Dear LIB readers: Who do I report my husband's excess demand for sex to?
From a female LIB reader
My husband's sexual libido is so high that as his wife, I am exhausted and tired. He demands for sex from me like every other day and my refusal has caused issues between us. It is not like I am trying to run away from my marital duties but sometimes I just need him to understand that the rigors of work and taking care of our three little children takes its toll on me and sex is sometimes the last thing on my mind. I might just want to rest and as hardened a he is, even when he sees that I climb the bed by 11.30pm and I am to wake up by 5.30am to start preparing the children for school, he doesn't care and still demands sex from me. I am Tired. Now I am thinking if I should talk to my Pastor or his Father so that they can talk to him for me. Is this a right or wrong move?
I'll advice u have a heart-to-heart chat with ur husband. Talk to him instead of reporting him to anyone. This is an intimate matter and should be sorted out between u two. He's human and he'll understand.
Oh my God, you are so lucky and you don't see it. Look, a lot of ladies including me will have to bed before we get it. It is possible and easy to handle. Just have positive mind about it, and don't see it as a bad thing, just like what one anonymous said here. Second, don't you see that your hubby loves you and don't want to get it somewhere else? otherwise he would have been getting it somewhere without disturbing you. Warning, your happiness is in your hands dear. You can change the situation, enjoy it and don't send him out pleeeeeze. If you hear what goes on people's marriages you know why ladies go for love potion but you have a blessing form God and you are complaining? kneel down and thank your God oh dear.
My dear,u don't need a 3rd party in ur marriage. Especially this is very sensitive issue..Prayer is the master key.....Mmm,,meanwhile,sm married women so wish they are in ur shoes.. Prayers my dear.
She messed it all up when she mentioned if she should tell her pastor.... You better don't dare tell anyone about it... You learn to take it for now and pray to God he gets tired than you are whenever he returns from work too...
First, you need to talk things out with your husband. I believe what you need is a little support from him or maybe you get a housemaid if your husband can't devote time to assist you with the house chores.
I believe if you get a little support you would be able to give in to his sexual demands, but remember it is a sin to deny your husband sex, please read 1 Corinthians 7 vs 3-5.
Try to speak to him concerning point 1. then see how things improve afterwards before you see anyone. But if this issue has nothing to do with your tiredness but you just are not able to live up to his sexual demands then you should seek help from a sexuality consultant, not your pastor.
Timing - put your children in a strict routine.( Bed time, home work, sleep time etc - it is possible, just give it a try
Energy - Do some form of exercise, this gets you in the mood for any surprises.
Food - Be sure your diet is not stealing our libido. ( Check when you started feeling this way)
Prayers - There are some problems you just have to hand over to God when you have done ALL you can realistically
Talk - Talk to him in the nicest possible way and make him understand, maybe after making love, not before.
Creativity - Get creative in the bedroom. Make it exciting so you can look forward to it.
Check - Check there is nothing else going on in your mind, like are you depressed, sad, worried, and merely using hubby's bedroom demands as an outlet for your frustrations.
We've got you girl! Hope you get sorted and reach out for a high five!
I understand ur pain woman. He who wears d shies knows where it hurts. U can report to ur doctor so that he can talk to ur husband before he disfigure you with Sex
Maybe your husband is a jobless man. How can a hard working man not allow his wife to rest? Am sure he has nothing doing in the daytime.. He is only thinking about fucking his wife in the night.. Madam help get a good job.
Some of these issues in marriages could have been nipped during courtship. But of course the "religious fanaticism" relegates issues of SEX to the background. Courtship should be as intimate, so that both party sees themselves as they are. How can this woman think her pastor will be of any help. Does she even know if the pastor's libido is higher than that of your husband? Find a work/sex balance. for instance why are you go late to bed by 11:30pm and getting up so early? Check your libido, it might have dropped after 3 kids. The way I see it, you have 3 choices 1. leave the marriage, 2.increase your libido 3. keep complaining and be sad for the rest of your days.
99percent of the commenters are dumb.., for real Nigerians still think like they are in the 60s. The lady should kill herself cos of a man like he is God. A real man will take good care of his family and his wife will not have to work. He will also hire a nanny to help out at home and then he can have his woman everyday. This man that this lady is probably managing, I am sure she shares the bills with him and he doesn't help with the kids or housework,,, mshew... Whether you give it to him everyday or every second he will still cheat...life is to be enjoyed by both men and women
Yes, it is his right to have sex with her anytime he want, but having it irrespective of the way the woman he calls his wife feels about it is unfair. It means the wife has been reduced to a mere tool for sexuaL satisfaction. What happened to LOVE.
Want want no get, get get no want, sorry dear, but reporting 2 any1 isn't a good idea, try and v a decent convo with ur man, he should understand the way u feel, I believe it all depends on how u pass your message across.
Is your pastor a lady or man? And you think your pastor will fix your problem? Recall how many Nigerian pastors are divorsed. Stay away from them. Keep the ball in your court - with your husband. Support each other, there's no better way!
Wat touched me more is wen u said he dosnt allow u sleep wit d little time u hv. Dat is bad ohhh pls just pray over it my dear. Men are so wicked somtimes
Lol there is no sex schedule when u get married. Nobody is running away. Don't forget she has 3kids wt her Husb. She suppose to understand the kind of person she's marrying. Let her work out a kind of way to slow him down. Isn't she a woman? She shouldn't report him yet. Probably she's very sweet or ...there must be something that attracts him the most
Kai...women na wa o.u dint come publicly to tel us he proposed n u accepted.now u ar comn public to tel us he likes sex.why wont he like sex, isn't it hs right?. Whn u accepted to b hs wife,u shld hav also known that u l accpt ecerythn abt him.if u push hm to hav it outside,thn I m so sorry for u cos u l wish u never did..pls dont go public on ur famly issues.talk it over wth hm and dont evn dare teln any pastor of father.learn to handle ur family issues urslf.there ar so many women out ther wishing that they had ur knd of husband.please be guided.
Life is simple o! Sleep with your man or have someone else do it!!!!! 'Young girls should leave our husbands alone' , everyday a new letter to single ladies!!! How will your men not sleep outside , give him a blow job, lay on your back and spread Ur legs, time it o!!!
u had better use ur head.Why on earth would u think of taking your family to a third party.Its like u don't like your marriage anymore talk to him yourself.
Henry! The man is a sex maniac,yes it's a bad thing,always craving for sex,is that all he's made of...can't he use his head? Does he not think the woman needs rest.
A woman has her rights, when she is tired she shouldnt be subjected to that. Her husband should also participate and help her with the care of their kids. Just saying.
Best, ur comment is truly the best. I have come to realize that LIB is full of children and naive adults. All I see here are insults and height of insensitivity. Does anyone know how demanding it is to be a wife and working mother,IT is CRAZY!!!!!! No child here has an idea how difficult it is to add sex to that routine sometimes. I wish there is a way of checking the age level of readers and commenters here,unfortunately there is not.Linda is just collecting her money without a single care in the world....
God punish devil, wetin I dey fight my husband for lack of sex cos, I go jump-start tire, no erection again, chineke I beg borrow me him prick o, cos my own now want turn me to Nun, in fact the thing don dey block!
For me, I think its a wrong move reporting him to your pastor or his dad especially if u haven't discussed the problem with him first. Third parties in a marriage can bring all sorts of problems. My advice is call his attention, talk to him, tell him you will try to give him as frequent as possible but he shouldn't feel bad the days that you don't bulge. It's an intimate matter and should be solved by both of you. Pray to God as well to help him understand and give u the strength to hold in...talk to him as many times as you can, not just once or thrice and if u must talk to someone else, his father is a better option.
She has to learn how to deal with it.. It's PART of her duties as a wife. and there's a scripture in the bible that requires her to fulfill that duty, if her husband finds that scripture, he can use it against her if she reports to their pastor. and I think it's a bad idea to bring 3rd parties into it, I feel for her tho, but she needs to learn to enjoy and endure it, does she want him to cheat on her?
Pls who is this your husband? Lol a man wants to knack everyday and U r complaining? Nawa for some women oh! I'm a mother and a worker BLAH blah blah. Pls women keep their sex lives very alive even at that. No excuse. Every other day is not enough self in my opinion lol!
My dear I think u should look 4 energy booster, cos I was once in ur shoes and after plenty complaining he started getin it else. Wher nw I av loost count of his girlfriends and most times don't get it wen I want it, I am filled wit total regrets so pls don't end up lik me
U hav a man that still finds u sexy after 3 kids and u r complaining..its u who nids jesus..Talk to him abt it means u r giving him permission to get it elsewhere..U nid to find d fun in d sex darling..
madam u knw wetin u dey do at all..u beta learn how to cope with ur hubby sex life and stop complaining of the whole bullshit beta see it as a blessing .
i feel you should talk to him first before telling a third party. he has to understand how you feel and you should also pray about it. i pray everything work well for you. the earlier the better so he doesn't go outside to cheat.
I don't understand your problem. If house work too much get a house help. Doesn't need to be live in. Can come a few times a week. Some women are begging for it and here you are complaining. If you don't want him throw him this way joor! Hubby ain't touched me in 7 months. Says its BP medication. In fact it is more than 7 months coz when he did it is for 2 minutes. And you are complaining when some of us have been turned into nuns!!
Do not report him to anybody, channel the matter to GOD not your pastor oh then sit him down or rather wake him up say 2 or 3am and talk to him in a mature and polite manner, make him understand what your are passing through that you a'int running from your responsibilities etc.Linda i sight you.
Take it easy wt ur husband wat u re cry out is a family issue and handle it within d family circle.am advise u don t involve anybody settle it in a mature way and always pray over him
Dont ever think of talking about bed room matters outside, talk to him about it and pray. But know that it ur right to satisfy him cause if he goes out, may God help u if he still keep u as his wife
Don't take this out, no, don't speak to his father. continue to make him see reasons why you cant be having as much sex but be careful so as not to push him out
These are some of d tins u shud learn about ur spouse during courtship, courtship is not meant to for men to spoil their women, is get to knw eachother beta and see if u can live with ur prospective spouse.. cos my dear marriage is for beta or for worse....u jst hv to tolerate him
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 291 of 291Lyk seriously? Weren't u thought dat ur role as a married woman is 2 b a whore in bed, a chef in d kitchen nd a maid in d house???? Go nd learn hon.
I'll advice u have a heart-to-heart chat with ur husband. Talk to him instead of reporting him to anyone. This is an intimate matter and should be sorted out between u two. He's human and he'll understand.
#TeamBlessed#
Oh my God, you are so lucky and you don't see it. Look, a lot of ladies including me will have to bed before we get it. It is possible and easy to handle. Just have positive mind about it, and don't see it as a bad thing, just like what one anonymous said here.
Second, don't you see that your hubby loves you and don't want to get it somewhere else? otherwise he would have been getting it somewhere without disturbing you. Warning, your happiness is in your hands dear. You can change the situation, enjoy it and don't send him out pleeeeeze. If you hear what goes on people's marriages you know why ladies go for love potion but you have a blessing form God and you are complaining? kneel down and thank your God oh dear.
Yes dear u are right i noticed
What did u do to have
What did u do to have three kids,not bei Sex, while na u are tired, may be u get another guy, tel us the true
My dear,u don't need a 3rd party in ur marriage. Especially this is very sensitive issue..Prayer is the master key.....Mmm,,meanwhile,sm married women so wish they are in ur shoes.. Prayers my dear.
Hi.
Looks like we ve got ourself a new Bitch on the Block @ajuyawa asara#
U came 4 me, now itz my turn.
Stay Tuned Bitch. Stay Tuned.
Lol @Dude Eze#
Get a maid or a nanny, so u get enuf rest.
Pls give me his number so I can b helping u out, maybe he can b seeing u once in two months
Mumia, he's fucking someone else outta town
She messed it all up when she mentioned if she should tell her pastor.... You better don't dare tell anyone about it... You learn to take it for now and pray to God he gets tired than you are whenever he returns from work too...
First, you need to talk things out with your husband. I believe what you need is a little support from him or maybe you get a housemaid if your husband can't devote time to assist you with the house chores.
I believe if you get a little support you would be able to give in to his sexual demands, but remember it is a sin to deny your husband sex, please read 1 Corinthians 7 vs 3-5.
Try to speak to him concerning point 1. then see how things improve afterwards before you see anyone. But if this issue has nothing to do with your tiredness but you just are not able to live up to his sexual demands then you should seek help from a sexuality consultant, not your pastor.
Be SMART about your responsibilities as a wife.
Timing - put your children in a strict routine.( Bed time, home work, sleep time etc - it is possible, just give it a try
Energy - Do some form of exercise, this gets you in the mood for any surprises.
Food - Be sure your diet is not stealing our libido. ( Check when you started feeling this way)
Prayers - There are some problems you just have to hand over to God when you have done ALL you can realistically
Talk - Talk to him in the nicest possible way and make him understand, maybe after making love, not before.
Creativity - Get creative in the bedroom. Make it exciting so you can look forward to it.
Check - Check there is nothing else going on in your mind, like are you depressed, sad, worried, and merely using hubby's bedroom demands as an outlet for your frustrations.
We've got you girl!
Hope you get sorted and reach out for a high five!
Dr Catherine
New to the Family
Hello Linda Ikeji!
I understand ur pain woman. He who wears d shies knows where it hurts.
U can report to ur doctor so that he can talk to ur husband before he disfigure you with Sex
Report him to me# idiot
Christ will never lay on us load dat is too heavy to carry, so take ur problems to God n ask him for d grace to meet his needs ko
Maybe your husband is a jobless man. How can a hard working man not allow his wife to rest? Am sure he has nothing doing in the daytime.. He is only thinking about fucking his wife in the night..
Madam help get a good job.
Christ will never lay on us a load dats too heavy to carry. Take all ur problems to God n ask him for d grace to meet his needs.
Some of these issues in marriages could have been nipped during courtship. But of course the "religious fanaticism" relegates issues of SEX to the background. Courtship should be as intimate, so that both party sees themselves as they are. How can this woman think her pastor will be of any help. Does she even know if the pastor's libido is higher than that of your husband? Find a work/sex balance. for instance why are you go late to bed by 11:30pm and getting up so early? Check your libido, it might have dropped after 3 kids. The way I see it, you have 3 choices 1. leave the marriage, 2.increase your libido 3. keep complaining and be sad for the rest of your days.
Haba every other day is good nah. Shuoo.
Madam you are very lucky nah.
Dis Christie is a witch!!tufiakwa
Dis Christie is a witch!!tufiakwa!
99percent of the commenters are dumb.., for real Nigerians still think like they are in the 60s. The lady should kill herself cos of a man like he is God. A real man will take good care of his family and his wife will not have to work. He will also hire a nanny to help out at home and then he can have his woman everyday. This man that this lady is probably managing, I am sure she shares the bills with him and he doesn't help with the kids or housework,,, mshew... Whether you give it to him everyday or every second he will still cheat...life is to be enjoyed by both men and women
@christie,e be like say ur mumu life no get part2.swine!!
Is ur duty to satisfy ur hubby, better still u can talk to him n make a compromise.
Yes, it is his right to have sex with her anytime he want, but having it irrespective of the way the woman he calls his wife feels about it is unfair. It means the wife has been reduced to a mere tool for sexuaL satisfaction. What happened to LOVE.
My dear u no be sex machine that is not the only purpose of marriage so talk to him but if him no hear u advice him to go some where else and find it
Anonymous 7:26 :::: lmao oooo... Choi i carry nyash for you oooo, no be small Ewunama join lol
Good Advice
U should not have commented if ur lips are sealed..
If I were the husband, I go starve her for years...
Hahahhahhahha@family inheritance
Want want no get, get get no want, sorry dear, but reporting 2 any1 isn't a good idea, try and v a decent convo with ur man, he should understand the way u feel, I believe it all depends on how u pass your message across.
Is your pastor a lady or man? And you think your pastor will fix your problem? Recall how many Nigerian pastors are divorsed. Stay away from them. Keep the ball in your court - with your husband. Support each other, there's no better way!
according to my dam. man is suppose to have sex atleast once a day
according to my dam. man is suppose to have sex atleast once a day
Wat touched me more is wen u said he dosnt allow u sleep wit d little time u hv. Dat is bad ohhh pls just pray over it my dear. Men are so wicked somtimes
Lol there is no sex schedule when u get married. Nobody is running away. Don't forget she has 3kids wt her Husb. She suppose to understand the kind of person she's marrying. Let her work out a kind of way to slow him down. Isn't she a woman? She shouldn't report him yet. Probably she's very sweet or ...there must be something that attracts him the most
Kai...women na wa o.u dint come publicly to tel us he proposed n u accepted.now u ar comn public to tel us he likes sex.why wont he like sex, isn't it hs right?. Whn u accepted to b hs wife,u shld hav also known that u l accpt ecerythn abt him.if u push hm to hav it outside,thn I m so sorry for u cos u l wish u never did..pls dont go public on ur famly issues.talk it over wth hm and dont evn dare teln any pastor of father.learn to handle ur family issues urslf.there ar so many women out ther wishing that they had ur knd of husband.please be guided.
You have reported him to the whole of Nigeria via LIB na , so Ur problem is solved
Life is simple o! Sleep with your man or have someone else do it!!!!! 'Young girls should leave our husbands alone' , everyday a new letter to single ladies!!! How will your men not sleep outside , give him a blow job, lay on your back and spread Ur legs, time it o!!!
u had better use ur head.Why on earth would u think of taking your family to a third party.Its like u don't like your marriage anymore talk to him yourself.
Henry! The man is a sex maniac,yes it's a bad thing,always craving for sex,is that all he's made of...can't he use his head? Does he not think the woman needs rest.
A woman has her rights, when she is tired she shouldnt be subjected to that. Her husband should also participate and help her with the care of their kids. Just saying.
You ,yourself these are the answers I could get. You the architect
Nne dont try it o. Better talk to your husband and let him understand things
Nne dont try it o. Better talk to your husband and let him understand things
LMFAO u all r funny, esp u that asked "who is this one" It's not her fault she is media dumb! Lol
Me
Me
Lol. Ds pesin bo wel
Best, ur comment is truly the best. I have come to realize that LIB is full of children and naive adults. All I see here are insults and height of insensitivity. Does anyone know how demanding it is to be a wife and working mother,IT is CRAZY!!!!!! No child here has an idea how difficult it is to add sex to that routine sometimes. I wish there is a way of checking the age level of readers and commenters here,unfortunately there is not.Linda is just collecting her money without a single care in the world....
THIS LADY SHOULD ONLY READ THE COMMENT OF ANONYMOUS 7.03PM. THE BEST SO FAR. SHE SAID IT ALL FROM EXPERIENCE.
God punish devil, wetin I dey fight my husband for lack of sex cos, I go jump-start tire, no erection again, chineke I beg borrow me him prick o, cos my own now want turn me to Nun, in fact the thing don dey block!
For me, I think its a wrong move reporting him to your pastor or his dad especially if u haven't discussed the problem with him first. Third parties in a marriage can bring all sorts of problems. My advice is call his attention, talk to him, tell him you will try to give him as frequent as possible but he shouldn't feel bad the days that you don't bulge. It's an intimate matter and should be solved by both of you. Pray to God as well to help him understand and give u the strength to hold in...talk to him as many times as you can, not just once or thrice and if u must talk to someone else, his father is a better option.
She has to learn how to deal with it.. It's PART of her duties as a wife. and there's a scripture in the bible that requires her to fulfill that duty, if her husband finds that scripture, he can use it against her if she reports to their pastor. and I think it's a bad idea to bring 3rd parties into it, I feel for her tho, but she needs to learn to enjoy and endure it, does she want him to cheat on her?
Wrong move
Pls who is this your husband?
Lol a man wants to knack everyday and U r complaining?
Nawa for some women oh! I'm a mother and a worker BLAH blah blah. Pls women keep their sex lives very alive even at that. No excuse. Every other day is not enough self in my opinion lol!
My dear I think u should look 4 energy booster, cos I was once in ur shoes and after plenty complaining he started getin it else. Wher nw I av loost count of his girlfriends and most times don't get it wen I want it, I am filled wit total regrets so pls don't end up lik me
U hav a man that still finds u sexy after 3 kids and u r complaining..its u who nids jesus..Talk to him abt it means u r giving him permission to get it elsewhere..U nid to find d fun in d sex darling..
Nawa shes lucky
madam u knw wetin u dey do at all..u beta learn how to cope with ur hubby sex life and stop complaining of the whole bullshit beta see it as a blessing .
Too much of everything is bad
We should all be considerate to each other
Too much of everything is bad
We should all be considerate to each other
i feel you should talk to him first before telling a third party. he has to understand how you feel and you should also pray about it. i pray everything work well for you. the earlier the better so he doesn't go outside to cheat.
wrongest move.
If you keep complaining, sharp girls will grab him for you.
Constant sex with your hubby is the best woman. you so lucky.
I don't understand your problem. If house work too much get a house help. Doesn't need to be live in. Can come a few times a week. Some women are begging for it and here you are complaining. If you don't want him throw him this way joor! Hubby ain't touched me in 7 months. Says its BP medication. In fact it is more than 7 months coz when he did it is for 2 minutes. And you are complaining when some of us have been turned into nuns!!
Do not report him to anybody, channel the matter to GOD not your pastor oh then sit him down or rather wake him up say 2 or 3am and talk to him in a mature and polite manner, make him understand what your are passing through that you a'int running from your responsibilities etc.Linda i sight you.
u can get help mate to do d work for u,
Take it easy wt ur husband wat u re cry out is a family issue and handle it within d family circle.am advise u don t involve anybody settle it in a mature way and always pray over him
Dont ever think of talking about bed room matters outside, talk to him about it and pray. But know that it ur right to satisfy him cause if he goes out, may God help u if he still keep u as his wife
Report is needless.
Don't take this out, no, don't speak to his father. continue to make him see reasons why you cant be having as much sex but be careful so as not to push him out
Shut up. Moderation is golden.
Shut up. So she should get a nanny so her kids will be kidnapped. And the fact that sex is part of marriage does not mean it should be excess.
I will break his egg plant
Why so pained and stupid? Abi na you be the husband of the woman? ChoiiiiChoiiii. God has caught you. Libers get in here
Henry Eze, get your ugly, sweaty and smelly face off here. Jobless drone
Awwwwwwwww. Sad married duo
Lol. Im female but i like you. And yes, i am bisexual. We can get that libido up
Nanny so they will kidnap the children?
Why are some of you so daft? Some people don't indulge in sex before marriage so there is no way to know.
Dats bad for de man,u re his wife, so he shhuld help u in house chores.
These are some of d tins u shud learn about ur spouse during courtship, courtship is not meant to for men to spoil their women, is get to knw eachother beta and see if u can live with ur prospective spouse.. cos my dear marriage is for beta or for worse....u jst hv to tolerate him
Babe come and buy multimaca from me, na d man go begin run frm u. It's a natural aphrodisiacs. Add 2B265755
And who says he is not going else where....ma dear u just got more sexy to him...pls talk to God abt it,he is d only one who can help u out here...
Lol.. pray he get transfer to bornu
try & talk to him
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