I'm really heartbroken right now and I need to get this out of me as I don't know what to do. I have been with my husband for over 7years and married 5. Been praying to God for children. Came back home from work early this afternoon to find him with this girl on our matrimonial bed. She had just taken her top off on top of him. It really hurts mostly because I am a devoted wife and Christian and he knows very well what my home means to me....My bed for that matter.We have been best friends since we got married and we hardly have any friends left as we are always together.. It's been great and although something always reminds me that a man will be a man. I never thought he could bring a stranger into our home.....my bed
She said they met on FB and this was the first time they saw each other physically. She was very apologetic, she didn't realise he is married. They were just starting when I walked in and she said they've never had the main thing.
For the last 3 yrs I've covered 98% of all our expenses. He doesn't earn much so I pay for everything......the rent ...everything plus any other financial support you can think of. I feel so used. He is divorced and his previous wife left him for the same reason. I should have dug deeper before we got married but love covered my eyes.
The normal me wants to close this chapter completely by walking away and just starting my life afresh. But being a christian the spirit of God in me is saying I should exercise patience. Which I know is the right thing but will be difficult.
What's most upsetting is his lack remorse. I kicked him out of the house when I let the the girl out as I just couldn't stand him. He came back hours after to pick his bag...which I am happy about as I need a break. Gosh my blood is BOILING......the normal me is so tempted to react.
Please someone tell me what you'll do in this situation. I am home and tempted to go back out and just start a new life.
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 225 of 225MY DEAR, WHAT YOUR HUSBAND HAS DONE IS TERRIBLE. PLEASE TAKE HEART. I THANK GOD YOU'REQUIRE A XHRISTIAN. MY ADVICE IS THAT YOU GET DOWN ON YOUR KNEES AND PRAY FOR GOD''S GUIDANCE ON THIS MATTER. THE BIBLE ALLOWS DIVORCE ON THE GROUNDS OF ADULTERY SO IF YOU DECIDE TO END YOUR MARRIAGE IT WON'T BE A SIN AGAINST GOD. BUT DON'T FORGET THAT EVEN THOUGH GOD PERMITTED DIVORCE UNDER THIS CONDITION, HE ALSO SAID THAT HE "HATES" DIVORCE AND I THINK THIS IS THE ONLY TIME OR ONE OF THE FEW TIMES GOD USED THE WORD "HATE" IN THE BIBLE. PLEASE ALLOW THE SPIRIT OF GOD TO GUIDE YOU AND ABOVE ALL PRAY FOR THE SPIRIT OF OBEDIENCE TO FOLLOW GOD'S WILL FOR YOU, WHETHER IN THE MARRIAGE OR OUTSIDE. I AM ALSO PRAYING FOR YOU. I KNOW IT'S NOT EASY BUT PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
He broke, sterile, and arrogant!...honey what r u waiting for???? Damn girl!
U keep talkining like the foool dt ya are@nnenne gud help any man dt wil. Keep ya @ home as a wife...ur comments are alws demonic
Stupid LIB readers with underage brains and feeling important commenting and insulting someone who needs help. Just because you people are using the Internet doesn't change the fact that 90% of you are low lives and can't even see beyond your nose. If you have nothing to say, shut up and learn from people who do. Negative comments online does not give you a life or an opinion, it only shows how backward and uneducated you are. Secondly, do your research before you comment on any topic you bunch of retarded idiots. Thirdly, focus on how to acquire knowledge or enrol in a Uni. It's disgusting reading the nonsense that comes out of your head. You are using the name of God in vain, do you even read the bible or listen to only the nonsense that comes out of the mouth of your NO GOOD preachers? Take up the Bible, Quran, Hebrew Bible or whatever religion you are and gain some knowledge you disgusting sets of butt swipes. Have a nice day.
Pls just let him go. It might be hard but that's the best right now.... The Lord is your strength
DON'T USE CHRISTIANITY TO LIVE A MISERABLE LIFE! U Can DIVORCE ON THE GROUNDS OF ADULTERY!!!!!!!!! MOVE ON! MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY! Find THE RIGHT MAN
Linda why you don't like to post my comments ? I hv commented on issues. Is it because I posted it as anonymous
All these people here posting and commenting rubbish. @ poster. U should think twice in this marriage bcos to me. U are been used. That man has not iota of respect for u and he didn't even apologise. It means that he us tired. Maybe he planned this whole scene to get out of the marriage. Or maybe not.. u better think what is best for u. Since there is no kids. I guess u walk away. He is definitely not ur husband and if he is the good lord will guide u. Pray and take diplomatic decision. Use ur head not ur heart
My dear, so many things wrong with your relationship, first you are the breadwinner, 2nd you are married to a divorcee whose wifekicked him out for cheating. The great thing now is that, there are no children between you, which I see as a blessing! two things you either count your losses or seek counselling, I bet you didnt have proper marriage counselling. I have experienced similar and seriously wanted to leave him but I have two children and sought counsel. I wish you the best 'MEN' !
Divorce him.....he's draining u financially & emotionally
Joshua Makinde, i concur with u, u may need 2 look 4 any of his serious family member 'cos it's not really about u, it's about him not coming back 2 u & moving on without considering u
Joshua Makinde, i concur with u, u may need 2 look 4 any of his serious family member 'cos it's not really about u, it's about him not coming back 2 u & moving on without considering u
In my opinion u are nt ready to be happy. Bringing a woman to ur matrimonial bed is the height of it. It means he doesn't respect your marriage. The earlier you move on, the better for you.
Poster, you are funny. You didn't know there is a spirit of God when you were marrying a divorcee? You claim to be a staunch Christian but forget that a Christian is not supposed to marry a divorcee. You need to get your religious prospects right first before you find a solution to your current marital predicament.
@olawale and anon 4.04, you should appraise each situation individually which is what anon did.
My dear if true this is a true life story, forgive him if he realised his mistake and came begging. All men are equal they re full of lies, if you leave him and start afresh, with all sincerity you will need to start afresh more than twenty times. All you need is prayers and forget acting like learner, bcus more will still happen.....
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Cheers
This guy I think has brought you more problems than blessings.
Children?...no child.
Spending on you/house?....No.
Faithful to you?No.
Respect his marriage?..No.
Are you the first wife?No.
Was he faithful in his previous marriage?No.
Why did you use your hand to carry liability for yourself?Do you like yourself at all?The real owner (first wife) no want am,na you go carry am.
My advise....Do you!!!
@ Amaka, My dear u don't understand what those verses mean, can a married woman commit formication? No, what Jesus meant in those verses is for people just living together, not properly married, in such a case, if any partner cheats, d other is then free to leave d cheating partner and be married properly to another partner! @ LIB poster, as a Christian u are not supposed to marry a divorcee, it is committing adultery, a divorcee stays unmarried till d partner dies, else, he/ she is still married to d person whether divorced or separated, so madam, take heart, end d marriage, ask for Gods mercies, and be free from sin, then look for ur own husband, ur children will come. Shalom!
I don't blame u. Its blowing dat makes u faithful. Even 100times won't make u put it in ur pants. Am even fed up with all dis advise about pleasing a man. Like being married is having a trophy. Mschewww
It is well my dear. He really wasn't remorseful if he came back to take his bag...try to keep calm. Don't make harsh decisions just yet rather listen to what God has to say to you and let Him direct your actions. LIB readers can't tell you what to do, God will. His grace is sufficient for you.
Eyah, they re all the same
I’m Mercy brown by name I have a few testimony to share with you all about myself, I was in a relationship with this guy and for 3years and we were about getting married when we both have misunderstanding with each other and he ask me for a divorce and we both agreed and after 4months I head that he was having an affair with one of my closest friend and I was very upset and worried so a friend of my advice me and told me if I still love my ex and if I really want to have him back so I told her yes, and she ask me to contact Dr. Madurai the spell caster and I did although I never believe on spell so he gave me something when he was casting the spell and ask me to say my wishes on it and after the casting of the spell a receive a phone call from my ex and was ask me at which I did and now we are back together again I’m so happy and I wish not to ever have this mistake again in my life. I will also advice anyone with this kind of issue to contact him for help he is really nice on phone and always there to answer you question giving you the good advice that you need. his email is maduraitemple@yahoo.com
A broken marriage can be one of the most painful things to heal from and can take a very long time to heal. During these times it can feel like the whole world could light up in flames and it still couldn't compare to the pain inside. I have been in great bondage for almost 2 years suffering in the hands of a cheating husband, we were happy and leaving well until he meant his old time girl friend and he started dating her outside our marriage before you knew it he stopped caring and taking care of his own family to the extent that he was planning to get married to her and divorce me, i cried and reported him to his family but he never listened to any one but to cut my story short i came in search for a real spell caster who could destroy their relationship and make him come back to me and our 2 kids on my search i saw people making testimony on how their marriage where restored by Chief Dr.OTONO i pick his email and i narrated my story to him and he agreed to help me and after performing a spell on the second day both of them had a quarrel and he beat his girlfriend up and he came home begging for me and our little kids to forgive him that his eyes are clear now that he will never do any thing that will hurt his family again and promise to be a caring father and never cheat again. I am so happy that i did not loose him to the girl. all appreciation goes to Chief Dr.OTONO for he is a Great spell caster and to whom this may concern if you have a cheating husband or wife or you need your ex lover back again. you can as well email him on { realpowerfulspellcaster@yahoo.com } and this man made me to understand that there are only eight real spell caster in Africa.
By JESSICA NAIYE,UKRAINE.
A broken marriage can be one of the most painful things to heal from and can take a very long time to heal. During these times it can feel like the whole world could light up in flames and it still couldn't compare to the pain inside. I have been in great bondage for almost 2 years suffering in the hands of a cheating husband, we were happy and leaving well until he meant his old time girl friend and he started dating her outside our marriage before you knew it he stopped caring and taking care of his own family to the extent that he was planning to get married to her and divorce me, i cried and reported him to his family but he never listened to any one but to cut my story short i came in search for a real spell caster who could destroy their relationship and make him come back to me and our 2 kids on my search i saw people making testimony on how their marriage where restored by Chief Dr.OTONO i pick his email and i narrated my story to him and he agreed to help me and after performing a spell on the second day both of them had a quarrel and he beat his girlfriend up and he came home begging for me and our little kids to forgive him that his eyes are clear now that he will never do any thing that will hurt his family again and promise to be a caring father and never cheat again. I am so happy that i did not loose him to the girl. all appreciation goes to Chief Dr.OTONO for he is a Great spell caster and to whom this may concern if you have a cheating husband or wife or you need your ex lover back again. you can as well email him on { realpowerfulspellcaster@yahoo.com } and this man made me to understand that there are only eight real spell caster in Africa.
By JESSICA NAIYE,UKRAINE.
Did u help her?
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