Dear LIB readers: Should I forget this man or pay for the wedding?
From a female LIB reader
I have dated my fiance for 5years now. Whenever I ask him
about our marriage plans, he keeps telling me he doesn't have enough
money for the wedding. This guy earns 170k monthly while I earn
100k. I told him I have some cash I made from a supply, can't we use it
for the wedding? He said its okay by him. His mother called me from Benin
last week and said the son told him about our marriage arrangement, that
she has mapped out the wedding expenses. To my greatest surprise she
gave me an amount I can't really explain. I have 3milion on me while she
said everything will cost 4million both for the traditional and white
wedding. my wedding gown is not included, his suit is not included. Should I
forget this man and move on with my life or release all the money I have for the wedding? I am troubled at the moment. I am so confused. Please advise
Your man has no money for the wedding expenses yet his mother is the one mapping out the expenses, wonders shall never end. Well if your mind is made up to marry him, ensure he contributes no matter what He's the one marrying you and not the other way round
Oh my dayz! Re u diz desperate to marry one useless man? Naaa don't try it. Imagine. He shld pay n marry u not vice versa. Pls leave n walk away. Pls can't u invest dat ur money into profitable biz? Y shld ur guy even know u ve 3mil ? Pls use ur sense ooo.
Are u a fool? Don't u smell a rat? Pls don't be so blinded by desperation n end up rather miserable afterwards. Pls take a good walk outta that set up.
My dear,did you say 170k a month(that's way above minimum wage of pple I knw that have tied the knot)He's obviously trying eat you dear.you shldnt have suggessted to pay at all. this family sef(d mother esp)isn't worth it oooo.How can a mother be comfy with you paying(saddening)You deserve better & you know that.Goodluck dear
Big scam why will his mother give you an estimate or is she a wedding planner? Even if she is your fiance has the choice of spending 500K if he wish to spend...for both traditional & white I clearly believe this is a scam He just refuse to take responsibilities So who will train the kids when they come?
Tell him if he does not have the money for a big wedding.. He should do the one he can then u can give him a little support But if na me be you i go run with out looking back useless guy wif a ...... Mom
Hnestly,stay away 4rm his family and him cost he earn more dan u and he can surport u,and his mum is a wicked woman if u ar her daughter wil she cal 4m dat alot of money
Young lady,your father did not send you to school to make money and lavish because you desperately want to be a Mrs. Why should a man engage a woman when he's not financially capable/ready for a wedding? You made a very big mistake by telling him you have money to make the wedding happen in the 1st place when your man is working and earning more than you.your duty is to help/support(if need be),and not the other way round. And what's the mother-in-law's biz with wedding expenses?are you coming to marry her son or her son is going to marry you? Shine your eyes o
It is nt right ma dear,it is his right to pay 4 d traditional and urs is to support him nt u payin 4 evry thin,he earn salaries.b wise deary don't b desperate,5yrs in relationship does nt mean he is meant 4 u.his mum givin u bills is nt right.u kw d truth,tick to d truth.
oh honey... don't you dare pay for your own wedding ALL BY YOURSELF. the fact that this man who earns more than you will even allow you, with the help of his 'precious' mother to plan your wedding.... RIDICULOUS; Says alot about his character. child PAUSE! just pause... tell him, how you feel... and tell him he should contribute. if he ain't about to, child put his ass out... He isn't your prince... Goodluck
Big scam why will his mother give you an estimate or is she a wedding planner? Even if she is your fiance has the choice of spending 500K if he wish to spend...for both traditional & white I clearly believe this is a scam He just refuse to take responsibilities So who will train the kids when they come?
Tell him if he does not have the money for a big wedding.. He should do the one he can then u can give him a little support But if na me be you i go run with out looking back useless guy wif a ...... Mom
First you don't need a big wedding ceremony. Second is if you pay for this u would keep paying even when he can afford it. Stop been d one to ask him about gettin married and the prep. He isn't ready and am wondering aw u missed that. If movin on suits u why not but paying for the wedding is a no no. Be wise.
â„“̊ wonder why some issues are being asked of people's opinions αηδ advice having known what to do in d first place provided it's an intelligent or sensible person! Anyway,open ur eyes,ur mind αηδ use ur senses..!If U̶̲̥̅̊ want to squander ur money,use it lavishly for ǤÕ̳͡D̶̲̥̅̊'s work rather than on any unreasonable man will push U̶̲̥̅̊ to d valley at d end of d day!!
My dear,i will advice u to move on wit ur life cos dis mite be a set up to collect ur little savings and add to his,just becarful I dn't see luv here buh game
Pls don't be foolish and desperate to get married that u wld foot the bills for the ceremony including the trad. U can assist him with the bills not carry it all. If u pay for it Just know dey didn't ask for ur hand in marriage u did it ursef.
1 word swtie RUN!! He's cruel n so is his mum. She's nt ashamed 2 evn give her sons future wife a list. Jeez hw cn women b this heartless 2 their fellow woman. A man who loves u will spend money 2 marry u. I keep telling women this' if he's nt 4 u he's nt 4 u'. Mayb 4 a few years n then comes divorce bt that aside HE is a SHAMELESS MAN no offence n me 4 1 will never marry a man without manners infact Tell me 2 wait 4 Jesus bt I'm marrying the 1 thatl open the car door 4 me nt because he's beneath me bt because he sure knows hw 2 treat a woman. 4 all I care he could hv been saving 4 the wedding if he is really interested. Mtcheew this coment is this long cos I hate questions like this, I can't stand men who mke women stoop so low as 2 marry themselves n I get real pissed at women who tolerate it. It is nt by frce 2 wear a ring n then b married 2 urslf. This kind of man wiLl mke u use a vibrator 2 n hell say its fine by me instead of looking 4 ways 2 satisfy u..lol----C21
First you don't need a big wedding ceremony. Second is if you pay for this u would keep paying even when he can afford it. Stop been d one to ask him about gettin married and the prep. He isn't ready and am wondering aw u missed that. If movin on suits u why not but paying for the wedding is a no no. Be wise.
U v 3m? Wia did u get dat kind of money from? Mehn u r a big gal o. U dnt deserve such man cs if u finance d wedding, u wil continue to carry d. responsibilty while u are married.
why on earth should you pay for the weeding expenses my dear? you earn 100K and he earn 170K and he still can't save up for the weeding. My sister please move on with your life and stop forcing yourself on a guy who doesn't appreciate you. He never talks about weeding, signs of no interest. "Don't allow the fear of been alone force you to be into where you will be alone".
No dnt release any money to her, dat too much. With 1million u can have both Tradition and white wedding done. Am sure she and her son are up to something. Be careful
Don't continue with the wedding.. because the guy want too use you.. continue praying and God will give you another man.. because he didn't worthy a man let alone husband
U must be a joker,how on earth do u want 2 release all d moni u hav jst 2 marry a man?By d way r u suppose 2 marry urself?My dear ,it's a different case if d guy is nt earning anyfin den u can assist him,buh it's certain he n his family want 2 milk u down,as 4 me,I dnt fink u hv any future wit dat guy,so 4get abt dis burden u want 2 heap on urself .
Are you out of your mind. Are you so desperate to get married. Do not marry him. If he can't pay for the whole or half the wedding then kick him to the curb. If you pay to marry him you will live to regret it.
Na wah oh re you a learner? Abeg save your money, if you can't do without the man, go ahead and do court marriage and do your white wedding whenever. Paying for the wedding will make you look desperate and cheap. Naija women sha, they no deh learn.
Don't continue with the wedding.. because the guy want too use you.. continue praying and God will give you another man.. because he didn't worthy a man let alone husband
Na him make the Men dem dey treat una like Nobody.See the one when kill him Banker Wife last time ,when U pay 4 ur own Wedding and Traditional Marriage den what is ur watt? Later U nor see Money take run the Family or give the foolish Man and him Mother when nor get shame for her Eyes,beating go start.He should pay ur Diary not you his ,then you will bear Children and take care of him and the Kids.Must you force a Man to Marry you? Linda I like ur way God go bring Man when go do everything for you this Year IJN................Amen carry go.
Though most of this stories are fictions, I must advise here that only desperate women would want to pay for your marriage the least that can be done is make a little contribution to marriage ceremony. Don't you see that he and his mother are trying so hard to dump your ass so that plot of she calculating expenses for you. In fact na you dey seek hand in marriage na, that's why they gave you expenses make you come pay.Abi my people how una see am?
How much does he have? If you bring dat 3million, he should be able to bring something and his mother should really cut the expenses. You guys don't need a lavish wedding. Just something simple
Haaaaa you are stil asking omoge Run Run run oooooooo. That is not a husband and that is not a family to marry into. If you do,you will regret it for the rest of your life. Haba 4million kai
forget and leave him, he is not ready for you. He might just someday tell you, u forced him too marry you, since you paid for the wedding. why cant he pay when he can afford it.its just simple he is not really down for you and might someday leave you. please leave this guy, and find someone better.
Move on darling! When a man loves a woman,he wants to provide for her. It comes naturally. Your guy and his mum are messing with you. He is marrying YOU not the other way round. You've wasted,5yrs already,pls don't waste another minute with him and his family. They are bad news!
Please pardon my question. What kind of value does he place on you? And how come the mother wants you to bring in N4m for a marriage with his son? I am disappointed with such a mother! Will she do same if you were her mother. If you are not asking for society wedding, I see no reason why the guy cannot hold a wedding ceremony within his means. I think the guy is not serious but merely sees you as a free lay. Put value on yourself, quit the relationship and move on with your life. A better and appreciative person will come your way.
The answer is within the question. This thing is causing you more heartache than happiness, this means its not good/healthy.
Please don't go about the wedding like this. Talk about it properly, its not a do or die affair. It should add to you even when you're giving, not take and take and take
the mad man nd his greedy mum dnt hav any iota of luv for..dump d lousy thing nd trust me,God wil soonest giv u a man dat wil be a man dat lives up to his responsibilities nd a mother inlaw dat does nt see u as a jack pot..
U̶̲̥̅̊ will b stupid 2pay 4d wedding. If he's ready 2make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife he will find a way 2do dat. But financing d whole wedding is a no no! If he's nt ready 2make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife U̶̲̥̅̊ better leave Him n make wise investments that wud secure ur future than gettn married n being miserable. What a man doesn't spend on,he doesn't value. Never 4get dat.
please leave him and find someone else. He his not ready for you,he might someday tell you, you forced him to marry you. Why cant he pay when he can afford it? He is not just down for you.
I pity u..r u d one weddin d man?u beta use ur brain & knw dat he doesn't even love u †̥ dat xtent & not a serz person. Or mayb its even a case 〇Æ’ him nt rily havin the money but for Chrsit sake that's y pple plan towards somtin & not just fold their arms wit d phrase 'I don't av money'. Dnt give ur dime,if u can wait keep waitin til he has 4m.!t if u cant pls take a walk †̥ a more proactive man.
Du yu tink 4rm ur anus?...ma frnd get u another man nd save ur money,ul pai 4 dat weddn nd also put food n d table 4 u guys,wat does he do wid his 170k?....sme girls sha
Is ur fiance an indian?? 4 all I care India is the only place dat women sponsor wedding and pay dowry..madam run away as far as u can 4rm dat stingy man who has an insane mother.
Are U asking? Don't just forget the jerk, run far from him and his shameless mother. But why are guys so comfortable collecting money from ladies these days? Its so sad. No integrity anymore.
Hmmm... seems you are more pushy about the marriage issue than he is. Perhaps he isn't as interested as you have hoped. You can't force what isn't there. A man willing to get married will gladly be financially involved. My 2cents...Cheers~
Hmmm... seems you are more pushy about the marriage issue than he is. Perhaps he isn't as interested as you have hoped. You can't force what isn't there. A man willing to get married will gladly be financially involved. My 2cents...Cheers~
U̶̲̥̅̊ will b stupid 2pay 4d wedding. If he's ready 2make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife he will find a way 2do dat. But financing d whole wedding is a no no! If he's nt ready 2make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife U̶̲̥̅̊ better leave Him n make wise investments that wud secure ur future than gettn married n being miserable. What a man doesn't spend on,he doesn't value. Never 4get dat.
Hmmm... seems you are more pushy about the marriage issue than he is. Perhaps he isn't as interested as you have hoped. You can't force what isn't there. A man willing to get married will gladly be financially involved. My 2cents...Cheers~
iF YOU PAY FOR THE WEDDING,YOU ARE MARRYING YOURSELF AND IT WILL come back to bite you in the rear If he can't afford a wedding, he can't afford a wife
Hmmmmmmm....... Don't make that mistake my dear sister. Men are a funny bunch. Tomorrow he will say u married him, u forced him into the marriage. 5yrs and he has no savings. There is nothing wrong in supporting ur man financially but bearing the cost of the wedding, Mba nu. Run for ur life dearest and go and invest ur money. If he is serious, he will come back. Dont buy dat mother in law trash, its just a way to have control over you and your home.
I don't even know what to say to this! Is the guy geniunely in love with you? What kind of wedding are you guys planning with 4million Naira? I don't think that guy is in love with you, he's just marrying you for the sake of how long you guys have been together. Talk to your mum or any family member and hear what they have to say. Last last do not forget prayers. Goodluck
Pls 4get this guy him an his Mother ar 419 they will collect ur money an their will be no wedding pls 4get him an move on with ur life, God will bring ur right Man 4 u Pray
Don't even try it cos am sure he doesn't love you,you better move on with ur life when is not that u are disable or something...babe we are in naija not india don't drop anything.
Its weird. Its a way to lay you off. But Just pray about it. Spending all that money wont make him to also love you, probably he is tired of you and thats why they want to use marriage bill to scare you off. Be wise. If you spend that big amount and divorce in 2months whats d essence?
Pls run 4 ur lyf, if he cannot pay 4 d weddin wen he earns more dan u trust ull nt see shibian wen u marry him plus d wedding can b low key nd jst cost abt 1.5 afta all peeps dat dont earn dat much still get married but pls do not marry him if he aint paying.
Its weird. Its a way to lay you off. But Just pray about it. Spending all that money wont make him to also love you, probably he is tired of you and thats why they want to use marriage bill to scare you off. Be wise. If you spend that big amount and divorce in 2months whats d essence?
DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT release that money!!! Cos its a process that won't stop, u'll keep providing ooo till u probably fall into Depression and loose ur mind!!!! Please! Leave dat guy alone, he's not man enough! He's still a Man.
Why is his mum telling you how much the wedding will cost, babes are you desperate to get married. You deserve better than this. Omg ur money will just vanish. Don't try it o. It's not by force. You deserve better than this pls. I beg you in the name of Jesus. Your true husband is still out dere. Just be patient and don't get married to the wrong person and end up with divorce. One more thing are you the one marrying him or is he marrying you? Where are your own parents??? Don't try it pls
Dnt do it except Ofcourse u are very desperate then go ahead otherwise dnt do it it's a man tht finds a wife according to the bible and not the other way round
Don't even try it cos am sure he doesn't love you,you better move on with ur life when is not that u are disable or something...babe we are in naija not india don't drop anything.
I pity u..r u d one weddin d man?u beta use ur brain & knw dat he doesn't even love u †̥ dat xtent & not a serz person. Or mayb its even a case 〇Æ’ him nt rily havin the money but for Chrsit sake that's y pple plan towards somtin & not just fold their arms wit d phrase 'I don't av money'. Dnt give ur dime,if u can wait keep waitin til he has 4m.!t if u cant pls take a walk †̥ a more proactive man.
If you cannot see the red sign that is already in d relationship then go ahead wit d green light dat will mak U opt 4 divorce in no distant future. Goodluck!!!
Mumu, as u big lik dis c wetyn u dey ask. Carry money giv man u go fall mugu. If u worth it to him, he will source d money of mak a low profile wedding. J
Its weird. Its a way to lay you off. But Just pray about it. Spending all that money wont make him to also love you, probably he is tired of you and thats why they want to use marriage bill to scare you off. Be wise. If you spend that big amount and divorce in 2months whats d essence?
My dear , please I will advice first talk to God ok ? Hehas the best and final say. Moreover , u have to sit one more time with your fiance and talk read his reactions towards the issue that would tell you if you r moving on or not. Above all talk to God first. May his grace lead you tru.
This is the dumbest question av ever heard. Pls and pls you dnt need even 1million naira to package a wedding. Plan for a small wedding and save ur money for your lives 2gether.by d way ur guys needd to be flogged if he earns dt much and stil complains abt nt havin enuf money to do a wedding.
Forget abt d man and move on.GOD's time is d best.ur own husband will locate u look unto GOD dont make a mistake dat u wil regret in life.remain blessed
@ Poster..You need my advise? If yes then I suggest you drop this guy... YES DROP HIM OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!!!! You will be making the biggest mistake if you feel you want to pay for your tradition/white wedding without your guy contributing a penny. C'mon who does such things? FIRSTLY, if you pay for all the wedding expenses, that literally means you married him instead of the other way round... And believe me, that marriage will not last. If you have issues in the future, you can't stand your ground to defend any issues. He will tell you to your face "after all he never married you, you paid for your bride price therefore you married yourself" SECONDLY, he is not making any effort, what that means apparently is, it is either 1. He is not interested in you OR 2. He doesn't want to go on with the marriage... My dear @ Poster, you have to think with your HEAD not your HEART in this situation. Fine probably of your age, pressure fm friends and all that, you want to settle down but not with someone like him who is nonchallant and self-centred *forgive my use of words*. Don't allow yourself to be used. After reading these comments here on LIB, sit him down again and ask him for the last time, "does he want you as his wife, what plans does he have towards you.". Mind you this is 2014; this year seems to be running very fast, so you don't waste another year again hanging around him. If he happens to be a time waster. I wish you all the best as you emback on this journey..
Forget abt dis guy, its obvious he is not ready to get married to you yet. Am sure u are not getting any younger,bsyds its beta if u leave him early now before its too late,don't even make d mistake of covering d wedding expenses. U myt end up getting married to dis guy and later regret d marriage.
I do not advice you to go on with this wedding. You dont want to spend your lifes earnings in dis manner. Invest the money instead. If hes serious....he'll save up for your wedding.
@ Poster..You need my advise? If yes then I suggest you drop this guy... YES DROP HIM OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!!!! You will be making the biggest mistake if you feel you want to pay for your tradition/white wedding without your guy contributing a penny. C'mon who does such things? FIRSTLY, if you pay for all the wedding expenses, that literally means you married him instead of the other way round... And believe me, that marriage will not last. If you have issues in the future, you can't stand your ground to defend any issues. He will tell you to your face "after all he never married you, you paid for your bride price therefore you married yourself" SECONDLY, he is not making any effort, what that means apparently is, it is either 1. He is not interested in you OR 2. He doesn't want to go on with the marriage... My dear @ Poster, you have to think with your HEAD not your HEART in this situation. Fine probably of your age, pressure fm friends and all that, you want to settle down but not with someone like him who is nonchallant and self-centred *forgive my use of words*. Don't allow yourself to be used. After reading these comments here on LIB, sit him down again and ask him for the last time, "does he want you as his wife, what plans does he have towards you.". Mind you this is 2014; this year seems to be running very fast, so you don't waste another year again hanging around him. If he happens to be a time waster. I wish you all the best as you emback on this journey.. Linda dear pls post my comment.
One word "stupid".... if he cnt pay for your wedding now. how will he take care of your and your children. Even a toddler knows d answer to your question. People date people for 10years nd still dey dnt even get married so whats 5years compared to a lifetime of pain, inconsistency, drama,nd did i forget to mention that u ll be responsible for his family as well since you want to act as the man now. Please be wise.
Re u a learner, u want 2 throw away ur hard earned money jst 4 a wedding. Wat will now happen in d marriage?? My dear, dating 4 5yrs doesn't mean ur meant 2 b 2geda 4 eva. Go 2 God in prayer, leave d guy & focus on God ur story will change in few months, I'm a leaving witness. My man proposed 2 me in jst 1month 1wk of meeting & b4 den I had bin wit sm1 4 3yrs.
4get that yeye marriage, the guy doesnt value u, he may hv told the mother that u are bringing the money so wot do u expect? He has a commitment somwhr, whr it. Matters. But na u knw sha.
My dear dat guy is nt serious with u they are playing games on u. Tell him sence he dosnt want to marry u or share d expense with u den u will leave.I advice u to leav d relationshp as soon as posible
Re u a learner, u want 2 throw away ur hard earned money jst 4 a wedding. Wat will now happen in d marriage?? My dear, dating 4 5yrs doesn't mean ur meant 2 b 2geda 4 eva. Go 2 God in prayer, leave d guy & focus on God ur story will change in few months, I'm a leaving witness. My man proposed 2 me in jst 1month 1wk of meeting & b4 den I had bin wit sm1 4 3yrs.
Pls 4get him nd pray dat d almighty God gives u a man who can afford u cos its obvious he can't,@ least even if u want 2 take up d expenses he shud volunteer 2 foot half of d bill...my dear run!!!!!!
Pls D̶̲̥̅̊ guy i̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ not ready 2 make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife,after U̶̲̥̅̊ ve paid 4 D̶̲̥̅̊ wedding wat next?house rent?hospital bill wen u put 2 bed or Children'S̶̲̥̅̊ fees. U̶̲̥̅̊ v̶̲̥̅̊ bin able 2 save frm ur 100k but he hasn't frm 170k girl b wise.let him take care of his responsibility,he's D̶̲̥̅̊ Man not U̶̲̥̅̊ .or better still Split D̶̲̥̅̊ cost btw U̶̲̥̅̊ и̣̣̣̥ Him....#A̶̲̥̅s4meamoutofhere#
Re u a learner, u want 2 throw away ur hard earned money jst 4 a wedding. Wat will now happen in d marriage?? My dear, dating 4 5yrs doesn't mean ur meant 2 b 2geda 4 eva. Go 2 God in prayer, leave d guy & focus on God ur story will change in few months, I'm a leaving witness. My man proposed 2 me in jst 1month 1wk of meeting & b4 den I had bin wit sm1 4 3yrs.
Why should your mother in law plan your wedding. Is the president coming for your wedding? My marriage cost 900k i have seen marriages with grand weddings collapse. Na how you start you go continue ohhh
Lmaooooooooooooo, dis one na Local (scam).. Marriage Scam of d year..my advise, Tel d mumsy n d man to gv u 1m to clear ur goods which after u sell finish u wil realize 6m naira n pay dem bak..once de gv u d 1m, rmber Chioma Ajunwa #disappear.
Apparently he's not man enough. Makes me wonder if he'll be able to provide for his family. Itrust me u don't wanna go that path. I'm speaking from experience
U must be a serious learner, he earns 170k n u earn 100k yet u wanna cough out N3m. my dearest, the handwriting is clear on d wall. the choice is entirely your.....lindiway post my comment o!
And a young friend of mine just got married in December without so much as spending fifty thousand naira... You can't marry for him... He should marry you...
pls don't pay for own wedding babe. ur man should be man enough to sponsor his own wedding. u can support but don't sponsor. his mum is shameless. asking u for 4m who does that. did she pay for her own wedding? i suspect they r from edo
I think you should just let go of the man 'cause I don't think he really wants to marry you. though you may think after all this years of dating. but truth me if you use your money to pay for the wedding and none of is money is spent on the same wedding, you will never hear the end that just my own advice
My dear pull your shoes and run far from him and his mother. The young man is not ready for you and his mother is set to milk you. That's my simple advise for you.
Re u a learner, u want 2 use ur hard earned money 4 wedding, den wat happens in d marriage?? My dear dating 4 5yrs is not criteria 4 marriage. Go 2 God in prayers, leave d guy & focus on God, he'll change ur story in few months. I'm a living witness, I got engaged in a month & 1wk of meeting my man & b4 den I was in a relationship 4 3yrs. Take dat bold step now & shame d devil.
It's ok for you guys to share d expences.but only and only wen u know he does not have and if he had he would do it and if you are sure this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and he deserves it.U would know if he deserves it and please u guys should decide on ur wedding budget not his mum because the money is not coming from her lastly pray 4 wisdom.
D question u rily nid to b asking urslf is "am I ready to take care of dis sori excuse 4 a man his shameless family d rest of my lyf?"...dnt get me wrong,am not saying u cnt support him buh 4 dem to make it seem lyk its ur duty to b payin 4 d entire wedding expenses is reason for u to move on wit ur life n hope for a real man in ur lyf.
This isn't even a question to ask, a man dat can't spend his moni for his own wedding doesn't luv u sweety. Don't go wasting ur moni. I mean for what? Makes u look desperate n even stupid . Linda post mi comment o biko
@ Poster..You need my advise? If yes then I suggest you drop this guy... YES DROP HIM OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!!!! You will be making the biggest mistake if you feel you want to pay for your tradition/white wedding without your guy contributing a penny. C'mon who does such things? FIRSTLY, if you pay for all the wedding expenses, that literally means you married him instead of the other way round... And believe me, that marriage will not last. If you have issues in the future, you can't stand your ground to defend any issues. He will tell you to your face "after all he never married you, you paid for your bride price therefore you married yourself" SECONDLY, he is not making any effort, what that means apparently is, it is either 1. He is not interested in you OR 2. He doesn't want to go on with the marriage... My dear @ Poster, you have to think with your HEAD not your HEART in this situation. Fine probably of your age, pressure fm friends and all that, you want to settle down but not with someone like him who is nonchallant and self-centred *forgive my use of words*. Don't allow yourself to be used. After reading these comments here on LIB, sit him down again and ask him for the last time, "does he want you as his wife, what plans does he have towards you.". Mind you this is 2014; this year seems to be running very fast, so you don't waste another year again hanging around him. If he happens to be a time waster. I wish you all the best as you emback on this journey.. Linda dear pls post
Pull ur two ears and run! Too many red flags here. Why is ur mother-in-law giving the expenses to u and not her son? What kind of family feels comfortable letting their daughter-in-law to be, pay for the wedding? Why is she planning a N4m wedding when she knows her son can't afford it? I see a lot of suffering in ur future if u marry this guy and into this family.
R u dat desperate? Can't u c dey want 2 dupe u? U b confirm maqa o. How can u possibly fund ur weddinq? A man earnin 170k says he has no mny 4 weddinq. Na u wey dey earn 100k come qet? U qo tell me weda ur mama sponsored her weddinq. Gosh I feel like slappinq u back 2reality. U can sell ur property or take a loan 2make up d 4m 4 dem. Mumu like u.
Walk away,my dear.Ur mother-in-law is ridiculous and ur fiance is pathetic.U wud regret it if u go into this marriage.Walk away with ur money,ur womanhood and ur life,U wud find something better trust me.
The babe is rlly crazy.Can u just imagine ha tinkin like a dullard!Its so gleerin dat ds man doesn't want to mari ha and even talk avin ha as a wife.She even wants to go to an extent of fundin for the marriage.Wat a world.Someone should pls tell ds lady to let go of the guy.And also to put ha moni in a good business.Na by force u want take marry man.Ds world don change oo. Ha bi na change de turn world around
Are you the one marrying him or the other way round? After paying for the wedding how about the rent, childrens school fees, hospital bills etc will you pay for those too? If he is not ready to marry after 5 yrs then let him be. The next man will be BHG.
Nne biko run 4 ur life.....if u foot d wedding bills b sure u wud feed him and his family afterwards...this is just a warning sign of tinz to come........biko linda post my comment jor o
baby girl d fool is not crios.any guy dat has a lady like u for a bride is a lucky man.if d wedding plan is 4m y doesnt he foot it? secondly,if he was crios abt u and really didnt v d cash,he wud be excited @ur idea of helping foot d bills.and hw can he propose 4m 4 weddin wen he knows he is nt bouyant. swt hrt tk to ur heels its a scam ....
sweetheart, i wud tell u wt i wud tell my sis, no offence dear but ur fiance and hz mum r jokers. he has been with u for 5yrs, y hasnt he been saving, y wud d mum even send u dt bill, is it dt dy dont have family members to borrow from. if u pay for that wedding, sweety they wud think dy r doing u a favour, and it will bite u ryt bck in d ass. he earns mor dn u and should be in a hurry to marry a damsel like u and not u lookin for a way to pay for the wedding as if u're desperate.
my dear why will u pay 3million for both traditional nd white wedding are u the one marrying urself to ur BF u said he earns 170k does that mean he cant save some money from that to pay ur bride price and do the wedding his mum is even shameless to tell u d amount it will cost you instead of her telling her son dat what kind of mother is that! secondly I don't think this guy loves u enough to want to marry u as his wife cos if he does I belt u he will save money for it since he earns 170k and if u try it be sure u will be paying for d bills in the house cos he will still say he does not have money! have u asked him what he does with his whole salary that makes him not to have money to marry you I think ur man is lining! how are u sure after you pay all the money for the wedding that this guy will value you.I will advice u not to try it you can't marry urself if he loves u enough he should do it is 5 years already he should be eager to but if he did not find ur way and end d relationship pls shine ur eye oh.
If you are this distressed before marriage, you are heading to a big disappointment in this marriage. If both of you cannot sit down and plan about your future before you get married, it will never get better after marriage. If you do not appreciate his lack of understanding how you feel now, it is never going to get better. If his mother will continue to set his thought straight for him, he will never grow out of it. If you spend all your money on this wedding, you will regret it in the near future because he can only say it was your decision not his. My question is, have you prayed and ask God what he thinks. You have been with this man for five year, perhaps, letting him take advantage of you. You are a beautiful girl. God has someone for you who will appreciate you if this man is not ready to grow up and work with you concerning your future and what is important to you.
Honestly i think u may be stupid, with all due respect. Is dat marriage the bane of ur existence? Y do u just want to sell out urself to a man who obviously careless about what is good for u? My dear forget it and move on.
My sister if you release all the money you have on you for that wedding, then i am sure you will have change left on you to buy garri to drink for the rest of your life.. its better you run asin with mario speed self
Seriously how do women like u reason. U have a pussy not a dick let d dick stand up for himself. How can u think of puttin all ur life savings?? And d mum is d one drawing out plans. Dey will time ur delivery too. Foolish*tufiakwa infact lindiway am thinkin it's u dat puts dis nonsense 2geda n post for us to commect.
WHEN YOU PAY FOR YOUR WEDDING, IT MEANS YOU MARRIED YOURSELF SO WHEN THE MAN STARTS MESSING UP DON'T FORGET YOU MARRIED YOURSELF! EVEN ME WEY DATE PERSON 6 YRS I NO USE MY MONEY ADD FOR THE WEDDING, I EVEN GAIN FOR THE PREPARATIONS COS I CHAMPIONED IT, AND GAVE OUT INSTURCTIONS TO SUIT MY POCKET! IF HE DOESNT WANT TO SPEND A DIME FOR THE WEDDING, HE IS NOT READY TO SETTLE DOWN! WHEN U HAVE READ DIFFERENT COMMENTS TELLING YOU TO RUN, IF YOU LIKE STILL SHOOK HEAD! MARRIAGE NO BE CEREMONY OH, THERE'S LIFE AFTER THE PARTY! AND FOR THE RECORDS, WE SPENT ABOUT HALF OF WHAT YOUR MOTHER IN LAW IS ASKING FOR, SHE BE THIEF, HER PIKIN NA THIEF, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
Forget him jor, if he is truly a Man he should source for his wedding. If u go ahead to do d wedding, u will b the one taking responsibilities after the wedding. Talking frm experience
He doesn't want the relationship,so u don't need to attach ursef to a man that doesn't even av anytin to offer u.to me,I guess they both planned it to dupe u
You can help your fiancee,there is nothing wrong with that.He earns 170k?are u telling me he has not save enuff and why would u guys want to spend N4m on a weeding.Both of you earn below 200k.why spend 4m for a weeding?Look,seat down and talk with him.u guys should budget like N1.5-2m.He should contribute the larger amount.Am a guy,am spending N1.5m for my own weeding and my Fiancee dropped 600k.If he does not agree,move on with your life.Learn to spend wisely.
My fear is if finance d wedding,wat more wld you finance? You just might take up the eexpenses in d entire marriage, if he earns 170k,he shld at least contribute to show he is a man!!! But den you knw ur man better,if he has been generous in d past 5 yrs den you can go ahead! I wish you luck!
U obviously av feelings for him to even consider this,u opted to foot d bills,his mother slams u with 4million...I think u r a gold mine n they r d diggers...he'll spend his n ur money on another woman if u marry him,my advice brainwash ur mind n heart of off him and RUN for ur life...forget him.b wise
Please my dear run for your dear life .... They are gold diggers ... Please safe your money and use it for something more important ...don't make a mistake you will regret in this your life time...God will bless you with your own husband sooner than you expected, all u need to do is to have faith in him. Cheers..Linda if u like use my comment for meat in your soup" eyes rolling'
Like seriously??u wanna pay 4 ur own weddn??so,u'll pay 4 d weddn n also run d household too??dnt b a mumu,dat man does not love u...he's settln 4 u cs u can pay 4 d weddn....open ur eyes nw b4 its too late....
i don't understand why women think its okay to shortlist themselves, i don't even understand why the man's mum will send a list to the intended bride. Like seriously, who does that? If the man thinks you are not worth saving for to have enough money to make you an honest woman and marry you then pls my dear, move on cos he doesn't think you are wife material and if you pay for your own wedding then something is seriously wrong with you, cos you are just telling him you are desperate and will do anything to get him,5 years is a lot but my dear, pack your stuffs and go cos that man doesn't love you enough to make you his wife. Gosh! Wetin person no go see for this generation? Not even for you to contribute or add to what he can afford, it is for you to pay for the entire thing. see me see trouble ooo. Anyways, girls always under rate themselves, i dont blame men for wanting to take advantage. Mtschewwwww.
Move on with your life.He is after your money.and why is the mother planning the weeding for u guys?Babe there are alot of single mom out there.Be wise,You cant afford to make mistake.
You are about to sign a contract of a life time of unhappiness ! If you go ahead and sponsor the wedding! Every man that loves a woman goes out if his way to make ur wedding day a memorable one! If you know what is good for you! Dump his sorry ass before you are played a fool! Cos at the end of the day , society would blame you
Don't do it. He earns more that you and for him not able to provide the money shows he got no plans for life. Secondly i am not judging but form my own view, am not sure he loves you because if he does, he will not go to his mum to write such a draconick list which he brought without shame to u. Jesus.... That man has no plans and conscience.... After the marriage may be you will start drinking garri at home. Third, the mother is into yahoo business be careful. My advice is,,, don't do it.....because the don't love you but your money, a home that u are trying to moved their shame are in turn are greedy.... Hmmm, shame. NB: this is my own opinion, babe i don't kw abt ur age.... U kw wat is best for u. Do it..... Bey.
Wat d hell!u earn 100k n he earns 170k cnt u see ds guy doesn't av any intention of marryn u pls n pls dnt try usin ur money 4 d wedding n if u do den r a goat n dt marriage can nvr last n 2 think dt his mother evn supportd n is givin dt amount is unheard of..pls dnt use all ur savings 4 a wedding dt d man isn't intrsted in plsss n linda abeg post ds comment o so ds girl wouldn't fall into a deadly trap.
my dear,the man is not upto his responsibility.so forget him.even if u eventaully get married he will still depend on you.not only that,its looks as u want to trow yourself at him.
A man is earning that kind of money and he can not save for ur wedding. Do u have to be a rocket scientist to figure it out? And I wonder the kind of wedding u are planning. U go soon tell us if u are Angelina Jolie. **eyes rolling**
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«Oldest ‹Older 1201 – 1400 of 1747 Newer› Newest»Your man has no money for the wedding expenses yet his mother is the one mapping out the expenses, wonders shall never end. Well if your mind is made up to marry him, ensure he contributes no matter what
He's the one marrying you and not the other way round
Babe forget him and move on with ur life
Oh my dayz! Re u diz desperate to marry one useless man? Naaa don't try it. Imagine. He shld pay n marry u not vice versa. Pls leave n walk away. Pls can't u invest dat ur money into profitable biz? Y shld ur guy even know u ve 3mil ? Pls use ur sense ooo.
Are u a fool? Don't u smell a rat? Pls don't be so blinded by desperation n end up rather miserable afterwards. Pls take a good walk outta that set up.
Both of you need talk; if he can't raise the money can he also plan for his own wedding? He is a mama boy, not yet a man. Anyway, help him to grow up.
Both of you need talk; if he can't raise the money can he also plan for his own wedding? He is a mama boy, not yet a man. Anyway, help him to grow up.
My dear,did you say 170k a month(that's way above minimum wage of pple I knw that have tied the knot)He's obviously trying eat you dear.you shldnt have suggessted to pay at all. this family sef(d mother esp)isn't worth it oooo.How can a mother be comfy with you paying(saddening)You deserve better & you know that.Goodluck dear
Big scam why will his mother give you an estimate or is she a wedding planner?
Even if she is your fiance has the choice of spending 500K if he wish to spend...for both traditional & white
I clearly believe this is a scam
He just refuse to take responsibilities
So who will train the kids when they come?
Tell him if he does not have the money for a big wedding.. He should do the one he can then u can give him a little support
But if na me be you i go run with out looking back useless guy wif a ...... Mom
Hnestly,stay away 4rm his family and him cost he earn more dan u and he can surport u,and his mum is a wicked woman if u ar her daughter wil she cal 4m dat alot of money
The guy is not ready. Dump his ass and move on. What happens after the wedding, will you continue to take care of the home.
Both of you need talk; if he can't raise the money can he also plan for his own wedding? He is a mama boy, not yet a man. Anyway, help him to grow up.
Both of you need talk; if he can't raise the money can he also plan for his own wedding? He is a mama boy, not yet a man. Anyway, help him to grow up.
Young lady,your father did not send you to school to make money and lavish because you desperately want to be a Mrs. Why should a man engage a woman when he's not financially capable/ready for a wedding? You made a very big mistake by telling him you have money to make the wedding happen in the 1st place when your man is working and earning more than you.your duty is to help/support(if need be),and not the other way round. And what's the mother-in-law's biz with wedding expenses?are you coming to marry her son or her son is going to marry you? Shine your eyes o
It is nt right ma dear,it is his right to pay 4 d traditional and urs is to support him nt u payin 4 evry thin,he earn salaries.b wise deary don't b desperate,5yrs in relationship does nt mean he is meant 4 u.his mum givin u bills is nt right.u kw d truth,tick to d truth.
oh honey... don't you dare pay for your own wedding ALL BY YOURSELF. the fact that this man who earns more than you will even allow you, with the help of his 'precious' mother to plan your wedding.... RIDICULOUS; Says alot about his character. child PAUSE! just pause... tell him, how you feel... and tell him he should contribute. if he ain't about to, child put his ass out... He isn't your prince... Goodluck
Your son no get money for wedding you they estimate 4M wedding for who to spend?
Some family eh!
Big scam why will his mother give you an estimate or is she a wedding planner?
Even if she is your fiance has the choice of spending 500K if he wish to spend...for both traditional & white
I clearly believe this is a scam
He just refuse to take responsibilities
So who will train the kids when they come?
Tell him if he does not have the money for a big wedding.. He should do the one he can then u can give him a little support
But if na me be you i go run with out looking back useless guy wif a ...... Mom
scam scam scam scam scam scam scam scam scam scam scam scam
First you don't need a big wedding ceremony. Second is if you pay for this u would keep paying even when he can afford it. Stop been d one to ask him about gettin married and the prep. He isn't ready and am wondering aw u missed that. If movin on suits u why not but paying for the wedding is a no no. Be wise.
Am a man and my best advice to you is to let go, his not ready to b responsible yet.
â„“̊ wonder why some issues are being asked of people's opinions αηδ advice having known what to do in d first place provided it's an intelligent or sensible person! Anyway,open ur eyes,ur mind αηδ use ur senses..!If U̶̲̥̅̊ want to squander ur money,use it lavishly for ǤÕ̳͡D̶̲̥̅̊'s work rather than on any unreasonable man will push U̶̲̥̅̊ to d valley at d end of d day!!
My dear,i will advice u to move on wit ur life cos dis mite be a set up to collect ur little savings and add to his,just becarful I dn't see luv here buh game
Hmnnn... my dear move on biko
Pls don't be foolish and desperate to get married that u wld foot the bills for the ceremony including the trad. U can assist him with the bills not carry it all. If u pay for it Just know dey didn't ask for ur hand in marriage u did it ursef.
1 word swtie RUN!! He's cruel n so is his mum. She's nt ashamed 2 evn give her sons future wife a list. Jeez hw cn women b this heartless 2 their fellow woman. A man who loves u will spend money 2 marry u. I keep telling women this' if he's nt 4 u he's nt 4 u'. Mayb 4 a few years n then comes divorce bt that aside HE is a SHAMELESS MAN no offence n me 4 1 will never marry a man without manners infact Tell me 2 wait 4 Jesus bt I'm marrying the 1 thatl open the car door 4 me nt because he's beneath me bt because he sure knows hw 2 treat a woman. 4 all I care he could hv been saving 4 the wedding if he is really interested. Mtcheew this coment is this long cos I hate questions like this, I can't stand men who mke women stoop so low as 2 marry themselves n I get real pissed at women who tolerate it. It is nt by frce 2 wear a ring n then b married 2 urslf. This kind of man wiLl mke u use a vibrator 2 n hell say its fine by me instead of looking 4 ways 2 satisfy u..lol----C21
First you don't need a big wedding ceremony. Second is if you pay for this u would keep paying even when he can afford it. Stop been d one to ask him about gettin married and the prep. He isn't ready and am wondering aw u missed that. If movin on suits u why not but paying for the wedding is a no no. Be wise.
U v 3m? Wia did u get dat kind of money from? Mehn u r a big gal o. U dnt deserve such man cs if u finance d wedding, u wil continue to carry d. responsibilty while u are married.
Sori to say buh babes I swear u be comfirm mugu,dis pple re tryin to use u.forget d marriage nd move on,for d best to come d gud has to go.
why on earth should you pay for the weeding expenses my dear? you earn 100K and he earn 170K and he still can't save up for the weeding. My sister please move on with your life and stop forcing yourself on a guy who doesn't appreciate you. He never talks about weeding, signs of no interest.
"Don't allow the fear of been alone force you to be into where you will be alone".
No dnt release any money to her, dat too much. With 1million u can have both Tradition and white wedding done. Am sure she and her son are up to something. Be careful
I have no words! Ur man n his mother(if the lady that called u is actually his mum) are trying to defraud u! Babe this is a marriage scam!!! Run!!!
Don't continue with the wedding.. because the guy want too use you.. continue praying and God will give you another man.. because he didn't worthy a man let alone husband
U must be a joker,how on earth do u want 2 release all d moni u hav jst 2 marry a man?By d way r u suppose 2 marry urself?My dear ,it's a different case if d guy is nt earning anyfin den u can assist him,buh it's certain he n his family want 2 milk u down,as 4 me,I dnt fink u hv any future wit dat guy,so 4get abt dis burden u want 2 heap on urself .
Gini? Are u marrying the man? Hi an please save your money ooo b4 you'll be asked to pay the groom price. #the messenger#
Are you out of your mind. Are you so desperate to get married. Do not marry him. If he can't pay for the whole or half the wedding then kick him to the curb.
If you pay to marry him you will live to regret it.
Na wah oh re you a learner? Abeg save your money, if you can't do without the man, go ahead and do court marriage and do your white wedding whenever. Paying for the wedding will make you look desperate and cheap. Naija women sha, they no deh learn.
Don't continue with the wedding.. because the guy want too use you.. continue praying and God will give you another man.. because he didn't worthy a man let alone husband
Really??!!! Women shaaa. Smh
U don turn office oh al bcuz u wnt marry..beta use ur head.al d best.
Na him make the Men dem dey treat una like Nobody.See the one when kill him Banker Wife last time ,when U pay 4 ur own Wedding and Traditional Marriage den what is ur watt? Later U nor see Money take run the Family or give the foolish Man and him Mother when nor get shame for her Eyes,beating go start.He should pay ur Diary not you his ,then you will bear Children and take care of him and the Kids.Must you force a Man to Marry you? Linda I like ur way God go bring Man when go do everything for you this Year IJN................Amen carry go.
Leave him jare, why would you force sb to get married to you! This is a life time commitment not a joke
Pls liv d guy oo
Both d mother nd him dey dnt luv u
Though most of this stories are fictions, I must advise here that only desperate women would want to pay for your marriage the least that can be done is make a little contribution to marriage ceremony. Don't you see that he and his mother are trying so hard to dump your ass so that plot of she calculating expenses for you. In fact na you dey seek hand in marriage na, that's why they gave you expenses make you come pay.Abi my people how una see am?
How much does he have? If you bring dat 3million, he should be able to bring something and his mother should really cut the expenses. You guys don't need a lavish wedding. Just something simple
Are men really scarce these days?... can't really understand why some ladies are begging to be married.
hummm!! i advice u to forget d wedding
Haaaaa you are stil asking omoge Run Run run oooooooo. That is not a husband and that is not a family to marry into. If you do,you will regret it for the rest of your life. Haba 4million kai
Pls liv d guy oo
Both d mother nd him dey dnt luv u
My dear,4get d man he is not ready 2 marry u nd if u spend ur money 4 d weeding u will regret d marriage,don't fues him 2 marry u
forget and leave him, he is not ready for you. He might just someday tell you, u forced him too marry you, since you paid for the wedding. why cant he pay when he can afford it.its just simple he is not really down for you and might someday leave you. please leave this guy, and find someone better.
Move on darling! When a man loves a woman,he wants to provide for her. It comes naturally. Your guy and his mum are messing with you. He is marrying YOU not the other way round. You've wasted,5yrs already,pls don't waste another minute with him and his family. They are bad news!
Please pardon my question. What kind of value does he place on you? And how come the mother wants you to bring in N4m for a marriage with his son? I am disappointed with such a mother! Will she do same if you were her mother. If you are not asking for society wedding, I see no reason why the guy cannot hold a wedding ceremony within his means. I think the guy is not serious but merely sees you as a free lay. Put value on yourself, quit the relationship and move on with your life. A better and appreciative person will come your way.
The answer is within the question. This thing is causing you more heartache than happiness, this means its not good/healthy.
Please don't go about the wedding like this. Talk about it properly, its not a do or die affair. It should add to you even when you're giving, not take and take and take
Benin guys again??? It now appears they are the stingiest set of men on earth
the mad man nd his greedy mum dnt hav any iota of luv for..dump d lousy thing nd trust me,God wil soonest giv u a man dat wil be a man dat lives up to his responsibilities nd a mother inlaw dat does nt see u as a jack pot..
U̶̲̥̅̊ will b stupid 2pay 4d wedding. If he's ready 2make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife he will find a way 2do dat. But financing d whole wedding is a no no! If he's nt ready 2make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife U̶̲̥̅̊ better leave Him n make wise investments that wud secure ur future than gettn married n being miserable. What a man doesn't spend on,he doesn't value. Never 4get dat.
please leave him and find someone else. He his not ready for you,he might someday tell you, you forced him to marry you. Why cant he pay when he can afford it? He is not just down for you.
I pity u..r u d one weddin d man?u beta use ur brain & knw dat he doesn't even love u †̥ dat xtent & not a serz person. Or mayb its even a case 〇Æ’ him nt rily havin the money but for Chrsit sake that's y pple plan towards somtin & not just fold their arms wit d phrase 'I don't av money'. Dnt give ur dime,if u can wait keep waitin til he has 4m.!t if u cant pls take a walk †̥ a more proactive man.
Du yu tink 4rm ur anus?...ma frnd get u another man nd save ur money,ul pai 4 dat weddn nd also put food n d table 4 u guys,wat does he do wid his 170k?....sme girls sha
My dear,leave him and run as fast as u can..make ur leg dey touch ur head as u dey run. Its obvious dt he's just out to chop ur moneey
My sister forget about that guy and move-on with your life God will see you through.
My dear move on wit ur lyfe n forget dat man, he n d mum aren't serious
Is ur fiance an indian?? 4 all I care India is the only place dat women sponsor wedding and pay dowry..madam run away as far as u can 4rm dat stingy man who has an insane mother.
Are U asking? Don't just forget the jerk, run far from him and his shameless mother. But why are guys so comfortable collecting money from ladies these days? Its so sad. No integrity anymore.
Hmmm... seems you are more pushy about the marriage issue than he is. Perhaps he isn't as interested as you have hoped. You can't force what isn't there. A man willing to get married will gladly be financially involved. My 2cents...Cheers~
you guys make only 270k per month and you want to spend 4 million on a wedding? there's life after wedding you know
Dis mama na wa oh! Na ur pikin no get money na U̶̲̥̅̊ dey map out 4mil 4wedding. Khai so mothers amaze me!
Hmmm... seems you are more pushy about the marriage issue than he is. Perhaps he isn't as interested as you have hoped. You can't force what isn't there. A man willing to get married will gladly be financially involved. My 2cents...Cheers~
U̶̲̥̅̊ will b stupid 2pay 4d wedding. If he's ready 2make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife he will find a way 2do dat. But financing d whole wedding is a no no! If he's nt ready 2make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife U̶̲̥̅̊ better leave Him n make wise investments that wud secure ur future than gettn married n being miserable. What a man doesn't spend on,he doesn't value. Never 4get dat.
Hmmm... seems you are more pushy about the marriage issue than he is. Perhaps he isn't as interested as you have hoped. You can't force what isn't there. A man willing to get married will gladly be financially involved. My 2cents...Cheers~
iF YOU PAY FOR THE WEDDING,YOU ARE MARRYING YOURSELF AND IT WILL come back to bite you in the rear If he can't afford a wedding, he can't afford a wife
Hmmmmmmm....... Don't make that mistake my dear sister. Men are a funny bunch. Tomorrow he will say u married him, u forced him into the marriage. 5yrs and he has no savings. There is nothing wrong in supporting ur man financially but bearing the cost of the wedding, Mba nu. Run for ur life dearest and go and invest ur money. If he is serious, he will come back. Dont buy dat mother in law trash, its just a way to have control over you and your home.
I don't even know what to say to this! Is the guy geniunely in love with you? What kind of wedding are you guys planning with 4million Naira? I don't think that guy is in love with you, he's just marrying you for the sake of how long you guys have been together. Talk to your mum or any family member and hear what they have to say. Last last do not forget prayers. Goodluck
Pls 4get this guy him an his Mother ar 419 they will collect ur money an their will be no wedding pls 4get him an move on with ur life, God will bring ur right Man 4 u Pray
U still dey ask?
Don't even try it cos am sure he doesn't love you,you better move on with ur life when is not that u are disable or something...babe we are in naija not india don't drop anything.
my dear this family is just outbyo scam you, take your money and run, unless u want to live a life of misery
Pple that earn 50-80k are still able to foot their wedding bills. Use ur tongue to count your teeth.
Call his attention and walk out tinz
Go to T.B Joshua for deliverance...Miss Desperado.
Its weird.
Its a way to lay you off.
But Just pray about it.
Spending all that money wont make him to also love you,
probably he is tired of you and thats why they want to use marriage bill to scare you off.
Be wise.
If you spend that big amount and divorce in 2months whats d essence?
Pls run 4 ur lyf, if he cannot pay 4 d weddin wen he earns more dan u trust ull nt see shibian wen u marry him plus d wedding can b low key nd jst cost abt 1.5 afta all peeps dat dont earn dat much still get married but pls do not marry him if he aint paying.
Its weird.
Its a way to lay you off.
But Just pray about it.
Spending all that money wont make him to also love you,
probably he is tired of you and thats why they want to use marriage bill to scare you off.
Be wise.
If you spend that big amount and divorce in 2months whats d essence?
Common sense is truly not common. Ur fiance earns more than u and u want to empty ur bank acc for ur wedding. Sorry na ur name
DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT release that money!!! Cos its a process that won't stop, u'll keep providing ooo till u probably fall into Depression and loose ur mind!!!! Please! Leave dat guy alone, he's not man enough! He's still a Man.
#ThatSharpIgboBaker
Why is his mum telling you how much the wedding will cost, babes are you desperate to get married. You deserve better than this. Omg ur money will just vanish. Don't try it o. It's not by force. You deserve better than this pls. I beg you in the name of Jesus. Your true husband is still out dere. Just be patient and don't get married to the wrong person and end up with divorce. One more thing are you the one marrying him or is he marrying you? Where are your own parents??? Don't try it pls
Dnt do it except Ofcourse u are very desperate then go ahead otherwise dnt do it it's a man tht finds a wife according to the bible and not the other way round
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Forget him what kind of man n family is this don't start what u cannot finish.
Don't even try it cos am sure he doesn't love you,you better move on with ur life when is not that u are disable or something...babe we are in naija not india don't drop anything.
Hmmmm follow. Ur heart bt b cautious!
Linda post my comment and don't let this lady make this mistake
Trash dis kinda weddin pls or u regret d future! lobunmi.
I pity u..r u d one weddin d man?u beta use ur brain & knw dat he doesn't even love u †̥ dat xtent & not a serz person. Or mayb its even a case 〇Æ’ him nt rily havin the money but for Chrsit sake that's y pple plan towards somtin & not just fold their arms wit d phrase 'I don't av money'. Dnt give ur dime,if u can wait keep waitin til he has 4m.!t if u cant pls take a walk †̥ a more proactive man.
Pls move on with your life. The guy and his Mother are shameless gold diggers.
If you cannot see the red sign that is already in d relationship then go ahead wit d green light dat will mak U opt 4 divorce in no distant future. Goodluck!!!
Mumu, as u big lik dis c wetyn u dey ask. Carry money giv man u go fall mugu. If u worth it to him, he will source d money of mak a low profile wedding. J
1. Why should u be d only one spendn for d marriage. He shld be d one brining most of d money.
2. His mum doesnt hv shame for calln u and for givn u dat rificulous amount. When it is not her son spendn for d marriage.
3. He earns more than u. He has no excuse for sayn he doesnt hv money.
My advise is for u to walk away. Cos wen u marry him, u wld be d one payn d bills and childrens skool fees
Its weird.
Its a way to lay you off.
But Just pray about it.
Spending all that money wont make him to also love you,
probably he is tired of you and thats why they want to use marriage bill to scare you off.
Be wise.
If you spend that big amount and divorce in 2months whats d essence?
Dearie run 4 ur lyf
4get him
My dear , please I will advice first talk to God ok ? Hehas the best and final say. Moreover , u have to sit one more time with your fiance and talk read his reactions towards the issue that would tell you if you r moving on or not. Above all talk to God first. May his grace lead you tru.
Move on..
This is the dumbest question av ever heard. Pls and pls you dnt need even 1million naira to package a wedding. Plan for a small wedding and save ur money for your lives 2gether.by d way ur guys needd to be flogged if he earns dt much and stil complains abt nt havin enuf money to do a wedding.
Hmmmm I will never marry a weak man . God forbid. 3mil I will use for better investment I go give man to use marry me. Ori e oda
Forget abt d man and move on.GOD's time is d best.ur own husband will locate u look unto GOD dont make a mistake dat u wil regret in life.remain blessed
@ Poster..You need my advise? If yes then I suggest you drop this guy... YES DROP HIM OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!!!! You will be making the biggest mistake if you feel you want to pay for your tradition/white wedding without your guy contributing a penny. C'mon who does such things? FIRSTLY, if you pay for all the wedding expenses, that literally means you married him instead of the other way round... And believe me, that marriage will not last. If you have issues in the future, you can't stand your ground to defend any issues. He will tell you to your face "after all he never married you, you paid for your bride price therefore you married yourself" SECONDLY, he is not making any effort, what that means apparently is, it is either 1. He is not interested in you OR 2. He doesn't want to go on with the marriage... My dear @ Poster, you have to think with your HEAD not your HEART in this situation. Fine probably of your age, pressure fm friends and all that, you want to settle down but not with someone like him who is nonchallant and self-centred *forgive my use of words*. Don't allow yourself to be used. After reading these comments here on LIB, sit him down again and ask him for the last time, "does he want you as his wife, what plans does he have towards you.". Mind you this is 2014; this year seems to be running very fast, so you don't waste another year again hanging around him. If he happens to be a time waster. I wish you all the best as you emback on this journey..
Forget abt dis guy, its obvious he is not ready to get married to you yet. Am sure u are not getting any younger,bsyds its beta if u leave him early now before its too late,don't even make d mistake of covering d wedding expenses. U myt end up getting married to dis guy and later regret d marriage.
Hello sis,why are u so desperate about getting married,I believe a woman should put all Her life investment all because she's desperate for marriage
Don't even think of carrying all d expenses for ur wedding! A woman's pride is when his man pays for her bride price! Don't be a mugu
I think you have to let go of the man, 'cause I don't think the man wants to marry you
If you love yourself. please don't do it my dear
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I do not advice you to go on with this wedding. You dont want to spend your lifes earnings in dis manner. Invest the money instead. If hes serious....he'll save up for your wedding.
@ Poster..You need my advise? If yes then I suggest you drop this guy... YES DROP HIM OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!!!! You will be making the biggest mistake if you feel you want to pay for your tradition/white wedding without your guy contributing a penny. C'mon who does such things? FIRSTLY, if you pay for all the wedding expenses, that literally means you married him instead of the other way round... And believe me, that marriage will not last. If you have issues in the future, you can't stand your ground to defend any issues. He will tell you to your face "after all he never married you, you paid for your bride price therefore you married yourself" SECONDLY, he is not making any effort, what that means apparently is, it is either 1. He is not interested in you OR 2. He doesn't want to go on with the marriage... My dear @ Poster, you have to think with your HEAD not your HEART in this situation. Fine probably of your age, pressure fm friends and all that, you want to settle down but not with someone like him who is nonchallant and self-centred *forgive my use of words*. Don't allow yourself to be used. After reading these comments here on LIB, sit him down again and ask him for the last time, "does he want you as his wife, what plans does he have towards you.". Mind you this is 2014; this year seems to be running very fast, so you don't waste another year again hanging around him. If he happens to be a time waster. I wish you all the best as you emback on this journey.. Linda dear pls post my comment.
One word "stupid".... if he cnt pay for your wedding now. how will he take care of your and your children. Even a toddler knows d answer to your question. People date people for 10years nd still dey dnt even get married so whats 5years compared to a lifetime of pain, inconsistency, drama,nd did i forget to mention that u ll be responsible for his family as well since you want to act as the man now. Please be wise.
Re u a learner, u want 2 throw away ur hard earned money jst 4 a wedding. Wat will now happen in d marriage?? My dear, dating 4 5yrs doesn't mean ur meant 2 b 2geda 4 eva. Go 2 God in prayer, leave d guy & focus on God ur story will change in few months, I'm a leaving witness. My man proposed 2 me in jst 1month 1wk of meeting & b4 den I had bin wit sm1 4 3yrs.
4get that yeye marriage, the guy doesnt value u, he may hv told the mother that u are bringing the money so wot do u expect? He has a commitment somwhr, whr it. Matters. But na u knw sha.
My dear, keep ya money. If he wants ya, both of ya shld plan for d wedding dt he can afford, ya contribtion shld be minimal not major. Gdlck.
My dear dat guy is nt serious with u they are playing games on u. Tell him sence he dosnt want to marry u or share d expense with u den u will leave.I advice u to leav d relationshp as soon as posible
The man is 4 1 9 and mother is an armed robber. Run for ur life o aunty.
Re u a learner, u want 2 throw away ur hard earned money jst 4 a wedding. Wat will now happen in d marriage?? My dear, dating 4 5yrs doesn't mean ur meant 2 b 2geda 4 eva. Go 2 God in prayer, leave d guy & focus on God ur story will change in few months, I'm a leaving witness. My man proposed 2 me in jst 1month 1wk of meeting & b4 den I had bin wit sm1 4 3yrs.
Don't be stupid my dear! Don't ever pity any man.Jeez how can u sponsor ur wedding,are u that desperate?
Pls 4get him nd pray dat d almighty God gives u a man who can afford u cos its obvious he can't,@ least even if u want 2 take up d expenses he shud volunteer 2 foot half of d bill...my dear run!!!!!!
pls dont ooooo. c scam!!! but wait ooooo. are u dat desperate?. hmmmm. ma'm pack and find somewhere else to park, ur husband iz coming soon
the man is holding back because he is not sure if you the right girl or not. so my conclusion is for you to move on with your life
Pls D̶̲̥̅̊ guy i̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ not ready 2 make U̶̲̥̅̊ his wife,after U̶̲̥̅̊ ve paid 4 D̶̲̥̅̊ wedding wat next?house rent?hospital bill wen u put 2 bed or Children'S̶̲̥̅̊ fees. U̶̲̥̅̊ v̶̲̥̅̊ bin able 2 save frm ur 100k but he hasn't frm 170k girl b wise.let him take care of his responsibility,he's D̶̲̥̅̊ Man not U̶̲̥̅̊ .or better still Split D̶̲̥̅̊ cost btw U̶̲̥̅̊ и̣̣̣̥ Him....#A̶̲̥̅s4meamoutofhere#
Re u a learner, u want 2 throw away ur hard earned money jst 4 a wedding. Wat will now happen in d marriage?? My dear, dating 4 5yrs doesn't mean ur meant 2 b 2geda 4 eva. Go 2 God in prayer, leave d guy & focus on God ur story will change in few months, I'm a leaving witness. My man proposed 2 me in jst 1month 1wk of meeting & b4 den I had bin wit sm1 4 3yrs.
Why should your mother in law plan your wedding. Is the president coming for your wedding? My marriage cost 900k i have seen marriages with grand weddings collapse. Na how you start you go continue ohhh
Lmaooooooooooooo, dis one na Local (scam).. Marriage Scam of d year..my advise, Tel d mumsy n d man to gv u 1m to clear ur goods which after u sell finish u wil realize 6m naira n pay dem bak..once de gv u d 1m, rmber Chioma Ajunwa #disappear.
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Dat man is so wicked.pls hold ur money or u sow seed for d poor.
both the guy and mother are criminals and gold-diggers,don't do anything dat would make u regret ur marriage tomorrow seriously he's not meant for u.
Run 4 ur life,de want to dupe u,how can u b d only one to contribute,hp u re nt too desperate
I have two advise for u gurl...LEAVE HIM OR MARRY HIM
FORGET THE MAN. ITS HARD TO DO, BUT, I AM A MAN AND THAT GUY YOUR DATING IS NOT A MAN. HE WILL BE YOUR BANE. RUNNNNN!!!
Apparently he's not man enough. Makes me wonder if he'll be able to provide for his family. Itrust me u don't wanna go that path. I'm speaking from experience
U must be a serious learner, he earns 170k n u earn 100k yet u wanna cough out N3m. my dearest, the handwriting is clear on d wall. the choice is entirely your.....lindiway post my comment o!
And a young friend of mine just got married in December without so much as spending fifty thousand naira...
You can't marry for him...
He should marry you...
pls don't pay for own wedding babe. ur man should be man enough to sponsor his own wedding. u can support but don't sponsor. his mum is shameless. asking u for 4m who does that. did she pay for her own wedding? i suspect they r from edo
I think you should just let go of the man 'cause I don't think he really wants to marry you. though you may think after all this years of dating. but truth me if you use your money to pay for the wedding and none of is money is spent on the same wedding, you will never hear the end
that just my own advice
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My dear pull your shoes and run far from him and his mother. The young man is not ready for you and his mother is set to milk you. That's my simple advise for you.
you look good lemme marry you and we can have our own wedding done outside the country by Fidimaye Hassan
Re u a learner, u want 2 use ur hard earned money 4 wedding, den wat happens in d marriage?? My dear dating 4 5yrs is not criteria 4 marriage. Go 2 God in prayers, leave d guy & focus on God, he'll change ur story in few months. I'm a living witness, I got engaged in a month & 1wk of meeting my man & b4 den I was in a relationship 4 3yrs. Take dat bold step now & shame d devil.
It's ok for you guys to share d expences.but only and only wen u know he does not have and if he had he would do it and if you are sure this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and he deserves it.U would know if he deserves it and please u guys should decide on ur wedding budget not his mum because the money is not coming from her lastly pray 4 wisdom.
Mother and son pulling a scam.
D question u rily nid to b asking urslf is "am I ready to take care of dis sori excuse 4 a man his shameless family d rest of my lyf?"...dnt get me wrong,am not saying u cnt support him buh 4 dem to make it seem lyk its ur duty to b payin 4 d entire wedding expenses is reason for u to move on wit ur life n hope for a real man in ur lyf.
This isn't even a question to ask, a man dat can't spend his moni for his own wedding doesn't luv u sweety. Don't go wasting ur moni. I mean for what? Makes u look desperate n even stupid . Linda post mi comment o biko
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@ Poster..You need my advise? If yes then I suggest you drop this guy... YES DROP HIM OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!!!! You will be making the biggest mistake if you feel you want to pay for your tradition/white wedding without your guy contributing a penny. C'mon who does such things? FIRSTLY, if you pay for all the wedding expenses, that literally means you married him instead of the other way round... And believe me, that marriage will not last. If you have issues in the future, you can't stand your ground to defend any issues. He will tell you to your face "after all he never married you, you paid for your bride price therefore you married yourself" SECONDLY, he is not making any effort, what that means apparently is, it is either 1. He is not interested in you OR 2. He doesn't want to go on with the marriage... My dear @ Poster, you have to think with your HEAD not your HEART in this situation. Fine probably of your age, pressure fm friends and all that, you want to settle down but not with someone like him who is nonchallant and self-centred *forgive my use of words*. Don't allow yourself to be used. After reading these comments here on LIB, sit him down again and ask him for the last time, "does he want you as his wife, what plans does he have towards you.". Mind you this is 2014; this year seems to be running very fast, so you don't waste another year again hanging around him. If he happens to be a time waster. I wish you all the best as you emback on this journey.. Linda dear pls post
Linda wer u dey tk see all dis fake stories...U sha dey always fall ma hand sha
Pull ur two ears and run! Too many red flags here. Why is ur mother-in-law giving the expenses to u and not her son? What kind of family feels comfortable letting their daughter-in-law to be, pay for the wedding? Why is she planning a N4m wedding when she knows her son can't afford it? I see a lot of suffering in ur future if u marry this guy and into this family.
R u dat desperate? Can't u c dey want 2 dupe u? U b confirm maqa o. How can u possibly fund ur weddinq? A man earnin 170k says he has no mny 4 weddinq. Na u wey dey earn 100k come qet? U qo tell me weda ur mama sponsored her weddinq. Gosh I feel like slappinq u back 2reality. U can sell ur property or take a loan 2make up d 4m 4 dem. Mumu like u.
Forget him he doesn't worth it.
Walk away,my dear.Ur mother-in-law is ridiculous and ur fiance is pathetic.U wud regret it if u go into this marriage.Walk away with ur money,ur womanhood and ur life,U wud find something better trust me.
The babe is rlly crazy.Can u just imagine ha tinkin like a dullard!Its so gleerin dat ds man doesn't want to mari ha and even talk avin ha as a wife.She even wants to go to an extent of fundin for the marriage.Wat a world.Someone should pls tell ds lady to let go of the guy.And also to put ha moni in a good business.Na by force u want take marry man.Ds world don change oo. Ha bi na change de turn world around
It's simple! Move on with your life please.
Nsogbu Di ooo
He should contribute if @ all he is interested in the marriage!.
It's simple! Move on with your life please.
U better run as fast as ur leg can carry u.na man dey marry woman and nt the other way.arrant nonsense
Are you the one marrying him or the other way round? After paying for the wedding how about the rent, childrens school fees, hospital bills etc will you pay for those too? If he is not ready to marry after 5 yrs then let him be. The next man will be BHG.
My dear, better move on wit ur life, are u the one marrying urself? If u try it u ll never have ur pride as a woman.
Dnt try it,if he luvs u,he shuld provide while u support since he earns a living.
Nne biko run 4 ur life.....if u foot d wedding bills b sure u wud feed him and his family afterwards...this is just a warning sign of tinz to come........biko linda post my comment jor o
baby girl d fool is not crios.any guy dat has a lady like u for a bride is a lucky man.if d wedding plan is 4m y doesnt he foot it?
secondly,if he was crios abt u and really didnt v d cash,he wud be excited @ur idea of helping foot d bills.and hw can he propose 4m 4 weddin wen he knows he is nt bouyant.
swt hrt tk to ur heels its a scam ....
sweetheart, i wud tell u wt i wud tell my sis, no offence dear but ur fiance and hz mum r jokers. he has been with u for 5yrs, y hasnt he been saving, y wud d mum even send u dt bill, is it dt dy dont have family members to borrow from. if u pay for that wedding, sweety they wud think dy r doing u a favour, and it will bite u ryt bck in d ass. he earns mor dn u and should be in a hurry to marry a damsel like u and not u lookin for a way to pay for the wedding as if u're desperate.
Cow. Stay there and remain stupid. Tee
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My dear 4gt that guy,He is not ur Husband.
my dear why will u pay 3million for both traditional nd white wedding are u the one marrying urself to ur BF u said he earns 170k does that mean he cant save some money from that to pay ur bride price and do the wedding his mum is even shameless to tell u d amount it will cost you instead of her telling her son dat what kind of mother is that! secondly I don't think this guy loves u enough to want to marry u as his wife cos if he does I belt u he will save money for it since he earns 170k and if u try it be sure u will be paying for d bills in the house cos he will still say he does not have money! have u asked him what he does with his whole salary that makes him not to have money to marry you I think ur man is lining! how are u sure after you pay all the money for the wedding that this guy will value you.I will advice u not to try it you can't marry urself if he loves u enough he should do it is 5 years already he should be eager to but if he did not find ur way and end d relationship pls shine ur eye oh.
If you are this distressed before marriage, you are heading to a big disappointment in this marriage. If both of you cannot sit down and plan about your future before you get married, it will never get better after marriage. If you do not appreciate his lack of understanding how you feel now, it is never going to get better. If his mother will continue to set his thought straight for him, he will never grow out of it. If you spend all your money on this wedding, you will regret it in the near future because he can only say it was your decision not his. My question is, have you prayed and ask God what he thinks. You have been with this man for five year, perhaps, letting him take advantage of you. You are a beautiful girl. God has someone for you who will appreciate you if this man is not ready to grow up and work with you concerning your future and what is important to you.
My dear I think you should let go.he doesn't want you and doesn't know how to tell you.he sure isn't the one God wants for you
Honestly i think u may be stupid, with all due respect. Is dat marriage the bane of ur existence? Y do u just want to sell out urself to a man who obviously careless about what is good for u? My dear forget it and move on.
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My sister if you release all the money you have on you for that wedding, then i am sure you will have change left on you to buy garri to drink for the rest of your life.. its better you run asin with mario speed self
For wetin na?chic waka fast.arrant nonsense.dnt act desperate biko
Seriously how do women like u reason. U have a pussy not a dick let d dick stand up for himself. How can u think of puttin all ur life savings?? And d mum is d one drawing out plans. Dey will time ur delivery too. Foolish*tufiakwa infact lindiway am thinkin it's u dat puts dis nonsense 2geda n post for us to commect.
WHEN YOU PAY FOR YOUR WEDDING, IT MEANS YOU MARRIED YOURSELF SO WHEN THE MAN STARTS MESSING UP DON'T FORGET YOU MARRIED YOURSELF! EVEN ME WEY DATE PERSON 6 YRS I NO USE MY MONEY ADD FOR THE WEDDING, I EVEN GAIN FOR THE PREPARATIONS COS I CHAMPIONED IT, AND GAVE OUT INSTURCTIONS TO SUIT MY POCKET! IF HE DOESNT WANT TO SPEND A DIME FOR THE WEDDING, HE IS NOT READY TO SETTLE DOWN! WHEN U HAVE READ DIFFERENT COMMENTS TELLING YOU TO RUN, IF YOU LIKE STILL SHOOK HEAD! MARRIAGE NO BE CEREMONY OH, THERE'S LIFE AFTER THE PARTY! AND FOR THE RECORDS, WE SPENT ABOUT HALF OF WHAT YOUR MOTHER IN LAW IS ASKING FOR, SHE BE THIEF, HER PIKIN NA THIEF, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
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Pls carry on wit your life. Dont force a guy to marry u cos u've been dating for 5years.
Pls save your money and face your work ooo.
Forget him jor, if he is truly a Man he should source for his wedding. If u go ahead to do d wedding, u will b the one taking responsibilities after the wedding. Talking frm experience
He doesn't want the relationship,so u don't need to attach ursef to a man that doesn't even av anytin to offer u.to me,I guess they both planned it to dupe u
You can help your fiancee,there is nothing wrong with that.He earns 170k?are u telling me he has not save enuff and why would u guys want to spend N4m on a weeding.Both of you earn below 200k.why spend 4m for a weeding?Look,seat down and talk with him.u guys should budget like N1.5-2m.He should contribute the larger amount.Am a guy,am spending N1.5m for my own weeding and my Fiancee dropped 600k.If he does not agree,move on with your life.Learn to spend wisely.
My fear is if finance d wedding,wat more wld you finance? You just might take up the eexpenses in d entire marriage, if he earns 170k,he shld at least contribute to show he is a man!!! But den you knw ur man better,if he has been generous in d past 5 yrs den you can go ahead! I wish you luck!
U obviously av feelings for him to even consider this,u opted to foot d bills,his mother slams u with 4million...I think u r a gold mine n they r d diggers...he'll spend his n ur money on another woman if u marry him,my advice brainwash ur mind n heart of off him and RUN for ur life...forget him.b wise
My dear, no try am oh! Wetin them wan use 4mill do! Plan ur wedding urself dear n do a small one
Please my dear run for your dear life .... They are gold diggers ... Please safe your money and use it for something more important ...don't make a mistake you will regret in this your life time...God will bless you with your own husband sooner than you expected, all u need to do is to have faith in him. Cheers..Linda if u like use my comment for meat in your soup" eyes rolling'
Like seriously??u wanna pay 4 ur own weddn??so,u'll pay 4 d weddn n also run d household too??dnt b a mumu,dat man does not love u...he's settln 4 u cs u can pay 4 d weddn....open ur eyes nw b4 its too late....
i don't understand why women think its okay to shortlist themselves, i don't even understand why the man's mum will send a list to the intended bride. Like seriously, who does that? If the man thinks you are not worth saving for to have enough money to make you an honest woman and marry you then pls my dear, move on cos he doesn't think you are wife material and if you pay for your own wedding then something is seriously wrong with you, cos you are just telling him you are desperate and will do anything to get him,5 years is a lot but my dear, pack your stuffs and go cos that man doesn't love you enough to make you his wife. Gosh! Wetin person no go see for this generation? Not even for you to contribute or add to what he can afford, it is for you to pay for the entire thing. see me see trouble ooo. Anyways, girls always under rate themselves, i dont blame men for wanting to take advantage. Mtschewwwww.
Move on with your life.He is after your money.and why is the mother planning the weeding for u guys?Babe there are alot of single mom out there.Be wise,You cant afford to make mistake.
hell nooooo!!!! dont even think about it.....EMI
Lindah,if u like dnt post ma comment like u dnt always...wonda wat i dd 2 u special....
You are about to sign a contract of a life time of unhappiness ! If you go ahead and sponsor the wedding! Every man that loves a woman goes out if his way to make ur wedding day a memorable one! If you know what is good for you! Dump his sorry ass before you are played a fool! Cos at the end of the day , society would blame you
Don't do it. He earns more that you and for him not able to provide the money shows he got no plans for life. Secondly i am not judging but form my own view, am not sure he loves you because if he does, he will not go to his mum to write such a draconick list which he brought without shame to u. Jesus.... That man has no plans and conscience.... After the marriage may be you will start drinking garri at home. Third, the mother is into yahoo business be careful. My advice is,,, don't do it.....because the don't love you but your money, a home that u are trying to moved their shame are in turn are greedy.... Hmmm, shame. NB: this is my own opinion, babe i don't kw abt ur age.... U kw wat is best for u. Do it..... Bey.
Wat d hell!u earn 100k n he earns 170k cnt u see ds guy doesn't av any intention of marryn u pls n pls dnt try usin ur money 4 d wedding n if u do den r a goat n dt marriage can nvr last n 2 think dt his mother evn supportd n is givin dt amount is unheard of..pls dnt use all ur savings 4 a wedding dt d man isn't intrsted in plsss n linda abeg post ds comment o so ds girl wouldn't fall into a deadly trap.
my dear,the man is not upto his responsibility.so forget him.even if u eventaully get married he will still depend on you.not only that,its looks as u want to trow yourself at him.
A man is earning that kind of money and he can not save for ur wedding. Do u have to be a rocket scientist to figure it out? And I wonder the kind of wedding u are planning. U go soon tell us if u are Angelina Jolie. **eyes rolling**
The earlier you move ahead with your life the better for u.
my dear please pack your load and run away as fast as you can
Got no words for u lady. Pls wallow in ur total and absolute stupidity!
my dear please pack your load and run away as fast as you can
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