The full obituary, via Legacy.com, can be found below:
Our charismatic and beautiful son and brother died Sunday morning from a drug overdose. Clay was the youngest of four children, raised in a loving home in Apex with two brothers and one sister. Outwardly Clay looked like he had it all: Intelligence, confidence, athletic ability, height, beautiful blue eyes, broad smile, fantastic wit, and the ability to engage and forge a relationship with anyone. Inwardly Clay was sensitive and had struggles that he hid well from his close and clannish family.Source: FNC
We loved Clay with all of our hearts, but we now know that was not enough to shield him from the world. This note isn't an attempt to assign blame for Clay's death. It's not to vent our anger and frustration at a world where drugs can be ordered and delivered through the internet. We write this obituary in hope that it may provide an insight to those that need to change their behavior one night at a time.
Clay was a solid student, decent athlete, and a very likeable kid. With his seemingly endless positive traits, he had the potential to be anything from a captivating politician to a brilliant engineer, but drugs began to creep into Clay's life while he was in high school. As trouble hit, his father stepped in and forged an incredible bond with Clay. Although Clay could never be completely honest about the trouble he was in, his love and respect for his father became a lifeline over the last few years. He successfully completed drug rehab several times, but the craving that comes from true addiction was more than he could overcome.
While we always felt we had some grip on Clay's issues, his ability to hide and disguise his addiction proved superior to our parental (and sibling) sixth sense. The worry that we have felt watching Clay struggle, has been replaced by a deep feeling of loss that now exists knowing we will never see his smiling face again. Despite these troubles, we can smile knowing that the last communication we had with Clay was a text and answer between mother and son to say "I love you", just as it should be.
To all children, this note is a simple reminder that there are people who love you, with everything they have and no matter what you do - don't be too afraid/ashamed/scared, too anything, to ask for help. To all parents, pay attention to your children and the world that revolves around them - even when the surface is calm, the water may be turbulent just beneath. Clay's struggles have ended. He is finally at peace. We will miss his keen sense of humor, impersonations, cooking, plant advice and rhythm on the dance floor.
Goodbye Clay, we love you and miss you dearly.
Mom & Dad, Cole, Wade & Jess, Jean & Lucas
56 comments:
hin climb tree pass leave. shior
Touching....
This is just the best, not rigid and mechanical like some of the obituaries I have seen in the country. Honest and sincere.
So touching.... Hope Larma Odom Also got the msg......
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Love wasn't enough really. My heart goes out to the family. Wicked boy
Wasted life. God help those suffering from drugs addiction
Ubanagum
Too long
#Word !
Wow! So touchy.
So who's going to read all this crap?
Rip young man..
Beautiful people,i pray God will help them bear d loss of their son.
These words, skin deep To all parents, pay attention to your children and the world that revolves around them - even when the surface is calm, the water may be turbulent just beneath.
Very true
The gods are not to blame
Gab2shoessaysso
I'd like to draw your attention to your bashing of kris(a mother).
I'm not criticizing your job.I'm making reference to some of your posts.while the choice of what you post is yours,it would be admirable if you post all or post none.(toke/annie/tiwa) I wish you would use your platform to stop cyber bullying.there are so many other news that can get you traffic and you'll be better for it as a lot of your readers will benefit from the informal education you will provide.Back to Kris,I don't know her ofcos,just as you don't.you have constantly bashed her mothering skills,my dear Linda,read the obituary post again.at times,parents do all that they can,but if the child rebels,will you throw away the baby with the bath water?I look forward to you being a mother.I wish you the best of luck.its the grace of God o my dear Linda.
A society that promotes online purchase of drugs with no strict restrictions would continue to have issues such as this. It is advice able that limits should be placed on the quantity that can be bought at a time.
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Creepy things do happen#jstpassinsha#
even when the surface is calm, the water may be turbulent just beneat
Touching!
Chawqi
Damn!!
Well too bad
#FOCUS n #ACHIEVE
What's so sweet in all these drugs they are using to send themselves to their graves?
Another young man will still go ahead αи∂ get addicted to taking this particular drugs that killed this man
May his soul RIP though
#ITwillONLYgetBETTER
#itMUSTendINpraise
I see why it went viral. May his soul rest in peace. Linda take note!
Okiie, notice to all LIBERs. Didn't want to do dis before but I gex I just have to do it as a disclaimer. One idiot on dis blog stole my identity, my name & signage. So please any negative comments on dis blog is not coming from me but from the thief cos I would neva say anything bad about someone or wish anyone evil. So I have gone back to using my old pix & my email address is (julie3er@gmail.com). Linda take note!
Pls Libers, i'm in need of a job. I'm relatively jobless at the moment and of which i have loads of responsibilities on me. May God grant your heart desire as you help me.
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Wow! Dis note is so wonderful, and it contents is wholesome. I just luv dis part of d note "We write this obituary in hope that it may provide an insight to those that need to change their behavior one night at a time".
Its only God dat can truly change someone frm inside out, and pls desist frm d use of hard drugs bcos their is a bad spirit behind every bad habits.
I can feel their pain. May he rest in peace.
May Clay's soul Rest In Peace.
May his soul rest in peace
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How sweet, how sad! RIP still
This is really food for taught.....
RIP. Stay away frm drugs simple
Touching.... May God give the family the fortitude to bear the loss, RIP.
RIP CLAY
This is really beautiful... grieving and @ the same time passing across a message. Strong people.
let him take more in hell
Awwwwwn....so heart touching
aww this makes me wanna cry!
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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His parent really tried to keep him alive though..... RIP....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Sad!!!
May his soul rest in God's bosom, amen!
hopefully, drug addicts would be lucid enough
2 comprehend the message...
It's quite a pity, hope we all learn from this. Addiction can really hit one into many terrible tins. RIP CLAY
Beautiful family.
My righteous mother for don dey broadcast how d devil was at work in me.
That's so sad!...RIP.
so touching.... may his soul find peace in God's presence....
Ehyaah! May he rest in peace.
Touching
Sad
jacksoninem@yahoo.com
what a loss, such lively boy. Yes the obituary is really an eye opener
Sharumi
Touching ... Family is everything
Drug again? I op other addicted pple wl read dis n change 4 d better
Drug again? I op other addicted pple wl read dis n change 4 d better
The opiate epidemic strikes again, a lot of young whites in the US are addicted to pain medication. Guess this kid was one of them. Of course it's being called epidemic and treated as a health concern because the majority affected is white. Had it been young blacks injesting these drugs, the prison walls would be bursting with them. There'd be no sensitivity or compassion, just prison sentences.
Make haste, while the sun shines.
Please kindly STFU about Kris, who don't know you're somewhere in Africa moaning and groaning on her behalf.
SO SAD PEOPLE ENGAGE IN ACTIVITIES THAT WILL DESTROY HUMANITY SO THAT THEY CAN LIVE.
LIVING ALONE IN THIS WORLD WILL SURELY MAKE THEM POORER THAN THEIR CURRENT STATE.
WHILE SOME ARE TRYING TO MAKE LIFE LIVEABLE SOME ARE STRIVING HARD TO BREAK IT.
GOD SHOULD CHANGE THE MIND OF THOSE THAT ARE CONCERN. CLAY'S PARENT NEVER FEEL BAD IF YOU HAVE DONE WHAT YOU SHOULD DO AS PARENT CONDOLENCE
So sad
My heart goes out to the family.
Nice words
Rip Clay.
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