can afford and then later on replace it to the one he knows you deserve. You don't wanna run into debts trying to get married, that's not the way to go, but if he "must" get you that expensive diamond ring now and he can't afford it? He should take a loan. But under no circumstances should you buy your ring yourself. No way sistah

Monchessca said...

See man and his cunny nature,forgettin hez been born by a woman..tell him to buy a ring he can afford Simple! They say wen the desirable is not available,the available becomes desirable..

Anonymous said...

My dear, no do o!!!! They never pay back and later on in life he can be ungrateful and say afterall no be me buy you d engagement ring. Some men can go that low.....

Monchessca said...

See man and his cunny nature,forgettin hez been born by a woman..tell him to buy a ring he can afford Simple! They say wen the desirable is not available,the available becomes desirable..

Anonymous said...

No even think am o,if he really luvs u den he shuld go to every xtent to buy d almighty ring,hia,wetin person no go hear for dis lyf..guys sha.
Sash

Eby said...

Chia,all na to marry? My dear don't buy it,if he wants to engage u let him buy the one his money can reach ok.

Anonymous said...

Forget him. This is the beginning go something bad. You will buy the wedding rings and pay ALL the bills thereafter.

Anonymous said...

Ah ah ah ah ah funny guy, you no go kill me with laughters...wetin he says??? If you were my daughter i would have slap you to have ever ask that stupid question! If that guy ever loved you i would have bought even a hood made ring just to proove that.
You want an advice? Abeg waka pass your road, that guy is a joker and you are wasting your life with him!

Anonymous said...

NO BUY OH!!!!!!!!!!!! imagine urself going to buy an engagement ring, then gives ur bf to purpose. AWKWARD!!!!!! !! dr r cheap rings he could afford

Anonymous said...

Do not buy it!!! He has just told u dat u'r not dat impt 2 him.

Anonymous said...

pls dnt ooo,my dear run fast nd far. u wud jst find out dat 5 years down d lane u re d one paying for everything

Anonymous said...

Pls dear dnt buy it, tell him to buy any one he has d moni 4 ok, n propose 1st later u can change it.

Anonymous said...

Na waoh..........d marriage na do or die affair? Hiss.............

Anonymous said...

Babe jus chil....yur guy is a coon

Anonymous said...

My dear don't .let him buy the one he can afford. Becos if you agree now later during wedding you will realize you are virtually paying or buying most of the things needed

Bonita Bislam said...

Girl if you dare buy that ring then I know u'r so foolish.Tell him a N50 naira ring will do if at all he wants to engage you.Don't ever fall for his cheap lies

Monchessca said...

Girl wisen up..Let him buy d ring he can afford..Simple afterall wen d desirable is nt available,d available becomes desirable

Anonymous said...

Please don't. .get should buy the one he can afford and upgrade it later

Anonymous said...

Hmm, is it compulsory you wear an engagement ring? If you both are sincere with each other and you know he's actually telling the truth, then you can both agree and plan towards your future together. The wedding and engagement are not the main thing, the main thing is you have a marriage that lasts.
I also don't see any reason why you should pay for the ring.

Anonymous said...

Babe dnt u dare try it..what rubbish..sum men r just shameless Gush!!...if he rily wantz 2 get u a ring out of dis world den he shud work hard 4 it or beta still borrow frm a frnd...babe mark my words 'dis loser u call a boyfrnd will Ϟε̲̣̣̣̥vε̲̣̣̣̥я̲̅ pay Ūя̲̅ moni back''na J̶̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊S̤̥̈̊τ̲̣̣̥ scope e d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ use 4 u 2 mak u luk so desperate so pls dnt fall 4 it

Anonymous said...

He should buy the one he can afford and upgrade later

Double Vee said...

Dear poster u r nt only stupid, u r desperate as well. Kudos t u mumu, afta buying ur engagement ring, wot nxt? U will equally sponsor ur wedding abi. Pls dnt come here n cry foul wen he eventually dumps u for somone he engaged wt a ring he bot himself #a word is enof f d wise.

Ike E said...

The boy is NOT ready to get married, ladies be very very careful so u do not come on as a desperado!!!!!

sleeky said...

RUN

Unknown said...

To marry nah by force????

yeyeoge said...

To marry nah by Force?

Chiluscious said...

Na wash#

Chiluscious said...

Na wash#

Anonymous said...

Pls don't. At d appropriate, God will provide d money for him. If he's serious, he can buy a cheap one even wiith N500. It mustnt be gold or diamond. My husband didn't even give me a ring when he proposed to me but we are happily married for 14 years now.

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Anonymous said...

How on earth will u buy your own engagement ring... It then means that the joker will begin to place a host of responsibilities on you. If he cant buy the engagement ring,then he is not ready babes

Unknown said...

Don't pls!

Anonymous said...

Na wash! Dat means ur d man na...just thinking aloud though

Anonymous said...

Let him buy u dat one he can afford 4 now den when he have enough money he can as well buy u dat expensive one. AKWAUGO

smoothgurlzee said...

Ha...e no better for olosho bf and gurl are u a learner...wer u born of a woman or u fell from d tree?

Anonymous said...

That is no excuse. He should buy what he can afford. When he has money, he can change it. Abeg that lie is old.

Anonymous said...

Don't try it! If he can't afford to buy an engagement ring, then he can't afford to get married. I'm sure u r the one pushing him to get married. If u persist, be prepared to fund the wedding and the marriage.

joseph said...

No u should not buy it

Crystal said...

Dis is Africa ,remember?our values on marriage and its procedures havnt changed yet.ur buying d ring mite b seen as an act of desperation in d long run.He shud buy d ring no mata how cheap,d most important tin is dat he passed d msg.Be guided.on another note;For d unique screenplays of ur stories or a great script,u can contact Crystabell :Chidimmanwabueze@yahoo.com.You wud b glad u did.

Anonymous said...

R you a leaner?

Anonymous said...

Aunty you shouldn't. Let him buy the one he can afford now and change it when he can afford one that's more 'to his taste'.

CU said...

If you don't want the type of ring he can afford, then go ahead and buy the one you want. Since he doesn't have enough money atm, don't push it. Wait till he can buy one of your taste, then you'd cherish the ring even more.

wemimo said...

Desperate measures...

Anonymous said...

Wow! Can't stop laughing...How do you pull this off every time. You've got me rolling with laughter yet again. Linda Ikeji...please don't make me fall in love with you.
Anyway,here is my take on this matter.
The Lady shouldn't purchase the engagement ring herself but...
She can do this to know if her man is sincere with her. She should be ready to part with some money to get to know her man's intentions for her.
She can give her man some money under the guise of a gift,the money should be able to cover the cost of his choice of engagement ring.
If the guy purchases the ring with the money,then he is sincere with her and she is his priority but if he doesn't purchase an engagement ring with the money, then she should just take a walk.
Anonymous2014

Taiwo O. said...

'if it is so important to you'...hmm...if he asks you to pay your dowry to your parents if the dowry is so important to them but will pay you back later, will you?

Anonymous said...

Plz don't eva buy a man ring to engage u. He will take u for granted.

Anonymous said...

he is a mad man. Dats how u know when a man appreciates his woman.

Unknown said...

Observation tinz

Jessica law said...

Don't even try it why will ur boyfriend ask u to buy d ring that he will refund u later are u sure This guy loves u or his in the relationship for something else.has he bought d one his money can buy and u rejected it, it seems u sound desperate for marriage that's why he said so shine ur eye babe.

Opeyemi said...

Stupid question! So you want it that badly and would buy in? You're getting engaged to yourself!

nellylynd said...

Is he stupid? Let him give u d one he has d money 4 n he's nt even suppose to b discussing dat wit ya...

Anonymous said...

Gawd have mercy

Da Netseer said...

No try am o! No buy am.. Na scam.. He shld buy d one dat he can afford..

Bond Girl said...

Babe you should not! This guy is a scammer/ stingikoko cos he obviously knows you have your own money. He should buy you a ring no matter how cheap,besides its not even the ring that's important but the significance of the gesture. The time will come when he will tell you to pay for your bride price & he will pay you later! Lmao!

Miss Jay said...

Biko don't! What is that one supposed to mean..

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Anonymous said...

For you to even consider buying it yourself shows how desperate you are! If things go sour tomorow he will say "afterall you bought d ring urself wen u knew I wasn't ready". Use ur mind. If he wanted u, he wud borrow money or buy a cheap one and promise to upgrade it later. D guy is NOT READY. Slow down.

nikky p said...

Lool. Stupid question. If he wants to marry you he will make aaan effort. It doesn't have to be expensive. Make him understand dat. I think he is not serious and is probably stingy.

Anonymous said...

Linda post my comment biko!u have never posted it before jor!

Anonymous said...

He's an idiot. Run while you can now.

Anonymous said...

Tell him to buy what his money can afford and sorry to say in my opinion, ur man is a shameless one.

Zuriel.

Anonymous said...

Don't buy it instead borrow him mone to buy and engage u.Beside I feel he doesn't value you.Maybe u are the one pressing for engagement.

FiFi said...

Sounds like a line. . .

Anonymous said...

No !! You shouldn't. You'll forever live in poverty. What kind of man ask a woman to do that?



Rushel

Anonymous said...

We know his type. Walk Away! And while you have still got your money in your pocket.
L.S.

Anonymous said...

see gobe!!!!! pls give him time to save up to his responsibility. If you start with this,you might end up funding the wedding too. don't forget that oun ti a ba f'ara sise fun, ni in pe lowo eni.

Anonymous said...

Both of u are deceiving urselfs, he should buy the one he can afford. & u d lady shouldn't pressurize him to propose to u, better still giving u engagement ring. cos engagement ring no be marriage.

Anonymous said...

Ahahah, dis is strange. Pls don't use your money for dat bcos you are not honoured at all.

dhobiz said...

Lol that boy is turning you into a joke,is it a must you wear engagement ring nmtchew doesn't even sound like he's not even ready for marriage

Anonymous said...

NO!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Lol,,,

beampe said...

Let him buy u wateva he can afford ...u can always get a better ring wen money comes #problemsolved

kanu favour said...

Don't try dat if him is so much in Love let him find way and buy d ring for u

Anonymous said...

what? Some men though! My dear don't buy, let him give u the 1 he can afford. May be u are being too desperate and putting a lot of pressure on d dude.
Ogo

Anonymous said...

Please don't, it's nice that he wants something expensive for you but if he can't get he could get something within his means with the hope of getting something better. You don't want to start this trend in your marriage

That Function Gurl said...

Lending him some money is ok, but BUYING YOUR own engagement ring? Its a Huge NO ma'am!!

nikky p said...

This is a very stupid question. Tomorrow he will say you are the one that was pushing him to marry you. He doesn't love you and is not ready to marry you. He is probably stingy.

Chiek said...

Let him buy the one he can afford oh. And you learn to be content. If you go by your engagement ring, you might just end up paying you bride price and dowry yourself.

Anonymous said...

Don't pls. Wait till he has d money. Men sef!

tessy17 said...

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Anonymous said...

Then he buy what he can afford and change it later when he has enuf cash(if it's dat important to him)... some people r funny sha!why start a union like that?u will end up taking a lot of things on credit oh! He had beta learn to live on what he earns. The ring,the wedding and the marriage are verrryyyyy diff things. Only d marriage matters

Anonymous said...

You are a fool mukite!!!

Anonymous said...

God forbid. Do not buy d engagement ring. Tomoro he WL tell u to ur face dat u forced him to engage. He is not serious

Anonymous said...

God forbid. Do not buy d engagement ring. Tomoro he WL tell u to ur face dat u forced him to engage. He is not serious

Anonymous said...

MUMU. Buy the ring and u will continue buying everything in your house when and if he marries u. Better respect yourself and look for a better man. This one dey crase and has no regard for you.

Anonymous said...

ARE YOU MAD?! IS HE MAD?! What the hell. Tell him to buy the ring he can afford if he really wants to marry you. He's not even talking about the cost of the wedding or not being able to afford a family right now. He's talking about ring. My dear shine your eyes. Excuses, excuses.

Anonymous said...

Are you dat desperate 4 marriage dat u'll buy ur own ring? My dear shine ur eye wella!

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't advice it. Are you that desperate? Keep praying to God to provide for him or have him buy you one for now, and change it as soon as he can afford the one he wants you to have.

Anonymous said...

Fool... Its not your husband go and get yours

Nneka said...

U dey listen to d bingo grl??
Buy d ring only if ur sooooo desperate.
Mtchwwwww
"Bbmnotinterestedface"

ife dada said...

no h shuldnt,dat wud be a huge mistake......

vivian said...

Mehn... Ur guy is foolish... Don't try it!!!

Nneka said...

U can't be serious

Anonymous said...

Fool...he is not your husband go and get yours.

Nneka said...

Hahahhahahaha. As in....... I trust u jor

Nneka said...

4yrs na understatement.

emmanuella said...

Hey dear, this is pretty absurd! He says"if its important to u??? So where does that Leave him? On the fence or what! He doesn't hv to buy a diamond ring! He should first go ahead n propose if he wants to! And the part that he would pay it back for it.. I tink that's kinda rude! Sweetheart allow him propose first! Don't go ahead n buy any ring! Period!

emmanuella said...

Hey dear, this is pretty absurd! He says"if its important to u??? So where does that Leave him? On the fence or what! He doesn't hv to buy a diamond ring! He should first go ahead n propose if he wants to! And the part that he would pay it back for it.. I tink that's kinda rude! Sweetheart allow him propose first! Don't go ahead n buy any ring! Period!

Nneka said...

Hahahhahahaha. As in....... I trust u jor

Nneka said...

U can't be serious

Nneka said...

U dey listen to d bingo grl??
Buy d ring only if ur sooooo desperate.
Mtchwwwww
"Bbmnotinterestedface"

vanilla25th said...

Quit the *weak ass fade* he dont respect u. He sure telling u hes doin u a huge favour. Use u d gray matter in ur brain. GOD gave u brain to think well . Just call it a quit. Its has even ended befor it begun. What the heck is u shud buy d damn ring. Pls how did it sound in ur ears? My lady dont b condescending oooooo. QUIT QUIT QUIT.....IN BEYONCES VOUCE.. TO D LEFT TO D LEFT. ONE LOVE. * Mama AFRICA*

Anonymous said...

Go figure! He has no plan to marry you. Run (not walk) away.

ZeeZee said...

Giiiiiirrrrrrrlllllll Please!!! You are a mumu for even contemplating it - do you know that men hussle die for their women, even to the extent of borrowing large sums to 'see it happen' for their women.. Next thing he will suggest you buy the car and he will soon find money for a better one or you purchase the house or you pay for this until his comfortable and then you realise the debt is anus deep and you still love him and you cant leave him. I would even suggest for you to run but people in love are drunk so stay now!

Anonymous said...

Olodo...2words u said. U can't even pass ur test

Anonymous said...

na jonzing, omo no mater how much he has he can buy a good gold ring. 50k naira is enough to buy that one, or dont tell me u wanna marry a very broke guy.

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Unknown said...

i wont be surprised if its my girl who sent this in. as in it's exactly what we going through. and for d records, 99% of ur commenter r dead wrong. there's no rule book or how to know list of really knowing to u'r about to commit too. d girl is dating d girl n shld know his situation and its really dumb of her to bring the issue here. she's dating the guy, if she want to marry him, y exposed their biz? oh let me say that in my lang "ki lo de ton le afesono e fun ekun paje" ori loni ise ko si eda to mo ola. he doesnt have money today, trust me iyen o ni ko la ni aya nle l'ola. do for him my dear, be his helper, carry him if u can and don't bill him for ur favors.

Unknown said...

It is a good dream to have a choice of ring that you would want your lady to wear. I am sure they are many things in life that we dream of having that at the moment we do not have and cannot afford yet. A decent person always makes efforts for the good things of life in ways that are decent. Expecting the woman you love to buy a ring you have in mind cannot be defined as being decent. As a lady, condescending low to buy yourself a particular kind of ring that your man cannot afford is a good example of living above your means. Very soon you ll need to loan money and buy the kind of car, house, dress,hair that he would want you to wear. If you love him enough to want to marry him, you must be ready to live within his means.Wake up! Do only what you can afford, let him buy the ring he can afford. Wear it.

Newlife said...

Some women don suffer! Is that how much this lady is worth?? Who says you cannot marry without ring??

Unknown said...

If your mum is still there plz ask here this question. her advise will be apt here. If she had raised you well, there will be no need for this question. you will know the meaning of walk and dont look back.

Unknown said...

Tell him u ll like to cheat on him and apologise later. How can u even marry a guy that cant buy a common ring.

Anonymous said...

BUHAHAHAHHHAHAHAHA, BUY THE RING??????????
ARE U BEING SMART AT ALL

Unknown said...

Tell him u ll like to cheat on him and apologise later. How can u even marry a guy that cant buy a common ring.

Anonymous said...

Better run and stop wasting ur time. He wont marry you.

Anonymous said...

Tell him to give you a "place holder" till he can afford what he prefers

shannaro said...

is the ring that important to you?just let him buy whatever he can afford abi if he cn't afford any just buy them why should he pay back tho would you have? be practical and move on mehn these details hardly matter in the bigger picture

shannaro said...

ps:of course thats assuming you know and trust your guy and he is not a gold digger

Anonymous said...

Let him buy wat he can afford. Its never that deep

Anonymous said...

I can already see you paying for the wedding. Run for you life babe!

Anonymous said...

Hahahhaahahaha....good luck

Anonymous said...

If hes got no money for a ring...then hes got no money to take care of u. #finish

Anonymous said...

Run....!

Mystic Falls said...

Don't even dream it, it will be the dumbest thing a lady will ever do. He must not buy you a 15karat engagement ring but atleast a reasonable man should know that engagement ring is his sole responsibility as a man.

Anonymous said...

He is a man and should behave as one .Let him engage you with what he can afford.He is simply a user or a clown or he doesn't love you that much to marry you.he will continue to use u if you buy it.

Anonymous said...

Never,no jst try am.

Anonymous said...

What's even wrong with this Linda lady? Why don't you "approve" everyone's comment so it can appear? If people bother to read and even comment on your blog, you should bother to let them air their views.

Unknown said...

Lmao @rubber ring. Lool

Anonymous said...

Babe, u don enter 1chance.

Anonymous said...

Dat was 7 years ago wen men werent dis shameless. Kudos, bsyds dat was a risky venture on her part n u dint 4get wher yur cumin frm. I wont try it 4 any man now, I swear down!!

Anonymous said...

Linda are u sure u r nt the one? Cos we know u are on 50million check PA. Lol

Anonymous said...

it can be argued that the man's love is genuine and he has no money right now and that's fine but i do not think that so early on in you guys vow to live till death do you part that you pay for what normally the guy buys to show his love, affection and devotion. The ring might not be a diamond but like other people said let it be something he's put all his heart and love into and if he's so serious about getting you what you deserve later on he'll give you a ring you truly deserve because the ring doesn't mean much but we're all so vain and place it in high regard i mean Kim Kardashian's ring with Kris Humphries was out of this world but that didn't stop the love from expiring after 72 days. Accept whatever he can afford and show him just how strong your bond is even though there isn't that much money, do not follow the crowd of extravagant rings. The ring you deserve is coming up very soon
Love from Miami

Walata said...

Lmao dat guy can't be serious pls pls guys u can't tell a woman to buy an engagement for ur wedding things or marriage, it is a man who marries a woman not a woman marrying a man n dats official

Anonymous said...

Babe please fly he is not your man!

AnnMarie said...

Lmao. what a stupid question

Anonymous said...

Pls do with what he can afford and stay happy forever... That's if you really love him tho, if not let him be

Anonymous said...

Errmm, that's four. Lolz

Unknown said...

you rather not get the ring. if he doesn't have enough money to get his dream ring, he should save up the money or better still get you the one he can afford. the ring is just gonna be on your finger and nothing more, its what he feels for you that he should fight for.

Anonymous said...

I swear 9ja guys are 2 sharp

Anonymous said...

in the absence of money... do you need a ring at all?

Prim said...

He should buy you a ring if it's important to you. It doesn't have to be cut throat expensive.

Anonymous said...

Omg!I am crying here,let this man give his life to christ...girl!!!abeg for the fact wey dem talk say men no dey no mean say dem no dey..puhleeeze,with the speed of alacrity..flee,flee from the wiles of the demon..hilarious!!!

~dominique~

MzAdex said...

NO WAY

Anonymous said...

Pls my question is...must you have an engagement ring? if that guy is serious then describe the road to your villa for onward trad rites first.! Let him pay your bride price...then you can buy a ring if u want.

Anonymous said...

Nah! You don't need a ring. Wait till he can afford it.

Anonymous said...

It really seems like you are the one asking him for the ring, cause if a guy is not ready to do stuffs they say stupid things like that, if he is not ready don't force anything and if you feel you have been waiting for too long, den find someone else, don't buy a ring pls, for ur parents sake at least!

Anonymous said...

Leave that relationship now.

Anonymous said...

Abi ask her ohhhhh.buy d ring ist ke.rubbish .na so u go buy inside d marriage.if he wants to propose .let him buy u wat he can afford now ohhhh.

Anonymous said...

My dear,dats wot lazy men hav done 2 us,yet we will still carry babies 4 9months,cook ,go 2 mrkt,clean,b a home maker,go 2 office n nw they've evn made us bread winners.....itz rily a man's world

Anonymous said...

Run!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

the truth is will she wear the one he can afford? You shld knw this by now that most gurls are shallow and vain.. They like competition & love to show off their engagement rings as if it is more important than a blissful marriage...

Anonymous said...

the truth is will she wear the one he can afford? Guys shld knw this by now that most gurls are shallow and vain.. They like competition & love to show off their engagement rings as if it is more important than a blissful marriage...

Anonymous said...

the truth is will she wear the one he can afford? Guys shld knw this by now that most gurls are shallow and vain.. They like competition & love to show off their engagement rings as if it is more important than a blissful marriage...

Unknown said...

IF U TRY IT, U ARE ON UR OWN. SHAPERLY SHAPERLY, RUN AWAY

Anonymous said...

If he hasnt got money for a ring then he hasnt got money for to take care of u, rent nko? U will borrow him, msheew ...

Anonymous said...

My dear, i got engaged with a N500 ring which My Hubby bought at oshodi bus stop from those Hausa guys . But today i ve a better engagement and wedding band. He is not serious in marrying you. The ring is not all that matters it is the thot that counts . wat stops him from buying wat he can afford now and buy you wat he wants to buy you in the future . my dear read between the lines and dump that looser .

Deby said...

That is foolishness. If u buy the ring, he will also ask you to propose to your self because he lacks the ability to do that. You will even be the one to sponsor the wedding. Leave the bitch. He is just fooling you.

Anonymous said...

If der z trust and u noe 4 sure he z urs cos guyz of now adays deserve nuffin less dan indomie wifout egg,den my dear u can buy it or jus tell him to buy d 1 his money can afford and lerra wen he has d money he shld buy u d 1 he wants 4 his woman.@least u will noe u re engaged to him if he buys d orda 1. Be wise ooo

MissBusyBody said...

Better run, mumu girl...

Anonymous said...

I no go bother comment for this matter becos lindodod no go post am.i sure say na e boyfriend dey ask am buy ring.if you like buy am oo,you kukuma get money.mischeew!!!#flipshairandwalksaway

Unknown said...

Hehehehehehehe, Omg! I think the lady should just be patient with the guy till he has enough money oor tell the guy to get her any ring that he can afford at the moment cos really it isn't about the diamonds on the ring, it's the thought behind it.

Miss X said...

No Comment. Stupid n Ewu

Anonymous said...

My mum did not get a diamond engagement ring and they're still together 30 years now. You're desperate and he's stingy. Just shut up and get married already.

Anonymous said...

That is Four and not Two

Anonymous said...

My thots exactly!

Unknown said...

i will rather ask her to loan me some cash without telling her what to use it for then later get the ring... trust me girl will always find a way of hitching the words back at you

Anonymous said...

Babe let him buy d one he cn afford if he is even serious cuz I dnt tink he is

Anonymous said...

Don't think he is ready to marry, so don't push him

Anonymous said...

Seeking public opinion means you were seriously considering to buy the ring but unsure if it's okay. Pls, if you don't know how to run, you better jog outta that relationship before you regret it.

Anonymous said...

Dear lady... ofcoz. so far you truly "loves" him. I'm sure you will also loves his enuff to pay for the wedding, pay your future rent, bills and school fees too...

All in the name of "loves". I wish u all the best.

Fikky

Anonymous said...

Some of the comments here reveal the hearts of Nigerian ladies and why some guys just chop you and leave after having fun(lol, I don't do that by the way). They are a few questions one must ask themselves before an expectancy is raised on what kind of ring to expect from a partner for an engagement. Realistic questions, are 1.Can he afford it, how much debt will it take him into, and how much will that debt affect us in future. I got engaged with a £300 ring over 6 years ago and even though the lady wanted one which cost £3000+ I had to let her now thats what this man can get. Recently I got her a £3800 ring I and didn't have to break the bank in any way.You sound as if you have an unrealistic idea of his salary if you ask me, which shows you guys are heading for the rocks. You need to realise you have a wedding round the corner and need to plan for it as well as a home after that. If I asked you how much he earned, I can bet you don't know how much which places this ring in the category of delusion of grandeur which is no good to no one. When I first knew my fiancee and she was still learning about me, she used to take me down earnest and jones and show me £3000 plus pounds rings and all that stuff you young ladies do. I sense a lack of maturity in all this especially from your end. Sit that young man down, apologise for being too fussy and that you know whatever he gets comes from his heart. Find out what he earns and walk with him on the path to building a future. I have been married for close to five years and i'm loving life and so is the wife. I also blame this dude for not maturing you soon or as Nigerians say "Making you ripe fast fast"

ebonyz... said...

Na wa oh!!!! He's not a serious person abeg.... If he was really ready to get married, he'll get you that ring before even proposing. No gree oh!!! If he truly loves you, he will go and get you the ring himself and not ask you to buy it yourself, please wake up!!! All in all, it's still left for you to decide

Unknown said...

He is not ready for yet ..and don't force urself in...

Queen.C. said...

Dont buy,ask him to propose wih anyone he can afford.....Just manage it cos i know how unexciting it could be wearing a boring and fake engagement ring..When he gets money,he can buy the real one.

Anonymous said...

tell him to buy any one he can afford, that you'll manage it like that.

Anonymous said...

just marry yourself na! na d same tin.

Aby said...

The question here is, must he propose to you with a ring? if he's dying to have you as his wife, he should go ahead and propose or better still meet your parent and tell them of his intention(s).

seriously, i dont know why Nigerian guys and gals think every proposal must come with a ring.

Please tell him to propose without ring if he so wish to get you engaged, as he claimed.

geegee said...

Capital no.do not buy the ring and it is plain to see he is not ready to be engaged to you.try to make yourself available to someone else it is very obvious he is a player and a manipulator

Anonymous said...

SCAM ooooooo!!!!!! do not believe that crap o

Anonymous said...

ahhhhh HELL NO!!! this guy is not serious …can u not read between the lines hun…he just doesn't want to buy u a ring

Unknown said...

Honestly, let me tell you... Many many brides are rocking their very own purchased diamond rings, as well as paying for their houses and cars.. even going as far as sending that gorgeous boquest of flowers on their desk. I would say it is the nature of your relationship that should ultimately determine. I do think he should contribute to your ring, the best he can because he won't value anything without any input.. but If you want big karats.. no big deal to finance the dream... just keeping it real #AfrikanSuperstar

Unknown said...

Run Run RUn

Anonymous said...

That Guy is a PLAY BOY he must have said same to three other girls.... Run babe

Anonymous said...

babe i no trust guyz. dey are very deceitful even thou they appear serious at times bt believe me its just for faking

Unknown said...

Hehehe.... oh my belle oooo!!! This is the S. I. Unit of one chance!!! Are u kidding me??? Rolling seriously on the floor laughing!!!

Anonymous said...

Fool

Anonymous said...

let him buy d ring himself and propose himself

Anonymous said...

if u buy a buy an engagement ring , u have engaged urself...u might ve to pay ur own bride price urself.
let him work harder if he wants to really get settled.

Anonymous said...

are u sure his name isnt Arinze?

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