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Wednesday 18 November 2015

Mo'Nique explains why giving your spouse a pass to cheat could make your marriage stronger

For all married people, comedienne and actress Mo'Nique has advice that many of you will probably not agree with. The Oscar winning actress has always been very upfront about her open marriage to manager Sidney Hicks and in a recent interview, she explained why giving your spouse a pass to cheat could make your marriage stronger. What she said after the cut...


Mo'Nique tells True Exclusives
"The person that you stood up and you said 'for better, for worse, sickness and in health, richer or poorer' you took those vows in front of the universe. If you don't live by them, then maybe you shouldn't have taken them. And when you say 'a pass to cheat'... see when you're with your best friend and you say to your best friend 'I'm having these feelings about this person, sexually and I wanna share it with you'.. when you're best friends, you can have those open and honest conversations."   
"Often times people cheat because of something their not getting. But when you have open and honest dialogue and you say we're just human beings and all these people on the face of the earth, do you think my eyes won't ever say 'he's fine' or 'she's attractive'. Now if you wanna go further with it, let's be honest enough to have those conversations. What is it about that person that you find that you wanna sleep with? Because they may give you something that I'm simply not willing to do. And if that's the case, how can I be mad? Because I'm not gon' do it. Should I deprive you of not having it? That's when the relationship is real real."

100 comments:

Unknown said...

She has no choice. She's a fat fool. She's even lucky she was opportuned to marry. Next plzzzz!!!

Alloy Chikezie said...

Mtcheeeeew!

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Unknown said...

True talk.

Unknown said...

Wow!

Dis r d most honest words I hav ever read...
Biko my people tak to dis advise.

Comment frm ROYAL PRIESTHOOD (royalpriesthood007@gmail.com)

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

I ain't a fan of marriage issues biko! Cus marriage ain't a do or die affair, people are over hyping this marriage ish..!$ if you cheat,i kick ur sorry ass out!

Blog It With Olivia said...

This is insane
















#It wiLL oNLy gEt beTTer
#iT mUsT eNd iN prAise

Unknown said...

Hummmmmm.....these women will never seize to amuse me. First Huddah, now Mo'Nique.






















#TeamBlessed#

Davido's driver said...

Wisdom

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

Na today? Iffa hear

Unknown said...

U talking trash mam to be honest u are

Anonymous said...

Fat Fool

Anonymous said...

Owk this man I see here is Bisexual. Don't ask me how

Bonita Bislam said...

From what I understand, these guys are tryna give a new definition to church marriage .I beg to disagree with everything she said.What different a man from an animal is his ability to control his urges.Stop giving men the pass to cheat abeg.
And later these same women would be clamouring for gender equality. Smh

Adeola said...

Well I kind of like have a silent agreement with my husband to cheat as long as we both do it respectfully and no questions asked and it has kept us stronger and sane and peaceful we are going on 10 years now while other marriages are crashing up and down around us. We are all human and sometimes a good sex out there can help with stress relief. As long as you know the cheating is not one sided it goes a long way in keeping you guys stronger. Ppl should try it

Anonymous said...

This simply shows that she's having extramarital affair.

Anonymous said...

O ga eme gi Vum n'anya-
Pete Edochie (1733)

OSINANL said...

Smh....

Temitope Alabi said...

Hmmmmmmmm. Spirit of adultery setting in.

SMURF said...

I guess 2015 is truly a year of change.

Unknown said...

HMMMM













AUNTY LINDA....

Anonymous said...

I beg what she's saying is what we all hide and do. Hubby cheats like mad but where am I? Still in his house after 15 yrs and upon his cheating in still here so what's the difference?

Unknown said...

NNE, I beg to differ biko. Linda take note!

Anonymous said...

rubbish insecurity oroboness aint kool dats why until you catch something you stop such trashy chat

Unknown said...

NNE, I beg to differ biko. Linda take note!

Hips Dont Lie said...

So much hate. Not nice a beg. So because she is fat she should not marry? Not cool sis.

passions said...

D fact dt we women r aware that men do cheat is nt a rm to give them a free ticket to do it.All one to do to stay alive n strong for yourself and children is ask God for wisdom to deal with the situation while you ignore them(though its hard I know) and do all that's within your power as a woman to get the best n be on top of your game

Comment frm ROYAL PRIESTHOOD (royalpriesthood007@gmail.com) said...

Excuse me!

Wht d heck r u saying..?
She is gorgeous, lovely and gorgeous and not a fat fool as u claim.

She spoke well and she nailed it all thru and she said it well wit wisdom.

Its only fools dat wil disagree wit her and people who feels they know more than. Themsef.

Comment frm ROYAL PRIESTHOOD (royalpriesthood007@gmail.com)

Anonymous said...

Really? Dog!

Anonymous said...

*Cough* *Cough*... someone aka Monique is using her last of self confidence and low esteem to justify allowing her husband to cheat... Kudos to you. Ensure he get the other lad/ladettes to have a HIV test to you both dont join Sheen

Unknown said...

Pple like u av sum1 whose dress size isn't in d market,n u'll be here running ur mouth.

Anonymous said...

Adeola send me a mail... chineducharles042@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Why insult her like that?
Not nice pls.

Unknown said...

Welldone

Unknown said...

Madam nnenne na ur type go cry heaven and earth and be saying wre d hell did I fail in my marriage stop the hate and learn from her

gentle said...

So you are now an advocate for cheating? If i see you place any bible passages or preach here again eh...bloody hypocrite.

Unknown said...

If she's your sister, why can't u tell her to keep quite if she has nothing reasonable to say. She deserves my insult because she's preaching nonsense!!!

Anonymous said...

Since wen did it become an offense for som1 to be fat... Useless woman...

gentle said...

I think nnenne is right. This woman is very insecure. Thank God she said he's her best friend not her love. There is no way you'l really love a guy and stand the thought of him cheating. It's so impossible.

gentle said...

Or perhaps it's some sort of arrangement they made so he'l stay with her. People noticed he cheats and she's indifferent so she came up with this story as cover up.

anonimouse said...

what she said might sound outrageous n insane but trust me nothing trumps the swinger life style. think about it, how can someone be eating only egusi soup for the rest of their lives? makes no sense, that's why its best to explore other pussies n dicks outside. makes marriage alotta fun.

anonimouse said...

what she said might sound outrageous n insane but trust me nothing trumps the swinger life style. think about it, how can someone be eating only egusi soup for the rest of their lives? makes no sense, that's why its best to explore other pussies n dicks outside. makes marriage alotta fun.

Anonymous said...

This girl, you are too insulting. Show some respect to your elders.

Anonymous said...

Use your brain, is your right.

TES said...

Royal priesthood, U are d fakest person on earth one minute u comment like a descent person the Next minute u forget ur previous comment and really show ur true self
How can u ever buy this advise and even advise others to take it. #SMH#

Anonymous said...

Gbam! No timr for nonsense

TES said...

Adeola you need God's help!!

divine said...

Adeola or watever ur name is. U r a bastard,u r an idiot, u r a fool,idiot Infact u r prostitute. U r not ani ten yrs in mariage. U r talkin nonsense u don't v d fear of God in um idiot.to dat fat fool,kip ur marriage ish to fuckin sef asshole

TES said...

@Passions, GOD bless you

Anonymous said...

Fat fool??? Dis is really sad.you're such a hater

Anonymous said...

God pls help me oo i dey cheat on my husband no be my fault his not always around

Unknown said...

Monique you are speaking grammar. Come and give a Nigerian man such an opportunity and see the kind of opportunities he would create out of that one. Annie Idibia can attest to what am saying. lol.

Unknown said...

Yea yeah

CHYGURL from CHYNA said...

True talk from Monique. Cos d more u police ur hubby or try to dig into everything he does, the more trouble ur asking for. I prefer open and sincere gist from my partner, even if he cheated, he tells me bout it and tender his apologies. So wt that I feel comfortable even when he travels for months.

Mr. Stretch said...

I just got disgusted by that off-the-top-of-your-brain-not-thinking comment nnenna!! That wasn't intelligent to say the least!

CHYGURL from CHYNA said...

There a time my man worked in Ghana for 4months and did not cheat, but I had to talk him into hooking up a chic and lay her ,so he cld relief himself, cos I didn't leave my biz to visit him in Ghana dat period, so I suggested cheating ,but use a CONDOM ooo. Life goz on

Black Belle said...

Is sex everything? Why are humans behaving like animals becos of sex? What happened to morals? And respect? And what happen to respect of God

Anonymous said...

okpo!That Is not marriage, u both are deceiving yourselves.

Walter Chiemeka said...

She can say that, she has problem with sleeping around herself, including sleeping with her blood brother, if she justifies it , it is simply because she needs the pass herself.

Anonymous said...

okpo!That Is not marriage, u both are deceiving yourselves.

Anonymous said...

I allow my husband to cheat and he loves me so much about that. But guess what he dosnt know I do same

Anonymous said...

This girl too dey write senseless comments

Unknown said...

Worst write up eva

Anonymous said...

Wow! So after typing all that garbage U felt proud of urself hmmm nnenne?am sure ur not married,even with ur perfect slimness! #judgeless #areyouherhusband #dobetter #yournotperfectyourself

Anonymous said...

For real??? *smh*

Anonymous said...

I was taken aback reading ur piece until I glance at ur name... then it all made sense. Only yorubas consider infidelity as a normal deal. Goodluck dear! I hope when U both catch any diseases respectfully y'all be happy. Don't tell me about condoms, 'cos oral sex can't be done with condoms! Peace out!!!

Anonymous said...

I was taken aback reading ur piece until I glance at ur name... then it all made sense. Only yorubas consider infidelity as a normal deal. Goodluck dear! I hope when U both catch any diseases respectfully y'all be happy. Don't tell me about condoms, 'cos oral sex can't be done with condoms! Peace out!!!

Mihearty said...

Yeye dey smell everywhere. Up down left right back and center.....if I hear say my hubby cheat eh. anyway not for me sha

Anonymous said...

Wow, maam. U have no class. Judging from the way u talk, ure single as single as they come. Don't understand how lady could have this much hate in her.

Anonymous said...

N u should not be opportuned to love...cause u reek of so much hate.

Golda Awosika said...

It's d hard truth for ppl lyk u, don't hate on her cause she said it
#*karlishah*

Unknown said...

Ur just full of hate!

Anonymous said...

Nnenne ure actually d fool here, u just don't realise it.

Welson said...

For me married people cheat almost everyday because they admire people sexually. As we all know LUST is a sin according to the Bible. So if that is so, when a married man or woman LUST after someone, that means the person has cheated on his or her spouse. From Mo'Nique view, I'll accept it if both spouse will agree to each other to cheat sometimes. It should be a mutual agreement so that it won't be a one sided thing.

APPLE said...

Fat people have low self esteem.

Anonymous said...

I kinda like ur comment, if we both knw nd don't give it too much ado, no pretence,nd respectively as u said, It will keep us both strong nd make d union last, seriously many couples deny what dey are doing hence dey fight nd break up,fun outside ur relationship at times makes u desirable nd keep intouch with dis outside world at times,trendy, fashionable, funky, hence dis vibe is dere in ur marriage as well, keeping young for ur hubby, still on point, many people don't just wanna accept it, but dey do it.

ODUWAS MUM said...

E good for her

Unknown said...

Nnene or watvr u call yourself,i will choose dat lady a million times instead of you,jst look at yourself properly bfr u talk.

Anonymous said...

She's said it all, in as much the cheating is not one sided, the hubby is a serial cheater, use to bother me much then but ones its two sided , I'm happy he's happy, i get great sex n sure he's does too, its over 10yrs marriage with kids

Anonymous said...

Stop promotin the kindom of darkness,anu ofia,people should try wat?doomed couple you are,on judgement dat, go and tell God dat u av changed his commandment becos of ur wayward lives,doomed marriage, doomed children,useless family, cursed genertion

Anonymous said...

Pple this is end time beware of this evil advice out there, just fear God, don't follow trends

Anonymous said...

Nnenne, olodo!

kemi said...

I swr she has a point.u guys should calm down and listen. She is making sense

ary said...

This reeks of suggestions of a woman with low self esteem

Unknown said...

Very not cool to say she is fat i think she is beautiful in her own way ..Nnenna George..everyone deserves happiness n peace of mind.

Unknown said...

I just hope her size ain't affecting her brain.

great said...

Pls leave Nnenna George abeg, I comment may not pleasant but allowing ur husband or boyfriend is a stupid talk

Anonymous said...

You're unintelligent.

Anonymous said...

So long as its both husband and wife, no wahala. Methinks Monique s husband wants anal sex, if that be the case, bros, carry textbook pass dey waka your own. My ass isn't for dat.

Anonymous said...

Nnene goat,or nnene georgeu r a fool for life #Hello in Adele voice

Unknown said...

Nnenna ure d most unreasonable person in d whole world, so fuckin dumb

Unknown said...

Animal Nnene George is the biggest idiotic stupid moron mannerless fool. If you don't have any reasonable thing to say, shut ya smelly gut up. What she has archived in her life, she aren't worthy to get even be her maid. Mutula

Unknown said...

Well, nne already shows she's not a marriage material, mind you...people are watching. Your utterances stinks as hell.

Anonymous said...

Anon 8;31...you sounded bright from the beginning until I read the Yoruba part...chai!...IBO peeps with their watery thinking faculty...am Yoruba...a proud and decent one...I disagree with Adeola..am sure she got the advise from an IBO friend cus most of your peeps spill nonsense...akpamu like you!

Teacher said...

Instead of breathing oxygen all your life why.not try carbon dioxide, it makes breathing lots more fun now
Useless lifestyle
No self control
No self respect
No fear of GOD

JOYCHY said...

@Chygurl u are sick in d head! U suggested dat ur husby cheats on you? Diff species of women! God forbid!!

Anonymous said...

All of you that insulted nnene George... May your marriages be fill with unfaithfulness from every angle.... May you and your spouses never be faithful to each other.... May you experience the true and real meaning of unfaithful marriage... Starting from... Anonymous 8.56pm, Ifeaka Anthony, anonymous 11.24pm, Olumide Bada, Chike Nicholas, Anthony Obi and the rest... As for nnene George... Just take it easy on d harsh words... Thank you...

Anonymous said...

Nnenna is not known, monique s a world star, she actually paid to read abt monique in LIB, so who s d fool, Nnenna George of course , stupid girl

Anonymous said...

At teacher God bless u

Anonymous said...

Let call a spade a spade! This is not what God said marriage should be. Don't Do it and if there is an issue between both husband and wife that affect there sexual bond! Pls try and thrash it out, because the outcome of infidelity is terrible. It can affect unborn generation. Nobody is perfect but we should call upon God to see us thru! In all. It is well in IJN

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