My wife and I hardly ever have sex. We've been married for a year and the most we have sex is twice a month. I see her naked body everyday and I get urges, but she always gives an excuse. We had amazing sex when were dating, but now we don't even kiss. I just want to have sex. I don't mind even if it's horrible sex. That's why I've been cheating on her.
For me, my wife's job is to have good sex with me. Simple. I can pay someone to cook for me and clean the house, but if I hire a prostitute to do what my wife doesn't want to do, then I am a bad man?
A study said that married couples
have sex on average of 58 times a year. That's rounds off to a little
more than once a week. This is very sad. You know the worst
part? Married couples lie about their sex lives, and the actual numbers
are much lower. It's the women's fault! We men are always good to go.
All I have to say is shame on all you
women! Shame! You complain that men are dogs and they will always step
out! Why wouldn't they step out Ehn? When you wouldn't let YOUR OWN
HUSBAND STEP IN! why wouldn't they step out?
Do you even know the worst part
Linda? SHE KNOWS!!! she knows how much I love sex. Yet she deliberately,
knowingly denies me. I can't tell you how many times I've laid in
bed and I try to touch her and she immediately starts making excuses. So
so so so so many times that I can't even count.
Then she will say "It's not easy to
be a woman. I work so hard. I have to go to work and still come back to
take care of the kids. I have to make dinner, wash the dishes, do the
laundry, and I still have to wake up early to get the kids ready for
school before I go to work." You see, If she didn't stop my sexual
advances every night, then maybe I would actually get up and help her.
Women need to try this- Wear
something sexy, ride your man like a cowgirl, and give him a blowjob
like you're trying to suck out diamonds from his tube, then what
will you ask him+ for that he will say no? Maybe for her sex doesn't
matter, but it matters to me.
Then she will complain when I go out
to get it from Nnenna, then she starts disturbing my life that who is
Nnenna? Nnenna is the woman who is doing what she is too lazy to do.
I love my wife and kids, and I will never leave them. .But for
me, Nnenna is the assistant wife, she will have sex with me so that I
don't have to be shamelessly begging my wife everyday for what she is
supposed to give that she keeps denying me"
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 380 of 380Am not proud to say this but I cld almost fit for the woman in this story.
Men however need to understand that as much as we women want to please our husbands, we also have like 1 million other things running through our minds at the same time.
Help your wife with the chores, children and even work when she brings it home and I promise you would notice a big change.
There is no excuse for committing sin. Men are usually fond of giving excuses for committing adultery. I love sex but my husband hardly sleeps with me. We have not make love for months now but that will not be an excuse for me to have an uche outside to relief me of my sexual urge. Remember on the day of judgement, you will give account of your sins.
You are not a bad man. I am a woman and I don't think you are bad. As long as you are taking good care of your family, ride on! Ernm, sorry, enjoy....
You have been married for 1yr, and your wife has kids to take care of? I don't understand...
U know what, try swapping roles with your wife for a few days and see if you'l have the frigging energy to 'do' Nnenna. Mtshewwwww......... #rubbish. Dere is absolutely no justification for sin.
So, u've been married for a year and u have kids already????? Except u had those kids outta wedlock. If not... This story is a lie!!!!!!!
my husband has sex with me on average once in 2months. i want to have sex 5 times a week. if i see someone for sex outside my marriage does it make me a bad woman?
Wait. This story doesn't add up! You've been married for a year and you have how many kids?
You r definately not a bad man, but it is only when u r in a working mother and wife's shoes that u'l understand. Ur wife truly wish for a wonderful sex too, but just too tired to do it, u have to help her out with chores to lessen her burden. IF U R NOT A MARRIED WORKING MOTHER, U WON'T UNDERSTAND
Av u asked urself y. Sone men complain about not gettin any frm tgeir wife but in truth it might b becos u treat her bad. Men talk lovingly to their gf but not a single respect to deir wives n den ecpect her to jump to u wen u get urges. Treat your woman well n she will jump n even make u scream every time.
Well, you may need to understand that combining domestic chores and being a working class mother, wife and lover can be extremely time and energy consuming. However I strongly believe there's a way out of this. You should try communicating your feelings to her and also understand hers, if there's a need to get a help in form of nannies,cooks etc then I think you should on order to keep your marriage intact. It's too earl in your marriage to be faced with issues like this that can easily be tackled. As a christian you should also try and seek God together in your home. Nnenna won't help your marriage trust me.. God's grace!!..
Lazy man. He doesn't help out at home to balance the stress on his wife but wants all the benefits.
Dis story is fake joor, dey r married for jst a year and he is talking abt "kids”. Ooh, mayb dey had triplet. Next plz... Cheat if u lik #not interested smiley#
Yah u may b a bad man b4 God which u shld b more concern about. There's what's called "contract marriage" y don't u look in to that?? And as 4 ur wife u really need to dig out if she's not having an affair just like she's pushed u in to. Having. 1 with Nnenna. Oops sorry to d other Nnennasssss *wink* Lol
Shut up what is there doing house work and taking care of kids. Am a woman and i like sex any how na my husband dey slack. I pray make i no cheat on am o.
You mumu oooh... See stupid question, or you didn't read where the man said he do assist his wife in most of the chores? "That he had to go to work and still come back to take care of the kids, make dinner, wash the dishes, do the laundry, and I still have to wake up early to get the kids ready for school before, then go to work." which Nigerian Man does such for his wife?. If you have nothing useful to say pls keep shut...
U shld go see a marriage counsellor..u cannot justify ur sinful acts.. help her wiv the housechores let her see reason for d need for sex in the marriage. Women shld also learn to satisty der husbands in all aspects so d husband will have know reason to cheat
It shouldn't be a question of whether you're a bad man or not. The point is what you're doing is bad and you most def know this. What she's doing too is bad but she probably doesn't realize this. Talk to her, like seriously open up, she's your wife for heaven's sake. Tell her EVERYTHING, how you feel and what it drives you to do. Also, be willing to help her, is it till she answers you before you'll think of helping her. Relieve the stress and let's see what excuse she comes up with next, in that event, you're allowed to blow up( not cheat; scold her good). All the best sha, no be small thing.
Gbam!
Ur not o
God increase my sexual urge as a wife.
Kai lots of stupid people commenting here. If you re dumb pls say so, so people could interprete for you... Smh. Go back and read where he said he do assist his wife with the chores.
u are married for a year nd u av kids? Na wa o
Your wife is banging her boss.
Lol@spiritual husband. But I honestly feel your pain. There is really no justification for sin. If U and ur wife had a better sex life before marriage, what if d house chores plus children's demand is too overwhelming for her? I think if u love her so much as u claim, den both of u shld either seek counsellin or get her a nanny, take ur clothes to d dry-cleaner, get a chef/cook, security man or assist her in doin d house chores. I'm she works 9 to 5pm too. My point is, make ur marriage work! And be born again, AGAIN!
Yes,you are a very selfish. Why not help her out with the house chores,or would it make you less a man?one of my highlights as a little child was watching my parents divide work among themselves,my mum would make breakfast and my dad would bath us.this is the 21st century,grow up!
You are a disgrace to the male gender.
Truth be told, men are more sex inclined then the women, but you are waiting for her to satisfy you sexually before you assist her with the house chores and taking care of the kids..Whose house? whose kids?
Turn a new leaf, do the house chores and then help her with the kids and thanks me later
"You see, If she didn't stop my sexual advances every night, then maybe I would actually get up and help her" can you imagine???
Una just marry 1year and una get kids, ok una de born b4 marriage? Ehen she don give u everything when she surpose give u inside marriage wen una never marry. U guys should communicate plus try to help out too. With chores.
Hahahahaha.........this man is really frustrated. Suck the diamonds from his tube? Abeg o e never tay since I clock 18. This one no concern me bye bye
Hmmm where do I start? I understand u are frustrated and all that but....why don't u try helping her or getting her help instead of waiting for her to suck out the diamonds first. You make it sound like unless she satisfies you, you aint going to help. Have u ever heard this statement "love making starts from the kitchen" apart from foreplay one of ways to get ur wife turned on is by helping her. You can't cross you legs and watch her working for hours,(u don't lift a finger to help) and den expect her to be a tiger in bed. Is she the real standford wife?? Start helping ur wife or get her some help I guarantee u will c changes unless mayb she doesn't love u. And all ye experts on spiritual husbands.....okay ohhh. The woman might jst be tired let's not over spiritualize everything....kai I don talk today oh
I like this guy... No you ain't bad, it's a pity.. cause if you guyz continue like this, your marriage would collapse. I hope she is a LIB reader. .. So she would see and correct her wrongs.
You are not busy at all, that's why you have time for Nnenna. HIV is real.
Am kind of confused here,u ve been married for a year and the kids did u born children together before marriage? Anyways talk to your wife because even the bible said cuple should not be denying each other sex(ist corinthians 6 vs 3-5.)So she should wake up to her responsibility and stop giving excuses.as for you mr husband,nnenna's sex patner,repent and work on ur marriage,don't allow a side chick to destroy your home.sin is sin and God don't take sin of adultery lightly.
Awww, d guy's really frustrated. I read dis story and I think, 'we are rily compatible!' I don't think I'd eva refuse my man sex. Just touch me on d ryt spots, and u'd be beggin 4 mercy. Cos when I suck u, and then ride on ur dick??...lemme jst leave it der. Its no bragging, its #fact
JUICE
Ok,the guy is obviously frustrated!!! But at d same time,its wrong to deny ur hubby sex all d time.granted dt der are times u mayb extremely tired but then,it doesn't ve to b all d time
I hope ur dear wife reads this blog,..probably dat'll help her re-adjust cos this gbege might lead to somtin else..if she doesn't read LIB, may God help u both...and u're not a bad man for loving ur kids and wife still... Hmm nnenna!
Mr Husband, try sharing the chores with her. She has a lot to deal with that's why she's already tired when she lays in bed with you.
Try to lighten her load by doing some of the chores and she will have some time to rest and relax with you.
Yes, you are a VERY BAD man.try helpoing her out a little with all she does and see if she won't become a bull in bed. If she sleeps off in the process of having sex with her as a result of tiredness,you will come and announce on LIB again. (˘̯˘ ) .
My advice- help her out with all what you listed and you will get sex 365 days a year.
Aibekay
You've been married for a year and you have kids she has to get ready for school???? This story doesn't add up abeg!
**OBY***
I can't stop lafing , I don't know what to say cause linda am not married and I don't know how to handle sex issues and I don't have a boy friend yet I think is for matured mind and am up to, let me not talk because others are talking, pray you get a good response
Oga... Every woman gets turned on when dey see how romantic n sensitive there men are to them. If can assist her with the domestic chores and give her a treat of her choice every once a week. Your wife's hormones and sexual urge will accelerate. Stop complainin and start assisting. Try and find out what her challenge is and help her find a solution to it. Remember she was a wonderful sex partner when u guys were single.
Ithink you should call her,talk to her and also help her with some house chores,u ll see that with time she will change.Pls ignore Nnenna side she will only jeopardize your marriage.
Eh ya sorry! Similar thing happened to my friend. Thru out the period his wife was preggy he had none, even about 2mths after! He complained to some ppl that could talk to her (after he had tried speaking to her to no avail), they talked, she cried and yet continued witholding sex. So he gave up and no longer complains!...I don't know what he's up to no oh!!! But u guys shd understand small with females! The average female doesn't like sex and can do without it. Most married women just do so becos of need for children and then to keep the man from "sin". I think u shd pray and talk to her again, try to make her see reason. U r logically not bad, but u will go to hell if u die now...and that's it, for me, I can't bear the thot of suffering on earth and then in eternity again! Tufiakwa! Instead I'll kukuma leave the entire sex thing!
My dear, I so wished where my husband been married for 4 years, if my hubby has come to me 4 sex I'm doubt if it's up to 4 times. I practically beg him 4 it. We have sex like 4 to 6 times in a whole year. Sometime last year, I had to cheat on him cos I was so frustrated, I still regret it though but he still has not changed. Really confused on wat to do now. Sex Deprived wife.
Is this story for real? You have been married for a year and you have kids????!! Haba! Make una sofry dey lie now, ehn??.
heiiyah, but let madam open leg na,shebi the guy don pay bride price. well hire male cook n cleaner(not female ooo), seriously all those chores saps her energy,try it urself and see if you'l not sleep off at not kitchen not to talk of energy to totori. please stop cheating, stop it, also try to make her have the big O,not just to satisfy urself only.
You are one of the unreasonable and selfish men out there. I was having compassion for you until you got to the point that your wife does all the house work aside working secularly. You have decided not to help her because she denies you sex. How selfish.... What do you take women for? Slaves, househelp or sex toy? Id your Nnenna has to do all that you said your wife does do you think she will still be glad to open her legs for you all the time you wish?
Young man before you destroy your marriage (because two can play that game you have started), have a heart to heart talk with your wife. Mention precisely how you feel each time you demand for sex and you are turned down. Commend her for all the sacrifices she is making for the family and show some appreciation. Then discuss or make practical suggestion on how you can relief her of some of the burden. If you are adverse to getting a help, then make arrangement to assist her with some of the chores and witness a positive change in your marriage from there.
I am a married woman. I work secularly. My husband is the most supportive man I have ever known. While I prepare dinner he helps me get the children ready for bed. Most time we are done at the same time. We listen to news together, communicate for some minutes before we retire to bed. Tell me how I can ever refuse such a man sex? The next money we get ready for work together. We have the most amazing marriage and sex life.
A word is enough for the wise. Mister, build your home. Nnenna will come, Nkechi will go but your family will always be there for you.Do not allow selfishness make you tear down what you have built and most importantly, pray to God to lead you right.
I wish you the very best.
Chai really feel your pain, you have to talk to her, but let's be honest that woman is so mean, but you no form this ur tory well oooo @We've been married for a year and another one is that@ take care of the kids hmmmmmmm I no understand oooooo,she just married and she can not satisfy her husband na woooo what kind thing metcheeeew
I can't stop lafing , I don't know what to say cause linda am not married and I don't know how to handle sex issues and I don't have a boy friend yet I think is for matured mind and am up to, let me not talk because others are talking, pray you get a good response
hmmmm......no more grinding for you
Ur house house must be very dirty, or u work five hours a day
First off, I'm a guy. I see what you're saying and yes it's a problem that needs fixing but I think part of the problem is you.
In today's world you said your wife's job is to have sex with you? Oga sir your wife is a person not an object of sex.
2nd from what you said the excuse your wife gives is that she is too tired after doing all the house chores. Fair enough she should make time to have sex but it sounds to me like you don't help in any house chores. Oga get your butt off the bed/time watching football or whatever and help out in YOUR own home.
My advice? Stop making excuses for cheating, control yourself, help out in the house and speak with your wife and find out why she's no longer interested in having sex considering the sex was amazing prior to marriage. Yes you can stop cheating....you first need to address things in YOUR marriage and change your mind from viewing your wife as an object of sex. She is a human being too.
Cheers.
C
I swear, this thing this guy is saying is a serious matter, If not for how much i love my sons, i would have pursued their mum a long time ago for this.This is outright emotional blackmail and irresponsibility on the part of most married women in Lagos , except a few truly born-again ones that knows better. Each time i get fed up with committing sins, this singular act drags me back. How can other women give me this thing anyhow, and even tell me thank you afterwards, and my very own wife that i married would be snicking into bed each night hoping i would have slept off.
This is becoming too rampant , and it is the fault of these white people that brought their religion telling us polygamy is now a straight way to hell. I am going to bring competition into my home, afteral, they say,competition brings out the best in us ..abi? o di Egwu!! am fed up!! If i do not enjoy this thing now that am still young , when would I do so. Cheii!!
First off, I'm a guy. I see what you're saying and yes it's a problem that needs fixing but I think part of the problem is you.
In today's world you said your wife's job is to have sex with you? Oga sir your wife is a person not an object of sex.
2nd from what you said the excuse your wife gives is that she is too tired after doing all the house chores. Fair enough she should make time to have sex but it sounds to me like you don't help in any house chores. Oga get your butt off the bed/time watching football or whatever and help out in YOUR own home.
My advice? Stop making excuses for cheating, control yourself, help out in the house and speak with your wife and find out why she's no longer interested in having sex considering the sex was amazing prior to marriage. Yes you can stop cheating....you first need to address things in YOUR marriage and change your mind from viewing your wife as an object of sex. She is a human being too.
Cheers.
C
You are one of the unreasonable and selfish men out there. I was having compassion for you until you got to the point that your wife does all the house work aside working secularly. You have decided not to help her because she denies you sex. How selfish.... What do you take women for? Slaves, househelp or sex toy? Id your Nnenna has to do all that you said your wife does do you think she will still be glad to open her legs for you all the time you wish?
Young man before you destroy your marriage (because two can play that game you have started), have a heart to heart talk with your wife. Mention precisely how you feel each time you demand for sex and you are turned down. Commend her for all the sacrifices she is making for the family and show some appreciation. Then discuss or make practical suggestion on how you can relief her of some of the burden. If you are adverse to getting a help, then make arrangement to assist her with some of the chores and witness a positive change in your marriage from there.
I am a married woman. I work secularly. My husband is the most supportive man I have ever known. While I prepare dinner he helps me get the children ready for bed. Most time we are done at the same time. We listen to news together, communicate for some minutes before we retire to bed. Tell me how I can ever refuse such a man sex? The next money we get ready for work together. We have the most amazing marriage and sex life.
A word is enough for the wise. Mister, build your home. Nnenna will come, Nkechi will go but your family will always be there for you.Do not allow selfishness make you tear down what you have built and most importantly, pray to God to lead you right.
I wish you the very best.
You are one of the unreasonable and selfish men out there. I was having compassion for you until you got to the point that your wife does all the house work aside working secularly. You have decided not to help her because she denies you sex. How selfish.... What do you take women for? Slaves, househelp or sex toy? Id your Nnenna has to do all that you said your wife does do you think she will still be glad to open her legs for you all the time you wish?
Young man before you destroy your marriage (because two can play that game you have started), have a heart to heart talk with your wife. Mention precisely how you feel each time you demand for sex and you are turned down. Commend her for all the sacrifices she is making for the family and show some appreciation. Then discuss or make practical suggestion on how you can relief her of some of the burden. If you are adverse to getting a help, then make arrangement to assist her with some of the chores and witness a positive change in your marriage from there.
I am a married woman. I work secularly. My husband is the most supportive man I have ever known. While I prepare dinner he helps me get the children ready for bed. Most time we are done at the same time. We listen to news together, communicate for some minutes before we retire to bed. Tell me how I can ever refuse such a man sex? The next money we get ready for work together. We have the most amazing marriage and sex life.
A word is enough for the wise. Mister, build your home. Nnenna will come, Nkechi will go but your family will always be there for you.Do not allow selfishness make you tear down what you have built and most importantly, pray to God to lead you right.
I wish you the very best.
Tah!!!! Ohabehinfu….
Oh man....i know how it is when u like something and your spouse doesnt. but there is really no justification for sin....whether she gives you a reason to, or not...besides, its marriage.
Can you get her to start a less stressful job or business? Do you help around with the house chores? Do u show her that you really care? or Do you just sit out with guys and come in late, expecting her to just give in? it may even be that you stopped caring...and that makes women cringe.
Above all, do you both TALK and PRAY together? COMMUNICATION isnt just abt what happened at work, or what is lacking in the house...its deeper than that. Get her to talk, and you will see and hear things...either you hurt her..or she has a distraction out there....and then, PRAY about issues..That works!!!
its tasking to handle several things at a time, ie, wifely and motherly roles, but you have to be patient....do you plan to cheat your whole life, when u have already started after a year?....i do not think so.
and hey...what do you call love? did you say you love your wife? and you cheat on her?...please find another word jare.
By all means, bro, get your marriage back, and put back that flavour that is missing. its HARD WORK, dear.
Mr african man d way to a womans heart is learn to assist, be soft, friendly and re assure her of ur love, sex for her will be more natural not trying to put her on like a blender evrynite
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Mr african man d way to a womans heart is learn to assist, be soft, friendly and re assure her of ur love, sex for her will be more natural not trying to put her on like a blender evrynite
Sorry o...Mr 'my wife is selfish.'...This Nnenna that is your side chick....does she have kids to take care of too? Does she have a home of her own to manage? Is she not going to collect money from u after u shag her? If yes, that means her service aint for free abi? And in the end your wife is the selfish one...? Rather than you following what dick tells you...at wateva time it tells u...y dont u just think and ask yourself if you have helped your wife with some of the burden in d house at that time before you go attend to the needs of your dick. Everything you have said on your post is really piss taking...you should have simply told your wife that you only married for strictly sex...then easy...you sort out how your kids and the home will b taken care of
Hahahaha.... another assistant wife spotted... Hi Nnenna
Lol...u don craze oo
*vanchuks*
Oga wake she is already chitting on you
oga wake up she is already chittin on you
My dear,wen ur car breaks down,u get ur mech to work on it. If d problem persists,me o...I will sell it n buy new one!
There Is no excuse for committing sin, u Will give an account to Ur Creator. Help Ur wife and u Will be amazed at the changes in Ur sec life, Is time to stop being selfish. Switch places for a week and see the stress women go thru and u Will appretiate them the more. Am sure Ur wife loves u toi, please speak with her and have a division of labour. Give and It shall ne given to u, So the holy book says
I get you and you are not a bad man However,I think you are going about it the wrong way,going out to get it is/will only make matters worse and soon enough you'd think of marrying the Nnenna girl. My 2kobo is,talk to your wife about you both going to a marraige councellor(coz you might not know the right things to say,how to say them etc and that might push the wrong buttons and lead to a more bigger fight)but a councellor would know what and what to say to her that'd make her see reasons,and realise the harm her actions could cost etc....Again,if you think you can handle it,then I suggest you go about it the right way,creat the right mood(for about a week or so)be a loving husband,make her feel sexy,compliment her more often,tell her the 3words more often,help her out with little chores,if you can breakfast in bed is not a bad idea,go to a lingerie store and get her something etc and finally get your message across and be honest about your feelings and how her actions hurts you(am not saying you should do this forever,just to win her heart)you know do stuffs that a man that wants his marriage to work does rather than run out for sex. Goodluck.
Yes we've heard the man said they have kids but have been married for a year....We Nigerians can't be this naïve nowww...do you have to hear that they had kids before marriage before common sense is applied..my goodness... I thought the strike is over...PICK UP YOUR BOOKS AND GO TO SCHOOL...I don't blame u guys na GEJ's fault.....
And as of the guy, u and your wife need to see a well experienced marriage couselor or life coach(who has a God fearing belief). Don't be be scared...the scolding is going to be more for her as an eye opener and not you (ure only there for support and fight for ur marriage) if its when ure married she isn't given u some then what does she think sex is for? U guys need spiritual help! And be willing to accept it cuz no one is going to tell her to keep it up ure married for God's sake
Thanks. I thought I was the only one that noticed that.
How can you be married for a year and already have kids? Fictitious story!
na normal tin joor, he dey for our DNA to cheat on our wife, @list it beta u cheat den having more den one wife.
So shall it be done to u.cos I knw u r nt married or a working mother wit no house help
God bless u.
Linda! See the wife don reply oooo! Biko nu stop discouraging the single ones biko...God will gv me a man who will av same urge as me.amen..babe take it easy...ur husband loves U! Women has a powerful self control unlike men..1year di kwa to young to complain..In 2dyears time, nne! Na divorce oooo!
Bros, sit ur wife down & talk to her. There r many reasons other than punishing u. Do u know how she wants it, wen she wants it & where she wants it? Its a 2-way street my guy. Cheating wont solve it but create problems 4 u much later.
LINDA YOU HAVE DISAPPOINTED ME HOW CAN SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR A YEAR HAVE ''KIDS'' NOT JUST ONE MAYBE 2 OR 3 OK LETS ASSUME ITS A TRIPLET HOW CAN THEY BE SO GROWN SHE HAS TO WAKE UP EARLY IN THE MORNING AND DRESS DEM FOR SCHOOL? ABEGI BUT OF YOU SHOULD PARK WELL JOR!
is it impossible to have twins or triplets @once?
U seem to be a selfish man.. treat ur wife wiv love help out with house chores without expecting anything in return. .. all dis epistle can smell d pride in u.. help her out wiv chores constantly not when u feel like and see if she will not change. ..
Cant stand 9ja men mentality abeg
These days we have very STUPID men who do not know what being a man is all about. You expect a wife to go to work and pay bills with you without sharing in the household responsibilities? Continue to go to Nnenna till she wrecks you or gives u HIV. Get married to Nnenna today and have kids with her and watch things change. A real man will be able to see the wife is burdened with household chores and get her a nanny or better BECOME THE SOLE PROVIDER AND LET HER BE A STAY AT HOME WIFE. You are obviously a broke ass who your wife married out of pity and now you think you have arrived , WOMEN you are not house helps. Do not turn yourselves to one in the name of marriage, if ur man is not able to treat you like one find an alternative. We only live once and life is to be enjoyed by both men and women. We are not in the 50s anymore. After all most women only get married because society expects them to. Marriage is over rated and very unnecessary and smart people are able to recognise that.
I love you. . Anonymous. . Ur illustration is just perfect
Issue of different strokes. I'm currently single but have someone I want to marry. I have decided to be celibate. For spiritual reasons .. Will be 3 years in December and right now I can't wait to get married so I can have crazy sex with my husband all day everyday and being tired, ill or stressed has never been an excuse for me. In fact if he isn't in the mood will get him in the mood. Ladies sex is crazy crucial for men give it to them as much as possible. If only my man knew this!
ABEG MAKE PERSON COME HELP ME FIX MY PRINTER FOR OFFICE, BEFORE OGA VEX. thanks
Bro, If she's not cheating on you then you are not being romantic again. Check!!!
lol...you are just making up excuses to cheat...grow up and become a little more responsible for your shit....talk to her,you should both start acting like adults and if not.....go fuck yourself!
@Bonario na wah its adultery he's committing not Fornication*mshewww*
linda!!! you must really think your readers are fools. what a fake story. married for a year with kids not kid and they even go to school. it is well
How made reference to KIDS yet to said u had been married just a yr. he who lies in little will lie in much! Having said that, relieve her of some of her duties or hire two house helps so she isn't always tired, try not to be so selfish. you sound like someone who will cheat regardless *yimu*
Why wait for her to satisfy u sexually before u start helping her? She already told u the reason why she can't have set whenever u want it. So, my advice is that u get off ur freaking high horse and start helping her out and see if she wouldn't change. I bet you, she will. Your wife is not a superman. No woman would do all that she listed out and still satisfy her man sexually. You left all the responsibilities in the house for her and still want her to be your see machine. U are simply wicked and u want to kill her. Help her out and she will surely change, u freaking chauvinist! A simple advice from a fellow man like u!!!
Thanks my man for this write up.Exactly what I face in my marriage.It is worst when you are very pressed and the woman gives excusses.I now realised many women do not know why they are in marriage.
It's called adultery.....moron!
Ewu!
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Why dafaq are people insinuating kids
can only be conceived post altar?
You must be a lousy shag, that’s why
isn’t bothered. OR is getting serviced by her vibrator.
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Lisa London they might have had kid before marriage use your sense lol
Anonymous at 2:41 PM
SOUNDS LIKE YOUR HUBBY PREFERS ANAL
i dont blame the wife o. Let the husband put himself in the wife's shoes and do all that she does in a day. Married women with kids suffer a lot! Instead of you as a husband to help her or get a housemaid so the work will reduce, you come home eat and be waiting for sex. You are very stupid. Is your wife a slave? Help her and things will get better. Maybe she is trying to get you to understand her situation and instead of u to grab, u began to confidently commit adultery after ONE YEAR OF MARRIAGE! HIAN!!!!
THAT IS JUST ENTERING FROM FRYING PAN TO FIRE. MARRIAGE IS FOR BETTER FOR WORSE. IF YOU ARE CHEATING NOW, WHAT WILL HAPPPEN IN 20 YEARS TIME?
"For me, my wife's job is to have good sex with me. Simple"....SHALLOW THING TO THINK.
Mr man u lack understanding...why did u marry in d first place? people just marry these days without well-defined purpose and goals.NONSENSE!
If yours was because of SEX (which is obvious), why waste money and time marrying? You for relax dey do all d NNENNAs nah without being answerable to anyone. Okpo!
Its not too late to redefine your thoughts...her job is to b A COMPANION, A HELP-MEET, and A WIFE (not a Sex-slave) to you...so rekindle that friendship, Date your wife, be an understanding Husband to her and SEX will naturally flow.
B.
OMG! God bless this "Oby" for his comment. You have said it all guy and am so impress by those things you pointed out.
Dear Frustrated Husband, YOU ARE A BAD MAN.
But i still want to say that no domestic work should stop a woman from attending to her husband's needs.
And this makes your wife a BAD WOMAN.
@badoo of toronto: why not take even five wives so dat u can have enough problem, onye akwamiko muo.
First of all, you've been married for a year, you have kids and you have sex twice a month? Something doesnt quite add up... Plus all of you saying he is a 'Good man' for cheating on his wife, may all your wives cheat on you as well, then the world can be full of very 'Good People'... Nonsense
Now who is lying, is it Linda or the man involved here. "You've been married for just one year and you have kids" just saying.
Are u sure d man him self is nt d 5mins type? probably the woman doesn't want him to turn her on and after 5min he's done, while she is left with her unactualised orgasm to battle with. Think beyond the box pple.
@juliet dike: shatap my friend, my be your the Nnenna,assistant wife.
The story was made up jawe, fake story. Married for a year and already have kids schooling.
Hi linda, pls I really need to reply this man problems with mine and for your blog readers help on what to do. The truth is what this man just said about women sexually starving their husbands is false.
The fact is I as a woman married for almost five years have been sexually starved by husband right from when we got married. The reason why I am opening up now and need help is because I dont think I can take it anymore or continue with this marriage.
I am so angry because I married this man a virgin and I have always been eager about having awesome sex even wild ones with whoever I was going to marry... I went as far as educating myself on sex and ensure I am able to satisfy my man any way n how. But since I married this man I can count how many times we have had sex in the years we have been married.
All I hear are excuses anytime I request we have sex, I am tired, it takes all my energy, google it sex doesn't take long... these are crazy responses I get from him. I mean I am so frustrated that i get angry everytime about the most senseless of things.
I have prayed about this issue, cried because I am beginning to feel like just a maid or decoration in this house because all I do is cook and take care of the house, I can't even cuddle with this man all I hear is leave me I am tired, dont touch etc. Its makes me wonder if he's the only hardworking man on this earth who works 8 to late and never have sex with his wife becos he is always tired.
We dont have kids yet I mean how will we wen we dont even have sex, anytime I am ovulating I mark dates down tell him at least abi we wont have kids too? Its either we fight dat period or he's tired.
The reason why I am tinking of quitting this marriage is cos I have started to feel really unsexy and valueless to this man who doesnt like me sexually, I found series of messages he exchanges with girls which has ultimately broken my heart that maybe I am not good enough and always wonder why he married me in the first place.
The bottomline is this man says his woman is bad at least they use to have sex what will I call this man I married to who does not even have an erection wen he sees me naked or ever initiates sex, I am very sexy, keep fit and all.
And yes I have sat him down to talk about it but all I hear is bullshit, I mean I have read enough articles and tins on blogs to knw this man isnt just into me.
Please I need serious help on way forward. Thanks linda thanks all in advance.
Bonny its adultery!
It's obvious you're single because a married woman with kids working full time with no help from the husband is A LOT to deal with. Be careful with the advice you give. You will end up with a husband who only gives you sex and no emotional, physical or any other kind of support.
He's a selfish being that's why. He expects his wife to work twenty hours a day and come satisfy him. Mr, you need a sex slave not a wife. And you're no husband because a husband would lighten the load off the wife so she's not overburdened by all you let her alone do. My husband wages the bathroom when he sees I'm overwhelmed with chores. That's a partner. Help your wife out with some chores you selfish thing for a man.
Cant people give constructive and matured advice without calling people foolish or stupid?
Anyone who puts his life out there surely wants help not all these immature rantings.
Why don't you help her out with some of these shores first and see if she wouldn't be the one to satisfy you in bed gladly.
Liar liar. U have been married for a year yet u have KIDS. Did u have kids before marriage ?
Adultery!!!!!they are married
People are ignorant! If you want to continue cheating on your wife, then how about you take a ride in her shoes for one 3days. Wake up @ 6, get the kids ready for school, prep breakfast, go to work, get the kids from school, cook lunch and dinner after work and do the dishes as well as other chores afterwards. If u still feel like a porn star after start then you can continue to cheat on your wife without a care in the world. Until you do those things, don't ever blame a woman least of all the mother of your kids for your perverted ways. Rubbish!
All the balderdash of reserving sex for marriage...
Many dudes will be disappointed like me guy here!
You will get married and discover too late that marriage will not give you the quantum sex you dreamed of...
You will realize too late that marriage is only a platform for enjoying family life and has little to do with experiencing consummate sex...
If you are lucky to find sexual fulfillment in marriage, good...
But for me, sexual expression and marriage are not Siamese twins...
Human sexuality does not depend on marriage to find expression; and to that extent does not require marriage to be sustained...
D nigga is selfish....abeg change
Man forces girlfriend to drink Conc acid
Married with kids already in one year? the story is false, just something to get people talking. Afterall sex sells.
Complicated case....pls ma give ur husband sex and pls sir help ur wife the house chores .gbam I don talk my own. .lidan plzzz post my comment oooo
This guy is selfish. he doesn't even think abt the woman's feeling and wen in the mood. Is tru some women does like that I don't know their intentions doh. Now this guy have to understand that the urge of sex in a woman is lower than that of a man of which I do not understand why buh generally that's the truth. So he wants this woman to give it to him weda she's not in d mood or tired or have some issues that needs his attention. Mehn this kind of man "nknk" am afraid to b with he can kill at anytime and He'acts like a dog sorry to say that. And few men does this not all as he said. All I understand is that u enjoy cheating on ur wife. it's a sin repent.
Oloshi ni e
U r just a fool
My comment clearly went over your head.
@Onyx........Onyx what do know about marriage and sex???????.. .I have been married for 19 years and I will state here that it is not as easy as you guys think. .When kids are involved, its never the same. .I think he should assist her with some of the house work and ask her what has changed about their sex life.
You cannot understand your wife's denial because you have never tried to put yourself in her shoes. She works, takes care of your kids, handles the house chores and cooking, and after all that you want her to still work on you.
Bros, take a week or even a month and switch roles with your wife, i.e. go to work, take care of your kids by yourself, handle the chores and cooking like your wife has been doing. After a week or two, you can confirm if you still have the energy to ride your wife and treat her real good in bed, or even go looking about for Nnenna the assistant for that matter!
Onyx you are too young to discuss marriage and sex.! Try and think of better things to do with your self and time.
Anwuo muo! Did you just give marital advice? LOL i can't stop laughing nyways he's just trying to justify his cheating habit and did he say kids? Tot you've been married for just one year uummm okay guess u got some before marriage
Bros dis is no braina help her wit her chores if ur serious bout gettin laid by ur wife den b of domestic use 2 her,afta all she is not robo cop
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the story does not add up. you got married a year ago and you already have kids( I will assume u gave birth to twins) but how come they have started school at that age.(then you will say you had kids before u got married)
well, it is your business.
guy use ur hand jo.
I kinda like u......nice comment
Sincerely, you come across as being daft. Are you writing to get validation for your actions? Congratulations...clap for yourself! Ode oshi. You sound like a freaking 16 year old. So the solution to your issue is to cheat? And create nonsensical justifications for your actions? Are you doing what's in the best interest of your family or your penis? A matured man would know that there are major communication issues in his 1-year old marriage. Real mean tackle marital issues in a matured manner. If your long term plan is to cheat till-death-do-y'all-apart, then your marriage is just a big joke to you. Your actions are cowardly and selfish. Both YOU and YOUR wife are responsible for your marital problems. It'll take the two of you to fix it- not her, you and Nnenna. Judging by a majority of the comments on here, a lot nigerian marriages are doomed! #SMH#
BOOM!!!
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Wetin u dey kip am 4, u can meet up again ...... Or u use paddock n misplace d key inside 3MB? Go find a nice Dick n fuck well
Pls sorry to say,hardly had sex once in three months my husband complained I want to sleep small, what will u said about that.
You took that thought right out of my medulla....the thought of getting married is beginning to seem terrifying.
Oh my world!! Am speechless... shey being a lez no pay like dis na wa oooo
HANDLE YOUR BITCH
Guy, those days are over; when men look for excuses to cheat on their wives. Responsible men keep it together and do the right thing. You definitely are a bad man to quit on her
Hmm na wa oh. Men will be men. Jesus is coming soon sha.
Linda , what of a man that says he's not into sex or too busy to have. Swears he doesn't cheat but can't keep the d** up for his wife cos of stress. Wetin be that??
Hmm na wa oh. Men will be men. Jesus is coming soon sha.
Linda , what of a man that says he's not into sex or too busy to have. Swears he doesn't cheat but can't keep the d** up for his wife cos of stress. Wetin be that??
Hate to break the news but your wife is most likely getting her needs met by someone else. In all honesty we women enjoy sex but after the thrill is gone for various reasons we close our legs. Just like men who are into their women you can't shake em. Women will throw sex at a man who meets her needs. Step up your game dude!
Preach it!!!!
Preach it!!!!
Erm am I d only 1 that noticed at the start he said they had been married for a year? Then down he talked about kids Biko how many kids can someone have within a year of marriage ? mrs O
Exactly my thought
@OnyxGodwin you couldn't have said it any better. What if she doesn't find him as attractive or romantic as she once saw him. Some men just think like animals
Considering the fact that am in exactly same position with the writer, though without the cheating, i'll say, MOST YOU COMMENTING HERE DONT KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO WEAR THESE SHOES!!!!
just bounce along and pray it aint you.
You married a local self centered bith...dazzol
U r marrid for a year with kids? Dis story na lie jo
I think you should help your wife with some of her house chores or help her with the kids.A woman needs to be loved in other ways not just sex. Another thing is, does she enjoy the sex? If she doesn't then that is another reason why she makes up excuses. You need to make her enjoy the sex,do all sort of things that will help her reach orgasm.Its not just about you make it about her, please don't be selfish.
Badoooo. That ya second wife no go work for Todonto oooooo.
You are very stupid! U can't even get one to wife u talk more of marrying a 2nd one.. i hate people who talk like retards..
Seems i knw dis nnennaooo. D gal loves married men. She is tall,dark,slim and gapteeth. She went to IMSU.i cant wait for d chic tobe married so Karma can take place. Oshi
Abi ooo
My thought too
The thing is, your wife has communicated, and because of the selfish way that you are wired, you chose not to hear.
She needs HELP!
she has a job, does traffic to and from work, cooks, does the dishes, does homework, and all what not...(while you are watching tv, hanging with your friends or shagging Nnenna)
at the end of the day, she falls like a sack of bricks. Then you come in by 12am and you want sex from her (her alarm will prolly go off at 4.30am) and you say she's complaining...
y dont you help her out, and then let's see if she will still be too tired. are you waiting for her to drop dead before you understand that she's not a superwoman! your Nnenna will prolly be worse if she was in the same shoes.
Anyway, enjoy your Nnenna, its your time. in a matter of years when the kids free up some of your wife's time and she starts with her "Okechukwu", just remember that you started it, and take it like a man!
I suggest u go for a medical check-up...ur wife may be hiding something contagious
I suggest u go for a medical check-up....ur wife may be hiding something contagious
Anon 2.08pm, LWKMD! U r a correct babe jare! Somewhere underneath all that bad English is a smart woman! Two thumbs up!
Fake.
Married for a year and already have KIDS that go to school
Instead of waiting for her to have sex with you THEN you will help her with the house work and kids, you should help her first then you will see how fast her panties will drop!
Unfortunately, u won't b doin ha, u wud b doin urself nd offending God. Y do guyz feel dey r alweiz free to cheat nd d wyf wud suffer from it? Do they rememba dah itz a sin against God? Nd God can jes strike? If ur wyf is not givin in to sex, den live wf it, marriage is for beta for worse jare
Are u yoruba or hausa?
Actually from the write up I understood that men are higher animal and ds man that wrote this thing seems 2 be highest than others. that woman is a human being and not animal. how can she do all the house work even d one in her place of work still come 2 bed 2 rest u man will still come 2 disturb. is she ur housemaid or what. cant u get a helping hand 2 her so that she can hv reserve strength 2 withstand ur pipe.
Guy, u are committing fornication. Dt will lead u straight 2 hell. u alone. d thing is dt ur wife has told u part of the problem n u didnt say u made an effort 2 relieve her of some duties. u shud try n help out in doing d house chores too. its very annoying when a couple gets back home and d man goes n cross his legs while d wife does all d job, knowing well dt she has been out all day just like u. Luv is nt a one way thing. and u shud also knw dt in lyf, u gt wt u give. so giv her joy n she will reciprocate :) . life is very easy, bt we humans jst complicate it unnecessaryly. if Nnenna had d fear of God n refused 2 open her legs, wt will u av done. Pls kip ur Dick 4 ur wife alone (one man one woman). U can actually stop, pls neva say neva. And go n read more abt wt LOVE really means. All d best in ur marriage.
To all the ladies that have opened their mouths here to say d man is bad, YE ARE ALL FOOLS!!! do u need your pastor/prophet/babalawo to tell u dat all a married man needs is sex and food? SEX being number 1!!! Married yung women pls have sex with your husbands; their is no chores that can make u deny your husband ooooh.
I am amazed at the people asking if 'he has been married for a year' The guy has been married for more than one year (may be five or more). He just codded that fact (just like 'Nenna' ) to avert any suspicion. WAKE UP PEOPLE !
Hahahahahaha a soul take am easy oh
Guy ur comitin fornication,wic s rong in d eyes of God.talk to urr wife n wrk on ur mariage
So, you just want to dive in and dive out? Stop cheating and reclaim ur wife, sit down nd talk, try role play, take her out.
Onyx, and I don't know why people have been trying to say you're young and immature. Your response was actually very matured and sensible, not like the Mumu that commented before you. Now to the selfish husband, if ur wife is complaining of having too much to do; why don't you start helping her and see if she changes or not. If you did that, she'll probably do more than what you want on the bedroom. There's nothing as sexy as a man who cares enough for you to go out of his way to make you happy and nothing as demoralizing and depressing as a husband who doesn't appreciate what you do but just wants to use you up in every way; as house help, cleaner, nanny and also sexual object. Abeg, help the woman out. She already told you what her problem is..... Just Me
So you're even female? Shioor!! How about ask the guy to help his wife, it sounds like she's overwhelmed with work, taking care of the kids and household chores while all the husband wants to do is have sex. You're there giving him advice to leave because of sex. Pray you don't end up with an inconsiderate husband "miss virgin"
Yes, we all know already! Mumu!
Yes, we all know already! Mumu!
Gbammest!!!
Asiri e ti tu! Femi Sanjo!!
common guys, what kinda house chores would justify sex twice a month for a married man??????? mehn that shit crazy..talk to your wife and try to settle tinz..
Angel Gabriella
You need to seat her down and talk to her maybe you are not getting it right
My husband broke up with me a month ago because of the little misunderstanding will had, he was dating other young lady and he never take me out again he was totally changed and he never listen to any thing i told him. one day he came and told me he is bringing in other lady in our home, i was so frustrated so when i came across Dr.airiohuodion (airiohuodiontemple@gmail.com) how he use to rebuild broken home and make their family to reunite together again, so i quickly email him and explain all my problem to him and he guarantee me that my husband will definable want me back after the reunite spell. After everything my husband (SAM) came back to tell me he still love and cherish me that he promise never to cheat on me any more i was so happy and i quickly email Dr.airiohuodion (airiohuodiontemple@gmail.com) and thank him for the wonderful spell, he was God sent and if you need his helping hand contact his direct email at.(airiohuodiontemple@gmail.com).
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