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Friday, 11 October 2013

"I Must Marry' - Written by Charly Boy

Another piece from Charly Boy...enjoy...
Wanting so badly to get hooked is something many people seem to take far too lightly and for granted these days. Something some of them feel they should do to win acceptance from people and society. These days’ people look at the package and never the content, forgetting that marriage should be a life time commitment of two strangers. In some cases the marriage may workout, like, Charles and Diane, Tunde and Wummie. But most of the time it falls like a park of cards, because as people are rushing to get in, people are rushing to get out, at an alarming rate. Kai!!
These days break ups and divorce has become the trend as soon as the honey Moon is over. People use to think that divorce rate is only high amongst celebrities, but now, across board, couples are falling asunder,  going under the pressure of a very bad decision , just because they Must Marry.

In these hard times, people are blowing and burning pots of money on very fancy weddings that really don't last after the honey moon. In this age, some parents still pressure their daughters in getting married early. It's like, once your girl crosses the 30yrs bracket, they start to panic, getting anxious and putting pressure on their girl to get married, like it is that easy. She just can't go to the market and buy a husband, or can she? When the poor girl insists on finding her dream man, she is accused of being unserious. Parents please learn to back off joor, it's not by force. After all, are they the ones who will leave with the spouse?
There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person, because if it is the razzmatazz of the wedding things that you enjoy, go ahead and throw yourself a big nonstop party for a whole week. After all, weddings are just one day event, but a marriage is supposed to be a life time thing. I know that weddings are fun, romantic and you can finally tell your girlfriends, boyfriends or your sugar daddy's that you have finally captured your own ‘mugu’. But has this guy been tried and tested? Dating and courting is a different matter from ‘Till Death Do You Part’. Living with one human being for the rest of your life. My sister look the thing well oooo. Bebe, do you have an idea how your guy functions in rough weather? When reality bites, is he calm or does he freak out? Do you share the same interest in some things? Bebe, before you rush into this marriage, it is important to learn where your partner stands on the bigger issues of your life together. Do you have the same values? Sit him down and have a long talk about these and other issues that are of importance to you, you may discover that chances of a long lasting marriage could be slimmer; women are intuitively wired to pick up these things. Are you a learner?
For me, I got hooked up with a woman I never saw coming and a woman I will never let go. When I met my wife, she was not even a girlfriend or a lover. I liked her physically, because she had and still have curves that men would die for, but she was never my idea of a wife. She kept hanging around like other beautiful women around me; it was more or less a platonic relationship. All the time I didn't know I was under the microscope of the FBI and the CIA. She was to tell me all this after our marriage. Even though we dated for about 3yrs, in my wildest dream I never saw her coming till one morning after sleeping over, she woke me up, looked me straight into my sleepy eyes and demanded that I marry her in the next few days or she will leave me. Wow! Before then, no one ever threatened me like that, no one ever gave me ultimatums. Who born them? Me CharlyBoy? Little did I know that this woman for years has been doing research on me, this woman has seen me ‘finish’, figured out how to arrest and deal with me. When I was much younger, I had a very violent temper, I was obnoxious. And she had witnessed me a few times in my rage with other women. "Ain't you afraid that I will hurt or harm you" to that she answered, "you can never hurt or harm me because I will never give you a reason to" hummmmmm!!!  Oh! See finish.
 Bebe, it's easy to know what you are getting into. If in doubt, investigate, set exams for the guy. I believe women are emotionally smarter than men. You must know who you want to marry, it's important for your happiness. You don't deserve scrap especially if you are hardworking, intelligent, progressive and forward looking. Investigate him from all angles, don't be in a rush joor. You don't deserve that heartache because the way marriages are crashing, it's making me catch cold.
With the way things are going, very soon we will be throwing divorce parties and inviting friends and well-wishers to celebrate divorce anniversaries. They will choose asoebe, hire a big hall, with Dbanj as the entertainer and Julius Agu as the MC. Even questions like, "when are you getting your divorce" will be the buzz.
So if you know you can't handle the pressure, remain single. If the man is still under investigation, please take your time, don't rush. If you know that you are too horny to be faithful, biko remain single and have a ball. If you can't endure bad weather from time to time, stay in your father’s house joor. Never get married out of desperation or because other people are getting married.  If you want a beautiful home, like mine, examine your choice of a life partner, there are a lot of gigolos out there preying on desperate babes like you. But show them say you pass them. No be you?

189 Comments:

  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:16 , Blogger Niyi Daramola said...

  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:20 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Kia М̣̣̥̇̊є̲̣̣ lik dis writup, if only we will adhere+ ist 2comment

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:21 , Blogger ★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

    Valid points made Charly Boy, but your loquaciousness is getting irksome, just write a book pls, that would be better!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:21 , Blogger diamond odey said...

    Lol.... Like joke Charley Charley is now a writer

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:26 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    This man blabs a lot. Please take a rest.

    *flips Brazilian hair*

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:28 , Blogger josephine aba said...

    Nice write up.....was going to pressure my bf into marriage this December but after reading this I rather wait and investigate

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I love this

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Hmmmmm I luv dis

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Nice piece!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:33 , Blogger BONARIO NNAGS said...

    There's no disputing it,marriage is very beautiful.
    That even Jesus did his first miracle at a wedding ceremony to ensure the success of that wedding shows how important he holds this holy institution.
    But of recent due to many factors such as pressure from family and society,economic and other sentiments have resulted to people getting married to a soulhate instead of a soulmate.
    my advice to my beautiful sisters goes thus:
    Don't marry a man coz he has a TELEVISIO,marry a man voz he has VISION.
    Don't marry a man coz he's RICH,marry a man coz he's within REACH.
    Don't marry a man coz he's HANDSOME,marry a man coz he's AWESOME.
    Don't marry a man coz he own CARS,marry a man coz he CARES.
    Don't marry a man coz he owns a HOUSE,marry a man coz he can build a HOME.
    not untill like minds start marrying eachother,till best friends marry each other.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:36 , Blogger josephine aba said...

    Nice write up.....was going to pressure my bf into marriage this December but after reading this I rather wait and investigate

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:37 , Anonymous SIMPLYCOCK said...

    Gbam!!!!
    Absolutely in sync with Charly Boys sentiments...words of wisdom here...
    Indeed people should get married for the right reasons...
    To the person fit for purpose for them!!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:38 , Blogger Niyi Daramola said...

  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Nice one!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:44 , Anonymous Cleo said...

    Good one....

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:44 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Good one

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:47 , Blogger Zonkh'a said...

    Aaah Charlie boy!! Love ur mind!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:48 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Charlie man u r always on point i mean always!
    One girl i know tru a friend jst got married last two weeks n last week her marriage pack up, now its glaring say na she force d guy! She is 5months pregnant n fustrated right now!
    I remember d first time i met d so called ex husband, i told my friend dat dis guy is an anayo, gigolo but my friend said no he's in love! Now where is he?
    My friend's friend do i must marry come go enter d wrong person hand!
    Am not desperate n can never be! All i pray for is dat God shld give me d right man @ d right time!
    Not in a hurry biko!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:48 , Blogger ST. KIZITO BOUTIQUEZ said...

    I just can't start reading shit that this dog of a man writes.........marry Yourself

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:49 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Really enjoyed this post. It's nice to know that there are some people in society who do not think marriage is the answer to all of life's questions for a woman.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:51 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    He is 100% correct

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:53 , Anonymous mimi said...

    well written article..our parents and loved ones really need to stop pressurizing us ,its bad enough we know we r not getting aany younger but coming from the same people ur supposed to go to for comfort and support its just disheartening.. my cousins who are my agemates got married at 16 17 18 ..at that age my aunty's were already singing it like a song for me to settle down..i just had to leave home away from the pressure , when i hit 21 i felt like 30 cos everybody was on my neck to settle down like its easy for a man to find you..now am 24 half the time i just turn my fone off nt pick calls cos its same story and pressure,they feel after staying abroad for long and come home my beauty will be faded by den hmmm sad much, now its my parents, aunts, grandparents and my younger brothers, its just so annoying, i cant even have a conversation with them without marriage issues

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:54 , Anonymous liberian gurl said...

    This is so goooood. Thanks charly.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:55 , Anonymous IkwerreBoy said...

    Ladies una don hear... Lecture 101

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:55 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    charly boy says so!!!! Those dat have ears let dem hear!!!!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:58 , Anonymous Ijjoy said...

    Choi Charly Boy, U are my man forever. This ur write up make sense die. He hu has ears mke him hear bcos some people own na for fancy.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:58 , Blogger SABRINA UCHE said...

    Well said sir!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 17:59 , Anonymous luccigurl said...

    For the first time... I am loving his line of ideas.... This is so true Charly Boy. No pressure, no rush for in due time you will reap in due season if you faint not.

    Good advice to the pressured unmarried ladies out there.
    At the end of the day, if you take your time and get it right with God leading you, your happiness will know no boundaries. I can understand that it isn't easy, but finally it will be worth it.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:00 , Anonymous SazyAdure said...

    Linda this is my first time ever to comment in 3 years and I'm first to comment yay! God bless u Charly boy for this wonderful piece; it really amazes me how our societal pressure has made a lot of ladies to want to rush into marriage. Please ladies let us not allow or parents, society, friends or what have u, to decide when or who u marry; even if u are over 30 it does not matter, I can boldly tell y'all from experience. What matters is marrying the right person and your happiness which is priceless! Remember babes there is no competition in destiny. God bless all the single ladies out there and grant y'all patience, people ace and joy until the right person comes.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:00 , Anonymous Lola said...

    Haha I love it

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:00 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    "m inspired by this. God bless Charlyboy. Noted!!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:04 , Anonymous Mama said...

    Nice Piece but i would prefer you never list Charles and Diana as example of couples whose marriage worked out cos it never did.. are you forgetting Camilla???

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:07 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Im guessing he means Charles and Diana and btw, they were both miserable in their marriage

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:07 , Anonymous divinegift said...

    Got me laughing aloud on dis one. Very very verrrrry TRUE, nevr knew Charly boy culd b so responsible to dis point. Wonders shall nevr end. Charly is just on point, KUDOS to him joooor U too much!!!!!!!!!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:08 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Nice write up sir ....GGGUMB ..Linda post my comment o b4 I vex for u ..wink

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:10 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Nice one area fada! True talk

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:11 , Anonymous divinegift said...

    Intact 4 did, I must buy more rings for him, walai

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Dis 1 wey dis guy turn chinua achebe over night? Hp say him no D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣ copy and paste person story 4 here, hmmmn God just kip codeine 4 hin 3k matter o

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:12 , Anonymous divinegift said...

    Intact 4 did act, I must buy more rings for him, walai!!!!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:14 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Excellent piece from Charly Boy! The funny aspect about the male diggers this days is that the ones you assume are thorough bred professionals are the first class diggers.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:18 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    A wonderful piece of advice to ladies out there,but 'd also like such to be extended to our young men,who equally fall victim to gold-diggers in the name of marriage.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:25 , Anonymous la porsche said...

    Correct! Dz guy 2 dey make sense joor

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:26 , Blogger JAYISM said...

    Good advice for all the single ladies out there.. But what about us guys naa.. we need good advice as well

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:26 , Blogger njideka nkem said...

    Kizito boutique go fuck your father!u r a bastard

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    True ooo vry true charly boi,if u rush in u rush outtttt

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:35 , Anonymous Emily said...

    Learnt another word-loquacious/ness-having the characteristic tendency to talk a great deal about things.
    PC Muah!

    Emily

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:37 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Bonarat Shut up,who needs your essay

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:41 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    ...and let the girl wait forever in the name of scrutiny till she turns 60. Marriage is all about compromise, patience, endurance, tolerance, mutual respect and understanding and above all the fear of God. I see all these lacking in nowadays marriage. If you are a christian, embrace what God tells you in the bible about marriage. Secondly, Allow God to choose for you. The truth remains no matter how meticulous you are in your choice of future life time partner it doesn't guarantee everlasting marriage. Remember, the person you married today thinking he or she is a saint can change tomorrow to become a monster. Hence, in anything you do in life ask God to take absolute control and be prayerful.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:43 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    By implication, CBoy is saying he has been faithful to his wife all these years and that's absolutely commendable

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:45 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I support,make him just write book make we hear word abeg,everyday its one lengthy writeup or the other

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:46 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    well said....well said

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:46 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Nice one 4rm charlie boy

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    nice one Charly
    people get married for the wrong reasons these days.

    we need to sort out our priorities

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:50 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    After Charly Boys long epistle you are here writting urs too,copy and paste of old quotes on twitter dat u hav here,Bonario u are so outdated!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:51 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Geh,geh,geh... Where is my dictionary pls.. My Cambridge teacher strikes again,lolz

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:54 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ewu! Empty head

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:55 , Blogger Chris Kosin said...

    When you love a girl, sometimes it is best just to tell her, even if you are not sure if the feeling is mutual. It's best if you do, and not hold back for too long, or she might start thinking differently about your feelings toward her.Read More:
    http://internetiger.blogspot.com/2013/10/how-to-tell-girl-you-love-her-when-you.html

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:57 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    U r ignorant come foolish join!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:59 , Anonymous LIB whore said...

    My dear PC, you should take that advice too,with all this ur fine and perfect grammar,shouldn't you too just write a book too? You are good sha,I can't hide that fact

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 18:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ewu! He was referring ti himself and his wife not Prince Charles and Lady Diana

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:01 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Animal!
    Desperado oshi!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:02 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Pressure him!!?? Eow thats shameful

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:03 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Tah! Goh with your darlin yaki

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:03 , Anonymous 9jadeltapikin... said...

    Naijadeltapikin... Charly baba I alwys gbdu U̶̲̥̅̊ any time any day nice one I love this nd Ђåvε̲ learnt from Ȋ̝̊†̥ God bless U̶̲̥̅̊ for helping us Τ̅☺ beg all the marriage presurizer Τ̅☺ leave us alone α̲̅πϑ allow God Τ̅☺ do Ȋ̊§ work.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:04 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Na u saka! Amebo oshi!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Not wisdom just common sense

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:05 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Gbaguan!!!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:06 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Sadly the percentage of such thinkers is well under 4%

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:07 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Typical mumu na im u be!
    Gbam!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:07 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    PrinceC, Linda's Blog chief grammarian! I trip ur way jor! Very soon some ignorant fools will come up to attcack u say that are speaking big big big words,I can't wait to read ur haters attack u o,haha,its ur reply to them that is even more interesting. Am out, bye!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:08 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Real bastard o!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:09 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Charles is charlie boy and diana is his wifes name

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:11 , Blogger Mama Ifu said...

    Charles and Diana=Charlyboy and his wife, the lovely Lady D.

    Thank me later

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:13 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Where did he say he's been faithful to his wife all dese years @anon 6:43? You well so? Taa dere Charlie boy! But your wife gave Ʊ ultimatum and it worked na, why don't you think another ghel wld achieve same with her man? Abeg allow pips live by their own rules biko. Good speech anyway. We have seen you! Bye

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:13 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I can see that this is your 1st of commenting.Linda doesn't post immediately.so ,when you NO COMMENT.there are comments waiting to be posted by Linda.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:14 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    See*

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:16 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    That was wicked! About time someone told Bonario to sit on a hot stove and shush....lol

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:18 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Mr PrinceCharming you always like to give me headache with all these your words,why? I don't have a choice but to always keep my dictionary close once i come across your comments

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:20 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ole..copy n paste..

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:39 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Ok

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:43 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    U shut dat hole u call mouth!
    Bona is on point!
    Fool u jst wan talk abi?
    Imbecile!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 19:47 , Anonymous la porsche said...

    Correct! Dz guy 2 dy mke sense

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 20:10 , Anonymous isabella said...

    How could u be so oblivious of something so obvious??????
    Charlly Boy (Charles) and Lady Di (Diana). Jeez!!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 20:13 , Anonymous Jerzino said...

    He was referring to himself: Charly Boy and his wife Lady Di, you dumb fuck!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 20:16 , Anonymous blackpearl said...

    Thank you,I think U can study people from now till foreva and still not know them entirly.It takes hard work to keep a marriage working.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 20:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Poor translation!!! Hw can gigolo translate to Anayo? To think is hard after all.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 20:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I love charlie boy write up. That is a big advice for we ladies

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 20:34 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Thank you my dear..tell them..they should keep on waiting for the Perfect guy,because Charlie man has said so..Someone who is even gay..mtcheww.
    *Nita Briggs*

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 20:37 , Anonymous Onyinye said...

    He's always been.......I call him under_cover Shakes S. :)

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 20:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    And Single girls will be like "I love this post"

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:03 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Correct! Dz guy dy 2 dy make sense

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:06 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Mama, he meant himself and his wife, not the royal family ooo.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:08 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Josephine the pressurer....

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    He's reffering to himself,as in Charles &Diane Oputa.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:15 , Blogger bonita bislam said...

    Bonaria father of alliteration,y dnt u team up wit charly boy n write a book lik PC pointed out? Nice 1 though

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:16 , Blogger Poshbeebah��Barry said...

    On point Charlyboy........

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:28 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Charly boy. Most you always state the obvious. You are honestly begining to sound your age. Still your writting surprisingly gives some people a blow to the head and a eureka experience.You should write a book and title it "basic life facts for dummies" You'll make a killing in Nigeria. Stop giving it away for free on this blog please put it in a book.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:37 , Blogger Zobenchy said...

    Correct! Dis guy 2 dy make sense joor

     
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  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:51 , Anonymous Ayo said...

    Very lovely piece.

    Ayo.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Well, this loquacious(lengthy) article by charly charly is one sided. Charly charly, please what is your advice for the guys as well? Linda, abeg post my comment oo!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:55 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    @Emily, did you say you studed English?

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 21:56 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    nonsense!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Nice right up charly boy. Its coming 18months late to me. For the single ladies out there, pls read dt right up over n over again. I gave in to the pressure and got married @ age of 29 to a guy ve known for almost 10yrs. Though we were on and off cos of distance but he proposed n got serious. A yrs later, I too became a mrs. Now I see dt we neva new each other @ all. We didn't talk about important issues while dating. Issues like no of children we would ve, if our sibblings could visit 4 holidays, financial matters n so on, which we now fight over. Now We seem to be walking on two paralel lines. Yes I believe in tolerance, patience, understanding like some one wrote here. But all dt works easily if both partners share similar values. From what am experiencing now, I would say its better 2 marry @ age 60 than marry early n be miserable in it. I believe in love, but trust me when I say love alone can neva sustain a marriage. Things like mutual respect,trust,EFFECTIVE communication and honesty are far more important. Linda u will be hurting me more if u don't post my comment

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Na wa oo! Snce wen area fada begin cancel pipo' Ok ooo I gree u sir nice job.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:13 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Its like charly new what exactly am going through. Am in my 30s and single but to people around me it was like am plaque for not getting married. My mum is running from pillar to post from one Aladura to the other praying and fasting just becos am still single @ over 30. Gigolo, swindlers infact orisirisi dey for man dis days. Some will tell you to pay house rent pick all their bills if you want them to stay. I've got different experience and what is involved in marriages today. Am waiting on God for my own Godfearing man when it will be so good for me.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:21 , Blogger Yours Truly Blog said...

    Charlie, didn't know you were an amazing writer!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:36 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Thanks so much....who asked for d shit

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:39 , Blogger yungprof Eze said...

    nice essay,noted nxt pls

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Wats rong wv u Linda,post ma comment na

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:41 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Mumu! He meant himself and Lady Di, his wife

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:47 , Blogger Dika Michaels said...

    Nice.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:57 , Blogger jenifer oziri said...

    @Njideka nkem...tnks 4 replyin dat idiot kizito...bad belle go kil u!!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 22:58 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    AWWWWW..NICE write up by Charly. really nice!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 23:01 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Guys inclusive, vice versa!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 23:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Abeg rest biko, d guy meant charly boy and his wife lady dianne

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 23:08 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    He means Charly boy and Diana his wife, not the prince of Wales

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 23:22 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Keep on flipping brazillian hair, na ur type go hear am when it starts, u can hate d messenger but pls dnt hate d message, I am a happily married woman and what he said is just d best advice any single girl can get..

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 23:27 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Charly boy lied!!!! Charles n Diane ke???? And his wife dat lived fr 28 yrs b4 he finally marrid her??? Is he talkin abt his first wife whom he divorced??? a Wolf in sheep clothing!!

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 23:28 , Blogger BLOGLORD said...

    Well written. Marriage is not by force, it is by choice.

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 23:50 , Anonymous MzAnon said...

    Anon 6:37 thnk u!!! Was going to tell him tht. Don't even make sense

     
  • At 11 October 2013 at 23:57 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Bros, he meant himself and his wife, not Prince Charles n Princess Diana, olodo.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 00:15 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    See dis one o

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 00:42 , Anonymous Ash baby said...

    I love dis charly. Boy well said,some ppl tink marriage is d answer to every tin in dis life.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 00:49 , Blogger wemimo adesemoye said...

    @ mama..he is nt referring to prince Charles and princess Diana..he meant him self charles(charly boy) and his wife Diana..anyway..charly boi..ur write up came at d rite time..i thot of d marriage ting truout today n I must say I feel so pressured cos all mi close friends re married n av kids..mi bday is in 2 days and was already planning dt come mi next bday I must be married with kids...bt as I take read ds nw I rily need to take a chill pill n revamp mi thots..tanx Charles.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 00:57 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Good advice and the intent is good. Write up sha is all over the place and not very together. Well he didn't say he was an editor or columnist.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 00:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Charly for charles and Diane for lady D. I think r one of his examples not prince charles and Diana.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 01:01 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Anonymous 6:41,HA!wagbayi! U av said it all. Patience,tolerance,long suffering,and the fear of God. May God help us all.LatinoPINKY

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 01:04 , Blogger HATERS-SLAYER said...

    better for u dear.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 01:06 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    park of cards?? linda ! (first comment)

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 01:16 , Blogger nSI CAn said...

    Ya ryt..."Empty vessels... makes much more sense...atimes"

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 01:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Shut ur dirty trap anonymous 6:37

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 02:58 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Chalie Boy is a devil.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 02:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    This is ab evil man.He has no point to proof,

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 04:56 , Anonymous eji said...

    #word #fact no be by force o. Patience is a virtue.

     
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  • At 12 October 2013 at 05:47 , Anonymous chyko said...

    I read this article 3times cos Charly boy hit d nail right on the head. He must b an expert in marriage classes.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:00 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Aunty, so if you wait till 60 and avoid a life of misery, you are a failure? Biko, let us hear word. Yes, people change but 9 out of times; they just show the traits they demo'd for you when y'all were kicking it. I like his article, but ladies and gents if a man/woman has violent tendencies...let him/her get that taken care of before y'all get married. All this, I will pray him/her through it will get you in a world of hurt. None of us are perfect but anger is an emotion that has to come straight from the pit of hell. It is like a tornado, and once it has done damage...the repairs take long and sometimes it has damaged the affected party to the point of no-return. The Bible does not ask you to beware of that trait for no reason. I was a bit cautious when he said Lady Di(abi wetin them call his wife) saw that and forged ahead. I am not going to lie, a man that hits and beats other women is going to do same to you ONE DAY. A person that can't control their temper is beyond pleasing.

    Just a quick PSA to all the people nodding and uhuhing the article. Read stuff but please use your analytical mind in picking what is good and bad. Oh and ultimatums (hahahaha), try am and see the outcome.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:01 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Make u get sense N̶̲̅w̶̲̥̅ olodo

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:06 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I think he meant he and his wife.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:07 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I think he meant he and his wife.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:07 , Blogger evelyn bukola said...

    What do you mean blabs a lot?are you even a human being, wanna tell me you hvent learn anything from that piece

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:09 , Blogger evelyn bukola said...

    Lol....that's not true.....a lot to learn from that piece dear kizito!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:17 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Anonymous 643 mumu ode? did he say he's been faithful aany where? Ilitrate

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:27 , Blogger sweet delailah said...

    His taste in jewellery tho...#eyes rolling #

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:59 , Blogger oak said...

    Madam park well. Na your type husband go beat comot for house. Its either u take the advise or leave it.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 06:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Dearie U shud listen to him..

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 07:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    You calling him dat name bonarat. doesn't make/break his day..Learn to be sensible dear,nice piece bonario..God help us all when it comes to choosing a life partner..

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 07:07 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I love this tks area father

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 07:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Charly boy on point! At first i didn't want to read, i started n it made great sense. Thanx Charly

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 07:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Well said Charly...I see the sense in this writeup!most times we ladies ignore the alarms all because we want to get married!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 07:56 , Blogger loudmouth said...

    Well said charley.... We need to adhere to the old ways of courting, that's get to know ur patner intoto totally b4 taking the big leap

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 08:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    @Anon 6:37pm: You shut up!!! Nitwit!!! @Bonario: nice one dude... xx

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 08:20 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Bonario u are a most intelligent young man. I like the way ur brain works unfortunately there are many watery and compound idiots out there who may never understand you and ur vibe!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 08:22 , Anonymous Jade said...

    A woman is a human being who should have dreams and inspirations and desire to impact her society positively. A MAN DOES NOT DEFINE A WOMAN!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 08:54 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    PC pls get a life! U are so irritating!! And d mumus falling for ur stupid use of big grammar smh 4 u all!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 09:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Yeah d man is annoying but d piece makes sense.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 09:07 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    At 24! Mehn ur family harsh o! Abeg ignore dem joor! Cos when u rush in and rush out they're d same pple dat will finish u wit their mouths

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 09:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Thank you. It takes 2 to tango. Charley's write up, though well said but is lopsided. It makes it look like failures in marriage are caused by men. That women should just do nothing and allow their marriage to crash. There is no perfect marriage even Charles and Dianas. The coupled must play their individual role well to make it work. No one is a saint or beast, it all depends on how you handle circumstances around you.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 09:46 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Hmmmmm...true talk Ooooo....ladies unable Hear! Thank God me never enter one chance..

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 10:43 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    For once i agree with him....Nice article!

    LadyF

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 10:48 , Anonymous chubby kid said...

    nice points made,people go into marriage for all the wrong reasons, to all the retards that are going to insult this write up, i pity u. read this and learn.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 10:48 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    hmm.. Charlie boi.. Happily married..gues d wife is stil investigatin..he does'nt luk lyk a responsible man 2 me

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 10:51 , Blogger janelicious said...

    Charly boy thanks for this wonderful write up,cos marriage is not about having ring on your second finger but a life time commitment that we woman hardly understand.God bless u mr charly boy i love u for this.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 10:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I am 23years old and am dating a guy who's my age mate bt hes jst a month older Dan me.i really tink he likes me cos i have met his family and hes also met my mum bt jst as frends n hes also a xtian, he jst finished his Service n i finished my Service last feb, i dnt kno if am making d right decision waitin for him or Do I jst move on with ma life cos i feel hes still enjoyin life bt i jst feel sometin is right about d guy bt i dnt kno if am gonna regret waitin for him...no insults pls

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 11:49 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    really educative

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 11:56 , Blogger etochi21 said...

    I love u Charley !!! Nice writeup

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 13:34 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I wonder who wrote the article

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 15:36 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    No be only brazilian hair na ewu hair!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 16:11 , Blogger Emeka Nwagu said...

    Nice one there, @Josephine Abba, hehehe.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 17:41 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Omg d z magnificent aswear, I'm so much in love wif dz leta frm charlyboi tew d ladies... We ladies shud hield 2 his advise tho n aunty linda biko publish ma post ooo

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 17:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I hv told u all wat PC is doing. Just try it. Get a phone wit thesaurus app. Linda posts a topic like this charley boy's piece. You fink 'he talks to much'. You find a simple word for it like 'talkative' enter it in ur thesaurus and it generates the synonyms. U pick a big word frm the list, and replace the 'talkative' with it in ur comment. We writers do that all the time in order to lace up our writings. If u dnt hv thesaurus in ur fone, use the online ones. Ndewo.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 18:38 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Bitter truth u can't comprehend!
    Anuofia @ anon 2:58

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 18:39 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    "Empty vessels like u ba?
    @nsi one of d gigolos

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 18:44 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Anayo is not d translation of gigolo, i typed anayo, gigolo wit a
    Coma .Look well b4 u talk nxt time
    So dont tell me nonsense!
    Teacher njoku! Itk!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 18:49 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Jst a piece of advice !
    Use ur own method jst use ur head datz all!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 18:50 , Blogger precheygift@gmail.com said...

    Well said charly but I need to get married fast

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 18:50 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Shut up!!!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 18:53 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Now d chief dummy has spoken @anon 9:28

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 18:56 , Blogger Rough Diamond said...

    Oloshi somebody!
    Jst take a look @ur life n tell me if it has a meaning to u talkless of ur family?
    Fool of life!

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 19:28 , Anonymous Ray said...

    Nice1, but please next time use paragraph to be unique.

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 20:43 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Well said Charly......I have just a question for LIB readers, when will people stop abusing eachother on this blog??......Its just lugubrious that people lay insults anyhow to one another and yet expect others to understand their points. Smh

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 23:17 , Anonymous JANETPRETTY said...

    TNX DEAR CB. OF ALL U SAID, THE ONE THAT'S SOOOOOO TRUE IS 'PRESSURES FROM PARENTS'. THESE FOLKS SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT WE'RE THE ONES TO LIVE WIF THESE GUYS. SO WE'VE GAT TO TAKE OUR TIME(by watching n praying. Lol).


    ALSO, MARRIAGE IS NOT BY 'COMPARISON' BUT BY 'ACCEPTABILITY'(accepting him/her unconditionally). COMPARISON BREEDS HATRED; WHICH LEADS TO DIVORCE. WE SHOULD LEARN TO ACCEPT OUR SPOUSE THE WAY THEY ARE. NO MAN CAN CHANGE ANOTHER EXCEPT BY GOD'S WORD AND SPIRIT.


    HAPPY WKEND AUNTIE LINDAWAY.......

     
  • At 12 October 2013 at 23:44 , Blogger rosy kay said...

    True talk charlie. *in Ben 10's voice* lolz.

     
  • At 13 October 2013 at 01:00 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    keep writing and having fun charlee, your shocker of life from your rebellious fan is on the way. Ma ni moo so fun eh oo. #Okidoki

     
  • At 13 October 2013 at 07:01 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    God will punish the devil. Amen!

     
  • At 13 October 2013 at 11:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    LMAO PARK OF CARDS

     
  • At 13 October 2013 at 17:38 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    On point AREA FADA!

     
  • At 14 October 2013 at 18:21 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    what is the right man? Marriage is more like a mistery that unfolds unknown personality triat and unexpectected events u have no idea how'd u react or when they come...waiting may keep u forever so follow instructions of anon 6:41pm written oct 11th. If u dont get married no body would be blamed but do rush but make use of the time u have if u need it. Its not a relaxation neither is a rushing agenda. The right man is simply the person u love to ride by thru the good and bad days of life by facethefact.

     

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