Dear married men, powerful messages from pastor Tony Rapu to you
Popular Lagos pastor, Tony Rapu of the Present House Church Lagos, took to his Twitter account to give profound advise to married men. It's a must read! See more messages after the cut...
At anon 12:54....it's apparent uhav so much hatred for islam..and really I won't blame buh those that hide behind islam to do miserable things....buh u nid to learn my dear...dis has got nothing to do wif religion but individual character...try do ur research and u will be convinced that islam makes u respect women....God bless u..linda abeg post
@Anon 11:01AM- could it be that you are actually a sad person who likes to sit and cry all day? or you have been turned into this person? My dear, don't allow the devil eat ur soul oh! I always tell ppl: NO MAN CAN FRUSTRATE ME. If my future husband turns my home to hell, I will walk out. Cos at d end of d day, my life is what matters and I am responsible for it!! So let me tell you, if you commit suicide you are going to hell fire. Because you didn't give yourself that life and you have no right to take it or even think or murdering those innocent kids. How dare you say you are thinking of ending it all? Because of a man?? Are you ok? If he don't appreciate you, someone else will. SO get your sorry ass from up there and get your life in motion. Na wa oh!! Women ehn! Na una dey make all these men feel like superstar. As for me I will love and respect a darling husband, but if he turns into a monster, he should watch me leave with my kids. Cant take that rubbish from ANY man. Did I come to this world because of man? Abi I came to fulfil whatever purpose God send me for? If that man isn't as good a support system as I will be, then na him luck.
Marriage is all abt compromise. . To u ladies dont expect all dis frm a man cos if u wait for a man dat will do all these to u.. u must actually die first so u can hook up with Lord jesus
Lol! I read a comment like 'we muslims dont hv baby mamas and who told u such is allowed in christianity??any marriage dt is nt d likes of Adam n Eve is of d satan!God did nt made anytin more than that.in islam women are just slaves..u brag with divorced???hahaha no wonder one among d funny prpht wives was so.. Scared of it,dt she hv to give her turn to Aisha.due to d fact of her old age n d prpht could nt hv interest on her again but rather ..to d younger fish he brought (lust). What happened to d women ur men sleeps with,after 2--3 kids they send them out with divorced 3? They married more than 4 let me tell u,only if they wil count all d women they hv affairs with.a man will send his wife packin,dt she must sleep with another before he takes her back.what nonsense.
Stubborn person u are. All he said is true. Leave ur wife side and play ur own part and see how everything will fall in line. Nigerian men always scared of their wife being in control. It only happen when u did not obey God's role for husband.
Y wunt u guys suffer it, wen u wuld leave men dat love u, and go 4 d rich ones, who told u dey don't knw u married dem coz of dia money. #tonguestickingout
Pastor Tony Rapu, if u have all this to go on social media and write this long message, how much time do u spend with ur wife then? Ok we have heard but pls send this message to ur colleague Pastor Chris Okotie
Islam allows your men to fornicate abi, but Christianity doesn't allow such any christian man who does that have sinned but Muslim men brag about it....Animals!
That's not what he meant by talk to your wife as your equal. No, he's saying that when you talk to your wife, talk with respect, don't try to make her feel less of a human being or that you see her as anything less. In other words, talk to her like you would want to be spoken to.
Madam, if he's beating you, run for your life, b4 u end up like that banker. If it's another thing, try oooo. But if u try nothing happen, take leg waka go! Some men just don't realize they have a gem until they've lost it. Pele ooo
Really pity your wife; you come across as a very proud, cocky, heady, know-it-all, and mean-minded man. There is also a gall of bitterness in you, please seek help and get healed. Life can be beautiful. Wishing your wife all the best in her effort to help you.
When a man is in love he becomes a poet, when the marriage fails (or falls our of love, he will become a philosopher.
It is often said that does who don't know teach, how many of these advice does he do or has actually done and will be faithfully in doing? Time will tell.
As no two people are the same, marriages are different and no same principles are true for all.
Anon 5:04 and 9:01 you took the words out of my mouth. 24/7 this husband of mine is on lindaikeji blog, I hope he sees this and changes. He has the capacity to be all this pastor has said, but the African man ego won't let him. I'm only 6months in marriage with a baby on the way, the only reason I'm still here is because I remember my vows, I want to do my best and I don't want this child to be born without his father present, May God help Me and see me through and you women too.
Mr. Biddies, I really pity your wife, cos you sound like a very difficult man. In fact, you come across as proud, cocky, heady, know-it-all kind of man, living satisfied in his deluded state of mind. Wishing your wife all the best in her efforts to help you.
It's amazing how all these men are already talking about how it isn't easy etc. imagine all the unimaginable they make women endure and pass through all in the name of culture and sometimes even religion; but simple advice to treat your wives well, make her happy so that you'll have a happy home..... And they are already making excuses and seeing "the impossible". Thank God guys like you are only a portion of men in the country, guys are starting to step up and show more interest in making their wife happy thereby building a strong unified family and all the good men will get all the good deserving women while guys like you wallow in your negative backward mentalities and lose out!
And it shows how bitchy u r madan anonymous. Thumbs up bro, no mind that con man. Na dem dey spoil our women. Imagine telling a man to wash the dishes for her! Abeg na Africa be dis. Everybody get en own culture.
I believe a lot of peeps here have gotten the idea of the Dr Rapu's tweet wrong, it's a GUIDE on how to treat a woman not LAW...it's not literal. No need to insult Mr Rapu or people with their opinions that seem myopic, "old school" or darn right ludicrous...
Anon 6:30 am, so following the instruction of God that says you should love your wife is not one of the things needed for a marriage to work, right? But you only want women to be submissive and tolerant but decided to ignore other instructions from the bible addressed to men. That's just delusional!! FYI, if your wife is submissive to you but she's miserable because of your actions or treatment then that home isn't working, the husband is only a selfish head-of-household and it's only a matter of time before the cracks start to show either in the husband's progression in life or even negative effects on the children; and it will be the doing of the father who is meant to be the head and protector of that family.
Jesus! Pastor Tony You just said exactly what my supposed husband has been doing and more. I wish he cld c this. To think we r plenty in this kind of thing. Its a shame to married men who have failed in their responsibility
Great article...Interesting read....Some men do not just get the fact that if you treat your wife well she will find it very easy to do all she needs to do to take care of you and the family (at least in most cases). These same men will bend over backwards to care for other women or ex-girlfriends (even comparing their wives to them). Some will buy them gifts and would have never bought the wife a gift.
Great article...Interesting read....Some men do not just get the fact that if you treat your wife well she will find it very easy to do all she needs to do to take care of you and the family (at least in most cases). These same men will bend over backwards to care for other women or ex-girlfriends (even comparing their wives to them). Some will buy them gifts and would have never bought the wife a gift.
Good bless u pastor. Keep it coming and by the way he I s talking about marriage btw a man n woman not Adam n Steve, Eve and Eva or married men and side chicks or jump off!
Thank you very much Dr Tony Rapu. In a time of failed marriages it nice to get guild lines for free. I myself have been married 2yrs now and you address some personal issues. Well said.
Fellow men, I know this advice is a bit hard but we can at least try some of them.If its our babes nau we'll have creative ideas to keep them engaged so lets try small biko...
#marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen Thank you Pastor! you are a life saver! *getting ready to mail hubby*
Dear future husband,be a gentleman and save these tweets to use as a guideline for your actions in your marriage to me or else... Thank you Pastor Tony! you are a life saver!
Anonymous Said... What will my Children say to me as a father,when they are grown up?What will i say to my father even as a grown up?That he did not leave to expectation,So i should do the same? Never!!! Thank you Pastor Tony for inspiring and admonishing us #Men.
Its only God that will help me in this marriage. tears has become my companion ,I am emotional frustrated. who do I talk to, who do I run to. My help will come from God .He will never forsake, He will never fail me.AMEN
i wish i am this pastor's wife so i can confirm. and like all this would put food on the table and sent kids to school. abeg... i am segun. #environment matters#.
Intense Words!#VeryTrue Lord have mercy on us all. Grant us d grace o Lord to do right alwys! It isn't easy but with God's grace #MarriedMen can do it all!
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 261 of 261At anon 12:54....it's apparent uhav so much hatred for islam..and really I won't blame buh those that hide behind islam to do miserable things....buh u nid to learn my dear...dis has got nothing to do wif religion but individual character...try do ur research and u will be convinced that islam makes u respect women....God bless u..linda abeg post
The pastor is so on point.I am married to a really great man,but there are still lessons to be learnt here.
I am going to ask him to read this ASAP.
@Anon 11:01AM- could it be that you are actually a sad person who likes to sit and cry all day? or you have been turned into this person?
My dear, don't allow the devil eat ur soul oh! I always tell ppl: NO MAN CAN FRUSTRATE ME. If my future husband turns my home to hell, I will walk out. Cos at d end of d day, my life is what matters and I am responsible for it!!
So let me tell you, if you commit suicide you are going to hell fire. Because you didn't give yourself that life and you have no right to take it or even think or murdering those innocent kids. How dare you say you are thinking of ending it all? Because of a man?? Are you ok?
If he don't appreciate you, someone else will. SO get your sorry ass from up there and get your life in motion. Na wa oh!! Women ehn! Na una dey make all these men feel like superstar.
As for me I will love and respect a darling husband, but if he turns into a monster, he should watch me leave with my kids. Cant take that rubbish from ANY man. Did I come to this world because of man? Abi I came to fulfil whatever purpose God send me for? If that man isn't as good a support system as I will be, then na him luck.
Marriage is all abt compromise. . To u ladies dont expect all dis frm a man cos if u wait for a man dat will do all these to u.. u must actually die first so u can hook up with Lord jesus
Lol! I read a comment like 'we muslims dont hv baby mamas and who told u such is allowed in christianity??any marriage dt is nt d likes of Adam n Eve is of d satan!God did nt made anytin more than that.in islam women are just slaves..u brag with divorced???hahaha no wonder one among d funny prpht wives was so.. Scared of it,dt she hv to give her turn to Aisha.due to d fact of her old age n d prpht could nt hv interest on her again but rather ..to d younger fish he brought (lust). What happened to d women ur men sleeps with,after 2--3 kids they send them out with divorced 3? They married more than 4 let me tell u,only if they wil count all d women they hv affairs with.a man will send his wife packin,dt she must sleep with another before he takes her back.what nonsense.
Stubborn person u are. All he said is true. Leave ur wife side and play ur own part and see how everything will fall in line. Nigerian men always scared of their wife being in control. It only happen when u did not obey God's role for husband.
Am not sure there are lazier men around than Naija men. What! They be moving around all proud and lazy
See as una just dey curse, shay. Una fast?
Y wunt u guys suffer it, wen u wuld leave men dat love u, and go 4 d rich ones, who told u dey don't knw u married dem coz of dia money. #tonguestickingout
its so sad, guys in the house keep quite and read the comments of women that are hurt. it's so sad you marry a wife and mk her wish she ends her life.
Pastor Tony Rapu, if u have all this to go on social media and write this long message, how much time do u spend with ur wife then? Ok we have heard but pls send this message to ur colleague Pastor Chris Okotie
Islam allows your men to fornicate abi, but Christianity doesn't allow such any christian man who does that have sinned but Muslim men brag about it....Animals!
Lol! Thank u! So the day United play Real Madrid in the Champs Lge final, I should leave the game and follow my wife to the supermarket? Impossicant!
Gbam!
I pity your wife, nkita
That's not what he meant by talk to your wife as your equal. No, he's saying that when you talk to your wife, talk with respect, don't try to make her feel less of a human being or that you see her as anything less. In other words, talk to her like you would want to be spoken to.
Madam, if he's beating you, run for your life, b4 u end up like that banker. If it's another thing, try oooo. But if u try nothing happen, take leg waka go! Some men just don't realize they have a gem until they've lost it. Pele ooo
You are a fool for this comment. Leave man of God out of this matter.
Simply put: Men be slaves to your wives. Any man who does ALL these should not be on earth. He should be an angel. We are still human likewise women
Really pity your wife; you come across as a very proud, cocky, heady, know-it-all, and mean-minded man. There is also a gall of bitterness in you, please seek help and get healed. Life can be beautiful. Wishing your wife all the best in her effort to help you.
From a fellow man like you.
When a man is in love he becomes a poet, when the marriage fails (or falls our of love, he will become a philosopher.
It is often said that does who don't know teach, how many of these advice does he do or has actually done and will be faithfully in doing? Time will tell.
As no two people are the same, marriages are different and no same principles are true for all.
Yeah, try telling that to my hubby who thinks the world revolves around him and his selfish acts. Little did he know but if only he knew....uhmm
Anon 5:04 and 9:01 you took the words out of my mouth. 24/7 this husband of mine is on lindaikeji blog, I hope he sees this and changes. He has the capacity to be all this pastor has said, but the African man ego won't let him. I'm only 6months in marriage with a baby on the way, the only reason I'm still here is because I remember my vows, I want to do my best and I don't want this child to be born without his father present, May God help
Me and see me through and you women too.
Dearest hubby u are trying i mst commend but you can do better.....thnk God u read ikeji's blog..hehe
The whole truth has been said in this piece....submission and tolerance. All else comes with the terrain
Bitches! And you, you're proud of your shameful treatment of your husband. It will soon dawn on u. Anuohia.
No mind these business men wey talk say dem be pastors. Visit their homes and you'd be astonished as to how they treat their wives
Mr. Biddies, I really pity your wife, cos you sound like a very difficult man. In fact, you come across as proud, cocky, heady, know-it-all kind of man, living satisfied in his deluded state of mind. Wishing your wife all the best in her efforts to help you.
From a man like you.
People dey yarn aha...Passion of Christ in deed
This ass hole that goes by the name Nike. What is with u and the phrase ' weak Naija men'. E be like say ur papa na weak man.
And only a loser knows one when she sees him! Bitch
It's amazing how all these men are already talking about how it isn't easy etc. imagine all the unimaginable they make women endure and pass through all in the name of culture and sometimes even religion; but simple advice to treat your wives well, make her happy so that you'll have a happy home..... And they are already making excuses and seeing "the impossible". Thank God guys like you are only a portion of men in the country, guys are starting to step up and show more interest in making their wife happy thereby building a strong unified family and all the good men will get all the good deserving women while guys like you wallow in your negative backward mentalities and lose out!
Yours is the best comment thus far. Exactly my thoughts.
Abeg help me ask am. A woman that loves ne should be able to respect my very cherished past time- Football. I can't forgo it.
And it shows how bitchy u r madan anonymous. Thumbs up bro, no mind that con man. Na dem dey spoil our women. Imagine telling a man to wash the dishes for her! Abeg na Africa be dis. Everybody get en own culture.
Why marry her then? Why not leave her alone if u cannot be the man described above?
I am not married yet but I have a fiancée. I have found out that my relationship with her has been happier since I do most part of all the pastor wrote. We are wedding in December and I am not going back on making her happy. I have realized that she keeps being an angel as long as I keep making our home/ relationship a paradise. Come to think of it angels can only be found in paradise. I thank God I met her,she is a wonderful lady.
I believe a lot of peeps here have gotten the idea of the Dr Rapu's tweet wrong, it's a GUIDE on how to treat a woman not LAW...it's not literal. No need to insult Mr Rapu or people with their opinions that seem myopic, "old school" or darn right ludicrous...
Anon 6:30 am, so following the instruction of God that says you should love your wife is not one of the things needed for a marriage to work, right? But you only want women to be submissive and tolerant but decided to ignore other instructions from the bible addressed to men. That's just delusional!! FYI, if your wife is submissive to you but she's miserable because of your actions or treatment then that home isn't working, the husband is only a selfish head-of-household and it's only a matter of time before the cracks start to show either in the husband's progression in life or even negative effects on the children; and it will be the doing of the father who is meant to be the head and protector of that family.
Jesus! Pastor Tony You just said exactly what my supposed husband has been doing and more. I wish he cld c this. To think we r plenty in this kind of thing. Its a shame to married men who have failed in their responsibility
Great article...Interesting read....Some men do not just get the fact that if you treat your wife well she will find it very easy to do all she needs to do to take care of you and the family (at least in most cases).
These same men will bend over backwards to care for other women or ex-girlfriends (even comparing their wives to them). Some will buy them gifts and would have never bought the wife a gift.
Great article...Interesting read....Some men do not just get the fact that if you treat your wife well she will find it very easy to do all she needs to do to take care of you and the family (at least in most cases).
These same men will bend over backwards to care for other women or ex-girlfriends (even comparing their wives to them). Some will buy them gifts and would have never bought the wife a gift.
Good bless u pastor. Keep it coming and by the way he I s talking about marriage btw a man n woman not Adam n Steve, Eve and Eva or married men and side chicks or jump off!
Hear this one especially if no men pls don't call her mummy she is not ur mum! Nice one Lol
Hear this one especially if igbo men pls don't call her mummy she is not ur mum! Nice one Lol
Thank you very much Dr Tony Rapu. In a time of failed marriages it nice to get guild lines for free. I myself have been married 2yrs now and you address some personal issues. Well said.
A welcome advice in these selfish, loveless times! God bless you sir! May we continually drink from the streams of your knowledge!
We marry, then we forget the wahala we had to go through to marry and eventually we totally ignore our spouses.Pastor Tony Rapu,I repent! I repent!
Fellow men, I know this advice is a bit hard but we can at least try some of them.If its our babes nau we'll have creative ideas to keep them engaged so lets try small biko...
#marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen #marriedmen
Thank you Pastor! you are a life saver! *getting ready to mail hubby*
Dear future husband,be a gentleman and save these tweets to use as a guideline for your actions in your marriage to me or else...
Thank you Pastor Tony! you are a life saver!
Anonymous Said...
What will my Children say to me as a father,when they are grown up?What will i say to my father even as a grown up?That he did not leave to expectation,So i should do the same? Never!!! Thank you Pastor Tony for inspiring and admonishing us #Men.
Its only God that will help me in this marriage. tears has become my companion ,I am emotional frustrated. who do I talk to, who do I run to. My help will come from God .He will never forsake, He will never fail me.AMEN
like am one angel, who is ready to open up his mouth and be shit in. if all this are reciprocal, then it's fine. i am segun.
i wish i am this pastor's wife so i can confirm. and like all this would put food on the table and sent kids to school. abeg... i am segun. #environment matters#.
Am sorry to hear my sis is having a hard time. Stop cring clean your tears bcos I know thereally is light at the end of the tunnel.
I claim these qualities for my boo/future husband in Jesus name! Amen!!
Intense Words!#VeryTrue Lord have mercy on us all. Grant us d grace o Lord to do right alwys! It isn't easy but with God's grace #MarriedMen can do it all!
#G.Babe
nice one pastor...
Wow, you have no regard for God at all...
I wish my husband will read this. At least it's from a fellow man who has taken time to analyze man and wife relationship. God bless you richly Sir.
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