“I am a proud Muslim. I’ve been to the holy pilgrimage almost every year. My father was a prominent Islamic scholar from Ikenne-Remo in Ogun State. I can never marry a second wife. I have searched everywhere in the Holy Koran, I have not seen where it is written that a Muslim must marry more than one wife. Some people are merely twisting the scripture to satisfy their selfish desires by acquiring women and siring many children, whom, in most cases, they cannot cater for morally, educationally and financially.” Fuji artist, Adewale Ayuba.
Really? That's news to me. There's nowhere it's written in the Qur'an? Meanwhile, Ayuba is married to Azukaego Kwentoh, an Igbo woman he married in 1989. They have 6 children.
76 comments:
i have always known that there's a big diff btw educated and uneducated
Ayuba u v scored a cap n my chamber
let them be doing meee lolorun wi, Tinubu, Fashola, IBB tl his wife died r all muslims wt 1 wife each
deceivers let them continue to deceive themselves, meanwhile if u think education is expensive try ignorance
It's true.. What d Quran says is marry another wife only if u can love them equally. We all know dats impossible l.
I am a christian and please muslims educate me about this cuz am confused o
Am so so Suprised this is coming from Ayuba a muslim and a fuji musician He just earned my respect so are we saying he didnt play any away game no love child or children anywhere if so then he sure deserves an award....Oseeeee
Wahala dey
In the bible especially they old testament the men had many wifes including king david and his son solomon but in the new testament everyone had just one wife o, please correct me if am wrong. So all this while muslims dey form ni Allah is watching you muslims on cctv!
A colleague of mine who's also muslim told me same awhile back. Those who go on to marry 4, use a particular period when the war left many young men dead and so many women without husbands or suitors. I pray the Imams educate and enlighten them more, it will go a long way in reducing the number of children born with a 'proper' family structure.
yes he is quite right. the Quran says you can marry more than one wife if you can love them equally. being human we know this is not possible cz we women are different. everyone would have something the other wife is missing hence the replacement. this is not possible thats why you stick to one and love her unconditional. :)
Its not dificult to know a disciplind n God[allah] fearing man. He is not a false pretender. I duff my hat for u jor.
@Sakara dont let me bhee speaker. All the people you mentioned have love children, nicely covered up. Besides, Jagaban(Tinubu) is another story please. Remi is not his first wife. So shut up. Even christians are playing away matches these days more than muslims. As long as their is money, women would die there.
linda i ve met ayuba in d uk loads of times. He is an educated , respectful guy o. Am nt suprised he does nt believe in polygamy.....hw can u mary 4 wives and love them equally???there is no way u can satisfy them sexually.... Wen i worked as a doctor in a hosp in ibadan i met alot of patients with h.i.v and 99% of them are in polygamy .......marry one wife look after her give her good sex make her happy , be contented wit wat u hv dont discard yr wife cos she hs reached menopause , women can still hv sex and enjoy it even @ 70 and women shld look sexy 4 their hubbys, put food on d table on time and keep yr house tidy....linda wat do u tink???
looool even though u wanna get 2nd married, just try am for an Igbo Woman house, if she no go burn u with hot water, "she go first tell u na wetin una plan".
He said : "I have searched everywhere in the Holy Koran, I have not seen where it is written that a Muslim MUST marry more than one wife."
The issue of polygamy in islam isn't compulsory at all.
Quran 4 vs 142 - 'And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging. And if you amend [your affairs] and fear Allah - then indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful.'
Quran 4 verse 3 says "If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice."
The idea was so that widows and orphans would be well taken care of . Allah himself knows that MEN can never be fair, that's why there is a clause on that verse.
Only Allah knows best and may he forgive all our wrongdoings.
Salamualaykum
On the judgement day God go judge all ds bad people.
I have always said this! The Quran says a man can marry up to four wives IF he can love them equally. People just overlook this clause and act like it is their right to marry four wives. I personally think it's impossible to love four women equally thus invalidating the statement. It's just like when your mum says "If you have two heads, don't pass your exam" the IF there is very important.
True talk, the Quran has been twisted by our selfish greedy moslem men. The Quran says that you can marry up to four wives if you can love them equally! That is not possible, you and i know. You cant even love your children equally, not to talk of wives. The Quran has been greatly misquoted. If you argue with these men, they are quick to tell you in Yoruba, Me ni Olorun wi.(God says four)but they would never quote the clause. Total bullshit. Just an excuse to acquire women.
trust me fellow lib readers, i am muslim and this guy cudnt hav said it any better...in islam, marrying another wife after ur first is dependent on many things, and one of them does not include fulfilling selfish desires to keep n bed numerous women. for example as a married muslim man, u are permitted to marry another wife if she was widowed after her husband died serving his country or religion, that IF she wants(other reasons aswell), even at that if u cannot treat all wives equally or on d same level atleast, you are advised not to.
This is what d Quran said concerning this: "And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls then marry (other) women of your choice, 2 or 3, or 4; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then marry only one.
Thank you
Simply unbelivable hw pple ar so ignorant of sumtin yet feel they can stil comment. D key word in his statement is "MUST". A muslim can but nt must marry more than one. On the emphasis of loving them equally, evn ur kids u dnt love equally yet u stil have more than one. D key is 2 b just 2 them equally and nt show favouritism. Pple should learn to respect oda religions nd wat they teach evn if they dnt agree.
Jazakumllah kairan, for a well written piece. Allah has already made it clear in Q4 vs 142 that man can never love their wives equally, but to strive to maintain justice amongst them. I've always said it; polygamy is not bad, the way people practice it is. If you look at the lives of the sahabas, then you'll know that they try as much as possible to maintain justice amongst their wives. We shouldn't make Haram what Allah has made Halal upon us, at the same time, make Halal what he has made Haram upon us. If you fear u can't do justice, don't go near polygamy, but if your sexual urge is so much that one woman can't satisfy you as you wish (there are lots of cases like this) marry 2, 3, or 4 (like the Qur'an said) but fear Allah while dealing with them, because that is what Allah wants; Taqwa. Allah knows best.
Now I see why my fiancee can give anyfin just to make sure Ayuba plays for our wedding....behht why would the Quran allow polygamy with a clause when it is so clear,a man can't love two or more women equally?...
Anyways who are we to question?
God forgive us all
I'm a christian,took courses in islamic law. It is lawfully for a muslim(following the sunnah of the prophet) to marry up to 4wives only if he can love them equally(which is almost impossible). It isn't a must to marry more than one wife like Ayuba said.
A new found respect for the guy from me !
Enough blame on the men , how about the cheap sluts out there?
Why waste time criticizing people that have scriptural backing to their actions? treating wives equally is a vast discussion. Even children are not treated equally by their parents yet the average no of children we have these days is 3. Lots of men are against polygamy but openly practice infidelity and adultery in different forms.....yet, the society still celebrates them. Polygamy is not a MUST and the Qur'an remains the best guiding revelation.
Even d islamic prophet who married many 'wives' did not love his wives equally he had a favourite his 9yr old wife Aisha.
Linda, don't misquote him, he said there's no where in the Holy Quran that say a Muslim MUST(key word) marry a second wife, it's optional and there are conditions to be fulfilled. I'm a Muslim and I don't pray my husband ever marries a second wife, however the Quran permits it, with certain clauses attached to it. (To the best of my knowledge).
Are men to be blamed alone, wat of d woman who knows dat a man is already married and still does everything in other to trap d man. Is a woman not a woman's worst problem. Abeg its not d fault of d men, but dat of d women who choose to be d 2nd, 3rd, and 4th wives. Most women r just greedy wantin to ripe wer d did not sow.
The funniest part is that after marrying these women, they still check and cant control their libido. Why buy cow when milk is so cheap*rolling eyes*
i dnt know the Quran well. But I knw one thing, Quran will NEVER tell you to marry many wives whom you can not cater for well nor love them all equally.
In fact Islam adores the woman. In Saudi Arabia, their women dont do anything. The man carries her shopping bag and must meet her needs. In Saudi, they dont aquire women the way we do here. They marry one at a time. If it doesnt work out they divorce based on very strict reasons like adultery, and the woman has to wait for 3months to confirm that shes not pregnant, and shes allowed to go and marry someone else and the man too can remarry. They frown against babymama's etc, the way its done here. In Nigeria, Islam has mixed up with culture, period.
¶ am more than impressed with your comment.
Wow I had no idea abt dis at all! Really good to knw
lol Linda he knows he cannot use islam to justify wanting more wives, his wife no go agree, plus she has given him enough children, even more if he wants.
Because of †ђξ hardness of man's heart...
That some people have favourites among their children does №t make î† right and technically, is №t a valid argument...cos there ® so many parents that do №t have any favourites...
Av always loved this man and i'll continue to thou ur 1989 marriage date might be flawed..i know something something about him and i think he married her in the 90s.
The Quran like the bible talks in parables. Just like the bible said turn your other cheek to get slapped again and no one is doing it.
The Quran said marry up to four wives if you can treat each perfectly the same...THEN went on to say only the Lord your God can treat people the same...
duh...it means u cant do it and dont do it.
But dem men went to school before women and came home to teach them how they were allowd to marry 4... idiotic figures... marry 4... awon ode.
Its un-religious. PLANE!!!!!! always looking for everything to make it a patriarchial world
:)
What about 7 virgins. Where did get they get that from?
Really Ayuba??? I remember seeing you at my graduation in England 1994, and you wanted to marry Yinka!!! If her father had agreed to the union you would have married her then.
BLOG LORD ohhh 'false pretender' please ooo i don lafff
Azuka is my Friend. I am really happy for her that her husband thinks this way.
So true, good comment am a pratising muslim. My father married only my mother still his death@75 yrs.. Some women re so dirty,don't av enough packaging for their husbands.. Y d husbands will not look elsewhere? My father in law married 4wives,n my hubby's half sisters re doing well yet still want die for their father properties..Smh.. Some Muslims don't read Quran n understand,but I knw God will judge!
@Emi ni why are u so dumb? why use insultive word to make point? u shd be ashamed of urself, so what f they have love children? dd they walk d mother of d children down d aisle? a man dates u and u simply got pregnant for him when u knew quite well he's happily married just cause of ur greed, so we must kill d man cause of that? u r a buffon - I swear - what story do u v of them? am not a fan of these guys, but bring on their stories now - story teller, na story make u dey tell inside ur mushin olosa 1rm slap me i face u, while these guys r building mansions olosi alakisa
Thanks my brother n sister in Islam gud comments u have there. May Allah reward u all Amin. Let's always shed light to ourselves dat Islam is a religion,of peace.Salamualaykun.
Pls Linda we need more revelations like dis,so dat all dis twisted n money loving Imams n pastors wld stop deceiving der followers. All u false teachers remember there is Judgement after Death oh.
Ayuba u re one fine refined man....God bless u for this infor.
Linda, so many of ur readers are Muslims, no wonder Pastors are bashed here frequently and when Book haram does his mass suicidal killings, it hardly generates traffic. Now I see.....
thumbs up!
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Abeg remove ibb from dat list o
he is correct. it is nt a most 4 any muslim man to marry more da 1 wife. bt if u so wish, den u can go ahead.
Polygamy is optional in islam and there are rules to be abide strictly before venturing into it and even after it. So, fellow muslim let acquire knowledge. There is a book titled polygamy in islam 2nd edition by Abu Ameenah philips and jameela. This literature is very good. If you read and digest very well, you will think twice before taking the decision ƒor a second or more wives. Don't feel scared but you will be enlighten.
Ƒor the book which is free, my contact address is kunle.sule@yahoo.com and tag the subject LIB reader ƒor quick response.
Why do ppl do polygamy in ds modern world.
Thank you for the wisdom.im muslim And my dad has been married to my mum for over 30 years without no other woman,babaymama and kids from other women to the best of my knowledge but most of my friends that are christian have step mums and even my friend's dad who happen to be a pastor has 3 wives so what are we talking about.the reality of the matter is that during the days of our forefathers where men marry as many wives as they want divorce was not rampant and you hardly see women that were not married but now with one man one wife u see single ladies all over the street of lagos either doing runs,keptwoman or babymama even in their 40s and divorce cases mostly due to infidelity.in my own opinion men are promiscious naturally and i think that is the way God wants it.
Bismillahi brother,you are on point,the earlierpeople accept the harsh reality of life the better for all of us.with the ratio of men to women even if there is no religion people will still be people.
Ayuba is right that there is no place in the Quran that Allah ordained men to marry 4 wives at all cost except the verse that most people has already quoted that "marry one, two three, four with a clause of if u can be just to them equally" and Allah knows that we can never be just but islamic knowledge is more than just reading Quran only, there is an Haddith that elaborates more on the meaning of every verses in the Holy Quran just like the case of Prayer that God says u should bow down and pray to him but there wasn't a substantial explanation on how to do so except you read haddith for more explanation.
Back to the issue of Women, they are such people we should be treated with respect not like marrying them for our own selfish ways, Quran instructs believers that they should not treat women as a commodity which can be inherited and used as liked, that is why u find the whole chapter in the Quran elaborates more about Women whereas u can find such for Men.
There are so many conditions attached to marry more than one wife that has been mentioned by some people here. Everything about life btw husband and wife in islam is reversed nowadays whereby
- Man must go to market and do shopping
- Man has no right to collect money from Women unless she gives willinglly
- Man takes all the responsibilities of her patner not like jigolo way of men nowadays
- Man should marry another wife with the consent of her wife if there is condition arises
and so on
Thank you so much,that is why islam is a way of life,it encompasies all aspect of human existence and issue.whether we want to admit it or not we are all human and even if ur husband is married to only you that does not make him fair and just cos the probability that he is not seeing other women is slim not even with the number of single ladies all over the place.
It so easy to judge when u are not the subject and on things you dont agree on.learn to respect other peoples religion and belief system that is when whatever you say can make sense to somebody like me.though you are anonymous just like me but from what you type i know your IQ level.
i am a muslim by birth and by practice and yes the holy Quran states that you can marry more than 1 wife or up to 4 "IF" only you can love them and treat them equally.i however know that no living thing can achieve this.we donnot even love our kids equally but use our discretion to treat them equally.Ayuba,i am proud of you.
dont misunderstand wat he said o, he said its not a must, doesnt mean its not allowed, dont misunderstand him oo, by the way im a christian and not in support of polygamy
The main issue is that most men who marry more than one wife are selfish individuals with ego issues.They are indisciplined and cannot control themselves and thus use religion to cover up.
Whether you marry one million wives,there will always be other women out there that may attract you.So if you like,continue to acquire women .Na u sabi.When the wahala comes,n you go carry am.
Oniranu gbogbo.Even after the other wives,they will still be committing adultery up and down.
And to you losers with zero confidence level who choose to be second,third,tenth wives,I pity you all.
Bunch of rogues who only want to enjoy without working.If you really invest in your lives and make yourself worthy,you will never ever decide to play second fiddle to anybody for any reason.
To all the faithful men out there who still believe in being clean,loving and humane to their wives in this insane world of ours,Thumbs up!
Seriously??? A 9 yr old taken as wife by a prophet? & u wonder Y we av paedophiles everywhere?
SMH
Whao! I duff my heart for this guy. He is a real dude. Ayuba, any man who respects his wife in the full glare of the whole world, deserves every woman's respect. you have earned mine. You are a real man. Responsible, respectable, and without inferiority complex.
P.S: anyone married to more than one wife has inferiority complex.
Keks.....there is a reason people marry off their young children in islam
a young girl who starts menstruating is married off so if she experiences sex it will be legal
please note she was married to the prophet at 9 but she played with the other children and attended school---he didnt have sexual relations with her till she was 18
i believe this as much as i believe moses saw a burning bush
do refrain from insulting my beliefs
i respect other religions-kindly respect mine
One wife for Ayuba? Yes, but with how many girlfriends. Only Allah knows what is not seen or heard by human being. Let Ayuba tell us if he has never play away(or have girlfriends). Who is better,- a man that has four wifes and we all know or a man that has one wife at home but many girlfriends- girlfriends that keep quite or hide themselve because of money
Its quite unfortunate how people make comments here. people are commending Ayuba about what he said but he (Ayuba) never came up with evidences to substantiate what he said. If you are a learned muslim, you will understand what am saying.
What is his level of islamic knowlegde. You can't just pick the glorious quran, read few lines and just draw up conclusion.
Is it not the same Ayuba that parades girls that are almost nude in his videos, saying all manner of things all in the name of entertainment. perhaps he hasn't read the quran to the point where Allah has condemned such act (indecency).
All these said, Linda i wll advice that religious issues should be left for the scholar to educate us and not just anybody saying the way he felt about some things.
Ayuba is my muslim brother and appreciate that but as the religion has taught us, we should be mindful of our speech.
he has one wife but has children from anoda woman..taaaa!!!..make e let us hear one jo
1 John 5:11-13 KJV
And this is the record, that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He that hath the Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life.
These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.
@ibiluv...lol...i love the way you presented your last 3lines...
..BUT I DONT AGREE WITH MARRYING OFF A YOUNG CHILD OF 9YRS TO AN ADULT. EVEN A 30YR OLD MAKES WRONG RELATIONSHIP CHOICES.
CHILD MARRIAGE OR 'BEHTHROTING' IS DAMN WRONG COS THE GIRL IS OFTEN A VICTIM IN MARRIAGE WITHOUT GIVEN A CHOICE AS TO WHAT SHE WANTS FOR HERSELF RATHER THAN FORCING HER ON AN ADULT.
NO!!! I DO NOT AGREE WITH ANY CULTURE, RELIGION OR SOCEITY THAT PRACTICES OR ACCEPTS CHILD-MARRIAGE FOR THE MAIN FACT THAT ITS NOT RIGHT WHICH MEANS - WRONG...
PUT YOURSELF IN THOSE SHOES
#nuffsaid
*out to lunch*
@willadebo
But Ayuba has plenty baby mamas before marrying Azuka and he has plenty girlfriends now> so whats the Hish?
@Anonymous May28 10:33AM...
SORRY OHHH, BUT WHAT HAS YOUR BIBLE VERSE GOT TO DO WITH THE POST?
@Anonymous May28, 10:02AM...
NEXT TIME YOU SEE A POST LIKE THIS, PLEASE BE SMART ENOUGH TO STAY AWAY FROM IT AND KEEP YOUR MOUTH, BRAIN & EYES SHUT AS ITS OBVIOUS YOU LACK THE INTELLECT TO COMMENT.
WE HAVE THE ABILITY TO DISCERN BETWEEN GOOD AND EVIL, RIGHT AND WRONG. IF YOU DONOT KNOW THAT POLYGAMY OF ANY KIND COULD SPELL DOOM FOR A FAMILY, THEN AM SURE YOU'LL EXPECT A LION AND DEER TO BE FRIENDS IN THE WILD
PLEASE, DONT COME HERE TO DISPLAY YOUR IGNORANCE OF COMMON SENSE. IF YOU DONT HAVE A FUNCTIONING BRAIN, PLS KINDLY ORDER FROM E-BAY OR MAYBE A USED ONE AT IDUMOTA
*shaking my head at the your shamefully displayed undilluted stupidity*
@willadebo
I've always shared same opinion as Ayuba that Allah admonished us to have just one wife cos the condition he gave for having more than one is quite unattainable, though it sounds simple: Treat your wives equally. In a later verse of the same Chapter Allah said it isn't even possible to treat our children equally let alone our wives. Any reasonable person can see what that implies....Stick to one.
As to person who claimed Ayuba has or might have girlfriends, speak, only if you have proof else be quiet because Allah warns against flasehood as their abode (those bear false witness) shall be the eventual fire.
mytealscarf, you have said it all....May Allah increase you in Knowledge
Linda, clearly even Alhaji Adewale Ayuba does not know/understand the Kuran. please read 'The Quran Sura 4:3.
Can believe that...My Dads family are serious muslims but all married one wife..tho few were naughty but just one wife..as per funke's wedding..my mom a christian married my Dad..had both faith weddings..and she did Mecca..Mom eventually went back to being a Christian..I never took her serious as a muslim cmon we all ate bacon...my siblings all attended Christian schools..well those were the best schools and we all practising Christians!!
The Qur'an says you may/can marry a maximum of 4 wives only if you can TREAT them equally, not love them equally as some ppl have been saying. So its not mandatory for every muslim to get more than 1, but if one can afford it, and can treat them equally, why not?
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