From a female LIB reader
I have been seeing this guy for 9 months and in those 9 months, most of the time we had sex, it was unprotected. In fact I was the one who always insisted that he used protection to avoid any issues. He always claimed to get carried away. I didn’t want to be too pushy on the condom matter because we are both in our 30s and we were looking at something serious. I once teased him saying “what if I got pregnant” and his reply was that there was no better time than now. I was still being careful and tried to take contraceptives to avoid issues.
During the relationship though I noticed that we weren’t flowing much in terms of how we relate to each other…he was so quiet and I being a rather quiet person too, took to going online to find questions to ask a new boyfriend in order to get to know him better. I observed however that he was very open and talkative with other people. I also observed that we hardly ever talked but he would ping and ping.
I mentioned this to our mutual friend through whom I met him and she said it was probably because we were still getting to know each other (after 9 months). We both also agreed that the fact that we live in different towns may also be a reason for our not being close. He lives in Benin while I live in Lagos
For me, it was time to draw the relationship to a close but he had a surgery which I was unaware of at first and this mutual friend of ours called me to say that I should visit him, adding that I should remember he had no steady girlfriend. I did, thinking that we could work things out, but in my opinion, we still didn’t bond, even though I was surprised that he could gather strength to make love to me while I was nursing him ,lol. I attributed our not bonding as I would have liked, to the fact that he was ill and had just been discharged from hospital.
I went back to base but missed my period after 3 weeks. I called him to inform him but he refused to get in touch till after 4 days, only for him to tell me that there were issues
According to him, he had unprotected sex with his ex who he dated for 4 years, recently and she is also pregnant. Now he wants her to keep her pregnancy and asked me to get rid of mine, so depressing!
What would you do if it were you?
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Lol....abuse continue
ghen ghennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. this mordern girls never learn.
You are such a fool! What if you caught HIV???? Common sence is not common.
You are such a fool! What if you caught HIV? Common sense is not common!
Abort the child and move on.
Its that simple.
But if you are independent and you feel you can take care of your child, pls do. And forget the "aboki nama"
You are such a fool! What if you caught HIV? Common sense is not common!
Then still suggested to carry it.....
You are such a fool! What if you caught HIV? Common sense is not common!
You are such a fool! What if you caught HIV? Common sense is not common!
Kip d baby, u r not getting any younger @ 30+
He has been seeing his supposed ex gf they never broke up..u were just a side chick...have no advice for u kindly advice urslf
Unless you are content with being a single mother, get rid of it quickly. And why TF did you not take 'em Morning after pills when you had unprotected sex? Thought you said you were in your 30s?
Wasn't there wen u were doing it witout ! Which kain yeye love be dat? Gurl u are OYO!
Get rid of it...Thank your God he came out to you and told u the truth before it's too late.
Wow, terribly depressing. I don't think he ever loved you and she was never his ex. You were probably a side chick, sorry to say. Since you live in different towns, you didn't see often and he was probably dating the other lady. Keep the child please. I wish u well.
T!007
Thanks Linda,
Life is all about wisdom, if you have some thing tangible doing please keep the pregnancy on your own. But if you have not then just confide in some one you know he/her that can help you. please do not get rip of it.
Thanks
kechi sunday
Hahahahahaha! Story for the gods. It's well. I don't know what to say to u madam
sounds like a true story. don't abort the poor child. if he doesn't want the baby, then you take care of him/her. simple biology teaches that pregnancy follows sex atleast under normal circumstances, so you knew what could happen, so bear it. what ever you decide to do, don't you dare murder that poor child. ogwulam nonu!
Dis is a serious matter ooooo, I wl advice u gt rid of it since is jst weeks old n 2 avoid embarrassment 4rm him 2 u n ur family. God is ur strength
my dear flush that blood and move on with ur life....better days awaits u.no time
Don't get rid of your baby dear, it doensn't matter if the man is willing to support it or not, just keep your child and take care of your baby. Do not pay attention to him and if possible just go on with your life. It wont be easy to deal with my dear. It wont be easy at all i tell you, but that child doesn't deserve to suffer because of the mistakes. It was a mistake, treat it as a mistake and learn you lesson from this, there are good guys out there that would accept you and your child, this will even help you to sieve out the good ones more so don't worry about keeping the child and losing your chances of marriage...www.askralph.blogspot.com contact me there if you need more help
Who send you at first?
Dnt abort a baby pls (dnt kill). Keep it so next time you can use your head and not your head. Thanks alot...
First it can't and will never be me.You are so confused and even with all your research you still don't know what you want!!!In this age you are still having unprotected sex?smh...
You guys dint bond in the relationship abi?but you were sexually bonded...Its in your hands whether you wanna damage yourself more than you have already or not!!!
For the last question of " for the guys"
It's really hard for the men to stay awake not only because of the energy wasted, but because during orgasm the same chemical that is responsible for inducing sleep is released by your system which gives you that instant need to doze off...it really isn't the guys fault but atimes some put in extra effort to stay awake. either ways both parties should be considerate, guys at least pull her close into ur arms before falling asleep and attempt to talk a little so she knows you tried and ladies please do try and understand that it’s not an act of selfishness it’s actually just a natural occurrence. Also have your man breathe more during sex so as to allow oxygen; the lack of oxygen to the system contributes to this as there is need for rest and recovery after he has been starved of air. Read my blog and email me or bbm me for more tips in life....www.askralph.blogspot.com
Get rid of the pregnancy. Ýou always knew deep down within you it was just a thing, it was doomed to fail.
Na wa o! The truth is the guy doesnt love you from day one! For him to impreg his ex means he's still very much in love with her. Dear anonymous, kindly terminate d preg and move on with your life.
You're still asking what you will do? The hand writing has been on the wall but u refused to see it. Biko dust urself and waka comot.
Catch am mugu awana,lagos baby awana,chop am,chop am,awana,she nor get sense ohhh #couldnt help but sing# someone u barely knw unprotected sex? Na wah na yansh u take dey reason,u better kep dat innocent baby ohhhh
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U should have read d hand writing on d wall lady. He wasn't bonding cos he already got a bond elsewhere. He enjoyed sex with u and that was it. Whatever he said abt u getting preggers earlier was just a gimmick. Sorry , u are on ur own. If u can, keep d pregnancy but know that he's heart belongs somewhere else. U shouldn't have allowed him use u like that...for sex only (FSO). I feel for u though. Good luck on whatever u decide.
At 30 u still have this kinda problems,well I will pass.
he is not the boss of you if you think you can raise a child on your own fine but still remember that as much as he is a douche you both had parts to play in the issues so take responsibility and may the lord help you
This is unbelievable. I have no advice for you, I'm still shocked at the whole drama.
STORY 4 DA GOD'S
I am Coonett
Sorry about your predicament...when you noticed you two were not bonding, you ought to have stopped having sex with him...sex blinds a lot of truths...a lot of marriage crumble due to 'we don't connect'... yet you went on to satisfy his needs...when u are not the first person or among the first 5 pple he tells things...then my dear dust your clothes and walk away...he had an operation and you heard from a 'mutual friend'!!! U still had sex with him...it isn't appropriate. You have a job in Benin...I will not advice u to abort the pregnancy it is against my belief. Move on with your life and learn that sex will NEVER get u a real man.
Let me sleep and wake~up b4 i can say anything. Seriously, u got what u want. So why complaining now?
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serves u right. keep having unprotected sex up and down oooo..Welldone. U got what u well deserveed.
chineke nna kpogi.. cheii there is God oooo
O.M.G!!! the guy is so callous....
Hmmmm abeg me I no fit put mouth for this kind matter . CHI.
Hmmmm
Story for d gods
Get rid of it fast buh girls sef,a guy u don't have bond with am sure u don't even know him very well,u were having unprotected see with him.are u a learner.well old fire wood dey say lights faster.jero
long story cutting it short u ar d one @ first by alwly opening ur legs for him witout protection,do u wnt us to advise u to terminate an innocent child,hell no u wount got such advise,my dear sista keep d baby dat is ur reward for not keeping ursef.Goldensarah9@yahoo.com
Nothing. There is nothing you can do about it. Since there is no agreement between the two of you as regards that. Get rid of it or keep it if you need it. But you know what, if i were you, i will keep it since im old enough to have a child.
My dear, u hav just heard the best from him. Dis could be so painful but he just told you his truth. For me, if u gat d financial and physical strength it takes to keep the child, I do advice you keep it since abortion is a sin. But if the other way round, dear, u can as well do what is best for you bcos nursing and raising a child up by one self is not something that I think it's easy. Also consider if any action you take might be favourable to ur family n yourself. Like u said that you are 30s now, so note that you are not still getting younger. Wish you the best of luck.
you are a complete dummy
To be honest and sincere, since I started read LIB READERS problems I have come across any one with good moral lessons excpt sex and pregnancy and how adult stoop low and later seek 4 advice. Nawa o. *****QUEENMAYA*****
To be honest and sincere, since I started read LIB READERS problems I have come across any one with good moral lessons excpt sex and pregnancy and how adult stoop low and later seek 4 advice. Nawa o. *****QUEENMAYA*****
To be honest and sincere, since I started read LIB READERS problems I have come across any one with good moral lessons excpt sex and pregnancy and how adult stoop low and later seek 4 advice. Nawa o. *****QUEENMAYA*****
Wahala dey o. What do u want?
shoot him n shoot his dead body fifty more times...Linda better post this comment ooo!
infact eh! just forget the he goat, cos a lover he was irresponsible , that means as a father he would be worse than irresponsible.
What do people actually have with their EX??? So Pathetic! People always going back to their vomit. But were you thinking you could tie him down with pregnancy? at what age
WE NEED STORIES WITH MORAL LESSONS NOT PREGNANCY , SEX, AND REGRETS... AND SHE'S 30PLUS AND AM WONDERING WHAT AM LEARNING HERE. #***QUEENMAYA*****
WE NEED STORIES WITH MORAL LESSONS NOT PREGNANCY , SEX, AND REGRETS... AND SHE'S 30PLUS AND AM WONDERING WHAT AM LEARNING HERE. #***QUEENMAYA*****
Wow!!! This is such an unfortunate situation that you are in, hun. But I think it's all up to you. He might be lying about his ex and even if he isn't, for him to have slept with her while you guys were seeing each other it just means he doesn't appreciate you enough. What ever decision you have to make, make it because you know that it is better for you, not him or your relationship with him. Don't let him tell you what to do. You're old enough to decide if you want the child or not.
I know I might not understand your situation fully but this is what I feel you should do. The decision is in your hands and your hands only.
That means he still has sth to do with his ex, he didn't love u tho, but y did you loose guard this tym?
is that a question or what? you dont bond and you are asking to keep pregnancy. please do the needful and terminate it.
Story of life...
Keep the pregnancy..The mistake has already be done, keeping in mind that you are over 30 years. Getting rid of the baby shouldnt be an option. God will direct you!
Give him rat poison
As a lover of Jesus, i'll plead with you not to abort but to keep the child and seek Gods guidance and protection during this difficult time. God bless and guide your path.
only JESUS saves!
Story of life...
Sorry, poster. If u can raise ur kid on ur own pls do. Do not abort.
I think you need to ask Google because i dont think i have an answer for you, you are having unprotected xes with someone you're not sure of? pissed.
This is what i call 'story that touches the heart'. He want you to get ride of yo' pregnancy and then his ex keeps hers' chio some men are wicked abegi. Linda iffu like dnt post my comment.
Iam wizkel
Hi, i understand how heartbroken you must feel right now but i think you should just relax and let him get his head straight. He messed up getting involved with his ex but there are still soo many questions i will love to ask you. amean how can you date him for 9months and you guys don't have a bond... did you guys play games whatsoever or was he only interested in sex? the little times you guys talk, what do you talk about? All these and soo many other things i need to know. because left to me, he was been very secretive and all.. amean he had surgery without telling you..WOW! that's just crazy! Please i will love you to answer these questions. Thanks!
God help us women, is best you get to know a guy first very well before sex expect you want fling then have sex early.is best you don't keep the blood bcos is still blood.God forgive me for saying it, but you were just a fling to him.
Wait!!! So he leaves in Benin nd U in lag yet u have sex often? Gal pls learn hw 2 shut ur legs nd report ur case 2 Jesus cos He s d 1 dt rily cares!!! #Sexisasin!Msteeeew
Its sad that as ladies we see the signs but keep pushing for a relationship to work cos we think time will pass by. My advice you have learnt your lesson. What should you do? Keep your baby and move on with your life. Will it be easy no ma but in the long run you will be happy with your decision. Move closer to God and trust him. I pray God will strengthen you.
You will keep the pregnancy and be a single mum because you it coming but still fell a victim.
Oh! He prefered his ex to u? Well that was obvious enough when u said u guys don't talk and all..... What shld u do? Hmmm mi o mo o! *say no to unprotected sex!!!
The truth is that most of these stories are fake becos most of the questions can be stupid and can be answered by themselves..see this one ..wat will be the answer..smmmmmh u v been dumped bitch! move on bitch! SIDE CHICK!
Its sad that as ladies we see the signs but keep pushing for a relationship to work cos we think time will pass by. My advice you have learnt your lesson. What should you do? Keep your baby and move on with your life. Will it be easy no ma but in the long run you will be happy with your decision. Move closer to God and trust him. I pray God will strengthen you.
It's a pity you have to find yourself in this mess. My advise is since you are in your 30s,its not wise to consider abortion you have a job,you can take care of yourself and your baby. Take God he is not a random man.Your child has a father who is not man enough to accept his responsibilities.
kai me i dont sha know what to say
See dat ur foolish mouth ur saying "ABORT".ur so STUPID
This is pathetic, from inception am very sure u know d consequence, pls keep d innocent child
I have been in the same situation some years ago.My Dear no matter WHAT DONOT ABORT THE BABY.For now you wont understand.but years later I am so thankful to God I have my baby and I work for an international organisation.Donot fight with this guy,the only thing u can do is to let him know u will not abort and you both will share responsibility of bringing this child to the world to the world.Next thing is get on your knees keep praying and be patient God will grant you a husband it may even be the same person,Yes God ways are not are ways.Keep trusting him
am sorry but you brought dis upon yourself,d sex blinded ur reasoning.
I know it's hard, but the truth is, take it out, and move on. You don't need that kinda man. Think about it, why shld the ex leave hers? And u take out yours? You really want to be happy? Take it out pls or if u can take care if the baby, leave it. But wouldn't you save the unborn child the emotional trauma? His / her father is irresponsible.
I will not carry d baby for u. U should meet a councilor on dis issue b4 time go.....Topzy
Keep the child, they r blessings.
Its Sad, but nobody can make that decision for you.
He has decided you should get rid ogf the pregnancy, unfortunately its not his place to make that decision, you make the decision to keep or lose the child, HOWEVER, just know that the child is fatherless both ways.
Pls my dear keep the innocent child pls he/she might be ur savour tomorrow. Pray for a better days tocome u can still get marriage even with the child born. Ur own husband will not even mind if u have a child or not pls.
Gather the courage, dont abort it please. why dont you tell your friend go to his family and make them aware. demand to meet that ex which his family and tell them your pregnant too. even if he does not accept you at least he know and his family are aware. please dont abort it. God will direct you. they guy is a fool if you find out well u will no he has been seeing the ex which is not ex. How come he now prefer ex over u, so think. make sure u dont abort, you wont regret when u see your child all grown.
Pls abort the unwanted bastard. Raising a child alone is terrible. Abortion no be new thing abeg!
Hi, I understand what you are going through and i don't think you should flush/ABORT it(baby). That baby is a father of generations to come. People don't seem to understand that flushing a baby doesn't make you any better than murderer.The deed has been done so c'mon deal with it no time to waste. This baby is you blood...people can say what they like to say but a through family will stick by you if you decide to keep the baby. They might be mad at first but they will get over it mehn.Those telling you to flush it now will be the same ones to stab you later. God will guide and protect you,He that gave you this child will fare for it. Besides you are not too young to get pregnant.millions are looking for what you you have soo don't loose it just because to your present situation. Your baby darln is for keeps. You don't wanna do something that will hunt you later in future or cause you to start explaining to your husband that will be worse (trust me).But! You need to be smart madam. Apply God's wisdom in everything that you do. Dating a guy for 2years doesn't entitle him to sex. You don't owe them sex because you guys are dating (NO). You guys can kiss and do all the orals but sex shouldn't be the music in your relationship. When a man loves you genuinely, you won't be the one asking him to wait he will willingly wait darln. Give yourself some dignity and close your legs please. God will be with you.
Queen maya. Ure beginning to annoy me. All ur comments on LIB are always stupid. What do u understand by the term "moral lesson?". Is reading pples' mistakes and avoiding/learning from them, not moral lessons enuf? And who says u MUST read them anyway??? #wondering. #shrugs
Wallahi you've said it all
my dear you were a never his girlfriend but a sex partner. you should have listened to your instincts it never lies. if you can deliver the baby then give it to a childless couple or motherless babies home or give it to your mother to look after because i am not of you aborting the baby. thanks and may God help you make the wisest decision it is well.
Your writing is disgusting. Pls try to tush a bit. aba!
You no well oooh...see your mouth like abort. Mtchewwww
I know it's hard, but the truth is, take it out, and move on. You don't need that kinda man. Think about it, why shld the ex leave hers? And u take out yours? You really want to be happy? Take it out pls or if u can take care if the baby, leave it. But wouldn't you save the unborn child the emotional trauma? His / her father is irresponsible.
You adviced her to get rid of it.And on the next sentence you are mentioning God. What is wrong with Nigerians. That is why churches are everywhere but only few actually know God.
Benin boys? U never see anything
Plsss do not abort d pregnancy....yes as it is now u feel hurt bt d trut is @ 30 u dnt v any rison 2 abort d child 4get d fool nd move on wit ur life....God'l c u tru
Fuck off!!
The kine stories these female folks come up with on a steady tho.
Fvck dat pussy nigga, keep ur baby dearie...if u try abort am u go die.....Venigar say so
My dear keep d pregnancy n don't try removing it. D baby u r caring nw might be a blessing to u someday
My dear leave d pregnancy n don't try removing it. The baby u r caring nw might b a blessing to u someday
Everyday we hear new things on Dear LIB,Just wonna read comments
sorry... your decision, I find it weird when people come on here and ask this nonsense questions, did you ask us if to sleep with him protected or unprotected. mtchew
u shd have been sure of ur stand in the rltnship before allowing ursef get pregnant, u werent even scared of stds.leave the pregnancy if u can take kia of the baby
which kain mutual friend set you up for failure like this?? the mutual friend didnt know he was playing wiv u??? hian!
The tory too long ohh...simple, keep the baby and move on...am not a supporter of abortion...you might eventually love the child...DON'T ABORT!!!!! *SCREAMING
u jst hav 2 kip d baby 1day he wil surely cum luking 4 d baby..
Ironically you have a baby's pic as profile pic. Imagine if he/she was aborted. If you can't encourage someone to keep a pregnancy don't encourage them to abort.
Its easy to judge her especially when ur not d one experiencing this shit. Ladies pls postinor is just #250 use it and save urself from shits like this. And girl ur 30yrs, ur chances of giving birth is reducing, fuck peoples opinion and keep ur baby, move on with ur life. It will not b easy but Gods grace is always sufficient for u. Sometimes when a woman loves its difficult to use her brain. Her senses comes back when love goes sour...
Y is she stupid? 4 making a valid point?.all these hypocrites pls tk seat
How can u ask me what to do? When u were enjoying yourselves (so to say), was i there or did you consult me? If you are pregnant, who cares? You decided to have sex without being married, so suit yourself!
Please don't abort the child. The child is not to be blamed for the error. Keep the child and go on with life. You could find the right guy who would love you with the child
U use "get rid of it".... and ThankGod in a sentence.
You literally saying ThankGod for murdering a living soul
my dear, In the first place i will blame you, for being to far from your relationship and having sex to someone far from you
well the decision remain on the table treat it.but remember that the this guy is far from you
@Ur age you still never know direction wey u dey go u be mumu for real y im no kuku marry u as una both be 30s u see those yeye chinko tablets wey u dey use go damage your womb when u come ready u go come dey find pikin up and down yeye fowl wey no greee lay eggs u beha tell him to marry u now or you go away to wea dem go love you
no let im prik ova scartter ur head o as u don over 30 wetin u still dey find even 15yrs old gal dey from window run go husband house
yeye act fast and smart forget about how long or deeper that thing gets inside you:make u no come dey sound like pussy cat here
na man dey advice you so oo make your borrow yourself some senses and comot dat dirty human goat wey u for for head so ur head fit correct
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Wow...God help you
That guy pretended to be in love with you.There is a possibility dat there is no EX as he claimed.However, I recommend you keep the pregnancy and move - on
No X is pregnant for him. Meanwhile, keep the baby
He will come around and if he doesn't. Handle it. U will be happy afterwards.
You'll never know if this is the only child you'll be allowed to have.
You sinned and not the child so the child shouldn't bear the punishment for a in you committed.
You're working, you're in your 30s. Keep this baby, you'll never know what tomorrow might bring.
I beg you to keep this baby, please and please.
I can even send Lindodo my number so I can volunteer to help take care of this child when you birth
When we emphasize on celibacy they say we are too religious. If u chose chastity u wouldn't be in this mess. It will be double sin to abort the baby so don't. Just move on....God is ur strength
To be candid with you, you r not faithful to yourself let alone to your creator. I will advice you to confess your sins to your lovely boyfriend whom by one way or the other has been there for you despite d normal disputes in a relationship of which you cannot deny. So as for u to clear your conscience. Also, if he accept you back(after u have decided wit d other guy for d pregnancy termination) fine, if no fine, you can always learn from your greedy mistake and turn a new leaf to start up a new life again. Good Luck na wa for this nowadays ladies!!!!!
Madam. So embarrassment is greater than abortion. If you are the one in dt picture then I'm sorry for the fate of our younger generation cos of advice they receive from ppl like u.
hw can u be havin unprotected sex to someone who has not paid ur bride price or promised to marry u? when will these girls learn to be wise? meanwhile i will also advise that you go for HIV test since ur man cant stick to 1 woman. my opinion.
Ask God for Help...... This is the only thing i will say.
To be candid with you, you r not faithful to yourself let alone to your creator. I will advice you to confess your sins to your lovely boyfriend whom by one way or the other has been there for you despite d normal disputes in a relationship of which you cannot deny. So as for u to clear your conscience. Also, if he accept you back(after u have decided wit d other guy for d pregnancy termination) fine, if no fine, you can always learn from your greedy mistake and turn a new leaf to start up a new life again. Good Luck na wa for this nowadays ladies!!!!!
I just laugh at people saying 'keep the baby, keep the baby' it's easier said than done. Are you the ones that will comfort her when the pregnancy sickness kicks in, especially in the middle of the night when the real pregnancy pain and troubles start. will you always accompany her to the hospital for check up, will you pay her bills at the hospital bearing in mind that she will not be able to work soon. Also note the this is the first pregnancy and it's usually not a good experience for most mothers. Will you buy her pampers, baby wipes, clothes and so many other baby needs? If the answer is yes, then ask her to keep the baby. Training a child is no joke except you want your child to be a joke. This matter really touches my heart but as hard as it may sound my dear, flush the blood and move on. Except though you have more than enough money to take care of the baby and even at that, children needs more than money to live a fulfilling life.
Pls kip d child..at age 30, u aint a kid
hmmm very depressing indeed ..teedeemails@gmail.com
Wow wow wow!! My dear u fucked up... Cnt u control urself.. Besides u know he doesn't like using protection.. Force him to... Or u stop having sex.. Its for married people.. Now verry son U'lld b a single mother... Jus keep d baby.. And learn ur lessons.. Ur matured enuff.. #iam Kendiee
my advise 4 u my daer is dat things like dis do happen. so u just need 2 move on, if u av d ability 2 take care of the baby as u said, u in ur 30s u can keep d child. bt knw sumtin d guy will neva luv u cus is heart is with someone else.
Exactly. It's a pity girls don't learn. Don't be surprise d lady he referred to as an x is legally married to him n right there in his house all d while. U'r just a side chick. Na our way!
your wound would be healed with time
you may or not get rid of it.
people are easy to condemn others until u find urself in the same mess. think it true and take the decision u feel best. for me, if u have the capability to keep the baby plz do bcz u may never have the chance again in life. just knw ur being remembered in my prayers.... life its not easy especially for a lady getting to thirty without a steady relationship
Really, really, really, sad. My dear just move on, God will see you through.
Please keep the Child
It pains to see that u guys believe d other lady was an x truly. No x anywhere. D guy is a married man who only used her as a side chick, he never loved her but only wanted sex, d reason they didn't bond. Na today?
Sorry to say oo, But you are a complete MUMU, imagine, you didnt eevn find out if both of you where compatible before you started to boink him, see your self, you where just a booty call, a 9 month booty call, just be prepared to be a single mama, dont kill the child ooo, you will be murdering a human being, we should all learn to live with the choices we make. you are old enough to know about consequences of your actions. the actions of you "assumed" boyfriend shows that he wasnt even into you, he wasnt talking to you, he didnt even tell his friends about you, dooohhhhhh, it obvious, cout your losses and move jare. Linda post my comment ooooo
what!!! is he a bastard...even tho i knw u made some mistakes but still if d oda lady was good enough to be married then u should be too. but den d guy is stupid that was Gods way of sending him away from u. keep d child no matter what. Evry1 will pay for their sins 1 day.. on his wedding day he might just drop dead after all. God will give u strength to carry on.
Had similar experience but not dump enough to get preggy. The guy asked me out and later when i accepted he started acting strange. we had sex after i visited and that was the end. he stopped calling even the marriage talks stopped. felt bad but thanked God he broke up coz omo the prick too small wahalahi...
Some girls sha...D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲ are S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ wise dat D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲ allow themselves 2 be used as sex tools... I̶̲̥̅̊ bet when she met a more serious, she pushed him away....its obvious U̶̲̥̅̊ were enjoying †ђξ sex tho...all nine months yu guys met..yu had sex most of †ђξ tym....dearie...carry ur cross...yu didn't seek 4 help wen you were riding †ђξ nigga .
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sex, orgasms, horny, pregnancy, abortion, show off, intimidation, that's all your blog is about, nothing educating or promiscuous about your articles, NOTHING!!!!
SHAME.
Are you sure all you "caught" was a pregnancy?
SMDH!
I dey tellllllllll u *in lynxxx voice*....yimu! he's alwz Bn with d supposed "ex"...
Pls abort n move on!
YOU ARE JUST A SEX PARTNER.
please don't kill the baby. my stage name is Emilo
Pleeeeeaaaassssssseeeeeee keep the baby, no matter what the guy says. If you abort it you will regret it in future because you are not getting any younger.
u ar crazy for leaving him make love without protection. i date my guy for a year plus now but cant never allow him to make love with me without protection except we ar married even whn he threaten to end relationship i ask him to go ahead but we are still together so my sister carry ur cross! if you have alot of responsibility, u hav to be wise.
points
1. Keep the pregnancy ...do not get rid of a baby u brought into the world due to your carelessness
2. by now you should have dumped his sorry a$$...pay no mind to him
3. Did you REALLY see your relationship going anywhere except down the drain. u were fulfilling his needs everytime..and even agreed to unprotected sex ..listening to his lame excuse.
4. Do not Abort that innocent child...Wake up and smell your roses...You are pregnant...enjoy the process...see this as a blessing.
call wanawana....stupid guy, may his sister be impregnated like that...
Don't abort it my dear. You don't know what that child will turn out to be in future. Obama's mother had Obama and single handedly brought him up and now he's the president of USA. Pls keep the baby and you would be glad you did.
Keep the baby my sis to cut the chain of mistakes.
My sis pls keep the baby,so you can cut short the chains of mistakes & regrets that awaits you.
As in human can be so wicked.. the sin tht man do lives with them.. u guys should stop advising her to terminate the preg pls.. my dear am an edo gal, and I understand ur predicament... I wil tel u my little story.. am a happiest person on earth today, u know why, cos God blessed me a wonderful son.. I got preg befor getting married.. I kept my baby not Becos I wanted or knew I would end up with the dad.. keeping my baby was my personal decision btw I and God... it wasn't easy at first! Thou the dad didn't get anoda gal preg anoda.. but am from this responsible christian home, I knew the would and my family would frown at me but at tht point, I didn't care, I was 26, my parent were cross but not for to long, the truth is if u ain't feeding, fucking or financing me, ur opinion doesn't count in my life.. tht my kind of person.. overtym, wen the baby came, things fell into place. God saw my hrt and decided to turn my story for Good, for shame he gave me double glory.. yes it might cos u few thousand to get rid of tht precious gift but a life tym punishment to contend with. Our sins can be forgiven but punished.. I won't consider the guy or his other gal here, cos I want u to make the decision btw ur self and God.. Jeszzzzz my baby just poured the whole of his milk and danced in it.. bye and good luck.
You have to take every insult thrown at you on this post...you deserve it;for not having a protected sex with him. I have done this once only because we both have our results.
Bottom line is, dont be with a man you know does not want you especially when you know sex is the only bond you have....period
You are old enough to take care of yur child,get him involved but dont be with him ....if not;go to a professional, licensed doc and get rid of the pregnancy.
Goodluck and always listen to your self...#conscience #empoweryourself and get tested no condom dont get naked.
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My dear, i really do not mean to be insultive, but i guess it was the LOVE feeling that made you act that way towards him, we all get that stupid once in a while in our relationships and it is only a FOOL that will go back to her vomit.
So, the damage has been done, my dear, i am a christian and i will say do not remove it. like you said you are above 30 and that means that you are well capable financially to take care of this baby, you really do not need a man at all (except the emotional need).
Face your fears, and handle your mess..
#SHIKENA!!!!!
For starters I think the guy is a lying bastard. Nobody is pregnant anywhere, him be baby factory? He just needs to get rid of u and the baby with that story, u Shld have seen it coming. Finally, 30's, girlfriend ur baby making age is running out. Take care of ur child if u have the resource.
LMAFAO at the first comment "call chaz B" can't stop laughing
God bless u for asking this question.. Mutual friend who also knew about the surgery before u???
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@toronto u should shut your big mouth and stop calling that baby unwanted bastard. Oponu.
Lmao @ call Chaz B....
What is this one saying? Did u read the story at all?
There is no ex anywhere. He wants to scare you to aborting. Tell him to tell his girlfriend to abort hers that you are keeping urs. Ruuubbbbiiiisssshhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!
She want's advice not criticism, keep the baby, adjust and move on anything you get in life is useful some how good or bad...
O girl you too mumu. He is in love with the other girl.
Biko flush d blood, anoda wud come. I didn't read ur story cos it was too long, but no reason to bring a baby whose father prefers to be with anoda into d world. Dats too much for a child to handle. Spare d embryo biko.
Seems like u out to pick on everyone who gives an honest advice, why not come up with A"GOD FEARING ADVICE " rather than complicate issues
things we do for love!
The responses I've been reading have been truly eye-opening. When abortion is brought up as a topic, most commenters would be the first to condemn people that do it and yet, half of the comments I have read so far are from people advising this chic to have an abortion. And the way they say it, you'd wonder what the hope is for young women in this world.
My own opinion, she should never have had sex with someone she wasn't bonding with. I'm not preaching sex after marriage only because the truth is there are a lot of marriages these days where sex is adulterous and not based on love. Please use your head. You've made the mistake. Learn from it and raise your child. It might be the only one you'll ever have. Besides, you're in your 30s..nothing to be embarrassed about at your age. I'm sure you're working. Do not make a mistake you will regret for the rest of your life
Abeg help me ask am oh.
Hmmm my dear, I will blame u for not using ur senses at all, but d deed has been done, pls do not abo*t dat child for any reason @ 30 u shld been thinking of taking care of children not abo*tion. Pls give birth and tk kia of the child most importantly tell the child how he or she came into this world so they will not follow ur foot step. U are blessed
Buahahahahaha....ROtflmao @ these comments........
Linda ah swear you have a bunch of comedians on this blog!
That being said, If she knows she can't go through the Trauma of being a single parent, then she should abort it!! ....YES!! ...it's easy for all these libers to encourage her to keep it, as if they will help her in raising the child....Certain things are a whole lot easier said than done! The world is hard enough as it is ..No Child deserves to be brought into a loveless parentless home.
My 2 cents.
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all you guys saying she should get rid of the baby, ' Una do well ooh'. If each of you's mother had done same I bet u all won't be here typing dis BS. Ralph has said it all, my dear it really won't be easy buh I want you to take the pain and raise that Child... the mistake has already been made so learn from it but if u see it as a disappointment remember there is always a blessing that comes with every one. One love.
all you guys saying she should get rid of the baby, ' Una do well ooh'. If each of you's mother had done same I bet u all won't be here typing dis BS. Ralph has said it all, my dear it really won't be easy buh I want you to take the pain and raise that Child... the mistake has already been made so learn from it but if u see it as a disappointment remember there is always a blessing that comes with every one. One love.
Mumu
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BORN TO SHINE!!!
Pls keep the pregnancy. The child has a right to life. Don't ever think of abortion, you might regret it later
babe see,we are now in a modern word.ur people will complain at first but latter they will let u be and support u with all they have got.pls keep the baby.u are in ur 30s and am sure ur work.the fool will later come begging.
keep the child and pray its a boy
. You think all the other single baby mama's were sluts ? If he's serious he will propose. Don't be stupid, if you get pregnant and he leaves ? theres nothing you can do about it . This comment is from a 15year old. And even I know that. Use your brain
Queen Maya, u r sounding like pple from the blog that always beefing LIB. Pls bound back to where ur coming from we are enough.
Why do much hate? You have got serious issues my friend
i got married 9 months after I met my husband. Who still sleeps with a man she is unsure of these days?! of course, you will never bond if all you is have sex. you are OYO!
@ Toronto...so she should kill an innocent child because of a man who is not man enough to know what he wants? You are indeed very foolish.
Girlfriend, so it has happened, register for antenatal, buy baby things and go ahead and have your baby. Your baby daddy ain't worth you or the little angel on the way. People will say things about men not wanting babes with kids....all na wash. what will be will be, Any man that don't want you and your baby can go and f**k himself. All the best dear
Why are some girls so foolish for chirst sakes, you should have known this guy was only using you to satisfy this dirty urge which you were too blind to see. Most ladies need God I don't even consider see in a r/ship.the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom let us ask God for wisdom in our r/ships.. sm1 told me this and I think it's very true he said "he said if your into a r/ship and sex is the order of the day, try telling the guy your not interested in the sexual aspect of the r/ship and you'll see that guy will run away, or there'll be something diff ant him afterwards. Let us ladies be wise not all men want you for real love, many of them r wolves in sheep clothing we only need God to help us with our discretion. May God help us all Amen
Why should you abort your child, while the other girl will keep hers? Is your child going to be a third class citizen? Is the other girl's child going to be better than yours? Besides, are you sure to survive abortion? Are you sure you will have another child after the abortion? Who knows tomorrow?
All the fools telling u noot to abort it are very wicked people. Noone of them would be there for you when it's time to care for the baby. Babies drain all emotions, money and energy as a single parent. If you have an understanding mother who wud be there for u thru all d pain n stress and who wouldn't nag u for all d help she is rendering then keep d baby if noot flush d blood out asap.
As she no come get hiv nkor,abeg take a chill pill,hypocrites wey full everywhere like say you never miss condom b4 metshWwwwww. Back 2 d matter poster please don't abort the baby,remember you are already 30 and counting,4get d idiot loser,keep your baby evn if you dnt have something doing for now things will definately fall in2 place in d nearest future,please dnt abort,i used 2 work in a fertility hospital and I see a lot of couples looking for even a disfigured child 2 call theirs.so weety kip d baby or born am gve me.I luv babies like mad I can't wait 2 start having them.
if you know u can take care of the baby,keep it but if not and you cant face the trauma,abort it my dear and play safe nxt time
U r in ur 30's n u r not a kid anymore.It might be ur last(just saying) so think before u do anything.
ur in ur 30's and having unprotected sex shld be d least of ur worries but u still went ahead and did it anway so u hv no one else to blame but urself.
My advice to you is to keep the pregnancy, do not abort it. You might regret it in future. How could he ask his so called ex to leave her pregnancy and you abort yours. Since you said you are in your 30s and working, pls keep the pregnancy and take care of your baby. He will regret it later and the child would be your own blessing. You may abort the pregnancy and when you eventually settled down never be able to have a child of your own again. Please leave the stupid man and move on with your life. It is a lesson of a lifetime for you. Take care.
My advice to you is to keep the pregnancy, do not abort it. You might regret it in future. How could he ask his so called ex to leave her pregnancy and you abort yours. Since you said you are in your 30s and working, pls keep the pregnancy and take care of your baby. He will regret it later and the child would be your own blessing. You may abort the pregnancy and when you eventually settled down never be able to have a child of your own again. Please leave the stupid man and move on with your life. It is a lesson of a lifetime for you. Take care.
It's so unfortunate, i understand you gave him the chance of having sex with you b'cos you feel he is matured, but some guys are just grown up but their brain function like that of infants. Well my advice is that you keep the pregnancy,dnt abort it,who knows if that child will become a first lady or president tommorrow
You are in your 30s which means you are a fully pledged adult, DO NOT ABORT, you will regret it. It may be hard but you will get the support and respect if you need to raise your child. Ques: what if you are destined to have just one child? Marriage is not everything, it is good, but very challenging at least if you have your child, you have purpose, and a man who wants to be with you will child or no child. It is well!
the deed has been done...... KEEP THE BABY to avoid further regrets... cheers
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