South African women married to Nigerian men have narrated the discrimination they face for marrying men outside their country. Seeing the disaffection their kinsmen show them after finding love in the hands of Nigerian men, the women decided to form an association, the United Nigerian Wives in South Africa (UNWISA) club about two years ago where they give support and succor to each other.
42 year old Lindwela Uche who serves as the chairwoman of the group told AFP that they saw the xenophobic attacks coming and alerted their husbands but they did not take their warning seriously
"We saw this thing coming and that’s why we formed this association. If only they (the authorities) had listened to us… they would have known that there’s a fire burning slowly and they would have seen how to tackle it.”she said
One of the members of the association,“Lufunu Orji who is married to a Nigerian resource consultant, Ogbonnaya Orji, says being married to a foreigner is very challenging
"Being married to a foreigner is very challenging. You often spend your time defending yourself and then you defend your foreign husband for being himself. Just before I got wed to my husband, I lost two very best friends of mine. They thought I was out of my mind" she said
Another member of the group who gave her name as Uche, said her 13-year-old daughter returned from school a while ago, complaining that her teacher had told her “not to bring that Nigerian mentality here” after she and classmates were noisy in class.
“We need to be protected, we need our children to be protected… and our husbands to be treated with dignity,” Uche said
37 year old Thelma Okoro, says the attitude towards them “are negative everywhere we go,”. According to her, wearing traditional Nigerian dress on the street can attract bad comments. She spoke of how her eight-year-old daughter gets mocked by schoolmates over her name “Ngozi” which means “blessing” in Igbo but literally translates to “danger” in Zulu.
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Oh too bad
I did not know this about SAfricans, we are all Africans, we are people, where did the hatred start from
Really?
Touching story. Lindaobserve
SHUO!!!
Useless country.. Their end is coming
E be like say all of them dey marry Igbo. Meanwhile our Igbo maidens here no see husband marry. no Problem. We will now start marrying South African men.= Equation balanced.
All is well
Nawooo EU plz u guyz shld act fast.. dis blood sucking pple need to b brought to book..
Lib freak
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Mehn.... This shit is not funny at all i swear...
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Nawa ooo wetin we nogo see or hear...abeg make una park well oo b4 una go start anoder attack!
They are not just married to a nigerian men but igbo men.....nice! But pls make una leave our pple alone if that's wat is causing all dis probs. Very clear its nt only that de take their jobs away frm dem but dia women. Nawaa
Pele to dose affected o
NA WA!! SO MUCH DISCRIMINATION AND TO THINK WE ARE SO WELCOMING IN OUR LAND!! SOUTH AFRICANS NEED TO DISABUSE THEIR MINDS - WE ARE NOT THE ENEMY!!
It is just a case of small mindedness and nothing more.
This is highly unfortunate how South Africa is laying the foundation of discrimination within the Africa continent. The problem I see in this whole afrophobia brouhaha is leadership in nature, as the SA leadership has failed to educate their citizens about how they got to the level they are as a nation. They need to fully include their history into their educational curriculum in order to teach their children the help they received from their fellow Africans they are maltreating today. Once again, it is highly unfortunate what these women are facing for marrying Nigerians. I really feel for them.
Am the only one Noticing the igbo names. Well I think they all need to be protected and their rights Observed
hmm;
this xenophobia is secretly in most south africans...
cos majority of them; defend these senseless attacks
It is well oh
All of em ar igbos, i So much love us, we dominate whereva we go..
This is not well written or properly sourced. You've posted about this group before. Is this new or from the old article?
Mtchewww. . .Smh
Very sad
It is well
The surname I ve seen are all igbos.. So na only Igbo men dey marry them ni?
South africans are foolish! I used to feel pity for them, but now all I feel is disdain towards them.MF's........
Na only igbo men full SA. Just asking. And I want to hope they will respect themself and not think SA is a no man land
Nawa o, when some nigerians feel so proud to be half south african here in nigeria, yet dis people still disassociate themselves from us. It is not easy to be a true hustler, you would always have haters
WEN DEY ARE MEKIN MONEY FROM DES COUNTRIES DEY FORGET DSCRIMINATION..DEY WANT THEIR MONEY..THUNDER FIRE AFRICANS DAT DSCRIMINATES WETIN OYIBO GO DO DEN??TOMJERRYSWIT
Is it just me or are all the women married to Igbo men......Igbo kwenu.....we too much.......we are always in charge...... Ladies dig us everywhere.... Unlike dirty Yoruba and Hausa
Is it just me or are all the women married to Igbo men......Igbo kwenu.....we too much.......we are always in charge...... Ladies dig us everywhere.... Unlike dirty Yoruba and Hausa
*Nigerian mentality * lolz..... Eyaaaaa...south Africa is soo scared of NAIJA
Shame on them for hating their fellow human being
Ubanagum
Ngozi in Zulu means danger?! Lmao,
Ngozi in any language is danger.
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The we go with Igbos being a nuisance.
Anyway, hard as it may be to say, people need to take it easy on the igbos. It must be hard having to be so persecuted.
Igbos accept a hand of friendship.
#IgbosNeedLoveToo
this people need serious training...and their people here in Nigeria are so wicked...i parked my car in a parking slot somewhere in lekki just to buy a recharge card...before i know what happen a lady just blocked me with her jeep and said the slot belong to her and i will not drive out till her husband come back (both are south africans... but trust me nau havn know what they are made of i dealt with the woman as they did to our people over there in their country...mtchwwwwww
Hmm... Linda, our brothers are doing 'wonders' in South Africa o. If no be Okoro, na Uche. I pray the association grows from strength to strength, so that, we take-over completely. Sooner, we shall be hearing street names such as 'Okoro Avenue' in South Africa.
Nation against nation
The Bible made it clear
Discrimination is one of the many reasons
I don't like SA.
Hmmmmm.
Igbos as usual....dem no dey carry last for foreign matters. Na dem go marry SA, marry Niger, marry Spanish, marry German..even marry Malaysian and Chinese! All in the name of not wanting to identify with Nigeria or for foreign citizenship. Na wa o! God go help una. You claim your country is marginalising you. Why won't she do so when you refuse to sit at home and help her grow?
Igbos as usual....dem no dey carry last for foreign matters. Na dem go marry SA, marry Niger, marry Spanish, marry German..even marry Malaysian and Chinese! All in the name of not wanting to identify with Nigeria or for foreign citizenship. Na wa o! God go help una. You claim your country is marginalising you. Why won't she do so when you refuse to sit at home and help her grow?
just my observation .... most of the nigerian guys they marry are igbos.
Did they marry them for money or what?
So sorry, you better tell your husbands to bring you and your children to Nigerian. We dont discriminate here
So sorry, you better tell your husbands to bring you and your children to Nigerian. We dont discriminate here
this is too much.... make nigerians sef commot for dah side na
Dis south Africa's re fools they re so jealous of Nigerians. Very local things
Nigeria what a country,discriminated just for marrying Nigerian,i think it smacks of jelousy/envy..How I wish we can put aside our differences for once and work together there will be a lot more tangible things to more countries will be envious about.. but alaas! We amongst ourselves are tearing ourselves into shreds and pieces what an irony.
Nawa o,no be small tin o,South Africans should pls staop this attitude o,God will see u,ur children $ husbands through IJN Amen!is ur right fight 4 it!!!
Nawa. But can I be comfortable with my sister marrying a South African. I will give my consent if she insists but that's tough
They need to take this out on their own people and their Government.
Illiteracy is a disease!
Na wa oo
Wtf, y on hell will African be doing dat to his/her own brother or sister, do they think they are special or wot?
lol ..... What else can we say ... Naija
Igbo pple are like jews to me. Lool! Na only una dey marry 4 there?
Lol, ngozi, danger. What a world we are
pity.blackman get probs.
Imagine, dats y der country fail 2 progress beyond whr dey r cos of limitation n discrimination
Imagine, dats y der country fail 2 progress beyond whr dey r cos of limitation n discrimination
i believe the SA had listen to a song titled danger by p square and they loved it. i just loved the SA because they are one, they all stand for themselves even if they are wrong, Unlike 9ja that will prefer foreigners to marginalize her citizen and make billions out of them while paying them N4,000 per months. thanks God we still have nations like Ghana that wont accept this.
Ngozie means danger in zulu? Are u serious?
This is becoming too much SA should stop those nonsense they are doing oh!
Choi
This SA I knew all Africans hate Nigerians sooooooo much. We just have to learn and stand on our own
Hahahahaha u go fear ngozi na. HolyGhost bundle of blessing danger. Thezulu's dey there ngozi go dey outshine all of una cos of her name. Smh
Abeg, enough of dis craze biko. Linda take note!
Pls if that is the case, Nigerian men pls come back home oooooooooooooo. Leave those stupid SA people. When they have aparthied problems again, they should not come to Nigeria for help. They leave the whites that fought them during aparthied and they are driving away their black foreign brothers that helped them during aparthied. Senseless fools.
That serves Nigerian men right. They will leave us here and go elsewhere to marry and they think I will marry myself. Gold diggers
this is the front of my house yeepaaaa......jorrrisen made it to lib
I am sure Mandela will be tossing and turning in his grave seeing how black SA people are scattering all that he had built over the years. They want to destroy the relationship that Mandela buit with foreign African countries. Shame!
This is deep, very deep. It goes to show that most South Africans are tribalistic.
#TeamBlessed#
trust me, if you're South African and dating/Married to a Nigeria, there's a lot of stigma attached to it... It's so stupid
Eeya
Nigeria should be made better for them to come back home.This is what poor leadership has caused to a country that is supposed to be giant of Africa.Tim28
Wow! These guys are really backward if you ask me.In this age and time?
I believe the south african government is not doing enough to stop all this madness, Hmm God will help them!!!
Nawa o,should there be a problem marrying someone who isnt from the same country as u are? Cant imagine. I am wishing to marry a sincere and pious muslim man from Dubai if i dnt marry a nigeria. Insha Allah
#Hajia Mufliat#
All these women bear Ibo names and I wonder why. Very soon the Ibos will be saying they own SA. They developed SA. They build SA.
Nna mehn, na only my ibo brothers dey go SA? We too bad oh! Ibo kwenu! Don't worry SA ladies Naija men will take care of u, no mind those jobless and unambitious SA men.
That's good
God will take control.
Kunle Ola
So it is now a FACT that SOUTHAFRICANS are REALLY XENOPHOBIC ANIMAL
They sound like they are really loved and taken care of my their 9ja husbands. I remember Alex Akinyele had two SA wives. They like oour men of whatever tribe
LINDA POST NEWS NAAA...ABI NEWS DON FINISH NI....
SOMETHING IS SERIOUSLY WRONG WITH THE PSYCHE OF THESE sOUTH aFRICANS in the way they see other Africans especially Nigerians.
I hope this changes before it drives them to something more sinister.
Yawn fest....next please!
Discrimination is contrary to human right....
Hian, like seriously! Africans spiking Africans. I really don't understand.
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SA blacks are busy fighting their foreign black brothers meanwhile the WHite people in SA are planning to take back SA land. See proof in this link: https://twitter.com/Doc_Oosthuizen/status/593426467314388994
Nigeria boycutted the Common Wealth games during aparthied because they told the UK government that until they release Mandela, they will not attend. Other African countries boycutted too because Nigeria started it. UK government now decided to punish Nigeria by making visa a necessary requirement for Nigerians travelling to the UK but before then, Nigerians did not need a visa to enter the UK. They dont even know the sacrifices that we have made on their behalf. Shame!
Nigerian president at that time, was one of those that strongly fought for the release of Mandela that's why Nigeria was the first country Mandela visited after he left prison. These SA people should go and wake up their ancestors from the grave so that they can tell them how Nigeria and other African countries assisted them during aparthied. They are so jealous and bitter about Nigerians because they have a complex and feel intimidated by them. Shame!
I am yet to see a smart & intelligent South African. Their reason for Xenophobia is so senseless and stupid
Them dey craze.They should not worry, God will change our story for good. make i dare see their legs for Nigeria.
Their women throw themselves on Nigerian men because they said Nigerian men know how to take care of women. South African men are very lazy and nasty to their women. So is it out fault!!!!!!!
Them dey craze.They should not worry, God will change our story for good. make i dare see their legs for Nigeria.
lol i can seee
If you have a baby out of wedlock from a South African man, he'll just abandone you but the SA women said that they dont mind having a child for Nigerian men even without marriage because they never forget their children. They take care of their children even the ones born out of wedlock. Instead of SA men to go and find out why their women are attrackted to Nigerian me and learn from them, they are busy molesting them. Incompetent senseless fools
This seems to be south africa greatest challenge.........but i do want to find out.wether its the same treatment given to the europians over there
Igbo's in laws never even welcome their igbo's daughters in law finish e come be Yeye south africa's. Make una tell una pple to stop Killing my people ooo. #pigin/broken LOL.
SA refugees that ran to Nigeria during aparthied attended schools in Nigeria free of charge. Courtesy of Nigerian government. These SA illiterates need to be educated on how other African countries helped them during aparthied. Is this the way to pay back? Some of them are even educated illiterates. Bastards!
And that is a good thing?
Till people start macheting your people?
And you're not ashamed, your men have abandoned their women for foriegners, even amongst your own people, your women are seen as jump-offs
Igbos being a nuisance everywhere.
Ngozi means danger in Zulu?! Lol ... Aaaah in Yoruba, it's another word for irritating gossip. Lol
Eu Ke?
I ve been painstakingly trying to study u in order to understand how n why you think the way u do, that's y i ve never launch a Tomahawk on ur location.
Dude Eze, i think u r mentally sick.
I fully support u gettin help quick cos Z is somehow concern about u Son.
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All this is just Inferiority complex @ work. If they felt good and confident abt themselves, I see no reason 4 d hatred. I wonder why d world is just watching, and deir govt of no use. I had no idea this country had so much foolishness...Lord Knows I can't relate. Mtcheeew.
Thunder fire dat ur latrine called mouth
Discrimination for marrying hard working men instead of lazy ones?
OLUCHI LAMBERT!!! MAY GOD SEIZE THAT YOUR TONGUE!!! What do you mean that Nigerians do not discriminate when Igbo people are the MAIN CULPRITS when it comes to tribalism. See all these Igbo hypocrites o!!!! You know how to treat outsiders well but are extremely hateful to your country men. IDIOTS!!!!
Very unfortunate
@anon 3:08. Itz not surprising. Yoruba=South Africa. Xenophobic n lazy. Little wonder ur languages r similar
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This useless rare, are you sure you are okay, now its henry and not wihiemina again abi? You need help too take it from me.
Cheiii! Ihe nwoke Igbo na atooo! Igbo still the best since the world began. To make ego them dey! Business,ha no there, Investment -NO1, is to marry them wives and wife them well- That one na moi-moi case,cos na them specialty. Very sharp bad guys...see how the women re sounding,so in love not ready to give up on them. And for all these Ape nd monkeys calling out Igbo here,u all re sooooo useless as to where una come from insult Igbo's gorillas.
Ladies dig igbo men cos they are fool when it comes to p***y but would rather marry a Yoruba man...I know of some ladies that would rather marry a Yoruba than igbo.
And they are all married to Igbos. Igbo men are too industrious and women love to fall in love with them and marry them not minding if they loose friends and family in d process. God bless my people.
They don't hate Nigerians, they hate igbos who so happen to be Nigerians. #SadFact
I have it on good authority that in the field of pipe laying, Nigerians are engineers in chief.
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@Henry Eze, you're clearly misinformed and lack (I dare say) any form of exposure. These caustic comments will get you nowhere but fill your life with bitterness and misery. Take caution. #Read #MingleWithTheRightPeople #GetALife
You cannot blame these women, south African men are weak and all have aids. How else could the white man oppress them for as long as they did. Those people are cowards. I hear Naija men are decimating their females there. They are feeble minded Africans and when was the last time a black south African actually made history for something important? Apart from Mandela of course.
You cannot blame these women, south African men are weak and all have aids. How else could the white man oppress them for as long as they did. Those people are cowards. I hear Naija men are decimating their females there. They are feeble minded Africans and when was the last time a black south African actually made history for something important? Apart from Mandela of course.
Is either u are from Enugu or u live there
You wish! Lmao
Which abandonment? Please shut up and stop saying stupid things. IT IS NOT OUR FAULT THAT EVERYWHERE WE GO WE SHINE AND SUCCEED (at least the vast majority of us). So we should now not achieve so that people won't kill us out of jealousy? Please think and type something sensible next time.
Igbo people in SA don't move there as a group. They go as individuals or at best families. Don't question why igbos are there question why Yorubas Hausas etc are not their. Mtchwww. I don't know what u people's problem is. Igbo this Igbo that abeg are u obsessed with us?
Let me break it down to u simply once and for all. It's a matter of statistics. Since 90% of the Nigerians in SA are Igbo's almost all of the SA women who say they are married to Nigerians are married to specifically igbos. Because there are more Igbos in South Africa than another ethnic group in Nigeria by far. So that's why. Shut up with your tribalistic and jealous inaccurate assumptions.
They bear Igbo names because they married Igbo men! Why are you so stupid? Should they bear Edo names before? Please use the brain God gave you to think, and don't let your foolish hatred for the Igbos spill into everything u say. It's embarrassing.
Help me ask. And Igbo men specifically always are known for spoiling their wives. Who no like bettah thing
My dear you said it best. Pure inferiority complex acting on them. Can u blame them at all.
The women marry Igbo alone, because like their men. They are uneducated and ill mannered. Which Yoruba man will marry ugly fat loose Southfield women. They are dogs. And very very promiscuous. I lived in south is before. The Yoruba are the doctors there. The if is are drug paddlers. Loafers. African food sellers. Ayo rubs man will not stoop so low to marry south is women. When there a beautiful educated Yoruba woman at home.. We the Yoruba doctors know ourselves in sa. And we hang out together. Only Igbo will date their likes. Drug peddles. Miscreatst
Well I think their husbands should bring them back to this country or relocate to somewhete else. This is so sad coming from the same African country.
Omo igbo, if it wasn't by God's grace and Yoruba kindness, your mother's plans to abort you would have been fulfilled. You better don't use your mouth to bite the hands that feed you. Mumu.
You ate bad mackerel and now you have a parasites feeding on your small already demented brain? They haven't started killing your people yet. Idiot
Too bad. Bring back our wives..
on point my broda,that settles all these shits happening all over the world
grow my silly ass,why didnt it grow al these decades?many has died at 80 and above without living a fulfiled life,why didnt things change to better their lives?
lol.dont take it out on us,we are only seeking for greener pasture our country could not render.
they waited for his demise before the xenophobic attack.they wouldnt dare if mandela was alive.
gd luck
tell him/her....they will bear ur papa name nahh,ode...
they say we are hard working and our men sabi f**k,chaiii...
on point,i hail
sharrap,what do you know ?yourba noise makers
@anon 3.08, never have I read a more idiotic comment. Scumbag
You cannot even spell well and you claim to be a doc. Lol
Even the south Africa women are stupid. They should know that Nigerian men marry them to get papers and at the end comes back home and marry a homely Nigerian woman. My brother married a south Africa n woman, still came down home and married from my home. Why I asked him why, he told me that u can put up hope on south Africa n wife that they can disappoint u at the dying minute. We only marry them for our business. They don't wed their south Africa n wives, they only do legal marriage with them. So that when they come back home to marry their beautiful Nigerian girls, they will do both trad and church wedding. So south Africa n women should widen up, but if u feel u will help our men there thanks
Too bad
Wow! I've never seen this type of segregation before typical I guess as I'm a coloured girl, a proud South African and proudly married to a proud Nigerian 'igbo' guy. We are both proud Africans. I realize that this blog is old however I cannot help but comment on the tangible disdain Nigerians have for each other. Yes South Africans are a vastly Ill informed nation i agree. Nigerians on the other hand are not as most are well informed of their past. So now I beg to change the topic. Why is the giant of Africa not leading the way to change Africa's future? Yes you are the giant of Africa nigeria! Stand up for yourself for Africans and be the catalyst you should be! South Africa should look up to you as you have been through it all, you can be that again and much more... I do fear for my country as we are not half as industrious as you are but I also know that the reason why you globe trot and come and marry us is because we have positive qualities so let us stop putting each other down and stop letting the supremists laugh at as Africans !!! I beg o...! Let's unite for a better Africa...
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