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Monday 26 January 2015

What's the number one reason marriages fail in Nigeria?

Is it, 1. Money problems, 2. Infidelity, 3, Lack of love, 4. Sex problems. 5, Communication problems

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Unknown said...

communication problem

Unknown said...

Hmmmmmm

Blessed☝ said...

Communication problems

Unknown said...

5,1 and 3..
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AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Question 4 d gods.

Unknown said...

All of the above

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Question 4 d gods.

Dave Mide said...

Infidelity !!!

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Oya people wit experience start talking.

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Oya people wit experience start talking.

Livvsreamblog said...

1,2 and 4

Unknown said...

U listed dem accordingly Linda

Unknown said...

Infidelity


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FOLARIN• said...

All the above

The way marriages fail these days ehn
It is enough to scare single girls

Unknown said...

wait ooo, linda the question suppose be why do marriages fail around the world..
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dogworthmontreal.blogspot.com said...

Lack of love, when you love each other dearly, every other thing becomes understandable.

Unknown said...

Infidelity

Anonymous said...

lack Of love respectgt.rg@gmail

Unknown said...

2 3 5

Unknown said...

Number 5 any day

Unknown said...

Money problem, cos if money no dey, na serious gobe b dat. Money first every other things shall be added to d marriage. Linda take note!

LEWA*EXq said...

Too much of cheap girlS

Unknown said...

I go wit communication problem

Unknown said...

Money problem, cos if money no dey, na serious gobe b dat. Money first every other things shall be added to d marriage. Linda take note

Unknown said...

Money problem, cos if money no dey, na serious gobe b dat. Money first every other things shall be added to d marriage. Linda take note

Unknown said...

Money problem, cos if money no dey, na serious gobe b dat. Money first every other things shall be added to d marriage. Linda take note

Asamaka onyi said...

5

Unknown said...

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Money problems.....
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Unknown said...

I think marriages fall because of communication problems.

Unknown said...

5 communication problem


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Anonymous said...

All of the above....richlyblessed007@gmail.com

General said...

5

Anonymous said...

Money with the combination of one or more of others. Money is not everything but money is very important to life and relationships.

Temmy said...

Na soo

Unknown said...

Not married yet, buh i think it is Lack of communication

LGM said...

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Anonymous said...

All of the above with 5, 4, 2 ,1 and finally 3 in that order. infidelity is almost a cultural thing we should face it.

Unknown said...

Yes all the above listed, including lack of trust and wrong foundation..

Anonymous said...

All of the above.

Unknown said...

2) infidelity.
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Anonymous said...

All of the above and many more.

Unknown said...

COMMUNICATION PROBLEM I THINK

Unknown said...

Linda...
To me it depend.

Well, to me d number one tin is lack of truly accepting each other for "WHO" each other truly is.

Some people go into marriage only accepting WHAT each other r mostly in Nigeria not accepting d real personality which is d "WHO" is d doomed for most marriages in Nigeria.

BONARIO NNAGS said...

All of the above,but number is the main ingredient of any successful marriage,lack or short of it spells doom.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Unknown said...

major prob is money ish, which den leads to infidelity

Unknown said...

Definitely not money or infidelity, I've seen women stay with broke men that cheat, not sex either cause lots of women allege their husbands haven't touched them in months. Its probably lack of love since people who fight everyday can still stay married i'll rule out communication problems.

BLAQ said...

its infidelity

Unknown said...

Social media!!! It has caused more harm than good.

Anonymous said...

All of d above...

laurine said...

1 is money problem then 2 is communication and 3 is infidelities

Unknown said...

all of the above

Patrick said...

None of the above. Based on scientific research, the number one cause of divorce is marriage! And if you doubt me ask Chris Okotie.

Unknown said...

Believe me it's 1.Money problems

Unknown said...

True

KayMaths said...

All of the above! Nothing more, nothing less...

Unknown said...

Infidelity of course..... Nigerian men can cheat for africa smh

Unknown said...

All of the above, but most importantly, when there is no determination to stay in the marriage no matter what is obtainable in the society or trend that seems to be in vogue (divorce)

Hintealand said...

lack of love.
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jessica egolo said...

Communication problem

Unknown said...

No 3. Simply "Lack of Love" Nigerians no sabi love. A gal is either after ur money or because u are good in bed. No love

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Unknown said...

all of the above o

Unknown said...

I think it's boil down to lack of genuine love frm both parties involve. Is nt just enough if one out of d two hv dis genuine love bt it's enough if d two hv d genuine love for one another... And wit dis they can fight whatever p in their way and strive for "perfection" in their marriage.

Bonita Bislam said...

Communication problem is the mega and super problem.With communication, all the other problems can be understood,amended or tolerated.

jennifer said...

All of d above....varies depending on couple

Folashade Idowu said...

Linda is all of the above

Lukman said...

All of the Above!!

Unknown said...

This options: Infidelity

finest loves Bloglord😍 said...

Lack of love,nigerian men suck at showing affection

Unknown said...

All of the above......

Anonymous said...

I THINK ITS LACK OF COMMUNICATION N HONESTY..tomjerryswit

Unknown said...

6. Terrestrial influence

Anonymous said...

No.6 SEE FINISH

Anonymous said...

MONEY!!!!!
and maybe communication problems

Unknown said...

It's communication problem, when couples fail to communicate properly with each other they are not been able to discuss the problems on ground, rather they keep things for so long and before you know it they pour it out in one day and marital problems begin

Unknown said...

#communication is very important in relationships

Unknown said...

Communication problems

Hypertek IshOlawale said...

It depends on the couple and what each one of 'em can tolerate....All of the above can cause marriage failure and it also depends on the couple tolerance.

Unknown said...

3 and 5

@MEETD®EALEVANS™ said...

Infidelity...

Anonymous said...

It's DECIET.

Anonymous said...

All of the above exactly in order of importance from the back . Lab. Scientist.

Oshua said...

I think it's money problems

Anonymous said...

Communication.. Nigerians are too hot blooded man.Everything is war.

Anonymous said...

ALL ARE FACTORS>>>>>>.

Anonymous said...

All are factors.......

Unknown said...

Lack of love

Anonymous said...

Most rampant: money.

The rest follow in quick suit after communication fails.

Unknown said...

all bt money problem most

Anonymous said...

1. lack of love
2. lack of communication

Unknown said...

In Nigeria I say MONEY. As a woman.

Anonymous said...

1

Rakiyat said...

Communication problems

Unknown said...

To me, the number one problem which is EGO is not there in the 5 options you provided.
Most marriages fail simply because of stupid pride and ego (of mostly women)...and this is common with women with strong professions, independent business women, stars (be it actress, singer, athlete etc), they usually see themselves as capable of being independent and could be the "husband" if they choose to...however this is not to nullify the fact that some men possess big egos too, but for the purpose of this topic...I'll pick EGO above all the options you gave.

Cheers

Anonymous said...

Infidelity on the man's part mostly. The other issues come after this.

Unknown said...

Sex is totally excluded....cos if u don't want sex don't marry

Unknown said...

Firstly, I would like to say "one man's food is another man's Poison". Why ? Because different folks different strokes.
Marital problems differ. But these problems stem out from issues that lead to eventual displeasure in relationships. There are instances based on spousal behaviour (which is something that can change during marriage but never detected during courtship/dating ), or infidelity (from either side) or lack of mutual respect or communication gap or love, because some people marry for the wrong reasons ( sex, fame, money, etc..) or ego or pride but above all. May God grant us our own partners

alkayz said...

I think in Nigeria, its poverty or Lack of money

Unknown said...

All of d Above!!!.....and not putting God 1st!!

valentine tino mbakwe said...

Money is number one.

Bbb said...

Infidelity

Anonymous said...

Because most people get married because of what society is saying...'Oh,Aunty u don old o,go and marry' so they find one guy and 'manage him' with no genuine love whatsoever.

Gemini said...

1)God isn't their foundation (they don't have d fear of God) 2) They do not understand each other

Unknown said...

Money money money...sex and love is secondary

Unknown said...

its definitely communication problems. Most people go into marriage hoping its going to be a bed of roses. They get married to anyone they come across just to answer the title 'Married Man or Woman'. What they fail to realize is that Getting married is the easy part, Staying married is the hard part.

dami said...

Lack of love

Unknown said...

All of the above

alkayz said...

In Nigeria, I think is Money that is leading;POVERTY

Unknown said...

2

Anonymous said...

5. lack of communication between couples

Anonymous said...

i think it is infidelity

Joy(sharonlady002@yahoo.com said...

All of the above nd also lack of TRUST

Unknown said...

Lack of understanding of what marrige is all about before getting into the marriage because marriages of now adays in nigeria is just all about #RUSH# RUSH#...either because their mates are getting married, they also want to, or because of age is nolonger on their side without getting the understanding of what they getting their self into and what marriage really is all about.

Unknown said...

All of the above

win said...

Communication problem

Ochuko Arhiakpore said...

Sex problems and infidelity,Poor sex life leads to infidelity.

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Unknown said...

Maybe some myt said is money problems,but is not...just lack of love, cos wit love u wil get evrytin in marriages

GCN( LADY G ) said...

Infidelity....Choi!!!....gladchinyere@gmail.com

Unknown said...

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Money leads to infidelity, infidelity leads to lack of love, lack of love leads to sex problem, sex problem leads to lack of communication.
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Anonymous said...

Sex problems!

Anonymous said...

communication!
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Unknown said...

No,dere can b anything number one reason marriage fail, pple are different, different ideas,views,likes,dislikes,attitudes, what may be mr A problem isn't mr B problem. So no number 1 reason marriage fails Linda ikeji

Austine ihechukwu said...

Na money matter ooo, who say money no be problem?

chukelu said...

COMMUNICATION NORNI

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

its the silliest thing but lack of COMMUNICATION is the main reason why marriages fail in NIgeria today. just taking out time to hear each other out. hmmmmn so sad

queenloy said...

Of these enlisted problems, money is d least problem. I think d major problem is communication.
Where there is no time btw couples to share thoughts and rub minds together, there's bound to b problems......my thot

Anonymous said...

money issues

Amaka eze said...

Communication... Its looks insignificant but people bottle up alot of things that one day they just burst open and every thing crashes

Anonymous said...

Lack of love

Anonymous said...

Lack of love -If there's thru love, infidelity won't cum in, money (d understanding dat there is good times & bad times will be understood),Sex will be something u look forward to,when there is love, there is no communication problem

Anonymous said...

all of the above. they are all critical issues in a marriage. no 1 pass dey other.

Anonymous said...

money palava

Unknown said...

All of the above

Unknown said...

ALL OF THE ABOVE

Unknown said...

Lack of understanding.

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Unknown said...

ALL OF THE ABOVE

eka said...

all of d above.....

GALORE said...

Na everything!!"

From money
To sex
Lack of communication
Infidelity


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Unknown said...

Linda! Linda!! Linda!!!

I wil emphatically tell u dis...
All ur options 1-5 r completely out of it.

D major caused is certainly not accepting each other for who they r.

If u truly accept ur partner for who he or she is, u wil found out dat none of ur options r d major cause of marriage failure in Nigeria.

I stand to b corrected pls.

Anonymous said...

Money is the number one problem of failed marriages in Nigeria. Reason is simply because if a man doesn't have money the woman will always compare and complain. If a man has money money such man doesn't have much time to spend at home then the woman will start complaining that he doesn't have time for her then she sleeps with cook, security or old male friends.

Onyemara Eka said...

Poor communication is the number one reason why marriages fail not only in nigeria. Couples now prefer their phones to their spouses and when they try to talk the manner of approach is zero. money is another reason

Anonymous said...

Money problem and lack of communication

Unknown said...

All of the above

Miss Independent said...

Communication Problem, Bks if u communicate well I dnt tink U will hav moni prob,sex ish nd infidelity ish,or Trust ish... so learn hw 2 communicate wit ur partner 4 berra nd long lasting Union.....

Odia said...

Am not married but my view has always been: once a relationship on its own lacks communication, its heading for a breakup. Aside this the words RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE in our world of today are also known as the material(Money,cars,Houses) These are termed as security for most. A friend once said, marriage should be treated just like a proposal to a company, what you promise is what you should give.

beautyvile@gmail.com said...

I think communication contributes to it.

Unknown said...

All of d above

Unknown said...

Lack of love
And communication problem

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

My view...Finances or Communication

OMG!WOMAN said...

I'd say respect. When you lose respect for each others values then it's gone.

Anonymous said...

My view...Finances or Communication

Anonymous said...

All of the above

Davido's driver said...

2 (iniedo sub)


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Anonymous said...

Lack of love n communication problem

Unknown said...

If u ask me,i'll say it's infidelity and sex problems

Ryan said...

2. Infidelity.

Unknown said...

Well on the other hand,lack of communication

Anonymous said...

Lack of love and communication problem

Anonymous said...

Most often the couples aren't ready for marriage itself

Unknown said...

Communication problem.

Unknown said...

Lack of love

Unknown said...

#Infidelity

Unknown said...

Lazy husband...

Unknown said...

#Infidelity

Unknown said...

it differs linda

Seun said...

Honestly, I'd say Communication. If we look carefully into this, we'd see that most of the other problems revolve around the lack of communication. Take a man or woman for example having a problem with the partner in the area of money, infidelity, lack of love or even Sex problem. If only the two party would sit to resolve these calmly, then we won't be having failed marriages.

PRINCE WILLIAMS said...

I can tell you that all these factors put together are responsible for 90% of failed marriages in nigeria. in some cases it could be one or two of these factors and in some cases it could be all of them combined with witches and wizards.

aldotun said...

i think lack of communication is the major factor, yes we talk to each other but do we communicate, one says something, the other is saying a thing, sometimes both are even saying the same thing, but failing to hear each other out constitutes major loopholes thus giving room for the remaining factors.

Editor said...

na money

Richard said...
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Unknown said...

Lack of understanding and trust

Unknown said...

I tink its mostly infidelity, nigerian men are too promiscuous

Anonymous said...

Truth be told....Is a YES + pretence, dirty husband /wife, wen a wife can't cook jack n lots more

AnonymouS said...

#5 what about domestic violence? Oh well thts a norm in 9ja homes minus my home though

Anonymous said...

Linda 5,3,1 and 2.

prestige said...

Communication problems

Unknown said...

Linda,
Another major cause is having "High and unrealistic expectations in d marriage" and comparing ur marriage to another person own.

These r d major cause of marriage break down in Nigeria;
1. Not truly accepting d "WHO" which is d personality, character and attitude of d other person.

2. High and unrealistic expectations in d marriage.

3. COMPARISM of ur marriage to another marriage. Dis is deadly and a big blow to instant killing of marriages in Nigeria.

For those of us in marriage we can confirm all dis points above.

Unknown said...

MONEY

Anonymous said...

Lack of love!

Anonymous said...

'Communication problems' is not exactly a problem. its more like a symptom or result. If you never really had a good relationship with someone or had other money or sex or lack of respect problems then communication will breakdown and dissipate in All cases.

Anonymous said...

All of the above.

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Debora chidume said...

I think is money cus a hungry man is an angry man,lack of money can bring about frustration in marriages especially when family responsibilities arnt solved.
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Unknown said...

Communication problem of course.

Unknown said...

All of the above but mostly lack of love nd communication

Unknown said...

communication problem...
Now adays, the social media and our sophisticated smart phones has make things worse. People (both men and women) tends to express their feelings and state-of-mind via social media...
Nothing kills relationship more than that, all other factors follows...

MrOceanic

ary said...

There is no way of pin pointing it to just one problem but it is a combination of 2,3,5. Mainly because in our society many people rush into marriage just because they are ready to settle down not because they have found a right partner, which sometimes works out and sometimes doesn't. But then again, if couples communicated better maybe they could just boycott 2 and 3 and make their relationship better.

obiora said...

1,2,3,4 and especially 5.

Anonymous said...

Abuse (both physical and emotional) , infidelity and lack of communication, lack of love and sex sometimes. Men esp Igbos believe u don't have control over them as a. woman. They don't owe u any explanation for their actions (most times). They hide under tradition just like islams hide under religion(child bride) to torture and intimidate women. Etc. I'm a victim...will do my best and leave the rest to God

Anonymous said...

Infidelity.every other problems sets in when infidelity occurs in a marriage.

Anonymous said...

Infidelity.every other problems sets in when infidelity occurs in a marriage.

Anonymous said...

Infidelity.every other problems sets in when infidelity occurs in a marriage.

knowurway.com said...

1 2 3 4 is the problem gbam! Nigerians wake-up my people lives matter. PDP party and corruption insecurity darkness no electricity bad government must go. vote for #change# vote Buhari and Osinbajo. For president next month 14th!

Billionaire said...

all of the above Sis Linda

Unknown said...

We may not know if its all of the abive hut the truth is marriage fail for many reasons one can only hooe and pray!!! JC

Unknown said...

1, 4, & 5 that's the reasons...If u can manage these your marriage will work.
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Unknown said...

Infidelity na

Anonymous said...

Foundation problem. Every other thing mentioned changes with time. If good today could get bad tomorrow and the reverse is true, and so marriage that relies on such things would change as those things changes. But, foundation is the only thing that can be laid ONCE. If wrong, forget it would be struggle all the way. If right, then any of the changes to things listed above can be managed - though tough but can be handled. Now the foundation is Jesus Christ the solid rock, because na God first start marriage.

Unknown said...

It depends on the people involved in the marriage. It could be anything for any couple, some might even be all, but in all, these issues could still be sorted out if they both want it.

Unknown said...

All of the above

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