From a male LIB reader...
I met my wife whilst on a business trip to Abuja last year. To say she was stunning
is an understatement but what attracted me to her was the attention she
gave her body, watched her weight, smelt nice and was particular of her
general looks. I married her nine months after we began dating and then everything changed. My once beautiful and trendy lady
lost all that dazzle immediately we got married. She stopped using
makeup and fragrance. She seemed to no longer care how she looked and for me that was one of the
things I saw that made me fall in love and marry her. Now it appears all that
has gone and it really saddens me. I feel like
she used all that body attention to lure me and as soon as we got
married decided to show her true nature. I've complained so many times but she doesn't seem to care. Its been six months we've been married and am
already fed up and irritated with this new person. I'm no longer attracted to her. How do I handle
this. What should I do?
267 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 267 of 267Mr man you are not telling us everything. Is she preggers cuz pregnancy or early stage of pregnancy can cause that. Abeg, this is not the right place to bring a six months old .marriage
Lmao.....onye oshi!!!! The man clearly stated that they have been married for 6 months now
Eeeeyaaaa! So sad. I understand ao he feels. Dat y long courtship is advice.
Mr ode! Is this how to advise? Gbagauns all d way! Pls take several seats...nitwit
Pls tell him, he's just a stupid man who neva luvd his wife instead he married her bcos of her beauty, foolish man. I pray she leaves u n find a better person dt will cherish her
That is a great
Linda did you not see the photo prince jobless put on his dp? I think it's high time you stop giving irresponsible and thoughtless people a shine on your blog
Well said folks the bottom. Line is are you meeting her needs financially. When we get married to you men you stop forting the bill and still aspect us to look Good. Get her all the things you like and see if she will not change. Please who those not like looking good tell me.
that is the price u have to pay for being so superficial. Outward beauty fades
Gbam!!! Tell him again
You are stupid....you married her so look for a way to solve ur marriage problems, we are not the one so give u advice....did anyone tell u that good marriages just happen? Have you asked her if she has any problem disturbing her? Is the marriage all about you? From your comment it's obvious you have not even bothered to have a heart to heart talk with her.....marriage is not about the looks but character....if an accident happens to her Godforbid and she becomes disabled that means you will not stay in that marriage.....You do not love her for starters so this is just a test of what your understanding of love is.....ask god to give you wisdom...and am sorry for you if you start cheating cos you are just digging your grave for destruction...whether you men like it or not adultery has it's repacurtions
Linda I wanto send u msg private but I don't knw how to go about it
You deserve what befell you. I can't believe you married someone because of their physical attributes. Deal with it sucker.Be wiser next time and don't bother people with this thrash of a thing you call problem.Poor girl she got married to you thinking you fell in love with the whole package. Thrash of a man.
You are DAFT! DAFT BEYOND REPAIR! So you have the mouth to come and pretty much say you married her for her looks and you're not ashamed. You yourself had better not get a beer belly or gain an ounce of weight for the rest of your life. So what if she has an accident and God forbid, gets disfigured? This is how you will run. Ode! She trapped you into marriage my ass. You used your korokoro eyes to marry someone simply for her looks and body. Obviously you had no plans to stay with her through hard times or if her looks changed or when she gets old. It is people like you that women should be praying not to meet when they're looking for husbands. Men are so freaking two-faced. Instead of telling her you loved her I hope you were telling her that you loved her face, body and scent.
Lol, I can fit laff. He own don set wella. Yeye fowl
He must read your comment o! He shud think. Mtweesh
you are so shallow minded. men like u are the problem of nigeria. im so sure u are one hideous fool. who doesnt work out. u expect to look like a blob while ur wife looks like a 10. who do u think u are. are u prince harry. im not saying your wife shouldnt make an effort to look her best but it seems the only reason u married her was cause she was hot.she sef she make mistake.
men need to realise that women dont look good for them. women look good for themselves. so time to time she may not feel so up to it. an lay low. a real man loves his woman regardless.. doesnt care if she has acres of makeup on or not. change ur mindset douchebag
Why bring his dad into this, Honestly you are stupid
Lol yes she does
You are just stupid
Just wonder why men complain about a lot of trivial things. Very petty creatures.Are your packs still as intact as when she met you? (that's if you ever had sef) arrant nonsense! you for marry mami water na! Long hiss.
Lol yes she does
You married for d wrong reasons Simple. Deal wit it cos weda u like it or not u re married nd its forever.
You have two choices, accept the mistake you have made and deal with it diligently or work away from the marriage before there is a kid involved and it becomes more complicated. This just confines that u married her because of her looks, too bad!
Go and sit down joo.
First and foremost, is she pregnant? If yes pls cut her some slack. Pregnancy makes u loose urself esp in d 1st trimester u barely av enough stamine to brush ur hair nt to talk of makeup.
If however she's nt then it just lazy, I was lazy after my 1st baby too out of shape and unattractive however d moment I heard my hubby calll me *orobo* I hit d gym fast. Men can be really impatient we ladies av to be @ d top of our game. Now my hubby is scared am having an affair cos of d attention I give to myself plus my obsession wit work out.
My dear this is another reason for infidelity, when what attracted ur spouse to u is no more there..women take note and try as much as u can to be like the day u met him..not always tying wrapper with dirty armpit and undo hair...guy this is time for action,if she can't take words then act.buy her the fraglance and spray her if possible.take her to spa and treat her well.I believe she ll take it from there and remind her always to bath,let's see if she has no shame and moreove u ve to check if she is pregnant..pregnancy can most times lead women to the other side of them..and they ll hate fraglances with passion
Try asking her what the problem is,
make her understand that those things were what attracted you to her that she should look good for you just as you look good for her
I just don't get why a woman will stop looking good for her husband once she is married. make him come running back to you no matter what he sees outside and that is not by looking all fattened and haggard.. Yeah I ought to love a lady by what's inside her but am sure I dnt want her looking like she is the one eating all the food in the house.
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Lol am your husband...so long you will change. Am happy honey pie. Lolzzzz
Did you stop courting her? Some men stop pursuing their wives after they marry them. She will stay looking good for you if you maintain your pre-wedding wooing after the ceremony. Also join a gym and workout together and pay for her to go to the salon every week.
Oga , i can't stop laughing @ ur gist oooo! Am sure when u saw her and made up ur mind to marry her, u were saying all d fat girls shld go and die! Ur sense na ur leg e dey, 4 u to marry a woman bcos of her container and not her content. Sorry na ur middle name bcos u ll ve to live with it all ur life. Anyway don't give up, continue to remind her dat u married her make up and body spray and weight control, so dat she can keep ur wife alive 4 u.
Haaaa! Broda, eti fi ori gbale ri.. Pele
Comments are so funny here.Guys!men!boys please note that wen u see a beautiful gurl outside and she is clean and smells good.her total package from head to toe is nothing less than 200k.call it vain if u lk or unrealistic but its true.Ladies are collectors of things.so when u marry a woman and u expect her 2 b what you see wen ur eye jam am.uer a thief o.so please give her monthly allawee asides from general expenses.lipstick is 3500 now biko!I dnt know y uer complaining ooooo.all those times she dey collect from popsy,friends intending 2 court or woo her,as u don marry her na.market don close.so please take control.nothing good come cheap.Be a man and ur eye sef lk better.Go and talk to REAL MEN that ve beautiful wives make they show balance sheet of what their financial input in these ladies life has yielded 2.(Beautiful wife)women make una d tok true biko.its not easy 2 fine na!gstrings is 1850 for market now,I no tok designer o!gbam please stop complaining and hustle more.To all the boyfriends and real men wey sabi wetin I dey talk and support their women with EGO!I hail o....to all the opportunist who want to enjoy what other better men have sowed in our beautiful lives,may u b cut off and blessed with fellow female likeminds like ur unrealistic selves.BELoXY baby
I always wonder why nigerians can never give objective answers to questions instead of insulting the person asking the question, or the subject of the question. Look Mr there are still some unanswered questions, does she have kids now? Have u ever taken time out to take her to the spa and give her a treat? Your manner of approach to her new way of dressing might actually be putting her off, rather than complain, sit her down and tell her how its affecting your feelings towards her. Also make an effort to take her out for a spa treatment as a treat. If u do have kids now, better believe it isn't easy taking care of kids, the homefront, work, and still manage to look good. Back when she wasn't married she wasn't encumbered with all those duties. Women react differently to the natural chores that come with marriage, so cut her some slack and show her some love!
All this guys that complain dont even care 4 themselves either. Please try 2 look good and ask her to join you. Go gyming together and buy her nice stuff. Tell her nice words despite how she looks now n she"l prolly live day n night to welcome you looking beautiful with a tasty dinner and hot sexing. That's what hapens to we women when we are in love we want 2 impress our man. She prolly is fed up with you 2 cos I'm quite sure u don't touch her or smile at her quite as much but u no we women never really give up marriage. We no how to make it work + wicked nigerians will finish you without knowin how u were suffering...lol Love her 1st n she in turn will love you and herself also. Nd please don't be stingy cos brazillian hair or quality dresses n powders that won't cause acne no dey fall from heaven. Check ur pocket n give her treats you can afford. Please husbands same goes for u get a shave, n work out 2 cos no be only men like good things. We love hot n goodlooking men 2. Makes you think of fucking ur husband day n night. As we get older both men n women don't look same u can't stay 25 4ever but 6months? Habaa
husband at that time, she was a seller. she no longer is on the market so no need to advertise period. what where you thinking self? is 9 months not too short? the babe package for you oh.
At anonymous nov 28 9.24pm judging nigerians for insulting the original posters did you read the post self? how can she have had KIDS 6 months in?
OMG! I cant believe this guy, so you married her because of how she looks? LMAOOOO, E don be for you....Learner!!
I agree with you where you said looks are the 1st thing that attract you to people but still your an idiot no offence darlyn but see all that spark n rythm needs 2 people. Like they say it takes 2 to. Tango. After you love the looks you should get to know n love the inner being b4 marriage. U call the Lords name? Read the bible where God said men love ur wife. I hope a woman you love calls it quits when u loose ur job or mayb something's not right wit ur life or looks. Aftral there's no point marrying someone who treats his job like. trash 2 the extent of loosing it he might jst stay poor even if he is big down there doesn't cheat or the most romantic man. Please don't come here n insult other blog visitors. Each comment might have something to offer Dear Mr. Knowitall of course ur a man! Obviosly!. Idiot idiot idiot. Sorry for your future wife except of course ur views change. U sound sane 2 me. I like u with all that spark n rythm thing
For better for worse, till death...., one way out is you are stuck, get it into your head.
all na story! my Guy! carry another woman enter the house... she will sit right and adjust.. na laziness dey do am
means all she was before was just some kinda pretence.. and firt atraction!.. wait u never go her house for 5am to see how swollen her eyes are.. with bad breath? yuck! ma bab get them all yapa.. we even dey polute join.. all na love.. and i don sabi am over 2 years.. and still not yet married.. so you made mistakes russhing into that shit! marriage na life tyme shit not just some short period of tyme!
The very best!!!@mrs bloglord
Na wa ooo. U married her for the wrong reasons bros...
Any woman who'd Come & turn into "a big fat ball of dirty amala " in my house cos she has gotten "married" would so be on her own.No time for that ish yo.
U guyz don't mind dis idiot cos he's d one dat has changed. Nagging men like dis are d once wit d problem. Jst dat dey liv to take out d bim in deir eyes nd focus on d wifes. Dude hv u checked ursef, cos u are actually d one dat has changed.
Lmao @ wise ass. Nice one!
@anon 3:23pm best comment so far
U want my advice? I go give you.....stArt to dey grow pot belle nd no dey baff...I sure say if two of una start who wowo pass fyt. She go change..cos she won't lyk d way u are nd u won't lyk d way she is.so u'll both change nd u wud av learned to look byond physical wen choosing a wife..nuf said
Dude, you married for the wrong reasons
Dude, you married for the wrong reasons
Let your counselor talk to her.
well is simple wen she was a single gal she had donors, young guys who spend on her my dear it takes money to look good are u doing what ur suppose to do as her husband. since ur wife has a good sense of dressing and taking good care of her body it simply means u might be the one failing in ur duty to give her enough to be able to look good guys always like good things but most of them dont know how to maintain her.
Errr.... Oga!! I assume ur wife had a rich bf before she married u. he was doing stuffs for her and now, she is suffering from a disease called "stingynities of a husband" *singing* 'better soup na money kill am oh' U dated for 9 months, plus married for 6months. that one year and 3 months. it's enough time for a girl to loose her sassiness. ask urself this questions: is my wife working? do i give her enough money for upkeep? does she have responsibilities in her family? do i give her enough money for herself, after she sends money home?. if your answer is no to these questions, then u know the problem:ego, kudi, owo.
I recently have been saving money throut this year to change my car. and i have changed it. Thank God. but my lack of money has affected my dress sense in d past 10 months. i dey wait make salary come make i scatter balogun and konga... hehehe. cos lack of money to shop was making me loose my shine. so, take heart.
P.S: If she doesn't have ajob, help her get one or open business, so she can have steady income ok?
single girls out there, shine eye oh! cos marriage to a man who can't fend for ur standards can make u drop ur swag. if ur fiance is not rich enough, work hard before u enter house. so u can still shine.
u ave made a mistake in falling in love with her cos of her looks,love is not all bout dat.love goes beyond looks,it is deeper dan dat.the only solution is to sit her down n talk to her bout ow wat she's doing is killing u.communication is wat marriage is all about.
Funny how some women here are advocating the man should cheat, if and when he cheats the same women will voltron for the wife and rain down curses on him for cheating.
As for the man, you got married for the wrong reason, but then you should speak to your wife and help her change too.
There is actually no need to insult peeps dropping off comments. Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. It is also rude to insult the person with the problem. Nigerians can be so rude!!!Before you know it, someone will say 'I am being down to earth'.(pfff!!)
To you the 'plaintiff', u can not divorce her because of looks. Though u married her because of that and much more....Look on the brighter side, she has got good character which is key.
I think u should probe further on what the problem really is. Be patient!!
You will be amazed what you find out.Pray about it also. There is nothing that cannot be conquered.
loooool, these comments are really cracking ma ribs...oga sorry oh looool
lol
In as much as marrying someone should not be based on looks, physical appearance matters. So lets stop deceiving ourselves and own the fact that both partners have to look good for each other. However, Mr. u should understand that women most of the time have so much responsibilty (though most men don't understand this) when they get married that they are not able to do things that they use to do when they were single, so I advice you help her out with house chores, have a loving conversation about your concerns with her and make sure support her financially with the LOOKING GOOD BUSINESS. GOOD LUCK!
Appearances can be deceiving
ANYWHERE, YOU HAVE SAID YOURS BUT THE LADY HASN'T SAID HERS. SO UNTIL I HEAR HER OWN SIDE OF THE STORY, NO NEED TO ADVISE.......MOUTHS SEALED. NA SO UNA DEY MAKE STORY SWEET LIKE SUGAR. WEN U GO MARRY FOR LOOKS AND FRAGRANCE U BIN TELL US FOR SOCIAL MEDIA?
I DON,T SEEM TO GET IT. A LADY WHO HAS BEEN VERY CONSCIOUS OF HER LOOKS ALL OF A SUDDEN BECAME MGBEKE OVER NIGHT. PLEASE THERE'S NO ATOM OF TRUTH IN THAT STORY. NOT AS IF SHE CHANGED HER DENOMINATION OR ANYTHING OF THAT SORT. ABEG GIVE ME A BREAK. ONYE ARA!!!
Well, you sort of had this coming for you. Look at all the shallow reasons you gave...her fragrance, giving her body extra care. Well, looks fade no matter how stunning. Get your values straight.
Encourage her,Ά̲̣̥ηϑ U̶̲̥̅̊ knw awt Ȋ̝̊̅§ happening.
Let her always ‾̴̴͡͡‾̴̴͡͡ d picture of wat U̶̲̥̅̊ wnt Ά̲̣̥ηϑ Pray 4 her as d head
Lol is this marriage? You MARRIED her because of her looks?
This one na serious learner.
this is what happens when you marry for lust....serves you right.
Nice
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