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Wednesday 13 August 2014

Dear LIB readers: Should I marry her?

From a male LIB reader
I've been dating this lady for 3 years and was preparing to ask her to be my wife. She is 28, educated, lives alone and has a decent job. However, she doesn't clean and hardly cooks. 
Last Saturday I went to visit her expecting to spend the night, on the way I got some food which I ate at hers. Shortly after my arrival she cooked, ate and fell asleep in the living room. While she was sleeping I cleared the plates, took them to the kitchen and put the rest of the food on the cooker in the fridge.
About an hour later when she woke up she walked into the kitchen to see I had not washed the plates. Irritated and annoyed she started complaining "You couldn't even wash the plates, ordinary plate you couldn't wash".
Then went into her room and locked the door as I ignore her. So I let myself out and went home. The next evening with little to no communication throughout the day she sent me this message. (above). Continue...
"Eating p***y, washing dishes...Anything else on your 'don't do list?'"

As a result of this together with instances in the past where she has failed to guard her tongue and more importantly apologize, I'm starting to think that a lady who comfortably sends such a message 24 hours after such an incident to someone she claims to want to spend the rest of her life with is not wife material, girlfriend material maybe but certainly not wife material. 

As she clearly has no respect for me as her future husband nor for her role as the woman of the house - more so in this case where it is her house. It seems to me like this it how it starts.

I don't think I am overreacting but it will be good to know what the female LIB readers think.

364 comments:

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Unknown said...

I wouldn't marry you if I were her!

Anonymous said...

Abeg get out. Who is this dumb poster? U already know d answer to ur problem. Y disturbing us for answers again?! Mchewwww

Anonymous said...

Oops epic failure,pls run...I'm a woman and this is outright disrespect and see finish...abeg no vex o,do u have a job?does she run d show,foot d bills et al?if d answer is yes,then start doing all d chores fast!

Steveosky 4 Real. said...

First of all she does not love you. Someone into you won't make such silly comments, she is obviously seeing someone else. This is a sure sign for you to walk away, grab it and run as fast as you can, next minute she will be ordering you to wash her panties.. Free yourself buddy. !!

Anonymous said...

she's a f***ing B****..You better shop and clean mouth asap.. rozay.. tomjohnn.1@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Be carful bro !!!! Women are frustrating.....

Unknown said...

She doesn't deserve u my dear. Since dis is not her 1st time. Let her go . Ur own queen will come.

Anonymous said...

The choice is urs Mister. Can u put up with dis 4 d rest ur life? Now u hav seen d signs, it's still early 4 u 2 back out or stay right in...u choose.

seunLondon said...

U had better let go of that conceited Prima Donna of a bitch!!!! ....#SeunLondon

Anonymous said...

my friend run for ur life....it's a warning sign....

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Loolz her behaviour wasn't good stall and doesn't speak good of her person.
But I doubt if its weighty enough to call off your plan of marrying her.
No one is infallible,try to take more time to study her.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Unknown said...

Lol! U just wan hear our mouth abi? Who in his right senses wan marry dis type naa? Linda abi na u de make dis story up?

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Unknown said...

She doesn't deserve u my dear. Since dis is not her first time of doing or saying nasty tins to u. Let her go. U will soon find ur own queen.

amy said...

my dear,,,u shld better find anoda so u dnt make a mistake nd take an incompetent person as wife into ur home..with her,u nd ur kids will surely suffer...lyk u said she isnt a wife material. Amy

incmobi said...

Dude....run while u can. there's no better sign

Anonymous said...

What other signs do you need? You see the red sign on the traffic light and you are not sure what it says? Oga, flee NOW!!!

From a woman who is about to be wedded and knows a little about building a happy home.

Anonymous said...

First of all u don't eat her pussy? U should be d one booted out

Bishop Dammy said...

Firstly who are the partners we have decided to choose? A child of God is the ist thing not just a church goer! Secondly you said for 3yrs..how come you never noticed all these things. Wake up young man ..marriage is forever expt death separates you! Be quick to fix things before taking her to the alter. Ps 31:10-31. BishopDammy#

Anonymous said...

did you really have to bring it up here?

ary said...

LOL but bro why don't you just eat the P and get it outta the way?

Segun said...

with all the signs? my brother, check well o...she's not a wife material. except she gives her life to Christ and humbles herself

Livvsreamblog said...

Break up with her and let her know the reason,then see if she will come back to apologize

Anonymous said...

waka leave her sharp sharp. she should be ashamed of herself that she cant take care of her house and still bask about it.
but wait ooo... do you have a job too or do you depend on her? if you have a job and you are a real man, please walk away now or regret later.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm......stay far away from her my dear. ...she aint ready to be ur wife!!!!

Anonymous said...

my dear,,,u shld better find anoda so u dnt make a mistake nd take an incompetent person as wife into ur home..with her,u nd ur kids will surely suffer...lyk u said she isnt a wife material. Amy

Anonymous said...

She certainly is not a wife material. back out gradually; the bigger beef is in marriage. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

If you marry her eh...you would be a professor of dilenma!


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tuffcookiey said...

Stupid question. . Isnt it obvious dat u r afraid of her? House boy..

Anonymous said...

Just don't bother going down the marriage lane with such a lady. In fact,you'd be better off not having such a person as your girlfriend, she has no self respect or decency as a lady talkless of respecting you as a boyfriend/future husband. Ogbeni,Pick race sharperly.

Anonymous said...

U r an idiot. Wats rong in washing ur plates. Wer nt u trained at home. Being a wife is different 4rm being a husband. You haven't brot d ring yet and u r claiming rights. Lastly 4 d eating pussy. Sexual intercourse is bout satisfying each oda. If u wants dat it's d least u cud do. Except u won't mind r getting it out. Stop bringing ur relationship matter public. U'll neva get good advice. A relationship wer plenty plenty pple kip putting mouth tends to collapse faster.

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Anonymous said...

She is a lazy and lack of home training animal,and you too do u want to claim u have not noticed all this bfor in 3years of your dating?anyway some guys are thief and all they do is looking for a lady who is Ok financially ;she Ok and has her own apartment that is why you stay with her for 3year with such an attitude;sorry I will not blame the girl bcos u r one of those guys that want a woman's wealth and forget about her bad side so now bcos she is asking you to wash plate u r complaining.does anyone need to tell you she is not a wife material before you know,is is not glaring enough.marry her now bcos u have bn dating for 3years.fool!

Anonymous said...

Dat girl is a bitch.....pls stay away

Anonymous said...

Na you F-up, you for just tell am sorry after the whole plates thing. I think you're overreacting too, discuss with her and make known your feelings about what happened.

p.s: She must really want you to perform oral sex on her, think am. lol.

Abuja Big Boy said...

A big thumbs- up to you for resisting to eat p***y! I respect men that don't stupe that low. The filthy habit is now the trend. Only weak men take their tongues down there. Now, to the main issue, I advise you to keep her as a chic for now, while you discretely shop for a wife. Kick her a** out the moment you get a wifey. Girls like your chic abound here in Abj, that is why we are all finding it difficult to settle down. Any chic that can hold a grudge against her guy for not washing the dishes has nothing to do with marriage. Goodluck bro as you scout for a good girl.

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Anonymous said...

I think you know the answer to the question you're posing. If you can live with this lifestyle for the rest of your life, go ahead and marry her, if you cant, then leave now.Its not about what other think....

Straighttalk said...

You don't eat pussy? Clearly she loves a good head. Show some love bruv

Unknown said...

ask google.....
al u men wnt is a LADY who is already made,y wot she turn u into a slave..
HISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Unknown said...

Thank God that u know the kind of person she is,so the ball is in ur court.I know men don't like women who don't respect them.Don't marry a woman u don't love and trust.

Anonymous said...

That is a sign saying run and dont look back brother.

Straighttalk said...

You don't eat poosie? Show some luv bruv!

Anonymous said...

Run for ur life....

Tosin said...

Bros...biko marry her not #kapish#

Rachy said...

One thing I know that turns a man on is a neat and hardworking woman. A woman who regardless of the circumstance try to tidy her house at all times. If a woman does this constantly and for one day, maybe due to being much exhausted she couldn't tidy, then a sensible man would help her out. But any woman who feels it is her man's duty to do the dishes and other domestic stuffs isn't a wife material. Whoever thought you to do that is plunging you into your doom. Your man can only help but it is your duty as a woman. Using vulgar languages often doesn't depict decency especially as a woman. Not apologetic too is a no go area.Dear poster, look into all these inappropriate acts and see if she can change or if u can cope with it, if not....

Amasi Joseph said...

Mehn, to be honest she is not going to make u a happy man @ all. Jst let her go since this is not the 1st tym.

Anonymous said...

hav u ever talked to her about it...if u hav dnt waste any time in bowing out

Anonymous said...

Bro, don't marry her, cant you see what you will be heading into. just find a way to end it gradually. Better still get someone you think she'll listen to.

Anonymous said...

Bros i beg you don't start what u cannot finis o. there are better women out there who will do all for you as a wife. think twice

Anonymous said...

Bros, she is barely tolerating you cos she has no better option. I don't see her as a wife material. For God's sakes, shout at you cos u didn't wash dishes she used in eating in her own house! C'mon that's so not someone in love n ready to settle with you. Move on fast Bro bfor u get caught in her web.

Anonymous said...

Guy run for ur dear life o. She won't change after marriage. A broken relationship
is better than a broken marriage.

Anonymous said...

Did it take you three years to notice this, moreso if u can have a talk with her that may probably help, if it doesn't, guy run for ur life....

Anonymous said...

linda shey u dey na u dey boil dis stories urself ni or e real? LEAVE D GIRL LIKE AN OG!!!!!!

delson said...

What are you thinking? Mtcheeww..

Unknown said...

She needs some home training, and with this type of character, no man will keep her for a wife..buh if itz something u can control or endure itz ok, buh remember that there is no management in marriage especially when it has to do wit character... My dear there is still time for u to make d right decision, since ur not comfortable with her character and manners

Gaia said...

You don finish the matter yaself; this one na girlfriend. Bros but you sef why don't you eat, oh never mind..

Maggie said...

Hey, i'm 27 and a lady and cant think why a matured lady at 28 will expect her man to clean up after her, it's obvious she lacks home training, what will she teach her daughters? my advice to you..RUN!!!

Angie said...

This is nothing serious. She was more upset that you ignored her and not washing of the dishes..she might even be joking abt asking why you didn't wash it.
Nagging is in our DNA; there's nothing anyone can do abt it..just deal with it, if you ever want to get married.


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Anonymous said...

u said it urself girlfriend material not wife material.....try talking to her first if she no change...baba waka dey gooo!!!!!

Juliebabe said...

Hmm, too bad of her.

Unknown said...

I feel a woman should know her role in the house and carry them out.If she was tired that day the best thing she would ve done was to apologise then explain to u.

Anonymous said...

Walk away, she's giving you a taste of what to expect when you get married. You are going to end up doing all the house work unless you have a house help.

Damochedxb said...

Bruh, from your letter you seem like a decent calm dude. (I might be wrong tho). Same cannot be presumably said about your lady. I think she comes across as what some peeps nowadays would like to call "real" or raw as it may, but i think she's a little too overboard with that realness. Or maybe its just a bad attitude. IMO you guys dont match in that aspect. Secondly, accepting a lady who does not cook or clean is a matter of choice, but its terribly disrespectful and rude of her to expect you to be the plate washer. Or was she joking when she said u couldn't even wash the plates?? Bruh, check the pros and cons well before to take a leap. Dont go making a fuck mate with bad character a wife. Imagine her listing you not eating pussy on her list of your dont dos. Are u sure she is even serious about marriage??

mee said...

run from her u might regret makin her ur wife

Anonymous said...

Bro run now before it's too late. Never disregard early signs

Anonymous said...

BROS she is not perfect why don't you accept her imperfection maybe try and teach her what do to next time.after all u gonna live with her forever.you want a perfect wife Abi? your last name is sorry. just politely advice her,if you really want to marry.all women are not perfect even you Bros.u should be a little Romantic wash the dishes there is nothing there.my personal opinion though.

Anonymous said...

Fam! RUN!!!!!!!!
It will not be any different when you lot get married. The chances it will get worse is heightened. Its only 3yrs, Move on fast! Its better to be single than to endure bad company for the rest of your life.

Mykel Osi said...

If ɪ̇ must say, ɪ̇ tink U̶̲̥̅̊ r already on d path to discerning her true identity. If U̶̲̥̅̊ finally succeed in doing dat and it stands on a very wrong notion, den it is still left for U̶̲̥̅̊ to decide if she is UR wife material or not.

misssyyyy said...

But you are useless! How can't you eat pussy?!?! Idi very very useless & u want to marry her knowing she loves her pum eaten? Guys who don't eat pussy make unhappy girlfriends. #theend!

SLIMZEEY said...

Hmm, this is serious oo, as for me o I can't marry her buh I cannot advice you to leave her, is either you try and correct her, or if you understand each other.....

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Unknown said...

hehehehehe!! no spoil me oo? wat is eating pussy?do pple eat cats?fear Ebola o!! anyways, u nid a priest to tell u she aint in2 uu?? lmao

Anonymous said...

I believe you already know the answer. If you can live with this style and be happy for the rest of your life, then go-on-song, but if you cant, just quit. Marriage is you and her...and later children... not what others think.

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Anonymous said...

Seat down with her and talk about it. It's annoying I know that cause I can't imagine that a lady will ask her fiance to do dishes when she is not ill or something like that, that's not good manners at all. But address it first and giver her time to change if she doesn't then you may start thinking about calling it off. Pray about your relationship and marriage plans cause whatever you committ to God,he'll take care of, prayer is very important.

Anonymous said...

You too , why don't you eat pussy ? Why?

Mayowa

Anonymous said...

You too , why don't you eat pussy ? Why?

Mayowa

Anonymous said...

Few things though. Have you called her attention to these? Remember that she was brought up not by your parents. Sit her down and discuss things as they will affect your future together. Tell her what you want in a woman and let her be free to do the same. Then watch and see if she can fit into your dream woman and if not - STOP!!! -- ToxTox

Anonymous said...

U know the answer urself,na slave u wan become if u marry her

Alloy Chikezie said...

My brother! Well i don't have much info about her, but looks to me like you might be right, that she is not a wife material, and if she is not, then you don't need anybody to tell you what to do, because its a wife you want to marry, and not a woman


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Unknown said...

I'm not a female but I just feel like contributing. First of all wat do u do for a living? From every indication the gal dosnt love you. Its very obvious. Pls leave her, she is not even a galfriend material talk more of a wife material. Most gals don't respect guys that they are more accomplished in all ramification. Take care sir and I hope u find your real heartrob soon. I'm out. ***CATCH ME IF U CAN***

WhyIsMyNameRequired? said...

What do you do for a living? Sounds like you're some sort of 'house boy' to her who is attached to her because of her 'decent job/house'.

My sincere advice man to man: Quit being lazy, quit looking for women with 'decent jobs' to feed you (they will insult you!), try get your own 'decent job', then marry your dream woman.

Unknown said...

Don't marry her

Anonymous said...

That is disrespect bro...you just have to accept it though some times in d name of love we ignore it...it's so so Bad...but try to talk to her for a change in dat bad character


Akp21

killerswag said...

If I were you I definitely won't marry her...respect comes before love hommie...I not one of those guys that think every woman must be able to work magic in the kitchen but keeping the house clean is at the top of my list...
Ps-you should change your mind about eating pussy though...lol

churchie said...

Brother, she isn't a wife material AT ALL!!!!!

Anonymous said...

You disrespected yourself by sleeping over at hers. Its meant to be in the reverse order. you pointed out she has a good job, lives on her own,sounds as though u are attracted to those than her. if she senses that, naturally she'll use u too perhaps thats what a lot of guys these days too. if you do love her, scold her like a real man and put some boundaries. take charge. Women are attracted and respect only men who respect themselves. our love isnt exactly same as oyibo own.

AprokoManagerApril said...

In Madea's Voice "Dont Do It". Else you want us to come to your funeral

Anonymous said...

her rection could be as a result of ur refusing to eat her stuff.try and eat it for a change maybe she would react differently.you know different people react to things in differnt ways

Anonymous said...

Eat the pussy well jor...how do you not eat pussy for crying out loud?

Are you even husband material? Are you? You cant eat pussy and you cant wash plate...iga awu ogbenye burukwa amusu?


DIM

FOLARIN• said...

Lmao....
Y u sef no wan eat p*ssy na
It tastes very gud o
Hahahaha

Unknown said...

My bro. She's not the one. Even if she changes and you guys get married. She'll show u fire. She's uncouth and has little or no regard for U.

NaNcY DreW said...

Dats y u re courting,now dat u know her weakness talk 2 her abt it, u obviously cannot tolerate her or mayb she has pushed u 2 d wall or u just av ad enuf den clearly u can't cope with her so don't marry her den. Is ur choice and marriage is 4 better 4 worse o. But some ladies na wa o or mayb she's just angry u don't eat her pu**y

Anonymous said...

if u luv her, can tolerate her and she is willing to learn n change den giv her a second chance. if she's nt, biko leave her unsorry rude p***y. lol .....by P7

Anonymous said...

If it were me, i would walk away...Simple as that...U know it too just follow your heart.

Anonymous said...

My Brother, Don'† Kill Yourself Before Your Time. She Already Proves Dah She Aint A Wife Material, So Look Elsewhere ooo. Before Harm Is Forewarn. (Linda's Man)

Unknown said...

Bro. She ain't the one for u. She's uncouth and has little or no regard for u. It'll take aa miracle to change

Anonymous said...

If you're looking to marry a decent and homely lady, keep looking...

Unknown said...

I feel a woman should know her role in the house and carry them out.If she was tired that day the best thing she would ve done was to apologise then explain to u.

Unknown said...

Hahahahahah abeg see this mumu.. Fool so na till she tell u say she be mamiwota or try to kill u for dream before u go wake up and no say she be witch,,u still want advice mumu. Irebisibrown@yahoo.com.sg

Esty kudos said...

I think u have to put her on another test to see her reaction. If its same as d last time, then, there's fire on the mountain.

Nelly said...

she has no respect for you and thats bad. buh the decision is yours take ur time nd see if u can spend the rest of ur life with her.

Anonymous said...

walk out of dat relationship now. or u will lead a missrable life in marraige with her..... i know her type. tnk me later

Anonymous said...

perhaps she doesn't see you as husband material so why should she bother.. this is a one sided story, and tbh, no one will give an objective answer

Anonymous said...

My brother, RUN for your dear life. End of story

mo said...

You know helping with some chores is not so awfu. companionship is the key word not master and servvant relationship. i am replying based on this one occassion not past misdeeds. She may truly have been tired and it wont hurt u helping out. Note this doesnt mean it wil bcom an everyday thing. secondly some women dont take lack of oral sex lightly, like myself, diff strokes for diff folks, eg a frend of mine is very bitter of the lak of dis in her marriage. she may feel bitter that u cant completely satisfy her sexually n upon dat u dont want to help in the home. Take a chill pill and have a good talk with her and ask each other what u both dont like in each oyhers attitude qnd try to see, if u can compromise or try n change mutually

charles said...

that girl is a typical nigerian girl. Why should you eat or suck a nigerian girl s pussy? I mean putting your mouth where her menses come out from? Let her go to hell. You are weak and she is treating u this way cos of that. If a man wants to put his mouth down that dirty place,fine but no woman should tell her man to go down there. Hygiene no dey these girls them dictionary.

Too many fishes in the river.Be in charge. She is just a woman.Its a mans world.

charles

Unknown said...

You concluded already do y do u stil want to Knw wat LIB reader thinks? Anyway wat I think or say to u is not important just search ur heart vry well to Knw ur true feelings for her den u decide if to marry her or not..bside u can stil talk to her nd tel her hw u feel abt her character den plead her to change.

nance said...

Dumb the bitch!!! At 28 she doesn't know wat she want for her self,tell her buuubye.

Anonymous said...

perhaps she doesn't see you as husband material so why should she bother.. this is a one sided story, and tbh, no one will give an objective answer

Anonymous said...

I can't take her as my brother's wife. #Gbam
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Anonymous said...

i hope you post this..shes not one for you Bro .. cos if ya dont do things she always want she might dump your ass ..someday

Anonymous said...

Dump her ass,bro...Simple!

obietrezy said...

I guess you know the answer and you're still asking..

BlessingOzoemena said...

TALK TO HER ABOUT IT ,MAY BE SHE JUST DOING IT DUE TO FAMILIARITY BUT AFTER SPEAKN TO HER AND SHE DIDNT CHANGE RUN!

Anonymous said...

Dump her ass,bro...Simple!

Anonymous said...

Ok! Well am sure we are all expected to say how not a wife material she is n all... But then you were with her for 3yrs n you saw all this and you still stayed even though you noticed the not wife material. I think you are now bored either cos you have someone now doing all those things n you now prefer her, I guess nobody will advice you bether than yourself..

Anonymous said...

Does she give u a head?......if she doesn't n don't cook. There's no point in eating her or doing the dishes. Relationship is involves both parties.

Anonymous said...

You're a pussy for not eating pussy and I'm sure you are one of those archaic "woman does all the kitchen work" types. She's absolutely justified. Shut up and do your woman right or step aside and let a real man take care of her.

Anonymous said...

U are right sir..no need to ask us

DIARY OF A TEENAGER said...

hehehehehe cant stop laughing. This isnt funny though. Please speak to her about her attitude, if she doesnt change, bros run for your life

Anonymous said...

I am a lady but will tell u to run for your dear life,its not just about the plates,wen u marry her den u will see a million worse habit, bit ot will b too late

ITK said...

Dont be a Mofo.... read the hand writing on the wall!!! except na she be bread winner?

Anonymous said...

As a Nigerian woman 26 years old quite educated at masters level, i still know my role as an AFrican woman, i know for a fact that a woman should be submissive to the man, the bible said so, if she does not cook, clean, and respect you as a man at this stage she is clearly not going to change, with no reservation i can tell u that marrying her would be the greatest mistake of your life, that is who she is and clearly not gonna change, education is a privilege and clearly not an avenue to oppress the man and abandon your virtues as a woman. The most important thing is a God fearing woman cos that woman will always know her place in the home. Its up to you now, goodluck. nwabuezenkechi@gmail.com

Lanre Onward said...

my broda, please run from that lady, most of us see the signs how our future husband/wife will be in future but we chose to ignore because of desperation or selfish interest in the case if the would be spouse have money.

Anonymous said...

Well you could have washed the dishes, but even if you didn't, well... some men are not domesticated sha... you can't fault them for it. But I won't fault her for being annoyed too sha... it can be annoying sometimes... but the fact that she took it so personal for soo long... maybe there has been precedences tho... and you dinnoh tell us... cuz now is only your side of the story we are hearing. anyway... you guys should talk about it.... maybe you are not compatible.. I mean, if you can't take her "excesses" you have no business marrying her... we all have our "excesses", it just depends on how much you can take. that does not make her any less of a "wife material" tho... so just think about it... can I be patient with her, can I take what she "dishes out" if not... bros... don't bother.

Unknown said...

Do what ur instinct sayz.marriage involves a lot. *** CROWD * PULLER * PLEASER***#

Gold said...

She's nt a wife material indirectly she's letting u knw dt once u marry her u will b d one doing d house chores, my dear marriage is for a lifetime so pls don't make d wrong choice

Gina said...

She doesn't respect you now n she won't respect you in ur marriage... if u don't want problems... opt out now... *Ginnie says so*

Anonymous said...

Lool, so you don't eat pussy? That is the main annoyance she has for you. Let's try this, take her out for dinner today (so no plate issues lool) then take her back home then eat that pussy like crazyyy, I promise you she will be a changed person. Try it. *wink*

As for the dishes Haba why didn't you do it it's no big deal naw.

Rumestikal618 said...

Hmmm...but my advice is try out other tins. Every reaction deserves an equal and opposite reaction...Newton's 3rd Law of Motion....Guy be wise
~Rumestikal~ Posits

Anonymous said...

u need to eat the p...

Anonymous said...

Bros, this woman will be one hell of a nagging wife and a grudge keeper. Think am well oh.

Segun said...

Do not marry her!!!

Cynthia Iyede said...

Pls ready d hand writing on d wall.

ogunnimo kay said...

i agree with u, she is nt a wife material at all and she doesnt respect u bt if u are sure u love her and she loves u too u can work tins out........all u nid is communication.

Anonymous said...

Please bros run as fast as your legs can carry you. she is not a wife material.

Anonymous said...

I realize you asked the female to respond but I doubt it makes a difference which gender responds... I say this 'cause I'm a guy...so here goes: first off, would it have been such a herculean task for you to wash the dishes? Or you're one of those guys that think dish washing is for the woman?
Secondly, you put up a portion of a message and expect us to draw a conclusion from that? Really? Without knowing the style of chat between the two of you, it is very difficult to determine if she's being disrespectful or not.

Finally, these excuses and questions come up when we are one foot out of the relationship...have a frank conversation with yourself...you probably don't like her enough ( at least to consider marrying her)

Mr Barns said...

Dude, yah I got that she don't cook and clean. How long have you been with her - 3 years and u did not see all that in d first year? Yeah she's not attitude and shit but u put up with it this long. If she is not all that and u can't take the b.s then cut d cord and find your real girl.
Finally oga u don't go down and under? Are u from Mars? Common eat that koochie... Eat em up. But make sure she cooks and cleans there

Anonymous said...

Please bros run as fast as your legs can carry you. she is not a wife material.

APPLE said...

She has shown you the kind of lady she is, if you can't deal walk. Don't think marriage will change her. It is no big deal to clean and wash, my hobby dose all that and more for me even after many years of marriage, but then again he is not a Nigerian, if it is a big deal for you then go look for some one else. It is also no big deal for my male children to do that for ladies because that is how i brought them up.

OLAMIBO ABIFARIN said...

Hehee thank shey my mother taught me and I taught myself. Okay, my dear LIB reader, have read about a virtuous woman in the bible (proverbs 31:10-31).
To me, if a lady can not take care of her house then she should be made a woman(wife). I won't say you should leave her coz nobody is perfect but I wil rather say you should have a face to face talk with her, call her to attention, let her knw that itz not gud for her as a lady not to clean or cook. From d discussion, then you should be able to deduce if she wil be your wife or not. But remember, nobody is perfect and a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Goodluck.

OMG!WOMAN said...

LOL this is hilarious tho.

Mrs Mo said...

dude one question,is she more successful than you are? are you not man enough dt u cnt respectfully caution her to change her ways?

if yes and no respectively you might want to move on because nothing would change.

GREEN said...

BROS, DO you STILL NEED PEOPLE TO ADVICE YOU WHEN U HAVE SEEN IT ALL. RUN WHEN U CAN STILL SEE THE LIGHT. COS IT IS OBVIOUS THAT SHE IS A SPOIL BRAT, NOT A WIFE MATERIAL. NO HOME TRAINING AND NO REGARD FOR YOU.

nkiru4love@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Dnt ask me mtcheew

Anonymous said...

dude eat that pussy and solve the problem in her mind

#king said...

loool..gf material indeed..dnt marry her..y ar u askn dis female readers..most of dem no b gf or even wife material..hoes in disguise...............................#KingOfKings

Anonymous said...

Very soon u will wash her pants

ejike capable said...

I fail to understand this pls someone put me thru.

Anonymous said...

Hol up! why dont you eat p***y, thats a deal breaker, its annoying enough, then u shudda said something about the dishe, like you're tired or u call her out and tell her she wont die if she does it. you're the man hold the ground.

Anonymous said...

After what u did she nags, nags please have a real think n put aside fantasy face reality bro..she needs a lot to learn . little things make the difference in any relationship. If she can't change n you change by walking. A broken relationship is the best than a cracked marriage.

Anonymous said...

Communicate and to me oh these things are small.

Pay Chuka said...

You see, Some girls are just manner less. I also had the same experience with a girl some time back in Uni days,Asking me to wash dishes..Hurting my inner Ego as a Man..NOt like i dont do it in my house but i mean, its her house! just leave her cos she will do it again and again..some guys like being talked to like that but not me.. As for the p...y, nigga if you hit it, you can aswell eat it.

Anonymous said...

Don't marry her o... If u do, ur life wil b miserable.
Aunty Linda, no use my comment wash plate o

Anonymous said...

Boss, you are not overracting. There's still time to correct this - move on to the next one. Don't marry her and then come back here on LIB and complain: "My wife doesn't cook, doesn't clean, what kind of woman did I marry?!" You know what kind of woman she is now. She's not willing to change. Move on to the next one sharply, brother!

Chucks

Anonymous said...

Run as far as your legs can carry you . There's more from where that one is coming from

Anonymous said...

I think you should talk to her on how you feel. If you don't see any genuine change, not just at d moment but over a period of time, then I think you should walk away.

Anonymous said...

You really must think through b4 proceeding. A lady must learn to respect her man and be humble. Doing Domestic chores is a must for a wife,even if she doesnt like doing certain things. There are smart ways of going about it. I advise u both talk about it b4 u proceed.

Anonymous said...

bros...... RUN!!!!!

vanessa said...

well dear, 4 mi dnt tink she is..sins she cnt even tak care of her own house den wat assurance do u tink she wil tak care of urs wen u marry her..

Anonymous said...

dats how so many girls miss their luck, how can u ask ur boyfriend to wash plates hmmmmmmm na wa ooooo. and lata wen they remain single they start saying it frm their mothers side . any way guy if u can teach her do and if u cnt forget her

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Unknown said...

Don't let love blind you, am glad you can see for yourself! People don't change so don't expect her to suddenly become domesticated after marriage! Run while offer lasts

Anonymous said...

Hilarious

Anonymous said...

Some say where there is true love, you just know. You feel it in your heart, you feel it in your bones, there are no doubts,there are no questions. You don't love her enough to wash her dishes and she doesn't love you enough to not diss/abuse you. You all should not make the mistake of your lives. It is better to be single and happy than be married and unhappy

The doubts you are having is your sixth sense. So what if we advise you to marry her? You will still go and marry someone who is talking trash to you? OYO o!

- Ajala

Anonymous said...

Hey, i feel sorry about your plight . Although, i do not think her not cooking can be a problem it just the society that as us believeing a woman we detest cooking is not good wife material. However, i do believe her not cleaning shows that she is a person with rather poor hyigene which i think is poor whether male or female.So, if you are a person very keen on good hygiene i hope you give the marriage a second thought, because this woman will go on to be the mother of your children which will affect your children greatly. If their mother cannot instill in them basic etiquette. Also, another problem you have is that she appears very arrogant and disactified by her sexual life. A woman who is not ready to apologize when she is wrong or there is no ground of mutual respect is not going to be a submissve wife. So if you are a man that likes your woman submissive trust me this marriage will be nothing but a recepie for disaster. Also, you can always speak to her about her vulgar ways , or boy EAT THAT PUSSY women love that.

Eugeia Ekeji said...

Most of us ladies grow up not knowing their duty as a woman. Sometimes it depends on the upbringing of the child and some people so to say are naturally lazy. U don't need to run away from her, u can help by talking to her, letting her know her duties, may be she was not even taught those things. You could make her a perfect woman if u wanted to.

Anonymous said...

Scamper when u can still see clearly. definitely galfrnd material.

Tabsyyy said...

I'll sincerely advice you to not marry her... it's apparent that she'll make your life miserable and you'll end up having a failed marriage... except of course, God intervenes and make her better! But remember, Love is not enough!!!:)

Lady kay said...

She is nt a wife material oooo

Anonymous said...

Guy person no nid translate to u again na....She has no respect n u will av lots of problems wen u marry her.

Simply19 said...

Hey, i feel sorry about your plight . Although, i do not think her not cooking can be a problem it just the society that as us believeing a woman we detest cooking is not good wife material. However, i do believe her not cleaning shows that she is a person with rather poor hyigene which i think is poor whether male or female.So, if you are a person very keen on good hygiene i hope you give the marriage a second thought, because this woman will go on to be the mother of your children which will affect your children greatly. If their mother cannot instill in them basic etiquette. Also, another problem you have is that she appears very arrogant and disactified by her sexual life. A woman who is not ready to apologize when she is wrong or there is no ground of mutual respect is not going to be a submissve wife. So if you are a man that likes your woman submissive trust me this marriage will be nothing but a recepie for disaster. Also, you can always speak to her about her vulgar ways , or boy EAT THAT PUSSY women love that.

Anonymous said...

Wow. I am a woman a mother and a wife. No man can take such attitude from a woman not talk of a wife to be. If u truly Luv her u can seat her down and let her know her faults. She might change gradually. But if she doesn't then let her go.

Anonymous said...

I think your woman is spoilt and probably you have condoned a lot of rubbish from her.

I will advise you to sit her down with some seriousness and ask her where she sees the relationship, if she says she wants to be serious with you and sees you as her man, then let her know the things she does that get to you and can mare the relationship.

Give her some time to see if she will change. If she does not, you can take a bow and find yourself a woman who will make you feel like a king.

All the best.

ebunny said...

hmmmmmmmmmmm..i close my mouth and swallow spit

Susan Amachree - Otoijamun said...

hahahahahahahah, we ladies have a way of hiding behind some other issue, rather than confront d guy with what the problem really is" her main problem is the 'Eating P***y" trust me, so if you don't think u can do it, tell her & ask her if she can b ok without it cos if its very important to her and she doesn't get it from u she may cheat after marriage...as for the cooking/dish washing she will definitely improve especially if u r giving her all she wants

Anonymous said...

I think the real issue here is . . .WHY YOU NO CHOP PUNANI THO?? thats a deal breaker right there.



- Concerned Female

Rike said...

she ws only tryna make up wiv u in a way u both can laugh it off, she just dnt wanna shes sorry. velvet,chiffon,satin and all oda clothin materials are also expensive so oga pls do wiv d little yard shes offering u.

Anonymous said...

I can understand not washing plate. But not eating pussy? Men you dey fuck up. You have to get down on that pussy once a while. Up your game nigga.

Anonymous said...

Na wa o...She is not trained. Before she realizes her mistake it might be late! Chasing witch were there is no witch

Anonymous said...

i was in such a situation. she has everything a man would ask for from a modern woman, a good job, pretty face, has her own place, as for cooking, I never saw her do that but all the food I ate at her place were quiet tasty, as for manners, na zero. she was a ticking time bomb. hot temper was replaced with her name in oxford Dic. So fucking rude. I cant count how many times I wanted to slap her so bad but I couldn't bcos I was so in love with her and besides I am a lover not a fighter. I felt I could love her so much she would change but bro that wasn't going to happen on her side so I had to bounce. if you think she will change continue with the relationship. my friend says its better to fight for 10 years and have peace for 70 years. maybe you guys need more time to adjust with each other. I swear it sounds like we might be talking about the same girl.

Anonymous said...

You have known her for three years and I do not see any banter or even any sort of romance between you guys... guy marry whom you love, if you love her and she makes you happy.. talk to her. You are just finding out she doesn't wash dishes? after three years? if you have put up with it for three years, why is it an issue right now? call your woman, let her know your position and how you feel and most of all, be in love and both of you should be friends.. I don't see any banter on that text though, I wonder how una two take dey wan reach marriage stage but anyway... if you love her and everything else surpasses this.. marry her.

Anonymous said...

she is lazy n disrespectful. dont enta wot u ll regret tomoro . she will turn u to ha houseboy. beta cut off before its too late.

Anonymous said...

Bros, please run for your life.

Anonymous said...

Dude, she asked a question, just ans her politely. If I had ur shoes on, my ans would be; yes, marrying u. As simple as ABC.

Anonymous said...

Do not isolate the incident. Think of the relationship holistically. A better decision would be the outcome of that

Anonymous said...

Dude let the truth be told & I guess u know the truth, what is love without respect? She's not a wife material, a wife material won't ulter such words to a man she wants to spend her life wit, marriage is not boyfriend & gfrnd tin bt a life time, if she could treat u this way when ur not married,wht wld happen when u get married to her? U need to advice urslf,if she's been like tht all the yrs u guys hv been together with same attitude then u need a rethink.........

Kisha said...

Dear poster. U r nt ready for marriage. U r busy lookn for a perfect woman nd I encorage u to search frm here to zambezi cos u won't see. But cme to tink of it,cnt u wash plate? R u too big to wash plate or is it ur ego dat is mkn u nt to? Marriage is 2ppl cmn togeda to mke tins wrk. If u cnt hlp out wit dosmetic chores wat else will u b able to do??? Pls my advice is leave her for sm1 who truly loves nd appreciates her person cos u sound like a control freak. Nd u r super dump to say out her message. U still need to grow up.

Anonymous said...

Dude let the truth be told & I guess u know the truth, what is love without respect? She's not a wife material, a wife material won't ulter such words to a man she wants to spend her life wit, marriage is not boyfriend & gfrnd tin bt a life time, if she could treat u this way when ur not married,wht wld happen when u get married to her? U need to advice urslf,if she's been like tht all the yrs u guys hv been together with same attitude then u need a rethink......... (Vivah)

Anonymous said...

I'm married and my husband helps with any kind of house chores, sometimes cooks and serves me and the children, does the dishes too. I don't even need to ask sometimes. But I will never disrespect him like this. You have said it all. She will use you to mop the floor by the time you are married. Lack of respect can hurt a relationship as much as lack of trust. You have been forewarned.

Okoro said...

Yes if you love her. No if you won't be able to help her adjust for the better.

Unknown said...

But you yourself why cant u eat p***y?

Anonymous said...

Uncle, its only proper that when you are done eating you wash the dishes especially when you meet a clean sink. African men and traditional roles. When it comes to money now, you'll want the woman to contribute o. what is the big deal in washing one or two dishes? My husband doesnt hesitate to do that when he meets a clean sink and maybe we eat at different times.

GALORE said...

eeya...poor Man.
u had to come n Cry here

Town Crier



@Galore

Anonymous said...

That is jst so disrespectful of her, she seems like the lazy type.sure words comes frm ladies dat take care of a man financially,guess u re nt one? Sure a lady isn't even for keep,t as a wife or a gf but a used nd dumb item so in one of her sober mood she can atleast be doing some re-think her behaviours,so she can amend her ways. #Amafemaledont#

Nwaubani Jane said...

Just let her be nd find sm1 else.

Anonymous said...

YOU BEST NOT MARRY THIS PERSON!!
LOL, you seem like a nice guy and as a woman, I must say you deserve a lot better!
Shes acting like a skank!
Lol

ritontoo said...

She is a very dirty gurl and isn't ready to have a home of hers .But you are in best position to know if you can go ahead to marry her. Think well sha so u don't regret at the end of the day.

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