My colleague does this and when I advised her to stop it, she took offense and stopped talking to me. She said we modern women have no respect any longer, that her mum called her father sir and told her it was the respectful thing to do. Whenever her husband calls her on the phone, she answers sir. Is that respect or fear?I think calling your husband sir is ridiculous! Your boss and an older person, definitely, but not your spouse.
249 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 249 of 249In this generation? Seriously who does that? Both the friend and her husband are very backward...Its a big NO for me and i find it really stupid
Pretty Girl
Bwahahahaha @ "ur majesty." Anon 08:55, you badt gan
Honestly I prefer whoeva my future wife will be to call me by my nickname,real name or the fav nickname she has for me,or NIGGA! and many other endearing terms, but sir is cool sometimes not a must or everyday thing,cos dat sound so distant! And sometimes hypocrtical!!! #maddingcrush
i call my hubby daddy and there is nothing wrong with it...i even kneel to give him his food...its sign of respect.
Lmao!
Linda your blog children are def on crack tonight. I'm steady pissing myself laughing @ all the comments
Dear fwends, tyms have rili changed
If u lyk b calling ur husband "sir".
1 small gurl will b dishing out d necessary pet names to him.
After uld b screaming " dey haff snatch ma husband/ sir oh!"
Dey dia make pant dey rock yew (˘̯˘ )
J.
There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with calling your husband SIR. I call my husband sir or my lord and it has been working perfectly in my home. There is nothing greater like having a happy marriage/home. Build your home on the solid rock of God, obey and pray for your husband and you will see the wonderful work of God.
i do answer "sir" @ times when my husband calls me or "ma" when I'm being mischeivious he laughs n says stuff like "am i your father" its like a private joke between us so i guess to each his own
First of all women can address their husbands however they please. That being said, i would never answer my husband "sir", husband would not even have it! My husbands sister addresses her husband as sir and my husband gets irritated by it but i told him it was non of his biz.
On the other hand, people should PLEASE stop comparing respect for your boss with respect for your husband...jeez! They are not the same abeg, and for those saying the younger generation have no values...my grandmother did not answer my late grandfather "sir". Stop blaming everything on "the new generation" and stop trying to justify everything with stories from the bible. Sarah called abraham "my lord" so? That does not show any respect it is your actions that show respect. Calling or answering "babe" does not show disrespect nah....sheesh!
As long as a couple is on the same page they can call themselves what ever they want.
Linda, will you marry me i will call you ma..lol
The funny one is calling ur husband Bro. Bro Chukwuma, ur food is ready. Hahahahahahahha. But what's anybody's business with other people's marriage? ¯\..(•͡.̮ •͡ )../¯
For starters, Mind your damn business!!! amebo! gbegborun!! Its pple like you that go abt fixing whats not broken!!! If its applies perfectly within the dynamics of thier relationship, let her be. That lady is wise for not talking with you anymore.
Secondly, "sir" is a sign of respect and honour (as in the British culture) not fear. There are countless women out there that fear their spouses and dont call him sir..
Fuck no. If I see his kpanla and it does its work in ma bucket we are now "age mates". That is why I tell those mallams - marry ya age mate so that when she sees the stuff you are made of and plays with it and begins to rule ya head, you wont be slighted by teh age difference.
Linda, u're nt even married and u're already saying this. Be careful. Cuz u neva kw wht ur husband might desire of u. If calling ur husband "sir"makes him happy. Then go ahead. I neva tot I will call my husband sir but each time I do so, oh my God, he's so happy and he can do anything I want and give anything I ask. So everyone is different. Those of u who think its illiteracy to call ur husband sir, plz stop running ur mouth like pumps.
Oh yes sir!, Right there sir! Harder sir! Faster sir! Loooool.
Sometimes I and my bf jokingly call each other my Lord and My Lady. :)
But calling him sir as if he's my father or boss is out of the question no matter how much he pays for bride price.
Well...to each his(her) own.I always prefer to call my man by name.The name becomes special once I fall for him.
marriage has no fomular,wat works 4 u might not work 4 ur next door neigbour,so who cares what u call or answer to ur hubby.it all boils down to understanding.cheers
Your boss ke? I dont call my gaddem boss sir oh...Whether 50 or 60 years old, na by name oh...no sir nothing when we are not in First Bank! Corporate America for life!
I can never to that but i feel its not anyone's business. you can do whatever u like in ur relationship
when i call my hubby Sir he knows dat i am joking at that moment. Despite d 5 year age differnece, he's not my boss, so why should i say Sir??????????????
Linda what is your business, if she wants to call him Lord, its her marriage not yours. She is the one that decided to call him sir, shekina.
There's really nothing wrong in addressing ur hubby as sir, after all he is ur boss at home but what is not right is u addressing him as 'sir' all the time, u should use endearing names more often yeah?
Yes, cos When her hubby talks... all she should do is to say "YES SIR OR BOSS" that's wot a good woman should go. He's the head.
Na Fight,Maybe sometimes when he is too authoritative
Mind your business..... to each his or her own.
if it works for you...do it...if it doesnt...ditch it...
there's no general idea....only opinions
Read through the comments. Call your husband 'sir' is not equal to respect. However, if you want to call him 'sir', go for it. If you don't want to, don't.
I agree with the statement 'every marriage is different...do what works for you...'.
I've seen plenty wives call their wives sir and they're cheating hours later. Husband's call their wives Queens in public and yet beats her in private...
Do you.
u call ur boss sir, yet u say trash abt ur HEAD, a person that gives vision and direction to u. i read these comments and I know Nigerian girls have totally lost their values. what a pity.
Sarah called Abraham 'lord'.
please read the book love and respect. you will understand.
also note that that woman is solving her problems befor they begin. there is notting wrong with calling him sir. men want respect. so she should give it to him
Abegi there is no strict rule, I use sir, boy , baby anyone applicable at any time
Huh?
well, for me its sounds very odd and my husband hates when it seems am treating him like a stranger or always being too formal with him.but i guess its a personal tin.they've already started so allow her do her thing,their way.
Whats with you people and Sarah and Abraham? Fools!
LINDA, I WANT THIS PUBLISHED...PLS. LIMITS AND STANDARDS SET BY OTHERS SUCH AS IN DIS CASE ARE ISSUES DESTROYING HOMES. Y I no go call my husband sir? The creepy people we spend our lives calling sir sir sir, beta pass Husbands wey God take em time give us? Pls o! Everyone do wat rocks ur boat! Calling my love sir has earned mi a peaceful home, a pretty daughter and guess wat- plenty of goodies...including recently a house in my name for our anniversary! SIR!!! all the way Jaree!
LINDA, I WANT THIS PUBLISHED...PLS. LIMITS AND STANDARDS SET BY OTHERS SUCH AS IN DIS CASE ARE ISSUES DESTROYING HOMES. Y I no go call my husband sir? The creepy people we spend our lives calling sir sir sir, beta pass Husbands wey God take em time give us? Pls o! Everyone do wat rocks ur boat! Calling my love sir has earned mi a peaceful home, a pretty daughter and guess wat- plenty of goodies...including recently a house in my name for our anniversary! SIR!!! all the way Jaree!
On a friendly note, What is your business whether or not your Friend calls her husband 'SIR'. Different relationships/marriages different principles, What works for marriage A might not necessarily work for marriage B (different tales for different folks). Subsequently, If you really value your friend you should continually pray for the success of her home and stop castigating her for calling her husband Sir.
I personally will not call my husband sir because it will not work in a relationship such as ours, but that is my own situation and doesn't necessarily apply to others. You have to do what works for you.
But the person that sent this question is such a busy body. Haba! What is your business if your colleague (colleague o) calls her husband sir or even kneels down to greet and serve him like some wives do? So tey you even told her to stop it and it pained you so much when she told you off and decided to stop talking to you, that you had to bring it to LIB. It is people like you they warn people about in their marriages - third parties poke-nosing into affairs that don't concern them. If I were her too, I will give you a wide berth before you start filling my ears with nonsense that can break one's home. Amebo, T'oju bo'le, Aproko!
I t does not really matter as far as her husband loves it and she loves it too.
i have different endearments for my husband, while he calls me babes or my first name in full when he's cross with me.
between us, we say ma/sir on occasions when we are trying to be sarcastic and it always makes us laugh...
i personally dnt fink i can answer 'sir' to ma hubby (unless jokinly). Nevertheless i dont see anyfin wrng in doin so. ma mum answer 'sir' to ma dad till date nd dey ve bn happily married for 44 yrs.
To my own understandng, calling ur husband sir means 2me dt u er scead of him, n dt implies him overriddng u... u shuldnt call ur spouse sir! it make no sense at all. i mean, its a luv fin dere shuldnt be such. it happend in d olden days but nt now mahn! wen everyfin has change
If he calls her Madam or Ma'am then no probs. Everything else sounds strange but if he is noth forcing her either....let them be.
There is nothing wrong with it. In yoruba,its a sign of respect. My mum calls my dad daddy and she user sir for him. My pastor uses mummy for his wife so i'll say it depends on an individual. The only time i can use sir for him is when i have offende him and i'm trying to apologize. Its not ridiculous it only sounds old school when you can laruko mo lori ni bi ti honey wa. Omo old school dey miss o
Ladies please,can't believe this is even up for discussion.Please call your husband whatever you like,there are no set rules or proper ways as long as you both accept it.Babe complaining,na u wan tell anoda woman how to address her hubby,abeg concentrate on urs,soon now u go dey teach her how to hold her man.ITK
LINDA DIS IS MY FIRST TIME LEAVING A COMMENT ON YOUR BLOG DESPITE BEING AN ARDENT READER. AM SURPRISED AT THE MENTALITY AND COMMENTS OF SOME THE READERS. FOR GOODNESS SAKE THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG IN CALLING YOUR HUSBAND SIR. IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE HUSBAND AND WIFE. I CALL MY HUSBAND NKEM AND HE CALLS ME BABY AND I ALWAYS ANSWER SIR. IT ISNT FEAR IT IS RESPECT AND LADIES IT IS FUN> AINT NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.
I find in our country respect is just demanded and not earned.... calling ur husband Sir is not respectful its just not loving.... people are so concerned about respecting their husbands how about loving??? I would call my husband by a pet name so everyone would know I love and adore him and he does me as he smiles everytime I do so.... call ur husband sir I can guarantee he will get another hussy that will be calling him something else... daddy, papi, big boy..... not Sir,, we will see who will wipe your tears away then!
It is very proper and right... very Good if your husband likes it..using the life of Sarah for illustration: Any woman who wants total love frm a man should learn frm sarah who is in totality subjected to Abraham to an extend she called him LORD...certainly dere is something abt sarah dat I understd to d last end. for him to win d heart of Abram to that age... for Abraham not to think for a 2nd d attitude of having anoda wife bcos sarah can't bear Fruit..sarah as done the greatest work as wife in accordance wit the bible..Enough love I c to d extent she advice his husband to make love wit d slave for him to hve heir, dis is a big challenge to the ladies of this generation... Na wah ooo but nowadays ladies if man talk 1 dey will talk 100..ALOT of things re happening bcos most young ladies have miss dere responsibility..I most say dat apart from sarah I hve not seen or hear of anywoman wit such decency,respect, discipline and Love...
"STILL WATCHING FROM MY OCEAN
I really don't understand why we must impose our views and perspectives on others.So she calls her husband 'Sir', good for her.it works for her.But to insist that it must be for every one else...?that's just wrong! Relationships are about compatibility, understanding...amongst other things. if it works for you, go for it. if it betters your relationship,definitely go for it! But if it doesn't do any for both of you,save yourself(and us all) the headache and just be, abeg! No condemnation.
not bad 4 woman to say sir 2 her husband. Nice one
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