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Friday, 1 November 2013

Dear LIB readers: How do I collect my money back from my ex?

From a female LIB reader
My ex and I dated for three years and were actually planning to wed. We got engaged April last year but because of family issues the wedding was called off in November 2012. Despite the end of our engagement, we kept seeing each other on and off for several months until we finally broke up in August. I was hoping we would get past our problems and go ahead with the wedding but that didn't happen. Now, here's my problem. I gave my ex N720 thousand naira last year for a project he was involved in. I borrowed him the money because I thought he would be my husband and if the business venture succeeded it would benefit both of us but since we have broken up and he's now seeing someone else I want my money back. I have been asking him for the past two months and he's telling me rubbish and has stopped picking my calls. The business is doing fairly well and he's making some money from it; is another woman supposed to enjoy the fruit of my labour? I want my money back. How do I go about getting it back?

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Flector said...

CALL 911!

Tobs.2.10 said...

....**kill yaself**, ur ex will pity u

kage said...

I suggest you meet him and ask..

Anonymous said...

see gobe!

Anonymous said...

Pop a gun to his head. I can borrow you one if you want. Lol. OYO is ur case.

Anonymous said...

Ha! Ur own serious pass my own. Well, I collected mine y'day. I went to his neighbourhood and gave him a very hot show down. When you're all nice and lovely, they take u for granted. My advice? Threaten him wiv sth spiritual....... Like drop some scary looking shit in front of his house and biz (like a coffin or sth ;-))

pealie said...

Forget about the money and move on.

Adedolapo Popoola said...

My dear,if there were no documents backing the loan,its gonna be very hard to get the money back...plan be is to calm down,and be as soft as possible when asking for that money..agreed,it's yours,but you have to really calm down,and almost beg for it...make him understand you need some of it at least,and make him see reason...that's what I think...

Anonymous said...

Wake up very early make you go block the guy for him house..... Why he nor dey pick ur call? He should be grateful you came through for him when he needed that cash

Anonymous said...

i can't cry ooo,I'm in d EXACT same situation and mine is 700k,and the issue now is d business is flourishing.at least if e gives me back my money,i won't feel so bad about the other babe enjoying anything even though i know she would not have helped him if she was in the position to do so,na me gawk na,i hope e reads this,all i want is my money oo abet,waiting for comments please

Anonymous said...

Naaaah babe there's no need killing ur self softly, I know it hurts but believe me, it's best u let it go and pray to God that he will bring that money to u and even apologise untop. You can't do much about such situations no matter how hard it is, except if you want him back, that's another one...but if it's just the money, I advice let it go

Anonymous said...

The guy just play u local, sorry oh if u have evidence u should take him to court

Anonymous said...

Shege! Go after the bugger with full force. Things have fallen apart abi? If his family can't step in, them the Nigerian Police force should.

Anonymous said...

My friend had a similar case. She reported the guy to his boss and the guy admitted to the boss that she gave him the money. She collected the money from his salary each month till it was complete. For your case, hope u have evidence or witness that u gave him the money. Take him to court... Do just whatever it takes to get your money back. No let the guy chop am.

Cute G said...

My dear I guess it might be a lil jealosy on ur side.Bt being in his ryt senses,he shd knw he's supposed to refund ur money.Just tell him that U"ll go naked and curse him.He'll return your money wt d speed of life.thank me wen U've done dis.

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Pack well dis woman, somebody must help somebody, u also gonno eat frm where u never worked "ur new relationship"

Tessyjafor said...

Wake up very early go block the guy for him house Jor. Why won't he take your calls? He should be grateful you came through for him when he needed that cash

Rough Diamond said...

D bitter truth? Forget d money cos he wouldnt pay back n u no fit involve d police cos there was no written agreement!
Move on!
Dat's y i can never give a man wey i dey date my money except its a matter of live n death! I no dey for borrow, i no even get!
Maybe my husband sha cos he will be d father of my children even @dat i go still think am cos all dis men has a way of rendering their wives broke!

D money don go my dear!

Tessyjand said...

Wake up very early make you go block the guy for him house..... Why he nor dey pick ur call? He should be grateful you came through for him when he needed that cash

Anonymous said...

get thugs to kidnap the Motherf**cker and get your money back if you dont thats a major fuck up

chinasa ukaegbu said...

Sweetheart Sue his sorry-ass to court.

candygirl said...

Gurrrrrl I think you should let this one go,I mean its hard but,I don't see the nigger giving you that money and you ovbiously can't involve police(not that u can't anyway)but that'd be too much and you might end up lossing half the money(if not all)to police,so my opinion is just let it go..but if eventually he is touched in his heart to pay up then awesome if not,just let this one slip,take it as a sacrifice you made while in the relationship...that's what I'do if I was in your shoe,but then again its just me so..dunno

Anonymous said...

Give him food, let him sleep then run with his money. The rest na interest











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Anonymous said...

‎​Đ guy don use lagos sense 4 yew b dat *shakin ma head 4 u* Ŋa̶̲̥̅ ur loss b dat..pele ti e

Anonymous said...

Kidnap him mama and ask the family to pay ransom na

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Anonymous said...

Hmmm..... Its a toughj one. Am sure you have no evidence showing you loaned him some money. The best option wud have been to use the police. Did you meet any of his family members during your r/shp? You can have them intervain. If you also know any elderly person he respects, you can talk to the person too. Good luck with that.

Anonymous said...

Well.... This is a tough one! Baby gurl I think u gotta go talk to your lawyer, get one if you don't have any BUT as my people use to say "ihe emetara na enyi (frndship) na ala na enyi... I feel for u though.

Rough Diamond said...

Even tho u wan borrow sef make e no pass 50k @least u fit chest dat one!
I prefer to help pple willingly dan borrow o
Especially bf them!
If u even ask me for money as a guy, i go automatically lost my respect 4 u!

As long as we r not married d least i can do is buy u gifts i.e if u dey do for me o but borrow money, mbanu, i no dey for dat one!
All dis 419ners wey dey come in different forms!


Go to his house go shey werey ur money go out!

Anonymous said...

Me I like to drink panadol 4 anoda person's headache,abeg involve d police in dis mata,also I hope u hv a written docment as evidence dat u actually lent him d money.

Anonymous said...

when will women learn that its a dumb idea to loan bfs money? geez. too many opportunistic people out there. oloprun a di fun e nibo mi

Soul said...

Eeeeeeeh????????!!!!! Biko, go and collect your money. Sharp sharp. Fast fast. Ozigbo Ozigbo. What tha hell? Another woman to go enjoy the fruit of your labor? That's almost one mil ooo. You be charity ne? Hia. But if he ends up cheating you out of your money, that should serve as a lesson for you and other women. Do not do money business with a lover. And if you must, sign an agreement. Even if you're going to marry him. Because that doesn't guarantee he still won't divorce you like the speed of light. Ladies, always sign an agreement. Always. No matter how it will make things look like you don't trust him, put pen on paper. Biko nu.

Solemn Concept said...

AAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!! money e haf go away o!!!

Anonymous said...

GIRL,IF HIM NO GREE GIVE YOU,POUR AM ACID.

Anonymous said...

Dont fight him for it.
All for it nicely. Tel him you need it for something.
Make a payment plan. Boya 100k /month or something.

If he is not picking ur call s. Send txt. Or whatsapp. If he still refuses to and you, involve a third party.

But whatever you do? DO NOT FIGHT.

Wise ppl will tell you not to fight with your debtors. Because they will now have a reason not to pay you back.

-babe

Anonymous said...

Go to court if you can prove you gave him the money, if you gave him a cheque, your bank will surely have the record. If you gave him cash and he doesn't want to give you your money, just take it as money lost.

Anonymous said...

follow him gradually

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Please get him arrested . He will back back. Another woman eating what you ve laboured for? No way. Pick him up he will pay.

If you are in a relationship now get your boyfriend involve too,he can help you out. Next time be wise, most guy today are after your body and money when they noticed you love them and you have money. They alway have stories to collect money from girls.close your legs,close your purse and open your eyes and brain.

I wish you well.Dave

Solemn Concept said...

AAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!! money e haf go away o!!!

angry much said...

D same way my ex-gf borrowed money from me n didn't pay back.I had given her money to settle lecturers,sort her project n did some shopping.I actually told her I'd collect dat money back cos she had some money she was due to collect den n I wanted to pay house rent.d cheatin bitch ran away without paying me.am tempted to mention her name sef so her pastor fiance could know his wife to be doesn't av a womb due to many abortions(b4,during n after our relationship)

Anonymous said...

Na bad market , move on .

Anonymous said...

Hehe! E don hpn! Well, d ish is, u gats follow d dude calmly especially if no one knws u lent him d money xcept himself, he'd easily deny u so b sharp, dassol!
~D great anonymous!

Anonymous said...

Next time ladies all of u should take a clue. When you are NOT married to any man, no matter what even with your friends u should only lend money that u can afford to lose. Now unfortunately, u may not be getting the money back..it's the sad truth

Anonymous said...

One of the reasons why I am very reluctant in giving men money. In fact I won't ask u for a dime either unless you offer. On the other hand I expect you to offer atleast a couple of times. Asking me for money, especially if we just started dating is major turnoff in my books.

Anonymous said...

Pls let the money go! Same happened to me nd it was a lot of money , cried nd I was so misrable for yrs but today am better off, I am married to a very gud man nd hve 3kids! The lady he got married to left him , nothiing was wrkin for him biz was zero ! Am always very happy nd xcited wen I drive my nnice car past him!
You will hve the last laugh just let it go!

Anonymous said...

Foolish man

Anonymous said...

If it is the man that gave that money out for your business he will never come. To this blog to complain, woman and there selfish attitude am sure that guy must have help you in the past. Move on with your life and pray to God to bless you with s good husband...

Anonymous said...

Why is everybody ranting about this? You were dating him n you did what was best for both of you out of the love you had for him. Why make so much issue out of it? If you guys had not break up, you would be enjoying the whole thing with him. Don't let jealousy take control of you. You gave him the money, you never borrowed him, you gave him because he was your man. Okay what about the things he must have done for you? Would you expect him to ask for the money if reverse was the case? Woman u need to get a grip of yourself n just let go.

Soul said...

Forget kini? The only way I can advise her to forget the money is if he 'suddenly' becomes bedridden or if she starts dating someone like Usher, then and only then can sheave the money for him. Not when he's already screwing some other chic and paying for her BIS with her money!!! Whooooo * straight face *

Anonymous said...

hahahahhhha... are you a learner? babes trust me the money is so gone, unless God touches his heart ooooo... but wait ooo some gals sha have money and some guys bloody gold diggers. things we do wen love or marriage promise is werkin...lol.

Anonymous said...

That one na April fool dear....

Soul said...

Sweetie, I love you. Your children will respect you and make you proud. Please be my bestie? We think alike mhen. Exactly what I would do and what she should do. Idiot man. and babe, after you collect your money, give him one serious wound. Mshewwwwww

Anonymous said...

i had the same issue. took the matter to the police and EFCC cos the fellow gave me a dud cheque for the full amount. he took off when he got info i was about to arrest him. long story short, his sister (God bless her) intervened and a payment plan is now in place. i suggest you go to the police (if you have a loan agreement).... have him arrested and his family will call you both and you'll have your money back. its your hard earned money, fight for it.

Anonymous said...

Young lady, u can collet ur money through prayer, with promise that if u get that money back u will give 10% to God or Motherless babies, wait and see what would happen.

Anonymous said...

This is sure pathetic,d guy must be a 419 and shld be arrested and detained until he pays up,he shld not be allowd to get away with it just to teach others a lesson

Anonymous said...

keep asking if he doesn't give you, leave the money you will reap it in your next (your husband hopefully)

Anonymous said...

There is such thing as oral agreement. Babe, collect ur money if u loaned it to him.

GinaBlack said...

Hire a lawyer...the guy na Big thief!

Anonymous said...

I as stopped thinking abt d money I loan my ex n it's 1m ... Never ever ll I or all my kids to do a thing like that ... Lol

Anonymous said...

I would let it go except if I am in a desperate situation and need the money to survive.

Anonymous said...

U just finishd typing from ur ass..fooool... u re one of em guys

Anonymous said...

U sure say u go marry @ all?
Y u go talk say u no fit gv man money?
Babe.... Let vengeance be of God

55 'CENT / YMCMB said...

Arrest him simple as abc,but wait where is the evidence? or since u know his family go and report him

Anonymous said...

U guys tink everytin is a joke abi

Anonymous said...

Me I can't give any guy my money. I mean any guy. Trust me even if you give a guy 50k and he is true to himself and uses the money for his business for instance, he will. Still spend 100 naira to buy another woman malt from that money or even send another woman recharge card. Someone dashed me 15k at the office and one guy I started dating begged me for 11k when he came to pick me for lunch saying he will refund the next day. Well, as we were going to the restaurant, I told him to stop by UBA let me give someone something. When I came out he asked what was that, well, I only stopped by to pay in 15K into my account. He was angry but I ignored him. As if I don't know guys! So that he will use part of that money and buy suya for another woman that evening??? Odeshi!

Anonymous said...

O boi me and my money I die well, see u won't knw how it hurt unless u re in this situation. If am the one I will fight him spiritual my dear he will come running with the money some people re thief reaping where they did not sow.

Anonymous said...

Him no well there is how they behave my dear no man go eat my money go nd hustle for urs oh dear fight him spiritual he will come running with ur money

Elitehow.com said...

The best thing to do is to charge him to court if you have some form of evidence but if not, then approach someone you know is very close to him to talk to him on your behalf. pls do not take the law into your own hands. i wish you the best of luck...to get daily elite news from around the world,pls login to www.elitehow.com

Ka-roll-in Chiamaka said...

seriously, do you really need back that money? why dont you just letit go?

Anonymous said...

Wicked world. My dear continuously give him problems, embarrass him till he return your money. He does not deserve peace. Inform your brothers and if possible involve the police. GIVE HIM TROUBLE. Its so painful. Let him wake up with trouble and go to sleep with trouble.

Anonymous said...

the truth is collecting money back is always very difficult from people generally but you just have to be very patient and be really emotionally that you really need the money that without the money you cant survive.just try these else d guy wont give u d money back.

Anonymous said...

Yes I don't just like to give any man I may be dating, money. The guy I'm going to marry this december is very rich. He says that out of all the girls he has dated, I'm the only one that does not try to impress him with expensive gifts, yet I'm the one he loves. Its ok to give o! Don't get me wrong- or even borrow or help, but if there's another babe on the corner that he smiles at, he won't see even 1 kobo of my money. Yes I'm that mean.

Anonymous said...

See just 4get the money,I have this same ish with my ex"girl" we went into. A biz and the relationship did nt work out, I have been asking her 4 my money 4 the past 4month now. benileo007@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Ya'll shut up already, must u talk trash?she wants 2 get her money back and not 2 b vituperated.
Steps 2 recovering ur money!
1. Call him on a different line and record ur conversation. Make sure u talk at lenght and d audio is very clear and audible.
2. Call him again on a different phone line and tell him u plan on suing him. He'll come up with d "u have no evidence, no withness" kindof thing. Just laugh and say u think so? then u hang up. Make sure u record ur conversation cos it's essentiall.
3. Text him and let him know u've been recording d conversations and that he'll be hearing 4rm ur lawyer soon.
4. Just sitdown on ur couch and before long he'll call or text u 2 ask 4 ur acct number.
5. If he doesn't call u or text back and he's still headstrong then u get a lawyer and sue his greedy, ungrateful ass. If u can lend him 720k den u shud b able 2 afford a lawyer. Buh if u can't, do well 2 let us knw and we'll take it from there..!i hope this helps!#doctorbobby
The fate of ur money lies solely on linda's hands!

Anonymous said...

My love..i feel soo sorry that u're going thru this.As females, we tend to be sooo emotional that we invest soo much in our relationships. Honestly, I've made that kinda foolish mistake severally until this yr I made a resolution never to loan out money at all...if na 10/20k now, I go hear...but 700k?? Its crazy..these men think we're fools!! Let me tell u the painful truth....He never planned to give u that money back, even if u'd married him, U'd still never get that money...he for take am as "groom's price". Pls forget the money if u can....like I said, I?e also lost close to 500k on one loser like that..pls dont ever involve ur 10kobo in any relationship....never ever again!!!!!You will find love again..take heart and move on!!

Anonymous said...

Move on with life he will not succeed in d business..... Move on with life and rem: the best way to revenge is to he successful.

Dlapikin said...

uhh SUE!!!?

Anonymous said...

You get money o! Shou! If na your girlfriend or siblin ask you for even half of that money, u for no get. You wan please man. U see ya self?

Dlapikin said...

You don't need to have an owe you. if you have any text message where he promisses to return the money it is enough. Sue!

Anonymous said...

Personally,,I can Neva give a guy more dan 20k** y on earth shuld u give out such huge amount of moni to a guy????ooooopppppssss!!! I mean ooouuucchhh!!! Nke a Furu m ufu!!!!
Babe, u must do smtin dangerous or hartless to get bak ur moni OR U beta tek hart......DIS IS A LESSON FOR LOVER GURLSS

Anonymous said...

My dear,forget that money. If there was no written agreement that it was a loan,and not a gift,or that even such a transaction ever took place,it's gone.
You can't even go to court.
But one thing I assure you,is that God would avenge for you.
So just relax.

Anonymous said...

if the debt is not documented u can as well forget it

Suziebabe said...

But dats mean on d guys part.He should rethink nd find a way of paying her bck,atleast she helped him wen d goin ws though.Nooooo he cant be so cruel as to nt to pay bck wat he's owning. Linda i make comment on every page nd u dont post dem nawa ooo.Pls post dis one ooo.

Vivian Lambert said...

If you can leave it to God,watch his hands at work. Just hold your peace dear.

Anonymous said...

What you need is advice for the future, 4get it n Never lend anyone an amount of money that can give you trouble if not refunded. With or without you, he would have done it anyway. Mtcheew, men tho

Vivian Lambert said...

If you can leave it to God,watch his hands at work. Just hold your peace dear.

Vivian Lambert said...

If you can leave it to God,watch his hands at work. Just hold your peace dear.

USLawFirm said...

if you lived in the U.S, I would say hire me as your attorney to sue him :) but here's some free legal advice. first, you need written proof that this was a loan. if you don't have any yet, i suggest you text him a few times being sure to include something like "please return the money I loaned you." continue till you get a response that makes it clear this was a loan. Now, try getting help from his family and friends with getting your money back. it can be very effective to either contact family to help you talk to him or to suggest that you will contact people he knows. most people like to avoid embarrassment.still nothing, you can sue.

Will you win? it's not clear to me. If i were on his side, I would say this was an investment not a loan. Your letter suggests you contributed the money hoping he would use it to make your lives better. you never actually asked him to return it till things went sour so to me it doesn't sound like a loan

Anonymous said...

Live and death ? ._.

Anonymous said...

This one na fabricated story , whats your Job? where did u get 750k? #JustAsking#Allow the man to enjoy his new babe .

Anonymous said...

Babe u'r wasting time. Go to his office and embarrass the hell outta his life. Embarrass him where ever and whenever u see him. Rubbish. Useless guy. E no reach say e break ur heart e wan chop ur money run

Vivian Lambert said...

If you can leave it to God,you will see his hands at work. Just hold your peace dear.

Anonymous said...

Madam! Why should she sue him? Was there a written or signed agreement when she lent d money to him? She'd better find other means. Don't buy ur idea. No offence..

Anonymous said...

Your money don enter voicemail. Omo, it is bad debt, write it off. Money given in love is never retrieved. Women learn 'women don't give men money except na dash'

Dr.Pinch said...

Can you do what you just adviced her to do? Wonder how people reason.720k is not recharge card money and am sure someone like you can't even dash out 100k. Ezigbo mmadu, how much did u give to OJB when he was looking for assistance? Wicked fellow. My dear please involve his family so he will know that you are serious. I pray you get your money back. Don't ever listen to this girl unless she's willing to give you the money on behalf of your ex.

Chris Magnus said...

I think you should let it go. It is a seed into his life. he will forever remain grateful. Even if he did not express it fate has it. If you fight, you create me enmity and you speed more money. Court might even discharge him. If he gladly returns your money pls collect it oooooo!

Anonymous said...

For me,I wnt let go like dat I will report police or anybdy I no can hlp me,if he is ask n he admit let him tell me wen to pay back but if he refuse to admit I will say it in his present dat I ve left him for God to judge.Shikenan.Though is not easy.

Anonymous said...

Sue his ass

myGFknowsherself said...

females alway like to ask for the money they borrowed...my gf always asks me for the money she borrows me...meanwhile, she keeps borrowing from me and i asked her for it one day and she told me that she didn't know that she was supposed to pay me back...i no fit shout(all the money she was supposedly borrowing from me was supposedly gifts)...lol...i still no fit shout...lol

Anonymous said...

When will girls stop lending money to guys? This things keep happening and more girls keep falling. I know u'll say I'm not loving, caring or whatever, I don't care. If I can't let go of any money, then I can't give it to a guy, I bet u may think twice if ur sis or bro asked u for such amount, but u could give it to a guy, see? Now he's no longer ur guy but ur bro is still ur bro. My dear, I don't know what to tell u cos its hard, but just make sure u don't do it again. Any guy that ask his girl for money is not completely responsible, quote me anywhere, he's got friends n family, let him go to them. Try and get some huge guys to threaten him or beat him up if need be, good luck

Anonymous said...

There's no evidence to prove you gave him some money, so he can easily deny it. All I can say to you is calmly talk to him or plead with him to give it back to you. #Ladies do some crazy things when they are in love shaa#

Anonymous said...

Calm down. Call him on fone and reason with him. Some can be ruthless and feel he is a guy but remind him on  bases why u gave him  money in  first place wen dis yeilds no fruit. Take it to God to double  blessing dat money is given him to u. It may tarrry but hold on.  wicked never goes unpunish

myGFknowsherself said...

females alway like to ask for the money they borrowed...my gf always asks me for the money she borrows me...meanwhile, she keeps borrowing from me and i asked her for it one day and she told me that she didn't know that she was supposed to pay me back...i no fit shout(all the money she was supposedly borrowing from me were supposedly gifts)...lol...i still no fit shout...lol

Anonymous said...

say good bye to your money, it is lost!

Anonymous said...

Its not coming back the money won't be returned. It has died with ur r/ship with the guy. Girls be warned DO NOT GIVE IN SO MUCH

Anonymous said...

swtie,u rily need to let go of the money. Jst pray that God should compensate you with a brighter future. One day he will realize how bad he hurts you.

Emisanctus said...

Sweetheart, i'm sorry things didnt work out between you two... From your word, i know it's a lil of jeolousy on your side ,,, but there's a way you approach issues and it seems like there was no issue. It's ur money but in his hands,,, you don't have to demand for it but ask,, you don't have to shout at him but talk to him about the money and make him see that you need the money, not because you are no longer together but because you need it ..(it's a fact that when we men borrow money from our wives or girlfriends, we don't have it in mind to pay back.) I believe that you guys had some kind of understanding when you were together, that same understanding can solve this issue... Even if he does not have d complete amount @de moment.. He will payback bit by bit.

One more thing,,take my advice....... move on with your life and be happy for his new found love,,, your next relationship might be ur best relationship..

Love you dear but God loves you more

Anonymous said...

My dear dis problem, is as old as egypt, only it kps reoccuring as decades go by. First positive thinking, be positioned dat u must get ur money back. Forget all those telling u to 4get d money cos they r all same gold digging guys, look thru dis advices u will find sm useful applicatn. I will advice however dat u drop d lady in u for a couple of weeks/months.Dis guy needs to see another u,go real mad wit serial show downs but calming in between so u see wen ur money is about to be paid. It sure will wit prayers.our God is the Lion of d tribe of Judah. It worked for me. I wish u d best!

Anonymous said...

Very frank and intelligent, it's best he's left to his conscience...

Lady.T said...

No stng evidnce 2 sue or cal police 4 him u wil end up spendn more witout justice jst go 2 his huz tlk 2 him in a calm n seasned manner if posible in d presnts of his new lover go wit ur pastor or an elderly persn ask him wer u hv gone wrng.If no gud result report him 2 his pastor,friends,close nebo&his family membas if he refuse luk 4 any army man giv him lyk 2ok dey wil toture him until he pays den tank me leta. 4rm lady .T

Anonymous said...

Just a night prayer d mumu go kolo 4sure try it babes

tosanbami ogbe said...

Hmmmm, sorry to hear this, it's gonna be very difficult to get the money back. But guess you should report his boss of he has one or start embarrassing him and where you are him! Drop the good girl habit and taketh it by force! But I also don't know if he's razz, if not that won't bother him at all. But one BIG question, why would you borrow a man your money??? For me it's not done! Instead you borrow from him! Because that money is always difficult to collect back, forget whether he's your bf, fiance, best friend etc! Until your last name has "CHANGED" don't try it! My candid advice though.

Anonymous said...

Hire me!

Anonymous said...

Please forget the money. You shall reap from another person's labour. Let the person he is dating now enjoy your labour, you shall enjoy another person's labour.

bumble bee said...

Ehn Ehn if I hear!!! 750 wat? My dear use any means possible,be it police, thugs etc to get ur money back, monkey don work,baboon wan come chop!!! My dear better collect ur money back sharperly, and for those telling her to bone, have u borrowed someone 10k in business for you to knw how painful it is.. you better wise up and collect ur money.. shikena

Anonymous said...

Skelewu... Akuko eji eme zu okwu, ka time wee na aga aga

Anonymous said...

i am very sorry.i feel really really bad for u!
i think u shouldnt stop calling him...tell him that u would curse him and do it.He would regret it.


Anonymous said...

My own na 2000naira...lol...I never collect am sha.

Anonymous said...

My Ex tried dis with me but e nor work......e wanted 350k to settle his yawa but I didn't give. Him.....I can't spend my hard earn money on any man ohhh.....I beta lavish my cash on my parent than one stupid guy wey don plan to break up with u already....sowi babes take am like dat

BLOGLORD said...

Is there any written agreement/proof/evidence that you gave him this money? Or you signed it off on lovey dovey terms? If the latter is the case I fear for your recovering this money.

Anonymous said...

Biko go meet him...use strong face collect ur money..
It happened 2 me...b4 nko I clt ma money!!

BLOGLORD said...

Is there any written agreement/proof/evidence that you gave him this money? Or you signed it off on lovey dovey terms? If the latter is the case I fear for your recovering this money.

Anonymous said...

I hv been a victim, now I jst never give out money that if I dnt get bk I wnt feel. Its hard when you love sm1 not to help when they are in need but we women have to shine our eyes o. These men are the new gold diggers with no shame #sadly

BLOGLORD said...

Is there any written agreement/proof/evidence that you gave him this money? Or you signed it off on lovey dovey terms? If the latter is the case I fear for your recovering this money.

Anonymous said...

Biko go meet him...use strong face collect ur money..
It happened 2 me...b4 nko I clt ma money!!

Anonymous said...

..see ehn d best tin is too do weyrey for him $ his family.....show d oloshi d oda side of u don't b calm o

Anonymous said...

advice to ladies , never ,never, never give your boyfriend your money , because he will not give you back , when you guys part ways , am a living testimony and the bastard will even want to sleep with you untop the money , very useless guys... over my dead body will i give someone am dating money , even if he is dying... let him die , i will marry another person ..cheww rubbish

chijiokenwan emma said...

@chinasa lol

Anonymous said...

Sorry babe if u were d one dat collected d money 4rm him b4 d break up,if he should ask u would u pay back ? So 4get it and move on price to pay.

BLOGLORD said...

Got any written evidence??? If no, u might be fighting a lost battle

BLOGLORD said...

Got any written evidence??? If no, u might be fighting a lost battle

Anonymous said...

Small matter.carry his picture to Ayilala in Benin,this would be after you don shake am tire e no gree.better still go tell T. b Joshua to give you anointed water to take spray your face,if he sees you he will bow seven times and hastily hand over ya pay.am talking from experience..iya sunshine.

lola aina said...

You shouldn't have given him the money in the first place. Now you see how trifling men can be.

lola aina said...

You shouldn't have given him the money in the first place. Now you see how trifling men can be.

Anonymous said...

I hope girl are learning from this experience. You are not maried until you are married.You are not one with your lover until the law declares you one.So it is a big mistake to start acting as if you are one when the knot has not been tied.Sorry for your predicament.This is not police matter. it is purely a civil matter. Seek the help of his friends and relatives. If he promises to pay in future,INSIST on him commiting the promise in writing. If this approach fails, seek the guidance of a lawyer. If the law does not help, hand over the matter to God. There is no need to curse him. he is already cursed. Just ask God to forgive you for going ahead in this relationship without gettin Him (God) involved.Then ask him to make that man return your money to you.Just exercise faith. The God who created both of you knows how to handle the matter.The man cannot stand the almighty God when he sweeps into action. Believe God. he works.He is more real than you can imagine. I celebrate with you in advance. From Ronti

Anonymous said...

Anyow,anyway collect ur moni frm hm.dts y I dnt borrow guys moni,I gv dem wat I cn afford shld in case de dnt gv me bk,it won't pain me.learn frm me gal

Anonymous said...

The guy has moved on. The money too has moved on. B sincere with urslf if u were in his shoes wuld u pay back..its calld one Chance..free am

bonita bislam said...

Darlyn get close 2d girlfrnd.(Learn 2use ur enemies)...warm ur way to her hrt, convince her 2c reason wit u nd let her talk 2him BUT if persuation dsnt wrk,my dear strike a bizness deal wit her so u guys can dupe him.Buh if it fails too FORGET d moni.It has bcom June 12

Anonymous said...

Jamb question. On a serious note if you have gone in with each other forget it, idi ti je.

temmy thayour said...

No court matter for here without evidence but the ideas here are really funny hahaha these ladies with their naked parol and curses ahahha

Anonymous said...

The man I will give my money to is still unborn. I know cos I will give birth to him, and he will call me Mummy. Husband o, boyfriend o, lover o OYO for all of you.

chumacent said...

What's all these plenty do this and don't do this, rubbish. give us the guys number and we will call him till he brings the money or he shld just get ready to lose his line and conttact...he's a fool

chijiokenwan emma said...

Dis one na gobe oooo

joseph imafidon said...

very simple look for his present and tell her he owes u..am sure she will pay u back if she really loves him....

ayokunumi said...

forget the money nd move on my dear, d money is quite much bt act matured abt it... He will soon come beggin u wit d money, mite even ask for a come back sef.. Since dere was no written agreement, I suggest u leave him be nd b prayerful..

joseph imafidon said...

tell the present gf of ur bf am sure she will pay u the money if she truly loves ur ex...

evelyn bukola said...

@ chinasa no written evidence or witness!

Deborah Emmanuel said...

U dumb?

Deborah Emmanuel said...

U dumb?

Anonymous said...

Abeg Linda collect dis babes number for me make we go finish the boy lol. But for real some guys are just heart., at least give d babe her money now and let her move on peacefully. Nawa ooo

bubbles said...

1. Boil hot water
2. Strip naked by 12am in the night
3. Kidnapp him and force him to give you the money
4. Report to efcc and tell then he is a yahoo boy
5. Get some1 to call him claiming to be from efcc that he should pay you or could just get arrested when he least expects it
6. You can pray and fast about
Sister just do the one that pleases you...I have given you options

Anonymous said...

If you really want closure, forget about the money and move on for your own peace of mind. My husband left a 1 bed house for his then GF. Together we have 3 houses now. Let it go and LET HIM GO!!!

Pumpkin

Deborah Emmanuel said...

4get gini?

Amina said...

U r a big fool,if u dnt understand wat u read,dnt bother commenting cos it shows ow low ur IQ is!ode oloshi,hang ur self 1st for being dumb n daft!

Deborah Emmanuel said...

Calm?...the violent taketh it by force ooo!

Anonymous said...

Pls my dear,it happened to me too some yrs back,wake up early in d morning,and go to yur man house,if you don't mind,start shouting to return yur money back to you,ppls will come out to ask what happened,that was how I did my own ,even d so call man slap me that day but ,all in all I collect my money back,but d man cant enter uk again ,I show him,I am a woman

Anonymous said...

Ha! See all of them making noises. If it was the guy that gave the babe the money, would you ask her to return it?

Secondly, it appears that the main issue is that the new babe will enjoy the money. And so what?

Your best bet is to move on with your life if he refuses to return it. At least, you would have learnt a very important lesson in life.

Deborah Emmanuel said...

I liked your comment about the "not borrowing men money"...but why should she forfeit the money?

Anonymous said...

OMO SEE GOBE!!!! U guys had something going on strong for u before u brokeup. He shld be d responsible guy u wanted to marry then nd pay u back ur money.

Deborah Emmanuel said...

Go meet Baba Gbadogbado for Ijesha to help you do him juju....when he dey see you appear to am everywhere asking for money...him family people go contribute return the money to you before them son go mental.

Deborah Emmanuel said...

U dumb?

Anonymous said...

My deAr ur muni egwu go oshimiri jordan...4get it. Eheee rough edge oh sorry rough diamond, so u be woman abi na gay man u be? U cum here de nag anyhow calling people names. U must be a bad woman! Nagging wife! Watch it b4 its late and I've also noticed dat u've behaving urself lately cus pple don give u seat. Hehehehehehhe! Mugu!

christiana robinson said...

Mtchwww linda wetin b all dis stories abt pple n der ex nau??give us beta jist joor

Anonymous said...

Sweetheart, am sorry you are going through this, why not speak with one of your mutual friends to get him pay since he stopped picking your calls, and if it doesn't yield, leave him and move on.

Anonymous said...

No mind d rough diamond....na conji de worry am most times.....lol

Anonymous said...

You should not be soft atall. Make a show down in his office or when he is with his friends or his girlfriend. He won't hesitate to give u that money

angel said...

When I say "never give a guy a dime if he hasn't given you a fortune" my friends think I'm too hard but my dear this is the exact reason why I say things like that.most naija guys of today are gold diggers or fraudsters.They deceive the girls by making them believe they are madly in love with them and can't wait to be called their husband but babe all na WASH!!!we girls need to wisen up and learn to put emotions aside when our money or assets are involved.It is better to be tagged "mean or stingy" by an asshole than to fall prey to him or be called his maga

Anonymous said...

am sure s a yoruba boy....get ur friends to insult him thru text messages nd fone calls it works like magic

Chop Chop said...

If you wrote him a check, take him to court but if u gave him cash, that is no proof of receipt meaning its a loss to you.

Gbabestic said...

Dat is d danger of long courtship/dating. 3.5years is long for me. U wouldn't have given him d money in ur first year of dating him.

U didn't settle d family differences within a year or 1.5 years so u can leave him on time. I guess d only reason u want to collect d money from him is because d business is BOOMING! Assuming d business has crashed, will u still go ahead to ask for d money?

Anyway, just forget about d money n just move on with you life. God knows how to settle u.

MRS OHIO ERANKO said...

SOME WOMEN GET CARRIED AWAY , AS SOON AS THEY COME ACROSS SOMEONE , AND SAY OH IT IS OUR MONEY , INFACT THERE IS NO SUCH THING , THE BETTER TO MONITOR YOUR OWN LIFE , AND LET HIM DO HIS OWN THING ,

SOMETHING HAPPENED TO ME BEFORE , I CAME ACROSS THIS PERSON , AND I STARTED STUDYING HIM TO KNOW THE KIND OF PERSON HE WAS , I DISCOVERED THAT HE WAS JUST A CONNINVING LITTLE SHIT , HE WOULD WANT YOU TO GIVE HIM YOUR MONEY AND HE WOULD NOT LIKE TO DO THE SAME , SO I DECIDED NOT TO ASK HIM FOR ANYTHING , AND I DID NOT TALK ABOUT WHAT I AM REALLY DOING , SO ONE DAY , HE SET OUT TO DUPE ME , HE SAID , HE WANT TO DO BUSINESS WITH HIS FRIEND AND THAT I SHOULD LEND HIM SOME MONEY , THEN I DECIDED TO TEXT HIM TO KNOW HIM WELL , I SHOUTED AT HIM , THAT SORRY , IF YOU NEED A LOT OF MONEY , WHY NOT GO TO THE BACK , BECAUSE WHEN I NEED MONEY , I ALWAYS GET THE LOAN FROM BACK , MAY I KNOW WHY YOU CAN NOT DO THE SAME , BECAUSE OF THIS HE REFUSED TO MAKE LOVE TO ME , AND HE LEFT , WHEN I PHONE HIM THE NEXT DAY , HE TOLD ME THAT THE RELATIONSHIP WAS OVER , AND IT WAS MY GREATEST MOMENT OF MY LIFE I WAS HAPPY THAT THIS CONNIVING LITTLE SHIT HAS GONE AWAY OUT OF MY LIFE . SINCE THEN I HAVE COME ACROSS SOMEONE ELSE , AND I TOLD HIM THE FIRST DAY NEVER TO ASKE ME FOR MONEY THAT I DO NOT WANT THAT KIND OF GIVE ME , I WILL GIVE YOU LATER . IF YOU NEED MONEY PLEASE GO TO THE BANK AND BORROW

Anonymous said...

gobe ba wo.

Anonymous said...

Are u kidding me?

Anonymous said...

First you should thank ur God d marriage didn't work cos dis really show he can't even be a responsible husband even if u eventually married him,I will advise forget about the money what u lost d money?or wah if a gang of robbers collect d money from u....you've done him a favor and another man is gonna do u a great favor too(yourhusband)and has for him who's owing u I knw he will come back to his sense oneday and he will Find u with the money,then d money might not av any value to u anymur.just av it in my u saved a soul (d1who owe u)take heart

Gbabestic said...

Dat is d danger of long courtship/dating. 3.5years is long for me. U wouldn't have given him d money in ur first year of dating him.

U didn't settle d family differences within a year or 1.5 years so u can leave him on time. I guess d only reason u want to collect d money from him is because d business is BOOMING! Assuming d business has crashed, will u still go ahead to ask for d money?

Anyway, just forget about d money n just move on with your life. God knows how to settle u.

Anonymous said...

Set am up.neky_luvv

Tiana said...

Perfect plane, remove shame form ur side nd create a scene in his Neighbourhood nd dnt let him have peace untill his fedup of ur trobles, get a good Lawyer nd sue him, am sure wen he finally gets a letter form ur Lawyer wit all d wahala u have subjected him to, he definatly will call for negociation! Wen dat happn dnt be in a hurry to accept wat he is offering cos he might use it against u in court! But anoda option is forming spiritual tins around his house or go to his family nd beg dem to tell dia son to pay u bk ur money, or locate his boss, if he used d money for goods, go to wia he is selling nd disturb him in front of his costumers, once u put a pin in his ass both home nd work am sure he definatly will hv a rethink!

Anonymous said...

go to babalawo and invoke his spirit

mimi said...

Never ever give a guy that is not your husband money.most naija men are gold diggers who have no shame and can "borrow" money (they never return) for africa from their supposed girlfriends.They have so perfected working on the psyche of their girlfriends that they make the gfs feel so guilty if they refuse to give them the said money.PLS ladies tell your man you don't have politely after all he was surviving before he met you..

Anonymous said...

Well, sorry about you story Miss.. But let's take it this way, so many pple on here, especially guys, have dated a girl, that they ve done/helped/assisted..,that culd be worth more than this 750K.., but still the girl broke their heart and also their love..I'm sure some of the guys didn't go to the girl to ask her for return of money/help rendered..so, take that as life, you don't always win..also remember we all do have a conscience..#talking frm experience..

Anonymous said...

any money involved in a relationship, weather spent by d girl or d boy ends in d relationship! so are u telling me dat wen a guy shops for d gurlfwend or buys her a car,if dry eventually separate she wouldn't return any money d guy spent on her! my dear d reverse is ur case. calm down cos d deed has been done already. move on wif ur life. cos am sure dat if d guy should calculate how much he spent on you it will even pass dat ur 720k

Anonymous said...

I swear. That's d real move o! Except that some people mind don die. No. Conscience or fear at all

Anonymous said...

Weyrey!

Hakeem said...

Judge Judy, hahaha take his ass to a Nigerian Judge Judy

Anonymous said...

my dear, how much is his car worth? better arrange boys, go to his place and collect his car and sell the damn thing. that would get you some part of the money.

Anonymous said...

Oh girl....
with all the kin craziness whey dey happen for 9ga u suppose don organize some hefty guys whey go block am after work so he can make it to the bank and give u the money....
sometimes u have to be really evil for people to understand.....
this is why people dey kidnap persin...or SUE him and get ur N720 thousand plus interest...u know say court go favor u...do it...HE IS A THIEF

Anonymous said...

Women can be silly when dey are in love,if it had been u who needed such amount of money,would he have done dat for u,well shaa if only u have an evidence,only then can u be sure of ur money by sueing him to court

Anonymous said...

Please see judge judy

Anonymous said...

And what did YOU benefit from your ex?

Anonymous said...

Eeeyah...i feel soooo bad for you,reading it almost broke me down. Some men are just plain devils! I think you should pray God touches his heart to refund it and if you have a document as evidence,pls sue the devil! I also believe in the law of karma,we see it always in Tyler Perry movies too. You'l be fine babe. Praying for you.

Anonymous said...

Nne tell d guy that you will report him to the deity inshort that you gave him one week to pay up,no use mouth just send him text.na so the person we de own me pay me sharp sharp.no go police or court cus u no get evidence.

Anonymous said...

Honey, listen to this very well. You can do a lot of things to get your money back from this maga ok. First get a lawyer because things may get ugly, forget using any friend or relative to talk to him because he wont listen. First things first, get your bank account statement that states when you withdrew the money, and even if you don't have a written agreement stating you borrowed him the money, you can prove that by the business he owns now, you can also prove you two were going to get married, hence the money. Sue him, and start the process, you could threaten him with police first by first getting him arrested for fraud, and releasing him upon getting your money back, i bet his woman will dump him after that. Make sure you have enough proof of anything, and don't talk to him in private without the presence of the police or your lawyer. Show him hell, and you will get your money back.

khemhy said...

Absolutely nofin u can do if der isn't a written doc backing it,mine dat i borrowd som1 wiv a written doc n his passport page †̥♥ back it up wasn't refunded upon all my efforts,i was told †̥♥ let go dat ϑ lord wil bless me in thousand folds which he did miraculously tru an unexpected contract worth millions. So my advice do dsame. LET GO!

Tarzan said...

Easy!!! SUE HIM!

Anonymous said...

Use Police to threaten him !!!!!!!

ec said...

1.embarass him infront of his new babe....i mean SHOWDOWN!! (2) go to his family and tell them amicably and tell them ur family is about to inform the police.(3) go to his boss and report. (4)Ask his friends to talk to him. If he is a man and not just a male he will be embarrased enough then sorry u dated a baby not a man

Anonymous said...

Charlie ur head knack ground?, if family ass una money,una go tight face,say one tin one tin nogo fitto make una drop cash but if one thief kiss and caress finish, una go say partner build. tchewww.

abeg abeg abeg, leave the boi even though what goes around will knock at his door soon!..

same thing wiv ma elder sis, dude married her though but spends too much on his younger GFs cos she's bn termed as an understanding wife.... anuofia women!!1

Anonymous said...

its a pity theres no legal binding contract... if u go to court, your case would be thrown out as there is no contract.
The best you can do is prolly report to a police station.

Sad story tho...

On a second thot, its only sensible and if a responsible for the guy to return the money opeacefully.

Anonymous said...

Taa! Who he be?? Carry police go arrest am, or go block him 4 his compound early morning and disgrace him, I can't leave such amount 4 him oooooo, he tot he is a player, guys are wicked, dats y I always say no matter hw u love a guy make u no give am kobo. He shuld be d one bringing simple.

bitchplis said...

Ur name should enter d guiness book of world record for d dumbest person alive for dis comment

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