I met my husband in 2011, January to be precise and I fell in love with him almost immediately. I loved his company so much that I had to let my guard down to be with him. Even when I realised he is not one to beg women because he has this belief that he can get any woman he wants because he is good looking so and FYI he loves women and has loads of them at his beck and call. I later got to realize that is his way of enjoying life any other thing like vacation is just by the wayAnyways, I stuck with him and in 2013 we got married, I felt on top of the world. I had to stop working because of where his new job took him to and till today I have not gotten a job. We had our fights but I was determined to make my marriage work and became submissive in ways i never imagined. Most times i go on my knees to beg him even when he is at fault just so that there is peace in my home
Hmmm, last year I had this illness and realised I am HIV
positive, he took the test too and it came out positive. But he was
very calm about it that we would be there for each other and I was
impressed, we started our ARV drugs and we have been fine, our Cd4
count is rising and I am grateful to God for life although i wish I
could talk to someone cos I sometimes ask God were I went wrong in life
or what I did wrong.
Fast forward to this year I suspected he was cheating on
me, I got so mad and confronted him but he denied it and instead he
found a way to turn the table around and we didn't talk for the 2 days,
i am not one to keep grudges for long so I asked him to forgive me for
not trusting him.
Well today I confirmed my suspicions I was playing game with his phone when a message entered from his friend asking how Thursday went, if he saw condoms at his place... The funny thing is we had prayer sessions that week for divine healing in church.
And I ask myself how would God hear our prayers? How do I
get my life back? I finally had this business idea last month too but I
can't concentrate again I feel like I have lost everything I worked for
and believed in. I don't know what to do...., I am so angry, I wish my life is over
248 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 248 of 248You are very foolish mtcheww how can you say u suspected that he was cheating where do u think the aids came from abeg comot from that marriage nd find yourself a job attention to all the women there do nottttt leav your job because of a man find a solution because now that you left your job you are finding it difficult to find another
Lastly forgive me for cussing you out .I pray God helps you lots of love to you
Fool..u cldnt even make any sense from commentin but u had all d time to leave so much space..gerrarahia mehn!
Way back from before, during and after my University days(over 15yrs ago), I met and fell deeply for a very handsome and even rich guy(though never knew of his wealth until later), BUT till date I still have this strong pull towards him though we NEVER had sex, don't see, don't talk or have a real relationship but due to my feelings whc I still try to check and curb unsuccessfully, I reach out to him thru d internet yet no form of response from him... Now, I've done this even knowing how foolish it is BUT I was doing my own kind of research cos this guy with all the beauty and wealth struck me as so completely cold hearted from my first encounters with him whc has always stayed as an inner warning signal and danger sign that my fancy for him is just outward and someone like him would just be purely a case of courting disaster... Time has really passed but now, I kno of a Truth, good things NEVER come easy... NEVER. No wonder The Good God NEVER EVER changes... For Time Reveals All Things... Time. Just Time*
This is one of the craziest story, I have ever read. I know the lady is a stupid fool if she is actually real... God will never help those who don't help themselves. Lady read your own story out loud & advice yourself.
Well most ladies would tell the this woman to leave her husband and even insult her on top of all because she knew that he was a womanizer before they got married. But the funny thing is that you have taken those vows on your wedding day and there's no going back. We women are very emotional and we tend to fall deeply in love especially while being married but i can assure you that this woman is really in love with her husband and that is why she is still with him. Love makes us to do very silly things that is a fact. But the problem is that you have lost control of your home. totally submitting to your husband even if he is wrong is not cool. Let him know that he is wrong when he is and i think you should start a business of your own and not to sit at home all day.
U re d architect of ur own misfortunes. Never give up. God 'll see u through. Where there's will, there's a way.
Tell him you know what is going on. Don't trust him again for now. Go on with your business plan, try and be financially independent. That's the key to freedom from bondage. Lastly, turn to God totally. Safe yourself, if he doesn't care for himself. God favour dear.
Hnnnmmm dear poster....please dont beat yourself up! the deed is done. going forward get a job or start a business, always make researches on how to maintain a high CD4 count! if you have kids concentrate on them! Stop having sex with the man in question.
Lastly if you have relatives this is the time you need them the most they can help you out in may ways that you can imagine you just need to open up to the ones you trust will not judge you.
IGNORE your heartless husband totally. hes a douche bag and a jerk!
Madam, what I think you should do is report your husband to the authorities. Jesus! He found out he's positive and he was calm and then told you that he'll be a there for you and you too, it was sweeting you? What were you expecting him to say; that he wanted to leave you? Or that you gave him HIV? This story better not be true as I'm upset even commenting on it. What the actual F. You are toooo gullible this woman, sorry to say, but you are foolish. Omg!
Please if you don't have sympathy for yourself, pity the girls out there (or maybe not cod they get what they deserve) by reporting this extremely useless dog to the authorities. Do you know if he's sharing this virus? For him to have contacted it, that means he was involved in some serious skin to skin and I don't see what is going to stop him from still involving in it right now. Even the virus isn't putting an end to have s philandering ways.. God, please don't let me ever meet such a man. Bless my husband soo much that I'm the only woman he sees and does skin to skin with, hian!
To answer your question, please continue with your medication. Forget about your so called husband for now and concentrate on your own health. You are doing your part, nobody will hold you accountable for his health deteriorating. Learn to be your own person, your own woman. A man doesn't make you a woman, marriage doesn't make you a woman either. That business, start it. Pay no attention to that dog, he'd understand it sooner. And all that begging that you do, please put a stop to it, please pick up your self confidence. You deserve to be begged/appeased too.. But please don't forget to report him, and PRAYERS!!!! God truly answers my dear.
I wish you well.
hnmmm this keeps me wondering..God please help married women. how would someone even know the husband is cheating. Chai! Now i am scared to have sex with my hubby. OMG!
Well let's don't conclude what if its the Woman that infected him ? A womanizer doesn't necessarily mean he's infected o
U nailed it... Poeple will rather insult her dan help her... I pray u have peace, it's not easy dating a random man....
Every1 shld pls stop making matter worse... Shes here cos she needs advice.. Its True she committed a mistake but pls go easy on her.... And give suggestions
Oga dreamz please how is she a fool?
"I wish my life is over"...Suicidal ideation. please see a psychiatrist, a psychologist or just see your pastor. Cos your present state of mind is a ticking time bomb...all the best.
Hi,dis hurts terribly and i'm sorry you are going through dis painful situation. i wont blame you for anything cos u r human and we all make mistakes especially when we fail to seek the face and direction of God first,in all we do and before taking any action. it has happened so the way forward now, though it may seem difficult initially but God never promised us a rosy life, he only promised to carry our burdens for us if we trust him and give dem all to him, so my dear, first of all, ask God for mercy and surrender all ur present troubles to him and trust that he can help you, then try ur best to focus all ur attention,worries,just put all of u into achieving d business idea u have and ignore ur hubby like he doesnt exist at all in ur life. dress hot and look beautiful everyday, but dont ever cheat on him. be happy always cos life is only given once n u owe urself much joy. but keep praying for him as u act like u dont care one bit. trust me tables will turn if u do dis. believe u can and try very hard to doing dis u will bring back ur respect n changes will occur. even if it doesnt u wouldnt hv lost anything cos with time God will put his peace in u n ur business will grow n become ur best n u wont worry abt anything else. hope u have kids? God bless u dear.
You don't have to wish your life is over. You knew this man for who and what he is before marrying him: why are u bothered he's cheating on you when you have more important things to focus on. Get closer to God, follow your dreams, get something meaningful out of your life and keep praying to God. It is well with u....
Death row? Dats very harsh of u,u might die before her u know?if u don't av anytin gud to say den sharap
Dear, You made a mistake falling in love almost immediately as you said possibly because he is good looking and you ignored his habits which they say is second nature. That's what most of you do. Well it could be your fate and you have to make the best out of it. Every relationship has a spell and one of the partners must be at the receiving end to keep it moving.
Because she made a mistake she's a fool??o boi u no get sense...ask mummy she will confirm that bastard
You are very wise Chinny. She kinda of sound happy about the HIV thing hoping that it will change him. My dear poster, I put it to you that he had been positive all along. Your hubby played you from the word go because of your low self esteem (not love please), desperation to get married and maybe his looks and money! I'm very sure when he asked you to marry him, you must have thought you won over the other ladies. I'm afraid to say that you are on your own, that man has an agenda to spread the virus all over the place. For once, think of your life and do what is best (you alone know). Ladies please marriage and relationship is not a do or die affair! Don't go into a relationship out of loneliness or marry out of desperation because you think age is no longer on your side or societal pressure. No matter how good a pretender a man is, if you pray and look deeply you will see signs that will guide your decisions. In this case, the poster didn't even have to pray or look deep because the signs were staring her at the face. Tell me something, at the end is it all worth it? Look before you leap ladies, marriage is not a competition or a free pass to heaven.
BrendaN
Fool calling someone a fool...mumsi can confirm that,if you don't have nothing to say apart from calling someone a fool then you must be a bigger fool ask ur mum
Continue to pray to God. Ask for his divine direction and concentrate on the new business idea. Stay focused and don't hold any grudge against your husband for the Bible says 'the two shall be one'. For this reason, help him out of his misery and God will bless you more abundantly. Most importantly, engage your self in a business that will help you financially. Bless u.
go on your knees and cry to God
You're an idiot! Bloody scallywag
Women always luv wit dier heart. Dy neva use dier brain. A man cn be beatg hs wife evryday yet she still stay all in d name of luv. U saw d signs yet u still went ahead. Marriage s a long term contract with no expiring date stated. Marryg d wrong person s d worst mistk eva. Ds cn mk life a livg hell for u. Pray n seek a councillor
Saint,u be talking as if u don't do worse thing just to stay wit a guy...
Madam,dis man is not just a womanizer buh has no regard for women as well. He has caused u more harm than good n u still wanna stay n be emotionally unstable for the rest of ur life. That man is not worth all dis emotional wreck u causing urself. What other worst thing of life do u want that he has not given u ma? Pls u need to love urself more @ dis point of ur life n don't think hez ur all in all that u can't live or survive without him... dee
I dont think its her fault. At times You have to do things for the momment
No one has ever knelt before God and ended up suffering.
Just know that when God wants to use you, he takes anything that will prevent that from you.
Trust me. I know what he can do.
The solution is to totally give your life and heart to your maker and let him do what he wills for your life.
AnonymousAugust 11, 2015 at 9:15 AM
I agree with ur advice. There's so much wisdom in you.
i do not understand lib readers and why people still ask for advice on this platform. someone would ask for advice and i start to read irritating insulting comments? please if you do not have advice to give just move on to the next post! HABA!!!!!
MY ADVICE... There are strategic prayers my dear... place a demand on him using Jesus name. dont get tired of life.. improve yourself, work hard, dont tell people your problem... tell it to God and keep praying hard... believe in your own healing.. if he doesnt want to be healed thats his own problem.... even though you were regarded as having become ONE on your wedding day, you are still an individual and he is too.... PRAYER IS KEY!!! DO NOT GIVE UP AND PLS LOVE YOURSELF.. Dont develop high blood pressure ooo. leave him and keep praying for him, MEANWHILE WORK WITH FAITH. Theres nothing impossible for God to do.
Madam, you did not mention anything about children. Do you have one or more? What is their status?
Brace up to face the challenge and be the Deborah of your family.
Do not think about what you did wrong as the did has been done. Think only about the solution - As said by many above, be very prayerful, be consistent with your prayers, profess whatever you want about your world, eg. God should deliver your husband from any bondage he might be in and make any other woman to be like filthy rags to him, God should bring him back home fully, God should heal all of you and restore you home completely.
Mind you, I cannot say don't talk to your pastor, but you need to be very very careful because the Bible in James says that if you lack wisdom, ask Him (GOD) and He will sort you out out of His abundance. May God heal your world completely. Toks
Wots wrong wit u dis fool,didnt u seewher she said dt she has a biz idea,u tink it's easyto workwit children?
Sweetie, you needed to love yourself first b4 deciding to settle down. He sees through your insecurities and uses it against you. Ask yourself, why would you marry or date a man who believes he is doing u a favour by being with you? No way hunni!! Its suppose to be a mutual feeling....anyway i would advise you to work on yourself first. Pray and make efforts to love yourself . You are so precious , may God open ur eyes to see it.
Hmmmmm just be prayerful and patience
God will see you tru,in Jesus Name
My dear, all I have to say is that you should get a grip on yourself. There are worst people go through. I'll say you take it to God in prayer.
Worst things happen to people my dear been HIV positive is not the end of the world, and your husband, my dear you just have to talk to him, even of it hurts you still need to talk to him and don't forget God
You are such a fool for that reply. Is your Life perfect???? Stupid person. I am sure you don't even have self worth. Sorry Madam for your predicament the only person that help is GOD. Just continue praying to him. He will come through
Hi dear,
My candid advise would be to stress on the fact that HIV is not a killer but what actually kills are the opportunistic infections that arise due the weakened immune system.
That being said, you still have to be very careful with your husband to avoid getting other STD's such as gonorrhoea, syphilis etc. Those are the things that can make your condition worse.
There is also HIV 1 and HIV 2 and if you have HIV 1, you can also contract HIV 2 if you are not protecting yourself especially with a husband who is constantly sleeping around.
Be more prayerful and please get on your knees for God not your husband. Our God is a jealous God and you can only serve one Master.
Also try to live a healthy life, eat right, exercise, practice safe sex (as weird as this sounds) but yes practice safe sex to avoid opportunistic infections.
Finally, work on being independent and earning. You need to get your independence back to live your life moving forward. You cannot stay with your husband cos you both have HIV, cos am quite sure he had this virus before marrying you.
I wish you all the best.
What a stupid comment from a dullard! People like u are buhari's/nigeria's problem! How can u talk about someone going thru what she is going thru like that? We're u breast fed by a cow? The biggest problem of our world today are ass holes like u without an ounce of empathy! Another problem of the world today are idiots like u with free MB and a phone! Nasty sweat from a baboon's balls!
You're a fool and insensitive.. Where is your own sense of worth?
Freighten him with a divorce since u'v got some evidence to nail him..he'll surely come begging and when he comes don't just accept him back..make it last for 3months and he'll never go astray from ur claws
Lol!!! LMAO woman i don't pity you cause the signs were there looking deep into your eyes buh you were so into this dude... You wanted to change him or rather you were thinKing he would change lol relationship most times gives you a quick peek of how your ever after might look like al I would say is hold on to God to decide your reaming faith cause you are in the marriage and keep the faith going sister I wish you the best from life pls hold on and stay strong
You gave the lady the best advice. I don't know you but I appreciate u.
Finding out I was HIV positive wasn’t easy But as time has passed, I have slowly come to terms with my HIV-positive status and try to tackle it with a positive attitude, Dr Odia of (drodiaherbalisthelpcare@hotmail.com) really help me. In mid-2012 I became quite ill. I developed persistent flu-like symptoms, headaches, a nagging cough and sores that wouldn’t heal. My skin felt as if it was crawling, my legs ached, I felt nauseous and lost weight. Then exhaustion hit. It was an indescribable tiredness and no matter how much I slept I never felt rested.
In 2013 I was hospitalized when my CD4 count nosedived to 86 (HIV-negative people have a CD4 count of between 700 and 1,000; a CD4 count of below 200 is considered dangerously low). It was a terrible time. I have a vivid memory of sitting in a wheelchair covered with a blanket and catching a glimpse of myself in the mirror. I looked and felt like a little old lady – I was 39. I was so ill I could barely walk 200 metres. I hadn’t realized how little I appreciated my health until it was taken away from me. Fortunately I had a fantastic support system. Even though I was struggling to cope at work I didn’t lose my job. On the contrary the company I work for, my colleagues and my boss have been incredibly supportive throughout my illness. It was a frustrating time because I so desperately wanted to function like a normal human being. Yet I honestly thought I was going to die. I thought I was too far gone. It’s almost as if your body begins to reject everything it requires to sustain life. It was probably the scariest time of my life. I wished not for a bigger house or more money or a fancy car – I wanted to have the strength to go for a simple walk on the beach.
To this day that time has stuck with me and it has been life-changing. I wasn’t really materialistic before but if I ever find myself becoming caught up in the whirlwind of life I stop and take myself back to that time. The best things in life really are priceless. All my pains and sorrows turn to joy and history from the day i came in contact with Dr ODIA, Who really help with his herbal herbs, I WAS TOLD HE IS A HERBALS AND HE CAN BE OF HELP, I gave him a try and it really work out for me, today here i am negative. Contact him via: ( drodiaherbalisthelpcare@hotmail.com )
Abeg hold your man let him not spread diseases around abeg! anyway pele
I'm sure your hubby infected u with the HIV
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