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Thursday 28 April 2016

‘We’re all very much in love but we don’t have sex’: Meet the couples who have given up on sex

The Sun UK carried out a recent survey of 2016 newly weds, and while most argue that sex is very important for their married life, there are some that haven't had sex in a while and have shared reasons why. Read the stories of some of these couples after the cut...

MEDIA student Leticia Hosang and cameraman Jack Smith, both 20, live in Ealing, West London and have been together for two years. The couple haven’t had sex for the past six months.

LETICIA SAYS: Work is creating such a barrier in our relationship, which is why we haven’t had sex for so long and I’m worried it will become a year.

We still love each other and have a strong relationship but our working patterns mean we don’t even have time to cuddle, never mind have sex.

I go to bed on my own every night, as Jack is working on night shoots, and he regularly works 14 or 15-hour days.

Our only day off together is Sunday and frankly we are too tired to do anything but watch TV or maybe go for a walk.

It’s frustrating because we still fancy each other. When we first got together we used to make love twice a day.

I feel less attractive as a woman now, and when we are together we argue about the littlest things.

I hope the situation changes soon because we can’t live as a couple like this for much longer.

JACK SAYS: “I find Leticia very attractive and she knows that – but we are just not physically together enough to have sex.

“We are both working such long hours that when I go to bed the only thing on my mind is getting enough sleep so I have the energy for the next day.

“It is very depressing and we are both feeling the pressure.

“Sex definitely binds a relationship. I know ours will be stronger once we get our love life back on track.”


WEB entrepreneur Michelle Inch, 28, of Barry, South Wales, has not had sex with husband Sean Wilkin, 32, a painter and decorator, for nearly 18 months. They have been together for 12 years and have children Brooke, eight, Lili-Mae, 18 months, and Finley, six months.

MICHELLE SAYS: We haven’t had sex since before Finley was born. Throughout my pregnancy I had a condition called symphysis pubis dysfunction, or SPD, which is pelvic girdle pain, and it hurt so much that I couldn’t walk, let alone have sex.

Also, our two-bedroom house is so small and the baby sleeps in a Moses basket in our super-kingsize bed between us.

On top of all this, we both run our own businesses and work such long hours.

The longer you don’t have sex, the harder it is to get the buzz back, and there is no doubt it is harming our relationship. We are now having counselling.

It feels less like a relationship, more a business arrangement to look after the kids. I feel the fun has gone out of our relationship.

It’s all work and childcare and I want my life back.

There’s always an excuse for why we can’t have sex and we have to do something about it or we will live to regret it. Often, you take sex for granted in a relationship but when it isn’t there, problems follow.

Source: Sun UK

49 comments:

Unknown said...

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Unknown said...

Married,no sex? Hell no,something is wrong somewhere! #Mbanu

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

Person de find work dz ones de talk sex,wetin I wan carry sex do?

Anonymous said...

Am sure Linda didn't read this story before putting up this headline.

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cutestlove said...

That's there business.

Unknown said...

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naijawizard said...

Sick relationship

Unknown said...

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Arsenal said...

Story for the Gods.
Make up excuses all you want but i tell you what. ...stop deceiving yourselves.

OMIDAN ABBY said...

Something is wrong somewhere!
It's lust, not love!

yawanow said...

Obviously trying to work things out before the sex. They haven't given up on sex

Psalmuelle aka Samstone. said...

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Unknown said...

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Unknown said...

They didn't give up. Some ppl are
A-sexual. Meaning they have no sexual urge/desire of any kind. But they got other emotional feelings intact. Source: I have 2 A sexual friends. They not together...one's in a relationship. other is single. The Idea of sexual intercourse, repulses them both. The one in a relationship let's her man take care of his business somewhere else. But they die-hard couple considering neither of them wants children.

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oluchi said...

6 month? They love each other

Anonymous said...

Strange

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

The effect of Sex in either a relationship or marriage can never be over emphasized;it plays a crucial role in binding the couples.

Unknown said...

Is dis even possible??? Linda take note!

Anonymous said...

Not news to me. My hubby and I haven't had sex since Feb.When you work so hard and over-stressed, sex will be the last thing on your mind.

Twaddlehq said...

Sex is vitally important in marriage
The only thing you uniquely share with your spouse that you don’t share with anyone else is sex. So sex is the only thing that sets you and your spouse apart from simply being roommates. It’s a vital part of marriage.
Not only does sex set you and your spouse apart from simply being roommates, it also requires a deeper level of communication that you don’t normally do with just anyone. Sex requires you to
talk to each other about intimate, emotional things.
For example, to have a truly intimate experience with your spouse, you need to tell your spouse where you like to be touched, and make requests for
certain things. This requires that you both feel a comfort level with each other that you’ve never felt with anyone else before. It requires you to both
become very vulnerable by asking, receiving and giving sexually. And it requires you to reach a deeper level of trust that your spouse will respond to your
requests without judgment.

Sex also creates passion and a unique connection To be able to talk to your spouse in this kind of vulnerable, intimate way creates a unique connection that you simply can’t have with anyone else without becoming sexual. This kind of intimate talk and
physical touch creates passion in your relationship, too. It tells your spouse you think of him or her as more than just a friend. You think of your relationship as something deeper. This unique
connection that lovers have creates vibrance, passion and romance between the two of you that you can’t create in any way other than sexually.

When couples come to me for counseling about their sexual difficulties, they’re sometimes surprised that I don’t focus on technique or the number of times that they engage in sex in a week. Whether they have sex two times a week or 10 times a week is irrelevant. What’s more important is that sex becomes an
intimate and connecting experience for both of them. If this isn’t happening, then the marriage isn’t really happy. So instead of couples arguing about sex and creating more distance, couples need to learn to
really talk and communicate about sex. They also need to be open to hearing what their spouse wants,
feels and needs. This is not only a recipe for great sex but a great marriage as well.

Culled from www.twaddlehq.com

Anonymous said...

Haha the two of you are not serious or the attraction isn't there anymore and just pretending.

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Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

EITHER THIS GUY IS A F@G OR THIS GIRL IS BANGING AROUND

Unknown said...

Even bible says don't deny each other sex...una no dey hear word abi?

Unknown said...

That's what makes both of them happy so people have to learn to respect That. Sex isn't Love.

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ukaygold said...

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ukaygold said...

this is serious, and they are married

Unknown said...

Speechless#Lindangwanu#

Unknown said...

I know the feeling,I had an active sex life before I got married,now I sometimes loose apetite 4 sex cus my husband is not always in the mood 4 sex and when he do I don't feel the vibe

Anonymous said...

Honestly

Unknown said...

This is the very definition of MADNESS.

Unknown said...

This is what you get when you are having sex actively before marriage and when you get married, the vibe is gone
No matter the work schedule, sex is extremely important in marriage (even if its once a week)

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