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Wednesday 13 June 2012

Woman attempts to kill herself & her fiancé for calling their wedding off

A 34-year old woman, Bukola Abiwa (pictured above), has been arrested by the police and arraigned before Ejigbo Magistrate’s Court, Lagos State, Southwest Nigeria, for allegedly attempting to kill herself and her fiance, Sunday Onayiga, with a knife. She is now in prison custody at Kirikiri, Lagos, for attempted murder.

She decided to kill herself and her fiancee after she was told by her fiance to pack out of their house at 3, Bassey Street, Orelope area of Egbeda, Lagos, where they have lived for over two years. The angry woman insisted that he must marry her because he promised to marry her two years ago.


The Ondo State-born woman expressed her frustration when Sunday broke the news to her that he was no longer interested in the marriage. She reportedly hit his head on a wall and took a kitchen knife and pursued Sunday to the Police Station at Idimu to kill him. The police arrested her and charged her to court for attempted murder and conduct likely to cause breach of public peace.

The embittered woman lamented at the open court that he has used her for two years and now wanted to dump her for another woman.

She is facing a two-count charge of assault and conduct likely to breach public peace. Narrating her ordeal, Sunday said he met her at Ikotun area and told her that he loved her and wanted to marry her.

He said before he met her, she was living on her own and he asked her to come and live with him and promised to meet her parents.

Bukola  said that she started living with him as his wife not knowing he had another thing in his mind.

She said that she was shocked when Sunday told her that he no longer loved her and that the marriage had been cancelled.

Sunday told P.M.NEWS that he decided to quit because she was troublesome and could not manage her as wife. Bukola was later charged to court for the offence. She pleaded not guilty and the presiding Magistrate, Mrs. M. B. Folami granted her bail in the sum of N250, 000 with two sureties in like sum.

She was remanded in prison custody at Kirikiri,  Lagos, because she could not meet her bail conditions.

Culled from PM News

107 comments:

Anonymous said...

Na wa o men are terribly wicked. I no blame her sha...

Deborah said...

Why you would live with a man as husband and wife is beyond me. What have we become in this world? You deserve what you get ma'am.

Janded said...

Bitterness leads to disaster

Anonymous said...

LMAO!!! LoooooL....

Anonymous said...

My goodness ladies u have to love urself more n no when to let go if a man dnot want u let him go cos he is bringing u close to d right guy

Anonymous said...

Was it really necessary to include their home address in this? What nonsense. Journalism in
this country still has a long way to go.

Professor X said...

*holds laugh*

Anonymous said...

I guess he has no right to change his mind? She needs a layer and a therapist

Anonymous said...

God punish d guy he no die well. That's all I have to say and may God also punish other men who are like him out there.

redstar said...

Hmmmm!desperation to get married at 34. When you are being pressurized by friends or family to get married,that all your friends are married with kids, you will definitely be desperate to do anything to get married. But bukola killing yourself or the guy that dumped you is not the solution, I wonder how you are going to get yourself out of this mess. Well,this will serve as lesson to other women

ChiChiLuv said...

Are good men that scarce in Nigeria wey woman go wan kill herself AND the man come go jail? Na wa o

Anonymous said...

SMH. she says "that he has used her for two years"?
They both used themselves.
All relationships must not end in marriage.

Anonymous said...

he has told u to leave nicely and u won't...if u marry and he starts eating u now,you'd complain...nawa oh sef..
and why did u even move in with him in the first place when he didn't marry u...I BEG SWALLOW YOUR STUPID TEARS

Anonymous said...

Singing psquare omo wahala d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ oh oh wahala d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥, omg see wetin lack of husband d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ cause, buh oga sunday u no jus try, y u no want her again nah. Omg dis story got me laughing so hard

johnnie said...

Na wa oo,abeg to marry na by force,I been dey think say marriage na two people go agree as partner,and if e no dey workout,na to stop d relationship.

Anonymous said...

You cant turn a whore into a housewife

Eya Ayambem said...

So it 's after using her for two good years that he realised he cannot marry her? Has he seen another one and feels like that one won't fade one day. At 34, she should start going to look for dates or what? Anyway that is not his business and she too has learnt that moving in with a man does not guarantee marriage.
She is so devastated, imagine a woman CHASING A MAN WITH A KNIFE UPTO A POLICE STATION.
Lady, do not kill yourself 'cos you never know, one prince charming may be searching somewhere, yet to discover you.
But some men eh, is it that easy to just look at somebody and say I do not want to marry you anymore.
But , again, running with a knife like that actually proves that she was difficult to manage.
What am I even saying? I don't know.

MAXIMUS™ said...

And yet some deluded illiterate had the guts to say Ibo women beat men. Shey the name Bukola is Ibo abi?

Anonymous said...

"decided to move him with him and live with him as his wife"!! Olodo! Somebody promised you marriage without doing the proper things at all and you thinking you his wife??? Osho free babes. Lmao

Anonymous said...

I wont be surprised if this lady was pysically abusing the guy and that's why he decided to take a walk before marriage.

And they say only men are beasts...smh

Thank God the guy broke up with her on time...and he's still alive to tell the story. If you want to die, kill urself and not someone else.

The guy say he no dey do again...na by force?? breakup is better and cheaper than divorce anyday.

Anonymous said...

She looks like Evelyn Lozada from BBW.

Thought it was her for a min

Anonymous said...

She go marry me if i bail her out??? pls any contact of her

Anonymous said...

250,000 ke!that's too much for a broken woman who was only trying to express her feeling by cutting his d*ck..hehehehe(ok maybe not in support of dat).1leason;never live wif a man who is yet 2 put a ring on it..now all her juice has been sucked off..lol

Anonymous said...

She is mad......my x fiance call of our wedding the week our wedding iv was being printed and 6months to our wedding. After using and dumping me also but i leave judgement to God. Bet this woman is crazy sha she fit chase am with knief to police station lwkmd that is straight drama. No need for that cuz Gods judgement is worse that any judgement you can pass on a human being truss me......: i cant stop laffing ooo lmaoooooo

Anonymous said...

Lmao!!!! Chai Naija pple una wicked oooo!

Anonymous said...

Na wa o! U are nice sha, cos ladies now a day take law into their hands, but u left him for God? Good girl _ be o! Me will put porsin in his food Simple like ABC

Anonymous said...

Eiyaaa... Nnem ndo pls. Good thing you turned the use and dump s.o.b to God for judgement

Anonymous said...

A very foolish step taken by the woman.marraige is by choice not by force

Anonymous said...

Maximus don vex o lwkm

Anonymous said...

This is ridiculous am speechless.......

Anonymous said...

All the brainless people[ most of whom are ladies themselves] leaving stupid comments about this woman needs to wake up to reality.
There is a law here in some states in USA which were put in place to protect women in this kind of situation.
Ladies think for a second. You have been leaving with a man of your dreams, sharing the cost of living together for long time. You are working, the guy also works. You share the bills together. You accumulate properties together. You cook for the guy. He screws you whenever and where ever he wanted. The guy kept promising that when the two of you have saved enough money, he will marry you. You might even have paid for some of his schooling/ education when courting and living together.
Now, the guy thinks he has arrived, with good job and promotions at work and now he wants to ditch you.
What about all the efforts you put into the relationship socially and economically? All the things you bought together? All the rents you have paid with him? All the money he has taken from you? etc,etc?
You should leave all these and just walk away? No way.
Gov. Fashola needs to look into this. I am a man. I believe this is another form of women exploitation. If this man want to ditch the poor lady now, he must be ready to forfeit half of what he has acquired with this lady.
This is nothing but injustice and abuse of women.
If i am a lady, i can kill for this form of abuse too, especially if i have put a lot into this relationship only for this scumbag of a man wants to walk away now.
Now all of you ladies writing stupid comments want this lady to start all over again penny less.
All of you needs to get a life.

Anonymous said...

Eh yah, i feel bad for her tho bt on the oda side,i dont. I blame her for movin in with a man believing he would marry her bcos they live togeda. Men this days re funny. The best to have in mind bfor going into a relationship is to expect less or more/ bcos u re datin doesnt mean he ll marry u till he puts a ring on it bfr u can b sure. Both men / women are somtin else this days. Na by force to marry?

Anonymous said...

She must have felt used and btrayed. Bt this is not a gud way to fight back, cos if she dies he wld marry anoda woman. The best to do is to b strong and courageous,hoping to get som1 beta

Anonymous said...

U ar not crious. She is not managable

Leema said...

A paedophile gets 1 yr to 50,000 bail or so n a heartbroken woman is in kirikiri. Where will she get 250 grand from. My mother always warned my brothers from early years' never promise a girl marriage, n never impregnate a girl' . Most ladies re acting holier than thou where as one of us could do worse . The info must ve mde her almost mad cos no right thinking person will chase a man with a knife on the streets. Its sad men dont understand how it hurts a woman to break a promise such as that, that's why men should never tring a lady on n women need to be wise, if he loves u he'll marry u first. African man no be oyinbo, Nigerian man no get truth for mouth, Nigerian man no get integrity !!! That man should thank his God cos many men are 6 ft below cos of situations like this.

Princess Zee said...

I feel like giving u a big hug right now 4 wat u've written, u just spoke ma mind..don't mind 'em, all claiming self righteous...I don't pray 4any lady to experience such but y'all have no idea how painful it can be, so pls don't judge.

Woman of Virtue said...

Hehehehehe,na byforce 2 marry person ni? Ladies wif homely nd cool attitude still get dumped not 2 talk of a violent nd trouble shooter.nobody heard d guys side of d story buh am so sure d lady has faults 4 her 2 tink dat d next tin 2 do is kill him cus he sed he's no more interested.mehn,na death by hanging str8 ooo.

Woman of Virtue said...

Nice one!

Anonymous said...

I hate it wen people say "God's judgement". Where is it in de bible dat thou shall not break up an engagement!!! Ehhn , tell me now!nah lack of sense dey bring about dat stupid statement "God's judgement abi God will judge"

Anonymous said...

You see how foolish u are. Girls that are made dont move in wit guy here in nigeria. They move in and depend soly on u to provide everything. And after ur hard labour they overwork you wit sex. USA and niaja no be d same. Dat y guy in naija can come to the USA and live wit gals. Niaja does not have dat type of reality pal.....USA my ass

orangestar said...

I was dumped by someone I called a fiance when I was 27 years old, he dumped me for a ex commisioner daughter, I guess its because I'm not from a rich family, I'm 32 now and still unmarried but my hope and faith is in God and that's what keeps me going. I feel for bukola, but God will judge.

Anonymous said...

True Dat my broda.nigerian are a judgmental and dey love bad things happening to peopke so dey can sit back and say dere fucked up life is not dat bad afterall

guzy said...

I believe U̶̲̥̅̊ must be a man to hav cald her a whore. In as much as she was wrong moving into his house stil does not mean d truth wnt be told, just pray U̶̲̥̅̊ dnt see disapointment cus wen U̶̲̥̅̊ giv ur everytin to someone and he dumps U̶̲̥̅̊ after 2yrs of promising U̶̲̥̅̊ marriage wat else wil U̶̲̥̅̊ xpect, furstration. A lot of dem ȋ̊§ @ Yaba Left dat ȋ̊§ pshychiatric home

Anonymous said...

All the ladies writing stupid comments here, there is nothing wrong in living together and planning together with a man of your dreams before you tie the knot. You are doing that in the name of trust which is usually present before you can even decide to start friendship with a man. This woman has done nothing wrong in living with this scumbag of a man who decided not to keep to his own part of the plan. So STOP blaming this woman. This woman is the victim here. Why are some women so brainless that they cant even think before blaming other women. The action this woman took is justified. This man is lucky that he was not killed. This man is ruthless and he must be dealt with ruthlessly. This kind of men are all over the world. All they do is take advantages of women. The issue here is not that the man must marry the woman by force, but he must be ready to forfeit half of all he has, to this woman.
There is too much exploitation of women in Africa. Why? Our gov needs to do something about it.
The other day, the president of Ghana said that there must be law in Ghana that protects women from some pastors. Most pastors exploit women who flocks to their churches for psychologically healing but end up being slept with or their monies being taken away from them by these so called men of a God.
We all need to wake up to reality and stop blaming all these women.
It is natural to fall in love and trust a man you intend to marry.

Anonymous said...

The only person that lack sense is you anon 10:22 mtchewwww

Anonymous said...

In reply to the person who wrote that women who are made, dont move in with a man in Naija. That is not true. I passed out of medilag in 1995. My wife is a nurse, i met her at Ayinke house. We lived together for 4 yrs before our wedding.
So stop propagating what you know nothing about.

Anonymous said...

God will surely judge him my sister. God will perfect everyfing which concerns you. Same happened to me at 25 but am still 25 and i know there are better days ahead. I just chose to focus and put all my energy in my career. Il keep you in my prayers sis xxx

Anonymous said...

Why is the police keeping this woman?
This is nothing but 'double wahala for dead body and owner of dead body' according to our late Fela Anikulapo.
This woman should be released.
It is a man's world in Africa my sisters. My sister if you jilted, exploited, used, abused; just walk away.

deekay said...

A woman scorned. Eyaa!! But some men are evil sha. If you have no intention to marry her why promise such, knowing how attached women can get. They should just punish her small and release her. She is heartbroken.

Anonymous said...

@2012, if u guys knw, what it means to be jilted u wil really feel for this woman. she might have spent all her money on this guy , feeding, clothing, having sex and all that and suddenly the guy want to cut it off, at 34 this is bad. anyway, to the ladies out there always have to take courage when face with situation like this , who says that man is meant for you, anyman that is not meant for u will surely go. i dated a guy for 8years we went t the same school, we did everything a woman a her boy friend could do 2geda. but i noticed this guy was just using me, after we graduated from school he got an appointment in a bank and i got employed in a nice firm as well. i always ask him "when we are going to get married" we are ok now, but he is always resisting me meeting his ppl, i read enof txt messages on his pone last year December when i went for xmas and new year, (I am 34years) that was when i went back to God for forgiveness and i asked God to please take control, as God will have it I met another guy this year very nice, handsome and quite ok, we are getting married in November. so I believe the other guy was nt meant for me because when i met my Fiancee i knew "this is the man" so lets put every situation to God.

Anonymous said...

I just cudn't stop from laffing!na wa wa wa!indeed 'Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!'hey y'all sayin living togeda is not wrong,pls,i ope u won't pass on such values to ur kids?Of course it is not morally rite pls!anyway,i pray naija gets to the stage where laws protecting both parties will be put in place eps for those of una wey like to live with man n vice-versa wc marriage.Like its done in France,u either live as a couple in a type of civil union(PACS),fully married under legal law or concubinage.When it does not work out,depending on what u agreed on before the two coming together,u settle accordingly and every one departs in peace wc having to run marathon race to police station.Cos at the long run,we are all guilty(men n women)of this act by the Man in this story.

Lisa, London said...

so why isn't the Ignedion girl that stabbed her roomie with scissors in prison for attempted murder?

Anonymous said...

We are all hipocrits/ How many of u no chop ham 4b you marry your man/ woman.
Cohabiting is a trial to see if u can live together till DDUP or not.ETHER PERSON CAN CHANGE THEIR MIND ANYTIME. Once a violent person, always one. Which of u want this lady as a friend or wife?

Adakune said...

Maximus G☺d bless U̶̲̥̅̊! Wƺr are the tribalistic monkέys that called out ibo womeπ †ђξ o†ђξr day? Cowards!!!!

Anonymous said...

My thoughts exactly!

Anonymous said...

Anon 10:47 LMAO @ "happened at 25 but am still 25"
U nor get problem na...ur own still fresh

Hairess™ Human Hair said...

Thank God nobody died!

Anonymous said...

Advice to ladies...this is the reason cohabitation is not right. When a man is getting all the wifely benefits....why exactly should he marry you??? Keep it on lockdown y'all...an unfortunate situation.

sexiest said...

double wahala..man no gree marry u again n u ended up in prison over a dick..mtchew...dy no worth am naaa..

Anonymous said...

Everyone makes stupid and uninformed comments about what they know nothing about! This is a form of abuse and this woman was obviously acting on impulse. The guy asked her to move out of the house, why not the other way round? The government should make it law that if a woman lives in your house for more than a year, she should be entitled to some of your property if the relationship does not work out but no, she is thrown into jail and the world just sits back and mocks Nigeria still in dark ages....

Anonymous said...

At a table in a candle-lit restaurant
overlooking the ocean,man and woman sit
gazing longingly into each others eyes)
Man: (taking her hand) Baby, I love you,and
each time I look into your eyes I see forever
and a day,hold my hand honey,let’s walk this
road together,be my wife,have my kids.
Baby,would you please marry me?
Woman: (stands up and lands a stinging slap
on his face) I knew it!
Man:Babe! you just slapped me?
Woman: I just knew it!
Man: You knew what?
Woman: So it was you?
Man: Me?what did I do?
Woman: (Pacing back and forth,pointing at
him)So it was you all along?
Man:Babe,you are scaring me!
Woman: Ha! and pastor said it!
Man: Pastor said what?
Woman: Yes,pastor saw it!,even I(beating her
chest)I saw it in my dreams!,so it was you?
Man: Babe!are you alright?
Woman: Keep quiet and let me talk.
I have waited more than two decades,I have
prayed,fasted,sowed seeds,bought books and
listened to tapes,even went out of my way to
be nice to every male specie of marriageable
age!
Every saturday was a different mall,I went
from the galleria to city mall,from the palms to
e-center,looking for you!
I left my “chick-lit-flicks” for sci-fi movies that
I didn’t even understand,just so I could learn
how to enjoy the things you love. I took up
new hobbies,watching football and play
station.
I went to Daystar,from Daystar,I went to
House on the rock,from House on the rock I
went to This presnt house,from there I went
to Guiding light Assembly,looking everywhere
for you like I was looking for a needle in a
haystack!
(Turning around suddenly to face him)
Are you a needle?Did I have to buy a
microscope or telescope to see you?
I lost weight,went from a size 14 to a size
10,so that when you see me you’d love what
you see.
I took a short course at Lagos business
school,worked for all the multi-nationals. I
even opted to be seconded to Australia,I said
to myself,”maybe he is white.” I came back
empty handed!
Then I left Lagos,went to Abuja,from Abuja I
went to Port-Harcourt,then I went all the way
to Kano, abi?I didn’t even mind if you were
“malo!”
I joined hi-five,from hi-five to faceboook,then
I went to twitter,I even had a blog on which I
ranted,hoping you would show up!for
where?
I uploaded only my best pictures on
facebook,infact I took photo sessions to look
my best,all for you o!
My friends ended up matchmaking me with
every Tom,Dick and Harry,at first I didn’t like
it,but as I grew older,I embraced it!
I attended all the weddings,whether the
invitation was direct or indirect!You know
what they say about meeting your life partner
at weddings?
The next place I was hoping to check was the
moon,before you crawled out,crawled out
from the house directly next to mine!So it was
you,the neighbour I said hello to every
morning?Were you trying to destroy my faith?
You almost rendered my prayer life useless?
What were you doing hibernating in that
house all these while,what were you waiting
for?what sign where you looking for
(Man is speechless and confused almost in
tears)
(She turns and sits with a mischiveous smile
on her face)
I have waited almost three decades for
you,and all along you were next door. I have
loved you in advance and missed you even
more,(She holds out her hand)
Now be a gentleman,get down on your knees
and put that rock on my finger!!
N.B: To all single ladies quit looking in all the
wrong places,let” the man” find you,it’s his
job!
To all the single men,please come out of
hiding,the ladies are waiting,and remember,
it’s very “ungentlemanly” to keep a lady
waiting!

Anonymous said...

It will take u 6month 2 knw if she was managable or not, I wonder why it tuk him 2yrs 2 realise dat. Stupid man, datz how dey will treat ur daugher ma worry.

Anonymous said...

This lady is stupid - she should have just let it be and let God judge. Now that she is in prison the guy would end up with another woman and she will be d one suffering for the guy's stupidity....I believe there is always a reason for everything that happen to us in Life so she just pray for forgiveness of sin and leave it to God to work it out for her.

Anonymous said...

I feel like giving u a hug right now to for dropping this sensible comment. Truth be told,she didn't do well by chasing him with a knife but he shouldn't have called it quit with her after 2yrs of leaving 2geda. And its not like that's when they started dating o,cos they must have dated for a while before asking her to move in. So he didn't notice he couldn't manage her in the first 6months? He's a fool. She must have been better than him for him to ask her to move in and then exploited her and wants to dump her now...SMH

obiLondon said...

Ehm....? I don't think any woman will complain if her husband still "eats" her after marriage. WINK! WINK!!

Anonymous said...

seriously,i feel for this lady. But wait a minute, why would a lady who has been living alone, fending for herself all this while, decides to pack her belongings all of a sudden to a Man's house, somebody who only promised, knowing full well that "MAN"(emphasis both men nd women)never fulfil promises.Only GOD can make a promise nd fulfils it. So my dear its too late, what i think you should do is to forget him and move on.
This is a serious lesson to all ladies, pls until he has gone to introduce himself to your family, to show his committment, my dear abeg stay where u dey nd be very careful to know when u need to adjust.
LADIES PLEASE BE CAREFUL.....save yourself from heartfailure..
Linda make sure you post my comment immediately.
Thank you.

Unknown said...

"There is a law here in some states in USA which were put in place to protect women in this kind of situation.
Ladies think for a second. You have been leaving with a man of your dreams, sharing the cost of living together for long time. You are working, the guy also works. You share the bills together. You accumulate properties together. You cook for the guy. He screws you whenever and where ever he wanted. The guy kept promising that when the two of you have saved enough money, he will marry you. You might even have paid for some of his schooling/ education when courting and living together.
Now, the guy thinks he has arrived, with good job and promotions at work and now he wants to ditch you.
What about all the efforts you put into the relationship socially and economically? All the things you bought together? All the rents you have paid with him? All the money he has taken from you? etc,etc?
You should leave all these and just walk away? No way.
Gov. Fashola needs to look into this. I am a man. I believe this is another form of women exploitation. If this man want to ditch the poor lady now, he must be ready to forfeit half of what he has acquired with this lady.
This is nothing but injustice and abuse of women.
If i am a lady, i can kill for this form of abuse too, especially if i have put a lot into this relationship only for this scumbag of a man wants to walk away now.
Now all of you ladies writing stupid comments want this lady to start all over again penny less.
All of you needs to get a life. " I SECOND THE ABOVE STATEMENT

Anonymous said...

Som comments here are funny. U'll neva knw how it feels till uve had it. Ive been there + lost 1 of my fallopian tubes in d course of my 3 year relatnship wit dis igbo guy. I am 30 now and live in abj. Nd no, i wasnt ummanageabl. Meanwhile d marriage tlk has flown. My mistake was lovn and trustin 2 much which led 2 thinkn wit my heart instead of my head. Now i hear he's frolickn round town wit som1 who looks like me. Just found out he's shaggd som of my frnds as som hav confessed. I still suffer 4rm depressn wen i rememba i hav only 1 tube left. Lets c how sane most of u will remain if u go thru wot i did xcept by d grace of God.

Anonymous said...

Lesson learned: 1) Marriage is not a rehearsal (don't test run marriage, don't live with or move in with a man until he has properly married you, then you will have not lose everything 2) Easy come, easy go 3) People do not generally value what comes cheap (the man got her cheaply so he can discard her easily) 4) He has tasted the honey and found out he could also test others 5) He experimented with her only to now found love with another... remember a few postings ago on this blog... the story of Lauryn Hill. 6) Where is the justice here, the walks away scotfree w/o compensation for the 2 yrs the woman had been servicing him. Ladies think well and live your life in a dignified manner.

Anonymous said...

The Good Book says it "Why by a cow when you can drink its milk for free?"

A promise is not a marriage. You move into his house. You cook and clean and screw him where there is no binding contract? Please tell me why he needs to marry her?

Its 2012 and doing the right thing these days means being "old fashion" that's why we have all this sad drama.

Anonymous said...

Let us remove sentiments nd be honest with ourselves.First,guys r liars taking advantage of women(who dnt want to be real to themselves).Guys do dis all d time,not good.Men should know dat what goes around comes around.There is no hiding place,u'll always face d repercussion.Second,women speak like u've got values.Like someone said,why go live with a man?I know a 36yr old lady who is still single.Even though she's not happy abt it she still doesn't take shits frm guys.U need to b a detective in any relationship.We see some funny attitudes in guys buh we still go ahead to live with him.Am married with a son presently n I would tell u I luv dis man so much even when we were dating I was strict,I tried not to show my feelings too much cos I didn't want to b trampled upon.Guys naturally feel arrogant when a woman is head over heels.Personally,dis woman has no moral value what so ever to have chased a man wif a knife.Obviously,not even d baddest of guys would b proud to av her as a wife.Some women face worse n their values speak.Dnt think she's a marriage material(not in support of d guy) cos no matter wat a guy does to u,u shuld learn to act cultured who knows d guy might realise he just missed a great person.Let peoples testimony abt us b good as ladies.We r role models to our children.

Anonymous said...

Hahahahahaha! Funny one maximus

paoa said...

Its a lesson for some1 out there... despirate lovers and individuals. No matter how hidden a man's character is, you would know if he loves you or not. You can never win the heart of any one by claiming to be what you think they want you to be. Any1 who would love you, would lovw you for whom u are.. Its an experience to learn from. If there is life, there is hope. It is not over until YOU admit it is. You never know, it could be a blessing in disguise. I pray you get bailed out soon. True helpers on this blog can only help her out by paying for the bail. HATERS are FAILERS. no judgement just a piece of my mind! and to the man that wants FASHOLA to look into this.. (i knw say u be americanna) their are other better things our gov has doing.

Anonymous said...

can u see why he can not manage her....how will a normal woman chase you with knife....the guy is doing what is best for him

Anonymous said...

Iyk de Myk says Hmmmm! Everybody is generalizing and crucifying the men. How about when Women chop man money finish and disappear? Don’t men get jilted? What happens then? For me I think when somebody walks away from your life, shame him/her by getting/attracting a better (finances, looks, xter etc)person. e no reach to fight except you think your ex is the best you can ever get.

Anonymous said...

Don't blame her o! Men are wicked, claim to love you and when they have gotten what they want, they suddenly unlove u! Besides our society is what pushed her off the edge. If u no marry by late 20's ppl begin to look at you and talk funny to you. At 34 where will she start from? She probably has been giving the man all her money, and the fool now says he is not doing again?! For her to pursue him to the station will show that it was a shattered heart that sped that was at work here.

Unknown said...

The man has a right to change his mind.

Mmakamba said...

i dont blame d man.she really cheapend herself by living with him

Keks said...

she didnt plan 4 him 2 b alive let alone marry another wife, they were supposed 2 die 2geda, duuh!

Anonymous said...

...'she's a troublesome woman'...noone wants to marry a wahala woman!...i be woman oo..buh the man no no she be troublesome woman wen he asked her to move in with?...am sure the man has been looking for ways to pursue her since...e did when he saw he had a chance to make it to the police station on his feet!!!

Anonymous said...

God don judge already. They have no moral right to live together.for every wrong doings there is consequence. Make the girl go relax for somewhere but i de imagine now how de guy take pick race even Usain bolt no go fit catch am. LOL

Anonymous said...

A layer? Na broiler she need! Lol

Anonymous said...

N ur d one dats manageable shey?

Anonymous said...

Mr maximus ibo women r in d habit of beating men!! Deal wit it

ChiChiLuv said...

@ Anonymous June 13, 2012 9:49 PM

Slow your roll, abeg...yes, in the States there are palimony laws - palimony is the term that is used to describe the support that an unmarried person may request from his or her partner when the relationship between them comes to an end - to protect couples that are cohabitating BUT there are certain rules that apply - here are a few vital ones...

_ To get support as an unmarried partner, you cannot base your request on a claim that your partner has a duty to support you.

_You cannot get support money because your partner promised to marry you and then did not marry you.

_Most often, one of the cohabiting unmarried partners promises or agrees to support the other partner for life.

_Often, the plaintiff (the person asking for support) and defendant (his or her partner) lived together for a long time (usually between 15 and 20 years).

The last one knocks her case out of the box, she would have NO claim of Palimony IF it existed in Nigeria BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, she attempted to MURDER the man, in the States, she is NOT getting NO palimony but she will be going straight to jail. She can not use force, violence and coercion to get what she thinks she deserves to get ESPECIALLY WITHOUT AN ORAL/WRITTEN CONTRACT between herself and the gentleman!

She is only 34 years old, she is not 43! She can definitely start over with another gentleman but she lost it which speaks more about her than him.

There was a woman who had left her college education to work to help pay for her husband's law school education, they were married for over 25 years, built a great life together until he began to think she was a little to old to be the wife of a partner at a prestigious law firm and decided to upgrade to the secretary. He turned ALL her children against her, with held monies from her and made her life a psychological night mare. She pump a few bullets into him and girlfriend while they were asleep, went to jail and has no regrets. THIS I CAN UNDERSTAND, IT AIN'T RIGHT BUT I CAN UNDERSTAND. This chick here...Nah! Sorry, I don't see her grounds for trying to murder this man.

Anonymous said...

Plsss contact her, she will b very happy dat u want 2 marry her. Lmao...but seriously, u cud b her soldier!!
Billie jean

Allegra said...

It is a pity but women and some men need to be more savvy when conducting themselves. If you choose to live with someone without being married - whilst marriage is not for everyone, it affords you rights that you would not get ordinarily as a common law. So be wise ladies!!

Anonymous said...

N ur d one dats manageable shey?

Anonymous said...

A layer? Na broiler she need! Lol

Anonymous said...

things like this makes me want to remain single sometimes,but God says it is not good for a man to be alone,lord i beg deliver us from the wrong ones amen.

Flora said...

Don't be silly. This is not funny. Don't laugh at people's misery.

Anonymous said...

Serves her right and any other woman who gives up too much too soon at the promise of marriage!
I will never understand why a lot of women start living life a wife before the actual wedding. Respect yourself enough!

NaijaScorpio said...

There's no law in d US, anon 9.49pm. Stop deceiving people. Stuff like this happens ALL the time and d woman is left with d short end of the stick. The courts can't help u because u were not legally married. Only if u have lived together for 10 yrs is it considered common law marriage.

Tomi kay said...

Abeg,I am in a 6 yrs relationship,if it doesn't work out well den no biggie,I will start with another guy. Fact is always expect d worse

Anonymous said...

WONU: exactly ma mınd used u for two yrs wıtout payın ur dowry nw u wnt to kıll hım. He ıs a smart wıcked man. Mscheeew

Anonymous said...

U are stıll 25 u stıll young jor. U stıll hv. Tıme so park well.

Anonymous said...

WONU: exactly ma mınd used u for two yrs wıtout payın ur dowry nw u wnt to kıll hım. He ıs a smart wıcked man. Mscheeew

Jewel said...

Jewel: i really feel for her... It is well

Anonymous said...

On this Issue, let's call Spade a Spade, I think this Lady is suffering what is due to him for disobeying God; why will you move in with a man to stay together for two years when he has not paid your Bride Prize? Don't u know u have been living in Sin? You now want to compound the problem by killing yourself and the Man. I wish you did it, by now you would have have ben explainning to God why u did what you did. Just swallow your pains and move on and then stop complaining!

ChiChiluv said...

Excuse me, Linda but where is my response? What did I say that is wrong? I defined Palimony and why this lady wouldn't get it as suggested by someone here...and you didn't post it because...?

otito said...

....too bad. Guys, God is watching. Call it fun or wateva..but remember that God is watching. Tell me how she will start again @ 34. I totally conbemn ds act..but, may God help her to regain her strenght..Shallom.

Ike Chuka said...

Clearly, I see severely flawed reasoning on several levels here...

First is the IDEALISM that marriage represents to Nigerian women. Haba! Many fail to fulfill destiny cos they are chasing the HOLY GRAIL. That you are not married doesn't make u a failure.

Second, it is obvious that RELATIONSHIPS now mean FREE, UNRESTRAINED bouts of PREMARITAL SEX, in addition to other domestic chores; cooking, laundry, cleaning etc. In one breadth, cavorting in FORNICATION as a past-time... something to be expected and shared anytime, anywhere and in another, we dare to mention GOD in the same sentence. Who/what qualifies u to talk about GOD's JUDGEMENT? I tire for our hypocrisy in this country.

Third, the earlier we recognize that the essence of relationships is to determine/establish whether or not the significant other is the right fit for a life-long commitment. We loose our capacity for objectivity when sexual favours are involved.

Ladies, please don't drop ur pants at the slightest whiff/hint of marriage. Some evil guys have figured this CHEAT CODE out and have absolutely no scruples using this. If you are defrauded of ur virtue, it is entirely ur decision/fault!

Anonymous said...

She looks like Nike Osinowo without a weave-on

Anonymous said...

I tire º°˚. She's nt manageable and he askd her 2 cum ãήϑ live wt him??? Yeye man ãήϑ yeye woman D̶̲̥̅̊α† allowd hersef †̥ b use

Anonymous said...

Well, this is what you get! If only Nigerians will stop taking marriage as a do or die affair. He did her wrong though but the desperation of Nigerian women to get married is getting out of hand. You cannot force a man to marry u. Nigerian women will take all sorts of abuse from their partners so they don't end up single. Where is your pride?

alemmal said...

Women, women, women, pls do not give out yourself soooo cheap to men no matter ur age. Why would u live wit a man dat has not married you. Its ridiculious. pls respect ur womanhood. Dats always the story in dis case. Sorry for that disappointment.

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