Dear LIB readers: My brother is still friends with my ex, is it right?
From a female LIB reader
I dated one of my brother's best friends for a year and two months and broke up with him just last November. My ex has moved on and so have I but what pisses me off right now is that my brother is still friends with this dude. I'm angry at that because our relationship ended because his friend cheated on me with someone in our inner circle. I expected my brother to at least have my back and be on my side on this one but he's still hanging out with my ex and even going out with him and his new girlfriend (not the girl he cheated on me with). I confronted him some days ago and he said what we had was between us and he never got involved and their friendship is between them and I shouldn't get involved. I'm currently not on speaking terms with my brother because I feel betrayed by him. I was hurt by his friend and he would continue to be friends with him? Where's the loyalty? I've cut him out of my life until he cuts his friend out of his life. My brother is wrong for still being friends with a man that hurt his baby sister, is he not?
NA WA O!... see gobe. babe grow up and move on. Do u really expect him to stop being friends with his friend cos ur relationship did not go well. am sure he warned you not to date his friend...maybe this is the reasons why guys dont like their friends dating their sisters. Anyway ur being petty, suck it up and move on.
no doubt ur ex had no regard for either you or ur brother,...but boys wud be boys...most of dem dnt see cheating as a big deal...maybe ur brother even plays the same games as ur ex does...who knows
THEY WERE FRIENDS BEFORE YOU CHOSE TO DATE HIM, AND THEY WILL REMAIN FRIENDS LONG AFTER YOU ARE GONE. THE CASE WILL HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT IF YOUR BROTHER MET THE GUY THROUGH YOU BUT THAT IS NOT THE CASE. YOU BEST BE WISE AND LET IT GO
This kind of situation is really messy and its better to avoid it totally. I am not in your place but I have been betrayed by mutual friends during an ugly break up. I understand what it means to be betrayed and how hurt you might be.
For me I think you should totally forget about everyone for now but yourself. Take care of yourself, heal, recover, get over the situation. Step away from your brother and your ex and mutual friends too until you are entirely over the incident.
For me I was so pained because all the betrayal came from girls I thought would be sensible and understand where I was coming from. It was really painful but with time ( plenty time and absence from them ) I'm healing.
My biggest decision was whether or not to keep a friend that was halfly on my side and halfly against me ( shey you get, somewhat two-faced or have loyalty to both sides of the issue ). At the end of the day I was like abeg my head is paining me jor can't be stressed out like this so I cut her off!
Maybe I would reconnect with her when I'm totally, totally over the matter and whatever her stands on the issue is I wouldn't be moved! Maybe I wouldn't! Not all friendships are meant to last a lifetime. It just depends on how life rolls.
But you my dear, are dealing with family. No matter how long it takes to heal know that you must reconcile with your brother at some point. And in future avoid getting mixed up in relationships that involve too many mutual friends. I hope you read this comment and feel better. Take care of yourself dear! Its soooo important.
Hi girl friend; One of the few philosophies i have in my life is, "IF i can't be happy, does not mean others can't"
If you adopt this, you'd see that everyone has the right to be happy, and what happens to us does not mean people have to go through the same thing, and vice versa.
Be happy for your brother ecause he has friends, what happened between you and your ex is none of his business. And to straight-talk - what happens between your brother and his friend is none of your business.
What kind of primary 5 stunt is that? (Mscheww!!!!). So he shouldnt talk to his friend again? That's one of the things you shouldve considered before dating your brothers close friend.
Please get over yourself and love your brother no matter what!
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«Oldest ‹Older 401 – 411 of 411NA WA O!... see gobe. babe grow up and move on. Do u really expect him to stop being friends with his friend cos ur relationship did not go well. am sure he warned you not to date his friend...maybe this is the reasons why guys dont like their friends dating their sisters. Anyway ur being petty, suck it up and move on.
no doubt ur ex had no regard for either you or ur brother,...but boys wud be boys...most of dem dnt see cheating as a big deal...maybe ur brother even plays the same games as ur ex does...who knows
Thank you oh. Me too. I'm even friends with my ex sef. He didn't cheat though lol
THEY WERE FRIENDS BEFORE YOU CHOSE TO DATE HIM, AND THEY WILL REMAIN FRIENDS LONG AFTER YOU ARE GONE. THE CASE WILL HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT IF YOUR BROTHER MET THE GUY THROUGH YOU BUT THAT IS NOT THE CASE. YOU BEST BE WISE AND LET IT GO
I just Phat!! LMAO!!!
This kind of situation is really messy and its better to avoid it totally. I am not in your place but I have been betrayed by mutual friends during an ugly break up. I understand what it means to be betrayed and how hurt you might be.
For me I think you should totally forget about everyone for now but yourself. Take care of yourself, heal, recover, get over the situation. Step away from your brother and your ex and mutual friends too until you are entirely over the incident.
For me I was so pained because all the betrayal came from girls I thought would be sensible and understand where I was coming from. It was really painful but with time ( plenty time and absence from them ) I'm healing.
My biggest decision was whether or not to keep a friend that was halfly on my side and halfly against me ( shey you get, somewhat two-faced or have loyalty to both sides of the issue ). At the end of the day I was like abeg my head is paining me jor can't be stressed out like this so I cut her off!
Maybe I would reconnect with her when I'm totally, totally over the matter and whatever her stands on the issue is I wouldn't be moved! Maybe I wouldn't! Not all friendships are meant to last a lifetime. It just depends on how life rolls.
But you my dear, are dealing with family. No matter how long it takes to heal know that you must reconcile with your brother at some point. And in future avoid getting mixed up in relationships that involve too many mutual friends. I hope you read this comment and feel better. Take care of yourself dear! Its soooo important.
Hi girl friend;
One of the few philosophies i have in my life is, "IF i can't be happy, does not mean others can't"
If you adopt this, you'd see that everyone has the right to be happy, and what happens to us does not mean people have to go through the same thing, and vice versa.
Be happy for your brother ecause he has friends, what happened between you and your ex is none of his business.
And to straight-talk - what happens between your brother and his friend is none of your business.
What kind of primary 5 stunt is that? (Mscheww!!!!). So he shouldnt talk to his friend again? That's one of the things you shouldve considered before dating your brothers close friend.
Please get over yourself and love your brother no matter what!
Lol Even USA will date China when they become enemies with Russia
Lol Even USA will date China when they become enemies with Russia
first rule of sibling dating siblings friends "DONT!!!" Im pretty sure your brother dogs out girls so...
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