2-time Minister of Industry and a respected entrepreneur, Mrs Nike
Akande said in a recent interview that if a woman is
successful and does not have a husband, people don't respect her.
Mrs Akande who has been married to her businessman husband for over 40
years now says it is better to get married no matter how successful you are...
"I always tell people that
it is better to be married. The younger ones are not patient. Marriage
is a journey of give and take. I am not perfect, my husband too is not
perfect but we have to bend over to compliment each other. The younger
ones are not that patient. It is better to be married. People respect
you more when you are married. Unless it is impossible to live with a
man because some men are impossible." Continue..
But for little, little differences,
you have to tolerate each other. Companionship is nice. I will tell him
my experiences and he will advise me. If a woman is successful and she
does not have a husband, people would not respect her" she told Encomium
Who agrees with her?
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TRUE. No doubt ,No controversy. It is well. Gen 2:24. BishopDammy#
Aunty Nike, please wake up and smell the coffee!!!
You are ever so judgemental and out of touch.
linda dts for u; u'r successful, get married ASAP.
Not true
So long as she lives clean.
But if goes about having children here and there and yet unmarried, then she loses her respect.
You can be single, successful and yet very respected/respectful
u right ma even tho most situation isnt true, most people will attribute the single womans success to flirting with men.
I do! there`s a a special kind of respect women get when they are married so i agree with her 100%.
princess
Lindiway she said people would not respect her,she's talking in respect to our societal perception.
Our type of society where women are accorded more respect when they're married.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
Linda...is that you ?? #peepin. Of course I agree with her. I wonder how man wan take impress Linda now ....all women av weakness tho
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That's a tall huge Lie with capital "L". Respect is not measured by being married or not.
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Nonsense,marriage should not be what determines a woman's self worth or value. If the ratio of men and women is 4:1 then obviously not all women can get married. So if a woman saved lives, or changed the course of history she's not to be respected because another human being didn't put a metallic circle on her finger? That's rubbish
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she is right...thats Nigeria mentality...
#GodblessNigeria
To some extent, I think I agree with her because people tend to appreciate and respect women more when they know they are married and their impact can be felt in the society.
Its true husband matters a lot in d life of a woman.
I agree linda and u should take her words in2 consideration..;)
Message for you miss linda
Not everybody thinks so. Bt i feel she's right.
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Well said...Linda time dey go
It is not entirely false regarding the society we live in. But a non married woman who has a good reason to be that way,is not less important.She should be comfortable with herself and live for her God, not all will disrespect her.
Well said
I am Coonett
Its true... especially here in Africa
She hit the nail. Personal experience, I find it easy to respect married women even if they're younger than me.
Its better to be married and get hurt than not to have married at all.Some of the blessings of marriage is 2nd to none
I totally agreed with mrs Nike.... Just a truism. A successful woman without husband is baseless and also lacks legitimacy.
Hahahahahahahahahahahaaaaa, not in igbo land ooooooooooooOOOOoooo.
bullshit. women always downgrade themselves with these kind of statements.
Agreed
No better advice for a successful single woman can be said beta dan dis... So also, behind a successful man, there's a woman... Ova2u Linda.... U are not doubt a successful woman but wot about respect?....
Very well said Mrs.
Linda she is 100% right!
Very true, dat why most people don't consider genevieve to be a good actress, African mentality though.
I totally agree with her. Linda you have to get married to compliment ur success, if not..... you won't earn that respect
Yes she is right, somtym the men are the problem, the only thing that keeps a marriege going is patience and endurance
Who cares if naija society don't respect single successful women? Should one die in an abusive relationship because of our hypocritical society? No wonder almost all the rich married women are flirting about
I most certainly do not agree with that part. I'm a married father of two and just had this conversation with somebody. I witnessed a contribution meeting in the east recently where the women had just as much voice and vote as the men. Point being since they could contribute just as much money as the guys in the meeting, they had equal say and regard. When a woman earns her way, she will earn her say.
I get what you are saying ma, but this is the 21st century and we need no man to validate us. We marry 4 love and not societal pressure cos most man are low life, gold digging cunts. Few special ones out there, you'll really have to be lucky to find those
True talk. Bitter truth.
This statement is very relative there are so many successful women who are not married and are widowed , been married and success don't have anything in common I guess its her personal opinion .
Also bear in mind African have better regard for women who are success and are married
Unfortunately in Africa that is the truth, same can't be said about Oprah, though she still raises eyebrows but it's mainly from this side of the world. But it is not like she cares.
Rubbish talk. That's a very myopic way of thinking. A woman's success should not be tied to marriage. I'm so pissed at these foolish words.
Madam please rephrase and say "In Nigeria" because the whole world is not as marriage obsessed.
linda i knw u are askin for ur sake..sha stil get married linda..who wud u liv ur fortune to?In Africa, u r nt respected bt ova dere no one really cares.bt having a family is very important n givs u happiness..e.g Omotola is happy in all Ramifications..n termed successful..so linda Nwaikeji do quick n get married
I do agree.
I do agree with her
If Husband no come u go kill ursef ni?! Abeg biko make we hear word!!
If Husband no come u go kill ursef ni?! Abeg biko make we hear word!!
Don't know about the respect part, dnt see why a woman shld not be respected cos she is not married, but I agree with Nike on d part she said companionship is nice, it is cool to knw u'v got a partner to grow old with.
Well said...
100 Percent Correct
For every successful man, there is a woman, likewise every successful woman. In families today, marriage elevates a woman to another level money or no money.
True talk.
Gbam!
Ok seen I shall come and borrow your husband and when I'm done gaining some respect from people like you, you can have him back.
God bless this woman. words of wisdom let her who have ear hear #gbam
Ma, God bless you. May u live long.
Please tell them. this is Africa and not the west where anything goes. Familyis important
L.T
It shouldn't be but it's true in our society today. Take Omotola Jalade and Genevieve Nnaji,both talented but Omotola is well respected,nobody goes around saying thrash about her unlike genevieve it's one rumour today or another and these sometimes are just mere rumours.
That is true sha
I totally agree with her. That's the truth. Rozay talking
I DISAGREE WITH THIS NIGERIANS WHO PRETEND ALL IS WELL WHEN IT IS NOT WELL. WHEN LAST DID ANYONE SEE THIS WOMAN WITH THE SO CALLED HUSBAND. IT IS ONLY IN NIGERIA THAT MARRIAGE IS MADE TO BE THE ALL IN ALL IN LIFE. MARRIAGE WITHOUT HAPPINESS IS NOTHING BUT NOTHING. MARRIAGE IS A SACRED INSTITUTION MEANT FOR TWO PEOPLE TO BECOME ONE AND BE HAPPY NOT PRETENDING TO BE HAPPY. SUCH COMMENT FROM THIS WOMAN IS UNWELCOME.
For Nigerians only @cusmasgoalboy
Tell them! Linda ngbo u are one of dem .
I gree with her n even some parent starts frustrating their kids especially ladies d moment they r tru with service, job hunting n still expecting MR to propose. Will u force d man to propose when he isn't ready financially? The guy will term such a lady as being desperate. May God help all single ladies on dis blog still believing God 4 her hubby
Yes, I totally agree with him.
Success without marriage is like money without happiness.
BORN TO SHINE!!!
I agree with her.....
That's a clear fact, Yess I agree. Women re nt comfortable with that cos dey will alwz thnk people will say there husband made dm wht they re. Bt in the natural world, it shows decency, respect and maturity.
Linda, pls i don't. As for me, having no husband is d best. though, our culture does not support. but i careless of what pple think on that. men are more complicated. To add to this sef. Pls linda. Men are more afraid when their wife is more successful than they are. i have evidence of this..so, i dont agree mrs Nike Akande:<;
That's her opinion I Respect Opray wimfry anyday anytime.
This woman needs to read Chimamanda's 'We should all be feminists'.
The idea that a woman in spite of her achievements will not be respected or be deserving of respect, though and sadly evident in our society, is very detrimental to the socio-economic future of Nigeria.
Most, not all, but most Nigerian men are unsuitable partners.
They are lazy, abusive, childish and mentally unstable. But it's not entirely their fault. They were raised by a society that decided that a man deserves respect because he is a man and a woman deserves respect because she has a husband.
The issue of impatience in the youth as she said, can be directly connected to the very point she is advocating. That a woman is not respectable unless she is an extension of a man. So it follows that women will be hasty in their palns to marry a man without giving themselves time to grow as human beings and in a lot of cases the time to even get to know the lying, cheating lazy man they are now reduced to sharing a bed with. Kelly S.
TRUE TALK MADAM. christianaojuade@gmail.com
I agree
She's said the truth....... And I support the motion.
You dey hear so, Linda? Come make I marry you.
Emm... carry dat ya SUV follow bodi when you dey come.
I gleefully do. Ladies please stop listening to Toke makinwa and the likes. Anybody that lectures you on how not to tolerate a man is a big fool. Those pro feminist ladies won't lead you to your right path. Use your brain. Ladies, do what is right and Godly. USE YA HEAD! Peace up!
~BADOO OF COVENTRY
Yep... I so agree wit her... Marriage is a gr8 institution of learning... Its difficult to get married & more difficult to stay married... If a woman can maintain her home & marriage well... Then she deserves to be respected...
She said the truth..... And I support the motion.
Many ladies will never agree with her, particularly the very exposed ladies in quote. It has to take them a life time of experience to understand this kind of talk.By then they have become very Old with grey hair. Maybe by then they can advice the upcoming ones too, who will surely not hear them...hehehehe...
Linda, This is a message meant for you to think about, No matter the range rover sport you buy or the millions you have, If you don't get married soon, all nah wash!!!!!
Madam u're vry rite. A.A
In Nigeria ma not everywhere...........................#KingOfKings #6ixGod
I don't agree wt ha ooo
I agree with her rather unfortunately! It should not be so but that is how life is in most African setting. Its not that rampant in Europe or the US, you are first of all known for your achievements even before anybody asks for your marital status. But here is the opposite. Our children will still change this but the change will be gradual!
sure this is true, in a society where people are fast loosing value for family it's a great concern. success without a successful family is nothing but a mirage. we complete ourselves in marriage.
Me
Hello!is anyone guilty here?????****wink****well i feel marriege is part of being successful in life.my opinion though
I find these comments highly offensive. Respect is earned and not handed to you on a platter of gold with a marriage certificate!!!
People who disrespect women because they are unmarried should be checked and taught that it is not acceptable. Marriage is not the solution to disrespect abeg.
One would expect Mrs Akande to be an agent for the change of this backward opinion but to have her openly tie respect to marriage is very disappointing. It is statements like these that make women put up with cheating, battering and the horrible things we hear people get up to in the name of getting and staying married. As for all those who disrespect single women... your own is coming.
She's very right because even in my office, the respect colleagues gives the married ladies is not the same respect they give to me because am still single.Its always very glaring that they don't seem to give u any iota of respect all because they know u aint got no husband, whereas they respect a 25yr old girl who is a junior colleague all because she;s married.
Damn true ma'am. But these days all they wanna do is be free without control and have kids out of wedlock
In African societies, YES!
In Asian and Oriental societies, YES!
In European and American societies, NO ONE CARES!
As long as u live here in Africa, that question is always going to be popped out whether you like it or not: WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED?
This is African reality for u.
word maam.@jp
No, no, no. A woman should be respected for what has achieved, not cos of marriage.
No. I did not. Like she said, not every woman is lucky to have understanding man. For the fact that you are not married, it will never stop a woman to be respected in the community. Some women are married, living fake life and crying in side. I do not agree with her at all. You don't compare your life and you feel that every woman should live like you.
Not be respected?
Well...an unmarried successful woman always puzzles because people will be like "If this woman can succeed all by herself, how come she can't succeed in capturing a man's heart...and ring?"
Automatically, one starts to believe something is wrong somewhere.
STFU. With all due respect on behalf of single women, I was offended by this stupid comment by this woman. It all depends on how you carried yourself in the society. Make una see me see wahala!! Is it better to be single/successful and wait for your own man or to be married and become the 5th wife and be called an home wrecker? So that means i will be more respected as a married woman irrespective of how many wives he had before me? Hmmmm very interesting
This is soo true in Nigeria. I lived in the UK for 4yrs and I never really felt bad for not being married after 30. But as soon as I relocated back to Nigeria, people will dish you the insults both latently and blatantly. I own the house where I live in Abuja, the security men find it difficult to accord me the respect they accord other women that are married with kids (even though i'm more affluent than them). In my place of work, I'm the Business Development Manager, younger than most of my subordinates plus the fact that I'm not married... I can sense the reluctance with which they accord me the respect due to my office. It's quite pathetic in Nigeria, a woman seems to be defined by having a man (even if the man is a mechanic!). Then talk of family or community meetings, there you would regret why didn't bring home the first man that ever proposed to U! Lolzz! I have a lot of stories to share...but that'll be for another time. The summary of the stories is that madam Nike is so right, it applies mainly in Nigeria.
oprah aint married.... she is one of the most respected billionaire in the world... even the strongest men respect her... and y did she contradict her statement saying it is impossible to live with some men after saying it is better to be married no matter what???
That is how i feel whenever i see Genevieve and Rita.
These gals are hot, they got beauty, they're doing well in their endeavours, they got their own money, they are admired...but how come no man wants to wife any of them till date and why? Inferiority complex? Strange....
Nonsense. Too many fake unhappy married couple that were married just because of this kind of comment. I for one will rather be single and happy. Fu..ck being respected in the society and be miserable,sad and very unhappy in a marriage.
Na true talk, Linda this is a warning to you , go find husband quick quick, before is too late 4 u...lol
Na true talk, Linda this is a warning to you , go find husband quick quick, before is too late 4 u...lol
She made sense here. Judgingfrom this part of the world we are from people want to attribute the success of an unmarried lady as runz, but if you have a man by your side, no one we think of you that way. Check out the number of things you Linda have acquired in the past few years, how do people end their comments afterthe congratulations," Linda e remain husband". No matter your level of success as a woman, people don't respect when they know you are without a husband.
what is there to respect in a single woman who is of marriageable age.
Mummy please, you might need to repeat it for the benefit of this almost lost female folks.
I'm tempted to insult her for this kind of nonsense she's spewing. Its likes of her that make women so desperate to marry that they end up getting themselves in trouble.
True even though some peole wud wanna argue it.
God bless you ma for this our generation now want everything fast like indomie instant noodles not knowing that some things esp relationship courtship and marriage issues should be handles with caution just like when preparing moi-moi with native leaves
That's a wake up bell to Linda!
I don't agree with her! No! Pple like her wld push Pple to marry wrong man! Oprah iss nt married but respected! Some Nigerians (women)nt married but dey re respected n successful o
Absolutely!
Linda no fear me go marry you when u ready. no shaking
Linda no fear me go marry you when u ready. no shaking
I totally agree with her. Oya Linda what r u waiting for.
Bamanga's girlfriend KMT
Onyeka onwenu is not married. Is she not respected?
Her statement is relative, it depends on the angle she is coming from
Well said, i find it difficult when ladies lie to themselves dat they are comfortable without a man , pure big lie. There comes a time a lady sit to reflect of how her mates are married with children and in that deep tot tears flow, no matter how u enjoy ur money as a lady , you still need a man in ur life cos someone gave birth to you.
Thank you Eka Joy ... she is clearly very very old to think that the way men were 40 years ago is the way men are now... it's rubbish talk like this that push girls to marry anything yes anything in the name of i want to be MRS. Somebody...
Most men out there are all FAWORAJA meaning chop and clean mouth they want ready made women they can leech on only a few good men exist (thank God i have one) who don't count the cost but encourage you to excel... the bible even says marriage is not a do or die issue better to be single and focused than married and confused. Single hood is NOT a disease please let people chill out you have to find yourself and LOVE YOURSELF FIRST before you can love someone else.
Linda i am one of your biggest critics but i advice you TAKE YOUR TIME... MARRIAGE IA FOR A LIFETIME GET IT RIGHT THE FIRST TIME LOOK AT TIWA YOU THINK SHE IS HAPPY, LOOK AT INI EDO AND THAT OTHER IBO ACTRESS ABEG TAKE YOUR TIME O...
mama 70 that talk is BULL **** MA
Ode, oprah has a man she has been living with for decades.. it's called a partner. Shop spewing shit here, if you don't knw ask somebody.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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This is what i call painfull truth... Linda so yu don hear bah...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
We have heard! Next plz!!!
The truth is marriage is beautiful and every woman should experience it but it shouldn't be a woman's priority. Marriage is not the reason why women were created. For me, i'd rather be chase success and be successful b4 thinkin of marriage. There's more to life than all that marriage crap.
We have heard. Madam husband and successful...Next plzzzzzz!!!
I completely agree with her. @osas_osaretin
All you women saying Oprah is not married did not know that she was raped by her step dad at 13 and when she told her mum, she was beaten up by her mum who accused her of seducing her boyfriend, she got pregnant and the baby died. She's been through a lot BUT she has a steady boyfriend, they have been seeing each other for a long time. Dont be surprised if she gets married soon and its true there is something psychologically wrong with women who have everything but no husbands, they mask it in public but if you truly know them you will realise they have lots of issues. THIS IS NOT THE CASE OF ALL UNMARRIED WOMEN. Capisce?
Rubbish. This is thinking from a century ago. How does time keep passing yet doesn't affect the backwards mentality of people in Nigeria. You're an unmarried successful woman, Linda. Have you told her that you're adored and respected though you earn your cheddah without the help of a man?
She be old edition mentality. Cultures evolve n people like her r the people that can help d next generation n society to accept this cultural evolution
Butthurt spinsters, butthurt spinsters everywhere!
Taa.....shut up ur mouth joor. Tell her where dem dey sell husband make she go buy. Ina talk rubbish.!
Be looking for example in Oprah, Linda,Genevieve etc and not go marry.
Marriage is God respect or no respect the most beautiful gift from God to man is Love(being loved and to love). That's why is not good for a man/woman to be alone.
I think you guys are taking her comment out of context she is simply saying that in Nigeria no matter how successful a woman is she would not be respected if she is not married. She is not saying she agrees with the notion she is just telling the truth about our society and she is right. Everyone should be respected regardless of their marital status but unfortunately it isnt so in nigeria
Ouch..the single girls sound so pained!...with reference to this part of the world..mama's right!
Please People Should learn to read before commenting ...I know the Mature Single ones are the ones that quickly start insulting anyone who dares talk bout marriage ..what she is simply saying is the the fact that in this our Society respect is accorded more to married women than single ..its a fact..now whether it is right or wrong is another debate ...im single by the way but not searching at all cos I'm young
She is glowing abeg its good to have a good husband like hers ....a lady opened her mouth to tell her grandma age mate to shut fuck up and she wonders why she is still single these are the reasons will u say that to your grandma or mum ???who am sure harass u to get married daily....
Onyeka is very married. Please don't say what u don't know
Agreed 100 percent
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Abuse Mrs Akande all you can. At old age you will realise too late that it is not good to remain perpetually single. That is when you will start paying young boys to warm your bed.....lol
Depends on your husband's role. Many successful women use husbands as camouflage for their Otherwise dark personal lives
As far as Nigeria is concerned,she is right.
This is absolutely ridiculous. Even though this might be true. I believe she should be in the place of changing the mentality of Nigerians, not adding fuel to the fire and force young people to marry for the wrong reasons.
Marriage is not for everyone. And By no means should any un married person be treated less than a married one.
Successful ladies should be applauded and respected... married or not married.
These are one of the many reasons I dislike NIgeria. WOmen are so opressed in that country.
God help us all.
very disrespectful of her to say that. very offensive to single women. so the happiness or success or respect of a woman is tied to the penis of a man? any man! so the single should hurriedly grab any penis of a husband? just to be respected? Jeeez!!
the problem in nigeria is even the educated, well read, enlightened, well travelled ones still talk like the average illiterate. how can she talk like this?
I'm sorry I beg to differ.
I think its time we begin to accept the reality that single life is a vocation just as being married, marriage isn't meant for everyone male or female. Stop paying attention to people who hide their sorrows under marriage . Be you and celebrate things that make you happy, that's the most important .
Very true.
You nailed it on the head. Is truly a Nigeria thing. Too bad though.
In Jenifa word - WAREVA
Anon1:46pm thats not what u were ask if some women are happy in there marriage or not, thats y u always falll exams, d simply answer is yes she is right no matter how much wealth u got if u are not married u won't be properly respected in d society is very simple and even a blind man knows is true....lots of people will want to intimidate u and match on your head and even step on your right.
Anon 1:50pm that's y u are still single cos u are selfish and unbearable, u don't want to hear or face d truth, but lk it or not she is right , if u are not married and ripe for marriage weather u are rich or not as long as u are due people will never respect u or take u serious even in your family.
Truth the say is bitter and painful. What is there to respect in an unmarried matured adult?
I agree wit her.i am a young married woman,the respect I receive in the society my elder single ones dont.it is not me they are respecting but my husband.so if u marry the right man u will be respected but if u are wit the wrong man.the society will know and u wuldnt be better off a single lady. Mrs Nike is 90percent right
Annomymous 1:50pm keep decieving yourself Oprah is not from African and she lives in d state where life is very simple and easy, and her level of intelligence is what u can never have or be so comparing yourself with her is stupid, unless u want to relocat to d US.
Sincerely speaking, most unmarried matured ladies are prone to promiscuity. Therefore, they tend to be afraid of commitment.
Wen u av a gud man u wil enjoy marriage n to b sincere it boarder ladies who ar of age bt dey wil neva agree. In dis part of d world wat d woman said is true.
She said many young people are impatient. Many of the who comment disagree with her. Old values which many of the young have throw away. Whitney Houston once sang... what's the point of having a dream without someone to share it with... All the success (men inclusive) without someone to love is nothing.
Gerrotta ma face! Rubbish!!! When its even getting as bad as women marrying women, yet they are not only successful, but some of them move and shake the world so much, they give us the pulse. Marriage is good no doubt. How can you begin to talk like that in 2014. See, the world has revolved so much. Nothing is as it seems any longer. Even orange they say... How about burning your certificates cos back in the good old days it was neither fashionable not respectable to be educated as a woman. R U B B I S H!!!
Very true talk... this our society has placed so much undue emphasis on getting a woman getting married so much that there is this unhealthy rat race by ladies to get married no matter what. This is destroying many people.
We tend to deny obvious facts and chose to lie to ourselves instead. We all know the truth. Needless say more.
R U B B I S H! Seriously, who talks like this in twenty fourteen? How about suppose she got married at 20 an unfortunately lost her hubby(God forbid) at 26 after three kids and refused to marry due to excessive love and obsession for her husband. Would she be talking like this today? She's only saying this cos GOD is on her side. This thinking is so seriously archaic to me. Say this 7-10 years ago, and yes, i would have agreed with you hundred percent. But 2014! Wait, is she saying that for example, Linda, successful but single as she is, is Linda any less respectable that successful married women who commit adultery?! ABEGI!!! Ask Onyeka Onwenu.
I agree with her .. Respect go deh embarrass you anywhere you go bcos of that title..ma ulo adi mma ma odighi!
*My R1.50c comment*
We tend to deny obvious facts and chose to lie to ourselves instead.
We all know the truth. Needless say more.
Unfortunately, Its true thanks to d kinda society we live in bt I think its wrong. Does this also apply to a successful bachelor? Its like the sole purpose 4a woman's creation is marriage
Say that to the female breadwinner... with an irrelevant husband....
Respect yourself and you will get respect.
Nigerians have been brained wired to think it is marriage that gives status.
She is a bad role model what is she teaching young girls and future leaders of tomorrow.That they need a man to be respected? Abeg she should park well.No everyone who has money has sense
Anon. 3.47PM. LOBATAN. Tell her. Can you believe that someone as educated and exposed of her calibre will utter such nonsense. So because of people that have no importance in your life respect, you should be married even if you are
Unhappy? That means she have no respect for a woman that is not married no matter how successful she is? So she have no respect for Onyeka Onwenu, Bola Shagaya, Sen. Florence Ita Giwa and Stella Okoli? Very offended statement. I will rather be single and happy than being married and unhappy.
What about widows? Do they lose respect? Abegi
I respect Oprah anytime, any day..
I will respect any woman that is valuable and contributes to society. whether you are married or not is irrelevant. How many lives has Oprah touched, these our I must Marry Nigerian women can they command half the respect Oprah commands?
I laugh in Spanish. Mrs Akande are you you're husband first wife and only wife???? Justice Inumidun Akande is married to your husband and also my mothers late friend Aunty Betty Ibadan had a child for him and also many other women. I would rather stay single than marry a man like that
this is Africa and not the west" Nigerians are always claiming the moral high ground yet we do every immoral thing and our society is one of the most corrupt on earth. The west you are talking about still manages to have a more sane society over all than out hypocritical society, which is religious but Godless. So please stop deceiving yourself and saying rubbish like this is Africa. Nigeria that weddings are rampant so is adultery, married men think it's their birth right to cheat is that the Africa you are referring to?
Anonymous 4:28 an unhappy and unhealthy marriage is a dead marriage, this woman and people like you are simply encouraging such. I have witnessed a couple of failed marriages. In most cases it is not the woman's fault and it didn't affect my respect for those women. You people should do away with this one sided archaic thinking. I will respect a woman that is valuable and contributes to society over a woman that offers nothing but a marriage certificate.
Don't generalize, when u say people say local, ignorant and backward, people. A lot of people respect Linda, marriage is not an achievement. I won't respect u, if u are suffering and smiling in an unhappy home
Na only when you dey married you fit born pikin? What if she adopts children. Abeg stop being ignorant.
How do you know they have psychological problems? What research did u conduct? Nigerians spread their ignorance with so much confidence. What of married women in abusive, unhappy marriages is there anything psychologically wrong with them?
This sermon on the mount of a parochial woman only applies in our male centered society. I am d issappointed that a woman with this sort of wealth and exposure will utter such nonsense. Rubbish!
A good number of Nigerian marriages are unhappy marriages but because of our society, the women endure. A society were married men chase women more than the single ones. Yet they make it sound like marriage is the greatest thing on earth. It is because we place emphasis on such thin that our society is soo backward. You are not interested in what contributions a woman makes to society but you are interested in her wedding ring or marriage certificate, if that is not the height of foolishness what is?
Stupid woman and a stupid statement, she is essentially saying women need men to gain respect. She also doesn't explain why, she just states.
"id rather be single and happy "is a cliche that lonely mature singles use to console themselves the ones i know cry and harass their men for marriage why is that?? so what are we talking about heheheheh
Even Oprah has a man that has stood by her over all these years
Lacks legitimacy? In whose eyes? Society or God? Na wa o.
This yeye stingy old mama you'll make her up and she'll pay 2k akagum
It's funny when Nigerian's try to form "educated" and "exposed".Mummy Nike Akande just stated an observation and there's a plethora of evidence to support her statement and denying it or displacing her statement as fallacy or archaic talk is perverse .She did not say Oya everybody give married women more respect or please oo don't give single people respect! She just stated what she has observed and people especially agadi and mgbeke single ladies are crying, mistcheewww.
Be using Oprah as comparison, like Oprah has not had a common law partner for over 3 decades, awon odes. Even in America where liberalism is at it's peak, matrimony is still very much respected, abi have you seen a divorced or separated president before? Even after Clinton's saga, Hilary didn't divorce him because apart from love and forgiveness, she would need to stay married to him for her future political ambition. Abeg Nigerian single ladies should park well joor and marry if you want respect so much.Trust me If you know what married women suffer in their homes and how the they break their backs to keep it,you will understand why they are respected and the respect compared to worth they go through for men and kids is little or nothing!
So therefore if you want to join the league of respected unhappy Nigerian wives go ahead or you can choose to remain in the league of disrespected happy single Nigerian ladies.
I'm single of marriageable age and I have chosen to remain as such, if I get older and lonely I will adopt a child or two children and give them good and stable lives with the help of God. Marriage is not by force and personally I don't see it as an achievement. I see it as a putting up with bullshit course that never ends, biko hapu that respect bullshit,single hood rocks, they can keep their respect, as long as I'm not using it to pay my bills I don't need it!
It is a travesty that a woman of Madam Nike Akande's standing can come out with such an unguarded statement. Is she saying that the female successful leaders, professionals, captains of industry, elders etc that I won't name here in Nigeria are unworthy of respect because they are either divorced, unmarried or without a man? That is so sad that she peddles such jaded opinions. People and particularly women like her are why we have domestic violence that ends in a death on the rise. There are a multitude of reasons why some women old and young are unmarried or divorced that is completely beyond anyone's control. Why should we judge or castigate such women? What we need is for women to support and uplift one another instead of casting aspersions on those that are unmarried for some reason. Then she might as well ask all unmarried or divorced women to commit suicide because the are worthless to society. I am appalled by her utterances. I used to place her in high regard, but not anymore. Even if that is how the society we live in here in Nigeria thinks, it is people like her with all her exposure that should stand up to reorientate the misnomer the an unmarried or divorced woman is a nonentity. This is disgraceful madam and you should be ashamed of yourself. All your associates that are unmarried or divorced women now see that you deem them to be inferiors. Very tragic!
Why wait for our children when we are living the nightmare right now? Where will our children even learn how to change the status quo?
Excuseee mee!!! How can a successful woman like yourself who should be looked up to by young Nigerian ladies make such irrational statement?? I am beyond shocked. Is she encouraging the act of inequality we are trying to combat in our dear country?? By saying you will not be respected unless you are married, is she saying the young women who go to dine at restaurants and are sent away because they are not in the company of a man deserve such treatment?? Because they are not married?? I am so offended by this. lol So the successful women that aren't allowed to stay in a high end apartments in Lagos, because their landlord wouldn't let his property to single women, deserve that?? Mahn, coming from this lady, I am so offended, normally i wouldn't even be bothered by statements like this because, I would just overlook such ignorance. This some bullshit tho. A MAN DOES NOT DEFINE YOUR EXISTENCE, IF YOU WONT RESPECT ME AS A SINGLE SUCCESSFUL WOMAN, YOUNG OR OLD, DONT FUCKING RESPECT ME WHEN I GET MARRIED. FOH WITH YOUR RESPECT!
Well said.
Stand up for yourself. You're not the one with the problem.
You sound like a wife beater.
That's why Africa is still undeveloped. Backward cultures with no value system.
Still does not make the comments fair. If people disrespect women based on their marital status we all should fight against such. And not accept it. Don't forget that people still get more respect based on their race. It's the truth but is it right and should we accept it?
I was very successful by 29. I decided to follow society nd got married. Fast Forward 8 years I'm broke nd single. The precious hubby who got me society's respect borrowed, stole nd squandered my wealth. He ported to the next successful woman. So am I now back to being unworthy of respect?
What is their respect really worth to you?
Linda take note.
I agree with u and anon y mouse 12.05pm...so Oprah is not respected? Pls that's just a backward, uncivilized, old mentality that does not apply in today's world.
I wonder, all these village nigerian market woman thinking.
You are a product of a backward sexist society that's why you can assume that they are unmarried because 'no man wants to wife them'. Any woman on earth can get a husband tomorrow as long as she completely lowers her standards and compromises to the point where the male is a mere living thing and not much else.
But its not called a husband so you've made no sense.
Perfectly said!
Bonario yes u are very correct. It's d perception in our society. O di kwa egwu oh.
Well said
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