This is a comment from a LIB commenter, Sleek. He/she made it on the Janet Jackson new body post. Please read and tell us what you think
Stop encouraging these failures, no husband, no child, why her waist no go tiny? If u want to be like her u are free, just don't marry and don't have kids. I don't fancy this kind of person. Life is - you have to be given birth to, then live, then marry, have kids and live as a family of ur own apart from ur previous family ( parents and siblings ). To me that's fulfillment and success. Anything less of that is a total failure no matter what anyone says. I know some waste ones here will say immediate family is not by force or some will say marriage is not by force, hey stop deceiving urselves bcos a Person who is average in life with family (spouse and kids) is far better and more successful than a person who is a billionaire without family ( spouse n kids ). Yes I said it, if u like start consoling urself by saying it's not by force. If u like try make urself feel good by saying it's a choice. Ranging from oprah Winfrey to Janet Jackson and to anyone out there who is super rich but no spouse and kids.
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Sleek is a fool....
Do you beg a man to stay with you all in the name of protecting your name? And so what if she doesn't have a child???? (Which she even does by the way)!!!
What of naija women who have lost all sense of identity and self esteem all in the name f marriage and child bearing??? They are so shapeless and have no ambition other than trying to patch up a home that is already ruined!
They pass on low self esteem to their daughters and train their sons to be as useless as their dads... And the vicious cycle continues...
The way I see it, it's better to do what's right by you according to God, and be happy. That way you're not a failure.
Well said jawe, it's d will of ǦØD̶̲̥̅̊ Fø̲̣̣я̅ we humans to live as a family & multiply. Am with u on this....Am sure some peeps will alwayz com up with some below-d-line theories.
....Olusegun
Husband n kids n then u live n die,without makn any impact in ur society!and u call dt success!isorai!imagine if everybody in the world shld live by those principles.I wonder wat will become of this world!sleek is just a very sad n unfulfilled pesn tryn to console herself because she didn't achieve her goals in ds life!its only daft pple dt define success as gettn married n havn kids!if its like dt,then everyoda mad woman wt a child or children is successful.mtschewww....TONI
Being married with kids doesnt make u a successful person. Success means defferent things to different people. dont judge others because they dont measure up to ur own defination of success.
To hell with u sleek , yo ! How about this ? I'm full blown naija , I don't want kids , I have a loving fiancé and he doesn't want kids either . I choose to take care of kids that need to be taken care of and I'm gon call them my family . I don't care about your BS , you've got a fucked up mentality . I don't know y mutha fuckas can't think outside the gaddamn box. Na by force ? As in seriously, must we all abide by some freaking social construct? Well I'm one of those who won't and fuck u again, get ur arrogant ass elsewhere sleek. Linda I'm gon meet u one day ,remember this comment & I'm serious . Ps: if I decide to have kids later , nothing dey happen I will but for now . I wanna travel the world , make money & take care of people . #kapish
Talk about shallow-minded pple!from wat cave did u crawl out from?WAKE UP!we re in the 21st century!procreation is not everytn!dt is y jobless pple have children and leave them wtout any training watsoeva!they grow up become thieves n kidnappers n all wat ve u!marriage is good!n havn kids is awesome!but in a situation where dt doesn't happen,u can impact on ur society in a whole lotta ways and die feeling fulfilled!wat is wrong wt pple and ds stupid mentality?...TONI
Lol... Such a loser, why the negativity? No need of wasting my time,the author is not a happy person even with him/herself.
Fuck sleek and her foolish thoughts. In my dictionary, sucess comes first, then a man.. Children can always be adopted and men will always be there, but your sucess gives u one chance and one chance only. Rubbish!
I think sleeknamumu has said it all. Really, what's the point if you're going to be miserable in a marriage, with or without kids? What is the point if you'd loose yourself because of your marriage? A loving husband, good kids, that's great, hey, ofcourse, but that is a gift and if you are not blessed this way(yet), it would be foolish to rush into something you'd regret forever in the name of what? Your happiness comes first, else you'd destroy yourself and everyone around you. Success is relative my dear, successful in business, in marriage, in school. You can't just say one is successful for having wife and kids, that's just dumb.
my dear true talk but i wil rather prefare to marry answer name and have kidds but if d marriage did not work i wil divorce my husband and have my kidds is a great achievement other than none cos is beter u once marry and have kidds other than none, so u are right,but wait i thought they said micheal jackson nose was an artificial but i cant even see d different btw his and dat of his sister or did she also hv surgery?oh my God they so much look alike.
each time i see janet jackson she so much remind me of micheal jackson gosh they so much look alike there blood must be very strong to create such an identical sibblings.
That person sounds a failure already. Instagram got bought for $1billion yesterday and the person is yarning nonsense.
If marriage and children are the definition of success to you, then so be it. But you just defined a breeder, like cows, chickens and goats. I personally don't see that as the sole reason God put anyone on earth. Yes, part of being here is having a family, but by no means is it the only reason you're here. So if all you do in life is get married and have kids, you might have missed your other purposes. How about build a business, employ people, change the world around you too?
Abeg don't let your life be a weist, if chasing a spouse and having children is your life's goal and sole achievement, get a life.
Sounds dogmatic & parochial. I guess catholic priests, celibates, & childless persons 're total failures by this judgment
we should put into consideration that some people are single not by their own choice but the fact that they are yet to find someone who will marry them.
Don't know about Oprah, but am sure if a man is willing to settle down with Janet she will agree.
Some single peeps console themselves by saying marriage is not by force, don't criticize them if that is one of the ways they can retain their sanity. The pressure of marriage is too much on singles, therefore let them be whenever they say their achievements make them happy and fulfilled.
People define their own success, period! Make your own choices, and be happy with them.
This person is an idiot, plain and simple. Backward thinking closed minded fool. I hope u don't subscribe to that line of thinking, Linda? I don't see why else u would do a whole blog post featuring such an ignorant comment.
I won't even waste time picking apart the comment because I'm sure other commenters would take d time to so.
What a caveman!
Linda, I dey suspect u. Why are u giving this person d time of day?
Linda, Linda, Linda. How many times I write your name? True you have really pissed me off with this post.
What's the point? What are you trying to achieve, eh? To get more comments? How can you celeberate mediocrity by putting in this space a comment that is obviously false, limited in scope and expression.
This Sleek fellow, I don't know if his male or female is definitely living in a small pond where he is a tiny mackerel and you may not know it Linda but he/she insults you brazenly.
He has said that you Linda is not successful already because you Linda are not married nor have children. Is that not what he/she is all about?
Please if you can, send somebody over to Sleek to wake up from his coma. He is time stuck in the 50s. Back then a woman's success is determined by the numbers of children attributable to her and a man for the number of wives he's able to purchase.
Since you posted this Linda I guess you are a failure then? Yeah right! Abegi, nonsense and ingredient, concorability of no alarcrity. Mscheeww, shior.
This person is an idiot, plain and simple. Backward thinking closed minded fool. I hope u don't subscribe to that line of thinking, Linda? I don't see why else u would do a whole blog post featuring such an ignorant comment.
I won't even waste time picking apart the comment because I'm sure other commenters would take d time to so.
What a caveman!
Linda, I dey suspect u. Why are u giving this person d time of day?
Sleek or Mary-kay, what makes u believe a person has to be married
and have children to be successful? Marriage is a choice not a must. Your opinion is so completely biased.
Sleek,so if you are not married you are a failure abi?. These are the kind of foolish theories that make a lot of women and men (atimes) start, stay and die in abusive relationships. God ordained marriage but he did not mandate it. That is why in the bible, there are people that are called eunuchs who do not marry but are totally dedicated to God's service. Are those ones failures too.Is the pope a failure.Did mother theresa marry?. Apostle Paul, one of the most successful apostles of all times did not get married. I am only familiar with the bible but i am sure there will be examples like these in the quran too. So if you are a woman and you happen not just to find the right partner, you should grab any Tom, Dick and Harry to marry even if he is a serial killer because you want to be a success. Whether you like it or not, not everybody will marry and that is the fact. The key to succeeding in life is being happy, healthy and personally fulfilled and those things can come in many different ways.
So this Sleek person thinks spouse and children make his or her life fulfilled and successful? Sleek, those women or men that can't naturally father or mother a child, what becomes of them? Myopism is sure a disease! Good luck with your successful and fulfilled life Sleek!
I totally agree wit sleek!its such a Waste,each time I see des women with so much sucess bt no Family I feel terrible for dem..Career or No Career Der Lives ar empty for Heaven Sake..
You can't force others to live to your OWN theories. Do your own and leave others.
The purpose of having a child is so that the child can be succesful. Accepted, without people giving birth, nobody will have a job or a career. Cos it's people's children who watch Oprah or Janet but individual circumstances vary.
That a woman is not married does not mean she is a failure.
Married people should be respected more but single people should not be disrespected.
Success is living a Godly purpose driven life and finding both fulfilment and happiness from it. Fulfilment is achieving your dreams and being satisfied with your life,all t's crossed and i's dotted. Life in itself is Christ and not family. Success, happiness and fulfilment are basically relative and depends on what each and every individual wants. Paul in the bible was not interested in getting married because his purpose was to preach and spread the gospel. I believe he found fulfilment in that. So i disagree with Sleek, family is good but it's not success or life. Janet Jackson might want 'family' but what if she is just unlucky,it's not as if she hasn't tried out relationships. #okbye
What's there to comment on? In her (myopic) opinion, women exist for marraige and child breeding. Luckily for the rest of us we know that's crap. If anything you've made what should have passed as an irrelevant rant become a topic of discussion.NEXT!
Which is better divorce or staying single? Plz marriage is a choice.
Using 'absolutes' cheapened the person's points...we can't all have the same goals in life. Celebrating someone's success at a particular thing does not mean we have to like all that they do. Plus what is your business anyway? If your life is so perfect & you are so successful, you shouldn't have time to demean others. Life is all about balance..kudos to full time mothers but there are also career women who are married & have kids. How would you feel when they say u are an utter failure for only aiming to have a family in life? How hard is it to settle for anyone & just have babies anyway? People like you encourage desperate people to just settle & end up being frustrated...not once did you mention 'love', you might have been married for the *status quo*.
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woooooow......please what brought this talk, he sounds not to happy sha.
POINT OF CORRECTION LINDA,OPERA NOT HAVING BABIES IS NO FAULT OF HERS,SHE LOST HER WOMB AT TENDER AGE.COS OF RECKLESS RELATIVE OF HERS ABUSING SEXUALLY.TO UR POINT IS IMPORTANT TO HAVE IMMEDIATE FAMILY OF OURS.SOME DO THIS FOR THEIR SELFISH INTEREST,WHO SAID U CAN BE IN SHAPE AFTER GIVEN BIRTH.CHECK OUT CELIN DION SHE IS SHAPE,ANGELINA JOLIE,SHE IS.I AGREE WITH U LINDA.
Go ye into d world nd multiply,i or U̶̲̥̅̊ didn't say dat bt d lord,if ur parents didn't have U̶̲̥̅̊,i wonder werr U̶̲̥̅̊ wuld b,its a diff thing 4 U̶̲̥̅̊ †̥ try nd it didn't wrk out U̶̲̥̅̊ knw its nt ur fault dan U̶̲̥̅̊ having an i dnt care attitude towards havng a family which m sure is evry1's dream,so pls sleek is so rite nd besides y change d way God created U̶̲̥̅̊ ,r U̶̲̥̅̊ telling him he didn't create U̶̲̥̅̊ well enuf,so pls all we need †̥ do is pray †̥ God 4 his plans upon our life †̥ come true and become reality.peace out
Use your intelligence. Oprah is extremely hardworking so just because she is unmarried her hardwork should be discredited. Same as Janet.
I think you are intimidated by women and then succesful women and trying to put them down.
Oparh was raped as a young girl and that's one of the reasons she's not married. If na you, nko?
Another round of sleek bashing! I totally understand why Linda had to specially publish her comment cos I've never seen any1 generate so many rebuttals(even more than gbenga sef)!
My dear sleek;I'm guessing u r a lady. You must be one of those unfortunate ones who happens to be married to a man that has brain-washed you finish into thinking you will never amount to anything except you are with him! My dear,if u love your future so bad,I'll advice u jolt yourself back to reality! Marriage is not an end to a means! You can definitely be fulfilled without being a Mrs lagbaja! Girls pls get a reality check!
This is why patriarchy has been so difficult to eradicate. Clearly many women have convinced themselves that they are worthless without marriage, and children. They determine their self worth by children and husband. Those of us, who dare to privilege other kinds of successes are labeled failures.
There are things that I desire more than marriage. Things such as achieving the highest level of education, things such as my commitment to issues of social justice and community work. Things such as eradicating violence against women in Nigeria and increasing women's opportunities in that country.
What makes one a success in life is not about the amount of children one pushes out, but about the lives one touches and children (besides one's own) that one influences positively. In that regard I would argue that oprah and janet are much more of a success than Sleek will ever be. They have made a difference. What difference have you made in the world besides the kids that surround you and call you mommy. They will be remembered, what will you be remembered for? Being someone's mother? Is that really your sole purpose on earth?
I am not saying that motherhood is not desirable but what I am saying is that Nigerian women must begin to demand something other than just marriage for themselves. And I say this knowing full well, that their second class status in Nigeria makes it difficult. But really, So you are Mrs Good luck jonathan, and what else? What have you achieved apart from your husband and children? What makes you who you are? what makes you special? What have you done to change lives, communities? And I am sorry to tell those who think like Sleek, that motherhood cannot just be your answer. And if it is perhaps it is time you begin to see yourself as the real failure.
I am married to a man I'm in love with, still of d opinion dat marriage aint a do or die. No sin in being single and there are lots of pple who cant have kids or who cant find a man; are they to commit suicide? Me thinks dere's more to life dan dat. Find sumtin to be passionate about: Jesus Christ, ur job, bizness, d elderly, d poor, orphans, d sick etc and Be happy,and live well!
Heaven @ Last!!
Na wah for naija mentality
So the lady whose husband killed her is more successful that a Rich woman who is still single
Sleek needs a head examination
Everyone is successful in their own right and SUCESSS is subjective. what is successful to one might be a failure to another
JUST enjoy your life and do what makes you happy and fulfuilled.
I wonder who this writer is angry with....mayb a woman refused to marry him and he is vexing badly and blaming it on Janet and Oprah? na wa sha
Marriage and pickin issue again. I call this the height of heartlessness. They don't owe any of you 'perfect people' any explanation. Janet is not married now, she was before and it didn't work. Some single ladies r not married and it's not by choice, some married people don't have children and it's not by choice. Certain things don't just happen. Thou shall not judge lest ye be judge. This life is not your stage alone be careful lest your world and life turns upside down. It cud happen to you or someone close to you then you will understand this thing called life is not after all a bed of roses.
I don't support sleek one bit. Oprah is married and janet has a child. marriage and Children are gifts from God, sometimes we can't help these things. if u make a success out of ur life before marriage and children come then so be it. but like d other person said i would rather be happly rich and single than to be wretched, miserable and married.
So Annie that wants to marry TUFACE and add to his number of children is more successful than Oprah . #####
SMH SMH ...Thats why so many women stay in abusive marriage .
Clearly no sence in this post . was not even worth commenting
Success is subjective and its what ever gives you fulfilment .
Spot on!
The writer is reminding everyone of the basics.
Lost souls claimimng to be liberated minds wont like this am sure cos truth hurts.
What if single Oprah is happy and some of the married women you are taling about is extremely unhappy. Does that still make the married better?
If you are thinking that your own standard determines others lives and that other people are failures based on your OWN standard, then what critical thinking skill will you pass on to your kids?
Cos what does who are married without kids and it's not their fault.
there is a woman that was born without womb what about if she didn't get a good surrogate
if you are axtian what about APOSTLE PAUL who had no kids although yes he needed other people's kids to read his epsitles.
Are you saying Apostle paul was a total failure.
Please life is individual.You can't live two people's lives at once.
Live your own to your standard and if it is good enough others will be rushing to copy your life, amrriage, career, etc.
Yup Sleek is such a fool...and you're the kind of person that would be moving around with mediocre people and sufferheads in the name of raising a family. Marriage and having kids are based on choice. SMH grow up and stop being so stupid and narrow minded. kmt
There are millions of hardworking happily single (very old) people all over the world so they are useless abi.
Does this apply to a man too? Cos if it does not then YOU SLEEK ARE AFRAID OF A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN.
You have mediocre, low-self esteem women around you and when you see a woman making billions you are jealous.
@sleekNamumu just took the words right out of my mouth!!the level of ignorance is appalling!!!so what?Women have no other way to base their self-worth other than through marriage!!if u don't have a man does that render u useless??i no fit shout again sef!!i feel sorry for her..may your very low and backwards mentality not be the end of u!!
So if your daughter does not get married you will stop loving her unconditionally, abi?
A single woman who has gone to scholl is afailure, abi?
A single woman who is a scientist and is doing research into the cure for cancer is a failure, abi?
A single woman who has gone to space as a rocket scientist and has one of the best trained intelligence in the world is a failure, abi?
YEAH RIGHT!!!
Agreed i would rather have a "happy" married life with children but that does not define SUCCESS.
Sleek are you okay at all. Thats the ideal package but how many people have that package, happy been the key word.
So Jesus Christ who came to this world, died at 33 years, had no wife and kids you would say JESUS CHRIST Life was not successful doing what God sent him here to do or Mother Theresa did not live a fulfiled life doing what she loves doing.
My parents fought day and night , were miserable in the abusive marriage but she stuck with DAD and was very unhappy ....SO She had a better life than Oprah.
If you ask my mama she self go tell you , she will trade the life of OPRAH in a heartbeat.
If you think MARRIAGE , Children , money define success then you have no CLUE
When society forces people to marry, this is what YOU GET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
http://atilola.blogspot.co.uk/2011/09/mummy-likes-mine-best.html
I know a mother who does not clean her baby's anus cos she doesn't like touching poo. She puts her baby under the tap. She doesn't love her baby's anus. She told us herself so in your eyes she's a mother and so is better than single people abi?
Well done
DOES THIS APPLY TO MEN?
Well, Sleek shld let us know which rule seyz 1 shld b married to attain success. i dont condone d fact dat sum1 leaves wiv a man dats not her husband 4 yrs n not solemnise it. dats morally wrong. buh 1 shld know even in the bible not all were made for marriage sum ppl are eunuch [a man who is not neccesarily castrated but who is impotent, celibate or otherwise not inclined to marry and reproduce]. even the bible in mathew 19:12 sez so. not every1 is built 4 marraige. Societal pressure has made it seem lyk its a must. IT'S NOT. I fink its also anoda reason y loads ov ppl have bkom 'homos' cuz dey are not attracted 2 d opposite, meawhile dey arent supposed 2b. God made such pple 4 his service n his service alone. So sleek shld get his fact str8.
Some people just can't be parents.
Have you heard of incest?
Have your heard of mothers who force their kids into prostitution?
have you heard of witch mothers who ruin thier kids' lives?
Hace you heard of ritualist fathers who use their kids for money?
Please wake up.
Where's my comment Linda , ? Wtf is wrong with u? Can't b spending typing and u no go post am . Hiss
I AGREE 50%
Society will not exist without people having children.
Who will Bill gates sell his computers to?
Who will Banky W sing to?
Who will Obama preside over?
Life will stop without childbirth.
But at the same time, marriage and parenthood should be strongly encourage and applauded NOT FORCED.
Married should be respected more but singles hould not be disrespected.
The family is the basic foundation of human existence. Our forefathers honoured it and that's why we're here. It's Gods intention for man. Today, we're wiser and the human foundation is gradually eroding with our mindless pursuit of vanity. We have shot ourselves in the leg. We're bleeding. Our body is a walking, breathing, disease. It surely would degenerate to a point of decay and it is through birth that we progressively replace life.
There are ladies with kids who have small waists as well as unmarried, never preg ladies with potbellys as gigantic as urs. Why not pour your anger out at the gym rather than hate. I'm planning my wedding and looking forward to kids and a happy home. However, marriage and kids is not all life is about. A career also may not be. Your life is abt wat God has destined u to be and what makes u happy. Has husband has refused to come, should she now kill herself? Or stop looking good? Its better to be happily single than to die like ogochukwu(may her soul R.I.P)
All i can say is if this"sleek" character had basic education he/she would have done a lot better with his/her comment and would also know that Janet Jackson has been married before, has a child and has been divorced. Oprah on the other hand has a child but has never been married and has adopted hundreds of South African girls which she is presently responsible for. If your idea of "success" is getting married and having kids...then you're obviously trying to console yourself for all your numerous failures which obviously includes your inability to construct intelligent sentences.
eeerrmmmm... linda, do you remember the proverb about not arguing with a mad man because people might not think that you are mad also?
Why on earth are you joining isseus with "sleek"?
What about Apostle Paul and other famous single people in history?
Is there a special heaven for married people?
Is there a special reward in heaven for marrried people?
Can't one be happily single?
What about those fragile women who had been abused as children and are righly hesitant about marrige and sex?
Success is personal, Sleek.
Do your own marriage.
Live your own life.
If it is good enough, others will copy.
All i can say is if this"sleek" character had basic education he/she would have done a lot better with his/her comment and would also know that Janet Jackson has been married before, has a child and has been divorced. Oprah on the other hand has a child but has never been married and has adopted hundreds of South African girls which she is presently responsible for. If your idea of "success" is getting married and having kids...then you're obviously trying to console yourself for all your numerous failures which obviously includes your inability to construct intelligent sentences.
When society forces people to marry, this is what YOU GET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A mother asking her kids to give her oral sex is better than happy, single women abi?
http://atilola.blogspot.co.uk/2011/09/mummy-likes-mine-best.html
I just tire for some people o. This sleek sef. You ought to be ashamed of yourself. They are not married, so what. If u're a woman, I guess your life revolves around your husband. I guess you kneel down to serve him his meals. You think Marriage is the beginning and end? People like you make me wanna puke.
If women refuse to setle for rubbish men, then men will step up and society will be better.
But it's comments like yours that make women settle for bullshit men who be eternall bullshit.
Not coming to ur fucking blog no more , y u no go post my comment here & on dbanj ? Fucked up yo . Took me minutes to compose it . Hiss
Anything less of that is a total failure no matter what anyone says
no matter what anyone says
no matter what anyone says
YOU CAN'T EVEN try to be intelligent enough to peruse others' opinions
What kind of family will you have?
Dear Sleek,
In my opinion, success is achieving the purpose for which God created you and not having children, yea 'multiply, replenish and subdue the earth', if you can stay without a marital partner without committing sin, so be it!
However, while we try our best to look good, be aware that television is not reality, Janet Jackson might not appear as perfect as she looks!
na wa o. when did happiness and success start being determined by marriage and children. it is a good thing to be married (to a good person) and procreate as that is of God. but happiness is relative. what rocks your boat doesnt rock mine. people have valid reasons for their life choices. oprah has touched lives of children in so many ways.if she chooses not to get married and giver birth, thats her decision and nobody should condemn her for it. if jj finds happiness in waist reduction and image enhancing surgery den dats good as well . we shldnt condemn people for their life choices as long as it doesnt take away from anyone else. marriage is also not for everyone. u dont have to give birth to be a good and successful person. pls pls pls this is just ridiculous. live your best life people and if that is alone with 900 cats. den enjoy urselves.
Sleek at da end of da day,its jus ur opinion,ur view,ur perception,ur idea,Shikenen
Not to make the guy popular I will refrain from referring to his name or post directly.
Whoever guages success with the yardstick of having a family, being married and birthing offsdpring is an utter idiot that does not deserve any serious intellectual attention.
What we call success is relative no doubt but to narrow it down to just having a bunch of kids and spouse is an extremely moronic analysis of success. I will rather stay single than have a family that is broken in all rammifications. If we were to go by such a dumb logic, a man with offsprings and family he has not shown any responsibilty towards is a success, right? A man that beats his wife and childrien at the slightest provocation also deserves a nobel I guess for he is-in some peopl's twisted mind a success. I bet celibate reverend fathers, sisters and nuns are all failures too, right dumbo?
Before anyone ignorantly types mumbo-jumbo, they should first of all understand the meaning of success. What does it mean to succeed? In layman's definition, success is the accomplishment of an aim, a purpose or a set goal. These aims, purpose or set goals are relative and that's why I said success is a relative term, different people have different aims, objectives, aspirations, purpose and set goals that they hope one day they will finally or at least accomplish them. To some people it is to get married and have childrien and succeed in giving them quality life, to others it goes way beyond living to have offsprings, some people's aim is to better other people's lives, how to better a cause, start a cause, save lives and so on. In that respect, people like Opera Winfrey and Janeth Jackson are huge success cause they not only attained their aims in life they touch lives, better people's standdard of life, gave back to their communities and even outside of their countries. They do not need a family or any offspring to validate that neither do they need the dumb opinion of an unintelligent riff-raff to validate that too. They are successes of enormous proportion, simple.
Gboza says:
This kind of reasoning is really appalling. Although it's outrightly wrong to use financial status as the yardstick for measuring success, It is unbelivable that some people think life is all about getting married.
the person who made this comment, sleek or whatever, is an insensitive fool. the biggest fool of all time. she is the type of woman that will remain in a marriage, in pite of battering and panel beating of all sorts, just tp satisfy the world.
opinion is a natural entitlement.there is no need to reply her comment.its her opinion and it doesnt count.replying her ll make it count.
i said it, sleek is just jealous, abegi
sleek is an uunhappy woman, in an unhappy marrieage who cannot stand the sight of succesful women that hace achieved a lot without a man
get a life sleek
And who said I need be married to be termed successful?
Sleek your comment made sense where you said, "What you believe as success is..." Why then generalize it an bash all "successful" unmarried persons and our Linda. Cool down oo.
If success is all about marriage and childbirth, China would have been the most successful nation, Nigeria too.
Success is a true happiness that comes from attaining a purpose for being. From your post I see your success is mating your wife for offsprings.
SLEEK GO YE INTO THE WORLD AND MULTIPLY SUCCESSFULLY
Its this kind of foolish sleek that stay in abusive relationships. Linda, any updates on the Ogochukwu story? U no do well at all o. Publicised a story and refused to tell the other side or investigate
When i first saw *SLEEK*'s post i was so angry dat i felt if i had to comment, I'll just be as stupid as she is.
But really it is very sad to have evidences dat people still think like she does. If success can be measured by marriage are we to say Titi Arowolo was successful? Or if it was to be measured by children, can Pero claim success now? Why go far sef? There beggars on d streets with husbands and children-- is dat sucess?
I take it dat this Sleek xter must have @ least one child. The amount of love Oprah and Janet have shown in terms of charity to children, women...all OVER THE WORLD, she cannot do a fraction of it to child. Should those people be faulted for the blessing God has bestowed upon them? Why must people hate? U hate so tay....carry matter of a sexy body reach success...haba!
Its mentality like yours, Sleek, dat can never make u successful... And don't think dat u having a job and ur husband being able to buy u car which he'll pay for 3yrs is sucess...don't get it twisted @ all.
We shouldn't judge success based on Marital status...Some people feel more secure being single than marrying. However, I feel at some point in time one wishes to have kids of his/her own for procreation. Its a choice shaa.
i have never made any comment on this blog before but this particular piece caught my attention.
ladies! MARRIAGE IS NOT A MEANS TO VALIDATE YOUR EXISTENCE IF U FIND ONE GOOD LUCK, IF ARE IN LOVE BE HAPPY, IF YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE ONE PLS GET D HELL OUT! YOU ARE WHO U ARE AND U DNT NEED TO APOLOGIZE FOR BEING SO.
JANET JACKSON HAS A DAUGHTER AND SHE HAS BEEN MARRIED BEFORE. DUM DUM
Success is RELATIVE. What is means to one might not be what it means to others. It's like saying if a man is not as rich as Bill Gates, he's failure which is VERY untrue.
By the way, the smae God that said 'be fruitful and mulitiply' also created people that are unable to do so. So are you recommending suicide for them? Sleek is a daunce.
@ Sleek you get mind oo, well I see the point and the wisdom behind what sleek is saying and it's very hard to comprehend only the wise know where he or she was coming from. Now atleast in linda's blog I see someone who has the guts to write something without sentiment . The people who cant take the heat Of the comment are the ones crying. He or she had just made his own comment so don't crucify him pls.
@Anonymous...10:15 AM.... O My !!!, you must be a funny person . You lost me in laughter at "preg ladies with potbellys as gigantic..Why not pour your anger out at the gym rather than hate.
Lol . you are funny . Abeg no mind Sleek jare, me i am married but no kids yet out of choice for now , yet my Potbelly na something else. Make i follow your advice and hit that gym instead of following this nonsence when SLEEK dey talk
Omara has resurrected as Sleek!
My dear sleek, if that's the reality you believe in, then good for you. But it seems like you are desperately trying to convince yourself more than anything else. Otherwise, there is no way you can possibly take such a stance in this day and age given what we have witnessed in the world thus far.
I guess if that's what helps you get up every morning and feel that life is good, then ride on. It's okay, you are successful
But I think you know very well that you have a one track argument which usually leads nowhere . All the best in your life and marriage or whatever you've got going on.
are u serious sleek. u sound very daft. go and get a job, slim down then you ll know dt husband and children are not wat defines an individual. i was married but was totally abused every wise.i was totlly frustrated.beating was just a daily thing until i spoke to myself after one bloody episode and ran away. i work very hard and take care of my kids and i have never bn so fulfilled and happy. sleek dts wat i call success not marriage. marriage may be success to you but not every one. keep ur standards to yourself. go get a good job and achieve something.WHAT??????? SOME PEOPLE ARE SO UNEDUCATED AND UNCIVILISED. how many women in the world are as successful as Oprah. do u know why she didnt marry. do u know that Janet has bn married twice or so and has a child. do u knw why she left. just get a life. we all have things that drive us.
You are a Nigerian, not an American, and no matter you hard you try you ca never be one!!!, well i think said D'banj is tryna be someone else., not himself that he use to be, and besides does he think he make anything our of GOOD Music? Hell NO
God did not give women womb and egg 4 decoration.we are meant to use it lyk d way we use our eyes,nose.ears,mouth e.t.c. I go wit sleek d major thing dat is killing women 2day is pride..they are nt ready to submit to deir husband and be patient.they all want to be lyk mrs A or B. Even sucesful Beyonce knows d importance of Marriage. Stop decivin ursef and get marrid to avoid unecesary 4nication and abortion.thank u Linda iam addicted to ur blog u nid to pay me o.cos i have promoted ur blog real good to my friends and they all Love it weldone swt heart.
You are a Nigerian, not an American, and no matter you hard you try you ca never be one!!!, well i think said D'banj is tryna be someone else., not himself that he use to be, and besides does he think he make anything our of GOOD Music? Hell NO
God did not give women womb and egg 4 decoration.we are meant to use it lyk d way we use our eyes,nose.ears,mouth e.t.c. I go wit sleek d major thing dat is killing women 2day is pride..they are nt ready to submit to deir husband and be patient.they all want to be lyk mrs A or B. Even sucesful Beyonce knows d importance of Marriage
WHAT ABOUT APOSTLE PAUL? WAS HE A TOTAL FAILURE? DID HE USE HIS PENIS IN HIS MINISTRY?
So He will not enter heaven cos his peneis was for decoration, right?
@ada 1, it is not everybody that must marry and have kids. Mother Teresa served her whole life. Would you say she was a failure? Paul did not marry. Nuns don't marry, are they all failures? One's success is not a measure of whether you are married with kids or not. This mentality contributes to the high divorce rate we have now.
There are people that are married with kids and grossly irresponsible. Their kids are suffering big time. We can't go into extinction cos some ppl will always have kids however leave men and women who decide not to in peace. I considered myself successful well before I married and have lovely successful friends that are not married.
I'm glad I made u smile
Is there a special heaven for married women?
I totally disagree with your comment. As a young woman with a lot to look forward to in life, your comment is really disappointing. Are you trying to say that a woman who does not marry or hav kids is unsuccessful? That is absolutely absurd. Our mission in life should not be to became baby-popping machines, or needy wives. THAT would make a woman unsuccessful. I am not saying it is wrong to marry or hav kids as a woman. But that is not what should be the main goal in life. Living a life pleasing and acceptable to God should be the goal. 1 Corinthians 7:28 states "But if you do marry, you did not sin..." so do not condemn Oprah and Janet Jackson for not fitting into what you believe an 'ideal woman' should be. They have changed people's lives and made a name for themselves. Which not many can boast of. Instead of condemning them, look at their achievements and accomplishments. As for Janet's tiny waist, it's her body not yours. She can do as she pleases.
Sleek, your comment stems from ignorance and ignorance is a disease. I am married with kids but I certainly never felt the need to be married to be fufilled. Please wake up and smell the coffee. You do have a myopic mind. Jeez! In this century!!
"he family is the basic foundation of human existence. Our forefathers honoured it and that's why we're here. It's Gods intention for man. Today, we're wiser and the human foundation is gradually eroding with our mindless pursuit of vanity. We have shot ourselves in the leg. We're bleeding. Our body is a walking, breathing, disease. It surely would degenerate to a point of decay and it is through birth that we progressively replace life."
IS THAT SO? If you are a xtian, then what about the disciples of Jesus who didn't marry or have kids?
So incompetent people should be forced to become parents?
have YOU spared any thought for the poor kids that will come out that kind od bullshit marriage?
No, i didn't think so.
people like you are . . .
"I totally agree wit sleek!its such a Waste,each time I see des women with so much sucess bt no Family I feel terrible for dem..Career or No Career Der Lives ar empty for Heaven Sake"
My sweet dear(lol) their lives may seem empty to you but has it managed to cross your minds that they may actually be happy?
Some women can't live without having a man while some can live happily with or without.
Think and learn.
de truth is always bitter,,,and sleek has said the really truth,,,you dont want to have kids,but you want to take good care of kids right?then who will born those kids?keep on decieving urself with being educated,ur old age will tell u the truth,from swiss
It is his opinion. I'm not saying he's right thought but Why all these rants? No wonder some of you women find this offensive. You are single and trying to console yourselves that being forever alone doesn't matter. Better pray for God to open your eyes and show you the true meaning of success instead of talking out of self-hate because what you don't want to hear has been said. Thank you
A single woman with First Class in Computer Science from MIT, Masters with distinction from Wharton earning 2 million naira and above per month is a failure?
I laugh in Igbo.
If you are so happy with your marriage and your kids, why DO YOU STILL HAVE TIME to be criticising others?
Why?
Funke Akindele is useless right for making us laugh and reducing our blood pressures?
There are so many examples.
If you are thinking like this, what intelligence will you pass on to your kids?
My thots xactly!
lmao. very funny comment. but Janet Jackson was in a long term marriage or relationship with Jermaine Dupri and they broke up. shes just trying to get back on her feet with her bros death and all. Not everything is marriage, it takes time to find the right person. whats the point of been in a marriage thats unhappy. HABA! God didnt ordain everyone a husband oo. so dont be judging ppls life if u dont know them, am sure u have amends to make in urs. fyi Oprah Winfrey is technically married shes been in a relationship for over 24 yrs now. maybe if u research or watch oprahs show more u will understand.
Successful women demand more from men and do not take as much nonsense as unsuccessful women so it's a conspiracy.
I guess Linda Ikeji is useless for now until she gets married then she becomes WORTH IT. Hmmmm
Love your neigbour as yourself, singles, married, divorced, love them all and free your mind abeg.
All these African and Asian ideas about marriage, damn!!!!!!!
The greatest position in life is that of freedom and happiness.
Nobody should be forced to marry or procreate cos nobody will help them raise the kids.
What about people who can't have children through no fault of their own?
What about people who have lost their kids?
Sleeki, na wah o.
like i have said before, people with sleek's mentality should get a life. when ur children grow up and leave the house, then u realize u never had a life of ur own but u have being livin thru others,then depresion sets in and u become the wicked mother in law who is always poking nose in other people affairs. get a life for urself and let ur fulfilment come from God and urself. then husband and children can compliment u!
i remember when i got engaged, i was afraid of gettin married without a life of my own and i kept delayin cos i dont want to live my life thru another person. i also believe that a whole woman who can live on her own and be happy is a balanced woman and she is a gift to her husband and home. by the way sleek, pls. spare us that book u want to publish so as not to ruin our daughters'lives with ur mentality.
To each his/her own. But those person is such a loser. This is probably one of those people who lays down, has 10 kids, grows fat and wonders why their spouse is cheating on them. Grade A LOSER
Sleek needs some serious facts.
Oprah have been dating Stedman Graham for 26yrs!!! Who knows if they are married and It will be better to not tell the world so paparazzi wont kills their marriage. Although the woman have no child but she has done alot for millions of children.
Janet Jackson was married twice.
so get your facts right.
The best gift you can give yourself is to discover who u are n what u want frm life.so are u seriously telling me that i need a man to validate me.ur comments is a mirror to your failed life and choices.pple like u are d type tat yearns 2 have more frm life but end up consoling urself.get a life now.
in short sleek, ure annoyin me and i would finally say it is better to be outstanding and fulfilled in life than to be a married average person with no impact in life than the children u gave birth to. mtshewww
Who the flipping heck are you to define other people's success? You cannot stand in the same room as Oprah Winfrey or Janet Jackson. Go and yansh down jare. Idiot.
It's only an egocentric, narcissistic male that would think a woman needs a man to be "successful".
For your info:
Oprah had a child that died.
Janet has an undisclosed child.
Every human wants something different from life and success for them is measured according to the areas they have chose.some people dont want kids or marriage and it is their life and their choice.
read this post from divasville.com
http://www.divasville.com/2012/04/marriage-whats-big-deal.html
lol linda e be like say sleek's comment pain you well well lmao
I am glad the writer added "in my opinion" and that is exactly what it is, your opinion which may or may not be shared by others, many women do not need a man, children, marriage to validate them and IN MY OPINION marriage and children are not necessary if you find what makes you happy or what defines you then do you!
Believe me not many women or men are cut out for marriage or children and the last time I checked people were free to do whatever pleased them so far as it does not cause harm to the next person :)
Peace everyone!!
William Makepeace Thackeray
"Next to excellence is the appreciation of it"
If you can't appreciate excellence in others, SLEEK THEN YOU ARE NOT EXCELLENT.
Dee
Sleek you are a bitch.
oooh pls just just up sleek n stick to ur own belief hisssss
ode oshi!! why the idiot no put his/her name? after all if he/she thinks such nonsense, he / she should be proud to stand by such.
its people like that (with such stupid beliefs) that make this world a horrible place.
MUMU
THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO DEFINE THOSE PEOPLE THAT ARE FOR SUCCESS AT THE EXPENSE OF YOUR OWN FAMILY,IT IS RETARDED.THEY ARE HAVING PROBLEMS HOOKING UP WITH A MAN SO THEY MAKE THE EXCUSE THAT THEY CAN LIVE WITHOUT THEM WHILE BEHIND THEY CRY SECRETLY,U PEOPLE ARE NOT FOOLING ANYBODY.
sleek just committed suicide,y'all v killed d frustrated,pathetic MF..... She needs help dts all i can say. BTW linda i can stake my life dt u post dt comment so d bashing can continue.. Sleek is so stale.
Abi º°˚˚˚°º S̴̩☺̴̩̩̥̩̩̩̥ dis foolish sleek is implyin dat dose dat chose celibacy to serve God re automatic failures...Cos I read in d bible dat d purpose of life is to serve God but in order for us to avoid d sin σƑ fornication let us marry. When d God said be fruitful and multiply was he talking about humans alone he meant all his creation but dat not withstanding God in his infinite wisdom still made some σƑ his creation Eunuchs by birth, so automatically dose ones are failures????na wa for dis sleek
I think Sleek has a point but lack of good presentation spoilt it all. I think the point sleek was trying to make was that most people especially spinsters who are sucessful in their various careers are not as happy as they should be because they don't have children and a loving husband. No matter how happy they claim to be, search deep in their hearts the void still remains.
However, i will say that Sleeks definition of sucess as having children is very myopic. Going by her definition, a mad woman with children can be said to be more sucessful than Oprah Winfrey who has none.
and for these sort of reasons, women like Titi Arowolo will continue to get murdered by abusive men who think they are a a woman's uttmost epitome of success. keep up the jungle mentality ok?
and you all wonder why Ogochukwu Onochukwu faked it and chose to die in Kevin Ogochukwu's house as mrs. ogochukwu, leaving her children behind to be raised by strangers...hahhahhahah., messed up culture
Bcos 8% out of hundred do nt hav kids wil make life stop....
Sleek is just a sore loser and a hater.What of failed marriages?Can you call that success?Not sure your brain is sleek.You fit the definition DAFT.
Some girls are too economical with truth. Sleek has said it all whether you want to agree with the opinion or not. For you to have fulfillment in life, you must beat your chest and say "this is my family", and your family should comprise; you,your husband and children, not rented or adopted children. Any woman without a home is unfulfilled and incomplete. Some girls or ladies that are tired of life will always attack anybody that will tell them the truth about life.
Stupid writer. This article is stupid. I mean being a billionaire n impacting lives of people around the world is not classified as successful becuz of no spouse n kids, u gottabe kiddin me. U just jealous bitch
I really need to give u a hug! ((((((((())))))))))
U have said it all my dear. Kudos!! Don't mind the useless ignoramus.
U and sleek na the same mama born una! Olodo oshi!
You are successful when you are totally satisfied with who you are. It might be by having kids, staying in an unhappy marriage,excelling in your chosen fields or even making a fool of yourself anonymously on this blog. Whatever that makes you happy with yourself makes you successful.Ijeoma
Did u miss ur way? What has dbanj got to do wit the topic under discussion. Kindly redirect urself to the appropriate topic abeg! Thanks!!!
Awwwwwwwww such a sad person lol
Ada, Ur foolishness and stupidity knows no boundaries. To think you are a woman and you are writing this. If u like remain in an abusive marriage cos you want to answer mrs and bear children. I no blame u sha, na u get ur mouth. Ewure!!
Sleek is right,stop galavanting thinking U are sexy..be tolerant,patience and forgive to keep ur home. Don't run out bcos u think people will support u that it's nt by force. Taking pictures in every event with big bags and shoes doesn't make u fullfiled. Don't be deceiving urselves .
Why is this topic so killing you guys?did he or she say all women?the comment never said women or men,let his opinion be instead of abusing people for what they feel. After all many of u here washed Pero adeniyi for having babies for tuface without marriage and the same you still say marriage is not by force so I ask why persecute Pero adeniyi? The truth hurts and sleek hit it the way he or she wants and I like people like that. I am not married and I will not say I am happy for not being married. Marriage is a blessing from God and I look forward to it someday. I don't know about you but like crazy am tired of hearing u guys say marriage is not important. Don't live under such umbrella pls,hypocritical people will like to condemn other but when they get hit they cry. Did sleek force you? Did sleek come to your house to tell you to go back to ur husband? Don't kill yourselves over this I know how alot of people feel,As a woman I was amazed too but hey he or she said it the way it is even though you and I condemn him or her ,the message has been passed period.
Adoption depends on a jurisdiction & laws governing and punishable by people who break them. Here in Agrica where there are no laws or respect of laws, Africans dont understand Adoption talk less of respecting it in a legall way so I am sorry for those who refer to adoption as a way to console them selves cos ladies dont be surprise when ur fiancé/ hubby turn ur adopted daughter into a babyaking machine. Lol. Nigerians who supports American ideologies are so lack of knowledge says the holy book, cos Americans compete with God and God has turn away from them and that's why the are strugling to stay on top cos the God of the land left them cos they have chosen all the abominable things that God hates. Janet Jackson u look so much like ur brother but u are more of a failure than he was why? He saw that family was important as a complete success , so he acquire one, now he'ssurvived by mother, father, and he's children,that's how it should be, that's how it's suppose to be, and that's how it is. U were dumped by JD cos he wanted child, you couldn't give him, a stripper did, so now u are old and lonely, and now u are dating a child u r 17 years older than? He will definitely live u when he finds love, not money, but children. Just like sleek said, curse all u want back to sender one thousand ford, but the truth is when u have all that without family? All is vanity/ failure. The so calle charity did in SA is all a Business strategy so if u don't know, now u do. Last week she fired 30 workers just cos what she thought was going to bring her huge profit as Oprah network Tv became a Failure cos that's how the USA market works that's why Africans will always be slaves to Americans. Ask your selves, what charity was Bobby Brown doing in Nigeria when few of you here ladies had to sleep with people's Husbands in order to afford a ticket to his show? Guys stealing and robbing innocent in order to afford ticket to take their girls friends to his concert? All failures, what is Evadal Holyfield doing now in Nigeria? By the time u finish adwering all this questions, then u will know where sleek is coming from, wake up and stop helping failures why u mange to afford one square meal Nigerians.
Shut the fuck up!
I see women who can't face being married bcos of their backward lifestyle are the ones crying here. Lol someone said in her comment here that she and her man decided not to have kids,are you for real? But someone gave birth to you..that's the height of selfishness pls, wake up and face life neatly and stop shying away from the truth even though it hurts
A thousand apologies but this person is talking out of his/her derrière. The substance of your life is not marriage, how much money you have or what you have. It's how you live your life according to what makes YOU happy. If marriage, having a football team of kids and a husband/wife who may or may not give you hypertension is what will make you happy, then DO IT. If none of these will make you happy, then DON'T DO IT. Marriage and kids or lack of it doesn't make you a better or a worse person.
Embrace who you are, be happy in what you want and don't conform to society's expectations of you because nothing guarantees a faster death than that.
Sleek, perhaps instead of sitting in high judgement of others, you might want to use that valuable time to assess your own life and figure out what it is about it that makes you such a misery wart, ok. Chill out and relax and focus on your own affairs, ok?
I recommend the following books to broaden your mind - Who Moved my Cheese, How to Get Out of Your Own Way, The Monk who Sold His Ferrari, The Five People You Meet in Heaven, Tuesdays with Morrie and quite a few of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. Google them and hope you learn to live a good life free from the burden associated with judging everyone so much.
Wow, look at this epistle. lol. Abeg, no vex. I just had to say it. :)
SS
Thumps up!! Peace to u too!!
I really feel for your kids, especially if they are girls. twisted!
Thank you for sharing ur life story with us. We now know how frustrated u are. U think everybody is frustrated like u? Face ur live and stop trying to read people's minds. Olodo ni.
Could u please crawl back into the gutter u crawled out from. Am sure u are typing from one remote village where you are palmwine tapper. Village champion!!
My thots exactly!
Ur a bigger fool dan sleek
WHY WILL PEOPLE SAY OTHER PEOPLE ARE NOT HAPPY OR SHOULD NOT BE HAPPY?
Are u them? or are you inside their mind?
where in the bible say single people should not be happy.
so because someone is single and childless, she should be sad?
and then her productivity will be decreased.
SLEEK NEEDS HELP BIG TIME.
"Some girls are too economical with truth. Sleek has said it all whether you want to agree with the opinion or not. For you to have fulfillment in life, you must beat your chest and say "this is my family", and your family should comprise; you,your husband and children, not rented or adopted children. Any woman without a home is unfulfilled and incomplete. Some girls or ladies that are tired of life will always attack anybody that will tell them the truth about life"
WHAT ABOUT COUPLES WHO CAN'T HAVE KIDS AND ITIS NOT THEIR FAULT.
What about couples who are healthy and prospering but may have to wait years for kid?
So for those years they should be sad.
I wish you what you wish others. You are mean.
ONOME says.....................
Lindooo I no dey pleased with you o.Why is the nincompoop still being featured???
Oh well your blog is yours to do as you deem fit.At the end Na topical issue hence a myriad of reactions,more hits on the blog etc etc :))))
I have suitably replied on a previous post to sleek;doing so again would be silly:)))
"I think the point sleek was trying to make was that most people especially spinsters who are sucessful in their various careers are not as happy as they should be because they don't have children and a loving husband. No matter how happy they claim to be, search deep in their hearts the void still remains.
However, i will say that Sleeks definition of sucess as having children is very myopic. Going by her definition, a mad woman with children can be said to be more sucessful than Oprah Winfrey who has none."
How do you know they are not happy deep down? Na wah o. See FBI intelligence o.
THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO DEFINE THOSE PEOPLE THAT ARE FOR SUCCESS AT THE EXPENSE OF YOUR OWN FAMILY,IT IS RETARDED.THEY ARE HAVING PROBLEMS HOOKING UP WITH A MAN SO THEY MAKE THE EXCUSE THAT THEY CAN LIVE WITHOUT THEM WHILE BEHIND THEY CRY SECRETLY,U PEOPLE ARE NOT FOOLING ANYBODY.
So in your intelligent opinion, no woman can live without a man?
What about nuns?
You have make more sense than sleek.
Please help me to ask sleek o, hia!
Success (n)- a relative choice you make
Gbam!!!
Success- the end of a means i.e. if ur means to success is marriage, then marrying and having kid is ur success. Also, if your means to success is career, then getting to the top of your career and being influential is your success.
NB: SUCCESS IS RELATIVE TO INDIVIDUAL.
@ada1 11.21am and all the ignoramuses that identified with sleek, all i can say is that i pity you all. a survey will probably show that at least 90% of you fools are unhappy motherf******** who are defined by their partners and have no identity of their own
@samuel 4.19pm, so adopted kids are a taboo now? see your foolishness. its your type that are wife beaters and lazy fools who depend on the success of a woman to make you look good.
i'd rather die happy, unmarried and successful than sad, married and bitter.
abeg linda why allow such cowards in this fora? anyway, i dont blame you....just keeping us aware that such OLODES still share our air!!!!
I feel we marry to multiply. Marriage is when a man and woman agree to be together as one. ( All them modern church weddn and all na just today it start). In other words Oprah is married to that dude she is living with. If she has no womb den that's okay.
Some of us who are not married, may still get married while some may not. Truth is some make themselves believe they don't want a man but they crave it.
The rev sisters and those who have dedicated their body to the Lord are the ones permitted not to recreate. Not forgetting those who don't end up getting married.
As for success that truly is depending on d individual
Let him who is without sin throw d first stone. Judge not that ye may not be judged!
I was wondering why there were so many comments at this JJ's issue lol
Who is Sleek btw? I personnaly don't think it is someone HAPPILY married.
Sleek just expressed HIS or HER opinion nothing more which is actually what everyone else is doing on LIB
you always see or judge people by your own values or standards
he or she is entitled to his opinion and so am I
That said given my own idea of a perfect life I'll feel incomplete if at the end I am not married or have not been married at least once and don't have any children regardless of whatever success I might have achieved elsewhere.
I'm looking for true love and I'm starting to think it barely lasts I can understand those who eventually get a divorce. It's not about staying together at all costs, quality should matter more according to me.
dear sleek,
marriage is a beautiful union when married to the right person and for the right reasons.
it is not a do or die affair my dear. did you spare a thought for those women for whom biologically, it's impossible to bear children? those who have paraded hospitals and churches and done everything humanly possible to no avail? are they failures as well,
how about women or men for that matter in abusive relationships to the point that the abuse has started to take its toll on the children, so the best way forward, for sanity, stability and longetivity of life, its best to part ways, are they failures as well?
its a shame that a woman, in this time and age, can be so unintelligent, judgemental and myopic in her opinions and ststements without looking at the overall picture.
it pains me cause its obvious your yardstick for measuring success is directly related to your low self esteem.
its obvious now that common sense really isnt common, otherwise, you wouldnt come and display your ignorance on nigerians most popular blog.
linda, please next time, dont waste your readers times on mediocrity.
uuuuu r sooo stop!!!! how dear u call oprah a failure just because she chooses not to have kids.SO i guess ur unmarried self in ur 30's linda is a failure then!!! how shallow and backward mentality, people like u make people desperate marry the wrong person, just so they dont critised by u idiots even tho they were probable quite happy single!!!! again u need more exposure
When society forces people to marry, this is what YOU GET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A mother asking her kids to give her oral sex is better than happy, single women abi?
http://atilola.blogspot.co.uk/2011/09/mummy-likes-mine-best.html
In the xtian world, any woman who WORSHIPS a man is going to HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
everyone is entitled to their opinion. sleek made his/hers. make urs or get on to the next gist n stop cursing..
that awkward moment wen sleek cant comment on an LIB blog post...lol
I see some of you here always tell
people to leave their marriages why?is it because you want them to be like you?i over heard a little girl of 12yrs saying she doesnt want to marry because she wants to be like Rita dominic and genevieve nnaji and i was like whattt!!!! you see ,this is because of people like you who praise old single women in our society and encourage them more. we have alot of carrier women that we have to copy the likes of joke silva,omotola,betty irabor to mention a few,are you saying they are not carrier women too? you cant ever be like some of the americans you guys copy,we have a culture and we know what we africans (nigerians) stands for,we are not use to enlarging our breasts,ass and surgeries. we are beautiful and must go angainst those fake things that are not part of our culture. You have to kill that
mentality of MARRIAGE IS NOT BY FORCE bacause it makes some of you marry with the intention of quitting easily because you think when you do people will say YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST,hey its a lie. For some of you who said they wanted to adopt,let me ask WHOSE CHILD DO YOU WANT TO ADOPT WHEN YOU DONT LIKE HAVING BABIES? many of you fail to realize that the greatest carrier anyone can have is his or her HOME and the greatest asset anyone can have are your kids and immidate family and not your bently ,raw cash or mansion, its because you think you are too sexy and you dont want your kids to make your body fall? you are scared of marriage because you dont want to be under any man like cooking and being talked to on certain things?you prefer to be single or single parent for ever so you can go to events and mess around without no control? or you feel if you have a man
you will not club and dance stupidly after much highness?i see how you guys praise some of this so called celebs when they go to events and pose naked and yet you call them ROLE MODELS? you people think that is what life is all about? i know of some teenagers who see these people as role models and want to copy them,i must confess i feel sorry because nobody is telling these teenagers the truth. its so annoying that what most of our women think of now is cars,houses and party and refuse to build a home,when you talk they will say marriage is not by force and they will start giving stupid examples of people who are single parents and single forever.give it a try and stop avoiding it,dont spoil people's mind towards it because you are scared,dont preach separation to married ones,because most of you who claim to be better single than married end up sleeping with married men and destroying their homes,you claim you dont need a man yet you date married
men,you claim you dont have time for marriage because of your carrier yet some of you are in a relationship taking in and aborting,engaging in lesbiansm and some runs stuff,is it better than MARRIAGE? if you think you are a carrier woman that people will understand or that you are too big to be under a man then you must be kidding because the western believe you try to copy is never part of african culture. for the guy who talked about Oprah sacking her staff i must tell you thank you,they think she did all that in SA for charity purpose,she is a business woman and she want returns if not she would nt have done it period,Nigerians must understand that we are not going to trade our culture for anything,if you like change your name from Ngozi to Stephnie,Adaeze to juliet,Kemisola to jennifer,the point is, that will not change the fact that you are who you
are. i know all you want to hear is always sweet talks but whenever you hear the truth you become furious, you can be in US,Europe or Asia it doesnt change where you originally come from ,after all we are use to loving family but americans the WHITES AND THE SO CALLED AKATAS ( AFRICAN AMERICANS)dont give a damn about their family as compare to we africans. i have met couple of AKATAS who wish they had the kind of love we have for relatives .
ALL OF YOU USING INSULTING WORDS ON SLEEK HERE SHOULD ALL SHUT YOUR TRAP!!
AS FOR THE GIRL WHO SAID SHE AND HER FIANCE DIDN'T WANT KIDS, SHE MUST BE REALLY DUMB!! MOST MEN WANT KIDS, SO DON'T LET HIM FOOL YOU BESIDES IF YOUR PARENTS DIDN'T WANT KIDS NONE OF YOU WOULD HAVE EXISTED IN THE FIRST PLACE.
YE AH THEY HAVE MONEY AND ALL, BUT DO ANY OF THESE WOMEN STRIKE YOU AS HAPPY FIGURES. LOOK BEHIND THE FORCED SMILE, THEY'RE ALL LIVING FAKE LIVES, IT'S A NOSE JOB HERE, A BOOB JOB THERE, LIPOSUCTION, AND COUNTLESS PLASTIC SURGERIES. MORE LIKE OLD CARGOS TO ME, WAY PAST THEIR PRIME. -OWEN
@ Frenchie,Kemi,Bloglord,Sukanmi and the rest of you thank you for being able to know that people are entile to their opinions not like these lame forumites here ranting and cursing. My comment hurts only if you fit into the category and know it's the fact if not you would have read it and move . Truth be told pls n stop feeling on top when you are not. Some said adopt whose child do u want to adopt? Someone said she n her man agreed to marry n won't have kids lol, you think people will clap for you? Why copy Americans n Europeans? It's very selfish of u to say u want to marry n won't give birth. It's an evil talk pls. Our Nigeria culture we must promote not Americans . We have culture that is our pride anywhere we go so we must not trade it for anything. Wake up you young women n men feeling on top practicing homosexuality n lesbianism bcos u feel marriage n kidissue nt neccessary . Go n rethink I must say to you
Sleek u hv won ... U hot ur self a post by u stupid comments... Hope u had ur real name n a Foto up too ... At least that may ur raise to fame
If u like go to the moon and get all the first and zero class,get a life and stop feeling cool with all that. Don't come here to tell us how much you have read or gone,you can't stay in husband house from your statement . It's a waste to acquire all you just mentioned without a man period that's part of what sleek was trying to tell you girls who think you can't be under a man because of ur yeye degree
Stop consoling yourself with that lol,what about those who do?why don't you emulate then rather than copying the woman who didnt clean diaper .
If they can't be parents bcos they do all that are you saying it's good?are u scared you will send your kids to prostitute that's why u are single still ?
Thank you,pls tell them again,there is nothing wrong with what sleek said. Stop living a fake life and be real
Good reasoning,simple comment like this is what I like to see not cursing, thank you boo
From ur comment shows you can't be a wife and people like u support divorce and break marriages so u could have mates,why generalize men?donook know if sleek is a man or woman ?abeg go sitdown one corner
This is so true, Nigerians we like copy copy . We don't like our own that's is true. We have to learn to appreciate what we stand for as Africans not Americans . Well said My brother
Mr sleek, soooo Jesus that didnt marry nko, he died a failure or.... I dont understand your point....
Sleek and the other sleekites, hope you all obtained permission from your husbands to log on to LIB to spew the drivel that does nothing but confirm the pathetic, valueless and utterly despondent state of existence you lot call your lives.
On second thought, may be that's a bit harsh seeing as you lot really are the victims here. yes, victims of socio-cultural and religious brainwashing that has left you lot with absolutely no sense of self-worth.
Life must really suck for you guys.
uhmmm.... i have been reading alot of srs comments here...but b4 i say anything i would say plssss stop d cursing and insults pls it just goes 2show how immature and weak some of you are. Back to the topic of discussion, i dnt understand wot the problem is here...som1 spoke his/her mind n u pple want to chop d head off na wa o. Listen every individual is entitled to his/her opinion. if sleek sees a gud family life to mean success to he/she den leave he/she to it..really no need 4d bickering,ranting and insults. But u kno its jst very sad how alot of us perceive marriage dis dayz n i must say its very sad. The same way we all cite bad marriages cant we also cite good examples? When Omotola celebrated her wedding anniversary alot of you praised her and wished her well. What makes u tink she hasnt had her bad dayz? but yet she stayed and alot of pple praised her n im sure even pple here insulting sleek would have also praised her. What of the likes of Bimbo Odukoya? I have noticed that Nigerians so much like to stick to bad stories dan the good ones. If u belive in marriage fine go for it and make the best of it also havinf it @ d back of ur mind that it wnt be rosy all through...if u feel otherwise its ok to feel so but pls dnt come n poison pple's mind. Im sure some of us here have parents who hvve been married 4@ least 20yrs + u may nid 2ask ur moms how it has been. Also of us come and and misinterprete the Bible just to suit dia desires...d same Paul in d Bible advised that if u cannot stay single that y shd marry...Yes marriage is ordained by God and only He has the manual to a successful marriage. Maybe wen we ladies begin to marry for the right reasons maybe we will begin to see light and not darkness weneva we talk abt marriage. yes there are some stories that r really pathetic wen we hear them esp wen the woman seem not be have done wrong but y not leave all that in the hand of the greatest Judge (God). If u listen to some ladies wen dey talk abt what dey want in a man walahi u will weep 4dem. Even God did not promise us a stress free world but he did promise that we will overcome. So to every Nigerian who has read or commented on Linda's blog lets keep it civilised and mature wen we make comments as dia is no need being insultive. We may not see you but it sure tells the kind of person u are. Life is a bed of roses and dnt expect it to be one...My 2cents tnk u Linda
Lol as in who ever that said Sleek is dead has lied, cos sleek has raisen along with Christ on Easter day, and has come to redefined his comment so get a life and go have children. Lol . For those who say Janet Jackson got married to Jermain Dupri, I laugh at u, they only dated , and he wanted a child, she could not give so he got a stripper pregnant ouch!!! Oprah never married Steadman, NEVER! Stop talking and comparing your selves to Americans, Americans don't want to be like anyone but themselves that's what makes them different, and it may surprise u to know that u are better than them, they don't love cos they have never been love unconditionally so stop trying to be like them. Abuse or not, all fingers are not equal, learn to love in totality, give that young man who is trying to love u a chance, if he can afford a little support him instead of turning him into an arm robber cos you want big things, and you that man, support ur woman and make her feel beautiful and special. And stop comparing her to Genevieve & Omotola& Tiwa, support her when she's weak, talk more and love more. Seek yeah First, the kingdom of God, and every other thing will be added unto u,( the emphasis are on Seek, God, everything ) with no sorrow. God bless you all. Amen.
the person that wrote this is a total failure, he/she doesn't think widely. in fact he/she is entitle to her opinion
Enough of the insults,why stress yourselves if you are nt trouble and pricked by what sleek said? Let him or her be ,opinions are meant to be made.
Wow this sleek has spoken and said the minds of many who are not bold enough to speak it the way it is, I bet sleek had made alot of women go retrace their steps and maybe even will make some go reconcile with their men lol. I am a women if I wasn't married I bet I would have worked towards it bcos truth is single for ever is lonely and boring. I was 34yrs when I decided to settle down bcos of worldly things of life,I didn't see the other side of life until my pastor criticized me,at first I hated the pastor thinking he was not making me have fun but now I know I was on the wrong track with my then friends. Well everybody has his or her life to live but atleast people still need to say the truth no matter what. Thank you
@ sleek washeri,we need to see who this sleek his abeg,maybholder she should even have a Blog of his or her own because this kind of person will pull followers even more than Linda,have you got a Facebook or a blog?no doubt it will be interesting and fun on your page if you had any bcos I see you are bold and no nonsense person lol
I hate when people come here and act Like children,what is wrong with what sleek beleives in if actually you think life is a choice. He made his comment about what he feels,if you don't agree it's as simple as saying it without insults and you don't expect some of us to agree to your own life style too . Grow up people,learn to comment maturely without curse . I can say I agree or not but don't need to fight anyone over comments. You guys wanted him to sweet talk on posts to make you feel good? You want people to always paints topics white to make you happy? Hell no,he said it and let him be for Christ sake and stop quoting bible pages to make urself feel fine,enough said.
OHH LINDA,I WANT O READ.
WHO IS THIS IDIOT!!!, YOU DO NOT HAVE AN OPEN MIND DEAR AND LACK OF EXPOSURE DEY WORRY YOU
LESSON 1:LIFE AS WE KNOW IT IS ABOUT CHOICE,THAT IS WHAT THEY HAVE CHOSEN TO DO,ITS THEIR DECISION YOU HAVE TO RESPECT IT.
LESSON 2:WHAT IS YOUR GODDAMN BUSINESS .
ITS VERY ANNOYING TO HAVE PEOPLE LIKE YOU AROUND A FAMILY THAT CAN HAVE CHILDREN.
Susan said...
If they can't be parents bcos they do all that are you saying it's good?are u scared you will send your kids to prostitute that's why u are single still ?
What reasoning skill do you want to pass on to your symbol of success?
The person meant that if a mother is bad, does it mean that she is better than the good single woman or any single woman for that matter?
what a total loser am sure his marriage is upside down hence his hatred for successful single women which would not lead him any where.... women would contine to be successful with out without a man and children get that into your thick skull.
I am a successful single woman and i am happy at that even though i am now approaching 40+ without kids or a husband but i have achieved all what i set out to achieve in my life without the aid of a MAN so sleek go hug a transofrmer if successful women iritate or offend you silly thing you loser go and hid in a box mschew!!!
I really did not want to make a comment on this but I just couldn't resist; first this guy is a complete idiot and second, he is totally ignorant and not sure of what he is saying. He doesn't have a clue who Oprah is neither does he know what and where these people have been, the trials and pain they have endured. He also has limited knowledge of the personal lives of these people. Just for mention sake; Oprah was abused as a young girl and somehow lost her internal reproductive organs and as such cannot have kids. I hope this ass hole feel good about himself now he has been schooled??? fool!
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