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Sunday 10 February 2013

In Nigeria, you're either somebody or nobody - by Adaobi Nwaubani

In Nigeria, you're either somebody or nobody? Please read the article and tell us what you think. Written by journalist and author Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani
In America, all men are believed to be created equal and endowed by their creator with certain unalienable rights. But Nigerians are brought up to believe that our society consists of higher and lesser beings. Some are born to own and enjoy, while others are born to toil and endure.
The earliest indoctrination many of us have to this mind-set happens at home. Throughout my childhood, “househelps” – usually teenagers from poor families – came to live with my family, sometimes up to three or four of them at a time. In exchange for scrubbing, laundering, cooking, baby-sitting and everything else that brawn could accomplish, either they were sent to school, or their parents were sent regular cash.
My father detested it when our househelps sang. Each time a new one arrived, my siblings and I spent the first few evenings as emissaries from the living room, where our family watched TV after dinner, to the kitchen, where the househelps washed dishes or waited to be summoned.
“My daddy said I should tell you to stop singing.”

Immediately, they would shush. Often, they forgot and started again – if not that same evening, on a subsequent one. Finally, my father would lose his imperial cool, stomp over to the kitchen and stand by the door.
“Stop singing!” he would command.
That usually settled the matter.

I honestly cannot blame my father. Although they hailed from different villages across the land, their melodies were always the same: The most lugubrious tunes in the most piercing tones, which made you think of death.

Melancholic singing was not the only trait they had in common. They all gave off a feral scent, which never failed to tell the tale each time they abandoned the wooden stools set aside for them and relaxed on our sofas while we were out. They all displayed a bottomless hunger that could never be satisfied, no matter how much you heaped on their plates or what quantity of our leftovers they cleaned out.

And they all suffered from endless tribulations, in which they always wanted to get you involved.
The roof of their family house got blown off by a rainstorm. Their mother just had her 11th baby and the doctor had seized mum and newborn, pending payment of the hospital bill. Their brother, an apprentice trader in Aba, was wrongfully accused of stealing from his boss and needed to be bailed out. A farmland tussle had left their father lying half-dead in hospital, riddled with machete wounds. Their mother’s auntie, a renowned witch, had cursed their sister so that she could no longer hear or speak. They were pregnant but the carpenter responsible was claiming he had never met them before … Always one calamity after the other.

Househelps were widely believed to be scoundrels and carriers of disease. The first thing to do when a new one arrived was drag him off to the laboratory for blood tests, the results of which would determine whether he should be allowed into your haven. The last thing to do when one was leaving was to search him for stolen items. In one memorable incident, the help in my friend’s house, knowing that her luggage would be searched, donned all the children’s underwear she had stolen. And she nearly got away with it. But just as she stepped out the door, my friend’s mother noticed that the girl’s hips had broadened beyond what food could afflict on the human anatomy in such little time, and insisted that she raise her skirt.

Every family we knew had similar stories about their domestic staff. With time, we children learned to think of them as figures depressed by the hand of nature below the level of the human species, as if they had been created only as a useful backdrop against which we were to shine.
Not much has changed since I was a child. My friend’s daughter, who attends one of those schools where all the students are children of either well-off Nigerians or well-paid expatriates, recently captured this attitude while summarizing the plot of my novel to her mother. “Three people died,” the 11-year-old said, “but one of them was a poor man.”
It reminded me of the conversation in Mark Twain’s “Adventures of Huckleberry Finn,” when Huck tries to explain a delay in a journey:
“It warn’t the grounding – that didn’t keep us back but a little. We blowed out a cylinder-head.”
“Good gracious! anybody hurt?”
“No’m. Killed a nigger.”
“Well, it’s lucky; because sometimes people do get hurt.”

BIGOTS and racists exist in America, without a doubt, but America today is a more civilized place than Nigeria. Not because of its infrastructure or schools or welfare system. But because the principle of equality was laid out way back in its Declaration of Independence. The Nigerian Constitution states, in Section 17(2)(a), that “every citizen shall have equality of rights, obligations and opportunities before the law.” However, this provision is in a portion of the document that contains “objectives” of the Nigerian state. It is not enforceable; it certainly isn’t reality.
The average Nigerian’s best hope for dignified treatment is to acquire the right props. Flashy cars. Praise singers. Elite group membership. British or American accent. Armed escort. These ensure that you will get efficient service at banks and hospitals. If the props prove insufficient, a properly bellowed “Do you know who I am?” could very well do the trick.

This somebody-nobody mind-set is at the root of corruption and underdevelopment: ingenuity that could be invested in moving society forward is instead expended on individuals’ rising just one rung higher, and immediately claiming their license to disparage and abuse those below. Even when one househelp is made supervisor over the rest, he ends up being more callous than the owners of the house.

Some years ago, I made a decision to start treating domestic workers as “somebodys.”  I said “please” and “thank you” and “if you don’t mind.” I smiled for no reason. But I was only confusing them; they knew how society worked. They knew that somebodys gave orders and kicked them around. Anyone who related to them as an equal was no longer deserving of respect. Thus, the vicious cycle of oppression goes on and on.
Nigeria is one of Africa’s largest economies; it produces around two million barrels of crude oil per day. And yet, in 2010, 61 percent of Nigerians were living in “absolute poverty” – able to afford only the bare essentials of shelter, food and clothing. In one state in northern Nigeria, where extremist groups like Boko Haram originate, poverty levels that year were as high as 86.4 percent.

Economic growth will continue to bypass the majority, the gap between rich and poor will continue to widen, so long as we see ourselves as divided between somebodys and nobodys. Only when that changes will the househelps sing more cheerful tunes.

Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani is a journalist and writer, and was former standards editor at NEXT. Her debut novel, I Do Not Come to You by Chance, was winner of the 2010 Commonwealth Writers Prize for Best First Book (Africa).

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Anonymous said...

yes, this is my first time of making a comment on this blog,though a very ardent follower. And yes, one of d reasons i relocated from nigeria is cos of househelp.am just so tired of d househelp issue.i grew up having a handful of them living with us ,i got married coming to the reality that they are neccessary evils.how can a human being be a neccessary evil to another.i used to feel pity for them growing up but now i just got confused.because in nigeria today,in lagos state to b precise, u cant b a working mother and do without househelps,even hosewives. and dats bcos d society is fashioned dat way. in America,u just cant train ur own kids using other kids.even if u get nannies, they r usually trained ones and u r operating within d confines of d law.i think dats just ideal for GOD-CONSCIOUS ME. theres no way u can just b too careful having an househelp.if u try to b nice,they take advantage of u,when u try to enforce discipline, u become d wicked ones and wat about d agents who bring dem,terrible human beings,i almost got a girl with AIDS. i had a lot of dem, can write a book on dem. i av had d extremely bad and wicked ones, av had d nice ones, altogether my opinion is dat if u want to remain GOD-FEARING,stay away from househelps. bt i wonder how one can manage with dat in nigeria.

oge said...

Yawns...to be cont.

Unknown said...

I agree with Adaobi

LAWYER said...

Nigeria, hs bn hijacked by an unholy alliance of few indv 4rm various religion, tribe n ethnic conflagaration.While the rich, concern themselves wit sharing d oil revenue, The poor, are busy wit tribal wars, religious sentiments n ethnic bias. this however,s due to d psychological damage on their psyche due to d trauma of inequality. A REVOLUTION is indeed eminent.

pretty diva said...

True talk is either u are sum body or no body in naija

Deola said...

#True words n facts...like,d sayin states dat,"Truth is Bitter"..God help us in dis country.

Anonymous said...

Waouh! What a writer. I like the way she explain things as simple as the life and the system is, unfortunately this is reality not only i 9ja but in most of our countries here in Africa in whatever level is. We are all human beings, we should try to treat ourselves as it

Anonymous said...

Hmm•◦˚◦°°˚◦• Food fot thought.

KEHINDE OLATEJU said...

Very touching, it is an indepth analysis of the life of the average elite citizen of NIGERIA. good job

Anonymous said...

I love insightful writers like this. Would love to get her book. In other news, kindly check out www.ndatsendomo.com

Anonymous said...

This is epic.

Anonymous said...

This write up is on point. I can very much envisage the same experience in my household while growing up. Ours is an extremely a class based society. Even if those who were nobodys at one point makes it by accident and becomes somebody, they turn around to oppress others including the somebodys who might have given them a chance to succeed when they were nobodys.

Anonymous said...

Good story but over elaborated and over simplified. She lost me several times.Next time she should hire an expert to trim the junk

Anonymous said...

Can people just shut up already. How is america beta? How much justice does the back mann dia get? With all d development, racism is still eating into the hearts of dia people. Do they maids n nannies dia sit on dia sofaz r sing in dia kitchen?? How many really rich people dnt get away with crimes?? Gang violence is still on the increase! Celebrities commit oFfences in front of d world n go free! D CIA uses people's wives n kids as lab rats for their many trials n nuffin is done abt it! so pls, leave dis country alone! All fingers r nt equal n can neva be, we'll develop @ our own pace n even then, d poor will forever remain in our midst, read ur bible! Omaa...

Anonymous said...

This is the village mentality shes talking about. She has been out and see how a society treats every one as equals and wants the same for her own and this is what you have to say. Please travel and see. Local champion like you.

Anonymous said...

I concur.

Anonymous said...

@anon 11.15. Well said.

Anonymous said...

Wow...Shocked to see that some people missed the point of the article.

Reading is fundamental!

Most Nigerians who live in Nigeria are indeed blind...no wonder the country is a shit hole.

Anonymous said...

Ure an otondo!

Anonymous said...

Ure a bigger Otondo!!!!

Anonymous said...

I have stayed in the US for a while and all I can say is: " overrated" YES, I can say it over and over again. The greatest fear is going back home and not fitting because your colleagues and friends have launched further. The writer may be in love with America but don't forget, even in the malls, some people draw their kids closer when they see blacks walk closer to them.
You have points but too extrapolated.
Btw, wet in be m own sef.

Usman Zakari Ibrahim said...

True. Such an attempt to x-ray what is vaguely in vogue but faintly known.

Anonymous said...

Linda, I had too much to say for the space available. So I put it on my blog.

http://marriedwomansproblems.blogspot.com/2013/02/some-thoughts-on-tricia-nwubanis.html

Anonymous said...

Totally agree with you. The article didn't flow well for me. Too many stereotypes and general factless points. The title, write-up, conclusion....none of it flowed for me......especially the economics part about crude oil.

Anonymous said...

Article too long. .comments very plenty. ..grammatical. ..lol.

Adedayo said...

I agree with you, lady. As you said, poverty, illiteracy and having too many children are responsible. I think one of the ways out is to have a better-performing economy which would lift a considerable no of Nigerians out of poverty. So Nigerians, vote right in 2015. DO NOT vote PDP. They have no plans for you. I also support govt to legislate on the max no of kids people can have. 4 in my opinion.

Nigerians also need to change their attitude towards one another. I know that when cheap labor become scarcer, people with treat their staffs with more respect.

Anonymous said...

Very well said! You wouldn't know just how terrible the ill-treatment these people receive on a daily basis, until you have traveled abroad to a civilized society..

Anonymous said...

Quite thoughtful of you to treat your helps with respect...however, concerning your wish that the people could get an education...hmm, my brother, where the money dey now????

Anonymous said...

Truer words were never said..

Anonymous said...

But it's very true...u are a typi example. very aggressive and not polite

Anonymous said...

Dummy she has none. she lives in America

Anonymous said...

Adaobi is a thinker. And these are my thoughts, exactly.

Anonymous said...

Advice: You should definitely go back to school, starting from primary education. It's quite obvious you have very little understanding of this article, if any at all.

Anonymous said...

You should learn to read and understand. While you do that, check out the meaning of "racist".

Anonymous said...

These are real facts.

Anonymous said...

As a young Nigerian, I have always think of how we can solve this long term problem as i always refer it. But i suggest we can start it within ourselves; may God help us.

MY TURN said...

The painful thing is half of the people commenting didn't even take time out to read the article. She made a lot of sense. It takes you back to your childhood and makes you wonder how different you as a regular person in today's Nigeria is different from those we treated as the help.We are very fake in this country get the fake glitter drop a few names and VOILA!! you are a celebrity. Good construction of tenses dear its a beautiful article

Anonymous said...

Reading through the responses I conclude: some people don't read through, some people read but don't understand the tone, some people just don't get it and some people understand perfectly. This is clearly manifested in our universities where 80% of them cannot write essays or write their papers so they must have 'rigged' to get in. from the responses above, a lot of people read english but don't understand english.

Anonymous said...

She sounds arrogant and condescending abeg!feral scent and haunting melodies?wtf?

speaktheword or tomi said...

I hardly ever post a comment on this blog, but its pretty annoying seeing people complain that an article is too long! its an excerpt from a book meaning in reality you should even read the probable 300 page log book before commenting, if you cant read, move on to the next post but no, they wont read, but will still comment.....Really, Nigerians? lets try to read more

Anonymous said...

You are too Shallow bro...

Anonymous said...

Seek happiness in your life. You are troubled. You didn't get the message.

Anonymous said...

Spot on! I agree with you 100%

DADDYSWIFE said...

Forget these househelps,d one am livin wit its remainin for to collect my husband,like u said any little free hand shr begins to disrespect me,people always ask me if she s my daughter or sistet,dt d way she looks dt not evry woman treats them,like dt,if u see d madam she does for me,any way my plans is to send her home,she s not a good person

Anonymous said...

Congratulations Adaobi, you bashed yourself, you bashed your father, you bashed your country. Please step forward and collect your medal. Mtschewwww

Me here said...

Awful incoherent piece of writing, some people need to get an education if they think that is good. No follow through argument. Jumping from declaration of independence (which holds no ground for this piece) to bad manners, housegirl, slavery and modern America. Nonsense and ingredient.

We didn't mistreat out househelps & neither did the people I knew. We sent ours to school and sponsored them to learn a trade. Helped the establish themselves. I even remember an old friend's housegirl who was so lovely to us back then that I even asked of her by name after running into my friend years later.

Unknown said...

First, Adaobi, I would like to read your book sometime. That said, I can infer that you have been privileged to witness the ways of the other societies (like America) first hand, and I really am very surprised at your point of view, and disappointed too.
There is nothing wrong or different about us Nigerians. It is only human nature to want to be better than your peers, and to look down on those you feel are below ur state in any way.
Poverty, in itself, is a disease, but class distinction is at the core of our genetic make-up as humans. And for good reason too - a homogenous society would be deadly boring!
Education will help, as well as human right activism, but...nothing is wrong with us Nigerians, you hear? NOTHING!
And who says illiteracy rate in Nigeria is 90%? Lmfao

digbolugi@gmail.com said...

It's funny seeing people commenting obviously without reading the material. If it's too long for you, I guess you should look for the "who wore it better, Beyonce or Tonto Dike?" kind of posts. They're usually very short & require virtually no intelligence to comprehend.

The author is very correct. She didn't sound condescending to me, she's only trying to create a scenario in the mind of the reader. I'm not a literary reviewer like Prof Wole Soyinka but I understood her message.

Nigeria is a fake society -yet we're the most religious in the world. Where I live in Lagos, the church-going family are the harshest to our mai-guard (security man, of Hausa/Fulani origin). They treat the guy like he's nobody. For every little mistake, they always threaten to stop his salary. They believe we the "sinners" are too nice to the guy. That's the attitude of the typical Nigerian.

For those saying that their own family treated their maids well & sent them to schools, your families are the exceptions. And you're like 2 in a hundred. What the author wrote is the reality. And yes, she can compare Nigeria with America. If you don't compare yourself with a civilized society, is it Somalia you want to compare us with? The US is not a perfect society but the major difference between them & us is THE RULE OF LAW. Nigeria is a nation of IMPUNITY. As long as you're rich, you commit crimes and get away with them.

Let me also ask you this question. Have you ever heard of a family jailed in Nigeria for being harsh to their maids??? Yes it happens in the US and incidentally, all the ones I've heard have been Nigerian families. Go and think about that.

Anonymous said...

All of you saying its too long are Olodos,lazy pants,i know some pple will be crying nw. The article is very well written,no lie!! she said evrything all. Nigerians are too proud +they dnt help/appreciate each-other,smh. God hlp dat country

Anonymous said...

Ode,is dat all u can digest?

Anonymous said...

My dear it's not ur cousins fault that they had money. U have a chip on ur shoulder. There's nothing bad in inheriting things from ur parents. Pls don't leave any property to ur kids so they can achieve like u, u hear? Onuku!!!

Anonymous said...

Take it easy. Pls

Amanda said...

@ Peter said... "There is nothing wrong or different about us Nigerians."

It’s shocking how butt-ignorant you are.

Unknown said...

Wow this is so true, This sametin happen to me, my close friend can teach me stuffs witout using me, why bcos his somebody and he fink's nobody wont find his way to be SOMEBODY pretty soon in a legitimate way in ALLAH N GOD I TRUST.

Cheers mate!

Afam said...

I wrote what I thought about it here, http://theramblingsofamadman-afam.blogspot.co.uk/2013/02/where-in-world-are-you-not-somebody-or.html

Happy Days
Afam

T.R.E.P.I.C LLC said...

very right words, its sad... sometimes i wonder if its a crime to be a nigerian.

Anonymous said...

Even the Priest is guilty, today they fly in jets...even the poor among them are not recognised. They do special prayers for corrupt politicians. The underdogs are licking while God`s lions...the poor and meek are watching. Who really answers their prayers...do u think is God?

Unknown said...

yes o

Anonymous said...

self righteous oaf.

docmuffy said...

1-there should be a distinct difference between writing a novel and writing a factual op-ed piece in a newspaper/journal, and I think the writer just blurred the lines. Regrettably so.
2- the errors inherent here are those of hasty generalizations, superimposing her own 'not so politically correct upbringing and generalizing it on all nigerians, in a well read and regarded international journal. Regrettably so
3- every society is distinct in its socioeconomic dynamics. I wonder how the 'helps we had growing up would have fared if my 'struggling parents didn't deem it fit to also compel and finance them to school and/or spnsor their artisan education, without demeaning them in any way. I see it not as child slavery but as a means of redistribution of wealth and education, moreso since we are all aware of the failure of governance which is supposed to be responsible for this
4- if you equate domestic help with child slavery in nigeria, you, and not the society around are probably indicted, as it goes to show how well you treat your domestic staff, and other subordinates as well.

Anonymous said...

You are who you think you are. What other people think of you is simply none of your business. Simple

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