Dear LIB readers: My husband hates to cuddle in bed
From a female LIB reader
I've been married for just four months and I must say marriage is not at all what I expected. It's not bad, but its a little different from when two people are dating, or maybe mine is just peculiar. What gets me the most is that my husband doesn't like to cuddle in bed. After sex, he wants me as far away from him as possible on the bed. When I put my hands around him, he tells me to give him space, saying he's uncomfortable with anything touching him when he's sleeping. And this is supposed to be forever? I like to cuddle, I want to be held by my man, I want to be able to sleep in his arms but not this man I married. He wants none of that. How do I convince him that is the best way two people who like each other should sleep? I need my cuddles
I think some people really do not like the 'touching' thing, i don't too but not when it comes to my husband.Maybe you husband is not used to it or doesn't actually like it.You just have to find ways to make him come around, you're his wife,find a way.Not only after xes should u try
Babes, he cuddle he no cuddle does it change anything?DONT PUSH IT else u would find urself in a seperate room from his soon.Just give him time. una go cuddle tire....makavelli says so... linda better post my comment ooo
my dear, am also in ur shoes..same here..infact we sleep facing east and north...its that bad. marriage isnt all we expected buh God will see us through....its a package whatever u see wen u open, u accept with faith.....cuddle ur pillow.
You do enter one chance,talk to him about it when he is relaxed or in a happy mood.tell him your fears I wanna ask did you marry as a virgin?if no you should have noticed this about him when you guys were courting.
Pls try to understand n take it easy wt ur hubby. I'm awife but i dnt really like cuddling to slp tho my husb doesn't mind. So we cuddle for a while but i leave him after a while wen we start slpn so dt we can both enjoy our slp. D thing is u r d one dt wd b cuddled so won't realise dt ur weight on ur husb arms n chest may bcome discomforting after a while n dt wd mk him not enjoy his slp. My advice marriage is sacrifice giving up u for ur hubby, let it go girl if u speak wt him GENTLY about it n he really doesn't wnt too. Even if he doesn't cuddle I'm sure he does other 9c things u like. But d way marriage is a wake up call to work for a woman so gird u loins ur hubby may not jus b as a sweet as u like but u wd find our in a few years dt he's really d best thing dt happened to u darling.. Cheers from a long time happily married wife of an imperfect n not as romantic husband*winks*
Oh dear, two people liking each other has nothing to do with cuddling. I'm a married lady too but I'm not the cuddling type. Just like your husband after sex pls stay away, while my husband loves to cuddle and caress. Marriage is more than cuddling, just let it be.
Hmmm, dear men cn b funi, wel just take it easy wit hm, sm men re like dat, luk 4 wen he is in hapi mood nd tel hm dat it hurt u wen he back u, he shuld treat u lik hs pet nd wife bkos dats wat we re to our husbnd, dnt force hm pls, just talk to hm in a cool nd humble voice i blv by time he change. Just b patience k
Seriously, I don't like cuddling either. Can't sleep while cuddling with anyone. My dear, it's not strange pls. Some guys don't just feel comfortable cuddling at night. Ubanagum
Lol ....lmao "cuddle seeker" permit me 2 call u dat comunication is d most imprtnt tin in marriage wt it, ur home will be very swt provided u knw wen n how 2 communicate jst try communicate in a very swt romantic n appropriate way let ur man knw wat u wnt its gnna b gradual tho
My dear... Marriage no be Moi-moi... Na for better and for worst. You have to adapt. Just be managing maybe he will change in time to come. Thank God say him dey accept to have sex with you self...lol
My dear... Marriage no be Moi-moi... Na for better and for worst. You have to adapt. Just be managing maybe he will change in time to come. Thank God say him dey accept to have sex with you self...lol
I feel you, sister. Cuddling is the best. Can you have a conversation about alternating cuddling every other night? Do this until he's reaching out for you every night. Lol. Have a talk about it and see where things go.
I don't know why some married pple complain, didn't you guys date or court? Didn't you guys sleep together while dating? You were supposed to have seen the signs b4 marriage!!! Common it's just 4months... and you are already complaining, he hasn't really shown himself though
Too bad. You don't force what you can't get. Most men like space after sex. That is his kind of person. Some are different and will hold you till you get tired sef. Get used to it. This is not mills and boon love.
Let me start by askin,didnt u guys court 4 a while b4 d marriage ish? If yes didn't u notice dis nt wantin to cuddle tin,nd if no I must say dats where u missed it.Talk to him let him knw hw much u luv to be cuddled...communication is key...wish u luck
Lol....married people are complaining, the single are complaining...maybe your hubby is gay...have you ever thought of letting him try a gay guy...lol... ¤ ¤¤¤GUTS OVER FEAR¤¤¤ ¤ ¤¤¤QUEENMAYA¤¤¤
Cuddle ko, cuddle ni ! Your problem is you have no problem . Abeg park well and thank GOD for a good husband if that is all you are complaining about .A word is enough for the wise,.
LMFAO 'LIKE' EACH OTHER? THEN MAYBE THAT IS THE PROBLEM. WHAT HAPPENED TO TWO PEOPLE WHO 'LOVE' EACH OTHER. I'm sure this is one of them marriages where they just date for one year and jump into it.
Everybody with His or palaver. Just talk with him about it and let him know how important it is you. Even if he doesn't turn around immediately as time goes in, I believe he will. Let it not stir a fight between you two. Just allow him to take his time. Or even after discussing with him, you might see a genuine reason for that.
It's because you guys havent started having real problems that's why cuddle is on your mind as a problem. Remain married for the next 5 years and you will forget cuddle.
My dear, let me tell u d truth, some people can't sleep with something touching them nt even a finger , I use my guy as a e.g, is a lovin an caring guy, he knows wen to mak me happy, he cares alot, but I lik cuddle lik u said him can't sleep with a finger touching him, he wuld't tell u to live him alone oo, but u will notice he can't just sleep, so I hv manage to stay away frm him while sleeping, unless der are more things ur hubby is nt doing right, if is just d cuddle part, lol get a teddy, live dis cuddle things an enjoy ur marriage, marriage no dey for bed ooooo,
Sister show him more love,always cook the best food for him espacially in the night.Be patient with him,your marriage is still very new,you are still learnig each other.Pls don,t begin to tell your friends or relations about this be a woman.Patient is the answer.I had same problem when i got newly married,you see it can be in a man or woman,what i told you above was the only formular i used,nobody knew about it.Goodluck
My dear talk 2 him about it, As much as u guys might not necessary cuddle all d time when u are in bed together. Which one he needs space, he has 2 adjust bcuz he has u now, datz wat people do 4 love! Dont nag about it sha, just tell him how u feel. A man dat truely loves wld do anyfin 2 make his woman happy. He shldn't be selfish! Some men sef! I tire ooooooo
Living in bondage season two. Not just fair,he obviously abhors touch just like Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey. Just like Ana,you need to break through him,and finally get him freed. Go read it or watch it and get some tips,it could help.
Some guys are naturally like that. My husband was like that too but we communicated alot cuz of it and i explained to him how it affects me. He's changed now. Not exactly how i want but he's trying.lol
Ur husband is just me, my husby likes to cuddle every night b4 he can sleep but I wldnt ve any of dat, even our children likes to cuddle b4 dey can sleep. So wat I do is settle my children n husby to bed by allowing dem cuddle me, den I gently pull away wen dey r asleep.
I can't sleep knowing sm1 z touching me,boo complains a lot,what I do is Icuddle him n allow him cuDdle me 4 a while,when I'm ready 2 sleep I ll just tk his hands off me..nw he understands me.
Most you cuddle???? What ever you know you can't change n which will keep u in a sad mood...Pls just let it go. Don't allow this lil reason (cuddling) to spoil the fun in your matrimonial home. Wish you all the best......Mizz Ekaette
No man wants a woman close afta sex,so natural wot he's doin but afta some few minutes he shud be ok again,wen u in bed give him space face ur wall make em ma face em wall,but afta a short time he'll stretch 2 hold u,try it and see knw rush 2 cuddle cos na men nature be dat afta sex.
Thats why u should test fuck before you marry a man and see all his reaction in the bed room before marrying him. The only advice i will give you is "NO CUDDLE NO SEX" bcos both has to do with touching.!!11!!!! see how to cuddle at www.totogist.com
This is no prob, when u start havin challenges u will forget abt cuddle, u should even thank God that he is performin well, what if he is not, what will u do. Abeg next topic
Most guys hate cuddling after sex or having a girl in their arm while they sleep.stop letting fairy ruin you.normal people sleep separately.You can get him to cuddle while u guys watch tv/movies n things of such.not when a man his tired and wanna rest. It's uncomfortable. Simple.
Well,i tink u jst av to understand and consider him,my hubby doesn't lik cuddling too,meanwy i love cuddling. All i did was to desist 4rm likin cuddling,now i can slp cmfortably wtout cuddling. And we are so kul!
its not about not being touchy, its about him wanting to be as far away from her as possible after sex like she irritates him. talk to him about it, if he loves u, he'd adjust since you feel bad about it
Respect his space that's it. I'm a woman and I don't like being cuddle when i'm trying to sleep. That said, talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't budge, sorry o!
Babes Pray ! A man that doesn't want cuddles after Sex hasn't got love for you- Gbam, or he is just getting there, . If it doesn't change, try to get him to appreciate you more, Men are physical by nature, the more he appreciates you , the more he'll wanna love and hold and cuddle. All the best !
You are making mountain out of a common hill. Go and buy long-handed teddy bear. They can cuddle more than anybody, and they are obedient too. They will never tell you that they need some space. Don't go destroying you marriage because of cuddle. I am a woman too, but I mind cuddle. If my husband cuddles me good, if he doesn't fine. What is important to me is God’s protection and guidance. I no fit complain about cuddle. Cuddle no fit put a dent on my marriage. l guess you're holding cuddles so high because you're newlywed. Don't worry you learn because as time goes on, you notice a lot of things your husband can't do, but could do while you were dating, and by that time you will learn and stop complaining. My advice? Start learning now because this who he really is. He doesn't like cuddling all the time, and you should respect that. Give him the space. When you want cuddling and doesn't want, you can't force him cuddle your teddy bear. Again, go and buy a teddy bear and give your marriage sometime to grow. Pillow is cuddly too!
Its not selfish my dear, I don't like to cuddle as well cus I'm a bad sleeper, if the person should move around me I will be waking up every time and by money I will be feeling depressed cus I wasnt able to sleep all through the Nite, my dear just sleep it doesn't change anything
beautiful question!!!! because i don't think she dated this man...it seems like an arranged marriage and he doesn't love u.. if she dated him before marrying him... she would have known
beautiful question!!!! because i don't think she dated this man...it seems like an arranged marriage and he doesn't love u.. if she dated him before marrying him... she would have known
lolzz wahala dey 4 lagos oo. most men dnt like cuddling in bed cuz dey dnt feel comfortable,dis dsnt justify d fact dat he shuld nt cuddle u afta sex, evry woman love dat bt wait o dsnt he cuddle u b4 marriage????? jst talk 2 him communication vry essential dearie
....is that the only issue so far? trust me, many more to come...you either live with it or bounce now. Keep in mind that there is no perfect man out there and you are not either. I'm pretty sure there are things he's just now finding out about you as well. It's your call.
Do u like to cuddle bcos u really like to cuddle or bcos u believe that is d norm... growing up that's what u see in movies and all but in reality most pple don't cuddle thru out d night.
WELL MY DEAR DAT HAS BEEN HIS LIFE BEFORE YOU MARRIED HIM,A LITTLE DIALOGUE CAN CHANGE HIM COS I KNOW SOMEONE DAT HAD D SAME PROBLEM BUH AFTER A WHILE D HUSBAND CHANGED COS HE REALIZED IS A SACRIFICE HE HAS TO MAKE FOR LOVE AND MARRIAGE....
Lmao... na so! Give am weapon na!!! All dis ladies sef! Ddnt u know dis before u married him? So cuddling is ur own marital problem now... *sigh! next!!!!
I am telling you from experience.Divorce him b4 it is 2 late.You will live d rest of your life regretting why u married him if you delay leaving him.Dont hope he will change 2moro.it will never happen.
My dear myb he's juz like that,try and tlk 2 him 2 see his y he does dat abeg,4 marriage compromise must de abeg,he shud try and do smthng about it abeg,its like u sayin babe I dnt do blowjobs after marriage,nd he luvs blow jobs u'd have compromised 4 him he should do same 4 u nau.
Poster, kindly ask your husband the reason for his discomfort for cuddling? Could it be heat issues? Recommend a cold bath after sex and maybe put the AC on! Could it be he isn't use to it or doesn't see the importance? Tell him how much you fantasize abt it and that you really crave for it. Make him see reasons why love making is incomplete without the cuddle for many females. You could use articles, research materials, Google to enlighten him. Could it be he needs his space? Then both of you have to find a middle ground. You wouldn't be able to force it on him but if he's understanding, he should kw it's not all abt him, maybe you both cud decide to do it once in a while to make both parties happy. If it's his reason is anything not stated above, then you nid to know why he holds that believe and ask him what can be done about it. Goodluck!
Well don't blame him,am also exactly what you just described, my wife understands,i understand her stand point...wen I cuddle I can't fall asleep...just cope
o pls shut up . so wen u were dating and slept over at his place u didnt noticed that ur man doesnt cuddle or smtin . stop talking like a kid . well all i can say is u beta cuddle ur pillow den.
o pls shut up . so wen u were dating and slept over at his place u didnt noticed that ur man doesnt cuddle or smtin . stop talking like a kid . well all i can say is u beta cuddle ur pillow den.
o pls shut up . so wen u were dating and slept over at his place u didnt noticed that ur man doesnt cuddle or smtin . stop talking like a kid . well all i can say is u beta cuddle ur pillow den.
hmmm just talk, I did not say NAG!! but tell him how much you like to cuddle, tell him politely and jokingly, its true some people don't like it but he can change if he loves you, its not that big a deal.
I am a female and I don't especially like being held either. Body heat is not very comfortable, especially when you're sweating. First get a body pillow. second, showering after might make him more comfortable with the idea; allows the bed to cool down and you too, so it doesn't feel like you're sleeping in your hot sweat with a hot sweaty towel smothering you.
Different strokes for different people. I'm a woman and likes my space so much that cuddling while sleeping takes off the sleep from me. Your hubby is normal so you need to understand him to be able to strike a balance between his likes and yours. God will help you.
I'm also one of those people that like my space in bed. My husband is a cuddly person too but he's gotten used to the fact that his wife is a solo sleeper. Though there are times I fall asleep on his chest but I always go back solo after a few hours. My dear you can't deprive your husband of a good night sleep because you want to cuddle but I think you guys can compromise on the after sex cuddles but what's the use if it's forced? Relax and enjoy your marriage, it's a whole different game from dating. Learn not to take too many things seriously. Pick Your Battles - click my name to read more and share your thoughts.
I am a woman and i share the same sentiments as your husband, and my husband has no problem with that. Rearrange your priorities in your marriage and if cuddling is your no one priority over his other qualities, then divorce him let another woman appreciate his better qualities.
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jst 4 mnths nd u re complaining?? Did u nt notice it b4 u got married? Talk 2 him abt it. He myt change wit time
I think some people really do not like the 'touching' thing, i don't too but not when it comes to my husband.Maybe you husband is not used to it or doesn't actually like it.You just have to find ways to make him come around, you're his wife,find a way.Not only after xes should u try
Has he ever complained about anything like dat before u guys got married?If no then the fire has been quenched nd the flamed has totally disappeared
Babes, he cuddle he no cuddle does it change anything?DONT PUSH IT else u would find urself in a seperate room from his soon.Just give him time. una go cuddle tire....makavelli says so...
linda better post my comment ooo
Likewise me,i hate when sleeping one will cuddle his or her arm's around me when am sleeping cause it makes me feel uncomfortable.
You even see husband marry,u no thank God...u dey cry for cuddle...cuddle your bible my sister.
my dear, am also in ur shoes..same here..infact we sleep facing east and north...its that bad. marriage isnt all we expected buh God will see us through....its a package whatever u see wen u open, u accept with faith.....cuddle ur pillow.
You do enter one chance,talk to him about it when he is relaxed or in a happy mood.tell him your fears I wanna ask did you marry as a virgin?if no you should have noticed this about him when you guys were courting.
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Pls try to understand n take it easy wt ur hubby. I'm awife but i dnt really like cuddling to slp tho my husb doesn't mind. So we cuddle for a while but i leave him after a while wen we start slpn so dt we can both enjoy our slp. D thing is u r d one dt wd b cuddled so won't realise dt ur weight on ur husb arms n chest may bcome discomforting after a while n dt wd mk him not enjoy his slp. My advice marriage is sacrifice giving up u for ur hubby, let it go girl if u speak wt him GENTLY about it n he really doesn't wnt too. Even if he doesn't cuddle I'm sure he does other 9c things u like. But d way marriage is a wake up call to work for a woman so gird u loins ur hubby may not jus b as a sweet as u like but u wd find our in a few years dt he's really d best thing dt happened to u darling.. Cheers from a long time happily married wife of an imperfect n not as romantic husband*winks*
Oh dear, two people liking each other
has nothing to do with cuddling. I'm a married lady too but I'm not the cuddling type. Just like your husband after sex pls stay away, while my husband loves to cuddle and caress. Marriage is more than cuddling, just let it be.
explain to him nycly, and make sure your hair is not the problem. some guys dont like to touch their body.
Hmmm, dear men cn b funi, wel just take it easy wit hm, sm men re like dat, luk 4 wen he is in hapi mood nd tel hm dat it hurt u wen he back u, he shuld treat u lik hs pet nd wife bkos dats wat we re to our husbnd, dnt force hm pls, just talk to hm in a cool nd humble voice i blv by time he change. Just b patience k
is it by force to cuddle, since he doesnt like it leave him alone nd cuddle ur pillow after all, all cuddle na cuddle .
Seriously, I don't like cuddling either. Can't sleep while cuddling with anyone. My dear, it's not strange pls. Some guys don't just feel comfortable cuddling at night. Ubanagum
Lol ....lmao "cuddle seeker" permit me 2 call u dat comunication is d most imprtnt tin in marriage wt it, ur home will be very swt provided u knw wen n how 2 communicate jst try communicate in a very swt romantic n appropriate way let ur man knw wat u wnt its gnna b gradual tho
My dear... Marriage no be Moi-moi... Na for better and for worst. You have to adapt. Just be managing maybe he will change in time to come. Thank God say him dey accept to have sex with you self...lol
Cari ur cross jorr!
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Cuddle cuddle if he no make love u complain he beat u complain what all these cpming
My dear... Marriage no be Moi-moi... Na for better and for worst. You have to adapt. Just be managing maybe he will change in time to come. Thank God say him dey accept to have sex with you self...lol
Cari ur cross jorr!
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I feel you, sister. Cuddling is the best. Can you have a conversation about alternating cuddling every other night? Do this until he's reaching out for you every night. Lol. Have a talk about it and see where things go.
He doesnt love u, gbam!
I don't know why some married pple complain, didn't you guys date or court? Didn't you guys sleep together while dating? You were supposed to have seen the signs b4 marriage!!! Common it's just 4months... and you are already complaining, he hasn't really shown himself though
Too bad. You don't force what you can't get. Most men like space after sex. That is his kind of person. Some are different and will hold you till you get tired sef. Get used to it. This is not mills and boon love.
Let me start by askin,didnt u guys court 4 a while b4 d marriage ish? If yes didn't u notice dis nt wantin to cuddle tin,nd if no I must say dats where u missed it.Talk to him let him knw hw much u luv to be cuddled...communication is key...wish u luck
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Try to understand him not every body likes cuddling.
Lol....married people are complaining, the single are complaining...maybe your hubby is gay...have you ever thought of letting him try a gay guy...lol...
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Cuddle ko, cuddle ni ! Your problem is you have no problem . Abeg park well and thank GOD for a good husband if that is all you are complaining about .A word is enough for the wise,.
Let him 4 nw,its something he is nt used to....he will change..atleast sex is happening
LMFAO 'LIKE' EACH OTHER? THEN MAYBE THAT IS THE PROBLEM. WHAT HAPPENED TO TWO PEOPLE WHO 'LOVE' EACH OTHER. I'm sure this is one of them marriages where they just date for one year and jump into it.
Lol. . .you don enter one chance! Una no nack before una marry? This is why you need to sample the goods before commiting.
errrrrmmm didnt you two date? this didnt come up? oh wow
Everybody with His or palaver. Just talk with him about it and let him know how important it is you. Even if he doesn't turn around immediately as time goes in, I believe he will. Let it not stir a fight between you two. Just allow him to take his time. Or even after discussing with him, you might see a genuine reason for that.
Kweke!
Gud morning, Deres nothing bad in it but u need to use ur wisdom with him...kunle ola .
It's because you guys havent started having real problems that's why cuddle is on your mind as a problem. Remain married for the next 5 years and you will forget cuddle.
My dear, let me tell u d truth, some people can't sleep with something touching them nt even a finger , I use my guy as a e.g, is a lovin an caring guy, he knows wen to mak me happy, he cares alot, but I lik cuddle lik u said him can't sleep with a finger touching him, he wuld't tell u to live him alone oo, but u will notice he can't just sleep, so I hv manage to stay away frm him while sleeping, unless der are more things ur hubby is nt doing right, if is just d cuddle part, lol get a teddy, live dis cuddle things an enjoy ur marriage, marriage no dey for bed ooooo,
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Sister show him more love,always cook the best food for him espacially in the night.Be patient with him,your marriage is still very new,you are still learnig each other.Pls don,t begin to tell your friends or relations about this be a woman.Patient is the answer.I had same problem when i got newly married,you see it can be in a man or woman,what i told you above was the only formular i used,nobody knew about it.Goodluck
My dear talk 2 him about it, As much as u guys might not necessary cuddle all d time when u are in bed together. Which one he needs space, he has 2 adjust bcuz he has u now, datz wat people do 4 love! Dont nag about it sha, just tell him how u feel. A man dat truely loves wld do anyfin 2 make his woman happy.
He shldn't be selfish! Some men sef! I tire ooooooo
Lolz,to i need my cuddles,jst be calm, dat man sef, na way to him
Living in bondage season two. Not just fair,he obviously abhors touch just like Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey. Just like Ana,you need to break through him,and finally get him freed. Go read it or watch it and get some tips,it could help.
Buy a big teddy bear and cuddle after you make love to your man.
We are aware that marriage is overrated but pls married women should shut it up and learn to compromise, particularly, communicate.
Some guys are naturally like that. My husband was like that too but we communicated alot cuz of it and i explained to him how it affects me. He's changed now. Not exactly how i want but he's trying.lol
Ur husband is just me, my husby likes to cuddle every night b4 he can sleep but I wldnt ve any of dat, even our children likes to cuddle b4 dey can sleep. So wat I do is settle my children n husby to bed by allowing dem cuddle me, den I gently pull away wen dey r asleep.
I can't sleep knowing sm1 z touching me,boo complains a lot,what I do is Icuddle him n allow him cuDdle me 4 a while,when I'm ready 2 sleep I ll just tk his hands off me..nw he understands me.
Very correct!
Most you cuddle???? What ever you know you can't change n which will keep u in a sad mood...Pls just let it go. Don't allow this lil reason (cuddling) to spoil the fun in your matrimonial home. Wish you all the best......Mizz Ekaette
I agree with you ! Communication is key
No man wants a woman close afta sex,so natural wot he's doin but afta some few minutes he shud be ok again,wen u in bed give him space face ur wall make em ma face em wall,but afta a short time he'll stretch 2 hold u,try it and see knw rush 2 cuddle cos na men nature be dat afta sex.
Mayb it has to do with your Mouth Odour, Brush b4 going to bed........sugestion.
Thats why u should test fuck before you marry a man and see all his reaction in the bed room before marrying him.
The only advice i will give you is "NO CUDDLE NO SEX" bcos both has to do with touching.!!11!!!! see how to cuddle at www.totogist.com
This is no prob, when u start havin challenges u will forget abt cuddle, u should even thank God that he is performin well, what if he is not, what will u do. Abeg next topic
Most guys hate cuddling after sex or having a girl in their arm while they sleep.stop letting fairy ruin you.normal people sleep separately.You can get him to cuddle while u guys watch tv/movies n things of such.not when a man his tired and wanna rest. It's uncomfortable. Simple.
He will change after sometime
Haba! @aboki its 2early 4dat na!
Lmao hahaha
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Looooool
How come you didn't know that before you married him.
Talk to him
Great comment! Best advice!! Said it all
Well,i tink u jst av to understand and consider him,my hubby doesn't lik cuddling too,meanwy i love cuddling. All i did was to desist 4rm likin cuddling,now i can slp cmfortably wtout cuddling. And we are so kul!
its not about not being touchy, its about him wanting to be as far away from her as possible after sex like she irritates him. talk to him about it, if he loves u, he'd adjust since you feel bad about it
Respect his space that's it. I'm a woman and I don't like being cuddle when i'm trying to sleep. That said, talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't budge, sorry o!
U high?
Babes Pray ! A man that doesn't want cuddles after Sex hasn't got love for you- Gbam, or he is just getting there, . If it doesn't change, try to get him to appreciate you more, Men are physical by nature, the more he appreciates you , the more he'll wanna love and hold and cuddle. All the best !
You are making mountain out of a common hill. Go and buy long-handed teddy bear. They can cuddle more than anybody, and they are obedient too. They will never tell you that they need some space. Don't go destroying you marriage because of cuddle. I am a woman too, but I mind cuddle. If my husband cuddles me good, if he doesn't fine. What is important to me is God’s protection and guidance. I no fit complain about cuddle. Cuddle no fit put a dent on my marriage. l guess you're holding cuddles so high because you're newlywed. Don't worry you learn because as time goes on, you notice a lot of things your husband can't do, but could do while you were dating, and by that time you will learn and stop complaining. My advice? Start learning now because this who he really is. He doesn't like cuddling all the time, and you should respect that. Give him the space. When you want cuddling and doesn't want, you can't force him cuddle your teddy bear. Again, go and buy a teddy bear and give your marriage sometime to grow. Pillow is cuddly too!
Lmao this warrior boy you dey burst my head o
Its not selfish my dear, I don't like to cuddle as well cus I'm a bad sleeper, if the person should move around me I will be waking up every time and by money I will be feeling depressed cus I wasnt able to sleep all through the Nite, my dear just sleep it doesn't change anything
I don't like some one touching me when I'm sleeping
I love my cuddles
Didnt you know this before you married him? go away joor
beautiful question!!!! because i don't think she dated this man...it seems like an arranged marriage and he doesn't love u.. if she dated him before marrying him... she would have known
beautiful question!!!! because i don't think she dated this man...it seems like an arranged marriage and he doesn't love u.. if she dated him before marrying him... she would have known
PRAY!!!
lolzz wahala dey 4 lagos oo. most men dnt like cuddling in bed cuz dey dnt feel comfortable,dis dsnt justify d fact dat he shuld nt cuddle u afta sex, evry woman love dat bt wait o dsnt he cuddle u b4 marriage????? jst talk 2 him communication vry essential dearie
Be prayerful
Write him a letter letting him know how u feel, make him find it n read it when you're not home, put it in his wallet or something. Kpele.
....is that the only issue so far? trust me, many more to come...you either live with it or bounce now. Keep in mind that there is no perfect man out there and you are not either. I'm pretty sure there are things he's just now finding out about you as well. It's your call.
In marriage, never use sex as a weapon! My 50 cents
Do u like to cuddle bcos u really like to cuddle or bcos u believe that is d norm... growing up that's what u see in movies and all but in reality most pple don't cuddle thru out d night.
Can u do w'out cuddling? Learn to pick ur battles
It's almost as of I wrote this. I had to stop talking about it or feeling bad and now I am so used to it.
WELL MY DEAR DAT HAS BEEN HIS LIFE BEFORE YOU MARRIED HIM,A LITTLE DIALOGUE CAN CHANGE HIM COS I KNOW SOMEONE DAT HAD D SAME PROBLEM BUH AFTER A WHILE D HUSBAND CHANGED COS HE REALIZED IS A SACRIFICE HE HAS TO MAKE FOR LOVE AND MARRIAGE....
Lmao... na so! Give am weapon na!!! All dis ladies sef! Ddnt u know dis before u married him? So cuddling is ur own marital problem now... *sigh! next!!!!
I am telling you from experience.Divorce him b4 it is 2 late.You will live d rest of your life regretting why u married him if you delay leaving him.Dont hope he will change 2moro.it will never happen.
Ure a very big fool she asked 4 an advice not insults,if u dnt av antythng positive to sat then shut the fuck up!nonsense!!
My dear myb he's juz like that,try and tlk 2 him 2 see his y he does dat abeg,4 marriage compromise must de abeg,he shud try and do smthng about it abeg,its like u sayin babe I dnt do blowjobs after marriage,nd he luvs blow jobs u'd have compromised 4 him he should do same 4 u nau.
Poster, kindly ask your husband the reason for his discomfort for cuddling? Could it be heat issues? Recommend a cold bath after sex and maybe put the AC on! Could it be he isn't use to it or doesn't see the importance? Tell him how much you fantasize abt it and that you really crave for it. Make him see reasons why love making is incomplete without the cuddle for many females. You could use articles, research materials, Google to enlighten him. Could it be he needs his space? Then both of you have to find a middle ground. You wouldn't be able to force it on him but if he's understanding, he should kw it's not all abt him, maybe you both cud decide to do it once in a while to make both parties happy.
If it's his reason is anything not stated above, then you nid to know why he holds that believe and ask him what can be done about it.
Goodluck!
Sme people shud juz shut d fuck if they dnt av antythng positive to say!@abisoye na u I de tok to,rude ass fool!
eeeww!!! thats not even an option..
lolz
It is well
Well don't blame him,am also exactly what you just described, my wife understands,i understand her stand point...wen I cuddle I can't fall asleep...just cope
o pls shut up . so wen u were dating and slept over at his place u didnt noticed that ur man doesnt cuddle or smtin . stop talking like a kid . well all i can say is u beta cuddle ur pillow den.
o pls shut up . so wen u were dating and slept over at his place u didnt noticed that ur man doesnt cuddle or smtin . stop talking like a kid . well all i can say is u beta cuddle ur pillow den.
o pls shut up . so wen u were dating and slept over at his place u didnt noticed that ur man doesnt cuddle or smtin . stop talking like a kid . well all i can say is u beta cuddle ur pillow den.
hmmm just talk, I did not say NAG!! but tell him how much you like to cuddle, tell him politely and jokingly, its true some people don't like it but he can change if he loves you, its not that big a deal.
That's right
I am a female and I don't especially like being held either. Body heat is not very comfortable, especially when you're sweating. First get a body pillow. second, showering after might make him more comfortable with the idea; allows the bed to cool down and you too, so it doesn't feel like you're sleeping in your hot sweat with a hot sweaty towel smothering you.
Different strokes for different people. I'm a woman and likes my space so much that cuddling while sleeping takes off the sleep from me. Your hubby is normal so you need to understand him to be able to strike a balance between his likes and yours. God will help you.
You are very smart. God bless you
Anuty nothing wrong u should understand he does not like it simple, beside no be by force
I'm also one of those people that like my space in bed. My husband is a cuddly person too but he's gotten used to the fact that his wife is a solo sleeper. Though there are times I fall asleep on his chest but I always go back solo after a few hours. My dear you can't deprive your husband of a good night sleep because you want to cuddle but I think you guys can compromise on the after sex cuddles but what's the use if it's forced? Relax and enjoy your marriage, it's a whole different game from dating. Learn not to take too many things seriously.
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There are men like that,ask him why
I am a woman and i share the same sentiments as your husband, and my husband has no problem with that. Rearrange your priorities in your marriage and if cuddling is your no one priority over his other qualities, then divorce him let another woman appreciate his better qualities.
U just said my mind.
No, dey were doing holy dating.
Hahahaha! U harsh oooo
Oby it might be him that she ended up with.
I hate cuddling!
I hate it. I love to cuddle too but my spouse don't want me to held.
Accept your fate.. . .
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