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Monday 26 January 2015

What's the number one reason marriages fail in Nigeria?

Is it, 1. Money problems, 2. Infidelity, 3, Lack of love, 4. Sex problems. 5, Communication problems

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EVA said...

The main reason is not on ur list, some men are picky,petty,nag and complain too much..that is d main reason. A man who nags for petty stuff can be a major turn off

Chop Chop said...

Money, infidelity, communication, lack of love, sex problem. Money being number one for the middle class and poor which leads to infidelity. Only few people really enjoy sex.

Unknown said...

INFIDELITY!!!

Anonymous said...

Sex problem. Gbam!
Naija marriages have stood the test of domestic violence, infidelities from both ends sef, money problem, lack of love (mtcheww), communication too.....but where this Sex problem comes in...common! The juice must be upheld nau. That's wen u hear, "he doesn't even have money sef", "he/she sleeps out", "there is no love sef", "we don't even communicate".
It's all Sex problem. Believe!

Have a lovely Monday ahead.
Cheers!

Chitoo's diary said...

Money problem and communication.

Jennykiss said...

Hmm..

The number one reason is "the existence of a reason" in the first place1

You decided one day, without being tied to a wall or a gun pointing to your head..."I want to spend THE REST OF MY LIFE with this person"...then went ahead to take a PUBLIC OAT, but one day because you need an excuse, you now have a reason.

...Which only proves you got married for a REASON TOO - USUALLY SELFISH INTERESTS


Unknown said...

Lack of true and unconditional love

Unknown said...

Three main reasons of marriage

1. Marriage was ordained for companionship, mutual society help and comfort which one ought to receive from the other at all times

2. Marriage was ordained for protection against sin, for avoidance of all sexual immoralities such as fornication that such person that have not the rare gift of celibacy might marry and keep themselves undefiled members of christ body

3. Marriage was ordained for pro-creation of children

So before getting into marriage, these are some of the things that are suppose to be put into consideration to find out if one is fit to go into it, to avoid break-ups.

yetty said...

hmmm.to me it is communcation problems

Anonymous said...

All these married men taking their side chicks to Carliza hotel and Big apple hotel...God is watching u all...Karma!!!

Subomi said...

lack of love

Unknown said...

Lack of love
Y

Ekwueme ND said...

Communication problems

Unknown said...

Lack of love n probably lack of money

Anonymous said...

All of the above..... Not putting God at the centre of your marriage too!!

Unknown said...

Lack of love

Anonymous said...

Interference from inlaws.

Anonymous said...

I will say communication is the major problem. If communication is properly handled, money and sex may not result in problem.
Can you imagine my wife telling she doesn't like sex that I must do it I should look for a way of satisfying myself outside the marriage, point blank. After 4 years of marriage.
My take is with proper communication we can resolve all issues, even some causes of infidelity could be resolved. Marriage is all about understanding.
I know my wife will read this and she will know I'm the one. The major challenge in my marriage is communication, she doesn't just like to talk/discuss.

Unknown said...

Infidelity.

Anonymous said...

It all begins with the presence of GOD and MATURITY.
Once there's no God, and the couple's mind are not matured enough,then problem of money, infidelity, love, etc, can not be handled properly.

Unknown said...

Is there any marriage that doesn't suffer from atleast one of the aforementioned problems

Unknown said...

I think its communication problems. Leads to misunderstanding

Baddest Puta said...

Communication

Anonymous said...

Its lack of communication, it could gives rise to other relationship vices

Anonymous said...

Lack of love. Ensure the person is your best friend before u think about marrying that person. One day love will end, and the friendship continues.

Unknown said...

I'll prolly sat infidelity... and sex problems ..niqqas would be like if you've tasted a particular food u gotta have to taste others too.. lol

Unknown said...

The main cause of failed marriage is infidelity. No man or woman want to share their partner wif someone else. Other things can also follow.

ASAMPOKOTO said...

Lack of love. Everybody just be jumping into marriage after months. Whether na love or like they ain't even sure. Just ready to gt married like that. Deff not infidelity sha, Cus most of these women still stay. And most times it's the man who walks.

Unknown said...

Communication problems

Anonymous said...

real true

Anonymous said...

NO. 5 - Communication problems.

Anonymous said...

Infidelity......joynkechi says so.

Unknown said...

Communication problems cos wit proper and adequate communication any ish can b sorted out

Unknown said...

1) Not allowing God to take charge of ur marriage nd (2) No tolerance

Cynthia Iyede said...

All of the above. Majorly 5

Unknown said...

I'll say communication problem....




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Unknown said...

Incompatibility! 0% chemistry!!!


...Noo thank u! I'd Rather be self Made!

Anonymous said...

Lack of love and communication problem

vanessa said...

lack of luv

Unknown said...

No 2 cums wen no 1and3,4 and 5 must have happened,so 2 i choose
NO TANK U,I D RATHER B SELFMADE

Marburg said...

communication problems

kaylie said...

I would say its infidelity as every other thing can be managed or tolerated.

Anonymous said...

When there is no love, infidelity comes in, almost same as communication, money is essential but there are still happy couples in Obalende, Ojelebg even in our villages. Sex Hmmm Mmmmm I can onli speak 4 myself here, thou single and over 35, I have been in R/s where d sex wasn't sooo fantastic but I loved him silly and never had such thots, anyways wen u re not a 1 man girl 4m relationships then to marriage, it's gonna be a bit difficult not to cheat wen his sex isn't great. I love catholic Abeg they instill morals

Unknown said...

1) COMMUNICATION
2) MONEY

Anonymous said...

Very well said.

Nomso said...

five...communication problems

snowflix said...

All of the above mentioned #onelovefromsnow#

Unknown said...

basically communication and money

south ockendon said...

All of d above

Unknown said...

Communication problem lack of love

yawanow said...

Number one problem is communication.
Transparency is vital and channels at conflict resolution.
Others are important but when there is no communication, how will both understand how to tackle financial problems, create awareness on areas to improve, rekindle lost love, or introduce new sex styles.
It all boils down to communication.

Unknown said...

All of them is the cause .

Adigun Da Whisperer said...

PROBLEM OF COMMUNICATION

Anonymous said...

Talking like a real winners chapel girl! Na em make all of una dey old for dere without suitors.

Anonymous said...

Number 1: Money

Number 2: Sex

Number 3: Communication

Number 4: Love

I'm not so hot on Sex but many men are. lack of it can cause serious, serious problems. I know the only thing holding my marriage right now is the sex - the others are missing.

Vivian Gills said...

1,2,3,4 and 5!

Unknown said...

its definitely communication problems..

Unknown said...

Expected more from you on this Bonita.
I always look forward to your brilliant an well constructed comment. But this one is behind.... Well, your opinion.
Nothing personal please.







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yeezy said...

Yea

John Collins said...

Abeg all of the Above

Unknown said...

I think its lack of understanding abt marriage

Anonymous said...

Failed marriage is a global issue, I advice married couples to be very intimate,go to bed stack naked(enabling lots sex,as we all know it relaxes the nerves even in trying times)and again husbands encourage your wifes to have provocative bikinis on when alone at home it spices up a lot,then communication. AY NUTTER

bisoye said...

communication problem

Anonymous said...

Majorly No. 1. Nigerians love money than true love.

Anonymous said...

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ebonyz... said...

Communication problem

Anonymous said...

2 and 5. #oneandonlynwa@gmail.com#

Anonymous said...

Lots of people have ignored the recipe for successful marriages used by our parents,grandparents and those of the older generations. Every marriage has the good,the bad and the ugly times whereas wisdom and strength is required to pass through the later 2 phases which is lacking in most young people these days. Most young people are more techi,savy,knowledgable but lack wisdom.
2 . Overexposure to foreign cultures,trends and ways of life including social media vices etc
3. Too much focus on money and material things and less focus on values ,which also leads to marrying the wrong companion..
4. Erosion of core societal values that is needed to sustain relationships and marriage. E.g not willing to make enormous sacrifices or persevere in tough situation,unable to suffer loss for one another,unforgiveness,selfishness,no loyalty,lack of honesty etc..

Unknown said...

Infact all of the above varying from one relationship to another, plus now majority marry for the wrong reasons, Pressure from family, money, peer group influence etc it's varies basically.

Anonymous said...

Lots of people have ignored the recipe for successful marriages used by our parents,grandparents and those of the older generations. Every marriage has the good,the bad and the ugly times whereas wisdom and strength is required to pass through the later 2 phases which is lacking in most young people these days. Most young people are more techi,savy,knowledgable but lack wisdom.
2 . Overexposure to foreign cultures,trends and ways of life including social media vices etc
3. Too much focus on money and material things and less focus on values ,which also leads to marrying the wrong companion..
4. Erosion of core societal values that is needed to sustain relationships and marriage. E.g not willing to make enormous sacrifices or persevere in tough situation,unable to suffer loss for one another,unforgiveness,selfishness,no loyalty,lack of honesty etc..

MissBusyBody said...

MONEY is the number one cause

Unknown said...

Lack of patient and understanding.

Onisama said...

As for me i believe it is COMMUNICATION , remember that these couples communicate before they agree to be one so if communicate fails other things will fall apart in the marriage.

Anonymous said...

What r u based? So i can find u and beat u up....disgustin she goat.

Unknown said...

Money problem & lack of communication #shikenan

Unknown said...

Infidelity is the major cause and sometimes lack of love i.e when d love goes dry.

Anonymous said...

Eya, pele dear😂

Anonymous said...

You dis wowo girl..u no get sch abi na work..Jobless hippopotamus..

Gilo's boo said...

Na trust issue

Unknown said...

In most cases, it's lack of communication.

Unknown said...

its communication Problem the secondary reason is multiple infidelity

Unknown said...

I think it's infidelity....

ColdFlame said...

It's a bit of the first (money) and last ( communication).
Lack of money in a union breeds insecurity, tension and a longing for what people you know or are friends with afford rather effortlessly while communication problems arising possibly from individual backgrounds (he was raised in the Western world and she in a run down suburb of Lagos) or conflicting career paths (she is in the glitz business with the attendant media attention plus fans while he is an unheralded office biggie that's hardly known beyond his company gates) are bound to tug at the centre every now and again until one party throws in the towel.

My advice? Marry your kind. One with a bit of your background and a sure personality that is not blown away by every little accomplishment of friends/neighbors nor taken in by every contrary bit said about you is a friend who will stick with you regardless of any other shortcomings.

Unknown said...

I think it's infidelity....

Juleslouis said...

Lack of love. Most marriages in nigeria r based on desperation to be married, overlooking the spouses bad habits hoping it will change after marriage, love of money eventually when love fades problems begin to suffice and so much more. Love is too powerful and can overlook so much. But many couples don't understand this. When there is true love, all other problems won't come in.

Bukas said...

Communication problem is the most problem cos if it was money as people are commenting here, these rich celebrities wont be loosing their marriages. other problems are there too but COMMUNICATION is the highest

Olumide Adeola said...

It could be one or combination of any or all factors listed.

Anonymous said...

Communications

daa mii said...

Infidelity nd lack of moni

Unknown said...

5, 5, 5 nd ego problem..i hav msc nd look at dis ond holder talkin to me or i am a ceo nd dis trader/nurse(na hin wife bdat o) talkin to me without respect...

Anonymous said...

Either Cuz u married a Foolish and stupid Woman or Vice Versa

Unknown said...

Money is the architect of the whole problems

Anonymous said...

1 3 5

Unknown said...

the reasons are on point! all contributes but the major one is money and communication.....

Unknown said...

All of the above..

Unknown said...

i believe its none of the options mentioned,but the age in which we are,in those days,in the seventies thereabout a man would have four wives or more,he might not have the money , not love some of his wives and still cheat outside and especially the first wife,he might not show love but yet they all still stick themselves in the man,s domain,but here we are nowadays one man one wife and after a year or less the marriage crumbles its just the age we find ourselves

Unknown said...

i believe its none of the options mentioned,but the age in which we are,in those days,in the seventies thereabout a man would have four wives or more,he might not have the money , not love some of his wives and still cheat outside and especially the first wife,he might not show love but yet they all still stick themselves in the man,s domain,but here we are nowadays one man one wife and after a year or less the marriage crumbles its just the age we find ourselves

omobaba said...

communication problem!

Anonymous said...

All of the above...

Unknown said...

lack of love then communication problems. Money is just secondary cos i believe once there is love,nothing else really matters

Lekan.A said...

None. Of the above. Societal pressure! These days, people marry for wrong reasons which is why it doesn't last.most marry cuz they feel it is d right thing to do not necessarily with the right person. Your parents forced u into marriage, ur friends are getting married so u feel left out n wanna feel among toO.no way u wd date ur partner for few years before marrying then divorce a year later.
Lekanadewusi@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

money!money!money! especially if the husband doesnt have it and d wife has it.. trust me ,most problems can be managed if d husband is rich!!

sexyangie said...

lack of love if u so love ur hubby u wunt want to leave him for a day..

Unknown said...

Communication. Because most time couple don't understand their selves. Then money is another thing.

Anonymous said...

Ya head correct! Poverty is the root of all separation & divorce...

Anonymous said...

CUT.
C- communication
U- Understanding
T-Trust

That's all

LIB's Last Born

Unknown said...

communication problem

GR8BABE said...

all of the above and not dealing with some spiritual issues

Anonymous said...

Marriages break when wmen can't submit, simple!

gab2shoes said...

Na fuck problem.....90percent.....if a man can knack her well day and night, I swear d babe go pick every faults...but if d guy super knacker, d babe go pay most of d bills with blinking, I lie....forget any other...gals like Dickson pass, pretenders!

The gods are wise
Gab2shoessaysso

Anonymous said...

All of the above plus in-law whahala

Unknown said...

Communication problem and sex¡

Anonymous said...

Lwkmd ...yeye boy

Anonymous said...

All these Igbo married men taking their side chicks to Carliza hotel and Big apple hotel...God is watching u all...Karma!!!

Anonymous said...

Abuse (both physical and emotional) , infidelity and lack of communication, lack of love and sex sometimes. Men esp Igbos believe u don't have control over them as a woman. They don't owe u any explanation for their actions (most times). They hide under tradition just like islams hide under religion(child bride) to torture and intimidate women. Etc. I'm a victim...will do my best and leave the rest to God

Anonymous said...

You missed one. Family members extended and immediate

Unknown said...

Communication problem

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

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Mz Naija said...

Ms Linda...to me o Its 90% no 3..sex problems...every other things follow..#myopinion#

Anonymous said...

All of the above

Anonymous said...

Its used to money probles but as it is now, its shifting to sex problem, ladies hardly get satisfied with sex now and before the guy says jack robinson, she's long gone and has got herself a new guy....so sorry for the future generation, cause it's getting worse by the day....#smh

Anonymous said...

MONEY!!!!

Unknown said...

1 $ 4

Anonymous said...

Naaah here's d line-up: 1. Money. 2. Communication. 3. Love. 4. Sex. 5. Infidelity.

Anonymous said...

Not true. Love is never enough.

Unknown said...

Communication problems, then Infidelity

Anonymous said...

The major problem is technology and folo folo lifestyle women wnts 2 play d role of men and vice versa. God hlp us

Anonymous said...

THAT A WOMAN STAYS WITH A CHEAT AND LIAR DOES NOT MAKE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE, IT IS A FAILED MARRIAGE.

A LOT OF YOU THINK IT IS WHEN SOMEONE ONE PARTY GETS UP AND DIVORCES THE OTHER THEN YOU SAY THE MARRIAGE HAS FAILED. NO, FROM THE MOMENT THERE IS OUT RIGHT AND CONTINUAL GROSS MISCONDUCT, LIKE ON GOING INFIDELITY THAT IS CONSTANT CHEATING AND OUT RIGHT DISRESPECT. THAT IS NOT A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE. WELL IT GOES LIKE THIS, IF AS A STRONG CHRISTIAN YOU FALL, I.E SIN AND REALIZE YOUR MISTAKE AND REPENT IMMEDIATELY, THE HOLY SPIRIT WILL NOT DEPART IMMEDIATELY, BUT IT BECOMES INIQUITY WHEN YOU DWELL IN THE SIN AND REFUSE TO REPENT, THAT IS WHEN YOU GRIEVE THE HOLY SPIRIT AFTER A WHILE HE WILL DEPART IF THE PERSON CONTINUES TO SIN. FOR THOSE THAT HAVE THE "CHABOD" THAT IS ANOINTING WILL EVENTUALLY LOSE IT THEY CONTINUE TO SIN. SO IS MARRIAGE IF YOU ARE MARRIED TO A WOMAN WHO CONTINUES TO STEAL FROM YOU AS HER HUSBAND AND SHE CONTINUES TO CAUSE YOU PAIN AND GRIEF WITH SUCH DISRESPECT, THAT IS A FAILED MARRIAGE.


THAT MEANS YOU CANNOT TRUST HER WITH BUILDING A FUTURE TOGETHER.
SO PLEASE LET US STOP THE STUPIDITY FOR ONCE.

Anonymous said...

THE FIRST REASON WHY MARRIAGE DIES, IS JEALOUSY, AND THE SECOND IS SEX, AND THE THIRD IS MONEY AND FOURTH IS LIES.

THERE ARE NO CURE FOR MARRIAGE BRAKE UP , BECAUSE HUMAN BEING HAS NO DESTINATION , YOU HAVE TO LIVE YOUR DREAM .

LIFE IS A JOURNEY , SO IF YOU STOP OVER SOMEWHERE AND YOU ARE STILL GOING FAR ,

THERE IS NOBODY WHO CAN STOP YOU FROM YOUR JOURNEY

Unknown said...

ALL of the above.

Mo Aremu said...

Money problems and lack of love can be dealt with but infidelity,sex problems and communication problems are the worst . In order of priority.....

Damola Gbadegesin said...

I think its communication problem, if only people can learn to communicate more in marriages problems would be lesser.

cynthia said...

All these are some of the reasons marriages fail

APPLE said...

Infidelity. Nigerian men are DOGS. Thank God i did not marry a Nigerian man, i did not even date them My friends that married them are full of regrets. Come and insult me and watch your ugly dicks disappear. I am not coming back to read so FUCK you all.

Unknown said...

Infidelity.
immanwachukwu@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

More than half is caused by social media! Face book, bbm and the likes....I'm telling u

Anonymous said...

Unrealistic expectations.

Unknown said...

Most ladies re after d money. Money is d major problem

Unknown said...

Most ladies re after d money. Money is d major problem

beauty said...

Communication problem

Anonymous said...

alll five

Richard said...

Heey i see d ladies are running from d truth.. INFIDELITY!! any day anytime.. CUS we Nigerians especially the MEN dont know how to handle that inferno.. Its a SCARE AND A NITEMARE.

Thanks,
Richard T.

Anonymous said...

infidelity or cheating

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