Dear LIB men, what would you do if your wife sent a stinker to your mum
From a male LIB reader
A few days ago, my new wife sent a stinker text message to my mum asking her to butt out of our marriage. I can't go into details as to what brought about this situation but I wanted to find out from other men how they would react if their wives sent an insulting text message to their mum. I haven't spoken to or eaten her food since my mum forwarded the text to me. I haven't even discussed it with her but she knows I know. I love my mum to death and the thought of someone, especially my wife, sending her a belittling text makes me so mad. What should I do?
I am a mother of three boys who are about to get married, but I also have a daughter who is married and happy with three wonderful grandchildren. We "butt off" their matters hence there is no insulting text messages, we will do same for the boys. Please beg your mother and ask her to see your wife as a "naughty daughter" she cannot disown, tell your wife to see your mother as a mother she cannot disown no matter the disagreement and ask her to say sorry to your mother. But make sure you don't take side so that you can be happy. I know you love your mum but you also have a wife now take care of the two women in your life. God bless your marriage.
Calm Down... I know how hurt and painful it is for you right now, but there's no need carrying around like this. Firstly,apologise to your mum. Secondly, talk to your wife about it, tell her you don't appreciate the way she insulted your mum and that she should have come to you, so that u both get it sorted out... Thirdly, ask her to apologise to your mum and ask for her forgiveness. Then lastly, talk to your mum so as to avoid what will lead to another or further insults from your wife.
Well you haven't provided any information for a proper advice. Notwithstanding I would assume your wife has a serious problem with whatever situation led to her sending the stinker. So my advice would be you deal with that very issue,then address your wife and mother. Try not to be bias when you handling the issue with your wife.
If u love ur moda to death, y didnt u get married to her? No mata d amount of luv u have for ur mum try to let her understand dat u are now a married man so she shld give u some freedom and must nt interfer in every affairs in ur family.
You and your wife are obviously immature. Your wife because a stinker text does not solve problems. And you because you put your mother before your wife. You are a husband plz behave like one.
u signed for better for worst with ur wife n till death do u path so go mek peace with ur wife and teach her to respect ur mum. mek her knw dat without d womqn d just belittled,dia wont b such a gentleman lyk u to marry.
Not fair for your wife to do that, but would you be angry if your mum did that to your wife? I think you have every right to be angry cos your wife would also be angry if you did that to her mother. It is unacceptable. But it will also be nice for men to defend their wife when in-laws pick on them too. Civility and respect is priceless.
First of all m'y wife wear not. But if she does i would sit her down and give her the hardest talk she has ever heard in her life. The i would respectfully call her parents and tell them what happend before we all have a meeting and she apologises on her knees in front of both parties and promise That it would Never ever hapen again.
First of all mister ur your write up, is annoying and selfish. First of all if u wanted our honest opinion then u shld av been man enough to tell us what happened. You love your mother to death? Why don't you love your wife to dead? You are a selfish man. You just want to put your wife on the troll. What did your mother do to warrant that text? Does your mum interfere in your marriage too much?what pain has she cause your wife? Have you bothered to fine out why your wifeis so bitter? You are only worried of ur mum why not ur wife? Only God knows y ur wife did that. Talk to her first before judging her. And if you support ur mum all the time, then u will end up losing ur own home. Your mum has enjoyed her home with her husband and still wants to enjoy urs wise up.cinderella kaduna state.
Hey Bro i feel you, been there before though not a stinker text, practical thing to do is discuss with Wify, let her understand she crossed the line morally, even in the Bible & Koran. Based on this Shes got to apologize to your Mum and promise her there will be no repeat as she would have done to her Mum. If she refuses, then you take it up as best suits your marriage including involving her Parents. She must apologize, no negotiating about that, afterwards love your Wify and forget it ever happened. Based on Laws of retaliation, i strongly suggest you don't start at her level, eat her food, take her out, make sweet love to her and then pass your message in the best way possible but don't miss the message; THIS CAN NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.
Beat her up and throw her out of that house. What gave her the effrontery to insult your mother. Today it your mother she insulted, the next time it would be you. Give her the beating of her life, nonsense.
Most problem sum pipo hv in ds kinna situation is nt being able to undastnd d position and importance the two women occupy n hw to handle problems btwn dem. MUMS r our bedrock and dey med us who we r so dey appear first in our lives bt wifes r our future n our body n soul. Mr poster,blog ll nt give u all d answers u seek bt GOD will.
Hey Bro i feel you, been there before though not a stinker text, practical thing to do is discuss with Wify, let her understand she crossed the line morally, even in the Bible & Koran. Based on this Shes got to apologize to your Mum and promise her there will be no repeat as she would have done to her Mum. If she refuses, then you take it up as best suits your marriage including involving her Parents. She must apologize, no negotiating about that, afterwards love your Wify and forget it ever happened. Based on Laws of retaliation, i strongly suggest you don't start at her level, eat her food, take her out, make sweet love to her and then pass your message in the best way possible but don't miss the message; THIS CAN NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.
Not eating her food? what did the poor food do to you? Send her packing back to her parents home till she learns some manners. If she refuses to learn then she can remain there for good!
We are reading one side of the story. Tell us whaat happened. It is wrong for her to insult ur mum (dats if she did). You are supposed to protect your wife from ur mum. Maybe u did not do dat. That's why she took matters into her hands. Your mum should butt out of ur marriage. She should be ur mum and not tell Anoda woman how to run her home. I've been married for 10yrs and my n I put our families in dia places and handle our own issues. I take his part no matter what against my family and he does same for me. Not eating and talking is aa highway to divorce n ur mum becoming ur wife. Get to 2 d root of the matter and talk to ur wife.
Oga I think we need to know what your mum did to warrant the nonsense. You love your mum to death dosnt mean that you should overlook her silly acts. Be a man and discuss with your wife, clear things up, who knows what she may have swallowed from your mum. All the same give her a stern warning not to do it again but also judge wisely and rightly too.
BTW Linda you need to be claping for me, lol, cos e be lyk say na ds june make am 6years i dey read ya blog, hehehe
Oga I think we need to know what your mum did to warrant the nonsense. You love your mum to death dosnt mean that you should overlook her silly acts. Be a man and discuss with your wife, clear things up, who knows what she may have swallowed from your mum. All the same give her a stern warning not to do it again but also judge wisely and rightly too.
BTW Linda you need to be claping for me, lol, cos e be lyk say na ds june make am 6years i dey read ya blog, hehehe
Its not nice and disrespectful. However you should also learn to keep your home as a man and let your mum know that this is your family now... For a man shall leave his mother and father and cling to his wife. She must apologize to your mum but u really need to let your mum off her hands from your marriage if you don't want your mum as a wife at the end of the day.
Well in the nicest of ways tell your mom not to be upset. She sef should butt out and mind her business. Chai all this young girls of nowadays are so bold! Who dash us that kin liver. Mrs O
First of all mister ur your write up, is annoying and selfish. First of all if u wanted our honest opinion then u shld av been man enough to tell us what happened. You love your mother to death? Why don't you love your wife to dead? You are a selfish man. You just want to put your wife on the troll. What did your mother do to warrant that text? Does your mum interfere in your marriage too much?what pain has she cause your wife? Have you bothered to fine out why your wifeis so bitter? You are only worried of ur mum why not ur wife? Only God knows y ur wife did that. Talk to her first before judging her. And if you support ur mum all the time, then u will end up losing ur own home. Your mum has enjoyed her home with her husband and still wants to enjoy urs wise up.cinderella kaduna state.
Teach her a lesson she will neva forget in a hurry, don't mean beating her up, just send her packing so she can come pleading with you so that nxt time she wouldn't dream of sure thing to repeat itself never never again.
for this course shall a man leave his mother and father and he shall be cleave to his wife and they both shall become one flesh. so the holy book says. If you check and try to analyse that scripture you would discover that a man must leave his parent before getting married, and the word "leave" means, you leave 90% of whatever influence,affection and every other thing. But according to you, you love your mother to death means you are not completely joined to your wife because a larger part of you is still with your mum rather than your wife and ii'm sure you are willing to punish your wife for this deed of hers. My question is, why would you punish your wife for your mother? My advice is, call your wife for a heart talk or chat, ask to know if she has reasons for sending such text to your mum. If you discover those reasons to be largely self-centered, then caution her with love and apologize to your mother on her behalf and carefully make her do same. but do not make your wife vulnerable to your mum because doing that will only means you're not in control of your home and you'll likely lose your wife's trust in you, then let other things follow carefully. But I think you need to give your wife some reassurance of your attention and time, she probably did what she did because she felt your mum is getting more of it than her.
Your failure to explain what led to the insultive text message won't earn you a fair opinion. It's obvious your mum did something to warrant such insult. Why are you hiding it? Protecting your mum(by failing to reveal her own role in the bruhaha) because you love her to death isn't being fair on your wife. Are you saying you don't love your wife to death? Or you suddenly flung the love you have 4 her our d Window cos she insulted your mum?
What kind of advice do you want? How to punish your wife? Please tell us what your precious mum did so that we can judge fairly.
Well as you have stopped eating/drinking your wife's food. Pls why don't you go and eat/drink your mother's food na and while at it also sleep with her. ODE. Silent treatment is never d answer talk to ur wife let her know what she did wrong and find out why she did it. At d end of d day she is ur wife it u and her till d end oh!!!
Everyone loves mums so much but in this case, this is your wife and the mother of your children, you should enquire or finds out why she sent the text to your mum before you take any action, refusing to talk to her or eat her food has no meaning because you will surely come back and do those things later on. please find out the issue that resulted her to send the text.
Sorry if wat I wl say wl hurt u but I hate it wen men allow mothers or fathers 2 interfer in der marriage. God wen he creatd woman say "by ds reason, man wl leave his mother $ father $ cleave 2 his wife $ dey wl bcom one." "U Luv ur mother 2 death." U must hv chosen her ovr ur wife. Did u try 2 find out what ur mother did 2 her dat made her say dat? Moreovr I dnt see anytn belittling wt "butt out of our marriage." Ur brain wud hv told u she was only teln her not 2 interfer in her marriage which I tnk is right if she has bn doing dat. Pls, ur marriage shud com first b4 ur mother. Rejectn her food $ not talkn 2 her too wtout really findn out wat d problem is $ d source of it is d most senseless $ stupid action I'v ever seen. I pray I dnt get married 2 Men like u who wl nvr leave der mummy's breast $ wrapper. I thank God 4 my Mum(RIP) who all her time on earth nvr evr 4 once interfered in her son's marriage. Infact she is always on d side of her daughter inlaw. I remember wen my bro accused his wife of adultery $ was complaining 2 d whole fmly $ said he wl divorce her. my mum who ddnt blv his story askd him if he too does not flirt wt women. He defended her daughter inlaw in d presence of her husband $ later called $ advice her secretly. No matter wat her daughter inlaw did 2 her, she had nvr complained 2 her husband. Grow up mama's boy. Ask what d problem is $ try 2 settle it. Unless ur mum is seperated frm ur dad; then I'll undrstnd she too want anothr woman 2 seperate frm her own husband. If not, then dnt let her com btwn u $ ur wife. Nobody came btwn her $ her own husband. If she stayed wt her husband tl now, wt a son as old as u, then she shud allow u stay wt ur own wife $ hv a son ur age too. Nxt time, dnt com here 2 tel us u luv ur mother 2 death thereby choosn her over ur wife. Am a woman $ senseless post like ds gets me mad. Gudluck in ur marriage
We have to know the details. Did your mum deserve it? Was she meddling in your marriage? If yes, get mad at both of them and caution them. Take charge like you are supposed to. If you did earlier, your wife may not have sent the stinker in the first place. However, if your mother wasn't overly meddling in your marriage and your new wife sent the stinker...then, my brother, you are in trouble. They say the Devil leaves you alone if you marry the wrong wife because you are already in hell. Well, still take charge. Advice your mum to forgive her as you are handling it. To your wife, don't eat her food or bed her if you like but in the strongest terms communicate to her your opinion ASAP. Warn her strictly. Then go into prayer. You need that more than you need food or sex.
A man shall leave his mother and father and join with his wife and they shall become ONE...my fellow man tell your mother to stay away from your young marriage unless you are heading to have a broken marriage, and even if you marry another it would be worse let your mother not put asunder what God has joined. As for you mr man you are a mamas boy and i feel sorry for the young woman you married. You refused her food because of your mother that had lived her life. Majority of divorce cases are caused by very intruding parents and a husband that is a coward who cant stand up to his parents, watch it! Your marriage would soon be a statistic if you are not careful.do the world a favour divorce that poor woman and marry your mother.. Rubbish.
It's not proper but truth be told.....some mother inlaws are so annoying and like pucknosing into their children's marriage, and why haven't you discussed it with your wife or is no longer your wife? Communication matters alot in an ordinary relationship not to talk about marriage and for the fact that you love your mom so much it will make you not find fault in what ever she does, you better talk to both of them about it and make your wife to apologise to your mom, also make your mom to stop invading in your marriage else your marriage will just crash without a reason.that's all I have to say.
Tell your mum to leave your marriage alone, don't involve her in your marital affairs. It's not right,she has been hurt that's why she sent her the message. She didn't just wake up and sent her the message, you have been involving your mum in your issues. Learn to pray to GOD and don't come here to receive negative comment that will ruin your marriage and if you love her so much,you can as well be sleeping with her. Some men ehh tufiakwa!
You're silly mr man. Why dnt u marry your mother then. Tell us the genesis of the story coz I know some mums r wicked. She probably has been holding back a lot
I don't support wives out rightly insulting their mother in-laws, they can talk to them with wisdom. At the same time not giving the complete picture is not fair on your part. You don't allow people to pass judgment on just hearing one side of the story. Besides, mothers should back off their children's marriage. They should give their children space to get to find their feet and learn from their mistakes. These are two people from different home, culture and upbringing. They need to learn on their own how to sustain their union. Unless invited, in-laws should back off. Mothers should know when their kids get married, their first priority is to the spouse, then kids before the extended family. You may have used strong words on your mom which is not acceptable but your mom need to back off and allow you get married or she should marry you herself. She has forwarded the text your wife sent to you, do you know things she may have verbally said to your wife that made your wife go that extend? Put yourself in her shoes, will you tolerate her mother interfering in your married, even coming to you to say unspeakable things? My dear, be a man, call your mom, your wife and an elderly man that is not related to both of you and discuss it with them. Make sure each party knows where to draw the line. Tell your wife, you won't allow her insult your mom, and she should cone to you when there's any issue with your mom. Tell your mom to allow your wife be and that your wife cones first that's doesn't mean it will affect your relationship, only some slight changes. When you say you love your mom, you've invariably told us your mom comes first before your wife. You never say I love my wife but I love my mom. So why would you be rational even if your mom is to blame? My dear, your mom is married and enjoying a no interference from anybody why wouldn't she accord her daughter in-law same. Don't forget you have sisters. Don't let their husbands do the same to them. He who shakes a tree, shakes himself.
I feel sad for you bro...but honestly, if I were to be in ur shoes I would not take any sides. I would scold/cajole each of them as the case may require then not speak to nor eat the wifey's food until they both resolve their differences. Mothers are irreplaceable and can be irritant at times but the wife must if not love, respect her just as you would respect her mother. Abi, will she insult her mother that way? If yes then homie you married the devil incarnate. If not then, she should make peace at least for the sake of your happiness. I mean, the woman raised you and is the reason she has you as her husband.
Hey! Have you forgotten your vows? You're no more twain but one? You didn't marry your mum, just talk to your wife, explain she has to respect your mum, but your mum doesn't in any way take preeminence. You love your mum to death; what about your wife? You're supposed to love your wife more.
What should you do? Not much. Let them settle themselves and find their own levels. In my case I reminded my mum how in the distant past she found it difficult to accommodate my dad's kith and kin and too frequently told them off to their faces.
I am a woman and any woman that disrespect ur mom no matter how bad she is sint suppose to be called a woman or a wife in the first place, ,no matter what she needs to respect ur mom and u as the husband needs to know the diff btw ur wife and ur mom,the roles they play in ur life and vic versa, ,,,if ur moma is doing wat she doesn't like which u as the husband will definitely be aware of,,talk to ur mom politely....know that ur mom is ur mom and not ur wife and ur wife should know that she too will be someone's mother in law someday and u know the earth always turn it's axis
This "my wife" thing is exaggerated. I was hanging out with some guys when one of them brought up the issue of who was more precious to a man -his wife or mum. I consider it an affront for anyone to ask me such bullshit! No woman dead or alive can compare to my mum! All women combined can NEVER compare to my mum! That being said, any woman that as much as passes a negative comment on my mum, wife or no wife, losses whatever relationship she has with me. I don't know why we men tend to lose our senses because of Corinpus.
ur wife is definetly upset that your mum wont get some business of her own to mind. Clearly she sent it out of anger. she was wrong and shouldn't have been rude, but as a man, it is your place to put your foot down and tell your mum not to mind your personal family business. you dint and so your wife had to help you. sort it out and get back to good standing with your wife....no one even a mother should put asunder...if u don't eat ,ul eventually get tired of them childish ways so deal with it asap. and be loving when u address the issue. and u both can go in love to apologise to ur sweet overbearing moma...if that is the case
If u were man enough and told ur mum to stay out of ur marriage ur wife wouldn't have sent her any message, did ur maternal grandmother butt into ur mum's marriage? Ur wife was wrong to have insulted ur mum no matter the circumstances but am sure she has been complaining u refused to do anything about it. U are obviously a mama's boy cos u started by saying its not relevant wat transpired between them. A man shall leave his home n cleave to his wife! Have a talk with ur wife demand she apologizes to ur mum on her knees and politely ask ur mum to butt out of ur marriage and start eating ur wives food if not hunger go kill u and ur pocket go hear am!
oga sorry o, but what did ur mum do or what has she been doing to ur wife? most times, men know how difficult their mum is and how much she provokes their wife, but them keep quiet only for them to start making noise when the woman decides to fight for herself. men should learn to protect their wives from family abuse, else u may not like ur wife's approach when she gets fed up.
True! Sometimes our parents over-interfere in children's marriages, but if your wife finds no sanity in her manners and as such goes so far as to send such message to your mother, then be sure that it's either yourself or your father that's gonna receive such treat next. God forbid oh! But if I were in your shoes, I'll delete her status as a wife from my life, and hence all its entitlements until she finds my mother's favor in which case both herself (now my ex-) and my mother would come begging me.
While I dont support your wife's actions in anyway, you need to ask your mum what she did or said to your wife to warrant the belittling text message. There is usually no smoke without fire.
Marriage is between two people, not even the children should course problem in the marriage. If your wife asked you to tell your mum to keep out of you marriage would you have done it? Am sure you knew there are issues with your mum and wife; maybe you never did nothing about it. I don't encourage a spouse being rude to the others parent but when you chose to marry your wife or husband comes first, And if anyone here tells you to maltreat your wife they won't give you theirs, nor live in your house with you to join in your battle. So I advice you to sit your wife down and talk about the text, what went wrong, why she did it, most importantly what a third party( family, friends etc) will have access to in your marriage.
Dude u need to support your wife. If your mum put her in a condition that she had no choice to result to a disrespecting sms, then it's your fault you probably did not pay attention to here concerns
Tell us the situation between u & ur wife. Bcos we can't make a any clear solution to ur problem... I can tell ur mum is a real b**** to your wife. & ur wife as had enough & u are a mama's boy too much... if u like divorce ur wife & marry ur mama since u won't eat ur wife's food again...
Tell us the situation between u & ur wife. Bcos we can't make a any clear solution to ur problem... I can tell ur mum is a real b**** to your wife. & ur wife as had enough & u are a mama's boy too much... if u like divorce ur wife & marry ur mama since u won't eat ur wife's food again...
It simply means your wife is unhappy about something ... perhaps your mum is interfering in your marriage a lil bit too much. That should be checked.
Its ok to love your mother, most people love and cherish their mothers but that does not mean you should take to only your mum's side without sitting your wife down to understand reasons for her actions.
Perhaps you haven't been listening to your wife or taking note of some signs she gives you regarding your mum which is why she had to act by herself.
Though her approach may be wrong, not eating her food or speaking with her will not help your marriage, neither will it correct any wrong.
As the man of the house, sit your wife down, have a quiet and respectable chat with her, understand reason for her action, make her see reasons why she was wrong with the way she acted and ensure your mum and her are at peace with each other again.
Just like you love and respect your mother, your wife and mother of your future kids deserves same affection and respect...Best wishes!
Ermm you are a grown man, who knows the problems in your marriange enough for your wife to send a text to your mother. It did not come out of the blue. Before you start huffing and puffing check yourself first
Emmm u are not giving us the full story. What did ur mother do/say and what did ur wife do/say in return? U just cant be giving us.half-baked tales and expect a full scale advise from people. Take brush and start painting the whole.picture.
If Ur mom wasn't into Ur marriage probably Ur wife won't have sent her the message. Mother in-laws should learn to respect their kids marriages. I'm saying this out of experience, tho I won't send my mother in-law a stinker but not all women are the same. For God's sake she has enjoyed her own marriage, let the girl enjoy hers too, is that too hard to ask?
Your wife lacks good home training. Would she send similar sms to her mother. You just have to put your foot down and warn her seriously. If she refuses to change then send similar sms to her dad or mum if they are still alive.
A man shall leave his mother and father; and cling to his wife. Please stop being a bratty spoilt mummy's boy. Yes! Love your mum but knw wen to draw a line.
Sometimes mothers become over protected of their sons and do not know where/when to draw the line and it pissed ladies off, but the ladies/wives should know how to control their emotions if they hope to live in peace in that house. I advice you talk to your wife, asking her the reason behind the text, scold her if necessary and then talk to your mum, apologise to her and make her see reasons why she should live in peace with your wife. Don't let her hate your wife cos your house is in trouble if she does. God bless you
1. Think we need to knw what rly brought abt d text msg 2. She has no right to insult ur mum and I believe she shld have used wisdom to make ur mum stop interfering in ur marriage 3. I guess u ve read it in d holy book dt therefore a man shall leave his mother and father stick to his wife?ur wife is now ur mum ogbeni 4. So y did u got married if u luv ur mum to death? Uncle u shld luv ur wife unconditionally 5. Why dnt u call her and talk tins out instead of kipin to ursef, u wnt to destroy. D foundation of ur marriage?u are jst new in dis 6. Make her understand u won't tolerate her insults in d days ahead but do it lovingly and kip family away from ur union
My first time commenting here but this post rings a bell. Sorry about how you feel Man. Your wife went about it the wrong way but I am very sure it wont have gotten to that point if u had taken charge of your marriage or even limit outside interference. Please remember u nd ur wife is till death do u part. So talk to her, correct what is wrong and look out for her. She is ur priority man. Seriously. She will apologise to ur mum nd to u nd make amends to work on the relationship when she knows you are her strongest supporter. All d best
Ur wife means u as the bible will put it and let no human put asunder. If ur mum is a human, sorry to say that the same applies to her. Though u must caution ur wife as u would talk to urself when u know deep down that u have wronged someone.
No woman will ever disrespect my mother, " WTF" Bro there should be a thick gap btw ur mom n wife. ignore her totally n let her parents knw about this. aw wud she feel if u do that to her mom. she can't sow a thorns n expect to reap a flowers.
Olodo man. Why cant u say what ur mum did. All this mummys boys spilling all over the place. And why does ur mum butt into your marital affairs. You are not a man. Check yourself caitlyn jenner!!!
Take it easy just try to sort things out with your wife. Secondly it doesn't give you the reason not to eat her food. You are not supposed to love your mom more than your wife. The two shall become one. Maybe you are the type that allows your mom control your marriage. And your wife wondnt take it any long play your role well as a husband and also as a son well.
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First of all, u av to say what ur mum did to make ur wife go that far, b4 we can advice u. Ur wife should be ur most priority not ur mum but d way u sounded, it's obvious u dont love ur wife enough, why do u marry her if u are still a mummy's boy, u should av married ur mum. Find out from ur wife what happened dt pushed her to d wall instead of coming here to rant. U should be ashamed of urself, can u hear urself? ' I haven't tasted her food since... bla bla bla. Instead of u to find out what happened n treat d case squarely without being so sentimental, u are here yabbing nonsense. Go back home, call ur wife n mum, face to face so dt de can air dia anger, den from what de say, be a man n not a mummy's boy, don't listen to any useless person here dt will tell u to do dis or dt to ur wife bc if it happens to dem, de won't do anytin. Only u can bring peace into ur home, but if u choose fire, it will burn u n ur mum, n ur wife n ur home. Ur choice, bc when u married ur wife, bible said u will leave ur father n mother n cling to ur wife alone, so she should be ur most priority n not d oda way around. From d day u married, ur wife becomes d first b4 anyone else, so fix ur home and stop ranting. Call ur wife privately first n ask her what made her do dt, don't be judgmental or possessive, ask her with love, n den call d both of dem again, and ask dem face to face, by doing dt, u will find d real truth n den treat it with outmost carefulness so dt u won't create an enemity btw ur wife or mum. Be wise. May God give u d wisdom to build ur home.
I am a married woman and i will never disrespect my in-laws. If i wear you i will divorce her if she doesn't apologise with all her family to my mum. What rubbish! She is a very bad wife and i doubt if you will enjoy that marriage.
obviously u didnt play your part right. u missed it somewhere. ur mother has her place and so does your wife. u said u love your mother which is fine as a matter of fact i love my mom to the moon and back. but did you draw the line from the word go? did you open the doors of your house to your mother to walk all over your marriage? i do not know your wife but for you to choose her above all others there must have bben something about her that made u want "forever" with her. so think about it and madam if u are reading u are a learner oo u sent a message? haba!there is a record already and it will always be referred to or talked about.
Obviously your mum has not been minding her business in your marriage. Love is a beautiful thing but can be destructive so please tell your mum to butt out and if you can’t advise you then to marry your "dear" mother.
Maybe you should understand that mama needs to butt out. For your wife to send her a message means she is crossing boundaries. If you want you can send your wife packing and go sit with mama or you man up and understand the root of the problem
All dis mummy boys getting married, not dat i support ur wife's text but u boys need to grow into men before marriage, since u could not tell ur mum respectfully to stay out of u marriage becos u r mummy's boy u angry wife had to do it for u, don't be too mad u should be grateful at so point.
Maybe you let your mum into your marriage so much,yes you love ur mum but u should know that ur wife is also human,if she sent a striker text to ur mum,she didn't just sent it out of d blues,something must have led to that!mr man pls make peace with ur wife and make her apologise to ur mum,I hope you're not the type that reports everything in ur marriage to ur mum too!if yes u need to put a stop to that!best wishes
She doing it all alone was wrong. No matter what, she shld hv brout it to ur knowledge. Don't tk it too far, trash d issue wit ur wife n 4give her okay!
For her to send that text and u now asking what to do its a proof that you can't control ur wife or maybe she is the heady type that don't really listen to u all the time. And the funny thing is that this traces you must have seen it while u were dating except u saw her yesterday and married her today. So to tell u what to do in this situation is a quick fix which will not solve the fundamental problem of her been a stubborn lady. The advice I have for u as a man is that you need to make her know how much u cherish you mum (just as I do) in a very strong term (again this is sth you should have made clear to her while dating). And also, u should let ur mum know her limit in ur marriage since that's what she is fighting about. The best way to do this is to talk to each of them separately and see how they can become friends. Am sometime jealous about the relationship btw my mum and wife cos they are best of friend and it make my home happy. And on a light note you can call the two together and tell them the GENERAL statement - I belong to everybody and I belong to nobody. But jokes apart now, u have to find a way of making the two be friends
If you are asking that question here, then you are not supposed to be married. Ur wife doesnt want ur mum involved but YOU want the entire "teenage" population in Nigeria involved. Your immaturity is incomprehensible abeg
Ur mom Shld have acted matured and elderly by not sending the text to u.shw knows by so doing she is causing trouble in your home.some mother in law sha,can deal abeg.she Shld have solve the issue with ur wife without informing u.n by acting up ur r already giving her ground in your marriage, talk to ur wife n resolve issue.with her
Without the details how do we know what brought about this. If your mum is over stepping her boundary by poke nosing in your marriage, then she deserves the stinker. Cant deal with all these over bearing parents in laws abeg.
I believe your wife should show your mum respect no matter what, however you need to tell us what happened cause sometimes mother in law can be troublesome....
This is a very delicate matter do not take sides, eat your wives food you need both your mum and your wife. The Bible said that for a man shall live him father and mother and cling to his wife and two shall become one. It does not mean that your wife should be rude to your Mum. Both women are probably fighting for your affection the way you manage this will make a difference in your life/ I mean weather you have peace or war.
Divorce her naw. Isn't dat wht ur mother wants? Stupid mam's boy. Hw can u alow ur mum to meddle in ur marriage? Now ask urself by 4wardin d text to u, is ur mum an enemy or friend? Does she wish u hapines truly? D luv u had for u mum shd now b transfered to ur wife asshole! See ur mouth like I love my mum to death, why not jst get married too ur mum and fuck her anytime u like. Idiat! Why not giv us d full details, cos u knw by doin so d table wil turn against u. U knw d right tin to do, but ur fear of ur mum won't let u be a man. It's ur wife I blame sef
You are such a baby and not ready to be married. Your mum is probably someone you put before your wife and she is causing issues in your marriage. I doubt that you understand what marriage is all about? why didn't you marry your mum since you love her to death? You must be a last born, first son or only son. You aren't eating your new wife's food because she sent a stinker to your controlling and intruding mum. Ask your mum to stay away from your marriage. That's a good first start. Protect your wife from your mum and your family members. you sound like you have been driving your new wife crazy by loving your mum above her.Your wife may have over reacted and I'm not condoning her actions but you and your mum must have been frustrating her. have you ever heard about inlaws and outlaws?That's where your mum belongs. so grow up, speak with your wife and make up. your mum has lived her life and should mind her business by staying away from your marriage. your wife will definitely apologise but I hope your mum has gotten the message of minding her business. you should let her know this.
As a woman who is also married I believe d best thing to do is to confront her. Tell her without sparing emotions how u feel (don't insult her thou). She has to learn how to respect and accept ur mum as her own. Best explain to her dat if she loves u den she had better not make u chose between her and ur mum cos she won't like ur choice Make her come to u with any issues she has with ur mum.
Oga u too grow some liver and talk to ur mum joor. Stop putting ur wife in difficult situations by allowing ur mum get away with hurting her. Trust me she knows ur mum will show u dat text but she still sent it anyway dat means she was really hurt and she doesn't care if u hear about it or not. Maybe she even wants u to confront her so d matter will be handled once and for all
Pray to God to make ur wife as wise as a serpent. Its all about wisdom. They may not love each other but they can learn to tolerate each other.
But ur mum sef, why won't she stay out of ur marriage? Too many nosy and over bearing mothers in law out there! Are you a mummy's boy? Don't you have a mind of your own? Abegi, shift! Shift!
Dats very rude and un acceptable but u need to sit her down to findout wut led to her sending such a text message to your mum before u know wut next to do.Sirslim.
Tell your mum to fuck off! Your wife comes first! And you had better apologise to your wife for letting your mum butt in. And eat that food she cooked FAST!
Tell your mum to fuck off! Your wife comes first! And you had better apologise to your wife for letting your mum butt in. And eat that food she cooked FAST!
Discuss it with her and try to settle both of them. At least you have passed a message across that u dont like it by not eating her food. If she goes to church, report her to her pastor to counsel her
You're probably a mamas boy..tell your mom to stay off your marriage and tell your wife never to disrespect your mom ever again..that's what il do if I were you.bye
Find out what really happened before you judge her. Always listen to both sides and do your personal investigation before you act or react. However, even if u find out that your mum was wrong, it still doesnt give your wife the efontry to be rude to your mum
You obviously seems to love your mum more than your wife.That is a recipe for marital disaster.Your wife should be the closest person to you.your mother should butt out of your marriage if she is interfering.
To me, if you are rude to my mum, it shows that u lack home training and that is how you are rude to your parents too. If her parents ate responsible people, report her to her parents because she must have told her parents in a way that will favour her. So tell them the truth so that they can call her to order
My brother beat up Momsie over his wife o. Many guys don't really care what trash their wives give their Moms. I guess that is why the bible says "For this reason, a man shall leave his family and cleave..." They take the cleave thing to outrageous extents o.
Now what should you do, what you do now, will determine her attitude and actions to Momsie for the rest of her life o. Don't leave her but be very stern in reprimanding her, Make her understand that whatever she loves about you was put there by Momsie. Let her understand that without that woman, there might be no you and disregard for that woman is disregard for you. She will sit up and take notice. She won't do rubbish again too. After you are sure your point has sunk home, keep loving her and seize every opportunity to try and make her value Mom too. Encourage them to do things together and all that.
As for my brother, we warn am say if him try that rubbish again, we go get akpu obi boys to beat him and beat his wife thoroughly. The point of the akpu obi guys is to ensure merciless beating.
From experience brother all you need to do is to ask tell your wife what she did is wrong no matter what and take her to your mom to go and apologise and after she does that you yourself have beg your mom to forgive her because she's your wife and your mom is your mom,they are both important to you I guess,brother you need to connect your wife and mom together with love,bcos if one is not happy with another all the problem is on you I believe you know that?Both of them are your left and right hand and they are both important in our life as a man.
she shouldnt have done that ...but i am concernede she felt the need to do that. A proper husband needs to shield his wife from his mother but also shield his mother from his wife. A lot of men stay attached to thier mothers apron. i hope that is not the case with you
A few days ago, my new wife sent a stinker text message to my mum asking her to butt out of our marriage. I can't go into details as to what brought about this situation but I wanted to find out from other men how they would react if their wives sent an insulting text message to their mum. I haven't spoken to or eaten her food since my mum forwarded the text to me. I haven't even discussed it with her but she knows I know. I love my mum to death and the thought of someone, especially my wife, sending her a belittling text makes me so mad. What should I do? Be sincere. Like · Comment
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Bello Babatunde Vincent Am not married but I think before a wife can do that, it depends on where you place ya mum in the sight of ya wife. 3 hrs · Unlike · 6 Onimisi Gabriel Ahi Hmmmm marital issues. Any way call her and ve a heart to heart talk with her and ask her wat gave her the gut to send such message, ask her why the message, then before you know the next step of action. To me ONIMISI wen an issue dat hit me so hard com...See More 40 mins · Edited · Unlike · 6 Modupeola Victor y can't u first ask wat dey av done to each oda 1 hr · Like Zainab Bello Since u don't know what happened. I advice u ask her before any action. But am obedient and well train woman should never insult her mother in law no matter de situation. Dere are many ways to address an issue. 1 hr · Like Awateef Ajid Mohammed Find from your mum what transpired btw them for her to send such msg.then ask your wife too what makes her to send such msg to his mum.from there you ve a clue on how to judge.but for now keep calm and pray 1 hr · Like Fatima Omeiza Oyedeji I think i support what Mr onimisi just said , pls take it calm first, marital issues take wisdom and divine intervention. Ask her why she send such text to her .Only God knows what brought about that, a responsible wife must respect her mother in law ...See More 46 mins · Like · 1 Dorcas Beby proverb 19 .14 house and riches are the inheritance of fathers and a prodent wife is from the lord so ur mom shol no intefre in ur marriage an marriage is for 2 piple not for 3 32 mins · Like Onimisi Gabriel Ahi Wat some women dont understand in life is dat if u insult your motherinlaw the record will continue to be there, history will always ve it that u ve one time insult your mother inlaw even though u ve appolgize and it is forgiven, funny enough u can nev...See More 30 mins · Unlike · 1 Suleiman Mayaki Uthman Am still reading. 21 mins · Like Onimisi Gabriel Ahi @Dorcas so wat are trying to say now? dat in deed she has right to send such message to her mother inlaw without even letting her husband knows wats happening? Every respectful and good wife always get in touch with her husband in any issue that can ca...See More 12 mins · Edited · Like Suleiman Mayaki Uthman Am still reading. 10 mins · Like Dorcas Beby yes she has the rait to becoz som motherinlo dot lak there doteinlo an as a rsolt of that mainy marriag has ben distroid 7 mins · Like Zainab Bello Dorcas Beby u mean u can insult ur mother in law because she interfere in ur marriage. Pls sister think again. Dis is de reason why we have so many divorce in our community.. 2 mins · Unlike · 2 Onimisi Gabriel Ahi Then u are getting it wrong, but remember u will also be a motherinlaw and watever goes around must surely comes around bcos even if the mother inlaw is at fault, remember u also ve ur shotcomings too and dat doesnt give your son's wife the right to insult you hence she cant insult her own mother even as she is at fault, 2 mins · Unlike · 1 Suleiman Mayaki Uthman Interesting. I am still online. Just now · Like
Ur an ass, maybe u shld marry ur mom. If u can't understand ur wife and kids are ur main priority, then u are no man, father or hubby. We all know so many mothers have spoiled marriage. For christ sake ur destroying ur home.
We need to know what caused the rift between them to be able to advice you properly cos the honest truth is some mother-in-laws actually deserve such. If your mom is the home breaker type then she deserved it, if what happened didnt warrant such then its unfortunate. But i can't offer any advise unless i know what really happened.
Dere is no smoke without fire, meaning dere's a reason 4 her action. In as mch as ur wife expressed herself rudely, I fink u shud try n mk amends wif her, den sit her down n talk 2 her. I tell u, by refusing 2 speak 2 her nor eat her fud doesn't show maturity on ur part which will even worsen d whole situation dereby, creating a long term enmity btw ur mum n wif n dat will really affect u physically, psychologically n evri part f ur life. If u call her n ask her, mayb u're even d cause, gvng ur mum more attention dan her. Moreover, dat statement 'l love my mum to death' shows in ur actions against ur wife. D yam lies in ur hands, n d way u cut it dtrmns d peaceful n loving home u want. A real man does nt allow his feelings 4 his xtnded fmly affect his immediate fmly cos ur cmng 2geda wif ur wife is 2 build a peaceful n happy home. So, act wisely pls.
Firstly, for the fact that she knows that you know and she has said nothing.... you reacted and there is still no apology.... sorry, your wife is either the husband or she is too comfortable with your way of discipline. I think you should inform her family and make sure there is proper apology... if she doesn't apologize in your acceptable way... then that marriage was not meant to exist at first.....
am done with her,nobody insults my mum directly and get away with it . Mothers are over protective and any wife that doesn't know how to ignore and avoid a troublesome or over protective mum,i believe that must be part of the problems that lead to the insults i can't take it such from my wife
Marry your mum!!!! Hehehe! Jxt kidding. Technically its wrong but u need to talk to both of them differently; ask wifey to respect u n report any issues she z having with mum and mum stay out of your marriage and report issues she z concerned about to u. Man up n face your responsibilities
Marry your mum. It will be easier for your life. From all indications you can not handle your business that is why your wife had to send your mum a text message
Your wife went a bit too far? But the question is, has you mum bn meddling in yr marriage, if yes, then you need to call her to order. Find a good way to do do without hurting her feelings. She wants the best for you as a mum, only may not know how to go about it tactfully without appearing too meddlesome.
My bro, if you love your mum so much as to let her come into marriage, then simply divorce your wife and marry her. For your wife to send that message to your mum implies she is not having your attention like a wife should. Your mum is your mum n your wife is your wife, respect and love them equally, do not interchange their love. Otherwise you will experience what you are seeing now.
Resolve it like a man...find out what led to that.under no circumstance should ur wife send such text to ur mum so she needs to learn respect.a wife that doesn't respect her mother inlaw has no respect for her husband.having said that u need to find out what actually happened. Ur mum could have overstepped somehow, somewhere.
Call d two for a meeting....tell ur wife dat if she see anything bad about ur mum, let ha not tell u nd ur mum if she see anything bad about ur life let ha not tell u as well...if not wait nd see d crash of ur home
Call d two for a meeting....tell ur wife dat if she see anything bad about ur mum, let ha not tell u nd ur mum if she see anything bad about ur life let ha not tell u as well...if not wait nd see d crash of ur home
Call d two for a meeting....tell ur wife dat if she see anything bad about ur mum, let ha not tell u nd ur mum if she see anything bad about ur life let ha not tell u as well...if not wait nd see d crash of ur home
@poster... Let ur mama stay away from your marital life, becos if she was minding her elderly business nobody will insult her.plus some mother in-laws can bring out the devil in a pope bt still been rude to ur mother-in-law is very disrespectful
Hmmmm I dont want to break your heart but I have to say this. That's some wife you have. I will never do that or allow anyone close to me do that or accept it.
i think you pushed your wife to do such thing, listen to yourself you said you love your mom so much, dont get me wrong im not saying it a wrong thing to love ones mother but you are suppose to know where to draw the line between your mom and your marriage, take up the responsibility and fix this once. Dont forget women are jealous, correct me if im wrong. And i guess your wife is jealous that you are concentrating much of your time on your mom. You have to know how to balance it and once you fail in doing this then there would be problem.
Some men are babies honestly. Mummy's 'man'. Why don't u divorce your wife and run to your mum's apron. Have u even bothered to ask your wife why she sent that text to your mum knowing fully well how much you love Ur mum???
Ur wife is childish. Warn her never to do it again. Let her go on her knees and apologise to ur mom. Na small pickin dey worry am. She clearly has been listening to bad advice which many of us do at the begining of our marriages. So pls warn and forgive her. If she does it again send her to her parents for some wks. Until she learns respect. Her head go clear. Kindly do not hit her. And pls talk to ur mom if shes the meddlesome type. Im a woman and have been married 13yrs so i know what im saying
Go and starve then. U haven't eaten her food like she is a slave. Abeg. Maybe u didn't stand up for your wife or didn't soothe the situation and it came to this . So it is your fault. These days women no dey ever again ooooo.
i think you should find out from your wife why she did whatever she did. dont let anyone come between your wife and you. you seem to sound like your mum comes first before anyone. its not done that way,to worsen it all,you have kept all these from your wife and stopped eating her meals. so who has been sending you food,"mummy"?
The way your wife and your mum interact is all based on YOU!!!!!! your mum will treat your wife the way you treat/ talk about her. You don't go complaining about your wife to your mum. And if your mum says anything bad about your wife, you tell her to stop and never repeat it. the wife is wrong for sending that text.
You as the man must prevent that from ever happening again!!!!. I wish I could talk to you one on one.
For the sake of your marriage, keep your things between your wife and yourself. Your mum should not be involved in the affairs of your marriage. The only thing your mum should be sending your wife's way is PRAYERS!!!!
She should never have sent that text back to you. If my sister-in-law sends a nasty text to my mum, my mum would know she has really crossed the line and she would be looking for ways to make things smooth as the older and wiser one.
I don't know the background story, but what I know for sure, if you want your marriage to be happy and if you want it to last, keep your marital affairs strictly between you two and always tell your parents you are fine and all you need from them is prayers.
Infact, I'm so angry, I feel like slapping you. How? How? How can you open your eyes and let things get down to that level? So you were watching all the tension before? I'm sure your wife would have been complaining. You did nothing. You did nothing until she had to send a text to your mum to stop butting into your marriage?????
How old are you first? Did you go for marriage counseling? Do you know about the 3rope cord? You, your wife and God?
Is there anywhere that told you your mum is your marriage counselor or that your mum is part of your marriage?
Your mum is your mum, your wife is your wife. Your mum gained a new daughter and she has to treat your wife like her daughter and your wife gained a new mum. But guess who has to make sure that works? YOU! !!
you are what they have in common. You have to let reach of them respect each other. You have to create a good ambiance. It's all YOU!.
YOU better talk to each of them. Tel them how you want them to be, treat them and place each other in the right position with each other.
Emmmm ur wife doesn't ve any right to do dat @ all,but even @ Dat u mustn't allow ur mum cum in bw u n ur wife.ur mum is ur mum n ur wife is ur wife.Ur wife must cum 1st.Ur wife made a. Big mistake means ur wife doesn't regard u or u must ve caused it.Beg ur mum n later talK tor ur wife to also beg ur mum.But pls ur wife must cum 1st
Bible says leave your father and mother and cleave unto your wife... Love you mother to death? You are not ready for marriage. Keep your mum out of your marriage! Love your wife to death! If you had done your bit and protected your wife from your mum, you would not be in this situation right now!
My wife to send stinker text to my mum? Ala agbaga ya?(Craze dey worry am?) It's better she cheat on me dan to try dat rubbish I WON'T TAKE IT AT ALL BIKO!!!
U don't wanna say wat brought abt d texting... Hmmmm! For ur wife to send such to ur mum means u're one of those "mummy's boy" who allow their mums to run their homes. If ur mum is indeed butting into ur marriage, thr's nothing bad if u talk to ur mother to minimize it. She has her own home to run. Let her free ur wife or u'll be having problems in ur marriage. I knw ur wife did wrong... Guess shez one of those no-nonsense females, but sir, don't let ur mamma run ur home! No lady likes such.
I won't take it from any woman that will be rude to my mum! Your wife is Damm wrong to send such message, did she know the pains of raising you up!she would have let you do the talking to your mum.your wife needs to be punished for that!
U must be from anambra. U guys always allow ur parents interfere in ur marriage so i am sure thats the case for ur wife to be really angry. I can never marry any guy from anambra. Mummy's boys!!!
As much as I will never condole any form of disrespect to in-laws. We need to know what has transpired between your wife and your mum, our tolerance level differs. That much said, she sending an insulting message to your mother is out of order.
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I am a mother of three boys who are about to get married, but I also have a daughter who is married and happy with three wonderful grandchildren. We "butt off" their matters hence there is no insulting text messages, we will do same for the boys. Please beg your mother and ask her to see your wife as a "naughty daughter" she cannot disown, tell your wife to see your mother as a mother she cannot disown no matter the disagreement and ask her to say sorry to your mother. But make sure you don't take side so that you can be happy. I know you love your mum but you also have a wife now take care of the two women in your life. God bless your marriage.
Calm Down... I know how hurt and painful it is for you right now, but there's no need carrying around like this. Firstly,apologise to your mum. Secondly, talk to your wife about it, tell her you don't appreciate the way she insulted your mum and that she should have come to you, so that u both get it sorted out... Thirdly, ask her to apologise to your mum and ask for her forgiveness. Then lastly, talk to your mum so as to avoid what will lead to another or further insults from your wife.
You are blessed.
Well you haven't provided any information for a proper advice.
Notwithstanding I would assume your wife has a serious problem with whatever situation led to her sending the stinker. So my advice would be you deal with that very issue,then address your wife and mother.
Try not to be bias when you handling the issue with your wife.
Your wife should be your first priority with all due respect to your mum. And so handle them with wisdom.
If u love ur moda to death, y didnt u get married to her? No mata d amount of luv u have for ur mum try to let her understand dat u are now a married man so she shld give u some freedom and must nt interfer in every affairs in ur family.
There are better ways to pass the message across without getting confrontational• Respect is important but its not one sided though.
Beat her Die #Lobatan
You and your wife are obviously immature. Your wife because a stinker text does not solve problems. And you because you put your mother before your wife. You are a husband plz behave like one.
Lol! See liver
u signed for better for worst with ur wife n till death do u path so go mek peace with ur wife and teach her to respect ur mum. mek her knw dat without d womqn d just belittled,dia wont b such a gentleman lyk u to marry.
Not fair for your wife to do that, but would you be angry if your mum did that to your wife? I think you have every right to be angry cos your wife would also be angry if you did that to her mother. It is unacceptable. But it will also be nice for men to defend their wife when in-laws pick on them too. Civility and respect is priceless.
First of all m'y wife wear not. But if she does i would sit her down and give her the hardest talk she has ever heard in her life. The i would respectfully call her parents and tell them what happend before we all have a meeting and she apologises on her knees in front of both parties and promise That it would Never ever hapen again.
Divorce her then go and marry your mum. I'm sure your mum will love to take care of you for the remaining days of her life.
First of all mister ur your write up, is annoying and selfish. First of all if u wanted our honest opinion then u shld av been man enough to tell us what happened. You love your mother to death? Why don't you love your wife to dead? You are a selfish man. You just want to put your wife on the troll. What did your mother do to warrant that text? Does your mum interfere in your marriage too much?what pain has she cause your wife? Have you bothered to fine out why your wifeis so bitter? You are only worried of ur mum why not ur wife? Only God knows y ur wife did that. Talk to her first before judging her. And if you support ur mum all the time, then u will end up losing ur own home. Your mum has enjoyed her home with her husband and still wants to enjoy urs wise up.cinderella kaduna state.
Where is the test msg? Without I don't see the test msg I'll not give u any advice
Hey Bro i feel you, been there before though not a stinker text, practical thing to do is discuss with Wify, let her understand she crossed the line morally, even in the Bible & Koran. Based on this Shes got to apologize to your Mum and promise her there will be no repeat as she would have done to her Mum. If she refuses, then you take it up as best suits your marriage including involving her Parents. She must apologize, no negotiating about that, afterwards love your Wify and forget it ever happened. Based on Laws of retaliation, i strongly suggest you don't start at her level, eat her food, take her out, make sweet love to her and then pass your message in the best way possible but don't miss the message; THIS CAN NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.
Beat her up and throw her out of that house. What gave her the effrontery to insult your mother. Today it your mother she insulted, the next time it would be you. Give her the beating of her life, nonsense.
Most problem sum pipo hv in ds kinna situation is nt being able to undastnd d position and importance the two women occupy n hw to handle problems btwn dem. MUMS r our bedrock and dey med us who we r so dey appear first in our lives bt wifes r our future n our body n soul. Mr poster,blog ll nt give u all d answers u seek bt GOD will.
Hey Bro i feel you, been there before though not a stinker text, practical thing to do is discuss with Wify, let her understand she crossed the line morally, even in the Bible & Koran. Based on this Shes got to apologize to your Mum and promise her there will be no repeat as she would have done to her Mum. If she refuses, then you take it up as best suits your marriage including involving her Parents. She must apologize, no negotiating about that, afterwards love your Wify and forget it ever happened. Based on Laws of retaliation, i strongly suggest you don't start at her level, eat her food, take her out, make sweet love to her and then pass your message in the best way possible but don't miss the message; THIS CAN NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.
Not eating her food? what did the poor food do to you? Send her packing back to her parents home till she learns some manners. If she refuses to learn then she can remain there for good!
We are reading one side of the story. Tell us whaat happened. It is wrong for her to insult ur mum (dats if she did). You are supposed to protect your wife from ur mum. Maybe u did not do dat. That's why she took matters into her hands. Your mum should butt out of ur marriage. She should be ur mum and not tell Anoda woman how to run her home. I've been married for 10yrs and my n I put our families in dia places and handle our own issues. I take his part no matter what against my family and he does same for me. Not eating and talking is aa highway to divorce n ur mum becoming ur wife. Get to 2 d root of the matter and talk to ur wife.
Never marry shaaa oooo
Oga I think we need to know what your mum did to warrant the nonsense. You love your mum to death dosnt mean that you should overlook her silly acts. Be a man and discuss with your wife, clear things up, who knows what she may have swallowed from your mum. All the same give her a stern warning not to do it again but also judge wisely and rightly too.
BTW Linda you need to be claping for me, lol, cos e be lyk say na ds june make am 6years i dey read ya blog, hehehe
Oga I think we need to know what your mum did to warrant the nonsense. You love your mum to death dosnt mean that you should overlook her silly acts. Be a man and discuss with your wife, clear things up, who knows what she may have swallowed from your mum. All the same give her a stern warning not to do it again but also judge wisely and rightly too.
BTW Linda you need to be claping for me, lol, cos e be lyk say na ds june make am 6years i dey read ya blog, hehehe
Its not nice and disrespectful. However you should also learn to keep your home as a man and let your mum know that this is your family now... For a man shall leave his mother and father and cling to his wife. She must apologize to your mum but u really need to let your mum off her hands from your marriage if you don't want your mum as a wife at the end of the day.
Well in the nicest of ways tell your mom not to be upset. She sef should butt out and mind her business. Chai all this young girls of nowadays are so bold! Who dash us that kin liver. Mrs O
First of all mister ur your write up, is annoying and selfish. First of all if u wanted our honest opinion then u shld av been man enough to tell us what happened. You love your mother to death? Why don't you love your wife to dead? You are a selfish man. You just want to put your wife on the troll. What did your mother do to warrant that text? Does your mum interfere in your marriage too much?what pain has she cause your wife? Have you bothered to fine out why your wifeis so bitter? You are only worried of ur mum why not ur wife? Only God knows y ur wife did that. Talk to her first before judging her. And if you support ur mum all the time, then u will end up losing ur own home. Your mum has enjoyed her home with her husband and still wants to enjoy urs wise up.cinderella kaduna state.
This man is literally still a boy.
A married man should always support his wife no matter what. U can settle with d mother later
Teach her a lesson she will neva forget in a hurry, don't mean beating her up, just send her packing so she can come pleading with you so that nxt time she wouldn't dream of sure thing to repeat itself never never again.
for this course shall a man leave his mother and father and he shall be cleave to his wife and they both shall become one flesh. so the holy book says. If you check and try to analyse that scripture you would discover that a man must leave his parent before getting married, and the word "leave" means, you leave 90% of whatever influence,affection and every other thing. But according to you, you love your mother to death means you are not completely joined to your wife because a larger part of you is still with your mum rather than your wife and ii'm sure you are willing to punish your wife for this deed of hers. My question is, why would you punish your wife for your mother? My advice is, call your wife for a heart talk or chat, ask to know if she has reasons for sending such text to your mum. If you discover those reasons to be largely self-centered, then caution her with love and apologize to your mother on her behalf and carefully make her do same. but do not make your wife vulnerable to your mum because doing that will only means you're not in control of your home and you'll likely lose your wife's trust in you, then let other things follow carefully. But I think you need to give your wife some reassurance of your attention and time, she probably did what she did because she felt your mum is getting more of it than her.
Your failure to explain what led to the insultive text message won't earn you a fair opinion. It's obvious your mum did something to warrant such insult. Why are you hiding it? Protecting your mum(by failing to reveal her own role in the bruhaha) because you love her to death isn't being fair on your wife. Are you saying you don't love your wife to death? Or you suddenly flung the love you have 4 her our d Window cos she insulted your mum?
What kind of advice do you want? How to punish your wife? Please tell us what your precious mum did so that we can judge fairly.
If u cant go into details then u can't get an honest response...FYI mums are the greatest...but they r humans and can be wrong too...
Go tell your Mum to stay out of your marriage. If not she (your mum) will ruin your marriage/home.
Well as you have stopped eating/drinking your wife's food. Pls why don't you go and eat/drink your mother's food na and while at it also sleep with her. ODE. Silent treatment is never d answer talk to ur wife let her know what she did wrong and find out why she did it. At d end of d day she is ur wife it u and her till d end oh!!!
That was so disrespectful of her.ah ah...
Everyone loves mums so much but in this case, this is your wife and the mother of your children, you should enquire or finds out why she sent the text to your mum before you take any action, refusing to talk to her or eat her food has no meaning because you will surely come back and do those things later on. please find out the issue that resulted her to send the text.
Killl her. Gv her rat poison. She's mad. She deserve to die. Or burst one of her eyes. So dat she will learn her lesson
Sorry if wat I wl say wl hurt u but I hate it wen men allow mothers or fathers 2 interfer in der marriage. God wen he creatd woman say "by ds reason, man wl leave his mother $ father $ cleave 2 his wife $ dey wl bcom one." "U Luv ur mother 2 death." U must hv chosen her ovr ur wife. Did u try 2 find out what ur mother did 2 her dat made her say dat? Moreovr I dnt see anytn belittling wt "butt out of our marriage." Ur brain wud hv told u she was only teln her not 2 interfer in her marriage which I tnk is right if she has bn doing dat. Pls, ur marriage shud com first b4 ur mother. Rejectn her food $ not talkn 2 her too wtout really findn out wat d problem is $ d source of it is d most senseless $ stupid action I'v ever seen. I pray I dnt get married 2 Men like u who wl nvr leave der mummy's breast $ wrapper. I thank God 4 my Mum(RIP) who all her time on earth nvr evr 4 once interfered in her son's marriage. Infact she is always on d side of her daughter inlaw. I remember wen my bro accused his wife of adultery $ was complaining 2 d whole fmly $ said he wl divorce her. my mum who ddnt blv his story askd him if he too does not flirt wt women. He defended her daughter inlaw in d presence of her husband $ later called $ advice her secretly. No matter wat her daughter inlaw did 2 her, she had nvr complained 2 her husband. Grow up mama's boy. Ask what d problem is $ try 2 settle it. Unless ur mum is seperated frm ur dad; then I'll undrstnd she too want anothr woman 2 seperate frm her own husband. If not, then dnt let her com btwn u $ ur wife. Nobody came btwn her $ her own husband. If she stayed wt her husband tl now, wt a son as old as u, then she shud allow u stay wt ur own wife $ hv a son ur age too. Nxt time, dnt com here 2 tel us u luv ur mother 2 death thereby choosn her over ur wife. Am a woman $ senseless post like ds gets me mad. Gudluck in ur marriage
seems youre not doing something right. Your wife felt the need to blast your mum.
seems youre not doing something right. Your wife felt the need to blast your mum.
seems youre not doing something right. Your wife felt the need to blast your mum.
We have to know the details. Did your mum deserve it? Was she meddling in your marriage? If yes, get mad at both of them and caution them. Take charge like you are supposed to. If you did earlier, your wife may not have sent the stinker in the first place. However, if your mother wasn't overly meddling in your marriage and your new wife sent the stinker...then, my brother, you are in trouble. They say the Devil leaves you alone if you marry the wrong wife because you are already in hell. Well, still take charge. Advice your mum to forgive her as you are handling it. To your wife, don't eat her food or bed her if you like but in the strongest terms communicate to her your opinion ASAP. Warn her strictly. Then go into prayer. You need that more than you need food or sex.
A man shall leave his mother and father and join with his wife and they shall become ONE...my fellow man tell your mother to stay away from your young marriage unless you are heading to have a broken marriage, and even if you marry another it would be worse let your mother not put asunder what God has joined. As for you mr man you are a mamas boy and i feel sorry for the young woman you married. You refused her food because of your mother that had lived her life. Majority of divorce cases are caused by very intruding parents and a husband that is a coward who cant stand up to his parents, watch it! Your marriage would soon be a statistic if you are not careful.do the world a favour divorce that poor woman and marry your mother.. Rubbish.
It's not proper but truth be told.....some mother inlaws are so annoying and like pucknosing into their children's marriage, and why haven't you discussed it with your wife or is no longer your wife? Communication matters alot in an ordinary relationship not to talk about marriage and for the fact that you love your mom so much it will make you not find fault in what ever she does, you better talk to both of them about it and make your wife to apologise to your mom, also make your mom to stop invading in your marriage else your marriage will just crash without a reason.that's all I have to say.
Y is ur mum meddling in ur affairs?
Tell your mum to leave your marriage alone, don't involve her in your marital affairs. It's not right,she has been hurt that's why she sent her the message. She didn't just wake up and sent her the message, you have been involving your mum in your issues. Learn to pray to GOD and don't come here to receive negative comment that will ruin your marriage and if you love her so much,you can as well be sleeping with her. Some men ehh tufiakwa!
warn ur mum!
nonsense...
u will tell me if ur married to ur mum or ur wife!!
You're silly mr man. Why dnt u marry your mother then.
Tell us the genesis of the story coz I know some mums r wicked.
She probably has been holding back a lot
I don't support wives out rightly insulting their mother in-laws, they can talk to them with wisdom. At the same time not giving the complete picture is not fair on your part. You don't allow people to pass judgment on just hearing one side of the story. Besides, mothers should back off their children's marriage. They should give their children space to get to find their feet and learn from their mistakes. These are two people from different home, culture and upbringing. They need to learn on their own how to sustain their union. Unless invited, in-laws should back off. Mothers should know when their kids get married, their first priority is to the spouse, then kids before the extended family. You may have used strong words on your mom which is not acceptable but your mom need to back off and allow you get married or she should marry you herself. She has forwarded the text your wife sent to you, do you know things she may have verbally said to your wife that made your wife go that extend? Put yourself in her shoes, will you tolerate her mother interfering in your married, even coming to you to say unspeakable things? My dear, be a man, call your mom, your wife and an elderly man that is not related to both of you and discuss it with them. Make sure each party knows where to draw the line. Tell your wife, you won't allow her insult your mom, and she should cone to you when there's any issue with your mom. Tell your mom to allow your wife be and that your wife cones first that's doesn't mean it will affect your relationship, only some slight changes. When you say you love your mom, you've invariably told us your mom comes first before your wife. You never say I love my wife but I love my mom. So why would you be rational even if your mom is to blame? My dear, your mom is married and enjoying a no interference from anybody why wouldn't she accord her daughter in-law same. Don't forget you have sisters. Don't let their husbands do the same to them. He who shakes a tree, shakes himself.
Go and hang ursef
I feel sad for you bro...but honestly, if I were to be in ur shoes I would not take any sides. I would scold/cajole each of them as the case may require then not speak to nor eat the wifey's food until they both resolve their differences. Mothers are irreplaceable and can be irritant at times but the wife must if not love, respect her just as you would respect her mother. Abi, will she insult her mother that way? If yes then homie you married the devil incarnate. If not then, she should make peace at least for the sake of your happiness. I mean, the woman raised you and is the reason she has you as her husband.
What did u or ur mom do 4her 2 hav sent d stinker?..Ur story is baseless Mr n until ur wife writes in den we can judge. #parkwell
Please give us details before we can advise you.
Hey! Have you forgotten your vows? You're no more twain but one? You didn't marry your mum, just talk to your wife, explain she has to respect your mum, but your mum doesn't in any way take preeminence. You love your mum to death; what about your wife? You're supposed to love your wife more.
What should you do? Not much. Let them settle themselves and find their own levels. In my case I reminded my mum how in the distant past she found it difficult to accommodate my dad's kith and kin and too frequently told them off to their faces.
I am a woman and any woman that disrespect ur mom no matter how bad she is sint suppose to be called a woman or a wife in the first place, ,no matter what she needs to respect ur mom and u as the husband needs to know the diff btw ur wife and ur mom,the roles they play in ur life and vic versa, ,,,if ur moma is doing wat she doesn't like which u as the husband will definitely be aware of,,talk to ur mom politely....know that ur mom is ur mom and not ur wife and ur wife should know that she too will be someone's mother in law someday and u know the earth always turn it's axis
Marry ur mum!
This "my wife" thing is exaggerated. I was hanging out with some guys when one of them brought up the issue of who was more precious to a man -his wife or mum. I consider it an affront for anyone to ask me such bullshit! No woman dead or alive can compare to my mum! All women combined can NEVER compare to my mum! That being said, any woman that as much as passes a negative comment on my mum, wife or no wife, losses whatever relationship she has with me. I don't know why we men tend to lose our senses because of Corinpus.
What do you want to do? Didn't you know that she lack respect/home training before you married her?
Go and marry her then....nonsense
apologize to your mum and call your wife to order.
ur wife is definetly upset that your mum wont get some business of her own to mind. Clearly she sent it out of anger. she was wrong and shouldn't have been rude, but as a man, it is your place to put your foot down and tell your mum not to mind your personal family business. you dint and so your wife had to help you. sort it out and get back to good standing with your wife....no one even a mother should put asunder...if u don't eat ,ul eventually get tired of them childish ways so deal with it asap. and be loving when u address the issue. and u both can go in love to apologise to ur sweet overbearing moma...if that is the case
U are a fool @ u love ur mum to death
Hmmm am not married so am not in any position to advice you but take it easy.
Hmmm am not married so am not in any position to advice you but take it easy.
If u were man enough and told ur mum to stay out of ur marriage ur wife wouldn't have sent her any message, did ur maternal grandmother butt into ur mum's marriage? Ur wife was wrong to have insulted ur mum no matter the circumstances but am sure she has been complaining u refused to do anything about it. U are obviously a mama's boy cos u started by saying its not relevant wat transpired between them. A man shall leave his home n cleave to his wife! Have a talk with ur wife demand she apologizes to ur mum on her knees and politely ask ur mum to butt out of ur marriage and start eating ur wives food if not hunger go kill u and ur pocket go hear am!
oga sorry o, but what did ur mum do or what has she been doing to ur wife?
most times, men know how difficult their mum is and how much she provokes their wife, but them keep quiet only for them to start making noise when the woman decides to fight for herself. men should learn to protect their wives from family abuse, else u may not like ur wife's approach when she gets fed up.
What did your mum do??? Share... dnt drop a one sided story. #HB
True! Sometimes our parents over-interfere in children's marriages, but if your wife finds no sanity in her manners and as such goes so far as to send such message to your mother, then be sure that it's either yourself or your father that's gonna receive such treat next.
God forbid oh! But if I were in your shoes, I'll delete her status as a wife from my life, and hence all its entitlements until she finds my mother's favor in which case both herself (now my ex-) and my mother would come begging me.
While I dont support your wife's actions in anyway, you need to ask your mum what she did or said to your wife to warrant the belittling text message. There is usually no smoke without fire.
Talk to her about it. And let her understand its a very hard limit for you. Haba! So bad of her.
Marriage is between two people, not even the children should course problem in the marriage. If your wife asked you to tell your mum to keep out of you marriage would you have done it? Am sure you knew there are issues with your mum and wife; maybe you never did nothing about it. I don't encourage a spouse being rude to the others parent but when you chose to marry your wife or husband comes first,
And if anyone here tells you to maltreat your wife they won't give you theirs, nor live in your house with you to join in your battle. So I advice you to sit your wife down and talk about the text, what went wrong, why she did it, most importantly what a third party( family, friends etc) will have access to in your marriage.
Dude u need to support your wife. If your mum put her in a condition that she had no choice to result to a disrespecting sms, then it's your fault you probably did not pay attention to here concerns
Tell us the situation between u & ur wife. Bcos we can't make a any clear solution to ur problem... I can tell ur mum is a real b**** to your wife. & ur wife as had enough & u are a mama's boy too much... if u like divorce ur wife & marry ur mama since u won't eat ur wife's food again...
Tell us the situation between u & ur wife. Bcos we can't make a any clear solution to ur problem... I can tell ur mum is a real b**** to your wife. & ur wife as had enough & u are a mama's boy too much... if u like divorce ur wife & marry ur mama since u won't eat ur wife's food again...
1. one hot slap
2. send her back to her parents.
Why asking us when you have already taken action by not talking to her or eating her food
It simply means your wife is unhappy about something ... perhaps your mum is interfering in your marriage a lil bit too much. That should be checked.
Its ok to love your mother, most people love and cherish their mothers but that does not mean you should take to only your mum's side without sitting your wife down to understand reasons for her actions.
Perhaps you haven't been listening to your wife or taking note of some signs she gives you regarding your mum which is why she had to act by herself.
Though her approach may be wrong, not eating her food or speaking with her will not help your marriage, neither will it correct any wrong.
As the man of the house, sit your wife down, have a quiet and respectable chat with her, understand reason for her action, make her see reasons why she was wrong with the way she acted and ensure your mum and her are at peace with each other again.
Just like you love and respect your mother, your wife and mother of your future kids deserves same affection and respect...Best wishes!
Ermm you are a grown man, who knows the problems in your marriange enough for your wife to send a text to your mother. It did not come out of the blue. Before you start huffing and puffing check yourself first
Emmm u are not giving us the full story. What did ur mother do/say and what did ur wife do/say in return? U just cant be giving us.half-baked tales and expect a full scale advise from people. Take brush and start painting the whole.picture.
If Ur mom wasn't into Ur marriage probably Ur wife won't have sent her the message. Mother in-laws should learn to respect their kids marriages. I'm saying this out of experience, tho I won't send my mother in-law a stinker but not all women are the same. For God's sake she has enjoyed her own marriage, let the girl enjoy hers too, is that too hard to ask?
Your wife lacks good home training. Would she send similar sms to her mother. You just have to put your foot down and warn her seriously. If she refuses to change then send similar sms to her dad or mum if they are still alive.
A man shall leave his mother and father; and cling to his wife. Please stop being a bratty spoilt mummy's boy. Yes! Love your mum but knw wen to draw a line.
Calm down.... D lord is in control...she doesn't want any1 troubling her marriage
Sometimes mothers become over protected of their sons and do not know where/when to draw the line and it pissed ladies off, but the ladies/wives should know how to control their emotions if they hope to live in peace in that house. I advice you talk to your wife, asking her the reason behind the text, scold her if necessary and then talk to your mum, apologise to her and make her see reasons why she should live in peace with your wife. Don't let her hate your wife cos your house is in trouble if she does. God bless you
Shet.. Which Kain wife be that?
1. Think we need to knw what rly brought abt d text msg
2. She has no right to insult ur mum and I believe she shld have used wisdom to make ur mum stop interfering in ur marriage
3. I guess u ve read it in d holy book dt therefore a man shall leave his mother and father stick to his wife?ur wife is now ur mum ogbeni
4. So y did u got married if u luv ur mum to death? Uncle u shld luv ur wife unconditionally
5. Why dnt u call her and talk tins out instead of kipin to ursef, u wnt to destroy. D foundation of ur marriage?u are jst new in dis
6. Make her understand u won't tolerate her insults in d days ahead but do it lovingly and kip family away from ur union
That was too extreme....i guess she is no longer interested in the marriage because no right thinking woman would do such.
Talk to her about it and let her understand its a very hard limit for you. Haba so bad of her.
Very Simple. Let your mum mind her bizness and leave u 2 alone to enjoy ur marriage.
My first time commenting here but this post rings a bell. Sorry about how you feel Man. Your wife went about it the wrong way but I am very sure it wont have gotten to that point if u had taken charge of your marriage or even limit outside interference. Please remember u nd ur wife is till death do u part. So talk to her, correct what is wrong and look out for her. She is ur priority man. Seriously. She will apologise to ur mum nd to u nd make amends to work on the relationship when she knows you are her strongest supporter. All d best
Ur wife means u as the bible will put it and let no human put asunder. If ur mum is a human, sorry to say that the same applies to her. Though u must caution ur wife as u would talk to urself when u know deep down that u have wronged someone.
Tell us what ur mum did biko.. dnt be out here acting like ur wife is forever horrible,or y again did u marry her if shez always been like that?
No woman will ever disrespect my mother, " WTF" Bro there should be a thick gap btw ur mom n wife. ignore her totally n let her parents knw about this. aw wud she feel if u do that to her mom. she can't sow a thorns n expect to reap a flowers.
Tell us what ur mum did biko.. dnt be out here acting like ur wife is forever horrible,or y again did u marry her if shez always been like that?
Ur wife was wrong, some mother's can frustrate their son's wives sha
Olodo man. Why cant u say what ur mum did. All this mummys boys spilling all over the place. And why does ur mum butt into your marital affairs. You are not a man. Check yourself caitlyn jenner!!!
Do you love your wife to death?
Though am a woman but wot I ve to say is DAT its nt fair as in its nt good no matter wot she feels ur mum is causing in ur home.
Take it easy just try to sort things out with your wife. Secondly it doesn't give you the reason not to eat her food. You are not supposed to love your mom more than your wife. The two shall become one. Maybe you are the type that allows your mom control your marriage. And your wife wondnt take it any long play your role well as a husband and also as a son well.
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First of all, u av to say what ur mum did to make ur wife go that far, b4 we can advice u. Ur wife should be ur most priority not ur mum but d way u sounded, it's obvious u dont love ur wife enough, why do u marry her if u are still a mummy's boy, u should av married ur mum. Find out from ur wife what happened dt pushed her to d wall instead of coming here to rant. U should be ashamed of urself, can u hear urself? ' I haven't tasted her food since... bla bla bla. Instead of u to find out what happened n treat d case squarely without being so sentimental, u are here yabbing nonsense. Go back home, call ur wife n mum, face to face so dt de can air dia anger, den from what de say, be a man n not a mummy's boy, don't listen to any useless person here dt will tell u to do dis or dt to ur wife bc if it happens to dem, de won't do anytin. Only u can bring peace into ur home, but if u choose fire, it will burn u n ur mum, n ur wife n ur home. Ur choice, bc when u married ur wife, bible said u will leave ur father n mother n cling to ur wife alone, so she should be ur most priority n not d oda way around. From d day u married, ur wife becomes d first b4 anyone else, so fix ur home and stop ranting. Call ur wife privately first n ask her what made her do dt, don't be judgmental or possessive, ask her with love, n den call d both of dem again, and ask dem face to face, by doing dt, u will find d real truth n den treat it with outmost carefulness so dt u won't create an enemity btw ur wife or mum. Be wise. May God give u d wisdom to build ur home.
I WANT YOUR WIFE TO UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IMAGE OF BEING RUDE TO YOUR MOTHER BE A CURSE ON HER WHEN HER OWN CHILDREN GROW UP .
IN FUTURE YOUR BEHAVIOR WILL HUNT YOU , WHEN HER SONS WIFE DO THE SAME.
I ADVISE HER TO GO AND APOLOGIZE TO YOUR MUM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
Not eaten her food?! Lol get over it and focus on your marriage and your mum should mind her own business too mtcheeeeeeew
I am a married woman and i will never disrespect my in-laws. If i wear you i will divorce her if she doesn't apologise with all her family to my mum. What rubbish! She is a very bad wife and i doubt if you will enjoy that marriage.
Look for a more submissive wife and divorce Jezebel, she has no place in your life or family.
O boi I dey d same situation and going thru hell right now.
obviously u didnt play your part right. u missed it somewhere. ur mother has her place and so does your wife. u said u love your mother which is fine as a matter of fact i love my mom to the moon and back. but did you draw the line from the word go? did you open the doors of your house to your mother to walk all over your marriage? i do not know your wife but for you to choose her above all others there must have bben something about her that made u want "forever" with her. so think about it and madam if u are reading u are a learner oo u sent a message? haba!there is a record already and it will always be referred to or talked about.
Is she alright? So early in d marriage and she is exhibiting her stupidity. Dave
jes take it easy bro.. i advise u meet ya pastor or elder one around u
Obviously your mum has not been minding her business in your marriage. Love is a beautiful thing but can be destructive so please tell your mum to butt out and if you can’t advise you then to marry your "dear" mother.
I don't see why mother in laws would not let their children live in peace...
U must be a fool. U should also let u knw why she sent such a message to her. Mummy's boy
U should hv gone into details as to what ur mum did, ur wife shld apologise and u all should move forward
Tell ur mum to leave ur marriage alone and take care of ur family. Mummy's boy. U will soon marry ur mum.
Maybe you should understand that mama needs to butt out. For your wife to send her a message means she is crossing boundaries. If you want you can send your wife packing and go sit with mama or you man up and understand the root of the problem
All dis mummy boys getting married, not dat i support ur wife's text but u boys need to grow into men before marriage, since u could not tell ur mum respectfully to stay out of u marriage becos u r mummy's boy u angry wife had to do it for u, don't be too mad u should be grateful at so point.
Maybe you let your mum into your marriage so much,yes you love ur mum but u should know that ur wife is also human,if she sent a striker text to ur mum,she didn't just sent it out of d blues,something must have led to that!mr man pls make peace with ur wife and make her apologise to ur mum,I hope you're not the type that reports everything in ur marriage to ur mum too!if yes u need to put a stop to that!best wishes
Na hunger go kill you. Omo mummy.
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeew.
She shouldn't have done that regardless of what your mother did. There are more matured ways to handle such issues. Let her apologize to your mum
She doing it all alone was wrong. No matter what, she shld hv brout it to ur knowledge. Don't tk it too far, trash d issue wit ur wife n 4give her okay!
Men over to you..
For her to send that text and u now asking what to do its a proof that you can't control ur wife or maybe she is the heady type that don't really listen to u all the time. And the funny thing is that this traces you must have seen it while u were dating except u saw her yesterday and married her today. So to tell u what to do in this situation is a quick fix which will not solve the fundamental problem of her been a stubborn lady. The advice I have for u as a man is that you need to make her know how much u cherish you mum (just as I do) in a very strong term (again this is sth you should have made clear to her while dating). And also, u should let ur mum know her limit in ur marriage since that's what she is fighting about. The best way to do this is to talk to each of them separately and see how they can become friends. Am sometime jealous about the relationship btw my mum and wife cos they are best of friend and it make my home happy. And on a light note you can call the two together and tell them the GENERAL statement - I belong to everybody and I belong to nobody.
But jokes apart now, u have to find a way of making the two be friends
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If you are asking that question here, then you are not supposed to be married.
Ur wife doesnt want ur mum involved but YOU want the entire "teenage" population in Nigeria involved.
Your immaturity is incomprehensible abeg
Ur mom Shld have acted matured and elderly by not sending the text to u.shw knows by so doing she is causing trouble in your home.some mother in law sha,can deal abeg.she Shld have solve the issue with ur wife without informing u.n by acting up ur r already giving her ground in your marriage, talk to ur wife n resolve issue.with her
Forgive your woman, then tell her to go an beg your mother. So peace will rain.
Forgive your woman, then tell her to go an beg your mother. So peace will rain.
Without the details how do we know what brought about this. If your mum is over stepping her boundary by poke nosing in your marriage, then she deserves the stinker. Cant deal with all these over bearing parents in laws abeg.
Marry ur mum
Discuss it with ur wife very well
I believe your wife should show your mum respect no matter what, however you need to tell us what happened cause sometimes mother in law can be troublesome....
This is a very delicate matter do not take sides, eat your wives food you need both your mum and your wife. The Bible said that for a man shall live him father and mother and cling to his wife and two shall become one. It does not mean that your wife should be rude to your Mum.
Both women are probably fighting for your affection the way you manage this will make a difference in your life/ I mean weather you have peace or war.
Divorce her naw. Isn't dat wht ur mother wants? Stupid mam's boy. Hw can u alow ur mum to meddle in ur marriage? Now ask urself by 4wardin d text to u, is ur mum an enemy or friend? Does she wish u hapines truly? D luv u had for u mum shd now b transfered to ur wife asshole! See ur mouth like I love my mum to death, why not jst get married too ur mum and fuck her anytime u like. Idiat! Why not giv us d full details, cos u knw by doin so d table wil turn against u. U knw d right tin to do, but ur fear of ur mum won't let u be a man. It's ur wife I blame sef
You are such a baby and not ready to be married. Your mum is probably someone you put before your wife and she is causing issues in your marriage. I doubt that you understand what marriage is all about? why didn't you marry your mum since you love her to death? You must be a last born, first son or only son. You aren't eating your new wife's food because she sent a stinker to your controlling and intruding mum. Ask your mum to stay away from your marriage. That's a good first start. Protect your wife from your mum and your family members. you sound like you have been driving your new wife crazy by loving your mum above her.Your wife may have over reacted and I'm not condoning her actions but you and your mum must have been frustrating her. have you ever heard about inlaws and outlaws?That's where your mum belongs. so grow up, speak with your wife and make up. your mum has lived her life and should mind her business by staying away from your marriage. your wife will definitely apologise but I hope your mum has gotten the message of minding her business. you should let her know this.
As a woman who is also married I believe d best thing to do is to confront her. Tell her without sparing emotions how u feel (don't insult her thou). She has to learn how to respect and accept ur mum as her own. Best explain to her dat if she loves u den she had better not make u chose between her and ur mum cos she won't like ur choice
Make her come to u with any issues she has with ur mum.
Oga u too grow some liver and talk to ur mum joor. Stop putting ur wife in difficult situations by allowing ur mum get away with hurting her. Trust me she knows ur mum will show u dat text but she still sent it anyway dat means she was really hurt and she doesn't care if u hear about it or not. Maybe she even wants u to confront her so d matter will be handled once and for all
Pray to God to make ur wife as wise as a serpent. Its all about wisdom.
They may not love each other but they can learn to tolerate each other.
But ur mum sef, why won't she stay out of ur marriage? Too many nosy and over bearing mothers in law out there! Are you a mummy's boy? Don't you have a mind of your own? Abegi, shift! Shift!
Dats very rude and un acceptable but u need to sit her down to findout wut led to her sending such a text message to your mum before u know wut next to do.Sirslim.
Tell your mum to fuck off! Your wife comes first! And you had better apologise to your wife for letting your mum butt in. And eat that food she cooked FAST!
Tell your mum to fuck off! Your wife comes first! And you had better apologise to your wife for letting your mum butt in. And eat that food she cooked FAST!
Discuss it with her and try to settle both of them. At least you have passed a message across that u dont like it by not eating her food. If she goes to church, report her to her pastor to counsel her
You're probably a mamas boy..tell your mom to stay off your marriage and tell your wife never to disrespect your mom ever again..that's what il do if I were you.bye
Find out what really happened before you judge her. Always listen to both sides and do your personal investigation before you act or react. However, even if u find out that your mum was wrong, it still doesnt give your wife the efontry to be rude to your mum
You obviously seems to love your mum more than your wife.That is a recipe for marital disaster.Your wife should be the closest person to you.your mother should butt out of your marriage if she is interfering.
No mattet the provocation, your wife should learn to respect her elders
To me, if you are rude to my mum, it shows that u lack home training and that is how you are rude to your parents too. If her parents ate responsible people, report her to her parents because she must have told her parents in a way that will favour her. So tell them the truth so that they can call her to order
My brother beat up Momsie over his wife o. Many guys don't really care what trash their wives give their Moms. I guess that is why the bible says "For this reason, a man shall leave his family and cleave..." They take the cleave thing to outrageous extents o.
Now what should you do, what you do now, will determine her attitude and actions to Momsie for the rest of her life o. Don't leave her but be very stern in reprimanding her, Make her understand that whatever she loves about you was put there by Momsie. Let her understand that without that woman, there might be no you and disregard for that woman is disregard for you. She will sit up and take notice. She won't do rubbish again too. After you are sure your point has sunk home, keep loving her and seize every opportunity to try and make her value Mom too. Encourage them to do things together and all that.
As for my brother, we warn am say if him try that rubbish again, we go get akpu obi boys to beat him and beat his wife thoroughly. The point of the akpu obi guys is to ensure merciless beating.
He hasn't tried himself since then!
Forgive her and beg your mum to forget.very soon she will be a mother inlaw.
From experience brother all you need to do is to ask tell your wife what she did is wrong no matter what and take her to your mom to go and apologise and after she does that you yourself have beg your mom to forgive her because she's your wife and your mom is your mom,they are both important to you I guess,brother you need to connect your wife and mom together with love,bcos if one is not happy with another all the problem is on you I believe you know that?Both of them are your left and right hand and they are both important in our life as a man.
We need details man, this is too vague!
she shouldnt have done that ...but i am concernede she felt the need to do that. A proper husband needs to shield his wife from his mother but also shield his mother from his wife. A lot of men stay attached to thier mothers apron. i hope that is not the case with you
tell your mum to stay out of ur marriage
A few days ago, my new wife sent a stinker text message to my mum asking her to butt out of our marriage. I can't go into details as to what brought about this situation but I wanted to find out from other men how they would react if their wives sent an insulting text message to their mum. I haven't spoken to or eaten her food since my mum forwarded the text to me. I haven't even discussed it with her but she knows I know. I love my mum to death and the thought of someone, especially my wife, sending her a belittling text makes me so mad. What should I do? Be sincere.
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Bello Babatunde Vincent Am not married but I think before a wife can do that, it depends on where you place ya mum in the sight of ya wife.
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Onimisi Gabriel Ahi Hmmmm marital issues. Any way call her and ve a heart to heart talk with her and ask her wat gave her the gut to send such message, ask her why the message, then before you know the next step of action. To me ONIMISI wen an issue dat hit me so hard com...See More
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Modupeola Victor y can't u first ask wat dey av done to each oda
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Zainab Bello Since u don't know what happened. I advice u ask her before any action. But am obedient and well train woman should never insult her mother in law no matter de situation. Dere are many ways to address an issue.
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Awateef Ajid Mohammed Find from your mum what transpired btw them for her to send such msg.then ask your wife too what makes her to send such msg to his mum.from there you ve a clue on how to judge.but for now keep calm and pray
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Fatima Omeiza Oyedeji I think i support what Mr onimisi just said , pls take it calm first, marital issues take wisdom and divine intervention. Ask her why she send such text to her .Only God knows what brought about that, a responsible wife must respect her mother in law ...See More
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Dorcas Beby proverb 19 .14 house and riches are the inheritance of fathers and a prodent wife is from the lord so ur mom shol no intefre in ur marriage an marriage is for 2 piple not for 3
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Onimisi Gabriel Ahi Wat some women dont understand in life is dat if u insult your motherinlaw the record will continue to be there, history will always ve it that u ve one time insult your mother inlaw even though u ve appolgize and it is forgiven, funny enough u can nev...See More
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Suleiman Mayaki Uthman Am still reading.
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Onimisi Gabriel Ahi @Dorcas so wat are trying to say now? dat in deed she has right to send such message to her mother inlaw without even letting her husband knows wats happening? Every respectful and good wife always get in touch with her husband in any issue that can ca...See More
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Dorcas Beby yes she has the rait to becoz som motherinlo dot lak there doteinlo an as a rsolt of that mainy marriag has ben distroid
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Zainab Bello Dorcas Beby u mean u can insult ur mother in law because she interfere in ur marriage. Pls sister think again. Dis is de reason why we have so many divorce in our community..
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Onimisi Gabriel Ahi Then u are getting it wrong, but remember u will also be a motherinlaw and watever goes around must surely comes around bcos even if the mother inlaw is at fault, remember u also ve ur shotcomings too and dat doesnt give your son's wife the right to insult you hence she cant insult her own mother even as she is at fault,
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Suleiman Mayaki Uthman Interesting. I am still online.
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Sorry o.
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Ur an ass, maybe u shld marry ur mom. If u can't understand ur wife and kids are ur main priority, then u are no man, father or hubby. We all know so many mothers have spoiled marriage. For christ sake ur destroying ur home.
We need to know what caused the rift between them to be able to advice you properly cos the honest truth is some mother-in-laws actually deserve such. If your mom is the home breaker type then she deserved it, if what happened didnt warrant such then its unfortunate. But i can't offer any advise unless i know what really happened.
Divorce the idiot and pray 4 God 4 a well cultured/well brought up girl
Dere is no smoke without fire, meaning dere's a reason 4 her action. In as mch as ur wife expressed herself rudely, I fink u shud try n mk amends wif her, den sit her down n talk 2 her. I tell u, by refusing 2 speak 2 her nor eat her fud doesn't show maturity on ur part which will even worsen d whole situation dereby, creating a long term enmity btw ur mum n wif n dat will really affect u physically, psychologically n evri part f ur life. If u call her n ask her, mayb u're even d cause, gvng ur mum more attention dan her. Moreover, dat statement 'l love my mum to death' shows in ur actions against ur wife. D yam lies in ur hands, n d way u cut it dtrmns d peaceful n loving home u want. A real man does nt allow his feelings 4 his xtnded fmly affect his immediate fmly cos ur cmng 2geda wif ur wife is 2 build a peaceful n happy home. So, act wisely pls.
Firstly, for the fact that she knows that you know and she has said nothing.... you reacted and there is still no apology.... sorry, your wife is either the husband or she is too comfortable with your way of discipline. I think you should inform her family and make sure there is proper apology... if she doesn't apologize in your acceptable way... then that marriage was not meant to exist at first.....
am done with her,nobody insults my mum directly and get away with it . Mothers are over protective and any wife that doesn't know how to ignore and avoid a troublesome or over protective mum,i believe that must be part of the problems that lead to the insults i can't take it such from my wife
Already i can smell something is not right.wont judge your wife tho..since you can't go into details.
Marry your mum!!!! Hehehe! Jxt kidding. Technically its wrong but u need to talk to both of them differently; ask wifey to respect u n report any issues she z having with mum and mum stay out of your marriage and report issues she z concerned about to u. Man up n face your responsibilities
Your mum is your mum and she has her own husband,your wife is your wife. Maybe your mum truely has butt off.
as a guy, call ur wife and ask her why.dont beat her o. I will advice u to watch THINK LIKE A MAN.u re like Micheal in dat film.u re a mummy's boy.
Marry your mum. It will be easier for your life. From all indications you can not handle your business that is why your wife had to send your mum a text message
Your wife went a bit too far? But the question is, has you mum bn meddling in yr marriage, if yes, then you need to call her to order. Find a good way to do do without hurting her feelings. She wants the best for you as a mum, only may not know how to go about it tactfully without appearing too meddlesome.
My bro, if you love your mum so much as to let her come into marriage, then simply divorce your wife and marry her. For your wife to send that message to your mum implies she is not having your attention like a wife should. Your mum is your mum n your wife is your wife, respect and love them equally, do not interchange their love. Otherwise you will experience what you are seeing now.
Wat she has done is very very wrong! Buh den if ur mum is actually into ur marriage den she really needs to butt out looto!
Marry your Mum
Resolve it like a man...find out what led to that.under no circumstance should ur wife send such text to ur mum so she needs to learn respect.a wife that doesn't respect her mother inlaw has no respect for her husband.having said that u need to find out what actually happened. Ur mum could have overstepped somehow, somewhere.
U are married already,talk it out wit ur wife and watch wat u say abt loving ur mum to the death biko
Beat her up n send her packing,only take her back wen she apologizes to ur mum n means it on her knees
Call d two for a meeting....tell ur wife dat if she see anything bad about ur mum, let ha not tell u nd ur mum if she see anything bad about ur life let ha not tell u as well...if not wait nd see d crash of ur home
Call d two for a meeting....tell ur wife dat if she see anything bad about ur mum, let ha not tell u nd ur mum if she see anything bad about ur life let ha not tell u as well...if not wait nd see d crash of ur home
Call d two for a meeting....tell ur wife dat if she see anything bad about ur mum, let ha not tell u nd ur mum if she see anything bad about ur life let ha not tell u as well...if not wait nd see d crash of ur home
Don't allow ur mum to come into ur marriage, give ur mum her own Love and ur wife hers .
@poster... Let ur mama stay away from your marital life, becos if she was minding her elderly business nobody will insult her.plus some mother in-laws can bring out the devil in a pope bt still been rude to ur mother-in-law is very disrespectful
Hmmmm I dont want to break your heart but I have to say this. That's some wife you have. I will never do that or allow anyone close to me do that or accept it.
i think you pushed your wife to do such thing, listen to yourself you said you love your mom so much, dont get me wrong im not saying it a wrong thing to love ones mother but you are suppose to know where to draw the line between your mom and your marriage, take up the responsibility and fix this once. Dont forget women are jealous, correct me if im wrong. And i guess your wife is jealous that you are concentrating much of your time on your mom. You have to know how to balance it and once you fail in doing this then there would be problem.
Some men are babies honestly. Mummy's 'man'. Why don't u divorce your wife and run to your mum's apron. Have u even bothered to ask your wife why she sent that text to your mum knowing fully well how much you love Ur mum???
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Ur wife is childish. Warn her never to do it again. Let her go on her knees and apologise to ur mom. Na small pickin dey worry am. She clearly has been listening to bad advice which many of us do at the begining of our marriages. So pls warn and forgive her. If she does it again send her to her parents for some wks. Until she learns respect. Her head go clear. Kindly do not hit her. And pls talk to ur mom if shes the meddlesome type. Im a woman and have been married 13yrs so i know what im saying
As a man i'll literally pull my hair, don't even do that with my senior sisters e come remain mother. Hmmm
Go and starve then. U haven't eaten her food like she is a slave. Abeg. Maybe u didn't stand up for your wife or didn't soothe the situation and it came to this . So it is your fault. These days women no dey ever again ooooo.
i think you should find out from your wife why she did whatever she did. dont let anyone come between your wife and you. you seem to sound like your mum comes first before anyone. its not done that way,to worsen it all,you have kept all these from your wife and stopped eating her meals. so who has been sending you food,"mummy"?
Either you talk it out with your wife and get to the bottom of it or you go marry your mother
The way your wife and your mum interact is all based on YOU!!!!!!
your mum will treat your wife the way you treat/ talk about her.
You don't go complaining about your wife to your mum. And if your mum says anything bad about your wife, you tell her to stop and never repeat it.
the wife is wrong for sending that text.
You as the man must prevent that from ever happening again!!!!. I wish I could talk to you one on one.
For the sake of your marriage, keep your things between your wife and yourself. Your mum should not be involved in the affairs of your marriage. The only thing your mum should be sending your wife's way is PRAYERS!!!!
She should never have sent that text back to you.
If my sister-in-law sends a nasty text to my mum, my mum would know she has really crossed the line and she would be looking for ways to make things smooth as the older and wiser one.
I don't know the background story, but what I know for sure, if you want your marriage to be happy and if you want it to last, keep your marital affairs strictly between you two and always tell your parents you are fine and all you need from them is prayers.
The truth your parent will support you no matter what. Even when you are the one doing something wrong. Always keep that in mind.
Ask your wife why she sent the text. Sit down, talk. DO NOT involve your mum in your marital issues!!!!!!!!!!!
You couldn't have newly married a mad woman.
Your wife is not mad to 'just' wake up and send your mum, or anyone for that matter, a stinker, 'just like that'!
What did Mama do? Ask or find out honestly and then act dispassionately and coldly ro you will wreck a relationship - with wife or mum.
If you act fairly, both will respect you and fall into order.
A Guy.
Infact, I'm so angry, I feel like slapping you.
How? How?
How can you open your eyes and let things get down to that level? So you were watching all the tension before? I'm sure your wife would have been complaining. You did nothing. You did nothing until she had to send a text to your mum to stop butting into your marriage?????
How old are you first?
Did you go for marriage counseling?
Do you know about the 3rope cord? You, your wife and God?
Is there anywhere that told you your mum is your marriage counselor or that your mum is part of your marriage?
Your mum is your mum, your wife is your wife.
Your mum gained a new daughter and she has to treat your wife like her daughter and your wife gained a new mum. But guess who has to make sure that works? YOU! !!
you are what they have in common. You have to let reach of them respect each other. You have to create a good ambiance. It's all YOU!.
YOU better talk to each of them. Tel them how you want them to be, treat them and place each other in the right position with each other.
Can't advise Untill we weigh the contents of da text.
Emmmm ur wife doesn't ve any right to do dat @ all,but even @ Dat u mustn't allow ur mum cum in bw u n ur wife.ur mum is ur mum n ur wife is ur wife.Ur wife must cum 1st.Ur wife made a. Big mistake means ur wife doesn't regard u or u must ve caused it.Beg ur mum n later talK tor ur wife to also beg ur mum.But pls ur wife must cum 1st
Bible says leave your father and mother and cleave unto your wife... Love you mother to death? You are not ready for marriage. Keep your mum out of your marriage! Love your wife to death! If you had done your bit and protected your wife from your mum, you would not be in this situation right now!
My wife to send stinker text to my mum?
Ala agbaga ya?(Craze dey worry am?)
It's better she cheat on me dan to try dat rubbish
I WON'T TAKE IT AT ALL BIKO!!!
U don't wanna say wat brought abt d texting... Hmmmm! For ur wife to send such to ur mum means u're one of those "mummy's boy" who allow their mums to run their homes. If ur mum is indeed butting into ur marriage, thr's nothing bad if u talk to ur mother to minimize it. She has her own home to run. Let her free ur wife or u'll be having problems in ur marriage. I knw ur wife did wrong... Guess shez one of those no-nonsense females, but sir, don't let ur mamma run ur home! No lady likes such.
Make sure she's broken and realizes her mistake. She's also a mom to be, would she accept such From her future daughter Inlaw?
I won't take it from any woman that will be rude to my mum! Your wife is Damm wrong to send such message, did she know the pains of raising you up!she would have let you do the talking to your mum.your wife needs to be punished for that!
U must be from anambra. U guys always allow ur parents interfere in ur marriage so i am sure thats the case for ur wife to be really angry. I can never marry any guy from anambra. Mummy's boys!!!
Grow up
As much as I will never condole any form of disrespect to in-laws. We need to know what has transpired between your wife and your mum, our tolerance level differs. That much said, she sending an insulting message to your mother is out of order.
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