Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Nursing mother commits suicide after baby dedication

Culled from Punch
A 35-year-old woman, identified as Ejobosele Okoruwa. has committed suicide in Ekpoma, Esan West Local Government, Edo State, few hours after dedicating her three months old baby in a church.
Ejobosele dedicated her baby on Sunday, while she killed herself in the early hours of Monday. Her lifeless body was found dangling from the ceiling with the wrapper she allegedly used to hang herself.
Husband of the deceased, Okoruwa told journalists that he slept in the sitting room with two of his children, while his wife slept in the bedroom with their eldest daughter and the baby.
Okoruwa said it was shouts from his daughter around 2am that woke him up, adding that he rushed inside the room only to see his wife dangling from the ceiling.

He said recent behaviour of his wife indicated that she was depressed, but it did not occur to him that she would take her own life.

He said, “I usually sleep in the parlour with two of our children and it was not different that day. My wife slept in the bedroom with our eldest daughter and the baby.

“Around 2am, my daughter started shouting from the bedroom. I rushed inside, thinking that she was having a nightmare, but I was shocked to see the lifeless body of my wife dangling from the ceiling. She had hung herself.

“She had been exhibiting some strange behaviour recently. One time she would be moody; the next, she will just be looking at one direction. When you call her she would not respond.

“I tried to know if she had any problem bothering her, but she said she was okay. There was a time she told my eldest daughter to take care of the children that she would be going away. I thought she was abandoning the marriage. I pleaded and she promised to stay. She equally complained of some health problems. I asked her to go for test which she did.”

The Divisional Police Officer in-charge of Esan West, Mr. Akpoko Omuohowo, who confirmed the incident, said the police were still investigating.

91 comments:

Anonymous said...

POST NATAL DEPRESSION IS REAL Y'ALL

Alloy Chikezie said...

Wow! So pathetic! May her soul rest in peace

Alloy Chikezie said...

Dats wat depression can really do to a person

Anonymous said...

Post Partum Depression is real in Nigeria. I was a victim.thank God I had help and information. Pple shd stop dis nigerian mentality of we don't get depressed. May her soul RIP n grace n strength for her family.

Dee_deeY said...

Postpartum depression, so sad!
RIP new mother!

Ekemezie Maryjane said...

May she is an Ogbanje. She has gone to where she belong.

Anonymous said...

This is a clear case of postnatal depression. There should be regular checks for women after giving birth to detect this and offer help if identified. This is what happens in the UK. Rip lady. So so sadddd.

Anonymous said...

Postpartum depression.. so sad.

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

So shocking! There is more to this that meets the eye, definitely!

Babe said...

Maybe she(the woman) is an 'Ogbanje' and her time on earth is up.... She'v gone bak 2 dia own world....#jst saying#

Queen Bee said...

Most likely postpartum depression dat sh** is real!
So sad she couldn't overcome hers.
May her soulRIP,but she would have held on for that lil baby
smh.

Anonymous said...

So sad...
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Anonymous said...

Postnatal depression is real! Naija people will come here now and say diabolical tinz were involved! Educate yourselves guys!

Rola said...

This is really sad for many reasons...it should also be an eye opener for new moms and moms-to-be.. I cannot diagnose what she had but the husband mentioning depression is a direct link to her mental state. In this country we always regard everything mental as crazy but the fact is there are other causes of mental illnesses ....

Most new moms are susceptible to postpartum stress disorder...the process of having a baby could be very challenging to both the mother and the child ..It is imperative that if the signs and symptoms of depression occur in a nursing mom that she immediately visits her health care provider..

For more information about the disorder click http://www.webmd.com/depression/postpartum-depression/default.htm

barbielee said...

Wow. Tragic. Mothers please I beg you all, the minute u decide to become a moda is d minute ur life no longer belongs to u only, but to ur kids too! Don't kill urslf or allow urslf get killed for any reason! A mother can neva be replaced! Wen life knocks u down, d smile on ur kids faces shd get u back up. Live for dem. A motherless child is neva complete!

Anonymous said...

Next pls,dats Ђ‎​‎‎ȌW̶̲̥̅ she want it...mtchew

ladiva said...

Haba! Dats a very ungratefull thing to do, so many people pray for children, pray for a family and here is a woman blessed with all that, yet she chose to take her life and leave the children to suffer. Who will play the motherly role now? Life is so unfair *bbsadface*

Anonymous said...

That is really sad. She probably had severe post partum depression. I wish she had gotten the care she needed.

Anonymous said...

Na wah...may her soul rest in peace

BARBIE said...

Wat is dis world turning into

Anonymous said...

POST Natal depression ooo...x the thing can really be bad. Some ppl even kill their own babies!

Bako... said...

What a sad story to hear. This issue of suicide is becoming rampant in our country today. Hope the police will get to the root of the issue.
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Anonymous said...

What a pity I pray that God will grant the family the fortitude to bear the lost

Anonymous said...

Post Partum depression is real. May she rest in peace

Anonymous said...

aww how sad maybe it was postnatal depression

Anonymous said...

May her gentle soul rest in peace.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm nawao! But wen u say she was complaining abt "health problems" are u sure she didn't find out she had HIV or something??cos its really weird

shells said...

Poor woman. She was obviously suffering from PND ( Post Natal Depression). This is a very serious condition that occurs in some women after childbirth. Over here in naija,its sort of a virgin issue that needs to be addressed and awareness created so that unfortunate women can seek for help. May her soul RIP. They will soon blame somebody from the village or an innocent neighbor.

SLEEKREEK said...

But why??? she left d baby for who??? she didnt think before acting....

Poopoo said...

Post partum depression. Typical among women who deliver newly. Sad. Time we recognize it as an ailment and family rally round that person for treatment.

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Rosie Said....Ewoohhh,this is so sad. This postpartum depression,an aliment that our people should not be dying from.But what do we have,wrong diagnoses all the time.

Agadi Tony Nduka said...

So so sad... Sucide shouldn't be the way out to any problem. Remember; 'Death doesn't end it, it's just another path towards a new journey'. May God forgive her for taking her own life and may her soul rest in peace... Amen!

Shepherd said...

No problem is worth taking ones' life for,there's always someone who's got more problems than you.
Post-natal Depression is perhaps as bad a killer in women as cancer is!

Anonymous said...

Ur a bush idiot. I bet you think ogbanje is real and twins shd be killed. Bush bush bush. This poor lady died from major depression and yet you judge her instead of seeing how our medical system and lack of GP follow up has failed us.... Shame to you bush girl!!!

Anonymous said...

awee that's so painful...probably post-natal depression...it's so severe some can even kill themselves...when people start exhibiting weird characteristics, don't just overlook it..get them help ASAP

Anonymous said...

Look at your local take on things, ogbanje.. Seriously? Anyway you look quite razz so I shouldn't be surprised

MaryAnn Ijioma said...

Post- natal/natrum/natalia.... post office go soon join enter. All of una done turn doctor for here. As for those calling her ogbanje, na the same meeting una dey go? Sey my pikin go school no mean sey e be literate. You guys should get schooled! Depression is real, it's your will-power that let's you decide to let it bring you down or you to find a way to survive.

ade said...

post partum depression is very real. 30% (perhaps more) of mothers suffer this. And 1% or even as much as 3% go into post partum psychosis...

yea.. no uncle or aunty is doing nobody. Mental health is important and husbands should stop doing nonsense and help out/pay attention to their wives during this period!!!

MaryAnn Ijioma said...

Post- natal/natrium/natalia... Soon post office go join.Everybody done turn doctor. For those calling her ogbanje, una dey follow her go the same meeting abi? You guys should get schooled. Depression is real, it's your will-power that lets you decide if it rules you or you control it. My pikin go school no mean sey e be literate. Linda make i no find my comment oh!

Anonymous said...

Two thns re involved: either no money or simply post natal depression; if d latter is d case, fine! But if no money two thns re involved, either d baby lives or dies of malnourishment! If d first is d case, fine! But if d latter, 2 thns are involved either d mother mourns and finally gets over it or she commits suicide! Since d later is d case, may she RIP.
~D great anonymous!

Nelly said...

No matter d stuation/condition, PND or nt, @ least she should have lived for d sake of her children, especially d nw born. So sad. God should give them d fortitude 2 bear d loss

Apple said...

Nah wao! It is depression.

Anonymous said...

Eyaa! Madam RIP,wz it dt bad? see wetin big eye make u do,ar u d 1st 2 live in room nd palour wit 4 children? D man sef room nd palour nd u stil dey born.

Anonymous said...

Illiterate monkey! Whr do u belong? Oshi oda!

Anonymous said...

Ignorant alika,hear urself n ur backward/archaic thinking.tho frm ur ancient name 'Ekeemezie'I can now understand

Anonymous said...

Here is my take- nobody knows what she has had to suffer from the husband or his people. Just maybe she had been suffering from some form of domestic violence.
Half of these women suffer and keep giving birth like the joy children bring would translate into the marriage but by the second or third child they hit the roof. Extras are mistskes.
Anyway it's just my 'maybe' theory

Anonymous said...

May her soul rest in peace but its hellfire she'll will b going 2 cos d bible said so..no man should take his or her life

ijeoma ogbonna said...

OMG!!can't believe she said dat!!u shld educate urself girl.shame to u.ogbange kwa?in dis 21th century

Chop Chop said...

Kai, this is typical post natal disorder case which is treatable by medication. RIP

Anonymous said...

may hr soul rest in peace......bt no mata wht it does nt justify anibodi 2 kill ones self......dat iz a major sin nd she will also be sufferin hr children az well

Ugo Chime said...

Probably post natal depression. I don't know how many hospitals take it serious and screen for it during immunisation. The husband also missed signs. She's acting strange, don't overlook it. Get her the help she needs. I had PND after my baby. Didn't think of suicide but I definitely felt very irritable to be needed so desperately. Drove me insane. Oh I remember d way I cracked. Left baby in d sitting room while he was screaming at d top of his lungs & locked myself in the bedroom; texted husband dat I couldn't take it anymore. 30 minutes later he was home immediately. I was still locked in d room. Itz lucky I ddnt do harm to myself or d baby, cos in dat state u r not thinking clearly. Women shld really seek medical help. Motherhood is hard & overwhelming and sometimes even d strongest buckles. This is very sad.

Ugo Chime said...

Willpower? In depression? Lol. This babe. U hve clearly not suffered depression. Ain't no willpower there. It overcomes u like a very high fever does when u have malaria.

Anonymous said...

Omg I'm really scared wen i read stories like dis, i'm currently towards the end of my first trimester and I swear I may be suffering from prenatal depression as morning sickness and dizziness is making me really sad nd bed ridden. My husband thinks I'm exagerrating the whole thing. So so sad.. im tired of d drugs and drips or visiting the hospital, I just want this phase to be over.

Anonymous said...

So real.

Anonymous said...

And you claim to be educated right? Smh

Anonymous said...

You look like an ogbanje yourself. Ugly and stupid!

Anonymous said...

You really are from the bush. It's called post-natal depression.

Anonymous said...

U no even shame to display ur idioticy in public.

Anonymous said...

wht n Gods nam must hav prompted this act,haba now... Dis soul cant rest bcus she took wht dose not blong to her,God dat gav u life did he say his tired of solving ur problems? Y not go to him n prayer instead of takin d life he gave as gift.

Anonymous said...

Ogbanje .? Seriously guys read a book !!!!!

e bonto said...

Depression is a silent killer,but d Husband saw d signs,he wld ve taken her 4 Counselling. May her soul R.I.P.

e bonto said...

Depression is a silent killer,but d Husband saw d signs,he wld ve taken her 4 Counselling. May her soul R.I.P.

e bonto said...

Depression is a silent killer,but d Husband saw d signs,he wld ve taken her 4 Counselling. May her soul R.I.P.

e bonto said...

Depression is a silent killer,but d Husband saw d signs,he wld ve taken her 4 Counselling. May her soul R.I.P.

Peaches said...

sigh.. people calling her ungrateful for taking her life n all... she probably had post-partum depression, depression being d operative word here... she wasn't even in d right frame of mind! all she wanted to do was end d way she felt, some women even go as far as hurting their babies... our society(Nigeria) needs to get more educated about stuff like this... contrary to popular belief, ignorance is NOT bliss

Anonymous said...

Our public health system in Nigeria has a long way to go. The public needs to be well informed, in this case, Maternal and Child health. This is a very sad and depressing news knowing that it could have been prevented. This is most likely post partum depression. So sad...May God give the family strength for their loss and motivation to all the informed Nigerians to help develop our public health....Oh my country.....

Anonymous said...

Yea it cud b post natal depression n it cud also b oda tins,mayb she found out she had a deadly disease or mayb d child doesn't even belong 2d man hereby causing depression.tins re nt always in blak n white u knw.

Anonymous said...

Yea it cud b post natal depression n it cud also b oda tins,mayb she found out she had a deadly disease or mayb d child doesn't even belong 2d man hereby causing depression.tins re nt always in blak n white u knw.

BLOGLORD said...

oh dear! Post Natal Depression had a strong hold on her. so sad!

Anonymous said...

Of Coz,y'all know ha soul cnt rest in peace.God frowns @suicide.No mata wat u r passn thru,Suicide shud NEVA be an option!

Anonymous said...

dat gal dull die.village gal.c ur mouth like d ogbanje.

Rough Diamond said...

Hmmm! Only God knows wat she did to make her take her own life. In esan, women don't commite adultery, maybe she did n couldn't stand d consequences. I don't see y a nursing mother will take her life leaving d baby for who kwanu? Na wa o!

Anonymous said...

She was a nice woman and a lovely mother I was shock to hear the news RIP ma

Ojukwu Charles said...

The hubby shd av taken the woman back to the doctor that delivered her,or better still wud av consulted any doctor for med advise...she had puerperal psychosis wwhich cud av easily been managed to avert the loss.

Adejoro Oyewole said...

it's so pathetic, bt i c no reason y a woman wil nt tel her husband she's pasing 2ru afta having children, no mata d situatn 2 are beta dan one d scripture, its a lesson 2 us all dat learn 2 share ur prblm wit some1 he or she may have d solutn 2 it.

Abdol said...

Nothing on earth will make somdy comit suicide.well may her soul rest in peace

Abdol said...

MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE.

Anonymous said...

I had post-natal depression too. I ws so anxious abt so many things after I had my baby. My anxiety all centered around if I'll be able to make it as a good and effective mom(looking back now, my worries then now look baseless). At a point I statred to have terrible headaches that sent me to d hospital for several test that all showed negative result. That's when I got wind of what my problem ws and started doing loads of inspirational reading.

Anonymous said...

Now datz ppp postpartum psychosis/postpartum depression. Govt shuld do sometyn so d psychologists are recognised in our society. Dat woman needed to see a psychologist who wuld ave bn of gr8 help. So sad.
RIP.

Anonymous said...

People really need to start talking about post-partum depression. The last couple of posts you made about this kind of thing people were talking about juju and possession. Depression is real

Anonymous said...

POST NATAL DEPRESSION.. that idiot is claiming ogbanje... nigerian ignorance

Edohe said...

Maybe,

Anonymous said...

Babe u MUMU oooooooo. I no say ur type stil dey exist

Anonymous said...

U b FOOLLLLLLLLLL

Anonymous said...

SAD!!!!! RIP WOMAN

Anonymous said...

Its pleuperal psychosis...

Exotik Presh said...

Post partum depression has claimed this woman's life. Its a pity

Anonymous said...

we sorta overlook a lot of things in Nigeria,really. I remember how depressed i felt after i had my baby,i would cry for hours for no reason. but luckily for me i had a friend who was a good listener and who was good at making one feel better. she talked me outta the mood.

Anonymous said...

Its true that post-natal depression exists, and it happens to a few women, especially if you feel stressed during and after pregnancy. I had it and sometimes cried after having my very wonderful baby.
I was lucky that my folks understood and were always comforting me, but I didn't get over it quickly>
I did finally. Its so unfortunate that the woman took her life though. May her soul RIP. Really sad.

Anonymous said...

It is so sad to hear this after going through the nine month of pregnancy for a woman to end her life this way. very very sad