Is 100% honesty in relationships truly the best? He broke off their engagement after she admitted to having had an abortion at 19 | Welcome to Linda Ikeji's Blog

LI_Leaderboard_4

LI_Leaderboard_1

LI_Leaderboard_2

LI_Leaderboard_3

Wednesday, 22 July 2015

Is 100% honesty in relationships truly the best? He broke off their engagement after she admitted to having had an abortion at 19

Story sent in by a LIB reader. Read below and share your opinion...
The woman (a family friend) introduced a junior colleague (they both work in the same firm) to one of her clients who was looking to settle down quickly in marriage. He didn't want a long engagement. They both took to each other immediately and true to his words they got engaged after a three month courtship. They followed it up with an introduction; a small event between both families. Two weeks ago they went to take some medical tests. They already knew each other's Genotype and are compatible but an official confirmation was needed. On their way home, he began to preach about the importance of honesty in a relationship.
He went on to reveal that two of his ex-girlfriends had abortions for him. He then asked her if she has ever had an abortion. He assured her that he wouldn't mind if the answer is YES after all his exes are married with children. She admitted to having terminated a pregnancy at 19 but it was a safe abortion.
To her surprise, he took the revelation well. Everything was the same until last week when his attitude suddenly changed. He stopped calling her, picking her calls, ignored her BBM messages. Even his older brother and two sisters whom she had become close to also began to avoid her. To cut the long story short, he called off the engagement because he doesn't want to marry a girl that has had an abortion.
My family friend(the matchmaker) is furious but mainly because of what she termed the girl's 'naivety' and 'stupidity'. Who admits to such things? she asked. Was the girl really naïve and stupid? Was she just being honest about her medical history?

232 comments:

«Oldest   ‹Older   201 – 232 of 232
Anonymous said...

Thanks 4 explanation @Princess

Anonymous said...

Thank your lucky stars. You just saved yourself from a hypocritical, bipolar man. Jog on mate! Nonsense!

Unknown said...

the guy is not for her she should move on and thank God for the narrow escape.

Unknown said...

Such a man is a coward, I notice this shit in African men they like to discuss thr dirty past but dey wan marry Saint, who go marry the ones u destroyed thr life o. Nonsense dey worry d guy

Anonymous said...

OMG Hmmm the gay is not your Man plz move on you have so much to tink about in this life but I am Happy that you Were honest to dog the Cal he self fiancee girl plz you rock kep it up one lov

sparkle said...

100% honesty is required in a relationship with a white man, they can easily understand not 2 an African man abeg. My dear he is not yours, u will soon meet ur Adam ok?

TAMARA SPLASH said...

Cooperate begger

DADDYSWIFE said...

U r so right my luv
#nothankyoui'llratherbeselfmade

Unknown said...

So u beg money to buy form, wen u get d admission den wat happens? Jst asking oo

Unknown said...

U see ur life? No longer anonymous?

Unknown said...

Lol, n who says his exes actually had abortions for him? He was only syking d girl n she fell for it. Even pastors preach it dat u shudnt tell a man everything, if para venture he finds out later u beg....oooooyes!!! wha you don't know does not affect you

Anonymous said...

ABORTION WAS NOT THE REASON THE GUY LEFT . EVERY PRESENT DAY GUY KNOWS KNOWS ALMOST EVERY GIRL HAS DONE AT LEAST 3 ABORTIONS !!! 10 to 20 ABORTIONS B4 MARRIAGE IF THE WOMEN WOULD BE HONEST IS ACTUALLY QUIETLY COMMON .

Judith Peter said...

Gbam ¡!!!!!!!!!!!

Judith Peter said...

Abortion....... Is it suppose to be illegal in diz country, it all goes to should the hypocritical nature of this country.. By d way am I d only person Dat read in between lines that might Ave use ur confess as an excuse because he didn't start acting up immediately after the confession. He has seen another girl jor..... He was never yours so don't lose a wick of sleep over him. Believe me no Nigerian guy is worth the stress....

exthar said...

hmmmm that dude is worse than the devil


that person asking for assistance for HND form kindly sell your phone to buy it..no pain no gain

Anonymous said...

Sell your smart phone, purchase the form and face your studies. You don't have money to buy HND form But you have money for data every month, mscheeeeew.

Anonymous said...

the girl did d ryt thing... the guy is not mature... lemme have her No i want to marry her n shame him lol

Anonymous said...

Just shows how superficial Nigerian men are. Most African marriages are based on what they are supposed to do. sad

Anonymous said...

Can you tell your fiance that you had had a sexually transmitted disease before?

Anonymous said...

oldest trick in the book....trust me and spill your bean.move on girl,good riddance to bad rubbish!he wants to f*k,impregnate and abort with other people's wife -to-be and he expects his own to be clean?EWU OHIA.

Adesuwa said...

@ Stern....God increase u as u help

Adesuwa said...

@ Stern....God increase u as u help

Anonymous said...

My dear u made a very big mistake telling him all dat,from ur story dat illustration about his ex's is all a lie n u fall for it.one thing we ladies dnt know is dat men cannot manage d truth.prove me wrong

royflames007 said...

The guy is only looking for a lame excuse to abandon the relationship and dump the lady like a bag of beans..... Babe, don't cry over a guy that is perhaps rocking another naïve girl now, the next guy might just fall for your smile..... Be strong and move on, it was never meant to be..

des said...

the guy must be a very stewpid guy. girls learn to keep things to yourself biko

Miss G said...

Wow! That's unfortunate

Anonymous said...

Gbamest!

Anonymous said...

I know its hard, but if he is getting out because of that, then its best you leave

Unknown said...

wen u have dirty secrets and you are honest. that's being foolish
study your spouse for years before you start giving gist. like after having 2 kids, then you confess about a teenage abortion.

Unknown said...

wen u have dirty secrets and you are honest. that's being foolish
study your spouse for years before you start giving gist. like after having 2 kids, then you confess about a teenage abortion.

Numerouno Princess said...

Babe his not worth you, move on,u will surely find someone who will accept u,4 dat....
Some guys re just confused

Anonymous said...

The guy is a freaking hypocrite. Good luck to him and his childish way of thinking

«Oldest ‹Older   201 – 232 of 232   Newer› Newest»

Recent Posts