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Thursday 29 January 2015

Dear LIB readers: I don't spend the weekends with my boyfriend

From a female LIB reader
I have been dating this guy for about 3 and a half months and I have only spent two weekends with him. I only see him during the week. For the weekends he always has an excuse for us not to meet but eager to see me during the week. He comes over to my house from work and spends time but from Friday till Sunday he's no show. Should I confront him about it or just leave him alone? Also, I have never spent the night in his house before, maybe I am the side chick?

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AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Whothemhelp????

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Whothemhelp????

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Na by force to date am,d tin to dey scratch u sef haba!

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Na by force to date am,d tin to dey scratch u sef haba!

Life in Japan through Helz' lens. said...

You probably are sweetie....sorry!

Anonymous said...

Yup you're the side chic honey...pele

Lady O

Unknown said...

Hehe....may be you are. But before you conclude, sit him down and ask him why is he treating you that way? Best of luck

Anonymous said...

You are d side chick

poshrose said...

Gals!!! We worry ourselves ova trivial issues. U just started dating, givee ur sef tym and why yo doing that, don't fcuk so u can fly wen u know which chick u r. Main or side.

poshrose said...

Gals!!! We worry ourselves ova trivial issues. U just started dating, givee ur sef tym and why yo doing that, don't fcuk so u can fly wen u know which chick u r. Main or side.

Tbam said...

Dats not enough reason to conclude! Plus abeg bishop Dammy is it right to spend night! Oya give us bible verse

Mzz_Mary said...

Lmao
May be he has other bizness to handle
But try and ask him

Aamarachiogueji said...

Before nko.are u a learner???....#nwamas

Danz said...

You are dating a merited man, be wise!

Unknown said...

Of course that is what you are. Side Chic. Pay him a surprise visit at those times he wouldn't be expecting you since you know his house. Since when did LIBers became relationship advisers?.

Danz said...

*married. Crazy Auto correct

Unknown said...

Your d second girl friend... pay him a surprise visit one day

Unknown said...

3/1 half months? Haba! Give him some space,get to know him better before spending a night at his place

Unknown said...

CAlm down and follow things gradually. Its just 3months old relationship

Unknown said...

Ofcos confront him abt it nd u must spend night wen u re not married to him cos it belittled u

whitefalcon said...

You've answered it all. U don't need a bishop to tell u that you're his side chic, and please don't confront him. Just walk away or enjoy while it last.

Unknown said...

Is not may be hmm u are his side chick

Unknown said...

Exactly, YOU ARE A SIDE CHICK.

Unknown said...

You said you've only been dating for 3month & 2weeks, dats 14weeks & already spent 2wkends with him, you wan dey follow am live 4 im houx? Beta don't pressure him into thinking dat you are desperate. Linda take note!

vera said...

U no get sense

Anonymous said...

Babe u re dealing with a married man, go and do ur CID yourself plz.

Anonymous said...

Maybe u are but Dnt confront him, try n find out ursef. If u confront him den he wll deny it or better still hurt u

Unknown said...

sex before marriage is a sin 1cor6 v 9-11

Unknown said...

Yea u a side chick n he is married

KINGING said...

Something like that

Anonymous said...

My dear, you are the side chick and then some.

Linda Fashion Blog said...

I tink you have said it all. Its obvious ur a side chic or a mistress. I advise u pay him a surprise visit on a weekend to see if u can catch him red handed.



cherrykoko

Streetlighter's blogspot said...

Kids of nowadays, so if you start sleeping in his house on weekends, u will be happy ba?

Money Making Machine said...

My dear your just a share holder

Anonymous said...

no dear he is just MARRIED!!!!!!!!

dunny odunayo said...

sorry to say, he is a player. definetely you r a bit on a side for him, the guy is fully committed else where.

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Nothing like may be here, yu are the side chick..
.
.
***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Unknown said...

Firstly, you need to put alot of things into consideration. Is he married? Does he engage in a weekend job?
Now why do you want to spend a night, you want to have sex right or cuddling? Well the relationship is too young to raise an eye brow if you ask my sincere advice.

Uti said...

You are a side chick!! It's very obvious. His main chick is for the weekends. He's not serious with you. And he has other babes

Unknown said...

Abeg must u spend d weekend in his place? nawa ooo..so if u see him during d week so? Wat if he is d busy type? I dont understand ladies of dis days..I have a gf dat hardly sees me..cos I alwaiz travel..But she understands..u are wat u say u are..u are a sidechick if u think so...................................#KingOfKings #6God

Unknown said...

Thats exact what u r babe! Wise up

Unknown said...

Mayb he goes to his wife and kids weekends

Anonymous said...

She's still asking

Niyi Daramola said...











A married couple work in different cities, he works in Abuja, she in Lagos, he goes home every weekend. Both have Facebook accounts. The wife has vowed never to date anybody on Facebook, more so that she is happily married. She even gave her hubby the impression that she does not go there frequently like others do.

One day while bored at work he playfully creates a Facebook account with a fake pix, he sends his wife a request & she adds him.
They chat regularly over 1 month, she finds him very exciting & is always looking forward to chatting with him, she began to hate weekends cos he was never available to chat. They chatted about everything and recently their chats became very sexually explicit...

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Unknown said...

Exactly, u a side chick, that's why u can't have d weekends..

Anonymous said...

You are totally the side chick!

elovi said...

Give him a surprise visit and knw whatssup

Anonymous said...

My sister u be confirm side chic,#waka pass

Unknown said...

Babe shine ur eyes oo. Which guy doesn't want to spend the weekends wit his babe. Weekdays?#laughing. Guys bad

Unknown said...

Lolz! "Maybe I am the side chick" you already kw but I advice u to. Confront him abt that to kw his reasons.

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Anonymous said...

side chick????? You may just be dating a married man.. wake up girlie

Unknown said...

If u are the side chic u are even safe. Mayb he is married sef u don't know.

Unknown said...

Another person owns d weekends....just like you owns mon-friday

But dis babe dey greed oooo....so mon-fri no do u ni?.....or re u DAT jobless?

Unknown said...

Hahahaha!! Are u a learner?u a SIDE CHICK girl!!

Kponskii said...

You don answer your question.

African foodstuff and Raw Materials said...

Its either you are the side chick, he is married or he has something he is hiding...God will save us from wicked men o..

Anonymous said...

Obviously your the side chick, can't u read between the lines.

Anonymous said...

Yea you very correct babe your just his side chick wake up before its to late for you...

Ruthylicious said...

yrs girl,u r definitely d side chick
give him a surprise visit during d weekend to check tins out.
zakariruth@yahoo.com

kpekpeduke said...

Babe use ur tongue count ur teeth naw,well thank God u already know d truth,i don't know why ladies can't just accept d truth,is it not obvious?

Felicia Okafor said...

It's not rocket science to decode that he is married & you are just a side kick! He will most probably deny if you ask him so just take a walk away from him, unless you like being second or third fiddle.

Onyx's Girlfriend (he isn't gay pls) said...

So if u spend d whole of d weekend der, its a proof u aint d side chic. Rubbish of d highest order, life don spoil. #happythurs

hellmint said...

gbam,well said,u r the syd chick.

Anonymous said...

You no dry see? Are you blind? My dear its obvious that ya the side chick.. Don't let his baby mama catch you 😅😅😅😅😅

Anonymous said...

Its vewi obvious...ur d syd chick

Anonymous said...

You have the answer and you're still asking for help?
You aren't only the side Chick, he has night Chick, weekend Chick and rotational Chick. Please find where you fall into and use your tongue to count your teeth PEREZ is here

Statuesque said...

your guy is married, simple! dont waste ur time confronting him... sigh!

blackbutterfly said...

Maybe he's married and jst deceiving you

Unknown said...

Why don't u surprise him this weekend... Confrontation will only bring more excuses if he is indeed cheating...but brace yourself for the worst

blackbutterfly said...

Maybe he's married and just deceiving you

Unknown said...

Find out who he is first...then confront him,cus that is how they treat side-chik

Anonymous said...

O gal he is married or has a very serious relationship aside you.Insist on going to his place after all he's been to yours.Dont be fooled or carried away with love.This is still January. RUN RUN RUN.Dont waste ya time with him.I have been dere

Anonymous said...

Yesso better side chick! !!!!!

Unknown said...

It just baffles how immorality has taken over the heart of we youth. Why should you spend weekend in your boyfriend's house in the first place when he has not married you? Or wat will two of you be doing through the weekends. Woman, i'll advice you keep yourself highly esteemed and stop yielding to those false lies you hear from ur so called boyfriend. Selah!

Angels Mummy said...

LMFAO Hahaha are you a learner? thank God you have ANSWERED the question yourself YOU be side chick and your instincts never lie so kindly take a walk heal and move on kpele Dearie.

David Iyke said...

you sound so cheap to my likening,3months you want to be a wife by force. If he use you rough now and dump you you will run to us complain that you have been duped.Do you think that around is the best way for you to get an ideal husband? 'sigh'

Unknown said...

In all honesty, you are the side chick, he is either married or has something very big he is hiding. Talk to him about it and hear what he says, all in all please be vigilant

Unknown said...

Not mayb u r d side chick, let me brak it down 4u "U R SPARE TYRE".

Moreso must u spend d nite in a man houz dat u r not.married to??? U just lik messing around or b cheap.

Pls wake up and pay him a surprise visit during d weekend.

Thank me later.

Unknown said...

Sister. Take it easily with he, everything have time,

Unknown said...

Not mayb u r d side chick, let me brak it down 4u "U R SPARE TYRE".

Moreso must u spend d nite in a man houz dat u r not.married to??? U just lik messing around or b cheap.

Pls wake up and pay him a surprise visit during d weekend.

Thank me later.

Anonymous said...

Just 3 months and u are here complaining. Must u spend the night and weekend at his place ???? Why not park your load and be his leave-in then . All I can see here is a man trying yo protect u

Anonymous said...

And one mr expsd is saying you shouldn't snoop. My dear snnooooop till ure sure if ure side chick or not.

Unknown said...

Not mayb u r d side chick, let me brak it down 4u "U R SPARE TYRE".

Moreso must u spend d nite in a man houz dat u r not.married to??? U just lik messing around or b cheap.

Pls wake up and pay him a surprise visit during d weekend.

Thank me later.

Unknown said...

This can't be really, surely this girl is clueless... What a joke!

Anonymous said...

U either his side chick or he is married

Unknown said...

Ehyaaa! Cnt say ma'am. Just use ur head and work it out. Be kful!

Unknown said...

Not mayb u r d side chick, let me brak it down 4u "U R SPARE TYRE".

Moreso must u spend d nite in a man houz dat u r not.married to??? U just lik messing around or b cheap.

Pls wake up and pay him a surprise visit during d weekend.

Thank me later.

Unknown said...

Yes dear, it is more likely u re a side chick...

WRYTAAR said...

Yes, you are the side chick. Smart girl! Now move on and along.

Pele, life is just a boiling pot of beans.You will be fine.

Anonymous said...

you are the side chick.

Unknown said...

Linda, where do U get these pple dat always ask such questns?????












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Unknown said...

Hmmmm, just give him small time, dn't be too forward, he might hv a mess he wana clean up, so wt u will do now is,tell him u will give him time for more attention, especially weekends, give him lik 5months, or more if he does't change run, an for now dn't add much emotions ooo, becos some married guys ar lik dis

Anonymous said...

He is married darling

Ladybird banks.birdlover said...

Trust ur guts. Deep down de are trying to tell us smtin is wrong...nd surely smtin isn't right..stay calm nd compose u might turn out to be d right chick too

esther said...

I think u should ask him

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beewhy said...

Just to be straight with u, you are a side chic... End of Discussion.

Unknown said...

Go ahead and confront him...


#GodblessNigeria

Unknown said...

He gos to see his legal wife and children; simple!

Unknown said...

The guy is married #side chick

Som Som said...

U jes answered urself....

**Vanchizzy**

Unknown said...

Maybe ke? Lady open yo eyes!!! Yes yes yes u so are d side chick!

gidi girl said...

Madam.. Its not maybe your the side chick.. Na u be d side chick..

Unknown said...

U beta know where u belong ASAP. U ve delayed for too long. Confront him. Best of lucks.

@Sophia Stephen

Anonymous said...

Mheeeen...it's either he's married or doesn't really love u

Unknown said...

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Amaka.u.l said...

Do ur wish

Unknown said...

Ofcourse u are.. do some snooping on him..
goodluck on that.

elo tasha said...

Best way to come out of this confusion is to confront him and you two can address the issue

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Unknown said...

So what were u thinking before?

Unknown said...

Ma u dnt have an issue

Anonymous said...

no my dear...you are the mistress Nigga is married DUH!

Generall said...

No doubt you are probably the side chick, I think your problem is half solve. Confront him with the issue and know the fact about his MIA during the weekends. We may also be wrong though but still confront him and know what's going on with him by the weekends.

Anonymous said...

What re u talking about 4 God's sake?? U met about 4 months ago,,haaa,,have u tried 2 ask him what he does on weekends??
As 4 sleeping over in his place,,i pray u dnt start what u ll surely regret @ d end of day

ukbliss said...

Ur definitely the side chick

Abdul Mk said...

eyaah.. jst saying

Unknown said...

You have answered the question already you are the side chick, you messed up too nah, why did you allow him from the onset to come to your house and sleep with you without going to his house first, his main chick is always around from friday to Sunday! Let me tell you the day you pay him a surprise visit any of the weekend don't be surprise if you see his fiancé and he will deny you immediately! He is just using you shikena!!!

Ukay said...

No. You're the main chic. I'm sure you need a babalawo to confirm to u that side chic position would be puting it mildly. Why are girls so dumb. The dude is either married or almost married. Keep making a mockery of yourself darling. You should get the dumb chic award

Unknown said...

I wonder why dumb dafts keep bugging us with their issues,u already know the truth whose opinion will u now believe..Linda pls don't start our day with a dull brains' blank question abeg.

Unknown said...

You have answered the question already you are the side chick, you messed up too nah, why did you allow him from the onset to come to your house and sleep with you without going to his house first, his main chick is always around from friday to Sunday! Let me tell you the day you pay him a surprise visit any of the weekend don't be surprise if you see his fiancé and he will deny you immediately! He is just using you shikena!!!

Anonymous said...

He doesn't have to spell it out to you.... Read the writing on the wall and move on. Speaking from experience, no matter how much you complain, there won't be any difference. The worst part is this - the moment you decide to break up with him, he won't say a word or try to convince you to stay, then you'll realize you're nothing to him, not even a side chick. Save yourself the heartache and move on.

If you confront him about it and he makes amends, good for you. However if not, get your bag and baggage and move on.

Unknown said...

Lmaoooooo big time side nne

Anonymous said...

You are still a learner....Be smart

Unknown said...

No need asking, u knw it already, u are the side chick...

Anonymous said...

Oh,trust me bae,its either u r the side chick or he's got stuff to hide,try confronting him about it!

dollyp said...

Side chic ke,ure his side mirror.lmao.weekends are too busy for him as he has to do laundry and all,b satisfied with the weekday visit u sef hian!continue sleeping n don't smell the coffee o u hear?ask him about it or better yet just trace his house and pay him a surprise visit*evil cackle* aftaroh u v nothing to loose buh also brace urself to meet his pregnant wife n his son n better b ready for denial too,I tire for u!eish.

Chiwhyte said...

It's either he's married or u're the side chick.

Davido's driver said...

Girls of nowadays u just said 3months which is still very new.smh


@lwkmd_naija

Unknown said...

lol,,,so you want to spend a night already????

godgives said...

U just summed it up. Babe, u are d side chick! Shine ur eyes and wise up.

Unknown said...

Sooo d best way to know u are not a side chick is spending 9ts n weekends @ his place? a relationship of lessdn 4months, y dont u tak it easy b4 u portray ursef as desperadoe. #use & dump invitation

Anonymous said...

Wetin u dey go sleep for? Dem go chop u finish now n u cry back to LIB... dee

Unknown said...

Maybe...dere shud be communication

nnejibojan said...

Jst forget abt him n fyn another guy, bcos he maybe a criminal or he is hiding something.

Anonymous said...

Are u dat naïve and dumb,he is married..

Anonymous said...

You are on your own finish. U better use your brain rather act like a mumu sha. its very clear

Unknown said...

You should know that nau, that you are

Unknown said...

Lol... are u a learner? Opens a bottle of orijin and seats back...

Unknown said...

Maybe u're ooo,some good homely girl comes to spend the weekend and do some cookings,jst use ur head well,if u know where he lives,pay him a surprise visit ,neva see him during the week, then on a Saturday ,surprise him,

Ifeanyi said...

Maybe he doesn't wanna get tempted. He is ur boyfriend, not ur husband.
***HARTROBBER***

Anonymous said...

He is a married son of a bitch,hey lady r u dt dumb?kai,d time z 4his family.

Anonymous said...

You be correct SIDE CHICK.... I narrowly escaped d title recently..... Dis is 2015 ladies shine ur eyes....no time for time wasters

Anonymous said...

Are u dat naïve and dumb,he is married..

Unknown said...

Babe, wifey is at home

Unknown said...

Or mayb your his mistress. Becos all this is you listed is not a sign of a single guy double dating, but signs of a married man having an affairs. He can give excuse of work to his wife to see you during the week, but what would he tell her during the weekend. And how is he gonna let u spend d weekend wen his family is home with him? I bet u dnt even know his house right? Nne you are dating a married man. You better run to avoid stories that touch.

Anonymous said...

Side chick 101

Unknown said...

Or mayb your his mistress. Becos all this is you listed is not a sign of a single guy double dating, but signs of a married man having an affairs. He can give excuse of work to his wife to see you during the week, but what would he tell her during the weekend. And how is he gonna let u spend d weekend wen his family is home with him? I bet u dnt even know his house right? Nne you are dating a married man. You better run to avoid stories that touch.

TEEDEE said...

There is no maybe.....you are definitely the side chick..better shine ya eye...

ary said...

Seriously you come here with this? Deal him same hand as he has dealt you! Haba!! During the week make up excuses as to why you are unavailable and see how he reacts to it! You are with both the yam and the knife, yet you are hesitating? What some women don't realize is that in every relationship they have all the power, but some of them readily relinquish it to men!
Make him feel some of your pain and watch his reactions, then make your decision then.

Eze said...

How funny life could be.....while am here praying morning and night for my girlfriends to spend the night and weekends with me, yet yo no avail....it takes God+ Jesus grace for them to spend weekends with me .........leave that guy he is not ready for u, or maybe he have good plans for u, so he is saving the weekends for better days...its all fake and lies sha

ronnie said...

babe, the signs are so obvious, you are just a side chick!

kay said...

Not may be u r Haba d guy is married now. He is using u to clear traffic during d week before he goes home

Anonymous said...

you know what to call yourself better side chick yes that's what you are
confront him b4 its too late

##W.G##

Unknown said...

Tis not a matter of maybe........u r his side chick! Common! Use ur head jare.

Anonymous said...

Of course!!! That's what u re, a side chick.

Anonymous said...

Where u thinking u were the main hen? no be only side chick, na corner bucket

Anonymous said...

You don enter one chance. Dey there dey form mugu

Unknown said...

Hmmmmm. D signs r glaring. U r obviously d side chick and he may b married n his family is somewhere else. Mayb dats where he goes to spend d weekend

Asa said...

Yes baby, you are the side chick and you better be on your way soon enough, Because who ever the main chick is, the love between them is strong. Men can be funny sometimes

Unknown said...

This days any gal u start dating under one week will be d one wanting to come nd spend d night with u. Ur papa bed Dey scratch ur yash Linda inukwa muo

Anonymous said...

You are definitely the side chick girl! This was how I treated my side boyfriend. Weekdays on. Weekends off

Unknown said...

Yeah mayb or probly he is married? I fink u sshlld givve him som time siince it's jes 3 months, den if he continues baby confront him bikko!

ENNY said...

Why do you want to sleep over in his house?

Anyway, I think your guy is hiding something from you... If you are so anxious, you can pay him a surprise visit, but at your own risk.

Unknown said...

Before nko wetin u think say u be if not side chick

Mr Sabi Finish said...

Babe wake up na. you are not even side chick number 3, maybe na number five or even six sef. olodo!!!!. Aunty Linda stop bringing us all this kind dull imaginations abeg.

Unknown said...

Hi side chick, I bet you won't wanna meet the main chick.


Sincerely speaking the mind of Amadioha

Unknown said...

*singing* you're the side chick,siiiiide chic! Side chic on the block,side chic on the bed,side chic for the D, you are the siiiiide chic

Unknown said...

He doesn't want u comin weekend bcos someone else do come over....babe he has
2of u o..wake up.
Kisses 2u linda...catch it!

Oladimeji said...

Smiles... Figure that out yourself.

Unknown said...

strong chances that he is married or u r a side chic like u said.. sorry luv

Anonymous said...

The truth is dat he his either engaged or married

Anonymous said...

Mugu, ode, fool!!! He's married na.

Bummy said...

You is smart!

Anonymous said...

If u think u're the side chick then u're the side chick

Unknown said...

U might be a side chick. Confront him, that's the best way to know what u r and what u not. Moreover, wats so fascinating about u spending nights and weekends. Use ur head gal, b4...........

Anonymous said...

My dear...his either married or in another serious relationship.. Lmao

Unknown said...

Babe dat your boyfriend still dey play Maradona and jay-jay okocha...u better advice yourself...Use your brain..you will soon join Alao Akala in OYO (on your own)

Unknown said...

Lol... Side chick alert

Unknown said...

Babe dat your boyfriend still dey play Maradona and jay-jay okocha...u better advice yourself...Use your brain..you will soon join Alao Akala in OYO (on your own)

Samexgist said...

You might be the special girl of his dreams though.

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Unknown said...

That guy is married that the truth about it

Cynthia Iyede said...

Hnmmm no idea

Unknown said...

Lmaooo!!! Pay a surprise visit 2 him dis weekeend

Anonymous said...

Yes dear... u are the side chic. it's better u leave now with your head high than allow things get messy.

Anonymous said...

No maybes - you are! But just for fun confront him and see how good of a liar he is.

Unknown said...

Mayb u r not!!

Unknown said...

U are not only his side chick,u are also his spare tyre,wake up girl.he's seeing another person that's y he doesn't want u to spend the weekends with him..la ju ee

Unknown said...

Confront him about fucking your ass hole ? Women get problems 3months is not even enough to know whom this Guy is

papilon147 said...

Babe forget it, your a side chick. Its either he is married or ur not just good enuff.
My advise to u is cut d sucker off and find some1 new

Anonymous said...

B***h u guessing.....U was ryt

Dave Mide said...

The picture tho ....lmao

Ijanyimitch said...

O yes u are

Unknown said...

Lolz, hear ursf 3 n half months n u r complaining, o ga o. Mayb he shd gv u wat u r after wh is sex n den walk away. Rubbish

Unknown said...

He's married jooor

Unknown said...

confront him does he work weekends lot of questions 2 ask him u need 2 b assertive. talk 2 him n y do u want 2 spend a nyt wit him?wen u dnt spend weekend 2geda take a chill pill babe.

Angie said...

Surprise him at his house over the weekend and find out what he's hiding..unless, you don't know his place.

Blessed day to us all..

Unknown said...

Must u spend d night in a guy house,all u need to do is to investigate him very well without his notice

Unknown said...

Confronte senorita

gidis said...

Yes u r

Anonymous said...

He is married.Use your head.

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