Dear LIB readers: How do I recover my money from a debtor whose brother I'm engaged to?
From a female LIB reader
My fiance's brother is owing me N370,000. I borrowed him the money since November last year and up till now he hasn't paid me back and has stopped picking my calls. If he wasn't related to my man, I would called the police because this is tantamount to fraud, but I don't want to do something that would make my fiance call off our engagement. He knows his brother is owing me but told me to give him some time, but I don't think that man wants to give me back that money o. He's no longer responding to my pleas to return my money. How do I get it back without jeopardizing my relationship?
Hmmmm.... 1st of all you lent him money, not borrowed...bia were oso were ije NATA ya ego gi....which kain yeye he'll call of the wedding. Collect ur moni joor
Dis is a serious one ooo,talk to ur man again tell him to inform his brother to give u bck d money dat u ned it now,if d brother did not respond den u can try d alternative.
If I hear, take style collect ur money jorr, did he reason u are his brother gf b4 borrowing the cash?? No go draw ur money, dey there make shoe wear you.
UR MAN DNT WANT U TO GET IT...U WER GENEROUS BFORE SO LET IT GO..CUZ FROM HIS ACTIONS HE DOESNT WANA PSY BCK. OR U GO AFTA HIM N NOT MYDIN DE OUTCOME OF DE RELATNSHP..TOMJERRYSWIT
Tell your fiance to talk to his brother, and tell him you want to take action and see what he will say. because it seems the guy is taking advantage of the fact you're his brother's fiancee, that's why he doesn't want to pay.
That's serious o, i don't really have advice for you but pls don't lend such amount to people again without collecting something in return to hold(laptop that is functional) so that if they don't return your money, you won't release their laptop.
If you don't want the brother, then involve the police and get your money but my sister if you still value your relationship, go on your Knees and pray to God to change his mind.
If you don't want the brother, then involve the police and get your money but my sister if you still value your relationship, go on your Knees and pray to God to change his mind.
Hehe that money don enter voicemail.Its either you count it as a bad debt or be ready to fight for your money.Something tells me your fiance is shielding his bro too much.They may be in it together.The wedding may be a lie o
tell your fiancée to tell his brother to pay you your money....no sentiments involved. you are not married yet so don't need to be dashing money to his family members...am sure the guy is irresponsible and that will not be the last of his deceit if you marry his brother....how your fiancée handles the matter will tell you how responsible and mature he is...no law says you must allow in-laws get away with irresponsible behavior cos you are married into their family..
My sister, you need patience; just take it easy and i suggest you use your fiance to get back the money. but you certainly need to be patient. i do agree that he has no plan to pay back the money but what will you if this money was not borrow to him but was stolen from you at gun point, so you may need to consider forgetting the money. if it comes back good, if not have it in good faith. One thing i do is that i don't lend to people what i can not forfeit.
Hmmmmmm. Wht goes round comes around for dis words definitely wil catch up wit him. Leave him to his conscience, and let God deal wit him as he deem fit, and d Lord wil definitely uplift u far above dat amount of money.
Nothing is too big for God to handle. Let God handle ur battles, and issues of life 4u. So hand dis issue over to d living God, and see how u wil prosper far above ur own very own expectations.
It will take time to recover the money. You can elude your man on a profitable investment that will benefit both of you, make him understand you need the cash owed by his brother. Trust me, he will help you recover your money.
Better pikin, has your fiancé ever given you that amount of money before? Now you're walking on eggshells around him concerning your own money. Why would he call off the engagement when his brother is wrong? Good semi-wife abi wife to be, you didn't ask us before parting with the money so gird your loins and handle it yourself.
I can assure you, if you don't put your foot on the ground..you will never get your money back!If he loves you, he will support you! Am sure u hustled the money, you didn't steal it! Go get your money back dear! Just draw up a flexible payment plan for him at least to reduce the balance due gradually.
Forget the money. Your relationship is more important, let him pay when he can and if after a long while he doesn't pay. Officially forgive the debt. I am saying this from personal experience.
If am in ur shoe the best advise is to leave the money,and go on with ur relationship@the first place u sopose know that he take the advantage on u,just let it go pls ...money go finish na human being go remain
SAD MY DEAR,BUT MY CANDID ADVICE DO NOT INVOLVE COPS,THEY WOULD NOT HELP YOU,RATHER U SPEND MORE.THEY WILL TELL YOU IS MUTUAL TRANSACTION.MY ADVICE CONTINUE WITH DIPLOMACY AND LET YOUR MAN...HE IS IN A BETTER POSITION TO COLLECT THIS MONEY BACK FOR YOU IF IS COMMITTED.GUYS MAKE UNA DEY PAY NAAAAAA STANLEY
U buy ur marriage with 370000, u r afraid bc he's brother wants to marry u, let his brother pay for him or u go there urself n collect d money from him since he's nt picking ur calls
If there's a chance that your "man" will call off the engagement because his irresponsible brother wont give you your money, then my dear you need to rethink this so called engagement. He is supposed to be on his brother's neck sef on your behalf. Sister, do what you have to do, report him to the police, and think well if this is the kind of family you want to marry into. Don't let desperation to marry trap you in lifelong misery.
Your man isn't the only man on earth, so why the heck would he call off your engagement because you took measures to retrieve your money?! Tell him to get his brother to pay back what he owes and if that don't work, call the cops!
Why do you give him in the 1st place? Love! Or u used it to secure ur relationship. Dat money don enter one chance, him and d brother na planned it to duped you.
Go to ur debtor's house and confront him. Ma dear u have to risk it oooo, money no de grow for tree. In fact tell ur man first if nothing is don go confront him. God help u
It's a very difficult decision which could mar your chances of getting married if used force to retrieve the money. You should obtain a definite date for the payment known to your fiancée , if it fails and there is still a green light for the marriage then you will consider a sacrifice. If you go into marriage without first getting your money , your brother in law may not consider it worthwhile paying it back. On the other hand , if you go into details with the full backing of the law , you might be paid after some litigations while your marriage is hanging. So make a choice.
to hell wit d relationship! u better sharpen up now, a broken relationship is better than a fake engagement/marriage.. this is when u should test if he really loves u by standing by ur decision.. talk to ur so-called man, tell him u want ur money and how can u go about it, if not u will inform d police, that u cant take it anymore. Or are there other reasons y he cant pay? but y borrow money u cant pay.. some conmen we really have in Naija..!
How will asking for your money back jeopardize your relationship /engagement. Did your fiancé engage you because of the money. Some girls sha........ *hiss*... please get serious and go for your money jare.
keep calling, keep texting....if your Husband to be call off your engagement because you want to collect your money from his brother, then that means he is not in love with you and also ignorant
Call your Man and explain to him dat u nid ur money and dat if he won't call his brother and make him pay back bk dt u wld b involving Law Enforcement agencies...Shikina...Except u are ready to forfeit d cash cos of love
Are you giving your man and his brothers money just to stay in the relationship? Ask your man to go collect ur money sharp sharp if him nor want wahala
Are u a kenyan babe or a Naija babe? Na how u take open ur eyes give "man" dat kine money???? Chick ' u don't do dat naaaa. Especially when he's related to ur boyfriend. Forget dis "relationship" story nd ask dat dude to cough out shit or ul drag his blokus to d station oh. Nd if ur fiance talks bobojuice trash drag him too plus his engagement ring nd his relationship to d police station.abi na ur money dem wan use plan d wedding?? No make mistake marry dat guy without collecting ur cash bcz any kpim u make will result to in laws wahala.cause all d trouble u can cause now.bring down d roof!!!!! If he pays ur money bk' rush nd go fuck ur fiance rub his head nd pet him nd d rest will b history.if his brother likes he should carry face for u' once u enter ur husbands house ua now d MADAM!!!! At least ur 370k dey dance shakitibobo for ur account.plsss never u borrow a 'man' ur 5 naira next time ( leave dat for Kenya gurls to do....We Naija babes don't play like dat)!!!!!!
Talk to ur fiance, let him know u are willing to take drastic actions to get ur money back and see his reaction....if he truly loves u he'll help u get back ur money ASAP.... on d other hand I hope he wasn't d one dat used his brother to indirectly borrow d money from u..... u should be wise.....engagement shouldn't make one stupid...
Why?? Silly advice. If U are a pee-on don't advise other ppl to be like U. Be patient but if your fiancé was instrumental in your giving his bro the money then he will eventually speak up on your behalf. In the end, it's both of y'all's money. U don't want a man who won't defend you and yours no matter who the adversary is.
Y cnt ur man pay u d moni so as nt to jeopardise d relationship. Must African women always v to sacrifice for a relationship? Y cnt d men do so? Ds y I trust Americans, no woman will tk such rubbish.
(1)since he's not picking, me oo i will go to his house, ask y he's not bin pickin my calls and tel him daz by the way, tel him its the money i came to collect simple. i dont joke with my money i dont care if i'm engaged to ur bro or not. (2) if the person i'm engaged to dosnt buy the idea then he shud b ready to hand me d money ASAP else i'll go back to step 1 n if he threatens to call off the engagement fine!
stop asking for the money....play cool for a long time then...cook up a story and borrow 500k from your fiance and promise him you will return it that you want to use for something urgent...family or something that he also know about. you know the rest....just incase he refuses to give you the money back...make sure you borrow higher than the money lent out...
Did u discuss it with ur fiance before given the money to him? If yes what's his response? Ur fiance should know how to protect u from his family if not they will take u for granted and even frustrate u. It's his duty to step in and collect the money from his brother to save u the stress and quarrel. Just be patient anyway
Talk to your man to get the money from his brother if he don't get it with any other option even if it means involving the authorities if ur man loves u he will support you
U carry 370k give man.......some women dou......forget ur relationship and ask for u money......this is strictly business, ur fiance would understand, except he is am asshole
Na by force to get married? Do what you feel your spirit directs you to do but I will tell you that if truly love exist and your man loves you he will understand the meaning of respect because his action now will determine what he will do when you guys get married.
If you are comfortable without the money then leave it but if not … ATTACK. Don’t be surprise that after you leaving this money because of your man, he will now be the one to do the same thing to you in Future and when you ask he will return the question with another by asking you : is your Money not my Money, aren’t we One, aren’t we Family? I don’t even think you will have the month to ask him again and that will now leave you dried up while he will be the Man with the Money. You know Men like to be the head in that aspect in Nigeria, they like it when they are the one with the Money.
You better don’t go fall for that crap because your Money is your Own Money. Men can be very annoying when it comes to Money issue, they are predators … I am a Man and I know how it feels with borrowing and giving it back, it only takes the Grace of God to be a Man of your Word.
if you man is sensible he will talk to his brother into paying you your money, i will advice you meet the his broda and talk to him one on one, tell him if he doesn't pay you your money that you will involve the police... that amount of money no be beans oo
Dnt mind some of this men they think they are doing d women a big favour by marrying them, and some of our ladies will be doing as if marriage is the ultimost in life...
I suggest you leave everything about collecting the money to your husband to be. This is a family issue already and you have to tread with caution. After marriage you can call a family meeting based on the issue if it has not been resolved then. At this stage you dont expect his brother to fight him cos of your money.
Remember there is no guarantee that you will collect your money from a debtor be it relative or not and I hope he is not the only person owing you that you are having difficulty to get your money back from.
There are 2 things involved here. It's either you see it as a bad debt and let it go or you go full frontier and get your money with the hope of a dent in your relationship. Know that your fiance doesn't want him to pay you back otherwise he wouldn't suggest you give him time. How did you get to lending your would be brother in law money? Did you talk to your fiance first before you did if he advised you to lent the money, they're both scamming you. Girlfriend, you no be bank. Don't ever lend anybody, not even your parents money. If somebody wants to borrow money from you even if it's a family member, if you can spare the exact amount with flinching, give it as a gift or you give something you are comfortable with while gently telling the person "sorry, I'm giving you this as a gift, I wish I had money." or you tell the person, sorry I don't have a dime. Because if you say you don't have the amount the person is asking for, the person will ask how much you have. All the best.
Arrest the guy and forget the marriage ,come choose fine boy for my area for Ajegunle area.a whole 370k.look I will sell my Brother Evans to you for 150k mnHusband for life,we go share the balance together. Yes na so ,yes ke.yes - AJ for Life
if your man really loves you getting your money from his brother should not be a problem. i'm not saying he should fight his brother before he gets the money or force the money out of him, they are brothers, he understands him better. Another thing here is, was he aware of this deal u had with his brother? did he approve it? if yes, your money will come out but if otherwise i'm have to tell it will take you the same stress it will take a house to pass through the eye of a needle. All these will hold if he has the money and refuse to pay. but if he doesn't have the money just give him time and pray. for your relationship, it will only shake if your husband is not aware of the deal, buh if he is aware and decides to leave it simply means there was no love except he has given you tangible reasons why you should forget about the money.
if your man really loves you getting your money from his brother should not be a problem. i'm not saying he should fight his brother before he gets the money or force the money out of him, they are brothers, he understands him better. Another thing here is, was he aware of this deal u had with his brother? did he approve it? if yes, your money will come out but if otherwise i'm have to tell it will take you the same stress it will take a house to pass through the eye of a needle. All these will hold if he has the money and refuse to pay. but if he doesn't have the money just give him time and pray. for your relationship, it will only shake if your husband is not aware of the deal, buh if he is aware and decides to leave it simply means there was no love except he has given you tangible reasons why you should forget about the money.
Wait till u are married then u release hell on him.... Be calm and keep begging now for ur money.. But once u are married like dis.. My sister disturb ur husband, disturb ur inlaw till u get ur money.
Did she seek 4 advise wen borrowin him money so y is she cryin now nd is bata 2 dash instead of lend coz d person u borrow money will neva wish u well if u start disturbin he/she 2 pay up
my opinion,think well if they hv not used u,else ur man is in the best place to help u recover the money,he knows his brother 4 long,knows his capacity and tendencies and how best to help you else forget it.
my opinion,think well if they hv not used u,else ur man is in the best place to help u recover the money,he knows his brother 4 long,knows his capacity and tendencies and how best to help you else forget it.
First of all, was ur guy in support of u lending the money to his brother? If yes, then u should be packing ur load to get out of the r/ship now before it is too late. But if he's not in support, he should speak up for u and collect the money from his brother. Meanwhile, when next, try and differentiate business with r/ship becos I see no reason why ur engagement should be on the line if u had used ur brain very well.
Sentiment and pity are involved, if you man respects you,he would make sure his brother pays you,be careful, both of them might be using you for an ATM
Talk to ur fiance about it again, see is response, have some patience ,money will come and go, the guy might help u later, concentrate on ur relationship,
Yes my dear you said it all,both must be either involved, she should be careful not to be mistaken for an ATM,women shouldn't buy relationship with gestures or money,she wanted to be liked by all,if her fiance isn't comfortable with it and gonna quit the relationship for the money sakes,!!!God might be talking
Thank you!!! I can't imagine my brother knowing I owe someone he is trying to money. It won't even get there out of shame. If it did, he would immediately find a means to pay back to save face. Shows what kind of family you are about to marry into. Yuck!
Thank you!!! Why is she the one bending backwards to keep the relationship if her brother is not. He should even be the one that should be so ashamed that he'll do anything to pay you back himself! Go and collect your money jor!
Exactly my sentiment. Why won't u collect my money. I once borrowed my now husband then boyfriend's brother money n he played me but I collected my ego cos if dat do reason a man will leave u then he's not worth marrying in the first place. After collecting ur money NEVER Ever give ur boyfriend, fiancée, husband's relative money unless na dash. OK bye
My sister, what is money ? Money is not your life. You don't need to fight before you get the money back. Let go , put your trust in God. Remain focus, I don't allow money to kill your joy. You are the one that made that money, you will make it again. See it as a seed. God bless you.
Juliet iwuno, can't believe u can be so daft to give such advice.... put urself in her shoes, u can't even have a quarter of such amount in ur account, so I see reason why u suggesting she let go of d money
IT ALL DEPENDS IF YOUR FIANCE SURPORTED THE IDEA OF LENDING MONEY TO HIS BROTHER.IF HE DID, HE SHOULD HELP YOU TO COLLECT THE MONEY FROM THE BROTHER IF NOT MY DEAR ITS BETTER YOU SACRIFICE THE MONEY AND NEVER LEND MONEY TO HIM AGAIN. THE GUY MAY GROW TO BE RICH IN FUTURE AND HE WILL ALWAYS RESPECT YOU FOR THAT SACRIFICE.YOU WILL BE A WINNER BECAUSE YOU WILL NOT LOOSE YOUR RELATION SHIP AND MORE OVER THE GUY WILL BE AFRAID TO DO ANY THING THAT WILL HURT YOU IN THAT FAMILY. HE MAY BECOME YOUR BEST FRIEND IN THE FAMILY. GOOD LUCK
Firstly, an advice for next tym, dont lend money to ppl who you cant easily treat their fcuk up. Dash dem what u can instead. As d case is now, if u are marrying a responsible man who is the right husband for you, he will be the one to take drastic actions against his brother to get your money back, he will do everything possible. Bt if hes a bad choice of a husband, he will just keep calm nd be looking. Hope ur nt marrying into a family of hungry and dubious people. No fool yourself in life cos u dey find marriage all around. Na man side dey spend 4 woman side b4 wedding o
Firstly, an advice for next tym, dont lend money to ppl who you cant easily treat their fcuk up. Dash dem what u can instead. As d case is now, if u are marrying a responsible man who is the right husband for you, he will be the one to take drastic actions against his brother to get your money back, he will do everything possible. Bt if hes a bad choice of a husband, he will just keep calm nd be looking. Hope ur nt marrying into a family of hungry and dubious people. No fool yourself in life cos u dey find marriage all around. Na man side dey spend 4 woman side b4 wedding o
Wait a minute! How did the guy in question know that you've got such amount? Why did your fiance not lend his brother the money from his own pocket. He is not the fiance but the fiance brother right? Does his brother (fiance) share you with him or your account details with him? Think twice my dear. This is a big big sign for you. Your so called fiance MAY have a hand in this. He may have only used his brother to defraud and play around with the purported engagement stuff since he knows that is what will keep you hanging around with him. If you can possibly get your money back, good for you. But if you cannot, please run for your dear life.
Your fiancé has the onus to help you get your money. Am sure the brother has the money but because you are the brother's would be wife, he felt you would not want your relationship jeopardized. If I were you, I won't let go of that money, if that your fiancé really loves you, he should talk to the brother and ensure your money is paid back even if its installmentally. That his brother has no shame. Please be mindful of that family you are entering ooo. Am sure they took your niceness as foolishness. Bring it up my dear but in a subtle manner and your fiancé cannot call off your relationship because of that if he really loves you. a spade should be called a spade.
You're a big babe for doling out 370k,if your husband-to-be is not seriously interested in helping you recover your money,that's a red flag,he might just be like his bro-ready to extort from you
God is a Good God. ask yourself just this question how much had your man spent on you kindly calculate it? there are many way a man collects his money back as long as he is quiet on some ground based on his brother' moves, thank God you have not married yet pray to God to direct your path. two can be walking as one. from observations i hope your man is not like than but his silence speaks volumes.
Are u insane? Can u hear urself. Heee, chineke m oo!! Am here searchn dsperately 4 money, ibe m enwere nke ha adaga iberibe!!What stupid $ senseless engagementr u talkn abt? Let me ask u, how sure r u dat ur guy won't call of d engagement u r tryn so hard 2 protect later. Marriages scatter not 2 talk of somtn as unserios as an engagement. U better collect ur money oo. I dnt kno y u lent him such amount of money in d first place which I'm sure u would'v rfused ur own sister or brother if dey had askd 4 it. Ino there emega iberibe, enyi gi nwoke na nwanne ya ana-ada gi apari. I hope u r not an ibo girl cos if u r, agam ama gi ezigbo asu na egedege ihu gi. Hardly umu nwanyi Ibo adaa udi iberibe a. Abeg collect ur money oo
FROM OMO ODO AGBA.. THE BEST SOLUTION TO THIS IS..... HAVE 15DAYS FASTING AND PRAYER ESPECIALLY IN THE MIND NIGHT.. TELL YOUR GOD WHAT YOU WANT AND HAVE A PROMISED WITH GOD INSTEAD OF YOU WASTING YOUR MONEY ON POLICE...
My dear, the same thing happened to me. My sister-in-law borrowed some money from me with the promise to pay back at a stipulated time. She too stopped picking my calls just 2months to my wedding. Anyway, my hubby stepped in when he found out that she hadn't paid me. She grudgingly paid me back. Now, there's peace in the land. Get your fiance to get the money from his brother.
Why in heaven's name did you borrow him that amount of money in the first place? Never Ever Lend Out Any Amount You Can't Dash Out to avoid unnecessary headache. Just try and put pressure on ur man to talk to his bro
People can like to borrow money but when it comes to paying back na tori for the Gods you go dey hear. I believe both fiance and brother see you as a rich gal and therefore want to chop your money. Be kiaful is all I will say to you. When a man finds out you are desperate to marry him he treats you anyhow. Imagine a guy is asking me to marry him in less than 2 months of knowing him and he is already asking me for money. Mehn na race I tear o. Which kain tin be that one.
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Lol.... just forget it.
Gud for u.
Hmmmm....
1st of all you lent him money, not borrowed...bia were oso were ije NATA ya ego gi....which kain yeye he'll call of the wedding. Collect ur moni joor
This na serious gbege o. Ur money or your engagement!
But the guy is wicked
OKORO UPGRADED**
run for your life
If your man had common sense he would've paid you the money on his brother's behalf. It is better for his brother to owe him than for him to owe u.
Dis is a serious one ooo,talk to ur man again tell him to inform his brother to give u bck d money dat u ned it now,if d brother did not respond den u can try d alternative.
U need to take it easy,buh if I were u I won't stop asking of my money caus 370k go a long way.just take it cool
If I hear, take style collect ur money jorr, did he reason u are his brother gf b4 borrowing the cash?? No go draw ur money, dey there make shoe wear you.
UR MAN DNT WANT U TO GET IT...U WER GENEROUS BFORE SO LET IT GO..CUZ FROM HIS ACTIONS HE DOESNT WANA PSY BCK. OR U GO AFTA HIM N NOT MYDIN DE OUTCOME OF DE RELATNSHP..TOMJERRYSWIT
Your money is gone...
Ur fiancee shuld be in d better position to mk him pay u. Be wise b4 they use ur money marry anoda girl
Pray
it is well
Tell your fiance to talk to his brother, and tell him you want to take action and see what he will say. because it seems the guy is taking advantage of the fact you're his brother's fiancee, that's why he doesn't want to pay.
Tough one. God help you and just be patient as your fiance has told you
That's serious o, i don't really have advice for you but pls don't lend such amount to people again without collecting something in return to hold(laptop that is functional) so that if they don't return your money, you won't release their laptop.
Well, unless ur FIANCEE is willing 2 pay u back, my dear, go all out, I repeat, go all out, 2 collect ur money. Wat rubbish!!
If you don't want the brother, then involve the police and get your money but my sister if you still value your relationship, go on your Knees and pray to God to change his mind.
If you don't want the brother, then involve the police and get your money but my sister if you still value your relationship, go on your Knees and pray to God to change his mind.
Hehe that money don enter voicemail.Its either you count it as a bad debt or be ready to fight for your money.Something tells me your fiance is shielding his bro too much.They may be in it together.The wedding may be a lie o
tell your fiancée to tell his brother to pay you your money....no sentiments involved. you are not married yet so don't need to be dashing money to his family members...am sure the guy is irresponsible and that will not be the last of his deceit if you marry his brother....how your fiancée handles the matter will tell you how responsible and mature he is...no law says you must allow in-laws get away with irresponsible behavior cos you are married into their family..
Talk to your fiance about it or forget about d money...it's ur choice though.
Use ur man to collect it
My sister, you need patience; just take it easy and i suggest you use your fiance to get back the money. but you certainly need to be patient. i do agree that he has no plan to pay back the money but what will you if this money was not borrow to him but was stolen from you at gun point, so you may need to consider forgetting the money. if it comes back good, if not have it in good faith. One thing i do is that i don't lend to people what i can not forfeit.
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Hmmmmmm. Wht goes round comes around for dis words definitely wil catch up wit him. Leave him to his conscience, and let God deal wit him as he deem fit, and d Lord wil definitely uplift u far above dat amount of money.
Nothing is too big for God to handle. Let God handle ur battles, and issues of life 4u. So hand dis issue over to d living God, and see how u wil prosper far above ur own very own expectations.
It will take time to recover the money. You can elude your man on a profitable investment that will benefit both of you, make him understand you need the cash owed by his brother. Trust me, he will help you recover your money.
Better pikin, has your fiancé ever given you that amount of money before? Now you're walking on eggshells around him concerning your own money. Why would he call off the engagement when his brother is wrong? Good semi-wife abi wife to be, you didn't ask us before parting with the money so gird your loins and handle it yourself.
I can assure you, if you don't put your foot on the ground..you will never get your money back!If he loves you, he will support you! Am sure u hustled the money, you didn't steal it! Go get your money back dear! Just draw up a flexible payment plan for him at least to reduce the balance due gradually.
Forget the money. Your relationship is more important, let him pay when he can and if after a long while he doesn't pay. Officially forgive the debt. I am saying this from personal experience.
If am in ur shoe the best advise is to leave the money,and go on with ur relationship@the first place u sopose know that he take the advantage on u,just let it go pls ...money go finish na human being go remain
Lolll......relationship ke,is he the only man. Abegi....collect your money by force
Add it 2 ur bride price...simple
the lesson: dont give out the money you cannot forgone
Come back and read lib comments and u will know what to do,they r good in terrible advice
Dear,
You better forgo the money and face your marriage plans, hence his brother is aware of it, at least for now. Goodluck!
U just Ave to continue to Ave patient ooo besides ur man knws he is owing u, just prayer with patient will do it
Plz be patient
FIBONNACHI
Ewo sorry o
Oooooooooooh my...!
Choose btwn money amd relationship
SAD MY DEAR,BUT MY CANDID ADVICE DO NOT INVOLVE COPS,THEY WOULD NOT HELP YOU,RATHER U SPEND MORE.THEY WILL TELL YOU IS MUTUAL TRANSACTION.MY ADVICE CONTINUE WITH DIPLOMACY AND LET YOUR MAN...HE IS IN A BETTER POSITION TO COLLECT THIS MONEY BACK FOR YOU IF IS COMMITTED.GUYS MAKE UNA DEY PAY NAAAAAA
STANLEY
U buy ur marriage with 370000, u r afraid bc he's brother wants to marry u, let his brother pay for him or u go there urself n collect d money from him since he's nt picking ur calls
Your money or your man...very simple.
If there's a chance that your "man" will call off the engagement because his irresponsible brother wont give you your money, then my dear you need to rethink this so called engagement. He is supposed to be on his brother's neck sef on your behalf. Sister, do what you have to do, report him to the police, and think well if this is the kind of family you want to marry into. Don't let desperation to marry trap you in lifelong misery.
Your man isn't the only man on earth, so why the heck would he call off your engagement because you took measures to retrieve your money?! Tell him to get his brother to pay back what he owes and if that don't work, call the cops!
Mogbe, u shouldn't have given him the money at first, well let ur guy get it for u.
Mogbe, u shouldn't have given him the money at first, well let ur guy get it for u.
Lend him some more money.... mtchewww
The answer is LOL!!!
Why do you give him in the 1st place? Love! Or u used it to secure ur relationship. Dat money don enter one chance, him and d brother na planned it to duped you.
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Just wait after the marriage yu resume action... Simple....
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Go to ur debtor's house and confront him. Ma dear u have to risk it oooo, money no de grow for tree. In fact tell ur man first if nothing is don go confront him. God help u
It's a very difficult decision which could mar your chances of getting married if used force to retrieve the money. You should obtain a definite date for the payment known to your fiancée , if it fails and there is still a green light for the marriage then you will consider a sacrifice. If you go into marriage without first getting your money , your brother in law may not consider it worthwhile paying it back. On the other hand , if you go into details with the full backing of the law , you might be paid after some litigations while your marriage is hanging. So make a choice.
to hell wit d relationship! u better sharpen up now, a broken relationship is better than a fake engagement/marriage.. this is when u should test if he really loves u by standing by ur decision.. talk to ur so-called man, tell him u want ur money and how can u go about it, if not u will inform d police, that u cant take it anymore. Or are there other reasons y he cant pay? but y borrow money u cant pay.. some conmen we really have in Naija..!
How will asking for your money back jeopardize your relationship /engagement. Did your fiancé engage you because of the money. Some girls sha........ *hiss*... please get serious and go for your money jare.
keep calling, keep texting....if your Husband to be call off your engagement because you want to collect your money from his brother, then that means he is not in love with you and also ignorant
Just choose one. Money or relationship.
This is what u get when u are stupidly in love. U r even afraid with ur own money. Keep on loving and dying
Call your Man and explain to him dat u nid ur money and dat if he won't call his brother and make him pay back bk dt u wld b involving Law Enforcement agencies...Shikina...Except u are ready to forfeit d cash cos of love
Aboki the son of ashawo mother. God punish you and your entire lineage
Money Or Engagement..Open ur eyes
Are you giving your man and his brothers money just to stay in the relationship? Ask your man to go collect ur money sharp sharp if him nor want wahala
Are u a kenyan babe or a Naija babe? Na how u take open ur eyes give "man" dat kine money???? Chick ' u don't do dat naaaa. Especially when he's related to ur boyfriend. Forget dis "relationship" story nd ask dat dude to cough out shit or ul drag his blokus to d station oh. Nd if ur fiance talks bobojuice trash drag him too plus his engagement ring nd his relationship to d police station.abi na ur money dem wan use plan d wedding?? No make mistake marry dat guy without collecting ur cash bcz any kpim u make will result to in laws wahala.cause all d trouble u can cause now.bring down d roof!!!!! If he pays ur money bk' rush nd go fuck ur fiance rub his head nd pet him nd d rest will b history.if his brother likes he should carry face for u' once u enter ur husbands house ua now d MADAM!!!! At least ur 370k dey dance shakitibobo for ur account.plsss never u borrow a 'man' ur 5 naira next time ( leave dat for Kenya gurls to do....We Naija babes don't play like dat)!!!!!!
Dnt mix sentiment wit business. If u need d money, u know how to get it
The two brothers don dupe you o. You no go see that money collect
Talk to ur fiance, let him know u are willing to take drastic actions to get ur money back and see his reaction....if he truly loves u he'll help u get back ur money ASAP.... on d other hand I hope he wasn't d one dat used his brother to indirectly borrow d money from u..... u should be wise.....engagement shouldn't make one stupid...
YOU LEND HIM, YOU DIDN'T BORROWED.
Why?? Silly advice. If U are a pee-on don't advise other ppl to be like U. Be patient but if your fiancé was instrumental in your giving his bro the money then he will eventually speak up on your behalf. In the end, it's both of y'all's money. U don't want a man who won't defend you and yours no matter who the adversary is.
Y cnt ur man pay u d moni so as nt to jeopardise d relationship. Must African women always v to sacrifice for a relationship? Y cnt d men do so? Ds y I trust Americans, no woman will tk such rubbish.
(1)since he's not picking, me oo i will go to his house, ask y he's not bin pickin my calls and tel him daz by the way, tel him its the money i came to collect simple. i dont joke with my money i dont care if i'm engaged to ur bro or not. (2) if the person i'm engaged to dosnt buy the idea then he shud b ready to hand me d money ASAP else i'll go back to step 1 n if he threatens to call off the engagement fine!
MY Dear, my own opinion if u love ur husband to be forget the money for now and put him aside.
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Hehehehe, d money plenty o! For you to lend someone dat kind of money means you have much more in your account so just let go. Linda take note!
Hehehehe, d money plenty o! For you to lend someone dat kind of money means you have much more in your account so just let go. Linda take note!
Is laptop worth 370k
stop asking for the money....play cool for a long time then...cook up a story and borrow 500k from your fiance and promise him you will return it that you want to use for something urgent...family or something that he also know about.
you know the rest....just incase he refuses to give you the money back...make sure you borrow higher than the money lent out...
Your man shuld get u the money frm his brother, if he can't then call police, no time o
Did u discuss it with ur fiance before given the money to him? If yes what's his response? Ur fiance should know how to protect u from his family if not they will take u for granted and even frustrate u. It's his duty to step in and collect the money from his brother to save u the stress and quarrel. Just be patient anyway
Talk to your man to get the money from his brother if he don't get it with any other option even if it means involving the authorities if ur man loves u he will support you
U carry 370k give man.......some women dou......forget ur relationship and ask for u money......this is strictly business, ur fiance would understand, except he is am asshole
Na by force to get married? Do what you feel your spirit directs you to do but I will tell you that if truly love exist and your man loves you he will understand the meaning of respect because his action now will determine what he will do when you guys get married.
If you are comfortable without the money then leave it but if not … ATTACK.
Don’t be surprise that after you leaving this money because of your man, he will now be the one to do the same thing to you in Future and when you ask he will return the question with another by asking you : is your Money not my Money, aren’t we One, aren’t we Family? I don’t even think you will have the month to ask him again and that will now leave you dried up while he will be the Man with the Money. You know Men like to be the head in that aspect in Nigeria, they like it when they are the one with the Money.
You better don’t go fall for that crap because your Money is your Own Money.
Men can be very annoying when it comes to Money issue, they are predators … I am a Man and I know how it feels with borrowing and giving it back, it only takes the Grace of God to be a Man of your Word.
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You took the words right out of my mouth...d stupid brother is just taking advantage of her cos she wants to marry into the family rubbish.
THERE IS NO FAMILY IN BUSINESS. COLLECT YOUR MONEY.
if you man is sensible he will talk to his brother into paying you your money, i will advice you meet the his broda and talk to him one on one, tell him if he doesn't pay you your money that you will involve the police... that amount of money no be beans oo
Dnt mind some of this men they think they are doing d women a big favour by marrying them, and some of our ladies will be doing as if marriage is the ultimost in life...
hahahahahahahah...........babe abeg try collect d money make you loose both ways.
I suggest you leave everything about collecting the money to your husband to be. This is a family issue already and you have to tread with caution. After marriage you can call a family meeting based on the issue if it has not been resolved then. At this stage you dont expect his brother to fight him cos of your money.
Remember there is no guarantee that you will collect your money from a debtor be it relative or not and I hope he is not the only person owing you that you are having difficulty to get your money back from.
Must u drag his mum in2 dis.. wat if som1 shld say dsame to u how wuld u feel?
Lib freak
You are so right
Are you sure the two of the are not scam artist
There are 2 things involved here. It's either you see it as a bad debt and let it go or you go full frontier and get your money with the hope of a dent in your relationship. Know that your fiance doesn't want him to pay you back otherwise he wouldn't suggest you give him time. How did you get to lending your would be brother in law money? Did you talk to your fiance first before you did if he advised you to lent the money, they're both scamming you. Girlfriend, you no be bank. Don't ever lend anybody, not even your parents money. If somebody wants to borrow money from you even if it's a family member, if you can spare the exact amount with flinching, give it as a gift or you give something you are comfortable with while gently telling the person "sorry, I'm giving you this as a gift, I wish I had money." or you tell the person, sorry I don't have a dime. Because if you say you don't have the amount the person is asking for, the person will ask how much you have. All the best.
Shouldn't hv loaned him the money. Keep waiting for it but really accept that it may be gone forever. Now you know.
Expensive learning experience.
Arrest the guy and forget the marriage ,come choose fine boy for my area for Ajegunle area.a whole 370k.look I will sell my Brother Evans to you for 150k mnHusband for life,we go share the balance together. Yes na so ,yes ke.yes - AJ for Life
if your man really loves you getting your money from his brother should not be a problem. i'm not saying he should fight his brother before he gets the money or force the money out of him, they are brothers, he understands him better. Another thing here is, was he aware of this deal u had with his brother? did he approve it? if yes, your money will come out but if otherwise i'm have to tell it will take you the same stress it will take a house to pass through the eye of a needle. All these will hold if he has the money and refuse to pay. but if he doesn't have the money just give him time and pray. for your relationship, it will only shake if your husband is not aware of the deal, buh if he is aware and decides to leave it simply means there was no love except he has given you tangible reasons why you should forget about the money.
kimpo
if your man really loves you getting your money from his brother should not be a problem. i'm not saying he should fight his brother before he gets the money or force the money out of him, they are brothers, he understands him better. Another thing here is, was he aware of this deal u had with his brother? did he approve it? if yes, your money will come out but if otherwise i'm have to tell it will take you the same stress it will take a house to pass through the eye of a needle. All these will hold if he has the money and refuse to pay. but if he doesn't have the money just give him time and pray. for your relationship, it will only shake if your husband is not aware of the deal, buh if he is aware and decides to leave it simply means there was no love except he has given you tangible reasons why you should forget about the money.
kimpo
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahhahahahahahahahahahahahh, that cracked me up badly, buh u wicked oh
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahaha, that realy cracked me up. U wicked oh
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahhahahahahahahahahahahahh, that cracked me up badly, buh u wicked oh
Wait till u are married then u release hell on him.... Be calm and keep begging now for ur money.. But once u are married like dis.. My sister disturb ur husband, disturb ur inlaw till u get ur money.
U re a very big fool........
Add the mount to your bride price
Did she seek 4 advise wen borrowin him money so y is she cryin now nd is bata 2 dash instead of lend coz d person u borrow money will neva wish u well if u start disturbin he/she 2 pay up
Seek your fiance advice first before taking it to public
Leave wetin! if I here say you leave am.
collect ya money joor.
my opinion,think well if they hv not used u,else ur man is in the best place to help u recover the money,he knows his brother 4 long,knows his capacity and tendencies and how best to help you else forget it.
be careful to avoid more of such from other close relatives
my opinion,think well if they hv not used u,else ur man is in the best place to help u recover the money,he knows his brother 4 long,knows his capacity and tendencies and how best to help you else forget it.
Serious matter....lmao! you can through perseverance
First of all, was ur guy in support of u lending the money to his brother? If yes, then u should be packing ur load to get out of the r/ship now before it is too late. But if he's not in support, he should speak up for u and collect the money from his brother. Meanwhile, when next, try and differentiate business with r/ship becos I see no reason why ur engagement should be on the line if u had used ur brain very well.
put a lien on his account
Sentiment and pity are involved, if you man respects you,he would make sure his brother pays you,be careful, both of them might be using you for an ATM
Talk to ur fiance about it again, see is response, have some patience ,money will come and go, the guy might help u later, concentrate on ur relationship,
Yes my dear you said it all,both must be either involved, she should be careful not to be mistaken for an ATM,women shouldn't buy relationship with gestures or money,she wanted to be liked by all,if her fiance isn't comfortable with it and gonna quit the relationship for the money sakes,!!!God might be talking
Hahaha!!! You're smart!
Thank you!!! I can't imagine my brother knowing I owe someone he is trying to money. It won't even get there out of shame. If it did, he would immediately find a means to pay back to save face. Shows what kind of family you are about to marry into. Yuck!
Thank you!!! Why is she the one bending backwards to keep the relationship if her brother is not. He should even be the one that should be so ashamed that he'll do anything to pay you back himself! Go and collect your money jor!
Exactly my sentiment. Why won't u collect my money. I once borrowed my now husband then boyfriend's brother money n he played me but I collected my ego cos if dat do reason a man will leave u then he's not worth marrying in the first place. After collecting ur money NEVER Ever give ur boyfriend, fiancée, husband's relative money unless na dash. OK bye
My sister, what is money ? Money is not your life. You don't need to fight before you get the money back. Let go , put your trust in God. Remain focus, I don't allow money to kill your joy. You are the one that made that money, you will make it again. See it as a seed. God bless you.
Juliet iwuno, can't believe u can be so daft to give such advice.... put urself in her shoes, u can't even have a quarter of such amount in ur account, so I see reason why u suggesting she let go of d money
Your boo won't leave you if he loves you.
Collect that money babe.
IT ALL DEPENDS IF YOUR FIANCE SURPORTED THE IDEA OF LENDING MONEY TO HIS BROTHER.IF HE DID, HE SHOULD HELP YOU TO COLLECT THE MONEY FROM THE BROTHER IF NOT MY DEAR ITS BETTER YOU SACRIFICE THE MONEY AND NEVER LEND MONEY TO HIM AGAIN. THE GUY MAY GROW TO BE RICH IN FUTURE AND HE WILL ALWAYS RESPECT YOU FOR THAT SACRIFICE.YOU WILL BE A WINNER BECAUSE YOU WILL NOT LOOSE YOUR RELATION SHIP AND MORE OVER THE GUY WILL BE AFRAID TO DO ANY THING THAT WILL HURT YOU IN THAT FAMILY. HE MAY BECOME YOUR BEST FRIEND IN THE FAMILY. GOOD LUCK
Firstly, an advice for next tym, dont lend money to ppl who you cant easily treat their fcuk up. Dash dem what u can instead. As d case is now, if u are marrying a responsible man who is the right husband for you, he will be the one to take drastic actions against his brother to get your money back, he will do everything possible. Bt if hes a bad choice of a husband, he will just keep calm nd be looking. Hope ur nt marrying into a family of hungry and dubious people. No fool yourself in life cos u dey find marriage all around. Na man side dey spend 4 woman side b4 wedding o
Firstly, an advice for next tym, dont lend money to ppl who you cant easily treat their fcuk up. Dash dem what u can instead. As d case is now, if u are marrying a responsible man who is the right husband for you, he will be the one to take drastic actions against his brother to get your money back, he will do everything possible. Bt if hes a bad choice of a husband, he will just keep calm nd be looking. Hope ur nt marrying into a family of hungry and dubious people. No fool yourself in life cos u dey find marriage all around. Na man side dey spend 4 woman side b4 wedding o
Wait a minute! How did the guy in question know that you've got such amount? Why did your fiance not lend his brother the money from his own pocket. He is not the fiance but the fiance brother right? Does his brother (fiance) share you with him or your account details with him? Think twice my dear. This is a big big sign for you. Your so called fiance MAY have a hand in this. He may have only used his brother to defraud and play around with the purported engagement stuff since he knows that is what will keep you hanging around with him. If you can possibly get your money back, good for you. But if you cannot, please run for your dear life.
Your fiancé has the onus to help you get your money. Am sure the brother has the money but because you are the brother's would be wife, he felt you would not want your relationship jeopardized. If I were you, I won't let go of that money, if that your fiancé really loves you, he should talk to the brother and ensure your money is paid back even if its installmentally. That his brother has no shame. Please be mindful of that family you are entering ooo. Am sure they took your niceness as foolishness. Bring it up my dear but in a subtle manner and your fiancé cannot call off your relationship because of that if he really loves you. a spade should be called a spade.
Thank you @titi. Best answer yet. But there is no need for the cops.
You're a big babe for doling out 370k,if your husband-to-be is not seriously interested in helping you recover your money,that's a red flag,he might just be like his bro-ready to extort from you
God is a Good God. ask yourself just this question how much had your man spent on you kindly calculate it? there are many way a man collects his money back as long as he is quiet on some ground based on his brother' moves, thank God you have not married yet pray to God to direct your path. two can be walking as one. from observations i hope your man is not like than but his silence speaks volumes.
Are u insane? Can u hear urself. Heee, chineke m oo!! Am here searchn dsperately 4 money, ibe m enwere nke ha adaga iberibe!!What stupid $ senseless engagementr u talkn abt? Let me ask u, how sure r u dat ur guy won't call of d engagement u r tryn so hard 2 protect later. Marriages scatter not 2 talk of somtn as unserios as an engagement. U better collect ur money oo. I dnt kno y u lent him such amount of money in d first place which I'm sure u would'v rfused ur own sister or brother if dey had askd 4 it. Ino there emega iberibe, enyi gi nwoke na nwanne ya ana-ada gi apari. I hope u r not an ibo girl cos if u r, agam ama gi ezigbo asu na egedege ihu gi. Hardly umu nwanyi Ibo adaa udi iberibe a. Abeg collect ur money oo
FROM OMO ODO AGBA.. THE BEST SOLUTION TO THIS IS..... HAVE 15DAYS FASTING AND PRAYER ESPECIALLY IN THE MIND NIGHT.. TELL YOUR GOD WHAT YOU WANT AND HAVE A PROMISED WITH GOD INSTEAD OF YOU WASTING YOUR MONEY ON POLICE...
My dear, the same thing happened to me. My sister-in-law borrowed some money from me with the promise to pay back at a stipulated time. She too stopped picking my calls just 2months to my wedding. Anyway, my hubby stepped in when he found out that she hadn't paid me. She grudgingly paid me back. Now, there's peace in the land. Get your fiance to get the money from his brother.
Why in heaven's name did you borrow him that amount of money in the first place? Never Ever Lend Out Any Amount You Can't Dash Out to avoid unnecessary headache. Just try and put pressure on ur man to talk to his bro
My money b4 brother inlaw
Tell him..Nigga better have my money.Dnt act like you forgot it..simple.
I have died!!!! Forgone??? Chineke ekwe kwala ihe ojo!
People can like to borrow money but when it comes to paying back na tori for the Gods you go dey hear. I believe both fiance and brother see you as a rich gal and therefore want to chop your money. Be kiaful is all I will say to you. When a man finds out you are desperate to marry him he treats you anyhow. Imagine a guy is asking me to marry him in less than 2 months of knowing him and he is already asking me for money. Mehn na race I tear o. Which kain tin be that one.
Lol....._una no go kee me with laff 4 dis blog oo! Oya u dat hv died wake up o! Hahahahaha
No be only patient na doctor..... lol
@Anon dis ur advise just dey sweet my belle! Lol! Girl hope u see dis advice!!!
Don't worry, your husband to be will pay u back
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